Why We Pretend to Be Okay Even When We’re Not
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Date: 2026-03-07
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Gabry69kek
I think This video Is the most relatable. I Always thought: rember, keep smiling and no One Will Say nothing to you but the bigger the smile, the bigger the pain. Only recently i almost stopped doing This, i rarely am fake about This now. People Always made me se my often being sad and sensitive as a bad thing, but I Just found the wrong people. Now that I found the right ones I'm telling the Truth Every time. The First person I was being fake with was myself. I Always thought that time would've made it's course, but I was wrong. I Just needed Someone to talk with and I found It. I Always used my fake ok because I was genuinely scared of being seen as strange but I Just needed to stop the fake and talk with someone. Saying it's fine was my biggest mistake.
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I think This video Is the most relatable. I Always thought: rember, keep smiling and no One Will Say nothing to you but the bigger the smile, the bigger the pain. Only recently i almost stopped doing This, i rarely am fake about This now. People Always made me se my often being sad and sensitive as a bad thing, but I Just found the wrong people. Now that I found the right ones I'm telling the Truth Every time. The First person I was being fake with was myself. I Always thought that time would've made it's course, but I was wrong. I Just needed Someone to talk with and I found It. I Always used my fake ok because I was genuinely scared of being seen as strange but I Just needed to stop the fake and talk with someone. Saying it's fine was my biggest mistake.
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pandabytes4991
The person in charge of the facility that I live in refuses to take I don't know as an answer for anything. Conversations quickly become very awkward when they start asking things like How have you been recently or Why have you been trying to stay in your room all day. That pressure that rises in the moments she questions me like that has become one of the main reasons I've come to hate talking to her. and sometimes, especially right now with how I've been feeling recently, I just hate being at that facility and existing at all.
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The person in charge of the facility that I live in refuses to take I don't know as an answer for anything. Conversations quickly become very awkward when they start asking things like How have you been recently or Why have you been trying to stay in your room all day. That pressure that rises in the moments she questions me like that has become one of the main reasons I've come to hate talking to her. and sometimes, especially right now with how I've been feeling recently, I just hate being at that facility and existing at all.
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toritoborito11
sadly, i have always felt like showing my true feelings to others is a nuisance and a burden. ironically i am a huge empath and want others to feel safe enough around me to open up. i’ve struggled with depression my whole life and grew up in a family where i was kinda dragged around to my older siblings hobbies/sports and i was an afterthought. i had a great childhood, but somewhere in that, i learned it was easier for everyone if i stayed quiet and didnt emote. at 24 now im trying to unlearn this. thanks for this video
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sadly, i have always felt like showing my true feelings to others is a nuisance and a burden. ironically i am a huge empath and want others to feel safe enough around me to open up. i’ve struggled with depression my whole life and grew up in a family where i was kinda dragged around to my older siblings hobbies/sports and i was an afterthought. i had a great childhood, but somewhere in that, i learned it was easier for everyone if i stayed quiet and didnt emote. at 24 now im trying to unlearn this. thanks for this video
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sandiletwala3001
I don't know about anyone else but I pretend to be okay because personally I don't like the idea of burdening other people with my own problems and all of this has been a blueprint from my childhood where I wasn't allowed to show certain emotions so me just carrying the luggage on my own is something I'm used to and jusr making sure that I don't trouble anyone else.
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I don't know about anyone else but I pretend to be okay because personally I don't like the idea of burdening other people with my own problems and all of this has been a blueprint from my childhood where I wasn't allowed to show certain emotions so me just carrying the luggage on my own is something I'm used to and jusr making sure that I don't trouble anyone else.
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ZetaRious-k4b4c
Everyday feels like hell for me, since 2022, I was mocked, hated, but not directly, indirectly, i would always tell myself, im ok, because it gave me some hope! im doing this for someone who's waiting for me across seas! I love it, i love the idea of pretending to be ok! Don't judge me! I'm open minded! But anyway, you gave me enlightenment thank you!
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Everyday feels like hell for me, since 2022, I was mocked, hated, but not directly, indirectly, i would always tell myself, im ok, because it gave me some hope! im doing this for someone who's waiting for me across seas! I love it, i love the idea of pretending to be ok! Don't judge me! I'm open minded! But anyway, you gave me enlightenment thank you!
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gamer421doesart
Well I thought I was ok but after this and so much more that happened recently I don't think I'm ok anymore I had people leave me recently and I just felt numb I don't know if I'm able to be sad anymore my life changed in less than a week I was happy and now I just want to stay inside feeling numb.
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Well I thought I was ok but after this and so much more that happened recently I don't think I'm ok anymore I had people leave me recently and I just felt numb I don't know if I'm able to be sad anymore my life changed in less than a week I was happy and now I just want to stay inside feeling numb.
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delilahrse1122
I've always got the saying Surrounded by people, but still lonely It's something my mom always told me. She also told me that I'm not more special than the person next to me, and not suffering any more than the previous. Basically, it's her way of pushing her coping mechanism onto me
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I've always got the saying Surrounded by people, but still lonely It's something my mom always told me. She also told me that I'm not more special than the person next to me, and not suffering any more than the previous. Basically, it's her way of pushing her coping mechanism onto me
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hidensecret5300
Usually i just keep myself inside and always hope that the opposite person themselves see that i am acting and they see that i am not fine because i know what happens when i tell them myself instead but honestly the first case never happens so i am always just stuck pretending
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Usually i just keep myself inside and always hope that the opposite person themselves see that i am acting and they see that i am not fine because i know what happens when i tell them myself instead but honestly the first case never happens so i am always just stuck pretending
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jayedgardyson1920
2: 22 minimizing your pain doesn’t make it lighter That resonates so much with me. Pain gets brushed under the carpet, but doesn’t disappear or dissipate until it’s dealt with in a healthy, constructive manner. And it’s THIS part where I get stuck. Repeatedly so
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2: 22 minimizing your pain doesn’t make it lighter That resonates so much with me. Pain gets brushed under the carpet, but doesn’t disappear or dissipate until it’s dealt with in a healthy, constructive manner. And it’s THIS part where I get stuck. Repeatedly so
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Anurupaful
True, Because I’m tired of asking for it again and again. At one point, I started handling things on my own. And when I become vulnerable, it makes them say things that are not right to hear from loved ones, and that only makes me feel more broken.
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True, Because I’m tired of asking for it again and again. At one point, I started handling things on my own. And when I become vulnerable, it makes them say things that are not right to hear from loved ones, and that only makes me feel more broken.
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SoberAmbition
I felt personally called out by the 'low-maintenance keeps you safe' comment at 01: 11. I spent my whole life trying not to have needs so I wouldn't bother anyone, and now I'm realizing how much that has cost me emotionally.
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I felt personally called out by the 'low-maintenance keeps you safe' comment at 01: 11. I spent my whole life trying not to have needs so I wouldn't bother anyone, and now I'm realizing how much that has cost me emotionally.
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julaleflo
I've been saying my goodbyes, spending good moments with family and friends. I'm going to leave soon. I'm just enjoying things one last time. After multiple attempts I'm finally ready to leave, without fear or second thoughts.
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I've been saying my goodbyes, spending good moments with family and friends. I'm going to leave soon. I'm just enjoying things one last time. After multiple attempts I'm finally ready to leave, without fear or second thoughts.
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nvmn4834
It's not so much pretending for me or is it I just dont open up bcs when I do im told im being unnecessary or im complaining. Not only there's lack of empathy and support, it's hurtful to hear something like that.
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It's not so much pretending for me or is it I just dont open up bcs when I do im told im being unnecessary or im complaining. Not only there's lack of empathy and support, it's hurtful to hear something like that.
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psych2go
Whenever anyone ask me how I am I always say okay or I'm hanging in there. If I were to say anything else, most people just start to walk away which tells me they didn't really care that much to begin with.
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Whenever anyone ask me how I am I always say okay or I'm hanging in there. If I were to say anything else, most people just start to walk away which tells me they didn't really care that much to begin with.
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iamgem
Oh trust me, when you show the world/friends/family your true feelings, they will all scurry like roaches because they’re afraid you’ll drag them down with them. Its better to just pretend to be ok
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Oh trust me, when you show the world/friends/family your true feelings, they will all scurry like roaches because they’re afraid you’ll drag them down with them. Its better to just pretend to be ok
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eltonguapyassu
This is one of the biggest issues in the Brazilian culture: extreme toxic positivity. You must pretend everything to be A-OK 24/7 even when you're shattered from the inside.
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This is one of the biggest issues in the Brazilian culture: extreme toxic positivity. You must pretend everything to be A-OK 24/7 even when you're shattered from the inside.
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helmutsimon8788
A long video, which could be summed up in one sentence. The answer to how are you is completely irrelevant, cause no one really cares - that’s it. Fullstop.
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A long video, which could be summed up in one sentence. The answer to how are you is completely irrelevant, cause no one really cares - that’s it. Fullstop.
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psych2go
For me I do this is because I don't want to feel like a burden & also people have their own problems anyway & most people don't really care how you're really doing
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For me I do this is because I don't want to feel like a burden & also people have their own problems anyway & most people don't really care how you're really doing
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tatiscolombia
I've been raised this way. Sometimes I don't even know I'm not okay; most times I just feel I gotta do it alone and push through.
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I've been raised this way. Sometimes I don't even know I'm not okay; most times I just feel I gotta do it alone and push through.
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p4bl1t0_burri70
Its very sad there is no space, especially for men, to share feelings: ( I hope this generation that i belong to stops it
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Its very sad there is no space, especially for men, to share feelings: ( I hope this generation that i belong to stops it
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