10 Signs You're Being Manipulated
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Date: 2023-08-20
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WeirdGhost
I am in pain now =, >
I'm realizing after watching other videos ive dealth with at least 2 toxic people!
1. Friend. She approached me first, and became my bff for a while. I'll call her M. She was nice at first. Then she ditched me fir a new group of friends. I tried to talk to her, but she ignored me or seemed annoyed when i talked to her. Then she began trying to talk to me all the time as i began cutting ties with her. It took at least a month to work. Im glad i did that. Now i feel guilty though. Maybe i was overreacting. I suspect she was gossiping about me too but i cant be sure.
2. Relative. Told me as young kid not to cry. Didn't care when another relative shoved my back into the stairs bc i deserved it. Looking back at it, i probably did. They then lied about not saying those things. They yelled at me after accidentally causing something to fall, then claimed it was because they thought I said i was gonna ctrl-alt-delete myself if yk what i mean. Right after that they spoke for me around another relative, claiming i was sobbing because i missed my friends. They have been acting really nice lately. Like a sudden moodswing. Oh, a while back they also grabbed my device, forcefully scrolled through it, looked at groups i was in, got upset, and made me get rid of it (right after that they said it was for my own good and then put back on their caring face and comforted me. I think they lied again about why i was crying and upset when somebody else asked.
Now i feel like im overdramatic. And feel like people around me are just acting nice to look better, because the quiet girl who has few friends, and being friends with me would make them look super nice. They just want me to be the good quiet girl. But when i fit what they want, they then get upset. I'll work on becoming their good little girl now. It's for the best, if i do become who they want me to be, maybe i can be happy. Maybe they'll really be sincerely nice to me more often.
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I am in pain now =, >
I'm realizing after watching other videos ive dealth with at least 2 toxic people!
1. Friend. She approached me first, and became my bff for a while. I'll call her M. She was nice at first. Then she ditched me fir a new group of friends. I tried to talk to her, but she ignored me or seemed annoyed when i talked to her. Then she began trying to talk to me all the time as i began cutting ties with her. It took at least a month to work. Im glad i did that. Now i feel guilty though. Maybe i was overreacting. I suspect she was gossiping about me too but i cant be sure.
2. Relative. Told me as young kid not to cry. Didn't care when another relative shoved my back into the stairs bc i deserved it. Looking back at it, i probably did. They then lied about not saying those things. They yelled at me after accidentally causing something to fall, then claimed it was because they thought I said i was gonna ctrl-alt-delete myself if yk what i mean. Right after that they spoke for me around another relative, claiming i was sobbing because i missed my friends. They have been acting really nice lately. Like a sudden moodswing. Oh, a while back they also grabbed my device, forcefully scrolled through it, looked at groups i was in, got upset, and made me get rid of it (right after that they said it was for my own good and then put back on their caring face and comforted me. I think they lied again about why i was crying and upset when somebody else asked.
Now i feel like im overdramatic. And feel like people around me are just acting nice to look better, because the quiet girl who has few friends, and being friends with me would make them look super nice. They just want me to be the good quiet girl. But when i fit what they want, they then get upset. I'll work on becoming their good little girl now. It's for the best, if i do become who they want me to be, maybe i can be happy. Maybe they'll really be sincerely nice to me more often.
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PenguinBOI
I have a best friend girl, and I love her so much but she constantly does theses things where every 2 months she decides to completely ignore me like if I never existed usually it lasts around 3-7 days it once lasted 2 weeks, i never told her how much I loved her but when I did I regret it, she now uses advantage of it for example we were really close the last 3 weeks until last week suddenly she stopped talking to me, she usually does this if there is a drama between us but all of a sudden this time, I tried to think and ask myself what have I done for her to act like this, and I did nothing hurtful on her, when I talk to her in class she goes like yeah yeah or a dry answer and gives me dirty looks, and everytime this happens, she sudde becomes closer with everyone like if shes trying to make me jealous, when I text her she often leaves me on delivered for 3 minutes usually she will reply immediately in less than 10 seconds, i now feel like she just got tired of me because I maybe talk a lot with her, and she never starts conversations with me, well she did 15 minutes ago just for a math equation, nothing special, and 2 days ago I built up the courage to tell her if she is tired of me or she doesnt have my patience or doesnt want to be my friend anymore, I kept asking her this and everytime she replies with the same phrase and just denies it, everytime I ask her something about herself she just goes with idk, when I told her that she keeps ignoring me and its Annoying me, she replied with if you dont like this About me then go make yourself other friends that are better than me and the next day she completely ignores me in class, I now feel like Im forcing her to talk to me which annoys me and she does 7/10 things to me so I just can counter manipulate her, I will wait 2 weeks hoping that things will go normal, wish me for luck
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I have a best friend girl, and I love her so much but she constantly does theses things where every 2 months she decides to completely ignore me like if I never existed usually it lasts around 3-7 days it once lasted 2 weeks, i never told her how much I loved her but when I did I regret it, she now uses advantage of it for example we were really close the last 3 weeks until last week suddenly she stopped talking to me, she usually does this if there is a drama between us but all of a sudden this time, I tried to think and ask myself what have I done for her to act like this, and I did nothing hurtful on her, when I talk to her in class she goes like yeah yeah or a dry answer and gives me dirty looks, and everytime this happens, she sudde becomes closer with everyone like if shes trying to make me jealous, when I text her she often leaves me on delivered for 3 minutes usually she will reply immediately in less than 10 seconds, i now feel like she just got tired of me because I maybe talk a lot with her, and she never starts conversations with me, well she did 15 minutes ago just for a math equation, nothing special, and 2 days ago I built up the courage to tell her if she is tired of me or she doesnt have my patience or doesnt want to be my friend anymore, I kept asking her this and everytime she replies with the same phrase and just denies it, everytime I ask her something about herself she just goes with idk, when I told her that she keeps ignoring me and its Annoying me, she replied with if you dont like this About me then go make yourself other friends that are better than me and the next day she completely ignores me in class, I now feel like Im forcing her to talk to me which annoys me and she does 7/10 things to me so I just can counter manipulate her, I will wait 2 weeks hoping that things will go normal, wish me for luck
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Ram
Hello. I need your advice. If its alright. See I have this friend that and she kept on asking help from me by giving her money for the past few weeks. In my POV, I notice that everytime she would message me first, she would ask for money and vice versa. I also notice that she doesnt fall through the plans that we made. Like she said that if ever I would give her the money we would finally watch the movie that we've been waiting for online but then when I gave it to her, biglang she wants to watch by herself na lang. From that point, I was done and I told her how I felt about this then suddenly shes the one who got mad and we got into an arguement. Since then we never talked after that. My question is did I do the right thing and am I better off without her? I really need to know another opinion.
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Hello. I need your advice. If its alright. See I have this friend that and she kept on asking help from me by giving her money for the past few weeks. In my POV, I notice that everytime she would message me first, she would ask for money and vice versa. I also notice that she doesnt fall through the plans that we made. Like she said that if ever I would give her the money we would finally watch the movie that we've been waiting for online but then when I gave it to her, biglang she wants to watch by herself na lang. From that point, I was done and I told her how I felt about this then suddenly shes the one who got mad and we got into an arguement. Since then we never talked after that. My question is did I do the right thing and am I better off without her? I really need to know another opinion.
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Angel's
I dont know if this counts, but in arguments, my ex would make me feel as thought everything was their fault. Theyd constantly try to please me, even though i asked them not to. Its like they gave up everything for my sake, though I never once referenced to it or tried to make them feel like they owed me anything. I dont know what to do, they still do it to this day. I feel so horrible, like a manipulator controlling someone. I know I wouldnt feel this if they didnt keep making it seem like it was their fault, even when I took the blame. Were they victimizing themselves in this? I dont think I can say that, seeing as they put themselves at the fault of it all rather than the one being hurt. But they also made it seem like they were the one being hurt by their own actions?
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I dont know if this counts, but in arguments, my ex would make me feel as thought everything was their fault. Theyd constantly try to please me, even though i asked them not to. Its like they gave up everything for my sake, though I never once referenced to it or tried to make them feel like they owed me anything. I dont know what to do, they still do it to this day. I feel so horrible, like a manipulator controlling someone. I know I wouldnt feel this if they didnt keep making it seem like it was their fault, even when I took the blame. Were they victimizing themselves in this? I dont think I can say that, seeing as they put themselves at the fault of it all rather than the one being hurt. But they also made it seem like they were the one being hurt by their own actions?
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Arshnoor
I don't know if I have been in a manipulative relationship or not. But as soon as we get a distance, I start questioning everything that happened and seeing it in a different light. I feel that everything was not the way I believed and the moment we are together or we talk about it, everything changes and I start considering that I was thinking negatively unnecessarily. I am not the type of person to bear the things that I have gone through in this relationship but it never felt that way while I was going through that moment. Everything always went his way but he always used to say that I'm the one in control. It's kind of confusing for me now when I look back and my question remains the same - ' Was I in a manipulative relationship? '
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I don't know if I have been in a manipulative relationship or not. But as soon as we get a distance, I start questioning everything that happened and seeing it in a different light. I feel that everything was not the way I believed and the moment we are together or we talk about it, everything changes and I start considering that I was thinking negatively unnecessarily. I am not the type of person to bear the things that I have gone through in this relationship but it never felt that way while I was going through that moment. Everything always went his way but he always used to say that I'm the one in control. It's kind of confusing for me now when I look back and my question remains the same - ' Was I in a manipulative relationship? '
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Lisa
Thank you I have been trying to get help because I have been through pure hell. This person or persons has made me almost kill myself and I can't get them away from me. This is stalking and have had my email accounts phone and other devices hacked. When exposed they feel like I am wrong when in reality they are the ones presenting the abuse. They never speak to me and send things or try to control everything. My money phone calls and my internet access. I detest them and want them gone. Have contacted the police and I think they feel I am being crazy. But I have moved 3 times and am ready to move again because of this persons inability to determine the fact we aren't in a relationship and are delusional. H ELP.
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Thank you I have been trying to get help because I have been through pure hell. This person or persons has made me almost kill myself and I can't get them away from me. This is stalking and have had my email accounts phone and other devices hacked. When exposed they feel like I am wrong when in reality they are the ones presenting the abuse. They never speak to me and send things or try to control everything. My money phone calls and my internet access. I detest them and want them gone. Have contacted the police and I think they feel I am being crazy. But I have moved 3 times and am ready to move again because of this persons inability to determine the fact we aren't in a relationship and are delusional. H ELP.
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Garbage
Every time I'd wonder if he knew what he was doing was wrong, I'd think about the one snippet of truth that makes total sense: If he thought it was okay to do, he wouldnt only do it in private. I'm wary of people with the same sort of hesitation he had when you question what they're doing. I know he gaslighted the hell out of me to the point where I'm only seeing the bigger picture now, with some distance. I felt stuck because he told me I was what was keeping him alive, and I didnt want to be responsible for what he'd do if I left. I dont wish that on anyone. Calling the police instead was probably the better compromise than just pushing on ahead, I hope more people see this vid if they're struggling.
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Every time I'd wonder if he knew what he was doing was wrong, I'd think about the one snippet of truth that makes total sense: If he thought it was okay to do, he wouldnt only do it in private. I'm wary of people with the same sort of hesitation he had when you question what they're doing. I know he gaslighted the hell out of me to the point where I'm only seeing the bigger picture now, with some distance. I felt stuck because he told me I was what was keeping him alive, and I didnt want to be responsible for what he'd do if I left. I dont wish that on anyone. Calling the police instead was probably the better compromise than just pushing on ahead, I hope more people see this vid if they're struggling.
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Noodle
I had / have a friend i thought was my bestie Ive known her since I was fiveall the sudden shes super clingy, starts hanging out a lot, makes jokes 24/7 and would be super overprotective not in a good way she wouldnt let me make friendsa few weeks ago she with my friends ex my friend is kinda mad even though she didnt like him I understand its like your friend is dating your ex it kinda awkward now that she got her bf and stopped hanging out and just. stopped talking to meits hurting a lot. like a lot idk if this is the right comment for this video but I felt like I should share this. any advice? I Ofc still wanna be her bestie but idk if she wants to be MY bestie
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I had / have a friend i thought was my bestie Ive known her since I was fiveall the sudden shes super clingy, starts hanging out a lot, makes jokes 24/7 and would be super overprotective not in a good way she wouldnt let me make friendsa few weeks ago she with my friends ex my friend is kinda mad even though she didnt like him I understand its like your friend is dating your ex it kinda awkward now that she got her bf and stopped hanging out and just. stopped talking to meits hurting a lot. like a lot idk if this is the right comment for this video but I felt like I should share this. any advice? I Ofc still wanna be her bestie but idk if she wants to be MY bestie
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Farza
Haha seems that I wasn't a bad person it's just I was around manipulators, the saddest thing is that those manipulators where the people I loved and trusted my whole life [Yeah family members ], I always thought I was a cry baby too sensitive but no. finally found peace. Well I hope one day they would change too even if they don't I will just be careful around them and don't expose my weakness or anything around them but just be numb and avoid much interactions. In the end they are also humans who had broken past whihc made them become like this
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Haha seems that I wasn't a bad person it's just I was around manipulators, the saddest thing is that those manipulators where the people I loved and trusted my whole life [Yeah family members ], I always thought I was a cry baby too sensitive but no. finally found peace. Well I hope one day they would change too even if they don't I will just be careful around them and don't expose my weakness or anything around them but just be numb and avoid much interactions. In the end they are also humans who had broken past whihc made them become like this
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Nht
A guy who said that he really likes me ( he really mean it, I know that too. His actions are quite alike these signs ( and I know it well that Im a people pleaser, he might know it and keep doing it ) and I talk about it with him, but he doesnt admit it. But after some talking and sharing, I know that he has traumas when he was really young, so I think maybe he really likea me, but because of those trauma, he unintentionally trying to manipulate me. I know that but I dont know what to do now, I told him already but he denied it:
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A guy who said that he really likes me ( he really mean it, I know that too. His actions are quite alike these signs ( and I know it well that Im a people pleaser, he might know it and keep doing it ) and I talk about it with him, but he doesnt admit it. But after some talking and sharing, I know that he has traumas when he was really young, so I think maybe he really likea me, but because of those trauma, he unintentionally trying to manipulate me. I know that but I dont know what to do now, I told him already but he denied it:
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Carlos
I think that there are 2 sides to every coin, it's important to realize that even if one or all of these things are being done it may not always be intentional, it's important to listen to your partner and friends, hear them out, clarify, sometimes this is very difficult but it's important to not assume they are trying to manipulate you, sometimes people are too sensitive, sometimes people are manipulating you, assume the good and get evidence find out their patterns and clarify clarify clarify
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I think that there are 2 sides to every coin, it's important to realize that even if one or all of these things are being done it may not always be intentional, it's important to listen to your partner and friends, hear them out, clarify, sometimes this is very difficult but it's important to not assume they are trying to manipulate you, sometimes people are too sensitive, sometimes people are manipulating you, assume the good and get evidence find out their patterns and clarify clarify clarify
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Islah
I wish she would realise this, I wanna send this to her. But I know she will start guilt tripping and making myself doubt, Iam so afraid to make her upset even for confronting how I felt or to correct what she did. She never took the blame and made me doubt myself in all aspects of my life. At one point I actually believed that I had Alzheimers or smthng because she made me think that I forgot that, this. I havent experienced such things with anybody else but always her? Im glad i realised this!
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I wish she would realise this, I wanna send this to her. But I know she will start guilt tripping and making myself doubt, Iam so afraid to make her upset even for confronting how I felt or to correct what she did. She never took the blame and made me doubt myself in all aspects of my life. At one point I actually believed that I had Alzheimers or smthng because she made me think that I forgot that, this. I havent experienced such things with anybody else but always her? Im glad i realised this!
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Shaunak
I think one of the reasons that many people who watch this video and see themselves is that growing up they were treated manipulatively and then get into friendships/ relationships with a manipulator and also use the same tactics that were used on them in the past to get their needs met.
After much thought this is why it happened for me, if you dont learn from your abuse you will repeat it and make it worse for yourself. I wasnt perfect but the person I was seeing was much worse.
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I think one of the reasons that many people who watch this video and see themselves is that growing up they were treated manipulatively and then get into friendships/ relationships with a manipulator and also use the same tactics that were used on them in the past to get their needs met.
After much thought this is why it happened for me, if you dont learn from your abuse you will repeat it and make it worse for yourself. I wasnt perfect but the person I was seeing was much worse.
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Thanh
One of my closest friends who was really close w/ me in the middle school. Then, she got to high school, she became a different person, she want to get the spotlight and become famous at school, while she isolated herself from the rest of the class for a absolute nonsense reason, I tried to tell her everything is OK and she said You don't know things that I'd been undergone and whenever I tried to persuade her, I felt like this was my fault. And then I saw this video, 7/10.
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One of my closest friends who was really close w/ me in the middle school. Then, she got to high school, she became a different person, she want to get the spotlight and become famous at school, while she isolated herself from the rest of the class for a absolute nonsense reason, I tried to tell her everything is OK and she said You don't know things that I'd been undergone and whenever I tried to persuade her, I felt like this was my fault. And then I saw this video, 7/10.
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Lisa
I thought I would never deal with such an evil person. I have suffered every day for 4 or more years at the hands of a mentally ill phycopath who ask about me marrying them when i dont have any relationship with them. Gaslighting is being used against. Inmature and not socially developed. Also recuit other people to join in the bulling and stalking and hacking that has given thank you for me having the gut feeling. I have never dealt with such demons. Monsters are real.
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I thought I would never deal with such an evil person. I have suffered every day for 4 or more years at the hands of a mentally ill phycopath who ask about me marrying them when i dont have any relationship with them. Gaslighting is being used against. Inmature and not socially developed. Also recuit other people to join in the bulling and stalking and hacking that has given thank you for me having the gut feeling. I have never dealt with such demons. Monsters are real.
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education
When it got to emotional blackmail, i realized my friend does it to her boyfriend, everytime he has to go home she says for example stay or you dont love me, when he had to go to sleep she would keep saying that she'll kill herself, she also once said if you go home you love joanna(that's me, ut didnt make me feel uncomfortable until now, but the weirdest part is that she lets him hang out with other girls unaware of what's gonna happen
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When it got to emotional blackmail, i realized my friend does it to her boyfriend, everytime he has to go home she says for example stay or you dont love me, when he had to go to sleep she would keep saying that she'll kill herself, she also once said if you go home you love joanna(that's me, ut didnt make me feel uncomfortable until now, but the weirdest part is that she lets him hang out with other girls unaware of what's gonna happen
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Alyssa's
My ex broke up with me about a month ago(We're friends now)He always tells me if I left him/stop being his friend, he would die. I'm trying to stop talking to him for a while because he treats me differently than his other friends. He seems to be coming off as sometimey with me. Then I confront him about it and then he goes off to talk about his trauma. Idk what to do anymore, is he manipulating me?
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My ex broke up with me about a month ago(We're friends now)He always tells me if I left him/stop being his friend, he would die. I'm trying to stop talking to him for a while because he treats me differently than his other friends. He seems to be coming off as sometimey with me. Then I confront him about it and then he goes off to talk about his trauma. Idk what to do anymore, is he manipulating me?
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Kira
my ex sounded like this, everytime wed argue even if its a small problem, hed threaten to break up and i ended up apologizing bc i felt bad and he still wouldnt forgive me, he even said it himself hes manipulative n a bad person so basically he knew what he was doing. always played the victim whenever id make a joke hed get so offended, but its okay for him to say the jokes that would offend me
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my ex sounded like this, everytime wed argue even if its a small problem, hed threaten to break up and i ended up apologizing bc i felt bad and he still wouldnt forgive me, he even said it himself hes manipulative n a bad person so basically he knew what he was doing. always played the victim whenever id make a joke hed get so offended, but its okay for him to say the jokes that would offend me
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Oiayoiay
I have a manipulative friend but she's mentally challenged. So it's hard for me to try to settle things out without hurting her cuz she's extreme sensitive. There's this on time she made me pay for her thi gs she couldn't afford and then I snapped. But ig it's all good cuz she tried to comfort me but I can still tell if she's manipulating me even if she got learning disability
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I have a manipulative friend but she's mentally challenged. So it's hard for me to try to settle things out without hurting her cuz she's extreme sensitive. There's this on time she made me pay for her thi gs she couldn't afford and then I snapped. But ig it's all good cuz she tried to comfort me but I can still tell if she's manipulating me even if she got learning disability
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Study
I used to have a friend who always tried to Gaslight me for hurting another friend in our trio besties group, but instead I stood up for myself and now she is hanging out with the rich kids and telling she is living a better life than me. She would also try to get my attention to make me jealous, because of this everybody calls her immature.
Sorry for my poor english
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I used to have a friend who always tried to Gaslight me for hurting another friend in our trio besties group, but instead I stood up for myself and now she is hanging out with the rich kids and telling she is living a better life than me. She would also try to get my attention to make me jealous, because of this everybody calls her immature.
Sorry for my poor english
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Betsy
they also accuse u of bein bratt entitled &snuty if u say anything; make other horrific accusations against u; use everything against u; deny your existence &any history yall ever had; uninvited u to events; make extreme threats if u even show up; demand your absence &silence &disappearance; &even plot your demise &remove every trace of u.
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they also accuse u of bein bratt entitled &snuty if u say anything; make other horrific accusations against u; use everything against u; deny your existence &any history yall ever had; uninvited u to events; make extreme threats if u even show up; demand your absence &silence &disappearance; &even plot your demise &remove every trace of u.
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sparrow
I used to call these people FAKERS. They promise a fake future to you. They are lying. They love bomb you in the beginning and once they think you are theirs, they start being abusive. Run from these people, but don't tell them you are leaving, JUST PLAN and LEAVE. Cut off all communication with these people. They can be violent.
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I used to call these people FAKERS. They promise a fake future to you. They are lying. They love bomb you in the beginning and once they think you are theirs, they start being abusive. Run from these people, but don't tell them you are leaving, JUST PLAN and LEAVE. Cut off all communication with these people. They can be violent.
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The
I have a friend that has an extremely controlling and manipulative boyfriend who wont let her even say hello to her male coworkers. I dont know what hes doing exactly to control her but its been going on for way too long. Not sure how to handle it, but Im about to have a sit-down with her family to figure out what to do.
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I have a friend that has an extremely controlling and manipulative boyfriend who wont let her even say hello to her male coworkers. I dont know what hes doing exactly to control her but its been going on for way too long. Not sure how to handle it, but Im about to have a sit-down with her family to figure out what to do.
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shinyjilly
There is someone manipulative in my friend group she was trying to manipulate us for no reason and i tell one of my friend they don't talk each other just for 1 day then they started to talk and when i act rude to my manipulative friend my other friend acts me rude too
i think i am the manipulative person now
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There is someone manipulative in my friend group she was trying to manipulate us for no reason and i tell one of my friend they don't talk each other just for 1 day then they started to talk and when i act rude to my manipulative friend my other friend acts me rude too
i think i am the manipulative person now
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Kat
I need to stand up for myself against this person. But i dont know how because we literally go to the same school, have the same friend group, take the same bus so its really difficult to detatach from them. And lately they've only been talking to me when they are borednor have no one else
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I need to stand up for myself against this person. But i dont know how because we literally go to the same school, have the same friend group, take the same bus so its really difficult to detatach from them. And lately they've only been talking to me when they are borednor have no one else
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