Losing Friends Due to Depression (Storytelling)
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Date: 2023-08-20
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Softhetic
Something similar happened to me. my best friend of 6+ years told me something that scared me, she told me about Judgment Day and she obviously doesn't know that much about it so she said we are going to die soon. I got mad at her and it turned into a huge argument that lead to us taking a break. I was so mad at her bcuz I didn't understand why we were taking a break, I just expected her to understand my feelings and apologize for scaring me, after all, we have been besties for over 6 years, of course I would expect her to know me well enough to know my boundaries and what I'm sensitive of, things like this have happened before. But she doesn't live in the most supportive family, siblings always bugging her, parents aren't aware of her issues, she never gets any time to be alone with her thoughts. And I completely understand how that would effect your mental health. Anyway, I lashed out on her at the last second. I texted her and told her she's a bad friend and she's toxic. that was very wrong of me. I should have gave myself a few days to think about it. But anger got the best of me. She apologized that same night for taking a break and making me feel bad. exactly what I needed from her. Then she saw my rant and that was it. That was when things ended. I definitely tried to apologize and explain myself to her, I told her nothing I said was true and I even said maybe we need a longer break for real this time. But she was DONE. And for a couple weeks I have had depression. I still feel it from time to time. I have made other friends but they are not like her. we were basically the exact opposite but the same person. We fit together so well. I remember before our friendship ended she told me bye ily I'll miss u and she still watches all my Snapchat stories. I want to talk to her but I don't know if I should. I know I definitely did her wrong and I feel sooooooo bad about it. If you read all of this, thanks so much
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Something similar happened to me. my best friend of 6+ years told me something that scared me, she told me about Judgment Day and she obviously doesn't know that much about it so she said we are going to die soon. I got mad at her and it turned into a huge argument that lead to us taking a break. I was so mad at her bcuz I didn't understand why we were taking a break, I just expected her to understand my feelings and apologize for scaring me, after all, we have been besties for over 6 years, of course I would expect her to know me well enough to know my boundaries and what I'm sensitive of, things like this have happened before. But she doesn't live in the most supportive family, siblings always bugging her, parents aren't aware of her issues, she never gets any time to be alone with her thoughts. And I completely understand how that would effect your mental health. Anyway, I lashed out on her at the last second. I texted her and told her she's a bad friend and she's toxic. that was very wrong of me. I should have gave myself a few days to think about it. But anger got the best of me. She apologized that same night for taking a break and making me feel bad. exactly what I needed from her. Then she saw my rant and that was it. That was when things ended. I definitely tried to apologize and explain myself to her, I told her nothing I said was true and I even said maybe we need a longer break for real this time. But she was DONE. And for a couple weeks I have had depression. I still feel it from time to time. I have made other friends but they are not like her. we were basically the exact opposite but the same person. We fit together so well. I remember before our friendship ended she told me bye ily I'll miss u and she still watches all my Snapchat stories. I want to talk to her but I don't know if I should. I know I definitely did her wrong and I feel sooooooo bad about it. If you read all of this, thanks so much
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Paulina
That hit right in my heart. My ex left my because I have an terminal illness. He said, you're not independent enough because of your chronicall illness, and I don't like that. I want an independent girlfriend, you're not that person.
When he said that it broke my heart. He knew right from the start when we were dating and later became a couple. He promised me that he will be there for me no matter what. He lied. Like all the people have done through my life.
When he left my I promised my self that I will never let anyone in to my life again. Because in the end it will leave me heartbroken again and again, because they will betray, let me down and desert my.
Yes, I isolates my self from people voluntarily, because by doing that I can avoid being hurt again. I don't trust people anymore. I trust no one. If I let people in to my life they will sooner or later hurt me in some way. That's what people do to me. Every singel person I have met so far have been mean and hurt me in some way. Even my parents. My father left us when I was 16.
My mother often say's, What's wrong with you? You full of problems, why can't you be normal like your brother.
I know by avoiding people I avoid love and other positiv things. But if you haven't walk in my shoes, you will never know how it is to live my life, and never experienced all the trauma I been through, and still going through. You have never experienced what I have experienced in my life.
I seeked help in medical care and been through therapy. I have tried a lot of different medications. I have a 3 pages long list of medications I have tried, none of them helps.
I have tried all the therapy forms there are in the book. None of them have helped me.
Life isn't fun and games, it's a life long torment.
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That hit right in my heart. My ex left my because I have an terminal illness. He said, you're not independent enough because of your chronicall illness, and I don't like that. I want an independent girlfriend, you're not that person.
When he said that it broke my heart. He knew right from the start when we were dating and later became a couple. He promised me that he will be there for me no matter what. He lied. Like all the people have done through my life.
When he left my I promised my self that I will never let anyone in to my life again. Because in the end it will leave me heartbroken again and again, because they will betray, let me down and desert my.
Yes, I isolates my self from people voluntarily, because by doing that I can avoid being hurt again. I don't trust people anymore. I trust no one. If I let people in to my life they will sooner or later hurt me in some way. That's what people do to me. Every singel person I have met so far have been mean and hurt me in some way. Even my parents. My father left us when I was 16.
My mother often say's, What's wrong with you? You full of problems, why can't you be normal like your brother.
I know by avoiding people I avoid love and other positiv things. But if you haven't walk in my shoes, you will never know how it is to live my life, and never experienced all the trauma I been through, and still going through. You have never experienced what I have experienced in my life.
I seeked help in medical care and been through therapy. I have tried a lot of different medications. I have a 3 pages long list of medications I have tried, none of them helps.
I have tried all the therapy forms there are in the book. None of them have helped me.
Life isn't fun and games, it's a life long torment.
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DTheHAge
If you can#T believe you are not a burden (like me, then maybe this helps. After years of looking for what makes people happy, I always recognized the same pattern. You do something that does feel bad for something that you admire and when you reach it you are happy. Then comparing with different literature from psychological, over philosophical to religious books (most religious writings are a metaphorical description of life lessons, that's why they didn't fall into oblivion. In Christianity it is Take up your cross and follow Me.
Meaning even if you are a burden, you are not bad. You are the step before happiness.
But please be careful. That doesn't mean others should bear your cross. And also depression is very complex. Meaning that there are many steps to many happinesses. Take small steps. I. e. get out of bed. And then celebrate it. Even celebrating a small success should be celebrated, because it's also a big move. Another thing may be to start a breakfast. Even 1 bite is a big success. If a child says it's first word, it's an enormous success. If you did not speak to anyone for a long time, than your first word to someone is also an enormous success.
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If you can#T believe you are not a burden (like me, then maybe this helps. After years of looking for what makes people happy, I always recognized the same pattern. You do something that does feel bad for something that you admire and when you reach it you are happy. Then comparing with different literature from psychological, over philosophical to religious books (most religious writings are a metaphorical description of life lessons, that's why they didn't fall into oblivion. In Christianity it is Take up your cross and follow Me.
Meaning even if you are a burden, you are not bad. You are the step before happiness.
But please be careful. That doesn't mean others should bear your cross. And also depression is very complex. Meaning that there are many steps to many happinesses. Take small steps. I. e. get out of bed. And then celebrate it. Even celebrating a small success should be celebrated, because it's also a big move. Another thing may be to start a breakfast. Even 1 bite is a big success. If a child says it's first word, it's an enormous success. If you did not speak to anyone for a long time, than your first word to someone is also an enormous success.
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Fernanda
This story resonates sooooo much with me. It takes one person tp derail an entire persons feelings about themselves. I had a breakup that went from sad for both of us to bad. He was really inconsistent with his feelings and found reasons that did not exist to breakup instead of being honest with me claimed he was starting to love me. I was so confused but took it as a grain of salt. I felt like I was the issue and left with self esteem issues. I was never enough for him and compared myself to exes bc of how much he talked about it as in to avoid being that. Plus I was kinder than most and was jealous I got the least time. I knew his history with depression, anxiety, cheaters and a traumatic 1st relationship. He knew mu trauma in childhood. He became very mean and hypocritical once I finally expressed myself. I wanted closure and he wanted to pretend he never hurt. He called me a psychopath and betrayed me after telling him my mental health is extremely low. Ive held him as he cried and he not so much reached out me. He acts like I didnt sacrifice for his well being. I wish people were more compassionate and honest.
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This story resonates sooooo much with me. It takes one person tp derail an entire persons feelings about themselves. I had a breakup that went from sad for both of us to bad. He was really inconsistent with his feelings and found reasons that did not exist to breakup instead of being honest with me claimed he was starting to love me. I was so confused but took it as a grain of salt. I felt like I was the issue and left with self esteem issues. I was never enough for him and compared myself to exes bc of how much he talked about it as in to avoid being that. Plus I was kinder than most and was jealous I got the least time. I knew his history with depression, anxiety, cheaters and a traumatic 1st relationship. He knew mu trauma in childhood. He became very mean and hypocritical once I finally expressed myself. I wanted closure and he wanted to pretend he never hurt. He called me a psychopath and betrayed me after telling him my mental health is extremely low. Ive held him as he cried and he not so much reached out me. He acts like I didnt sacrifice for his well being. I wish people were more compassionate and honest.
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Andrea
Today I broke up with my girlfriend. To be honest we were not in a real relationship because she were and she is still not prepared for that. She has depression, anxiety and a lot to go through, so she ask me for time to collect herself first. And so I did. I waited for her a whole year, and I pretented to continue like that what was neccesary. But she isolated a lot of times, hurting myself in the proccess. I suffer a lot putting herself first, supporting her even when my mental health was struggling because I know how hard is it to her. Then, today, I couldnt continue. I hate it but I am not well, I miss her everyday and we fight a lot because she doesnt pretend to go outside her bubble in a while. And I did a lot for her instead of taking care of me. That was a bad choice.
Anyway I dont regret what I did. I still love her, I still want to be by her side as her friend, supporting her as much as I can to win the depression together. In the end, you need to be okay first if you want to help another one.
Even if it hurts.
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Today I broke up with my girlfriend. To be honest we were not in a real relationship because she were and she is still not prepared for that. She has depression, anxiety and a lot to go through, so she ask me for time to collect herself first. And so I did. I waited for her a whole year, and I pretented to continue like that what was neccesary. But she isolated a lot of times, hurting myself in the proccess. I suffer a lot putting herself first, supporting her even when my mental health was struggling because I know how hard is it to her. Then, today, I couldnt continue. I hate it but I am not well, I miss her everyday and we fight a lot because she doesnt pretend to go outside her bubble in a while. And I did a lot for her instead of taking care of me. That was a bad choice.
Anyway I dont regret what I did. I still love her, I still want to be by her side as her friend, supporting her as much as I can to win the depression together. In the end, you need to be okay first if you want to help another one.
Even if it hurts.
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RainyDevilGaming
And then there is this isolation phase where you know you are an introvert and you keep some people just for the noise, but in reality nobody knows you. Even you start not to know yourself. And when they leave you feel nothing. If you are in this position please understand that you do need people to laugh with and speak with. They can make the right difference in healing and understanding that you DO need people around you. You won't ask but they will check up on you and ask you how your day is. And they will not drain you if you strongly decide to choose the right ones. Because these days many people have their own problems, right? But there are those who not only speak about themselves. They will ask you about you too. There are still times I think that speaking to someone is just a waste of my time, but. I prove myself wrong in more and more occasions. There are great people out there. I hope you find them too.
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And then there is this isolation phase where you know you are an introvert and you keep some people just for the noise, but in reality nobody knows you. Even you start not to know yourself. And when they leave you feel nothing. If you are in this position please understand that you do need people to laugh with and speak with. They can make the right difference in healing and understanding that you DO need people around you. You won't ask but they will check up on you and ask you how your day is. And they will not drain you if you strongly decide to choose the right ones. Because these days many people have their own problems, right? But there are those who not only speak about themselves. They will ask you about you too. There are still times I think that speaking to someone is just a waste of my time, but. I prove myself wrong in more and more occasions. There are great people out there. I hope you find them too.
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luneo
felt the feeling guilt and end up isolating urself part. I desperately needed to talk out and did so in one of my chats. Immediately started feeling guilt for whining about my problems and feelings to people who had nothing to do with them, so i just quit that chat and most of others i used to hang out in. from then on i just try to hold all the shit going on in my head for myself, every time reach the overflow point, end up often not even talking - just mentioning to anyone - about how bad i've been feeling, but instead of relief it just makes me hate myself even more. It's just a vicious circle, and i'm still in it.
Oh, and i perfectly know that after writing this comment i will feel quilt again and will hate myself for not only being weak, but also whining about it. still for some reason my brain wants to continue the circle every damn time.
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felt the feeling guilt and end up isolating urself part. I desperately needed to talk out and did so in one of my chats. Immediately started feeling guilt for whining about my problems and feelings to people who had nothing to do with them, so i just quit that chat and most of others i used to hang out in. from then on i just try to hold all the shit going on in my head for myself, every time reach the overflow point, end up often not even talking - just mentioning to anyone - about how bad i've been feeling, but instead of relief it just makes me hate myself even more. It's just a vicious circle, and i'm still in it.
Oh, and i perfectly know that after writing this comment i will feel quilt again and will hate myself for not only being weak, but also whining about it. still for some reason my brain wants to continue the circle every damn time.
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Kurisuchiinu
I love the 3D animation and the message. This actually is relatable since I am distancing myself to most of my closest friends. not because I felt that I didn't deserve their friendship but I think everything was just one sided. I was always in a group of 3 and the other is always closer to the other and not to me. It felt like I was stealing someone else's best friend when we're supposed to be all besties. I was always the odd girl out so I felt like not putting an effort anymore because it felt useless. In reality, there was no one on my side. It doesn't need to be put in words. as they can be seen through actions.
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I love the 3D animation and the message. This actually is relatable since I am distancing myself to most of my closest friends. not because I felt that I didn't deserve their friendship but I think everything was just one sided. I was always in a group of 3 and the other is always closer to the other and not to me. It felt like I was stealing someone else's best friend when we're supposed to be all besties. I was always the odd girl out so I felt like not putting an effort anymore because it felt useless. In reality, there was no one on my side. It doesn't need to be put in words. as they can be seen through actions.
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Trice
My last friend finally gave up on me. Guess she got tired of me not being an active, consistent friend. I wasn't there for her. Especially on her birthday. I apologize via text and tried to explain that im dealing with alot. Im a struggling single mom dealing with long term depression, financial problems and long term grief. My mom. Who was my best friend and the only person who ever understood me, died in 2019 and im still not over it. But my friend cut me off. Shes done with me. Now i have no friends at all
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My last friend finally gave up on me. Guess she got tired of me not being an active, consistent friend. I wasn't there for her. Especially on her birthday. I apologize via text and tried to explain that im dealing with alot. Im a struggling single mom dealing with long term depression, financial problems and long term grief. My mom. Who was my best friend and the only person who ever understood me, died in 2019 and im still not over it. But my friend cut me off. Shes done with me. Now i have no friends at all
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Kajal
I'm not in relationship but I tried to reach out to my friend about my thoughts and what I'm going through but she ignored it and i was fine because she was going through her relationship stuff than it turned out she thinks I'm the one who was ignorant person didn't wanna hear her thoughts but she didn't put me in her shoes and just like that she blocked my number and we lost eachother she was my childhood friend though I never wanted make to make her feel like I'm neglecting but maybe I'm the one wrong here
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I'm not in relationship but I tried to reach out to my friend about my thoughts and what I'm going through but she ignored it and i was fine because she was going through her relationship stuff than it turned out she thinks I'm the one who was ignorant person didn't wanna hear her thoughts but she didn't put me in her shoes and just like that she blocked my number and we lost eachother she was my childhood friend though I never wanted make to make her feel like I'm neglecting but maybe I'm the one wrong here
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Crazy
stopped caring LOOOOOOONG time ago. after i've realized that nobody cares about my pain
especially because i'm a man and according to this shiy society men don't feel like that. it's all made up
but if a female feels this way? everyone will hug and support her
but not me
i'm walking alone and keeping on walking and walking forward
till i wouldn't be able to do the walking anymore and i will die
which i don't consider death as something bad at all it's just a long peaceful silence
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stopped caring LOOOOOOONG time ago. after i've realized that nobody cares about my pain
especially because i'm a man and according to this shiy society men don't feel like that. it's all made up
but if a female feels this way? everyone will hug and support her
but not me
i'm walking alone and keeping on walking and walking forward
till i wouldn't be able to do the walking anymore and i will die
which i don't consider death as something bad at all it's just a long peaceful silence
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glitzy
NGL, it's not your friend's fault. Everyone of us has our own problem. If you're depressed and you lose friends, maybe you may want to fix yourself first, because your friends maybe feel drained by your mental health plus they have their own problems. It's also difficult for them. You just don't know. So don't be mad if they need to distant themselves, coz they're protecting themselves too. And no one can help you with depression but you, let's be real about that.
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NGL, it's not your friend's fault. Everyone of us has our own problem. If you're depressed and you lose friends, maybe you may want to fix yourself first, because your friends maybe feel drained by your mental health plus they have their own problems. It's also difficult for them. You just don't know. So don't be mad if they need to distant themselves, coz they're protecting themselves too. And no one can help you with depression but you, let's be real about that.
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BekZera
My life doesn't matter. I don't. And I know there are people trying to tell me the oposite. I don't believe them. No one knows what it is to be me. So don't come with I know what you feel like. You don't. I'm gonna end it someday, wish I had the courage to do so right now. But unfortunately I still feel bad knowing I'll leave my grandma alone. One day I'll set myself free from this prison.
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My life doesn't matter. I don't. And I know there are people trying to tell me the oposite. I don't believe them. No one knows what it is to be me. So don't come with I know what you feel like. You don't. I'm gonna end it someday, wish I had the courage to do so right now. But unfortunately I still feel bad knowing I'll leave my grandma alone. One day I'll set myself free from this prison.
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Kupop0w
Same but it was the first relationship and lasted for 6 years. Willing to be held accountable as I didn't handle a lot of things like I should have at the time, and definitely took things for granted. Having everything fall apart immediately after attempting to try and do something about the depression/anxiety was the worst though.
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Same but it was the first relationship and lasted for 6 years. Willing to be held accountable as I didn't handle a lot of things like I should have at the time, and definitely took things for granted. Having everything fall apart immediately after attempting to try and do something about the depression/anxiety was the worst though.
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education
Honestly, Im dealing with someone like this. I can only put myself out there as a system of support and get ghosted and pushed away so many times. I get that folks can be depressed and experience depression but if youre gonna keep shutting those who love u out then dont get mad when they shut u out.
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Honestly, Im dealing with someone like this. I can only put myself out there as a system of support and get ghosted and pushed away so many times. I get that folks can be depressed and experience depression but if youre gonna keep shutting those who love u out then dont get mad when they shut u out.
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Kamil
I've lost faith in everything, the people that supposed to be my friends manipulated me and then stab me in a back, sometimes I have a suicidal thoughts and keep saying that I hate myself, I try to think that another day will be better but somehow I can't because I always ended up with being lonely,
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I've lost faith in everything, the people that supposed to be my friends manipulated me and then stab me in a back, sometimes I have a suicidal thoughts and keep saying that I hate myself, I try to think that another day will be better but somehow I can't because I always ended up with being lonely,
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chromaticdragon
Lost a friend I've had for 7 years just three months ago because I can't seem to stay cheery all the time. I have a lot of mental issues from my childhood. Few understand, very few. It builds on the feelings of depression and erodes your self worth when people turn their back on you.
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Lost a friend I've had for 7 years just three months ago because I can't seem to stay cheery all the time. I have a lot of mental issues from my childhood. Few understand, very few. It builds on the feelings of depression and erodes your self worth when people turn their back on you.
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JUPITERxAL82'
Gissela thank you for really only being the true friend in life. Even tho now were kinda separate because ur busy with college Im still living because of you you give me support and a reason to live thank you Gissela for being there for me I hope we can ever see each other again.
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Gissela thank you for really only being the true friend in life. Even tho now were kinda separate because ur busy with college Im still living because of you you give me support and a reason to live thank you Gissela for being there for me I hope we can ever see each other again.
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Jonhard10
I have lost friends due to my problems, bad stories, bad psychosis moments and socially awkardness. I try and be better but cant think of anything at all. Nothing even feels the same way as it did before and my face just gets mre wrinkled from this depression.
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I have lost friends due to my problems, bad stories, bad psychosis moments and socially awkardness. I try and be better but cant think of anything at all. Nothing even feels the same way as it did before and my face just gets mre wrinkled from this depression.
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STAYAKO
This is a very sad video but I hope it has taught something to me. I suffer so much of depression because of social medias and I always vent on them in bad days (not publicly. sometimes I think it's better to not have an addiction but for me it's too different!
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This is a very sad video but I hope it has taught something to me. I suffer so much of depression because of social medias and I always vent on them in bad days (not publicly. sometimes I think it's better to not have an addiction but for me it's too different!
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voidheart_midir
its been a year since all my friends left me and forgot about me and it still agonizes me, i just wish i could have that feeling of being in a group again, it is to the point i can barely even function with normal tasks throughout my day
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its been a year since all my friends left me and forgot about me and it still agonizes me, i just wish i could have that feeling of being in a group again, it is to the point i can barely even function with normal tasks throughout my day
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The
From someone who has a friend who has depression, but the friendship has seemed one sided for years. Should I drop the friendship, or am I overreacting to what I think is them being a bad friend but its just being depressed?
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From someone who has a friend who has depression, but the friendship has seemed one sided for years. Should I drop the friendship, or am I overreacting to what I think is them being a bad friend but its just being depressed?
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David
The dialogue and story telling style is unsurpassed as always! I wanted to convey this form of animation is spectacular and very entertaining, as well as very easy to watch! Keep up with these surprising innovations!
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The dialogue and story telling style is unsurpassed as always! I wanted to convey this form of animation is spectacular and very entertaining, as well as very easy to watch! Keep up with these surprising innovations!
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Patricia
I've stopped smiling. I've stopped having fun. I haven't felt happy in a long while. I just drift, numb, on autopilot. Another day down, another to go. Don't want to socialize, don't care anymore.
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I've stopped smiling. I've stopped having fun. I haven't felt happy in a long while. I just drift, numb, on autopilot. Another day down, another to go. Don't want to socialize, don't care anymore.
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Brinn
Can you talk about extreme anxiety?
I suspect that I have extreme anxiety and I know its bad to self diagnose
And I wanna make sure that I might have it before talking to a therapist
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Can you talk about extreme anxiety?
I suspect that I have extreme anxiety and I know its bad to self diagnose
And I wanna make sure that I might have it before talking to a therapist
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