Bearded women prove hairy isn-t scary - shake my beauty
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I suffer from pcos, mild compared to a lot of people as I've always been skinny. However in the last few years since turning 30 I have started getting several dark terminal hairs on my chin area and an obsessed with constantly checking my chin/ jawline for any noticeable hairs and plucking them away, hiding this problem from my boyfriend who has lived with me for 2 years.
He has no idea I have a facial hair problem, which just shows how obsessive I am with controlling it, though he does know I have pcos (but doesn't really understand what pcos actually is.
I explained briefly that it's a hormonal imbalance as at the time I was waiting for blood test results for various things including my testosterone and estrogen levels. Luckily my testosterone levels are actually normal for a woman as his reaction wasn't good when I told him about pcos being a higher level of testosterone, he was relieved as otherwise he would have literally seen me as a weirdo sort of she-man, not a proper woman and said that he was disturbed by the conversation as none of his ex's spoke about this or had these issues and that if I was a real woman I wouldn't be either.
That along with a previous abusive partner calling me a man for having pcos makes me extremely insecure
A part of me actually wants to do this myself, especially as I've been severely abused by my ex because he called me a man, asked if I was transgender and was extremely controlling towards me as he forced me to become the extreme of the Barbie girly girl stereotype with a high maintenance beauty regime. Nothing wrong with that, If it's your authentic self but I've always been a bit of a tomboy but will a girly dress sense and how I did not hair and makeup.
For most of my adulthood, especially in my 20s I got a lot of make attention for fitting societies female beauty standards, i. e. size 6, blonde, high cheekbones, etc. My facial hair has only become more noticeable in the last few years so I'm insecure that the main thing that made me valuable as a woman and as a human being was my looks and I don't have much else going for me so I would not only become very insecure without my looks and if I grew my hair out but I would have an actual identity crisis as I would have to find a whole new way of gaining self esteem without relying on male validation which is what I've basically been doing for most of my life, sadly.
However if I did this myself I seriously doubt that I would experience the same positive reactions and acceptance that these women enjoy.
If you look at all these women, most of them are younger, either in their 20s or early 30s but probably look like they are in their 20s still, have a large enough social media presence to make their beards marketable for their internet careers/profiles, live in cities or large towns in rich countries and often come from middle class backgrounds, have the money to buy fashionable alternative clothes so they are able to integrate their beards as part of their -trendiness- and uniqueness. Also these women tend to have a great family and friends support network and have enough job security that their beards won't lead to discrimination.
However me coming from a small city in a rural part of the UK, on benefits due to CPTSD from domestic abuse, I'm 33, have autism, no real support besides my boyfriend. I very much doubt I would have the same positive response. If I grew my beard my boyfriend would dump me, I would really struggle to find another boyfriend or not find love at all, I'd be bullied on the street, get discriminated in the job market so would either not get a job at all or if I did get one I would likely get bullied and treated badly until having to leave. Plus people would judge me and avoid making friends with me or even talking to me to avoid being associated with a -freak-. Finally due to the public discussions around non binary, trans and gender identity I would have people accusing me of not being a real woman and questioning my gender identity because I don't fit totally with the narrow idea of feminity.
Great idea and very inspiring, good luck to those women but I think that for a lot of us me included letting our beards grow is simply unrealistic if we want jobs friends and a life worth living.
Sad really
Date: 2023-09-12
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Dexx
I've alwas liked people who are different. and people who are not afraid to show it. Maybe also because it's always been a central theme in my life. As long as the way someone is born, or the way someone has become or whatever doesn't harm or hurt others, why should I treat them like it's a bad thing or like they're ridiculous and make them feel like something's wrong about them and not just respect them for the unique person they are? I once saw a woman at the supermarket, when I didn't know anything about PCOS - she had long gray hair and a thick, gray, well-groomed, long beard. She was there with her Husband. I remember I just thought -wow, that's cool- and admired her courage because as I know this world, there are too many people who are just thoughtless, intolerant, rude & mean. Some people here make negative comments too or want them to shave it off. Why? Who are you to tell others how their Body should look like? Someones looks, physical deviation from the norm, preference for the same gender or whatever don't harm others. Being an a--hole does.
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I've alwas liked people who are different. and people who are not afraid to show it. Maybe also because it's always been a central theme in my life. As long as the way someone is born, or the way someone has become or whatever doesn't harm or hurt others, why should I treat them like it's a bad thing or like they're ridiculous and make them feel like something's wrong about them and not just respect them for the unique person they are? I once saw a woman at the supermarket, when I didn't know anything about PCOS - she had long gray hair and a thick, gray, well-groomed, long beard. She was there with her Husband. I remember I just thought -wow, that's cool- and admired her courage because as I know this world, there are too many people who are just thoughtless, intolerant, rude & mean. Some people here make negative comments too or want them to shave it off. Why? Who are you to tell others how their Body should look like? Someones looks, physical deviation from the norm, preference for the same gender or whatever don't harm others. Being an a--hole does.
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TheOceanDragonfly
There is no normal and there is nothing wrong with being different. Humans are not all the same unless you are a identical twin even they can think different even if they are identical in looks. Humans are hairy its just the way we all are some are more hairy and some are less hairy. Some humans have moles, warts, skin tags, birthmarks, no arms, no legs, different color of hair, cysts, full size lips and small lips, even private part are on men and ladies are different color sizes, some humans have web feet or hands, some humans aren't tall and some are really tall. You get the point there is no normal anyone. There are wonderful differences that make people great just as they are. You might be different in your looks like you have a big nose or some part of you that makes you different. Should people treat you bad or shun you or talk bad about you or call you names? NO! Everyone deserves to be treated with kindness and love. Unless they treat you bad and then stay away from them.
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There is no normal and there is nothing wrong with being different. Humans are not all the same unless you are a identical twin even they can think different even if they are identical in looks. Humans are hairy its just the way we all are some are more hairy and some are less hairy. Some humans have moles, warts, skin tags, birthmarks, no arms, no legs, different color of hair, cysts, full size lips and small lips, even private part are on men and ladies are different color sizes, some humans have web feet or hands, some humans aren't tall and some are really tall. You get the point there is no normal anyone. There are wonderful differences that make people great just as they are. You might be different in your looks like you have a big nose or some part of you that makes you different. Should people treat you bad or shun you or talk bad about you or call you names? NO! Everyone deserves to be treated with kindness and love. Unless they treat you bad and then stay away from them.
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Kayla
As much as I don-t believe in judging people for things that are out of their control, I do believe it is incredibly important to address hormone imbalances that cause symptoms like this. A healthy body is the most important thing.
For anyone in this comment section that suffers from PCOS, firstly I am so sorry, it is a very difficult and sometimes frustrating condition to have. I had PCOS and after consulting with a functional hormone coach I as able to reverse it with taking 12, 5mg of iodine every day in water (it is incredibly important that you have your thyroid checked before you use iodine because it can be dangerous if you do not have a properly functioning thyroid)
Dairy farmers actually use iodine on their cows to prevent them from getting ovarian cysts and keep them ovulatory. Iodine is one of the best minerals you can take for ovarian health. I hope everyone is able to take the best care of their bodies and feel the best and healthiest while living in their bodies.
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As much as I don-t believe in judging people for things that are out of their control, I do believe it is incredibly important to address hormone imbalances that cause symptoms like this. A healthy body is the most important thing.
For anyone in this comment section that suffers from PCOS, firstly I am so sorry, it is a very difficult and sometimes frustrating condition to have. I had PCOS and after consulting with a functional hormone coach I as able to reverse it with taking 12, 5mg of iodine every day in water (it is incredibly important that you have your thyroid checked before you use iodine because it can be dangerous if you do not have a properly functioning thyroid)
Dairy farmers actually use iodine on their cows to prevent them from getting ovarian cysts and keep them ovulatory. Iodine is one of the best minerals you can take for ovarian health. I hope everyone is able to take the best care of their bodies and feel the best and healthiest while living in their bodies.
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Batcat
I'm pretty sure I could grow a beard myself, but nope! Can't take that kind of attention. You are far stronger - than myself. I shave every day! I'm used to it and have done it in front of people before. It took allot for me to even be brave enough to do that. I know other ladies have hair on there faces as well, and I kept that in mind. I was never bothered about it because it seemed like I didn't care. So, I guess I'm strong too, even though I shave it off.
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I'm pretty sure I could grow a beard myself, but nope! Can't take that kind of attention. You are far stronger - than myself. I shave every day! I'm used to it and have done it in front of people before. It took allot for me to even be brave enough to do that. I know other ladies have hair on there faces as well, and I kept that in mind. I was never bothered about it because it seemed like I didn't care. So, I guess I'm strong too, even though I shave it off.
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Stephanie
I love you all's content and that y'all are not afraid and that you'll have accepted that that I am a bearded woman we need love too and we need to continue supporting our community show people people that this is who we are we just have an extra beautification about it I'm to have PCOS doctors told me that I had a cyst on my ovaries so i was scared at first but now im going to let it grow out and train it to were im comfortable with myself.
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I love you all's content and that y'all are not afraid and that you'll have accepted that that I am a bearded woman we need love too and we need to continue supporting our community show people people that this is who we are we just have an extra beautification about it I'm to have PCOS doctors told me that I had a cyst on my ovaries so i was scared at first but now im going to let it grow out and train it to were im comfortable with myself.
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Crysy
Excessive androgen and untreated pcos is NOT good. Its not healthy, it's not to be celebrated. You can have serious issues regulating insulin levels and that can cause further health problems such as diabetes. Its alarming she's so ok with it. Not to mention the quality of your bones as you age due to high testosterone Levels. Gurl. get a grip and take care of yourself!
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Excessive androgen and untreated pcos is NOT good. Its not healthy, it's not to be celebrated. You can have serious issues regulating insulin levels and that can cause further health problems such as diabetes. Its alarming she's so ok with it. Not to mention the quality of your bones as you age due to high testosterone Levels. Gurl. get a grip and take care of yourself!
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Ash
Hi Ladies! I also have PCOS. harrier than my husband - not like these women above but it's still noticeable and getting worse by the year. MINT TEA I read and a plant based diet might help. I do feel better but who knows still early on. Sucks not being able to have children right now but God is still good and I look to Him for comfort. He blessed Sarai!
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Hi Ladies! I also have PCOS. harrier than my husband - not like these women above but it's still noticeable and getting worse by the year. MINT TEA I read and a plant based diet might help. I do feel better but who knows still early on. Sucks not being able to have children right now but God is still good and I look to Him for comfort. He blessed Sarai!
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malcolm
personally im pretty hairy, but i actually dont have any conditions, my hair is just thick and dark.
Since a young age i would oxygenate/shave my legs, but there was this weird double standard that i never had to shave my arms but having leg hair is shameful. so strange.
we need to normalise all levels of body hair.
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personally im pretty hairy, but i actually dont have any conditions, my hair is just thick and dark.
Since a young age i would oxygenate/shave my legs, but there was this weird double standard that i never had to shave my arms but having leg hair is shameful. so strange.
we need to normalise all levels of body hair.
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Melanie
I find all the women in this video Absolutely Amazing n Super Gorgeous. They all rock in my eye's. I have epilepsy n the meds to control my seizures happens to give u facial hair. I'm 49 now n have stopped getting rid of the hair. I used to Nair my whole face for many year's. Props to all u amazing woman. U all rock.
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I find all the women in this video Absolutely Amazing n Super Gorgeous. They all rock in my eye's. I have epilepsy n the meds to control my seizures happens to give u facial hair. I'm 49 now n have stopped getting rid of the hair. I used to Nair my whole face for many year's. Props to all u amazing woman. U all rock.
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Gary
You now you remind me of those coke heads that do so much cocaine they can't tell the difference between a guy and a girl and they just go with whatever feels good and don't care about the consequences and then want to scream they're being bigots to you when you are exposed for being a weirdo with no limitations
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You now you remind me of those coke heads that do so much cocaine they can't tell the difference between a guy and a girl and they just go with whatever feels good and don't care about the consequences and then want to scream they're being bigots to you when you are exposed for being a weirdo with no limitations
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Annie
Amazing! I also have hair on my face and use to shave it daily some times 2 times daily now I can go up too 4 days without shaving. I have always been ashamed with it but as I get older it's not as bad. Thank you all for sharing your stories. So proud of all of ya'll. Always
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Amazing! I also have hair on my face and use to shave it daily some times 2 times daily now I can go up too 4 days without shaving. I have always been ashamed with it but as I get older it's not as bad. Thank you all for sharing your stories. So proud of all of ya'll. Always
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AlwaysTru_Fashion
What if they just went to a nutritionist and a nutritionist told them to fast for 40 days and to clean out their kidneys and their liver and their adrenal glands the hair would definitely go away if anything is wrong with your face you need to look at your liver.
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What if they just went to a nutritionist and a nutritionist told them to fast for 40 days and to clean out their kidneys and their liver and their adrenal glands the hair would definitely go away if anything is wrong with your face you need to look at your liver.
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123UpNorth321
Rosina is incredibly beautiful - pple are so fickle, I mean, yeah, thank you for pointing out that she has got a beard. she knows. It is the same with me. I am a big girl, omg, guess what, big people know that they are big. Seriously, I am aware of it -
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Rosina is incredibly beautiful - pple are so fickle, I mean, yeah, thank you for pointing out that she has got a beard. she knows. It is the same with me. I am a big girl, omg, guess what, big people know that they are big. Seriously, I am aware of it -
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Danielle
My daughter has PCOS and has a full beard that she removes. She hates it and I understand why. It would NEVER EVER be accepted where we live. Short hair isn't exactly accepted here for a woman let alone a beard. Rural TN is 100yrs behind everywhere else.
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My daughter has PCOS and has a full beard that she removes. She hates it and I understand why. It would NEVER EVER be accepted where we live. Short hair isn't exactly accepted here for a woman let alone a beard. Rural TN is 100yrs behind everywhere else.
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Babsywoman
I dont have PCOS but I was kind of hairy. I never shaved but waxed my mustache. Didnt have a beard. l My mustache disappeared after waxing for such a long time. Also, getting older, I lost a lot of body hair. I actually miss it now.
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I dont have PCOS but I was kind of hairy. I never shaved but waxed my mustache. Didnt have a beard. l My mustache disappeared after waxing for such a long time. Also, getting older, I lost a lot of body hair. I actually miss it now.
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rocknrollermann
can you understand that it's not the norm. There cant be very many women with this. so. i dont see it hardly ever. My 1st thought would be - there's a trans person-. anyways, yeah, you gotta be strong to be strong. good onya.
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can you understand that it's not the norm. There cant be very many women with this. so. i dont see it hardly ever. My 1st thought would be - there's a trans person-. anyways, yeah, you gotta be strong to be strong. good onya.
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Life
Happy women's day to the ladies out there
He created them male and female and blessed them. And he named them -Mankind- when they were created.
Being a woman is extraordinary and worth it.
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Happy women's day to the ladies out there
He created them male and female and blessed them. And he named them -Mankind- when they were created.
Being a woman is extraordinary and worth it.
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Kevin
Don't you want take action for yourself when you look in the mirror? Laser it please and take a facial tattoo you gonna get the same reactions I'm sure becouse that's it right the attention.
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Don't you want take action for yourself when you look in the mirror? Laser it please and take a facial tattoo you gonna get the same reactions I'm sure becouse that's it right the attention.
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hellaSwankky
ahh! her mom is awesome! best response ever + kudos to the mom for being the one to tell her she didn't have to shave it if she didn't want to.
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ahh! her mom is awesome! best response ever + kudos to the mom for being the one to tell her she didn't have to shave it if she didn't want to.
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Pekka
Wonderful that you girls can be yourself as nature has created! I hate pretending like barbie ideals. now u are real beauty and mellow.
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Wonderful that you girls can be yourself as nature has created! I hate pretending like barbie ideals. now u are real beauty and mellow.
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Sophia
No it is very scary. I don-t like it and being hairy myself I-m worried about getting a beard like these women as I also have pcos
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No it is very scary. I don-t like it and being hairy myself I-m worried about getting a beard like these women as I also have pcos
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Euphoria
My ex had that same issue and I told her don't worry about it because I told her life is weird for everybody.
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My ex had that same issue and I told her don't worry about it because I told her life is weird for everybody.
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INGURY
Woah! My sister has some sideburns problems recently, this would probably help her more with her self esteem-
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Woah! My sister has some sideburns problems recently, this would probably help her more with her self esteem-
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Antonio
Non siete per niente femminile non siete dolci internamente. anche se a me piacciono le donne bar-barbute
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Non siete per niente femminile non siete dolci internamente. anche se a me piacciono le donne bar-barbute
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Fresshh
i have pcos drink spearmint tea to prevent this! it blocks male hormones from going into your system.
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i have pcos drink spearmint tea to prevent this! it blocks male hormones from going into your system.
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