How To Set Healthy Boundaries
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Date: 2023-08-20
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Aron
No. It is important to set healthy boundaries for you self. You have the right to say no to others when you feel it is impacting you mental health and well-being.
Also, as a different point of view, keep in mind that too much time focused on your self can have the opposite effect and can allow negative feelings or stressful situations you are experiencing harder to cope with. Getting out of your head and helping others, like family and friends, with problems they face can help us feel better about ourselves. Its important to check in with your self and see where you are on this spectrum and to find a good balance.
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No. It is important to set healthy boundaries for you self. You have the right to say no to others when you feel it is impacting you mental health and well-being.
Also, as a different point of view, keep in mind that too much time focused on your self can have the opposite effect and can allow negative feelings or stressful situations you are experiencing harder to cope with. Getting out of your head and helping others, like family and friends, with problems they face can help us feel better about ourselves. Its important to check in with your self and see where you are on this spectrum and to find a good balance.
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David
The hardest part to set this boundary is at your JOB. When everyone is so busy, and when your team asks you for favors. Like, constantly. Because you appear to have lots of availability and can do whatever they want. Eventually you begin to feel like somethings wrong when you constantly get the Can you do me a favor? question. And funnily enough, its the very-simple-and-not-very-difficult-to-do types of favors that 99 percent of the time when the task is asked of you - you find that THEY are more than able to do themselves!
It really shows who they truly are inside.
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The hardest part to set this boundary is at your JOB. When everyone is so busy, and when your team asks you for favors. Like, constantly. Because you appear to have lots of availability and can do whatever they want. Eventually you begin to feel like somethings wrong when you constantly get the Can you do me a favor? question. And funnily enough, its the very-simple-and-not-very-difficult-to-do types of favors that 99 percent of the time when the task is asked of you - you find that THEY are more than able to do themselves!
It really shows who they truly are inside.
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JellyCat
I am so glad I searched this up, I've always had trouble setting boundaries, especially in past relationships, but I realize that your partner should respect you and hear what you have to say. So I told them and it felt really good, they are very understanding and we get along well, so of course they had a good reaction to it. I keep on convincing myself that when I set boundaries that I'm not a good friend or something, even though I know it's not true. So thank you for all that you do psych2go, you've really helped me be a better person.
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I am so glad I searched this up, I've always had trouble setting boundaries, especially in past relationships, but I realize that your partner should respect you and hear what you have to say. So I told them and it felt really good, they are very understanding and we get along well, so of course they had a good reaction to it. I keep on convincing myself that when I set boundaries that I'm not a good friend or something, even though I know it's not true. So thank you for all that you do psych2go, you've really helped me be a better person.
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Lily
The first time I tried to set an actual boundary with my mom, which was when she was basically demanding my password for my phone and iPad and I said no, I want privacy, she responded with you don't need privacy- you're 13 basically meaning I was 'too young' for privacy. So that plus other instances with multiple other people has definitely not helped. Even without that, I've always been a major people-pleaser.
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The first time I tried to set an actual boundary with my mom, which was when she was basically demanding my password for my phone and iPad and I said no, I want privacy, she responded with you don't need privacy- you're 13 basically meaning I was 'too young' for privacy. So that plus other instances with multiple other people has definitely not helped. Even without that, I've always been a major people-pleaser.
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Lizzie
There's nothing wrong with friends and relationships but learning to be happy on your own too and doing things without friends, can be liberating! We need to learn to be happy with ourselves first and in our own company not just with others too! Sometimes said friends or relationships can bring loads of heartache, who wants that! Honestly, if you find the right people that's a gift in itself!
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There's nothing wrong with friends and relationships but learning to be happy on your own too and doing things without friends, can be liberating! We need to learn to be happy with ourselves first and in our own company not just with others too! Sometimes said friends or relationships can bring loads of heartache, who wants that! Honestly, if you find the right people that's a gift in itself!
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Nana
i am upset that my partner start blackmailing and threatning me when i said NO. i am scared of him. once i compromised for fear, i realized he totally forgot, literally forgot. in his memory i said YES with full agreement from the begininig. is this some mental sick?
i feel also he treat me as his extension, no boudaries. then he cannot bear i am a different person.
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i am upset that my partner start blackmailing and threatning me when i said NO. i am scared of him. once i compromised for fear, i realized he totally forgot, literally forgot. in his memory i said YES with full agreement from the begininig. is this some mental sick?
i feel also he treat me as his extension, no boudaries. then he cannot bear i am a different person.
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DMTdreamz
In 1947, a couple of aliens flew to Earth in a silver saucer-shaped craft. After closely observing mankind, they shit themselves laughing and crashed into the desert in Roswell, New Mexico. The US Army found the shit covered craft, conducted an investigation, deducted what happened and out of embarressment told the public it was a weather balloon.
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In 1947, a couple of aliens flew to Earth in a silver saucer-shaped craft. After closely observing mankind, they shit themselves laughing and crashed into the desert in Roswell, New Mexico. The US Army found the shit covered craft, conducted an investigation, deducted what happened and out of embarressment told the public it was a weather balloon.
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ranc1
believe in your skills and efficacy
People who have issue with saying no also have issues with believing in own's skills and efficacy due to toxic shame, conditioning and Complex trauma - due to exposure to narcissistic abuse.
Also in toxic ambient saying no means punishment if not blunt violence.
I see solution in trickery
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believe in your skills and efficacy
People who have issue with saying no also have issues with believing in own's skills and efficacy due to toxic shame, conditioning and Complex trauma - due to exposure to narcissistic abuse.
Also in toxic ambient saying no means punishment if not blunt violence.
I see solution in trickery
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Khalilah
This was one of the HARDEST lessons I had to learn but after getting stepped all over so many times you naturally begin to care more about your feelings than people pleasing. Its not easy but you have to love yourself enough to set healthy boundaries and no is a big part of that
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This was one of the HARDEST lessons I had to learn but after getting stepped all over so many times you naturally begin to care more about your feelings than people pleasing. Its not easy but you have to love yourself enough to set healthy boundaries and no is a big part of that
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Solo
This Will Open Your Mind
Twenty years from now, you will be more disappointed by the things that you didnt do than by the ones you did do. So, throw off the bowlines, sail away from the safe harbor, catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore, Dream, Discover.
I LOVE YOU
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This Will Open Your Mind
Twenty years from now, you will be more disappointed by the things that you didnt do than by the ones you did do. So, throw off the bowlines, sail away from the safe harbor, catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore, Dream, Discover.
I LOVE YOU
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Poly
Been saying 'no' to a lot of people and you'd be surprised by how personally many take it. I'm too burnt-out to even tolerate anything else that depletes my limited mental, emotional and physical energy stores. I'm finding more peace but at the cost of appearing indifferent
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Been saying 'no' to a lot of people and you'd be surprised by how personally many take it. I'm too burnt-out to even tolerate anything else that depletes my limited mental, emotional and physical energy stores. I'm finding more peace but at the cost of appearing indifferent
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Wolfbear7
I dont need a heart symbol, I need to practice saying No because I can relate to many things. Somehow just saying No here is saying you are fine with going along to get an emoji reward. I appreciate your advice often and growth is a process I must continue forever.
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I dont need a heart symbol, I need to practice saying No because I can relate to many things. Somehow just saying No here is saying you are fine with going along to get an emoji reward. I appreciate your advice often and growth is a process I must continue forever.
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Aki
So Im fourteen I really want to set a boundaries with my dad or with anyone in particular but Im worry about how theyll get mad at me for saying no, will that be good since sometimes I dont feel going anywhere or I didnt like a joke my friends or my parent say
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So Im fourteen I really want to set a boundaries with my dad or with anyone in particular but Im worry about how theyll get mad at me for saying no, will that be good since sometimes I dont feel going anywhere or I didnt like a joke my friends or my parent say
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Mania_FR
NO honestly, I should really start using this. I've always tried to be polite and make others happy, whilst everyone else is usually incredibly rude to me, doesn't give a jack about me and drags me into things I don't want to be in such as Arguements
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NO honestly, I should really start using this. I've always tried to be polite and make others happy, whilst everyone else is usually incredibly rude to me, doesn't give a jack about me and drags me into things I don't want to be in such as Arguements
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Black
I and some friends still struggle to set the boundaries. Sometimes I don't know what is a favor and what is a moral responsibility, like, you cannot miss an appointment for whatever reason, can you?
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I and some friends still struggle to set the boundaries. Sometimes I don't know what is a favor and what is a moral responsibility, like, you cannot miss an appointment for whatever reason, can you?
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YepIt'sSagie
my ex broke up with me last night cause I said No when he asked to see my DMs with someone else I like (mind you both me and my ex are poly)
I'm better without my ex anyways
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my ex broke up with me last night cause I said No when he asked to see my DMs with someone else I like (mind you both me and my ex are poly)
I'm better without my ex anyways
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Darrian
I have a problem where I care too much about everyone. It becomes an even bigger problem where I care about others when they don't care about me at all. I'm in a all time struggle.
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I have a problem where I care too much about everyone. It becomes an even bigger problem where I care about others when they don't care about me at all. I'm in a all time struggle.
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Kathrina
The fact you guys do these beautiful short digestible pieces of work so often and help so many understand themselves (like me) is so important and amazing! BOOOST: )
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The fact you guys do these beautiful short digestible pieces of work so often and help so many understand themselves (like me) is so important and amazing! BOOOST: )
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Bizzy
Saying no does not make you a bad person. You have to put your self first if someone takes it personal because you said no that is on them even a family member.
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Saying no does not make you a bad person. You have to put your self first if someone takes it personal because you said no that is on them even a family member.
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Just_Joy
Im scared to say no because its just so rude to say so I end up saying yes because I dont want the person to feel bad or anything so yea
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Im scared to say no because its just so rude to say so I end up saying yes because I dont want the person to feel bad or anything so yea
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PresidentToad
NO
Generally Im quite good at saying no, but in certain situations with certain people I just cant. This video helped though.
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NO
Generally Im quite good at saying no, but in certain situations with certain people I just cant. This video helped though.
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zyx.
tried saying no to my mother once
she yelled at me and had a _loooooong_ talk about my past mistakes that i wanted to forget
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tried saying no to my mother once
she yelled at me and had a _loooooong_ talk about my past mistakes that i wanted to forget
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Mica
This video is very Important to me, since I struggle with saying no to others! Thanks for all of the advice
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This video is very Important to me, since I struggle with saying no to others! Thanks for all of the advice
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