7 Phrases People Who Gaslight Say
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Date: 2023-08-20
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Bacon
For a while I had a tub of protein powder thatd I buy and use for myself and keep in my room. At some point I slowly stopped using it due to me just being very busy and forgetting to make shakes. Now, for context, I keep this in my room due to the nature of my step family (actually just my whole family) using other peoples stuff without asking.
So, one day, while I was taking a nap, my brother walked into my room and grabbed my protein powder and it woke me up and I kinda yelled at him saying what the hell are you doing, why are you taking my shit and he quickly put it back. Turns out, hes been doing this for like a week because my dad told him to do it. When I confronted my dad, both my stepmom and my dad were telling me I was making a big deal out of this, and that they saw no harm in using my stuff.
To be fair, yes its a $30 protein tub. In my defence, if they had literally asked me if he could use it, instead of sneaking into my room, taking it, without me ever knowing, I wouldve been fine since I wouldve know. Context, hes been trying to gain weight. I was just very mad that he was stealing my shit, and my parents allowed it and told me I was overreacting.
Not the first time this shit happens, always different scenarios. But I kinda dont want to believe that theyre gaslighters, until one day, in an argument, I was called a gaslighter by my step mom because I remembered something wrong
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For a while I had a tub of protein powder thatd I buy and use for myself and keep in my room. At some point I slowly stopped using it due to me just being very busy and forgetting to make shakes. Now, for context, I keep this in my room due to the nature of my step family (actually just my whole family) using other peoples stuff without asking.
So, one day, while I was taking a nap, my brother walked into my room and grabbed my protein powder and it woke me up and I kinda yelled at him saying what the hell are you doing, why are you taking my shit and he quickly put it back. Turns out, hes been doing this for like a week because my dad told him to do it. When I confronted my dad, both my stepmom and my dad were telling me I was making a big deal out of this, and that they saw no harm in using my stuff.
To be fair, yes its a $30 protein tub. In my defence, if they had literally asked me if he could use it, instead of sneaking into my room, taking it, without me ever knowing, I wouldve been fine since I wouldve know. Context, hes been trying to gain weight. I was just very mad that he was stealing my shit, and my parents allowed it and told me I was overreacting.
Not the first time this shit happens, always different scenarios. But I kinda dont want to believe that theyre gaslighters, until one day, in an argument, I was called a gaslighter by my step mom because I remembered something wrong
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Dd
My mom used to do that to me all the time. The last time before I walked away, I caught her in a lie and confronted her about it. Fist she denied it but I had proof she lied, so I told her I knew for a fact she was lying and she called me bitter and Crazy. She treated me like I was being overly sensitive and imagining things.
She kept saying Im your mom and can do whatever I want, and even tried to convince me to distrust my best friend.
Then, when I left town and changed my phone number without telling her, she called my best friends mom and told her shes worried about me because she thinks Im suicidal.
When that didnt get a reaction from me, she called my best friend on my birthday to tell her that I am a bad daughter because supposedly she has health problems and I havent even given her a phone number where she can contact me to let me know. But when I spoke to my sister, who still speaks to our mom sometimes, to ask her if she had heard about my moms health problems, she said she hadnt.
So she was supposedly so concerned about having a way to contact me to let me know what health problems are going on but she didnt even bother to tell my sister whose contact info she does have.
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My mom used to do that to me all the time. The last time before I walked away, I caught her in a lie and confronted her about it. Fist she denied it but I had proof she lied, so I told her I knew for a fact she was lying and she called me bitter and Crazy. She treated me like I was being overly sensitive and imagining things.
She kept saying Im your mom and can do whatever I want, and even tried to convince me to distrust my best friend.
Then, when I left town and changed my phone number without telling her, she called my best friends mom and told her shes worried about me because she thinks Im suicidal.
When that didnt get a reaction from me, she called my best friend on my birthday to tell her that I am a bad daughter because supposedly she has health problems and I havent even given her a phone number where she can contact me to let me know. But when I spoke to my sister, who still speaks to our mom sometimes, to ask her if she had heard about my moms health problems, she said she hadnt.
So she was supposedly so concerned about having a way to contact me to let me know what health problems are going on but she didnt even bother to tell my sister whose contact info she does have.
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Montana
1: What if you ARE accusing the wrong person? Are you saying YOU'RE NEVER WRONG?
2: There are far more people who over react to trivial things these days. It has been programmed into them by social media.
3: That's not what happened could be true. YOUR truth is is an opinion NOT necessarily the REAL truth.
4: Many people these days talk in circles based on feelings, NOT facts.
5: This video seems to be doing just that.
6: This is starting to sound like the author is bitter at losing some argument recently, and is reaching for excuses.
7: This is the #1 most common tactic of main stream media, legacy news, CNN, FOX, MSNBC, CBS, ABC, Newsmax GOVERNMENT and all the parrot-sites (parasites)
8: Narcissism comes in many forms, the most common one in use today is to play the part of professional victim, until you get YOUR way, for example, making a video about gaslighting.
9: We really need to bring back Mental Asylums.
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1: What if you ARE accusing the wrong person? Are you saying YOU'RE NEVER WRONG?
2: There are far more people who over react to trivial things these days. It has been programmed into them by social media.
3: That's not what happened could be true. YOUR truth is is an opinion NOT necessarily the REAL truth.
4: Many people these days talk in circles based on feelings, NOT facts.
5: This video seems to be doing just that.
6: This is starting to sound like the author is bitter at losing some argument recently, and is reaching for excuses.
7: This is the #1 most common tactic of main stream media, legacy news, CNN, FOX, MSNBC, CBS, ABC, Newsmax GOVERNMENT and all the parrot-sites (parasites)
8: Narcissism comes in many forms, the most common one in use today is to play the part of professional victim, until you get YOUR way, for example, making a video about gaslighting.
9: We really need to bring back Mental Asylums.
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Tyson
Thank you for this video, I have a friend that does pretty much word for word what you just described when I am trying to let him know something is bothering me, or something is bothering the people we are with. Always trying to tell me what he thinks I am feeling, or I'm being fake or over explaining myself when all he is doing is deflecting. He thinks he's master of the universe and he has so much to teach the world. When in reality all of his points are ramblings of him jumping from one thing to the next, hoping people don't catch on that he doesn't have real conviction and is afraid of being seen as an imposter. Or so it would seem. Thanks for validating my resolve to keep him at a distance to protect my energy. Fortunately I have strong sense of self and don't take any of what he says to heart, but it is still a drain on my energy to put up with his antics.
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Thank you for this video, I have a friend that does pretty much word for word what you just described when I am trying to let him know something is bothering me, or something is bothering the people we are with. Always trying to tell me what he thinks I am feeling, or I'm being fake or over explaining myself when all he is doing is deflecting. He thinks he's master of the universe and he has so much to teach the world. When in reality all of his points are ramblings of him jumping from one thing to the next, hoping people don't catch on that he doesn't have real conviction and is afraid of being seen as an imposter. Or so it would seem. Thanks for validating my resolve to keep him at a distance to protect my energy. Fortunately I have strong sense of self and don't take any of what he says to heart, but it is still a drain on my energy to put up with his antics.
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Discordia
My dad says a lot of these phrases. He has always called me too sensitive when I call him out. And whenever I tell him how he has hurt me, he starts talking about how Im to blame for us never talking because I dont call. I dont call because hes a prick. And the phone works both ways.
I want to make things work, but I need to call him out on his bs and stand my ground. Last time he said I was being too sensitive, I told him or, youre being insensitive.
I told him I want to set boundaries with him, and he seemed reluctant, but I stood my ground on it. He tried saying theyre just words, but I said yeah, and theyre our main way of communicating with others how we feel.
Im gonna try my best to make our relationship work, but I refuse to let him make me feel small anymore.
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My dad says a lot of these phrases. He has always called me too sensitive when I call him out. And whenever I tell him how he has hurt me, he starts talking about how Im to blame for us never talking because I dont call. I dont call because hes a prick. And the phone works both ways.
I want to make things work, but I need to call him out on his bs and stand my ground. Last time he said I was being too sensitive, I told him or, youre being insensitive.
I told him I want to set boundaries with him, and he seemed reluctant, but I stood my ground on it. He tried saying theyre just words, but I said yeah, and theyre our main way of communicating with others how we feel.
Im gonna try my best to make our relationship work, but I refuse to let him make me feel small anymore.
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TQWAET
Than you for the tutorial for gaslighting!
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Than you for the tutorial for gaslighting!
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Delmy
This is so heartbreaking I cant believe that the person I decided to have a baby with m, could have turn to be this ugly narcissistic, gaslighter and cruel person. The moment I needed him the must, he decided to turn every little thing I did, even rolling my eyes, into and attack on him and lashed out in full anger toward me and said I was making all up in my head. I know I was going through PPD, but, I am not and idiot and I know he was gaslighting me left and right to the point that I was scared to even open my mouth to defend myself. How did this happened? How did he turn to be this ugly person? I am forever scarred and I would never ever enter in a romantic relationship in my life again. I cannot trust in anyone.
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This is so heartbreaking I cant believe that the person I decided to have a baby with m, could have turn to be this ugly narcissistic, gaslighter and cruel person. The moment I needed him the must, he decided to turn every little thing I did, even rolling my eyes, into and attack on him and lashed out in full anger toward me and said I was making all up in my head. I know I was going through PPD, but, I am not and idiot and I know he was gaslighting me left and right to the point that I was scared to even open my mouth to defend myself. How did this happened? How did he turn to be this ugly person? I am forever scarred and I would never ever enter in a romantic relationship in my life again. I cannot trust in anyone.
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John
I think there is genuine gaslighting but I also think that the term is well over used. Often people see things differently. Bank employees are taught to not discuss between themselves if a robbery has taken place because they will influence each other with considerable differences in what they perceived occurred. I feel that gaslighting is a new buzz word when two people may just need to learn to communicate better. We jump to intended abuse and that takes us to intolerance instead of learning better skills. Most people are not mental health professionals and have no training to assign distructive names to another over a possible genuine misunderstanding.
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I think there is genuine gaslighting but I also think that the term is well over used. Often people see things differently. Bank employees are taught to not discuss between themselves if a robbery has taken place because they will influence each other with considerable differences in what they perceived occurred. I feel that gaslighting is a new buzz word when two people may just need to learn to communicate better. We jump to intended abuse and that takes us to intolerance instead of learning better skills. Most people are not mental health professionals and have no training to assign distructive names to another over a possible genuine misunderstanding.
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Gary
The more challenging: they play it off very well and cover it up I think you need help, I'm very concerned about you this is a passive way as the second part is used to take away the attention from the first part.
People who gaslight will tell you that YOU need the help but deny they need the help. And the person who initially didn't need therapy ends up going thru intense therapy while the person gaslighting stays in denial of themselves. They have a hollow core and come off very kind hearted. Stay away from these people.
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The more challenging: they play it off very well and cover it up I think you need help, I'm very concerned about you this is a passive way as the second part is used to take away the attention from the first part.
People who gaslight will tell you that YOU need the help but deny they need the help. And the person who initially didn't need therapy ends up going thru intense therapy while the person gaslighting stays in denial of themselves. They have a hollow core and come off very kind hearted. Stay away from these people.
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Steffi
they deny even listening to what someonesay, abuse comes when you literally doesnt listen to the other person even in a normal conversation, why would the other person keep bearing the burden of listening to you when you dont even get 1 percent of what the other is saying, twisting every event in your own favour is not gonna work out in any dynamics, nobody is hero all the time and nobody is the villain all the time, its all about their actions more than words
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they deny even listening to what someonesay, abuse comes when you literally doesnt listen to the other person even in a normal conversation, why would the other person keep bearing the burden of listening to you when you dont even get 1 percent of what the other is saying, twisting every event in your own favour is not gonna work out in any dynamics, nobody is hero all the time and nobody is the villain all the time, its all about their actions more than words
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Marcos
How are people gaslit though? If they use even HALF these phrases, it's not even gaslighting it's blatant and conspicuous manipulation. Is it that people who are gaslit have experienced past emotional abuse or trauma or that they have a mental illness?
It's just so clearly a form of emotional abuse and comes across as so degrading that no moderately healthy adult would find themselves in this predicament, let alone follow along.
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How are people gaslit though? If they use even HALF these phrases, it's not even gaslighting it's blatant and conspicuous manipulation. Is it that people who are gaslit have experienced past emotional abuse or trauma or that they have a mental illness?
It's just so clearly a form of emotional abuse and comes across as so degrading that no moderately healthy adult would find themselves in this predicament, let alone follow along.
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Betsy
8u dont know anything9u dont count10youre nothing at all without me11how dare uu12keep everything inside or else13im only one who cares anything out u14everyone hates u15everything was fine til u came along16youre reason my life is always ruined17i can do no wrong17if u leave Il do harm to u &or others18tell e u lobe me &il give u food water &or medication19if u love me youll do what youre told20nobody leaves me.
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8u dont know anything9u dont count10youre nothing at all without me11how dare uu12keep everything inside or else13im only one who cares anything out u14everyone hates u15everything was fine til u came along16youre reason my life is always ruined17i can do no wrong17if u leave Il do harm to u &or others18tell e u lobe me &il give u food water &or medication19if u love me youll do what youre told20nobody leaves me.
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Larry
You got it backwards something don't seem right about you definition of this gaslighting subject matter the phrases are not accurate as you think those phrases are the phrases someone says that are trying to calm down a gaslighted here's one for you to get someone lit
(calm down ) I don't want to come off the wrong way my apologies I don't know much but I do know that some things are not as they seem
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You got it backwards something don't seem right about you definition of this gaslighting subject matter the phrases are not accurate as you think those phrases are the phrases someone says that are trying to calm down a gaslighted here's one for you to get someone lit
(calm down ) I don't want to come off the wrong way my apologies I don't know much but I do know that some things are not as they seem
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Wednesday
21 years married before videos like these woke my ass up. He does every single one of these often enough I began recording arguments so I can listen when calm but of course he always apologizes (KIND of, but not really) before I play them back of course. But a divorce atty I spoke to a year ago said recording arguments is normal for relationships with narcissists and more common than I thought
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21 years married before videos like these woke my ass up. He does every single one of these often enough I began recording arguments so I can listen when calm but of course he always apologizes (KIND of, but not really) before I play them back of course. But a divorce atty I spoke to a year ago said recording arguments is normal for relationships with narcissists and more common than I thought
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Kanakom
My ex boyfriend had an anxiety issue. He called me I am manipulating and gaslighting. He kept bring up things that I had no idea and he kept imagining things I had no intention. Everything here makes sense but gaslighting theory doesnt work with people with anxiety. What do you think? I had to brake up with my boyfriend because he couldnt stop blaming me for something I didnt mean it at all.
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My ex boyfriend had an anxiety issue. He called me I am manipulating and gaslighting. He kept bring up things that I had no idea and he kept imagining things I had no intention. Everything here makes sense but gaslighting theory doesnt work with people with anxiety. What do you think? I had to brake up with my boyfriend because he couldnt stop blaming me for something I didnt mean it at all.
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HealedChakras777
When you're clear as day with your communication and they still ask what do you mean? with the hopes that you get annoyed, you don't repeat yourself and then you never get answers. Gaslighters will avoid accountability like the plague. They hate when you stick with your reality and when you're persistent.
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When you're clear as day with your communication and they still ask what do you mean? with the hopes that you get annoyed, you don't repeat yourself and then you never get answers. Gaslighters will avoid accountability like the plague. They hate when you stick with your reality and when you're persistent.
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Aroniyun
Little bit of the problem I run into is that when you confront a gas lighter many of these phrases are appropriate to say to them. That makes it so I can't share this video with them as a way to be like check yourself I see you because I also sound like a narcissist because they are out of in touch with reality.
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Little bit of the problem I run into is that when you confront a gas lighter many of these phrases are appropriate to say to them. That makes it so I can't share this video with them as a way to be like check yourself I see you because I also sound like a narcissist because they are out of in touch with reality.
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Wayne
The thing with women is they think with emotion rather than rational logic. They will think something happened one way when it didn't happen that way at all. Then they expect you to validate their untrue feelings. Then accuse you of gaslighting them. The thing is facts do not care one little bit about your feelings
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The thing with women is they think with emotion rather than rational logic. They will think something happened one way when it didn't happen that way at all. Then they expect you to validate their untrue feelings. Then accuse you of gaslighting them. The thing is facts do not care one little bit about your feelings
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Rocky
How about No one has ever loved you the way I do. I asked him months ago no to ever say that to me again in life. He said this to me about 20-25 times in a matter of just a few months. He promised hed never say it again but he keeps forgetting. Only when were at odds to he says this
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How about No one has ever loved you the way I do. I asked him months ago no to ever say that to me again in life. He said this to me about 20-25 times in a matter of just a few months. He promised hed never say it again but he keeps forgetting. Only when were at odds to he says this
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Victorio
She uses it when I call for a job at the feedlot
I thought to say give me a punch card but I really dont like them
They were just east to get on with
Sissy is full of poop too idk what I message her or started using her address now she thinks shes smart LoL
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She uses it when I call for a job at the feedlot
I thought to say give me a punch card but I really dont like them
They were just east to get on with
Sissy is full of poop too idk what I message her or started using her address now she thinks shes smart LoL
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Wayne
Women learn and are conditioned at a very early age to cry to get what they want. I am not moved in a favorable direction by a woman blubbering. Most of the time it is just manipulative behavior for them to get their way. Most of the time. Not all but most.
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Women learn and are conditioned at a very early age to cry to get what they want. I am not moved in a favorable direction by a woman blubbering. Most of the time it is just manipulative behavior for them to get their way. Most of the time. Not all but most.
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Ariel
It's bad enough to experience gaslighting from average people in your life, but when your therapist is doing it to you, that causes even more harm. I will never again trust a therapist. She used most of these phrases on me to cover up her own abuse of me.
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It's bad enough to experience gaslighting from average people in your life, but when your therapist is doing it to you, that causes even more harm. I will never again trust a therapist. She used most of these phrases on me to cover up her own abuse of me.
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Ian
Call Centers is the place that you be a narcissist and get paid too. Another are lawyers often say these words making you the one at fault and make money too. Another is the media who are the present day Nazi Ministry of propaganda.
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Call Centers is the place that you be a narcissist and get paid too. Another are lawyers often say these words making you the one at fault and make money too. Another is the media who are the present day Nazi Ministry of propaganda.
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education
My beautiful daughter, who has special needs, is with her Narcissistic father right now(visitation time, but now he's blocking the communications between mother and daughter. This dude really needs help.
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My beautiful daughter, who has special needs, is with her Narcissistic father right now(visitation time, but now he's blocking the communications between mother and daughter. This dude really needs help.
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