6 Signs You're Overly Dependent (Dependent Personality Disorder)
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Date: 2023-10-09
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Wind_Cursed
Now, I don't think I have full-on DPD and it may just be that these signs overlap because of my anxiety, but gosh dang did this video hurt. I feel like I'm so busy relying on others to do things so much so that they don't like me because I'm too clingy. So I force myself away from people I care about because I know no one wants to live a life with someone who is constantly seeking approval. It's how I've lost so many, and it's likely how I'll lose so many more. All because of this irrational fear that everyone hates me because I can't seem to manage life on my own. After all, many a time I have annoyed the heck out of my mom by asking for her help since I do it so often. And sometimes I don't even heed her advice! I just stay stuck because I'm too scared to go anywhere. Doing something that could bring more happiness actually scares me because I've talked myself into this idea that new happiness never lasts, and I'll just end up feeling worse after it because I fear when things don't go my way. I feel like someone no one wants to be around because of my mental illness. These days I think my existance is an issue. I don't think anyone can help me, though, because I'm too anxious to go to anyplace other than where I am. I truly am alone emotionally because of that
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Now, I don't think I have full-on DPD and it may just be that these signs overlap because of my anxiety, but gosh dang did this video hurt. I feel like I'm so busy relying on others to do things so much so that they don't like me because I'm too clingy. So I force myself away from people I care about because I know no one wants to live a life with someone who is constantly seeking approval. It's how I've lost so many, and it's likely how I'll lose so many more. All because of this irrational fear that everyone hates me because I can't seem to manage life on my own. After all, many a time I have annoyed the heck out of my mom by asking for her help since I do it so often. And sometimes I don't even heed her advice! I just stay stuck because I'm too scared to go anywhere. Doing something that could bring more happiness actually scares me because I've talked myself into this idea that new happiness never lasts, and I'll just end up feeling worse after it because I fear when things don't go my way. I feel like someone no one wants to be around because of my mental illness. These days I think my existance is an issue. I don't think anyone can help me, though, because I'm too anxious to go to anyplace other than where I am. I truly am alone emotionally because of that
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hgyn.
I hope regardless of any types of person or disorders you are, be empathy with yourself. This vid should be useful for you to acknowledge who you are now but be conscious that it's not totally you. It's just a part of you. Learning to accept it, then to improve the situation bc you deserve it. No need to be desperate when figuring yourself out. I'm also learning who I am everyday, sometimes it's a bit overwhelmed, sometimes I've been scared of my thoughts and my dark sides. But I'm trying to accept it all as it's not a complete me. It's not my identity. And acknowledging it helps me feel more empathetic with others as I know that no one is perfect and all good. But trying for the good is enough, and I hope those who are down can feel a bit released, knowing that you are not alone having those symptoms and people are mostly the same in some certain sides
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I hope regardless of any types of person or disorders you are, be empathy with yourself. This vid should be useful for you to acknowledge who you are now but be conscious that it's not totally you. It's just a part of you. Learning to accept it, then to improve the situation bc you deserve it. No need to be desperate when figuring yourself out. I'm also learning who I am everyday, sometimes it's a bit overwhelmed, sometimes I've been scared of my thoughts and my dark sides. But I'm trying to accept it all as it's not a complete me. It's not my identity. And acknowledging it helps me feel more empathetic with others as I know that no one is perfect and all good. But trying for the good is enough, and I hope those who are down can feel a bit released, knowing that you are not alone having those symptoms and people are mostly the same in some certain sides
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Inem
This has honestly opened a lot for me. I noticed my dpd when I always sought assurance from my love Interests and when they didn't give me I'll often spiral and cry for hours and eventually I'll be in such a dark place that we end up breaking up, it's like that every single time. I depend on people I lot and when I'm told to do something on my own I really look dumb cause no one is there to help me. All the symptoms you listed are so true about me. Right now I'm single and praying everyday that I find my proper footing in life without a man or anyone to help me all the time. It's hard and scary but it's even more scary living the way I was months ago. Thank you for letting me know that I'm not odd or a weirdo and I'm not the only one facing this, it's really comforting.
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This has honestly opened a lot for me. I noticed my dpd when I always sought assurance from my love Interests and when they didn't give me I'll often spiral and cry for hours and eventually I'll be in such a dark place that we end up breaking up, it's like that every single time. I depend on people I lot and when I'm told to do something on my own I really look dumb cause no one is there to help me. All the symptoms you listed are so true about me. Right now I'm single and praying everyday that I find my proper footing in life without a man or anyone to help me all the time. It's hard and scary but it's even more scary living the way I was months ago. Thank you for letting me know that I'm not odd or a weirdo and I'm not the only one facing this, it's really comforting.
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TakaraStarChan
I have been wondering for a while if I may have this. I haven't received an official diagnosis, but this sounds like me, 100%. I am better than what I used to be as I am seeing a therapist and am in a recovery program. I just moved into my own apartment instead of living with my parents. I am 32 years old, and the crippling self-doubt and lack of confidence kept me stuck for so long. I am learning better how to have stronger boundaries and to make decisions for myself. I am proud of my progress. For people who have tendencies like this or struggle in these ways, you can do it. It is going to take a lot of work and a lot of courage. But you are capable.
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I have been wondering for a while if I may have this. I haven't received an official diagnosis, but this sounds like me, 100%. I am better than what I used to be as I am seeing a therapist and am in a recovery program. I just moved into my own apartment instead of living with my parents. I am 32 years old, and the crippling self-doubt and lack of confidence kept me stuck for so long. I am learning better how to have stronger boundaries and to make decisions for myself. I am proud of my progress. For people who have tendencies like this or struggle in these ways, you can do it. It is going to take a lot of work and a lot of courage. But you are capable.
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Monsieur
I used to have three out of six of them. I can mostly keep them in control now, but sometimes relapses happens.
I used to feel the need to talk to my SO all the time, I did things to win her approval, and I need a lot of reassurance that she won't just up and leave. Until a friend told me that these things would actually do the opposite and drive her away because she will feel smothered.
The most effective thing you can do is to keep busy. Find a second job, go to the gym, hang out with your friends and talk to them, try a new hobby, whatever works to keep your mind from overthinking. These worked wonders for me.
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I used to have three out of six of them. I can mostly keep them in control now, but sometimes relapses happens.
I used to feel the need to talk to my SO all the time, I did things to win her approval, and I need a lot of reassurance that she won't just up and leave. Until a friend told me that these things would actually do the opposite and drive her away because she will feel smothered.
The most effective thing you can do is to keep busy. Find a second job, go to the gym, hang out with your friends and talk to them, try a new hobby, whatever works to keep your mind from overthinking. These worked wonders for me.
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Narc
You can t be alone. You feel like you need another person to be complete. When the most loving and rewarding relationships are when two complete people come together.
Spend more time alone. Get to know yourself. Learn to enjoy your own company. The most important relationship we will ever have is the relationship we have with ourselves. We re with ourselves the longest. And let s ensure that what we re sharing with another person is worthwhile. What we have in ourselves is a gift. And we should share it with someone who will appreciate it.
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You can t be alone. You feel like you need another person to be complete. When the most loving and rewarding relationships are when two complete people come together.
Spend more time alone. Get to know yourself. Learn to enjoy your own company. The most important relationship we will ever have is the relationship we have with ourselves. We re with ourselves the longest. And let s ensure that what we re sharing with another person is worthwhile. What we have in ourselves is a gift. And we should share it with someone who will appreciate it.
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Deven
When I was talking to my crush back when I was in highschool I was guilty of seeking validation most of the time as I realized that I didn't even love myself. It's one of my regrets from my time when I knew her as it obviously was annoying to her and a sign of my immaturity. I wish I could travel back in time and re-do things the right way. However, I know that's not possible and I need to eventually forgive myself. It's just a case of easier said than done.
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When I was talking to my crush back when I was in highschool I was guilty of seeking validation most of the time as I realized that I didn't even love myself. It's one of my regrets from my time when I knew her as it obviously was annoying to her and a sign of my immaturity. I wish I could travel back in time and re-do things the right way. However, I know that's not possible and I need to eventually forgive myself. It's just a case of easier said than done.
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Jwanie
I grew up with epilepsy so I had to depend on my parents more than most other people my age. But even after I became seizure-free, I continued to depend on them for many things because I had gotten so used to it at that point. Fortunately my parents don't mind as they had prepared to support me for life in case my epilepsy persisted, but as we're all getting older, they've started to teach me more about how to handle certain situations on my own
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I grew up with epilepsy so I had to depend on my parents more than most other people my age. But even after I became seizure-free, I continued to depend on them for many things because I had gotten so used to it at that point. Fortunately my parents don't mind as they had prepared to support me for life in case my epilepsy persisted, but as we're all getting older, they've started to teach me more about how to handle certain situations on my own
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bcgrote
I got a new therapist while in the midst of grieving over several terrifyingly close losses. He gave me information on the various types of connections and dependencies As I've worked thru the immediacy of the grief, I am regaining my balance and resilience. I'm still terrified of my spouse dying, as it is closer every day. I know I would be ok eventually, just ok will look different. Carpe diem until then, right?
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I got a new therapist while in the midst of grieving over several terrifyingly close losses. He gave me information on the various types of connections and dependencies As I've worked thru the immediacy of the grief, I am regaining my balance and resilience. I'm still terrified of my spouse dying, as it is closer every day. I know I would be ok eventually, just ok will look different. Carpe diem until then, right?
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Deadly
Timestamps
1. You find it extremely difficult to be alone 0: 55
2. You rely on others to make decisions in your life 1: 35
3. You do things to win other people's approval 2: 19
4. You are highly sensitive to criticism 2: 54
5. You need a lot of reassurance 3: 24
6. You find it difficult to start things on your own 3: 57
Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. Sorry this is so late.
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Timestamps
1. You find it extremely difficult to be alone 0: 55
2. You rely on others to make decisions in your life 1: 35
3. You do things to win other people's approval 2: 19
4. You are highly sensitive to criticism 2: 54
5. You need a lot of reassurance 3: 24
6. You find it difficult to start things on your own 3: 57
Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. Sorry this is so late.
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Shadow
It feels nice to see more videos like this. After watching it, I ve realized I m not alone.
I relate to a lot of points this video discussed - in fact, it made me feel sad. I ve been people-pleasing all these years, and yet, the cycle hasn t ended. Perhaps it may have resulted from my childhood. But at the same time, I don t know. I m too emotional for my own good sometimes I may need more time to heal.
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It feels nice to see more videos like this. After watching it, I ve realized I m not alone.
I relate to a lot of points this video discussed - in fact, it made me feel sad. I ve been people-pleasing all these years, and yet, the cycle hasn t ended. Perhaps it may have resulted from my childhood. But at the same time, I don t know. I m too emotional for my own good sometimes I may need more time to heal.
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xleMnlx
Timestamp:
0: 55 You find it extremely difficult to be alone.
1: 36 You rely on others to make decisions in your life.
2: 20 You do things to win other people's approval.
2: 55 You are highly sensitive to criticism.
3: 25 You need a lot of reassurance.
3: 58 You find it difficult to start things on your own.
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Timestamp:
0: 55 You find it extremely difficult to be alone.
1: 36 You rely on others to make decisions in your life.
2: 20 You do things to win other people's approval.
2: 55 You are highly sensitive to criticism.
3: 25 You need a lot of reassurance.
3: 58 You find it difficult to start things on your own.
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Bazus0
Im pretty sure I fall into these habits and I am going through a situation that has all these elements right now. tbh I dont know what to do or how to handle it. Like I know what Im doing is unreasonable and is something I shouldnt, but I just keep going in circles mentally
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Im pretty sure I fall into these habits and I am going through a situation that has all these elements right now. tbh I dont know what to do or how to handle it. Like I know what Im doing is unreasonable and is something I shouldnt, but I just keep going in circles mentally
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Piggette
3: 03, this EXACT moment has happened to me when I ve been criticized or rejected in any way. I ve excused myself to the school bathroom and cried until passing period ended: (
I ve never heard about dpd but I wonder if I may have it? I relate to a lot of the signs: [
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3: 03, this EXACT moment has happened to me when I ve been criticized or rejected in any way. I ve excused myself to the school bathroom and cried until passing period ended: (
I ve never heard about dpd but I wonder if I may have it? I relate to a lot of the signs: [
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Landon
I have a question about a situation of mine. Is it possible to forget how to openly show feelings for someone and/or forget what love feels like at all. If that is possible, is it possible to relearn those feelings and how to express them?
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I have a question about a situation of mine. Is it possible to forget how to openly show feelings for someone and/or forget what love feels like at all. If that is possible, is it possible to relearn those feelings and how to express them?
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Sahlokniir
Well, I just feel like the 6th sign was my childhood in a nutshell, I just couldn't get anything started off the ground without someone elses help, and now, even at 16, I still do, maybe, I might have dpd. I'll have to figure that out
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Well, I just feel like the 6th sign was my childhood in a nutshell, I just couldn't get anything started off the ground without someone elses help, and now, even at 16, I still do, maybe, I might have dpd. I'll have to figure that out
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Emilandeela
1. Scared to be alone
2. Can t make decisions on your own
3. People pleasing for approval
4. Highly sensitive to criticism
5. Needing a lot of reassurance
6. Finding it difficult to start things on your own
Me
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1. Scared to be alone
2. Can t make decisions on your own
3. People pleasing for approval
4. Highly sensitive to criticism
5. Needing a lot of reassurance
6. Finding it difficult to start things on your own
Me
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Terr queo
Can i have DPD with medium self-esteem? Cause i feel lot of these things. mainly about my best friend who recently is away from my texts, and i really felt for a long time that i needed her to have confidence.
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Can i have DPD with medium self-esteem? Cause i feel lot of these things. mainly about my best friend who recently is away from my texts, and i really felt for a long time that i needed her to have confidence.
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Emil
I always knew that these people were out there, but I never found them, and neither can I call myself dependant. Though to a person who is like this I hope that you feel good, and that your friends support you.
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I always knew that these people were out there, but I never found them, and neither can I call myself dependant. Though to a person who is like this I hope that you feel good, and that your friends support you.
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Jah
feeling down today with a lot on my mind, seeing this video is like a big sign into my face because I have hard time working on doing decisions by myself the journey will soon be over and ill feel whole again
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feeling down today with a lot on my mind, seeing this video is like a big sign into my face because I have hard time working on doing decisions by myself the journey will soon be over and ill feel whole again
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