QUIZ: How Lonely Are You Quiz (Self Check-in)
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Date: 2025-04-20
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jerrjohnpresti
okay, here we go:
1: When you reflect on your social life, you feel: B, like I'm doing good with my current circle, though I could do better.
2: How often do you wish you had more social interactions B, honestly, I may need a few breaks from interaction.
3: When something exciting or meaningful happens in your life, you usually: C, still working on that.
4: at the end of the day, how do you feel about your social interactions B.
5: if you went a full week without social plans or interactions, how would you feel C bordering on D, glad to say this hasn't happened yet.
6: when you think about your current relationships (friends, family, etc, you feel: B, though maybe it's a C, as I am close to my family, but my friends are more distant.
7: how often do you feel like you have someone to turn to when you're struggling C, I have a solid support system, but sometimes i feel too ashamed to use it. bad habit.
8: when you spend time alone, you mostly feel: B, alone time is my go-to way of recharging, but if it goes on for too long, then i'd need to vent the energy.
9: how often do you feel left out or excluded in social situations C, I don't want to miss things.
10: if you wanted to make weekend plans, how easy would it be for you B.
score: 14. ah great, well at least my hunch was accurate. in fact, I think this may open up a few options for me. I should attempt to make some plans with my network and open up more.
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okay, here we go:
1: When you reflect on your social life, you feel: B, like I'm doing good with my current circle, though I could do better.
2: How often do you wish you had more social interactions B, honestly, I may need a few breaks from interaction.
3: When something exciting or meaningful happens in your life, you usually: C, still working on that.
4: at the end of the day, how do you feel about your social interactions B.
5: if you went a full week without social plans or interactions, how would you feel C bordering on D, glad to say this hasn't happened yet.
6: when you think about your current relationships (friends, family, etc, you feel: B, though maybe it's a C, as I am close to my family, but my friends are more distant.
7: how often do you feel like you have someone to turn to when you're struggling C, I have a solid support system, but sometimes i feel too ashamed to use it. bad habit.
8: when you spend time alone, you mostly feel: B, alone time is my go-to way of recharging, but if it goes on for too long, then i'd need to vent the energy.
9: how often do you feel left out or excluded in social situations C, I don't want to miss things.
10: if you wanted to make weekend plans, how easy would it be for you B.
score: 14. ah great, well at least my hunch was accurate. in fact, I think this may open up a few options for me. I should attempt to make some plans with my network and open up more.
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Ryantehossim1
Decided to take part in this activity.
First off, wonderful idea!
As for results, 22 points. Not a single A was answered in these ten questions.
I plan on bringing this up with my therapist, because I've been struggling to find the difference between being alone versus being lonely.
A lot of my friends have moved on to bigger and brighter journeys, and while i root for them and hope they all get what they're going after, I'd be lying if I said i don't envy their sense of ambition. Some of them I haven't talked to since I gratuated in 2010.
And all the new people I've met come and go, so any meaningful relationship I build with them don't last.
My family is too caught up in their own ego's to even notice most of the time, and when they do, they either downplay it or make it a joke. In turn, i feel even smaller than before.
There were times where I would feel like this is the cruel hands of fate telling me that this is what I deserve for the relationships i had a part in ruining. While I don't want to believe it, the evidence that supports that claim is difficult to refute.
I know people coming and going are a part of life, but no one told me it would hurt this bad when everyone would leave all at once.
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Decided to take part in this activity.
First off, wonderful idea!
As for results, 22 points. Not a single A was answered in these ten questions.
I plan on bringing this up with my therapist, because I've been struggling to find the difference between being alone versus being lonely.
A lot of my friends have moved on to bigger and brighter journeys, and while i root for them and hope they all get what they're going after, I'd be lying if I said i don't envy their sense of ambition. Some of them I haven't talked to since I gratuated in 2010.
And all the new people I've met come and go, so any meaningful relationship I build with them don't last.
My family is too caught up in their own ego's to even notice most of the time, and when they do, they either downplay it or make it a joke. In turn, i feel even smaller than before.
There were times where I would feel like this is the cruel hands of fate telling me that this is what I deserve for the relationships i had a part in ruining. While I don't want to believe it, the evidence that supports that claim is difficult to refute.
I know people coming and going are a part of life, but no one told me it would hurt this bad when everyone would leave all at once.
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Gabe. n_art
I recently was invited to spend time with my birth mother youngest sister and little brother the only one to pay attention to me and actually spend time with me was the dog they only talked to each other and then all went in another room and left me alone in the living room didn’t even ask me to come with them to the other room well they did talk to me when they wanted me to buy them stuff from the store even though I don’t have a job rn or a stable income I’m going to be homeless soon but they all have a job or a stable income when I tell them no I can’t afford to buy them things they don’t invite me to hangout I don’t know why my birth mother even wants me around she never did when I was a kid she left me on my great grandmothers door when I was two months old and never really had anything to do with me even though she lived just down the street from me as I was growing up my oldest sister that our grandmother took care also got treated the same way she would hide from her when she would go to her house to visit she would be there but not answer the door and lie and say she wasn’t home maybe it’s because now she’s dying of cancer that she’s reaching out idk though
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I recently was invited to spend time with my birth mother youngest sister and little brother the only one to pay attention to me and actually spend time with me was the dog they only talked to each other and then all went in another room and left me alone in the living room didn’t even ask me to come with them to the other room well they did talk to me when they wanted me to buy them stuff from the store even though I don’t have a job rn or a stable income I’m going to be homeless soon but they all have a job or a stable income when I tell them no I can’t afford to buy them things they don’t invite me to hangout I don’t know why my birth mother even wants me around she never did when I was a kid she left me on my great grandmothers door when I was two months old and never really had anything to do with me even though she lived just down the street from me as I was growing up my oldest sister that our grandmother took care also got treated the same way she would hide from her when she would go to her house to visit she would be there but not answer the door and lie and say she wasn’t home maybe it’s because now she’s dying of cancer that she’s reaching out idk though
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Agent_Evo
I have got high loneliness in this test. I have lost my friends, time, and my school due to my own fault. Since that, I have been living with my parents for more than 1 year right now.
As I have to take responsibility for what I have done, I'm banned to go back to school for now.
The thing is this, my parents are fully supportive, but I always feel shame looking at them, almost growing that feeling to doubt.
I also know that internet connection can be my breakthrough, but looking at myself holding onto phone and computer all day long stuck inside my room, I feel like I'm a bloody disgrace to this family, while everybody around me is moving ahead.
Lastly, I am very sure that nobody will forgive me for what I have done to the victim of my fault, the one who once was my best friend. I am taking every step I need to take responsibility for what I have done, but it still feels not enough. Everybody, no exceptions, will blame me and I will always be alone for the rest of my life.
How should I live my life through
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I have got high loneliness in this test. I have lost my friends, time, and my school due to my own fault. Since that, I have been living with my parents for more than 1 year right now.
As I have to take responsibility for what I have done, I'm banned to go back to school for now.
The thing is this, my parents are fully supportive, but I always feel shame looking at them, almost growing that feeling to doubt.
I also know that internet connection can be my breakthrough, but looking at myself holding onto phone and computer all day long stuck inside my room, I feel like I'm a bloody disgrace to this family, while everybody around me is moving ahead.
Lastly, I am very sure that nobody will forgive me for what I have done to the victim of my fault, the one who once was my best friend. I am taking every step I need to take responsibility for what I have done, but it still feels not enough. Everybody, no exceptions, will blame me and I will always be alone for the rest of my life.
How should I live my life through
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Jokervision744
Welp. Seems like 3rd places as a concept could work as way to just float around bit easier.
I don't connect with anyone like that, but I can play some comments and games, in the place I may visit, but never see anything else in them. Other than good comments and games.
1. Z
2. A
3.
4.
5. A
6. Bit like A but then again. E - it's in the game, then again I feel like I'm the one who speaks, and it doesn't really matter.
We still come up with something.
7. Y and N - it's bit weird state where I am.
8. ABBA
9. Always. I don't really know how to play ball, and if I do I do bit too relaxed moves and it seems to run over some of the shared flow. Only the forced metal pipes still functioning. Almost like how I see some radio hosts being able to play around. In some sense always solo.
10. I'm sick and D
So is that 20ish or 23
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Welp. Seems like 3rd places as a concept could work as way to just float around bit easier.
I don't connect with anyone like that, but I can play some comments and games, in the place I may visit, but never see anything else in them. Other than good comments and games.
1. Z
2. A
3.
4.
5. A
6. Bit like A but then again. E - it's in the game, then again I feel like I'm the one who speaks, and it doesn't really matter.
We still come up with something.
7. Y and N - it's bit weird state where I am.
8. ABBA
9. Always. I don't really know how to play ball, and if I do I do bit too relaxed moves and it seems to run over some of the shared flow. Only the forced metal pipes still functioning. Almost like how I see some radio hosts being able to play around. In some sense always solo.
10. I'm sick and D
So is that 20ish or 23
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SeelenTaucher
WHO else Lonley in a crowd, lonley If Not Feeling understood or No one seems Sharing Same values. Infj infp enfp enfj intj. MBTI any introverts
If you look at social media or real life: How many do u see crying in streets (no kids, wearing a shirt (lonley/depressed, coz most want to act as perfect as i not need anyone but under the surface some of them not even realize they are lonley or mentally ill. So it seems no one might be interested in sharing true feelings like sadness, lonliness, anxiety, depression, coz only the ones with courage can do. So it looks all like a game to me, where most act happy, healthy, full of joy, luck, carrier and co. but truth is behind the feil. No true connection possible, coz intimacy and real connection happens if you dare to show all u are. So most people seem very shallow.
Thx to you guys for this cool quiz
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WHO else Lonley in a crowd, lonley If Not Feeling understood or No one seems Sharing Same values. Infj infp enfp enfj intj. MBTI any introverts
If you look at social media or real life: How many do u see crying in streets (no kids, wearing a shirt (lonley/depressed, coz most want to act as perfect as i not need anyone but under the surface some of them not even realize they are lonley or mentally ill. So it seems no one might be interested in sharing true feelings like sadness, lonliness, anxiety, depression, coz only the ones with courage can do. So it looks all like a game to me, where most act happy, healthy, full of joy, luck, carrier and co. but truth is behind the feil. No true connection possible, coz intimacy and real connection happens if you dare to show all u are. So most people seem very shallow.
Thx to you guys for this cool quiz
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chrisprice5835
CBBBCBCBCB=14 points, i don't have any friends i see to often, on Wednesdays i go to this place but honestly i fill like a outsider sometimes it's like i don't even exist, i can't even talk about my problems with my family im just supposed to be a happy nothing bad happened person, my dad is falling to addiction the same as his dad did, my grandparents are to old to do anything, got no siblings. Honesty sometimes i wonder if im a ghost or if im repulsive to people, i do hope to change this soon but for that i need to build myself up physically, mentally i can do a lot but physicallyI 'm pretty weak. Im hoping with what i want to do i can make friends, have comen experiences and have something to do and maby learn a new skill if i can get that MOS. If not i could maybe go for the one that sounds fun but more dangerous.
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CBBBCBCBCB=14 points, i don't have any friends i see to often, on Wednesdays i go to this place but honestly i fill like a outsider sometimes it's like i don't even exist, i can't even talk about my problems with my family im just supposed to be a happy nothing bad happened person, my dad is falling to addiction the same as his dad did, my grandparents are to old to do anything, got no siblings. Honesty sometimes i wonder if im a ghost or if im repulsive to people, i do hope to change this soon but for that i need to build myself up physically, mentally i can do a lot but physicallyI 'm pretty weak. Im hoping with what i want to do i can make friends, have comen experiences and have something to do and maby learn a new skill if i can get that MOS. If not i could maybe go for the one that sounds fun but more dangerous.
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MK-mt4kn
What if you CAN’T get to a new hobby/group/etc The issue: TRANSPORTATION.
Having none sucks.
It’s isolating.
And it goes hand in hand with unemployment, which means no money for socializingeven a bus pass.
You’re not alone in feeling lonely, is not a helpful statement.
Other people in other islands are also screaming in lonely despair.
That. doesn’t cure anything or bring us together.
Existential loneliness is its own thing and it’s very hard to live with, ESPECIALLY with compounding factors. (Like physical isolation)
Could you please consider such things in future videos When simple tips are literally (physically) inaccessible, hearing them repeatedly feels cruel. It’s not your intention but that doesn’t make it feel any better.
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What if you CAN’T get to a new hobby/group/etc The issue: TRANSPORTATION.
Having none sucks.
It’s isolating.
And it goes hand in hand with unemployment, which means no money for socializingeven a bus pass.
You’re not alone in feeling lonely, is not a helpful statement.
Other people in other islands are also screaming in lonely despair.
That. doesn’t cure anything or bring us together.
Existential loneliness is its own thing and it’s very hard to live with, ESPECIALLY with compounding factors. (Like physical isolation)
Could you please consider such things in future videos When simple tips are literally (physically) inaccessible, hearing them repeatedly feels cruel. It’s not your intention but that doesn’t make it feel any better.
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kindnesstemmie6625
I had some questions where I hedged my bets so I had a lowest and a highest score. 24 and 28.
Currently I'm suspended from my college's gaming club because I kicked the door to the room so hard that I broke the door arm, and everyone from the dean of students officer to someone I still considered a friend from the club have done nothing but condemn me and have said multiple times that the fact someone from the club had told me that he would rather let me hurt myself than talk to me has nothing to do with my outburst and I shouls have thought through my actions better and that I deserve the punishments I've received, including over 1000 dollars in repairs that I need to pay the school.
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I had some questions where I hedged my bets so I had a lowest and a highest score. 24 and 28.
Currently I'm suspended from my college's gaming club because I kicked the door to the room so hard that I broke the door arm, and everyone from the dean of students officer to someone I still considered a friend from the club have done nothing but condemn me and have said multiple times that the fact someone from the club had told me that he would rather let me hurt myself than talk to me has nothing to do with my outburst and I shouls have thought through my actions better and that I deserve the punishments I've received, including over 1000 dollars in repairs that I need to pay the school.
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jezevecmartin6122
Nawwww I got 23 lonepoints. I am very and truly happy for my one close friend and my mom but that's probably it. I really don't like people from my high school and am sad because of that. I just feel like that they don't value me enaugh and that I am a good person but whenever I speak there would be no difference if I just kept my mouth shut: ( (good video btw)
IMPORTANT EDIT: It really hepled me that I joined a dance class outside of school or idk how it works in America. There you are paired up with someone and since it's a one on one interaction you can really focus on the other person. I suggest giving it a try
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Nawwww I got 23 lonepoints. I am very and truly happy for my one close friend and my mom but that's probably it. I really don't like people from my high school and am sad because of that. I just feel like that they don't value me enaugh and that I am a good person but whenever I speak there would be no difference if I just kept my mouth shut: ( (good video btw)
IMPORTANT EDIT: It really hepled me that I joined a dance class outside of school or idk how it works in America. There you are paired up with someone and since it's a one on one interaction you can really focus on the other person. I suggest giving it a try
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EeveeWoot
17 points. I have a loving family, and I'm trying to be more social than I usually am, trying to talk about my problems, but I have one immense problem:
Every once in a while, often right in the middle of having fun with friends or family, I suddenly feel dread creeping into my chest until it feels suffocating. I suddenly just get the feeling that I'm unwanted in the situation. That I'm not adding anything. Hell, even that it would be a better situation without me. Then I excuse myself and go crying somewhere dark if I can. If I can't do that, I try to silently suffer through it until I can get out of the situation.
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17 points. I have a loving family, and I'm trying to be more social than I usually am, trying to talk about my problems, but I have one immense problem:
Every once in a while, often right in the middle of having fun with friends or family, I suddenly feel dread creeping into my chest until it feels suffocating. I suddenly just get the feeling that I'm unwanted in the situation. That I'm not adding anything. Hell, even that it would be a better situation without me. Then I excuse myself and go crying somewhere dark if I can. If I can't do that, I try to silently suffer through it until I can get out of the situation.
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beansnrice321
My problem is that being with most people makes me feel lonely. Only certain types of people seem to cut through the fog, usually curious, playful and creative types but most importantly, people who like to read.
I cannot tell you how little I care to hear from a person who themselves cannot be bothered to educate themselves, learn and grow. Knowledge doesn't have to come from a book but if you like knowledge, few things will contain more useful information than the written word.
Thus I struggle to trust people who do not like to read/learn. =(
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My problem is that being with most people makes me feel lonely. Only certain types of people seem to cut through the fog, usually curious, playful and creative types but most importantly, people who like to read.
I cannot tell you how little I care to hear from a person who themselves cannot be bothered to educate themselves, learn and grow. Knowledge doesn't have to come from a book but if you like knowledge, few things will contain more useful information than the written word.
Thus I struggle to trust people who do not like to read/learn. =(
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psych2go
I knew I will get a pretty low score, but it is worse than I expected (for me!
People seems to ignore me so much that I have to question myself like Am I invisible to them or What am I doing wrong or Am I even worthy to exist. People who I like the most are the ones who seems to hate me the most (they do that stuff a lot to me!
But, when I get to work with others, that's the best time (there are people that I hate, but it's better than being heartbroken and alone! Anyone have any ideas, opinions and suggestions on this
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I knew I will get a pretty low score, but it is worse than I expected (for me!
People seems to ignore me so much that I have to question myself like Am I invisible to them or What am I doing wrong or Am I even worthy to exist. People who I like the most are the ones who seems to hate me the most (they do that stuff a lot to me!
But, when I get to work with others, that's the best time (there are people that I hate, but it's better than being heartbroken and alone! Anyone have any ideas, opinions and suggestions on this
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Willi9091
I did the test and got a 21 score. I feel like Im very isolated, but Im not sure if its really harming me or if its my own, subtle decision. Like, I hate making plans or meeting up with my family and friends, I hate appointments in general. I just like free time where I dont have to worry about something happening in 5 hours or tomorrow.
But it does make me wonder, being at home all day, only having internet friends and only interacting with other humans at work, does it feel different to be more around with real people
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I did the test and got a 21 score. I feel like Im very isolated, but Im not sure if its really harming me or if its my own, subtle decision. Like, I hate making plans or meeting up with my family and friends, I hate appointments in general. I just like free time where I dont have to worry about something happening in 5 hours or tomorrow.
But it does make me wonder, being at home all day, only having internet friends and only interacting with other humans at work, does it feel different to be more around with real people
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arpitaghosh3198
I am alone too now after my only one and first true friend (beloved one) left me after 5 years because of the caste issues. there was huge drama in the end and I was humiliated tooo. okkkk I don't want anyone now in my life. Chi shame when people see based on color caste. and family members also fightful to destroy a true friendship. I am facing huge mental health issues can't study. can't do my work. even I can't keep my eyes up when talking to someone. Chi.
Mr. Navin Kumar Pathak
17-08-2019 to 03-08-2024
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I am alone too now after my only one and first true friend (beloved one) left me after 5 years because of the caste issues. there was huge drama in the end and I was humiliated tooo. okkkk I don't want anyone now in my life. Chi shame when people see based on color caste. and family members also fightful to destroy a true friendship. I am facing huge mental health issues can't study. can't do my work. even I can't keep my eyes up when talking to someone. Chi.
Mr. Navin Kumar Pathak
17-08-2019 to 03-08-2024
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psych2go
My score is 9 so yes, sometimes I'm lonely but that's rare, most times I'm annoyed with ppl, being alone is peaceful and better although i should be more social than this. And two of my ans are different than the options here
For Question 10. Yes, it's easy to make weekend plans and i have a few ppl for it but i don't like doing that, i prefer being alone and at home instead. By myself and about Question 4. Well, i hate it, it's really stressful. I'm always out of energy because of it, it's more Peaceful being alone.
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My score is 9 so yes, sometimes I'm lonely but that's rare, most times I'm annoyed with ppl, being alone is peaceful and better although i should be more social than this. And two of my ans are different than the options here
For Question 10. Yes, it's easy to make weekend plans and i have a few ppl for it but i don't like doing that, i prefer being alone and at home instead. By myself and about Question 4. Well, i hate it, it's really stressful. I'm always out of energy because of it, it's more Peaceful being alone.
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LassyAndy-c4e
Well. 27 points.
Though my situation is somewhat special I guess. And yes, it does affect my mental wellbeing but my parents don't want me to go to a therapist.
This loneliness won't go away since four years. and it's understandable because of my circumstances. But today it got only worse because my mum told me I'd have to break of any contact to my ibfs, the only ones I could somewhat talk to about everything.
I'm crying for seven hours, no joke, I really mean it
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Well. 27 points.
Though my situation is somewhat special I guess. And yes, it does affect my mental wellbeing but my parents don't want me to go to a therapist.
This loneliness won't go away since four years. and it's understandable because of my circumstances. But today it got only worse because my mum told me I'd have to break of any contact to my ibfs, the only ones I could somewhat talk to about everything.
I'm crying for seven hours, no joke, I really mean it
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ZipZeroYT
15 points
I have a few friends, but I’m terrified every day that I’ll lose them. It’s happened time after time after time over the years. They just stop talking to me, they move away and move on. I’m fresh out of high school, and I really don’t know how to make friends anymore, so if I lose the few I have then I’m doomed. I don’t have a great relationship with my family, I have really bad anxiety, and I’m autistic, so the odds ain’t in my favour.
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15 points
I have a few friends, but I’m terrified every day that I’ll lose them. It’s happened time after time after time over the years. They just stop talking to me, they move away and move on. I’m fresh out of high school, and I really don’t know how to make friends anymore, so if I lose the few I have then I’m doomed. I don’t have a great relationship with my family, I have really bad anxiety, and I’m autistic, so the odds ain’t in my favour.
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HatoriMoons
Got a score of eight, which honestly tracks. I have a great support system between my partner and my best friend plus I have good friends that I can count on to have meaningful conversations with! I realized long ago it takes vulnerability to find these connections, and it's such a fulfilling feeling to get the positive results I still do experience moments of loneliness, but it passes once I have a meaningful interaction with those I care about.
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Got a score of eight, which honestly tracks. I have a great support system between my partner and my best friend plus I have good friends that I can count on to have meaningful conversations with! I realized long ago it takes vulnerability to find these connections, and it's such a fulfilling feeling to get the positive results I still do experience moments of loneliness, but it passes once I have a meaningful interaction with those I care about.
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dibakhan9386
i have a different kind of loneliness like i am emotionally lonely like i talk a lot to a lot of people but no one is close to me its like i have build walls. no one can enter my inner circle even though we spend time often and no one has yet been able to break that wall. what to name this feeling is this loneliness though my score was 22 but i don't feel that coz i have people to talk to but not bout serious things. what is this Psych2Go
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i have a different kind of loneliness like i am emotionally lonely like i talk a lot to a lot of people but no one is close to me its like i have build walls. no one can enter my inner circle even though we spend time often and no one has yet been able to break that wall. what to name this feeling is this loneliness though my score was 22 but i don't feel that coz i have people to talk to but not bout serious things. what is this Psych2Go
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