How To Deal With Unwanted Sexual Tension
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Date: 2025-01-21
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jackaboynaylor9273
I cope by thinking about a future where I'm happy by myself, but that's so far away and isn't helping the real problem of satisfying my need for intimate affection. I'm stuck being codependent on people who don't like me. How can I love myself if I don't make myself feel loved like they did How can I when I'm given no love to keep for myself Not only am I unable to feel close to the people I actually get to see, now I struggle to feel loved even by the people I devote myself to, being told I'm not needed is one of the last things I wanted to hear. So you don't care if I'm helping I don't make you happy What's the point of me living if my reason to live makes no one feel good Why should I live when I feel more loved dreaming If it was with you or by you, I wouldn't even mind dying, I'd actually be happy that my life ends with the person I love or satisfying them with my death, but I'm not getting that either. Please, someone remove my mind. Objectify me so I can't think past simple ideas, so I'm aware enough to know I'm making people feel good as a toy without the possibility of being miserable. Then I could feel loved forever and I might even be able to love myself by pleasing others.
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I cope by thinking about a future where I'm happy by myself, but that's so far away and isn't helping the real problem of satisfying my need for intimate affection. I'm stuck being codependent on people who don't like me. How can I love myself if I don't make myself feel loved like they did How can I when I'm given no love to keep for myself Not only am I unable to feel close to the people I actually get to see, now I struggle to feel loved even by the people I devote myself to, being told I'm not needed is one of the last things I wanted to hear. So you don't care if I'm helping I don't make you happy What's the point of me living if my reason to live makes no one feel good Why should I live when I feel more loved dreaming If it was with you or by you, I wouldn't even mind dying, I'd actually be happy that my life ends with the person I love or satisfying them with my death, but I'm not getting that either. Please, someone remove my mind. Objectify me so I can't think past simple ideas, so I'm aware enough to know I'm making people feel good as a toy without the possibility of being miserable. Then I could feel loved forever and I might even be able to love myself by pleasing others.
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ArrowLord11
I'm 19 years old and as bad as it sounds I haven't fallen in love yet. I've received a couple of confessions, but I've rejected them all because I didn't feel anything for the girl who confided in me. This isn't a Reddit support group just comments under a video, but I'll write it anyway. Things I'm afraid to say to someone in real life. It might have something to do with the fact that I was bullied at the end of primary school. The first two years of high school were tough, then it only got better. Now studying at university, I'd like to say I've overcome most of my problems, but I'm not entirely sure that's true. What I do know, however, is that after my classmates bullied me in primary school I closed myself off to others, including my own family. My love life even now is not what I had hoped for, but I have come to terms with it. However, I never felt anything more than infatuation, rose-coloured glasses and so it faded after a few days. I am just curious how you guys see the world. Maybe I'll learn something new. That would be nice.
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I'm 19 years old and as bad as it sounds I haven't fallen in love yet. I've received a couple of confessions, but I've rejected them all because I didn't feel anything for the girl who confided in me. This isn't a Reddit support group just comments under a video, but I'll write it anyway. Things I'm afraid to say to someone in real life. It might have something to do with the fact that I was bullied at the end of primary school. The first two years of high school were tough, then it only got better. Now studying at university, I'd like to say I've overcome most of my problems, but I'm not entirely sure that's true. What I do know, however, is that after my classmates bullied me in primary school I closed myself off to others, including my own family. My love life even now is not what I had hoped for, but I have come to terms with it. However, I never felt anything more than infatuation, rose-coloured glasses and so it faded after a few days. I am just curious how you guys see the world. Maybe I'll learn something new. That would be nice.
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land3021
1: 02 Another taboo that might be slightly related; How and when to stop giving eye contact(as in, randomly catching a glimpse of someone) and having to share space with people whom you know(at school namely)
2: 46 2: 53 Tbh I let those distracting thoughts take over my brain it was certainly an approach to the problem just, not a good one
3: 49 That’s a tricky one. I don’t have much control over my mind most of the time, namely, when I’m around other people 4: 59 Yeah I’ve always had a problem with that. 5: 23 oh yay meditation and grounding. Fair fair. I just have always had ADHD, the kind which leaves me forgetting I had certain thoughts and feelings forgetting how to deal with them it’s bothersome and makes me feel like I’m being inauthentic to my feelings, even though I forgot I had said feelings due to ADHD yet they arise out of no where again seemingly or rather, the guilt does, and the guilt might successfully lead to me remembering why I have said guilt
6: 03 YEP
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1: 02 Another taboo that might be slightly related; How and when to stop giving eye contact(as in, randomly catching a glimpse of someone) and having to share space with people whom you know(at school namely)
2: 46 2: 53 Tbh I let those distracting thoughts take over my brain it was certainly an approach to the problem just, not a good one
3: 49 That’s a tricky one. I don’t have much control over my mind most of the time, namely, when I’m around other people 4: 59 Yeah I’ve always had a problem with that. 5: 23 oh yay meditation and grounding. Fair fair. I just have always had ADHD, the kind which leaves me forgetting I had certain thoughts and feelings forgetting how to deal with them it’s bothersome and makes me feel like I’m being inauthentic to my feelings, even though I forgot I had said feelings due to ADHD yet they arise out of no where again seemingly or rather, the guilt does, and the guilt might successfully lead to me remembering why I have said guilt
6: 03 YEP
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biggerminds523
When i finally got evidence of her cheating at least five times during 6 month i did the same to her once, and actually let her realize that i had cheated. She went absolutely crazy, and very dangerous and total denied her own cheating. So i show her my evidence. it almost killed me and i had to escape and it was hard because she destroyed me credit cards. But i managed to find a hotel that could help me for three nights, and a friend to buy me i ticket away. And back home she still threaten me to send people to kill me. I know it was a bad idea to cheat back. but in anger i had to. It was over anyway.
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When i finally got evidence of her cheating at least five times during 6 month i did the same to her once, and actually let her realize that i had cheated. She went absolutely crazy, and very dangerous and total denied her own cheating. So i show her my evidence. it almost killed me and i had to escape and it was hard because she destroyed me credit cards. But i managed to find a hotel that could help me for three nights, and a friend to buy me i ticket away. And back home she still threaten me to send people to kill me. I know it was a bad idea to cheat back. but in anger i had to. It was over anyway.
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Malaikamuskan-v5z
I remember few years back after my wife died, I was left alone with 3 kids. I suffered severe depression and mental disorder. Got diagnosed with bipolar. Not until a friend recommended me to psilocybin mushrooms treatment. Psilocybin treatment changed my life for better. I can proudly say i'm totally clean for 6 years and still counting. Always look to nature for solution to tough problems, Shrooms are phenomenal.
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I remember few years back after my wife died, I was left alone with 3 kids. I suffered severe depression and mental disorder. Got diagnosed with bipolar. Not until a friend recommended me to psilocybin mushrooms treatment. Psilocybin treatment changed my life for better. I can proudly say i'm totally clean for 6 years and still counting. Always look to nature for solution to tough problems, Shrooms are phenomenal.
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mariaa. 7624
Last time this happened to me, I made a list about all the things I don't like about this person and stuck to it (not only the stuff that stops me from making a move. That's how I realized I don't like vulgarity and lack of modesty whether it's in a serious partner or just a one night stand. The whole feeling took some weeks to finally die off but fortunately I got rid of it and everything went back to normal.
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Last time this happened to me, I made a list about all the things I don't like about this person and stuck to it (not only the stuff that stops me from making a move. That's how I realized I don't like vulgarity and lack of modesty whether it's in a serious partner or just a one night stand. The whole feeling took some weeks to finally die off but fortunately I got rid of it and everything went back to normal.
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MrLimon27
Redirect your emotions towards your loved ones. Your parents also need love, attention, help and support. So does your pets, friends and partner. For your partner is easy, if a stranger or not much of a stranger turns on that fire, simply use it to woo your partner. If you are single, allowing that passion to evolve (or devolve in some ways) into charity, compassion or care can also help.
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Redirect your emotions towards your loved ones. Your parents also need love, attention, help and support. So does your pets, friends and partner. For your partner is easy, if a stranger or not much of a stranger turns on that fire, simply use it to woo your partner. If you are single, allowing that passion to evolve (or devolve in some ways) into charity, compassion or care can also help.
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firewolf1243
For some clarification: -
Well if you go and ask really old married couples then you will know that even faithful people develop crushes on people other than their partner because it's not something that people can control. And here if the partner is not faithful they will act on those desires and if they are faithful they would choose to stay faithful to their partner.
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For some clarification: -
Well if you go and ask really old married couples then you will know that even faithful people develop crushes on people other than their partner because it's not something that people can control. And here if the partner is not faithful they will act on those desires and if they are faithful they would choose to stay faithful to their partner.
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xtalpax902
Every time I'm open and nice to a girl she gets the wrong message, and since my work revolves around interacting with lot of people, it get awkward. especially since I'm the type to prefer 1 girl and having actual connection and not more but shallow relationships.
(What if one likes multiple people tho and can't choose, it's better in this case to not choose at all)
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Every time I'm open and nice to a girl she gets the wrong message, and since my work revolves around interacting with lot of people, it get awkward. especially since I'm the type to prefer 1 girl and having actual connection and not more but shallow relationships.
(What if one likes multiple people tho and can't choose, it's better in this case to not choose at all)
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Crit-Multiplier
but what if it's the desire of someone else i try to be nice about it but getting hit on by your coworkers all the time is distracting and not the reason i go to work. how can i tell these ladys in a nice way that im not interested in surface lvl flirting i can be kinda shy too.
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but what if it's the desire of someone else i try to be nice about it but getting hit on by your coworkers all the time is distracting and not the reason i go to work. how can i tell these ladys in a nice way that im not interested in surface lvl flirting i can be kinda shy too.
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psych2go
It’s completely normal to have crushes, and they usually fade with time. According to the scarcity principle, we often desire things that seem out of reach, which can make those feelings even stronger. Understanding this can help put those emotions into perspective.
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It’s completely normal to have crushes, and they usually fade with time. According to the scarcity principle, we often desire things that seem out of reach, which can make those feelings even stronger. Understanding this can help put those emotions into perspective.
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nunyabidness-y2r
I have an easier way, Be so totally devoted to your wife that you block all that stuff out to the point of obliviousness, to the point where your friends, your adult children, even your wife have to point out when other women are flirting with you.
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I have an easier way, Be so totally devoted to your wife that you block all that stuff out to the point of obliviousness, to the point where your friends, your adult children, even your wife have to point out when other women are flirting with you.
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Saturntabbytype2
The whole act is disgusting 55 year old male and as a cosmic entity there has to be a better way, i feel absolutely sick about the whole experiance especially when i went through trauma what the hell was this dichotomy between the mind and body
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The whole act is disgusting 55 year old male and as a cosmic entity there has to be a better way, i feel absolutely sick about the whole experiance especially when i went through trauma what the hell was this dichotomy between the mind and body
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elivanto1673
I know it's wrong, but if I am lusting for a taboo girl, I set up my defense by picking on them or patronizing them. I basically try to make them less attractive by humiliating them. Bad choice, but it's hard for me to stop doing.
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I know it's wrong, but if I am lusting for a taboo girl, I set up my defense by picking on them or patronizing them. I basically try to make them less attractive by humiliating them. Bad choice, but it's hard for me to stop doing.
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Clove-jc2gb5ju3g
good advice, I’m dealing with unwanted feelings recently, and ignoring made it more difficult, I just want these feeling to go away, I don’t want to be feeling those things with everything else I’m dealing with in life.
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good advice, I’m dealing with unwanted feelings recently, and ignoring made it more difficult, I just want these feeling to go away, I don’t want to be feeling those things with everything else I’m dealing with in life.
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Torivic
How about going back to pleasure mode when you try to feel yourself better, but then the call from mom/dad/important email kill the feeling immediately, and you end up feeling bad for even feeling something like this
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How about going back to pleasure mode when you try to feel yourself better, but then the call from mom/dad/important email kill the feeling immediately, and you end up feeling bad for even feeling something like this
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pUnPoetic
Most of these tips work pretty well with emotional attraction as well - like those times where you're kinda into someone because they support you / validate you and it's something you crave / need in that moment.
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Most of these tips work pretty well with emotional attraction as well - like those times where you're kinda into someone because they support you / validate you and it's something you crave / need in that moment.
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Chrissy717
There's an easy solution. Just be insecure! You won't do anything and the situation will eventually pass!
I'm so good at this!
Just kidding. I'm going to therapy currently for various reasons.
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There's an easy solution. Just be insecure! You won't do anything and the situation will eventually pass!
I'm so good at this!
Just kidding. I'm going to therapy currently for various reasons.
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blu3fire243
It's hard to lie about the way you feel. I will admit when I'm attracted to someone or that I love them. I don't mind dying alone either, and I never wish to make them feel uncomfortable
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It's hard to lie about the way you feel. I will admit when I'm attracted to someone or that I love them. I don't mind dying alone either, and I never wish to make them feel uncomfortable
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Thekingofwatching
Don’t have much urge to do it.
I often thought surprised people didn’t make moves on me. But u realized after a long time that i just can’t find how to accept it.
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Don’t have much urge to do it.
I often thought surprised people didn’t make moves on me. But u realized after a long time that i just can’t find how to accept it.
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