Body Language Expert Answers Questions From Twitter
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Date: 2022-07-07
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Two-HandPianist
I used to have a friend, who always admited to us she was an introvert and had some sort of depression, even though she was never diagnosed for any mental illnesses. Oftentimes when we hung out together, she would actively talk about herself, things like hobbies and chores, and i noticed whenever we talked about things she didn't enjoy, like the exam we had taken, she would openly show that she didn't want to be a part of the conversation, and try to change subject. I thought she was just being a cry baby back then. I also notice that when she sat down on a table, she would spread her arm to the sides, and was uncomfortable sitting next to her that way because i was getting little to no space. Again, i thought to myself that she was just so insecure that she needed more space than others, so i would normally let it slide. Things still sat in the back of my mind though. When i got to an exchange program in Denmark, instead of congratulate me, the first she did was throwing tantrums because she felt like she was the last person i informed (fyi, she was one of the few people i informed directly, most of our classmate didn't even know that i was going. That was the last time i called her my friend, and even till the end, she didn't congratulate me.
All i'm saying is, body language matters. It tells more about a person than what they can consciously tell you for however long you are together. You see what you see, and it's important not to make any excuse for it
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I used to have a friend, who always admited to us she was an introvert and had some sort of depression, even though she was never diagnosed for any mental illnesses. Oftentimes when we hung out together, she would actively talk about herself, things like hobbies and chores, and i noticed whenever we talked about things she didn't enjoy, like the exam we had taken, she would openly show that she didn't want to be a part of the conversation, and try to change subject. I thought she was just being a cry baby back then. I also notice that when she sat down on a table, she would spread her arm to the sides, and was uncomfortable sitting next to her that way because i was getting little to no space. Again, i thought to myself that she was just so insecure that she needed more space than others, so i would normally let it slide. Things still sat in the back of my mind though. When i got to an exchange program in Denmark, instead of congratulate me, the first she did was throwing tantrums because she felt like she was the last person i informed (fyi, she was one of the few people i informed directly, most of our classmate didn't even know that i was going. That was the last time i called her my friend, and even till the end, she didn't congratulate me.
All i'm saying is, body language matters. It tells more about a person than what they can consciously tell you for however long you are together. You see what you see, and it's important not to make any excuse for it
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Vaughn
As an autistic person, body language has always fascinated me. It's weird, I'm simultaneously really good at reading body language and really terrible at it. Same with my dad. It's like, we don't pick up on in the moment emotions and stuff, but we tend to get a really good read on people and tend to read what type of person someone is. If we don't trust someone, they're not trustworthy. My NT mom has been tricked by people my dad immediately sensed were trouble
Also, does anyone know if the wrist is supposed to be an erogenous zone for everyone? Cos it's definitely not for me. I don't like people touching me at all but if they're going to, I don't care if it's my wrist. Actually that might be better than my actual hands (Yeah, I hate handshakes. I've also never heard anyone else talk about having sensitive wrists or not liking their wrists touched or anything.
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As an autistic person, body language has always fascinated me. It's weird, I'm simultaneously really good at reading body language and really terrible at it. Same with my dad. It's like, we don't pick up on in the moment emotions and stuff, but we tend to get a really good read on people and tend to read what type of person someone is. If we don't trust someone, they're not trustworthy. My NT mom has been tricked by people my dad immediately sensed were trouble
Also, does anyone know if the wrist is supposed to be an erogenous zone for everyone? Cos it's definitely not for me. I don't like people touching me at all but if they're going to, I don't care if it's my wrist. Actually that might be better than my actual hands (Yeah, I hate handshakes. I've also never heard anyone else talk about having sensitive wrists or not liking their wrists touched or anything.
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Jeremiah
Thank you so much for your views on eye contact! (No pun intended) I've always found eye contact immensely difficult, and as an adult I just don't look at people at all. I've also dedicated my life to rescuing and rehabilitating animals, specifically roosters, in which their way of expressing paying attention to you is to face you with their favored eye (birds eyes are generally split so that one is nearsighted, while the other is farsighted, so they may choose a different eye to watch you with depending on how far away they are.
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Thank you so much for your views on eye contact! (No pun intended) I've always found eye contact immensely difficult, and as an adult I just don't look at people at all. I've also dedicated my life to rescuing and rehabilitating animals, specifically roosters, in which their way of expressing paying attention to you is to face you with their favored eye (birds eyes are generally split so that one is nearsighted, while the other is farsighted, so they may choose a different eye to watch you with depending on how far away they are.
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Dayan
Also in Bulgaria, eye contact is extremely important when doing a -cheers- around a table with an alcoholic beverage. You must look at each person directly in the eyes when klinking cups together. In Bulgarian culture this signifies that you are honest in your intentions and meaning, because the eyes are the window to the soul. So, when you say -NAZDRAVE- (Meaning -TO HEALTH-) you are also using your eyes to prove that you truely mean it, otherwise if you don't you can easily tell by the eyes that the other person isn't serious.
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Also in Bulgaria, eye contact is extremely important when doing a -cheers- around a table with an alcoholic beverage. You must look at each person directly in the eyes when klinking cups together. In Bulgarian culture this signifies that you are honest in your intentions and meaning, because the eyes are the window to the soul. So, when you say -NAZDRAVE- (Meaning -TO HEALTH-) you are also using your eyes to prove that you truely mean it, otherwise if you don't you can easily tell by the eyes that the other person isn't serious.
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Isidora
The zoom question was kinda weird. Maybe that specific person was very observant? But most professors and teachers I know (including myself) have said they hate zoom clases because even with the camera on its very difficult for them to tell if students are understanding lectures. When we teach we can tell if someone doesn't understand because they make a confused face, or they finally understand because you can see their eyes and face brighten. video calls make everyone seem bored unless they nod
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The zoom question was kinda weird. Maybe that specific person was very observant? But most professors and teachers I know (including myself) have said they hate zoom clases because even with the camera on its very difficult for them to tell if students are understanding lectures. When we teach we can tell if someone doesn't understand because they make a confused face, or they finally understand because you can see their eyes and face brighten. video calls make everyone seem bored unless they nod
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george
For more power poses, explore bodybuilder competitions. They use these and series effectively to be chosen as -winners. - While this information and the psychological competition to be perceived as dominant are factually correct, I comment merely to troll. And close talkers deeply desire your immediate comment on their breath quality. You should do your utmost to inform them.
If a bear or bison nods to you, expect more intimacy, which will NOT benefit your health.
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For more power poses, explore bodybuilder competitions. They use these and series effectively to be chosen as -winners. - While this information and the psychological competition to be perceived as dominant are factually correct, I comment merely to troll. And close talkers deeply desire your immediate comment on their breath quality. You should do your utmost to inform them.
If a bear or bison nods to you, expect more intimacy, which will NOT benefit your health.
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tiestofalljays
On the eye contact thing: In the area I grew up (in West Africa, among the older/more traditional generation, younger people were expected to NOT look at their -elders- in the eye for a prolonged amount of time. It definitely is a cultural thing. I-m a white American dude who grew up in Africa - it-s always interesting comparing life in the US to what I experienced overseas for the first 18 years of my life haha.
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On the eye contact thing: In the area I grew up (in West Africa, among the older/more traditional generation, younger people were expected to NOT look at their -elders- in the eye for a prolonged amount of time. It definitely is a cultural thing. I-m a white American dude who grew up in Africa - it-s always interesting comparing life in the US to what I experienced overseas for the first 18 years of my life haha.
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Mahbu
Fun fact, Myer's Brigg is a scam. There's no science behind it. It's actual history is hilarious and tragic because there are major jobs out there in the world where people decide who to hire partly on personality tests or other nonsensical methods (in Japan they put a lot of stock - or at least they used to - on blood type, for example; not everyone, obviously, but a shocking number of people.
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Fun fact, Myer's Brigg is a scam. There's no science behind it. It's actual history is hilarious and tragic because there are major jobs out there in the world where people decide who to hire partly on personality tests or other nonsensical methods (in Japan they put a lot of stock - or at least they used to - on blood type, for example; not everyone, obviously, but a shocking number of people.
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Zachary
Thank you for addressing the issue of eye contact. For myself, eye contact feels extremely intimate and personal, and literally the only person I would feel comfortable holding it with is my S. O.
I really hope American society in particular can grow past the negative preconceptions with avoiding eye contact. I'm not trying to be rude or deceptive, I just find it extremely uncomfortable.
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Thank you for addressing the issue of eye contact. For myself, eye contact feels extremely intimate and personal, and literally the only person I would feel comfortable holding it with is my S. O.
I really hope American society in particular can grow past the negative preconceptions with avoiding eye contact. I'm not trying to be rude or deceptive, I just find it extremely uncomfortable.
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Laura
When a woman shakes her leg, sometimes it's just because her pants have ridden up and she's trying to get them to fall back down without grabbing her pants leg. At least if you're talking about a leg shake while walking. I know guys do this to rearrange the boys, but there are other reasons to do it. I can't stand when my shorts ride up between my thighs.
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When a woman shakes her leg, sometimes it's just because her pants have ridden up and she's trying to get them to fall back down without grabbing her pants leg. At least if you're talking about a leg shake while walking. I know guys do this to rearrange the boys, but there are other reasons to do it. I can't stand when my shorts ride up between my thighs.
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