6 Signs You’re in a Toxic Friend Group
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I only hung around them when my best friend either wasn't in the class or was absent because I really had nobody else.
He stopped in High School, then made a comment about my hairline one day, to which I told him to shut the f up. He never bothered me again.
I realize now that friend group was toxic. Middle School were the worst three years.
Date: 2024-03-13
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pastelbunnies3126
Well, I had to deal with literally every single one of these with multiple people online. Like easily dozens over the years.
It led to constant stress, low self esteem and even slf harm and thoughts of death.
I had to deal with it for 5 years online and it's gotten to the point where I deactivated my accounts. IDC if I got over 1000 watchers and followers, that means NOTHING to me if I have to put up with nothing but abuse 24/7. Also I have been having cases of art theft and hate posts and hate art made for me, some of them being super intense ones by ex friends who had openly gaslighted me in public posts in the past.
I currently have no human friends aside from my parents and sister. Tbh, I am struggling with intense trauma because of it.
I still draw and write, I am passionate about my ideas but am too scared to post knowing some parasite is going to latch onto me and destroy my already crumbled up pile of dust of a heart.
I am in intense pain over this but this video helped me realize that I'm not crazy and that all those friendships were truly toxic and it wasn't just me overreacting or being too sensitive
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Well, I had to deal with literally every single one of these with multiple people online. Like easily dozens over the years.
It led to constant stress, low self esteem and even slf harm and thoughts of death.
I had to deal with it for 5 years online and it's gotten to the point where I deactivated my accounts. IDC if I got over 1000 watchers and followers, that means NOTHING to me if I have to put up with nothing but abuse 24/7. Also I have been having cases of art theft and hate posts and hate art made for me, some of them being super intense ones by ex friends who had openly gaslighted me in public posts in the past.
I currently have no human friends aside from my parents and sister. Tbh, I am struggling with intense trauma because of it.
I still draw and write, I am passionate about my ideas but am too scared to post knowing some parasite is going to latch onto me and destroy my already crumbled up pile of dust of a heart.
I am in intense pain over this but this video helped me realize that I'm not crazy and that all those friendships were truly toxic and it wasn't just me overreacting or being too sensitive
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psych2go
I've read recently a book Awkward by Ty Tashiro
PhD in psychology, and he explained what is mean LIKABILITY VS. POPULARITY.
Developmental psychologists define likability byhow much others perceive sameone to be a cooperative and pleasant person. They define popularity by how much others perceive sameone to be influential or powerful. People who are motivated by popularity tend to focus on SHORT-TERM social gains, but these grabs for power come at the cost of burning social capital. They are more likely to use tactics that erode social capital such as manipulation, gossip, and degrading others personal gain.
LIKABLE PEOPLE SRE DRIVEN BY 3 CORE VALUES:
BE FAIR
BE KIND
BE LOYAL
But no everyone is invested in being likable. Some people are driven by power and greed.
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I've read recently a book Awkward by Ty Tashiro
PhD in psychology, and he explained what is mean LIKABILITY VS. POPULARITY.
Developmental psychologists define likability byhow much others perceive sameone to be a cooperative and pleasant person. They define popularity by how much others perceive sameone to be influential or powerful. People who are motivated by popularity tend to focus on SHORT-TERM social gains, but these grabs for power come at the cost of burning social capital. They are more likely to use tactics that erode social capital such as manipulation, gossip, and degrading others personal gain.
LIKABLE PEOPLE SRE DRIVEN BY 3 CORE VALUES:
BE FAIR
BE KIND
BE LOYAL
But no everyone is invested in being likable. Some people are driven by power and greed.
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Bonk274
Am I toxic or was it my ex
We were realy close (long distance tho) she always was like I wanna talk bla bla and then played with other guys instead of me. She never said yes but let. e finish something first and when I asked if I could join her and those friends she was like its boring so theres no need she never wanted me to meet her other close friends and this thing kinda traumatized me. As some point I even told her to atop going to parties every week and getting new guy friends she doesnt even talk about to me and I looked out to not talk to any other females except her close friends, her and my mom. after that the relationship ended and I blocked her cause I realised toxicity. Am I the toxic one here She always blamed it on me.
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Am I toxic or was it my ex
We were realy close (long distance tho) she always was like I wanna talk bla bla and then played with other guys instead of me. She never said yes but let. e finish something first and when I asked if I could join her and those friends she was like its boring so theres no need she never wanted me to meet her other close friends and this thing kinda traumatized me. As some point I even told her to atop going to parties every week and getting new guy friends she doesnt even talk about to me and I looked out to not talk to any other females except her close friends, her and my mom. after that the relationship ended and I blocked her cause I realised toxicity. Am I the toxic one here She always blamed it on me.
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Cantseemuch
I was in a friend group that ticked all those boxes in high school. They were always talking about the others (not always) behind their backs and it was a competition for who knows what. I liked having people around, organizing game night and so on so I was in denial for quite some time. I finally drew the line when one girl started to doodle very inappropriate cartoons about me and laughed with another girl about me asking to stop.
Two other friends of mine left that group as well and were told that they had changed so much since leaving, which led to the best retort I ever witnessed: yes, for the better!
I wouldn’t have been able to leave the group if not for some other friends who had nothing to do with that group.
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I was in a friend group that ticked all those boxes in high school. They were always talking about the others (not always) behind their backs and it was a competition for who knows what. I liked having people around, organizing game night and so on so I was in denial for quite some time. I finally drew the line when one girl started to doodle very inappropriate cartoons about me and laughed with another girl about me asking to stop.
Two other friends of mine left that group as well and were told that they had changed so much since leaving, which led to the best retort I ever witnessed: yes, for the better!
I wouldn’t have been able to leave the group if not for some other friends who had nothing to do with that group.
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TakaTheTherian
Well my friend group started last year in February and well over time they have slowly started to act more like there age while I act younger then what I actually am. They also invade my personal space AND THE AMOUNT OF TIMES THEY HAVE BEEN TOLD (not from me by others) NOT TO INVADE ANYONES PERSONAL SPACE still they don’t listen like for example they will come up to me and hug my without even asking first and well I would prefer just a simple hi or a handshake rather then a hug.
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Well my friend group started last year in February and well over time they have slowly started to act more like there age while I act younger then what I actually am. They also invade my personal space AND THE AMOUNT OF TIMES THEY HAVE BEEN TOLD (not from me by others) NOT TO INVADE ANYONES PERSONAL SPACE still they don’t listen like for example they will come up to me and hug my without even asking first and well I would prefer just a simple hi or a handshake rather then a hug.
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studyonly9994
I don’t know whether I had these signs or not! But it was definitely worse than this! They used to go to competitions together and at the end ask oh why you didn’t come Do everything together and just come to me only for making a group for subject activities! It was worse! I still can’t heal from it! It hurts everytime I think about it! I passed my high school last year and it still haunts!
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I don’t know whether I had these signs or not! But it was definitely worse than this! They used to go to competitions together and at the end ask oh why you didn’t come Do everything together and just come to me only for making a group for subject activities! It was worse! I still can’t heal from it! It hurts everytime I think about it! I passed my high school last year and it still haunts!
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psych2go
Alot of times i feel as though i want to be far far away from people because i don't really trust anyone, so many people are toxic, i just want to be far away, but there are other times i want to be far away from people because, i feel like the toxic 1, although could be that maybe me and the people around me are all toxic, and well basically recipe for disaster atleast eventually.
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Alot of times i feel as though i want to be far far away from people because i don't really trust anyone, so many people are toxic, i just want to be far away, but there are other times i want to be far away from people because, i feel like the toxic 1, although could be that maybe me and the people around me are all toxic, and well basically recipe for disaster atleast eventually.
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rileyanthony
Is it the same way with dealing with a parent that still acts like a five year old when getting upset gets told it’s really sad that their redneck kind Is only good a making processed meat and vegetables and then die in hole in ground is that taking it to far or is that being very honest with your parent or guardian
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Is it the same way with dealing with a parent that still acts like a five year old when getting upset gets told it’s really sad that their redneck kind Is only good a making processed meat and vegetables and then die in hole in ground is that taking it to far or is that being very honest with your parent or guardian
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theycallme_jena
I have a friend who often skips classes. Sometimes, she informs me that she will be attending a class but ultimately doesn't show up. I am now contemplating asking her why she is absent and if she wants to skip classes, she can just let me know. I feel like my emotions are being toyed with by her actions.
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I have a friend who often skips classes. Sometimes, she informs me that she will be attending a class but ultimately doesn't show up. I am now contemplating asking her why she is absent and if she wants to skip classes, she can just let me know. I feel like my emotions are being toyed with by her actions.
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jwanie366
#6 really affected me long-term. In high school, I didn't respect the boundaries of some of my friends; they told me that they wanted to spend time with other friends too. As a result, I've struggled to form close bonds with others as a adult because I fear the same thing happening again
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#6 really affected me long-term. In high school, I didn't respect the boundaries of some of my friends; they told me that they wanted to spend time with other friends too. As a result, I've struggled to form close bonds with others as a adult because I fear the same thing happening again
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lyeondoe4990
I dont think any of these fit perfectly with me- but i think being ignored, pushed to the side and talked over would count as toxic to me. Especially cause i think they're taking advantage of the fact i can't speak loudly and dont like conflict, so i just sit back feeling like shit
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I dont think any of these fit perfectly with me- but i think being ignored, pushed to the side and talked over would count as toxic to me. Especially cause i think they're taking advantage of the fact i can't speak loudly and dont like conflict, so i just sit back feeling like shit
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monachanta499
It is true that your best friend can easily become your worst enemy in the event that things do not work out between you two. All it takes is for things to get out of hand, and eventually, you and them forget the fun things that you did in the past and ignore each other forever.
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It is true that your best friend can easily become your worst enemy in the event that things do not work out between you two. All it takes is for things to get out of hand, and eventually, you and them forget the fun things that you did in the past and ignore each other forever.
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Sports590
Everything revolves around Benefits
If a Person isn't Beneficial to you than that person is Negative, otherwise that person is Positive.
So, if someone does Negativity against you, it's their Insecurity not your Insecurity
Always Remember, Negativity = Insecurity
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Everything revolves around Benefits
If a Person isn't Beneficial to you than that person is Negative, otherwise that person is Positive.
So, if someone does Negativity against you, it's their Insecurity not your Insecurity
Always Remember, Negativity = Insecurity
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hlewis5217
It's tragic how one person can end a group of friendship. I had a toxic girl in my friend group unfortunately she'd been backstabbing and talking shit about pretty much EVERYTHING. Glad I cut her off from my life, my other friends (who are now my exes) also did the same.
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It's tragic how one person can end a group of friendship. I had a toxic girl in my friend group unfortunately she'd been backstabbing and talking shit about pretty much EVERYTHING. Glad I cut her off from my life, my other friends (who are now my exes) also did the same.
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marianatomo2348
It's just me or I see Dead Plate reference
Anyway, such a good video! My friend have a toxic relantionship but I never actually realized it before that video, thank you.
(Also, I am brazilian. I learning how to write in english, sorry about any text mistake)
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It's just me or I see Dead Plate reference
Anyway, such a good video! My friend have a toxic relantionship but I never actually realized it before that video, thank you.
(Also, I am brazilian. I learning how to write in english, sorry about any text mistake)
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moustachmann1169
Ha ha yes
Friends hung out without me at a park 3 min walk away from my house, then came to my house to ask for a ride back home and said they just had to meet up together to give some stuff back when they live (the closest) 10 min away and I was baffled
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Ha ha yes
Friends hung out without me at a park 3 min walk away from my house, then came to my house to ask for a ride back home and said they just had to meet up together to give some stuff back when they live (the closest) 10 min away and I was baffled
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drunkenwench
I left a toxic friend group in my 20s. None of them want to speak to me anymore. I made new friends in my 30s and now nearly 20 years later, I’m still good friends with them. They are my rock. Leaving the toxic friend group was the best thing I did for myself.
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I left a toxic friend group in my 20s. None of them want to speak to me anymore. I made new friends in my 30s and now nearly 20 years later, I’m still good friends with them. They are my rock. Leaving the toxic friend group was the best thing I did for myself.
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lwpdhofgh
This was like every friend group I had when I was a kid. If I felt ignored I just assumed it was because I wasn’t cool or popular enough. It made me want to compete with my peers, until they started giving me more attention and compliments.
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This was like every friend group I had when I was a kid. If I felt ignored I just assumed it was because I wasn’t cool or popular enough. It made me want to compete with my peers, until they started giving me more attention and compliments.
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devenmellor
I was really toxic with my crush. I didn't respect boundaries and would over text her and question everything. The important thing is that I'm self aware/highly introspective and learned from it. It still haunts me though to an extent.
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I was really toxic with my crush. I didn't respect boundaries and would over text her and question everything. The important thing is that I'm self aware/highly introspective and learned from it. It still haunts me though to an extent.
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