7 Simple Steps to Calm an Argument
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Date: 2023-08-20
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Socheata
Thank you for the help! but even though my emotions had been rough for a bit and also a few didnt understand how I look or feel. And saying things and calling me ugly and asides from that. I had a conversation with my classmate named John, we sorta talked different things but we got along, and yeah. And my little brother too, and not rage! But Anyways Thank you and take care and if your experiencing these. your not alone. especially even they misunderstand or they looked at you as something bad. Dont bring your anger and all. Just remain calm and youre going to be okay! Like me when I experienced these. But we all are human. And we had accidents, and mistakes and most lies. Just remember dont overthink, even life is tough. We all matter and May had those things but we can do this. And not give up! No one is a loser and a winner. Weve all had theses! Even when the world changes hard and makes people like that, dont get to hard on anyone and dont judge their races and anything even Asians! Everyone loves everything they loved and we may act differently but it takes practice. I apologize if Ive made a longer paragraph!
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Thank you for the help! but even though my emotions had been rough for a bit and also a few didnt understand how I look or feel. And saying things and calling me ugly and asides from that. I had a conversation with my classmate named John, we sorta talked different things but we got along, and yeah. And my little brother too, and not rage! But Anyways Thank you and take care and if your experiencing these. your not alone. especially even they misunderstand or they looked at you as something bad. Dont bring your anger and all. Just remain calm and youre going to be okay! Like me when I experienced these. But we all are human. And we had accidents, and mistakes and most lies. Just remember dont overthink, even life is tough. We all matter and May had those things but we can do this. And not give up! No one is a loser and a winner. Weve all had theses! Even when the world changes hard and makes people like that, dont get to hard on anyone and dont judge their races and anything even Asians! Everyone loves everything they loved and we may act differently but it takes practice. I apologize if Ive made a longer paragraph!
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Paul
No. 4 needs to be No. 1.
. and _it needs to be explicitly stated by both parties. _
Both people need to openly concede to the other person that it's just _possible_ that they could be wrong about anything they currently believe is true.
Do _not_ proceed into any argument where both parties cannot concede their own human frailty. The simple fact is that we could all be wrong about anything. If somebody can't just concede that, then just walk away, and state that the reason that you are walking away is that it's pointless to argue with somebody who will never, ever change their own mind.
As soon as both parties agree that it's possible that they could be wrong about anything, the argument instantly cools down, and instead turns into two people exploring each other ideas and way of thinking. That's much nicer!
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No. 4 needs to be No. 1.
. and _it needs to be explicitly stated by both parties. _
Both people need to openly concede to the other person that it's just _possible_ that they could be wrong about anything they currently believe is true.
Do _not_ proceed into any argument where both parties cannot concede their own human frailty. The simple fact is that we could all be wrong about anything. If somebody can't just concede that, then just walk away, and state that the reason that you are walking away is that it's pointless to argue with somebody who will never, ever change their own mind.
As soon as both parties agree that it's possible that they could be wrong about anything, the argument instantly cools down, and instead turns into two people exploring each other ideas and way of thinking. That's much nicer!
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Nick
Ahh. this video reminds me of THEM.
How they used to calm down me when I used to agitated or hyper. They used to say that you need to cool down during heated argument. I would get ignited very easily and early during that times.
Now when I look back I am more tamable and easy going person.
Adapted methods like deep breathing, counting one to hundred, squeezing stress ball, pressing the tips of pens continuously, bursting the popper etc. etc.
All these techniques I have imbibed within self so that neither me nor others gets harmed.
After continuous therapy and medications I am more of a social amicable person.
Thanks to my doc and to THEM too.
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Ahh. this video reminds me of THEM.
How they used to calm down me when I used to agitated or hyper. They used to say that you need to cool down during heated argument. I would get ignited very easily and early during that times.
Now when I look back I am more tamable and easy going person.
Adapted methods like deep breathing, counting one to hundred, squeezing stress ball, pressing the tips of pens continuously, bursting the popper etc. etc.
All these techniques I have imbibed within self so that neither me nor others gets harmed.
After continuous therapy and medications I am more of a social amicable person.
Thanks to my doc and to THEM too.
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Damon's
If someone is outright yelling at you and it is someone you care about, the best thing you can do is stay quiet. Let them argue themselves down to whatever has gotten them so heated. At this point the argument isn't between you and them; it is between them and themselves. If you are not actually part of an argument or discussion, there is no way to prove your point.
Acknowledging an understanding of their perspective, is not agreeing with their perspective. It is though, proof to the other person that you have been listening.
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If someone is outright yelling at you and it is someone you care about, the best thing you can do is stay quiet. Let them argue themselves down to whatever has gotten them so heated. At this point the argument isn't between you and them; it is between them and themselves. If you are not actually part of an argument or discussion, there is no way to prove your point.
Acknowledging an understanding of their perspective, is not agreeing with their perspective. It is though, proof to the other person that you have been listening.
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Gene
Thank You all at Psych2Go. Bringing a spoiler to the discussion is that we are all not at our best at all time's. That being related, the world's people have created antagonist. In an ideal population the validation is a reasonable objective. As we are now we have discrediting people that we threaten with honesty, respectful behavior's, and so on. The are adept at picking fight's and know our passion's. I relate this personally, and hope to clue other's in.
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Thank You all at Psych2Go. Bringing a spoiler to the discussion is that we are all not at our best at all time's. That being related, the world's people have created antagonist. In an ideal population the validation is a reasonable objective. As we are now we have discrediting people that we threaten with honesty, respectful behavior's, and so on. The are adept at picking fight's and know our passion's. I relate this personally, and hope to clue other's in.
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Stacy
Another one that can be added to this is know when to take a break or walk away. If emotions do get to high you may want to take a break, calm down, and then return to the conversation. If you are getting no where in the conversation and both sides are feeling frustrated or angry it might be best to just end the conversation before permeant damage is done to the relationship. This is not always an easy thing to do but can be extremely helpful.
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Another one that can be added to this is know when to take a break or walk away. If emotions do get to high you may want to take a break, calm down, and then return to the conversation. If you are getting no where in the conversation and both sides are feeling frustrated or angry it might be best to just end the conversation before permeant damage is done to the relationship. This is not always an easy thing to do but can be extremely helpful.
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SunnyXArtFairy
Psych i know you wont see this but i just want to say your voice is soo calm and soft, I think I could watch one of your videos then fall asleep if i had trouble sleeping because your voice is soo calm and soft, i also want to say keep making videos because your videos help people know if their crush likes them or not and other stuff, I hope you see this psych! I love watching you videos keep it up!
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Psych i know you wont see this but i just want to say your voice is soo calm and soft, I think I could watch one of your videos then fall asleep if i had trouble sleeping because your voice is soo calm and soft, i also want to say keep making videos because your videos help people know if their crush likes them or not and other stuff, I hope you see this psych! I love watching you videos keep it up!
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Deadly
Timestamps
1. Keep the temperature ever 0: 50
2. Have a sense of humour 2: 04
3. Ask questions and listen carefully 2: 51
4. Realise and accept you might be wrong 4: 09
5. Agreements are not forbidden 5: 17
6. Research and use facts 6: 20
7. Appeal to higher values 7: 02
Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. Sorry this is so late.
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Timestamps
1. Keep the temperature ever 0: 50
2. Have a sense of humour 2: 04
3. Ask questions and listen carefully 2: 51
4. Realise and accept you might be wrong 4: 09
5. Agreements are not forbidden 5: 17
6. Research and use facts 6: 20
7. Appeal to higher values 7: 02
Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. Sorry this is so late.
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Nothing
Y'all calm down. This voice is beautiful too. I love it sm! Thanks a lot psych2go team for all these informative vids. It has helped us a lot. Happy new year everyone!
Lets look forward to making new experiences and memories in 2023 and become a slightly better version of what we are now. Cheers!
Edit: - i hope autocorrect cooperates with me in 2023
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Y'all calm down. This voice is beautiful too. I love it sm! Thanks a lot psych2go team for all these informative vids. It has helped us a lot. Happy new year everyone!
Lets look forward to making new experiences and memories in 2023 and become a slightly better version of what we are now. Cheers!
Edit: - i hope autocorrect cooperates with me in 2023
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Wes
Timestamps & major points
1. 0: 51 Keep the temperature even
2. 2: 03 Have a sense of humor
3. 2: 52 Ask questions and listen carefully
4. 4: 09 Realize and accept you might be wrong
5. 5: 19 Agreements are not forbidden
6. 6: 21 Research and use facts
7. 7: 02 Appeal to higher values
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Timestamps & major points
1. 0: 51 Keep the temperature even
2. 2: 03 Have a sense of humor
3. 2: 52 Ask questions and listen carefully
4. 4: 09 Realize and accept you might be wrong
5. 5: 19 Agreements are not forbidden
6. 6: 21 Research and use facts
7. 7: 02 Appeal to higher values
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MK
0: 52 1. Keep temperature even
2: 05 2. Have a sense of humor
2: 53 3. ask questions and listen carefully
4: 11 4. Realize and accept you might be wrong
5: 20 5. Agreements are not forbidden
6: 22 6. Research and use facts
7: 05 7. Appeal to higher values
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0: 52 1. Keep temperature even
2: 05 2. Have a sense of humor
2: 53 3. ask questions and listen carefully
4: 11 4. Realize and accept you might be wrong
5: 20 5. Agreements are not forbidden
6: 22 6. Research and use facts
7: 05 7. Appeal to higher values
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Nick
May I respectfully point out that, Will you shut up, man? was explicitly PROVOKED in that debate by the other party's behavior, which was infinitely worse in all ways. The speaker would have been justified in sinking a whole lot lower; don't blame a bully's victim.
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May I respectfully point out that, Will you shut up, man? was explicitly PROVOKED in that debate by the other party's behavior, which was infinitely worse in all ways. The speaker would have been justified in sinking a whole lot lower; don't blame a bully's victim.
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Gaminghost
When im in an argument and realize this is just going to escalate more and more i just take a breather and stare them dead in the eyes Wednesday style lmao they then either just get scared or keep screaming at me and realize they have gone to far
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When im in an argument and realize this is just going to escalate more and more i just take a breather and stare them dead in the eyes Wednesday style lmao they then either just get scared or keep screaming at me and realize they have gone to far
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JJAA
Yep, making sure that you approach each case as an individual and calmly assess the methods that work best. For some it's reason and debunking misinformation. For most it's personal experience and other (non-lethal) ways of persuasion; )
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Yep, making sure that you approach each case as an individual and calmly assess the methods that work best. For some it's reason and debunking misinformation. For most it's personal experience and other (non-lethal) ways of persuasion; )
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Food
How we actually handle arguments
1. Get mad
2. Start getting defensive
3. Yelling starts
4. Yo mamma jokes form
5. tears pool
6. Self-esteems crush
(Both exit opposites sides to hide their feelings)
and scene
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How we actually handle arguments
1. Get mad
2. Start getting defensive
3. Yelling starts
4. Yo mamma jokes form
5. tears pool
6. Self-esteems crush
(Both exit opposites sides to hide their feelings)
and scene
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Elvis
The presenter's accent, tone, and cadence are very difficult to understand. Also, the background music is distracting. I usually enjoy P2G videos, but definitely not this one. Pls consider making changes moving forward. :)
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The presenter's accent, tone, and cadence are very difficult to understand. Also, the background music is distracting. I usually enjoy P2G videos, but definitely not this one. Pls consider making changes moving forward. :)
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Soraia
So, i did all the steps a long time agoo, i learn to understand the humans, and whith this theme, more and more i learn to understand the bonds, witch i respect above all, so what can i do to calm my patner with life?
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So, i did all the steps a long time agoo, i learn to understand the humans, and whith this theme, more and more i learn to understand the bonds, witch i respect above all, so what can i do to calm my patner with life?
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Charlotte
2: 02 hmm, I was told its not MY problem that you put feelings into how I say things. Thats a YOU problem (because he said something very harshly, while his body language was also aggressive / closed off )
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2: 02 hmm, I was told its not MY problem that you put feelings into how I say things. Thats a YOU problem (because he said something very harshly, while his body language was also aggressive / closed off )
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Zoe
Yea but my parents when they argue with me they always take me the wrong way and thats why I cant go to cheer next week because I told my dad I finished in the shower and i guess it sounded like slightly rude
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Yea but my parents when they argue with me they always take me the wrong way and thats why I cant go to cheer next week because I told my dad I finished in the shower and i guess it sounded like slightly rude
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Xtility
Ah yes the left loves to do crazy thing when in an argument. Such as dox or try to kill conservatives. How delightful,
Ahem. Excuse my defensiveness for political bs.
Good video
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Ah yes the left loves to do crazy thing when in an argument. Such as dox or try to kill conservatives. How delightful,
Ahem. Excuse my defensiveness for political bs.
Good video
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Krisz
From my experience.
Just speak calmly and listen well.
Don't just hear what you want. Don't forget that just because you're right that doesn't mean the other person is wrong.
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From my experience.
Just speak calmly and listen well.
Don't just hear what you want. Don't forget that just because you're right that doesn't mean the other person is wrong.
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PyrosgunReturns
Ok but this all seems like how you can stop an argument BEFORE you have to try to calm it instead of when it already has become heated and it needs to be calmed.
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Ok but this all seems like how you can stop an argument BEFORE you have to try to calm it instead of when it already has become heated and it needs to be calmed.
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psych2go
I actually needed this like 5 hours ago but it's fine- thank you btw!
(Yes, I somehow got into an odd argument but we calmed down and fixed everything: D)
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I actually needed this like 5 hours ago but it's fine- thank you btw!
(Yes, I somehow got into an odd argument but we calmed down and fixed everything: D)
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Charlotte
Thank you for this video and tips. Ill try to think of them, especially the quote about: most people dont listen to understand but to reply/retort
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Thank you for this video and tips. Ill try to think of them, especially the quote about: most people dont listen to understand but to reply/retort
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Charlotte
2: 14 scared to always say the same mean things because I just KNEW he would EXPLODE, making it worse for me on the receiving end
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2: 14 scared to always say the same mean things because I just KNEW he would EXPLODE, making it worse for me on the receiving end
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