Signs You Are Escaping Reality to Avoid Life
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1. I watch hate content on what I've true grudges on and often curse the people inside my house but I think it's kinda powerful. I've certain experiences.
2. Physical disconnection is something very familiar to me.
3. I believe this would help me but contrary to this, I try my best to sleep. I can't be sure whether it's because of my antipsychotics.
4. I do really risky things but doubt whether it's a response whatever hating my true self. I really conquer fulfilment of my grudges.
5. I'm procrastinating. In fact I never used to do them at all as my parents do them. Sometimes, I only have to study but I get lost in harmful unpleasant(sometimes pleasant) daydreams.
6. I'm a loner. I have fear of making friends and many people think that I'm dangerous and disgusting. I often don't find them talking to me. The truth is, I'm not anyone like that but I'm stigmatized because of my lack of faith and difference in interests. Although, is that a good reason for others to isolate me
Date: 2024-02-22
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Escapism
Escapism is a mental diversion from unpleasant aspects of daily life. It can be defined as:
The tendency to distract oneself from real-life problems
Shutting meanings out of one's mind
Freeing oneself from self-awareness for a while
The repeated use of an activity or behavior to distract the mind from reality or unpleasant emotions
The tendency to escape from the real world to the safety and comfort of a fantasy world
Escapism can be used to occupy one's self away from persistent feelings of depression or general sadness. It may relate to life's regular challenges, traumatic events, or situations.
Escapism can also refer to any of several related inherited disorders (all dominant traits) that cause abnormalities of the skull, face, hands, and feet.
We will even do some spiritual bypassing.
Spiritual bypassing is the use of spiritual ideas and practices to avoid dealing with unresolved emotions, psychological wounds, and developmental tasks.
The term was introduced in the mid-1980s by John Welwood, a Buddhist teacher and psychotherapist. Spiritual bypassing can be a defensive psychological posture that prioritizes spiritual beliefs over psychological needs.
Some examples of spiritual bypassing include:
Avoiding painful feelings
Sidestepping emotional wounds
Avoiding difficulties in relating to others
Avoiding anger and fear
Seeking to feel enlightened, superior, or more awakened in spiritual development
Being hard on oneself for falling short of spiritual ideals
Viewing being of benefit to others as a duty.
People will do anything to avoid facing their own souls.
Without an identity, the ego lacks any other reason to exist. In order to survive, the ego will do anything. The ego will conduct its own shadow activities. This involves playing the role of the saboteur when necessary.
The saboteur is an ego sub-personality that makes choices that result in behaviors contrary to our intentions because we got negative external feedback. The purpose of the saboteur is to bring us back home to the truth of who we are.
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Escapism
Escapism is a mental diversion from unpleasant aspects of daily life. It can be defined as:
The tendency to distract oneself from real-life problems
Shutting meanings out of one's mind
Freeing oneself from self-awareness for a while
The repeated use of an activity or behavior to distract the mind from reality or unpleasant emotions
The tendency to escape from the real world to the safety and comfort of a fantasy world
Escapism can be used to occupy one's self away from persistent feelings of depression or general sadness. It may relate to life's regular challenges, traumatic events, or situations.
Escapism can also refer to any of several related inherited disorders (all dominant traits) that cause abnormalities of the skull, face, hands, and feet.
We will even do some spiritual bypassing.
Spiritual bypassing is the use of spiritual ideas and practices to avoid dealing with unresolved emotions, psychological wounds, and developmental tasks.
The term was introduced in the mid-1980s by John Welwood, a Buddhist teacher and psychotherapist. Spiritual bypassing can be a defensive psychological posture that prioritizes spiritual beliefs over psychological needs.
Some examples of spiritual bypassing include:
Avoiding painful feelings
Sidestepping emotional wounds
Avoiding difficulties in relating to others
Avoiding anger and fear
Seeking to feel enlightened, superior, or more awakened in spiritual development
Being hard on oneself for falling short of spiritual ideals
Viewing being of benefit to others as a duty.
People will do anything to avoid facing their own souls.
Without an identity, the ego lacks any other reason to exist. In order to survive, the ego will do anything. The ego will conduct its own shadow activities. This involves playing the role of the saboteur when necessary.
The saboteur is an ego sub-personality that makes choices that result in behaviors contrary to our intentions because we got negative external feedback. The purpose of the saboteur is to bring us back home to the truth of who we are.
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hgyn. 7902
i can relate to those signs, feeling ashamed of telling but i also binge eating and watching movies so that i can feel various emotions from those movies. In reality, i often feel lost or empty or bland so i reach out to movies to fulfill my feelings. But as i've grown older, for now, i don't wanna escape my real situation anymore. I wanna take responsibility for myself and face any feeling that comes to me. Actually, escaping is just a temporary strategy, even now i still don't know how to face and figure out the way to quit that routine, but i'm tryna be more aware of moments and feelings i have and not avoid any hard feeling. Bcz i've been binge watching movies till i was watching but cannot feel anything or u can say i cannot relate or feel the feelings of characters, and i don't think that's a good idea if i keep living aimlessly. Bcz i genuinely understand, appreciate and love myself, so i wanna at least quit the routine and try to face my real self and life. I hope i can receive some kind words or piece of advice to improve my situation for the better. If that's so, I rly appreciate your helps
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i can relate to those signs, feeling ashamed of telling but i also binge eating and watching movies so that i can feel various emotions from those movies. In reality, i often feel lost or empty or bland so i reach out to movies to fulfill my feelings. But as i've grown older, for now, i don't wanna escape my real situation anymore. I wanna take responsibility for myself and face any feeling that comes to me. Actually, escaping is just a temporary strategy, even now i still don't know how to face and figure out the way to quit that routine, but i'm tryna be more aware of moments and feelings i have and not avoid any hard feeling. Bcz i've been binge watching movies till i was watching but cannot feel anything or u can say i cannot relate or feel the feelings of characters, and i don't think that's a good idea if i keep living aimlessly. Bcz i genuinely understand, appreciate and love myself, so i wanna at least quit the routine and try to face my real self and life. I hope i can receive some kind words or piece of advice to improve my situation for the better. If that's so, I rly appreciate your helps
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greyghost8763
I often turn to my imagination to escape reality. Now to the point I have found reality lacking what I long for, and making mundane things feel impossible to get through. I've found what I do is called Maldaptive daydreaming. It happens even if I don't want it to now. My brain goes into auto-pilot, and my mind goes off on an adventure any time I'm doing anything mundane. It's lead me to a very bad mental state, and I often feel like I'm failing on having a productive, and meaningful life. It's made me cut off friends since they don't act like the image I make up in my mind of what a friend should be. I learn maldaptive day dreaming is usually rooted in trauma, and neglect. Mine stems from both in my youth, and my obsession with fantasy worlds as a kid. I would often play pretend, or just day dream as a kid, and it was found normal. Now as a young adult my day dreaming is unhealthy mentally, and physically.
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I often turn to my imagination to escape reality. Now to the point I have found reality lacking what I long for, and making mundane things feel impossible to get through. I've found what I do is called Maldaptive daydreaming. It happens even if I don't want it to now. My brain goes into auto-pilot, and my mind goes off on an adventure any time I'm doing anything mundane. It's lead me to a very bad mental state, and I often feel like I'm failing on having a productive, and meaningful life. It's made me cut off friends since they don't act like the image I make up in my mind of what a friend should be. I learn maldaptive day dreaming is usually rooted in trauma, and neglect. Mine stems from both in my youth, and my obsession with fantasy worlds as a kid. I would often play pretend, or just day dream as a kid, and it was found normal. Now as a young adult my day dreaming is unhealthy mentally, and physically.
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reddragonlegacy
I'm removing myself from conflict with others. It's sort of the implosion of multiple one sided friendships. They claimed they cared, but when I needed them, even came out and said I could really use my friends and they not gonna happen, you know it's the end of that friendship. They said they cared, but they never talked to me. However, they all loved talking ABOUT me with my other friends. Not to mention the constant lies and manipulations. They made me feel like I'm unlovable, and made me feel like a subhuman piece of trash. They wanted me to consider how they felt, but not once did they consider mine. Shit, I'm getting carried away. I don't even know if this comment belongs here, but I've gone too far to just stop/delete it.
Must say the self imposed isolation hits home, but I don't really have many friends I can talk to. They all abandoned me when I needed them.
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I'm removing myself from conflict with others. It's sort of the implosion of multiple one sided friendships. They claimed they cared, but when I needed them, even came out and said I could really use my friends and they not gonna happen, you know it's the end of that friendship. They said they cared, but they never talked to me. However, they all loved talking ABOUT me with my other friends. Not to mention the constant lies and manipulations. They made me feel like I'm unlovable, and made me feel like a subhuman piece of trash. They wanted me to consider how they felt, but not once did they consider mine. Shit, I'm getting carried away. I don't even know if this comment belongs here, but I've gone too far to just stop/delete it.
Must say the self imposed isolation hits home, but I don't really have many friends I can talk to. They all abandoned me when I needed them.
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larakr9
I haven't lived a day of my life in realityat least not the one everyone else is living in. Escapism has been my defence since my earliest memories. When real life tries to intrude, it's bleak, and mundane, and tremendously disappointing. My perception of how things should be is never met and in effect makes me withdraw more. The more you escape, the impossibly higher standards you inadvertently set for everything around you. As an adult, I think back on every attempt to connect with life and how futile it has proven to beI never made friends despite genuinely trying, never forged relationships, or succeeded in 'real life' accomplishments. I'm still escaping, even in watching this video, from the tiresome, predictable existence masked as real lifeand I haven't a clue how to find fulfilment in it.
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I haven't lived a day of my life in realityat least not the one everyone else is living in. Escapism has been my defence since my earliest memories. When real life tries to intrude, it's bleak, and mundane, and tremendously disappointing. My perception of how things should be is never met and in effect makes me withdraw more. The more you escape, the impossibly higher standards you inadvertently set for everything around you. As an adult, I think back on every attempt to connect with life and how futile it has proven to beI never made friends despite genuinely trying, never forged relationships, or succeeded in 'real life' accomplishments. I'm still escaping, even in watching this video, from the tiresome, predictable existence masked as real lifeand I haven't a clue how to find fulfilment in it.
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LoneWindtheWolf
at this point i don't feel ashamed of saying i've been doing most of these for years now (for almost a decade even. playing games, watching vtubers and avoiding the news to avoid the real world. avoiding family, friends and social gatherings because i'm tired of pretending i'm fine socializing with people who i can't relate to anymore (only doing it when forced to, which is most of the time. avoiding college work and studying because i don't even have the energy or motivation to do so for a career i have no interest in at this point. i feel caged, like a slave of this grim, dark world at this point, and the only way i can escape from it is by avoiding reality (and even then, i can't avoid it forever.
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at this point i don't feel ashamed of saying i've been doing most of these for years now (for almost a decade even. playing games, watching vtubers and avoiding the news to avoid the real world. avoiding family, friends and social gatherings because i'm tired of pretending i'm fine socializing with people who i can't relate to anymore (only doing it when forced to, which is most of the time. avoiding college work and studying because i don't even have the energy or motivation to do so for a career i have no interest in at this point. i feel caged, like a slave of this grim, dark world at this point, and the only way i can escape from it is by avoiding reality (and even then, i can't avoid it forever.
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JustMe-mg4pp
I've started a comfort character journal a while ago, it's basically a bullet journal but I print 3-4 pictures of one of my Comfort Characters for one page and then I decorate the page with those pictures, decorative papers, washi tape, stickers and more. Then I leave a little space to glue a pice of lined paper onto the page to write down their name and some of their traits which inspire me. I also write down some quotes of them all over the page, it's like an art journal.
Recently I kind of lose myself in it, though, always journaling to distract myself from my problems I don't want to confront, distracting myself from them. It's comforting but unsettling at the same time.
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I've started a comfort character journal a while ago, it's basically a bullet journal but I print 3-4 pictures of one of my Comfort Characters for one page and then I decorate the page with those pictures, decorative papers, washi tape, stickers and more. Then I leave a little space to glue a pice of lined paper onto the page to write down their name and some of their traits which inspire me. I also write down some quotes of them all over the page, it's like an art journal.
Recently I kind of lose myself in it, though, always journaling to distract myself from my problems I don't want to confront, distracting myself from them. It's comforting but unsettling at the same time.
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cookiecat9015
Everything scares me, my friends are always 'too busy' to hang out, I don't enjoy socializing, I only ever talk to my mom, everyday life is boring asf, so I mostly spend my free time daydreaming, watching tv and gaming. Idk what else I should do. I feel like I'm trapped by my fears and my screens sometimes and I feel like I should be doing other things, but I just don't know how. People have given me countless of tips, like 'just make some new friends', but I just don't want to.
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Everything scares me, my friends are always 'too busy' to hang out, I don't enjoy socializing, I only ever talk to my mom, everyday life is boring asf, so I mostly spend my free time daydreaming, watching tv and gaming. Idk what else I should do. I feel like I'm trapped by my fears and my screens sometimes and I feel like I should be doing other things, but I just don't know how. People have given me countless of tips, like 'just make some new friends', but I just don't want to.
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rikitikitavatiki
Oh, I'm intentionally escaping from reality. When reality is straight out of Pink Floyd, can you really blame me You run and you run to catch up with the sun but it's sinking / Racing around to come up behind you again / The sun is the same in a relative way, but you're older / Shorter of breath and one day closer to death.
I don't know. Maybe happiness isn't for everybody. What should I do, cry about it Life goes on, and I must go with it, one way or another.
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Oh, I'm intentionally escaping from reality. When reality is straight out of Pink Floyd, can you really blame me You run and you run to catch up with the sun but it's sinking / Racing around to come up behind you again / The sun is the same in a relative way, but you're older / Shorter of breath and one day closer to death.
I don't know. Maybe happiness isn't for everybody. What should I do, cry about it Life goes on, and I must go with it, one way or another.
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Uriel238
I'm not a hero. I'm not a protagonist. I'm a single person in a late-capitalist dystopia on the brink of ecological collapse and global catastrophe. There's no ring of doom to destroy, no avatar to rescue, no god to appease.
The only thing we can do is make the best of where we are. If all I can do is make my cat happy as the storm rampages outside, so be it,
There are good reasons to escape a world that is rocketing toward global disaster like a runaway train.
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I'm not a hero. I'm not a protagonist. I'm a single person in a late-capitalist dystopia on the brink of ecological collapse and global catastrophe. There's no ring of doom to destroy, no avatar to rescue, no god to appease.
The only thing we can do is make the best of where we are. If all I can do is make my cat happy as the storm rampages outside, so be it,
There are good reasons to escape a world that is rocketing toward global disaster like a runaway train.
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JL15545
A lot of times we may feel like we are just driftwood floating through a sea of monotony through this mundane existence, stuck on autopilot. Everything just feels like a cycle, rinse and repeat of our daily routine inside the void. But we gotta break free from this mold and get out of our comfort zones and face reality head on. It might be an overwhelming task even to start small. But remember, a small step is a big step to making change in your life.
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A lot of times we may feel like we are just driftwood floating through a sea of monotony through this mundane existence, stuck on autopilot. Everything just feels like a cycle, rinse and repeat of our daily routine inside the void. But we gotta break free from this mold and get out of our comfort zones and face reality head on. It might be an overwhelming task even to start small. But remember, a small step is a big step to making change in your life.
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flamegamer3424
I unfortunately am guilty of most of these signs. I feed myself with entertainment regularly, I procrastinate a lot by leaving my homework at a very later time and not having the energy for productivity, and at one point I felt I was living in isolation. Because most people used I talked to are either gone or busy, and even if there are, I tend to avoid them. I currently feel that my mental state is shattered and I want to fix it.
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I unfortunately am guilty of most of these signs. I feed myself with entertainment regularly, I procrastinate a lot by leaving my homework at a very later time and not having the energy for productivity, and at one point I felt I was living in isolation. Because most people used I talked to are either gone or busy, and even if there are, I tend to avoid them. I currently feel that my mental state is shattered and I want to fix it.
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psych2go
I don't even need to watch this to know I escape reality. I know I escape reality because I want to. I don't want to be in this real reality. It's evil, it's depressing, it hopeless, and it hates me. I wish there was a permanent way to escape besides suicide, because even though I wish I was dead, I wouldn't feel this way if reality wasn't evil. Fantasy worlds that I see are more real than the real world, so I would rather go to those
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I don't even need to watch this to know I escape reality. I know I escape reality because I want to. I don't want to be in this real reality. It's evil, it's depressing, it hopeless, and it hates me. I wish there was a permanent way to escape besides suicide, because even though I wish I was dead, I wouldn't feel this way if reality wasn't evil. Fantasy worlds that I see are more real than the real world, so I would rather go to those
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albertho9697
My question after viewing the video is this, how do you go about not trying to escape the reality when your reality is constantly dealing with a powerful toxic person who in your other video said things to help yourself by doing and he violete that all the time, then what should you do other than trying to escape the reality that you are stuck in
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My question after viewing the video is this, how do you go about not trying to escape the reality when your reality is constantly dealing with a powerful toxic person who in your other video said things to help yourself by doing and he violete that all the time, then what should you do other than trying to escape the reality that you are stuck in
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UrLocalMisfit
Yea I like draw every single day, when I get a test or quiz there will be a guarantee be one or two drawings per page. And sometimes (often) I go into auto walk when I think of a lot of things. I also day dream a lot and soon out. I dread school and going to school. I just want to be in bed and sleep forever.
I relate to a lot of these lol
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Yea I like draw every single day, when I get a test or quiz there will be a guarantee be one or two drawings per page. And sometimes (often) I go into auto walk when I think of a lot of things. I also day dream a lot and soon out. I dread school and going to school. I just want to be in bed and sleep forever.
I relate to a lot of these lol
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saga2964
Escape is ok, sometimes even necessary. As long as you are meeting your responsibilities (paying bills, taking care of those who rely on you, keeping an active eye on things around you, etc) and not a danger to yourself or others, good ahead and take a break! Just choose methods that allow you to be safe and able to function 100% of the time!
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Escape is ok, sometimes even necessary. As long as you are meeting your responsibilities (paying bills, taking care of those who rely on you, keeping an active eye on things around you, etc) and not a danger to yourself or others, good ahead and take a break! Just choose methods that allow you to be safe and able to function 100% of the time!
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noor-fe5eq
My father brought me a maid who does not clean and screams at me and speaks to herself loudly. We took her without her papers and now we cannot throw her in the street because my mother is not convinced. I live with my mother and the sponsor is supposed to take her but he refuses. Can you confirm my comment so that I can find a solution
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My father brought me a maid who does not clean and screams at me and speaks to herself loudly. We took her without her papers and now we cannot throw her in the street because my mother is not convinced. I live with my mother and the sponsor is supposed to take her but he refuses. Can you confirm my comment so that I can find a solution
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RiMruhere
I can be submerged in reality and imagination, and im not busy just lazy, i love to do new things and risky things, and i get more and more isolated socially, as the time goes on im feeling more and more distant from the world, im hating it or just questioning everything about it, just doesn't really think its real
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I can be submerged in reality and imagination, and im not busy just lazy, i love to do new things and risky things, and i get more and more isolated socially, as the time goes on im feeling more and more distant from the world, im hating it or just questioning everything about it, just doesn't really think its real
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psych2go
My remedy to escapism is to turn the opposite direction and to charge at my problems head on with a good plan in mind, of course. My celebration ritual after finishing my real world tasks is to escape into fiction. Being grounded and immersed in reality all the time is great, but a bit of fiction feels great.
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My remedy to escapism is to turn the opposite direction and to charge at my problems head on with a good plan in mind, of course. My celebration ritual after finishing my real world tasks is to escape into fiction. Being grounded and immersed in reality all the time is great, but a bit of fiction feels great.
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