My husband can have a baby - with our girlfriend - love don't judge
video description
Date: 2023-09-12
Related videos
Comments and reviews: 27
aikat3rine
The notion that we will find one partner who is perfect for us in every sense of the word asks the absolute unreasonable and unrealistic of both parties. It asks the spouse to remain the same person they were when you met in order to be perfect for their partner. It asks the spouse to never experience their own growth as a person because that might lead to their lessening of feelings towards their partner or to enjoyment of someone else outside the partnership, regardless of whether or not anything romantic or physical happens between them. It asks the self to never deviate on what you think is perfect, leading to your own stunted experience in life. Even in the most turbulent, painful, controlling relationships, there is this foundation of promise and expectation that traps people into a way of living that does not work to bring satisfaction to the self or the partner, because the foundation that they are not doing what it is you would like them to do--ergo not being perfect--is still affected. Demanding love to you and only you is based in insecurity that you are not perfect, because perfection is decided by your partner's viewpoint of you and how it is that they are percieving you. if you and only you are not wholely loved and adored, it means you are wrong, and full of shortcomings that need to be addressed in order to fall back into the parameters of single adoration. This means that if you are in a relationship with someone even slightly absuive or manipulative, you are liable to experience partnership with someone who will define what is perfect behavior, thought, and love from you and will expect that, otherwise you are inherently imperfect and a disappointment not only to them but to the promise you made to both of you to never deviate on what you decided was perfect maybe even decades ago. Let's not forget that marriage and partnership once upon a time--and really not even all that long ago, let alone the fact that marriage in places of the world continues to be such--was a financial brokerage deal serving to exploit children for the benefit of the family image and lineage. There is no such thing as a perfect partner, yet everyone is perfect, therefore we should not be asking our partners to use our definition of perfection to decide how it is they will live their own lives. How many hours do couple spend argueing over if they are a perfect match and how the other one can be better suited to perfection in the relationship, when just the acceptance that your partner might develop closeness with someone outside the relationship would allow the freedom needed for self love, growth, enjoyment, and devotion to the relationship that is not based in fear and control. Whether or not you decide to become any sort of poly or open in your relationship, the allowance of your partner to be themselves is what most people would define as true love--loving your partner for exactly who they are.
reply
The notion that we will find one partner who is perfect for us in every sense of the word asks the absolute unreasonable and unrealistic of both parties. It asks the spouse to remain the same person they were when you met in order to be perfect for their partner. It asks the spouse to never experience their own growth as a person because that might lead to their lessening of feelings towards their partner or to enjoyment of someone else outside the partnership, regardless of whether or not anything romantic or physical happens between them. It asks the self to never deviate on what you think is perfect, leading to your own stunted experience in life. Even in the most turbulent, painful, controlling relationships, there is this foundation of promise and expectation that traps people into a way of living that does not work to bring satisfaction to the self or the partner, because the foundation that they are not doing what it is you would like them to do--ergo not being perfect--is still affected. Demanding love to you and only you is based in insecurity that you are not perfect, because perfection is decided by your partner's viewpoint of you and how it is that they are percieving you. if you and only you are not wholely loved and adored, it means you are wrong, and full of shortcomings that need to be addressed in order to fall back into the parameters of single adoration. This means that if you are in a relationship with someone even slightly absuive or manipulative, you are liable to experience partnership with someone who will define what is perfect behavior, thought, and love from you and will expect that, otherwise you are inherently imperfect and a disappointment not only to them but to the promise you made to both of you to never deviate on what you decided was perfect maybe even decades ago. Let's not forget that marriage and partnership once upon a time--and really not even all that long ago, let alone the fact that marriage in places of the world continues to be such--was a financial brokerage deal serving to exploit children for the benefit of the family image and lineage. There is no such thing as a perfect partner, yet everyone is perfect, therefore we should not be asking our partners to use our definition of perfection to decide how it is they will live their own lives. How many hours do couple spend argueing over if they are a perfect match and how the other one can be better suited to perfection in the relationship, when just the acceptance that your partner might develop closeness with someone outside the relationship would allow the freedom needed for self love, growth, enjoyment, and devotion to the relationship that is not based in fear and control. Whether or not you decide to become any sort of poly or open in your relationship, the allowance of your partner to be themselves is what most people would define as true love--loving your partner for exactly who they are.
reply
Charming
I think theyre super cute. They have an honest, open, genuine relationship and have great communication skills and acceptance of each other completely. If monogamy was for everyone there wouldnt be such high cheating and divorce rates. theyve been together for 13 years and started pursuing poly 2 years in. thats longer than 99% of the judgemental commenters relationships so please quit saying theyre doomed. they seem super happy to me.
reply
I think theyre super cute. They have an honest, open, genuine relationship and have great communication skills and acceptance of each other completely. If monogamy was for everyone there wouldnt be such high cheating and divorce rates. theyve been together for 13 years and started pursuing poly 2 years in. thats longer than 99% of the judgemental commenters relationships so please quit saying theyre doomed. they seem super happy to me.
reply
Saela
I love your relationship. I love your love. My husband and and we have been in a poly relationship before the the girlfriend we had didn't understand that it's not just about her and the him and I was and are a couple and she will be a beautiful addition but she has to be willing to be with both of us. Also I I only want another woman I do t need another man. But keep loving love as long your happy ----
reply
I love your relationship. I love your love. My husband and and we have been in a poly relationship before the the girlfriend we had didn't understand that it's not just about her and the him and I was and are a couple and she will be a beautiful addition but she has to be willing to be with both of us. Also I I only want another woman I do t need another man. But keep loving love as long your happy ----
reply
Carey
Days of old had concubines this is the this generation of that. I mean maybe the blonde does not want a bio child and the other chick does. I am glad they seem happy everyone needs happiness when this world is so full of hate and depression. I think it is cool they met on myspace i remember myspace i was a on line role player on myspace back in the day.
reply
Days of old had concubines this is the this generation of that. I mean maybe the blonde does not want a bio child and the other chick does. I am glad they seem happy everyone needs happiness when this world is so full of hate and depression. I think it is cool they met on myspace i remember myspace i was a on line role player on myspace back in the day.
reply
Angela
I am really sorry guys because your so cute and I don-t mean to judge. I am married and have children and I love my husband so much and I just couldn-t share him or be able to have another woman in the relationship. I can-t see how this could work with children. Because a child will move the goal post-s
reply
I am really sorry guys because your so cute and I don-t mean to judge. I am married and have children and I love my husband so much and I just couldn-t share him or be able to have another woman in the relationship. I can-t see how this could work with children. Because a child will move the goal post-s
reply
Diane
They are consenting adults. It is no one else's business. I think as long as they are happy there is no problem. If traditional relationships worked perfectly there would be no divorce. It is time to consider all options and let this be a personal choice.
reply
They are consenting adults. It is no one else's business. I think as long as they are happy there is no problem. If traditional relationships worked perfectly there would be no divorce. It is time to consider all options and let this be a personal choice.
reply
Meredith
The same vibes and energy-. Yeah! She seems sophisticated and educated- all the qualities of a great second mother. Having a baby is a party. Just bring that baby into y-all-s poly party. Babies love a party
reply
The same vibes and energy-. Yeah! She seems sophisticated and educated- all the qualities of a great second mother. Having a baby is a party. Just bring that baby into y-all-s poly party. Babies love a party
reply
OatmealPancake
Ohhh okay. So she-s -allowed to have a girlfriend- because she -already has a man-. Meanwhile he already has her (a woman, but is allowed to have another woman? This screams insecurity hahahah yikes
reply
Ohhh okay. So she-s -allowed to have a girlfriend- because she -already has a man-. Meanwhile he already has her (a woman, but is allowed to have another woman? This screams insecurity hahahah yikes
reply
Moon
it is because of your phrases -it's all ok! - diseases such as AIDS, hepatitis C, smallpox of monkeys, etc. are spreading in the world. The basis of the health of any nation: a marriage between two for life!
reply
it is because of your phrases -it's all ok! - diseases such as AIDS, hepatitis C, smallpox of monkeys, etc. are spreading in the world. The basis of the health of any nation: a marriage between two for life!
reply
-miley-
I support and all but I would never think of this cos it could end in many bad ways like the ones who originally got together first have a fight cos of it then their relationship goes
reply
I support and all but I would never think of this cos it could end in many bad ways like the ones who originally got together first have a fight cos of it then their relationship goes
reply
Miss
How about a 5 yr follow up on all these poly stories instead of just presenting them as all happy. why not show it over time.
Did it work, was it a mess. let us know.
reply
How about a 5 yr follow up on all these poly stories instead of just presenting them as all happy. why not show it over time.
Did it work, was it a mess. let us know.
reply
Sarcodon
They have to be exhibitionists to -normalize- poly relationships. Sounds more like narcissism and boarder line personality disorder needing supply and attention.
reply
They have to be exhibitionists to -normalize- poly relationships. Sounds more like narcissism and boarder line personality disorder needing supply and attention.
reply
Mel
Everything's in this world is possible now. And okay, that's good for them, but now there's going to be a child involved and it will confuse the hell out of everyone.
reply
Everything's in this world is possible now. And okay, that's good for them, but now there's going to be a child involved and it will confuse the hell out of everyone.
reply
Hammer
SO let me -understand- this. He can have a -relationship- with BOTH of these girls, and, i can't even find one [1] to date.
Sounds about right.
reply
SO let me -understand- this. He can have a -relationship- with BOTH of these girls, and, i can't even find one [1] to date.
Sounds about right.
reply
DeadFrog2. 0
The fact that all these poly relationships be in Florida makes me hate this state even more it-s not even them it-s ppl who do this stuff tm
reply
The fact that all these poly relationships be in Florida makes me hate this state even more it-s not even them it-s ppl who do this stuff tm
reply
Diana
Poly is not for everyone. You have to be extremely honest & sincere. Can you raise kids in it? Yes! It can be done, but know that it is different.
reply
Poly is not for everyone. You have to be extremely honest & sincere. Can you raise kids in it? Yes! It can be done, but know that it is different.
reply
FeRaL
I think that it-s cool that they-re all happy together, I may not understand poly relationships as much, but they look happy so no harm in that.
reply
I think that it-s cool that they-re all happy together, I may not understand poly relationships as much, but they look happy so no harm in that.
reply
Sarah86
Your putting up tic toc videos of you not showing the full story of what's going on in your relationship, that's why they are reporting it
reply
Your putting up tic toc videos of you not showing the full story of what's going on in your relationship, that's why they are reporting it
reply
Craftybaker
I thought I saw this couple, but with another girl, not this one at all. And their videos are made to try to get a rise out of people.
reply
I thought I saw this couple, but with another girl, not this one at all. And their videos are made to try to get a rise out of people.
reply
Cosmo
Can we please stop trying to normalize this? I can understand being busy, but have more than one relationship is nothing but disastrous
reply
Can we please stop trying to normalize this? I can understand being busy, but have more than one relationship is nothing but disastrous
reply
Kara
Glad you guys are happy but wait on kids bc kids are drama, custody issues, courts parental issues lawyers. take your time. Have fun -
reply
Glad you guys are happy but wait on kids bc kids are drama, custody issues, courts parental issues lawyers. take your time. Have fun -
reply
peace
This is not dating this is just immature dooshbags wanting to screw people to appease their fleshly desires. This will end badly.
reply
This is not dating this is just immature dooshbags wanting to screw people to appease their fleshly desires. This will end badly.
reply
Praxy
The problem is people don't take love seriously. Its just the animal in between the legs they want to satisfy. STIs everywhere
reply
The problem is people don't take love seriously. Its just the animal in between the legs they want to satisfy. STIs everywhere
reply
Cool
This make sense. Because there are more women then men on earth. So one man should have babies with more than one women.
reply
This make sense. Because there are more women then men on earth. So one man should have babies with more than one women.
reply
MilknHxney
I-d like to think these types of relationships don-t last long- it tends to lead to competition and jealousy.
reply
I-d like to think these types of relationships don-t last long- it tends to lead to competition and jealousy.
reply
Miapet
Well they're not paying your bills and until they do, they have no right to tell you what you can and cannot do.
reply
Well they're not paying your bills and until they do, they have no right to tell you what you can and cannot do.
reply
----
I suggest a simple change, which is to convert the phrase (love does not judge) into ( lust that judges)
reply
I suggest a simple change, which is to convert the phrase (love does not judge) into ( lust that judges)
reply
Add a review, comment
Other channel videos
