6 Signs You Were Raised By an Absent Parent
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(That special person that I feel such intense emotions for is usually somebody I don't even know well) Is there something wrong with me?
Date: 2023-08-20
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creekhunter
Wow this can all get very deep. Both my parents had detached parents and successfully passed it on to their kids. But the buck stopped at me.
It taught me to be everything my parents werent. Lousy childhood Yes but I made sure my kids had the childhood I always wished I had.
I was able to relive my childhood through my children. My wife never understood me mostly because she was just like my father so how could she.
Now the hard part! Sorting through all of this as an adult with failed relationships especially because I married my father and am attracted to emotionally unavailable women.
Its been a painful ride and at 63 still sorting it all out.
I feel that what I really need is to feel loved but finding that quality is not easy. Better to not settle again!
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Wow this can all get very deep. Both my parents had detached parents and successfully passed it on to their kids. But the buck stopped at me.
It taught me to be everything my parents werent. Lousy childhood Yes but I made sure my kids had the childhood I always wished I had.
I was able to relive my childhood through my children. My wife never understood me mostly because she was just like my father so how could she.
Now the hard part! Sorting through all of this as an adult with failed relationships especially because I married my father and am attracted to emotionally unavailable women.
Its been a painful ride and at 63 still sorting it all out.
I feel that what I really need is to feel loved but finding that quality is not easy. Better to not settle again!
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Jc
I have both absent parents it sucks because I developed a insecurities of being out of place in my family because I live in my grandparents house since my grandma has a favoritism it really hurts being alone in the family because they judge and criticize me all the time I developed social anxiety and depression thats why I stay in my room all day and I just found out that my father has a new family and wife seeing them kinda broke because I was jealous while my mother is an oversea worker and rarely visits me my parents wounded me for not being there or loving me when I needed them so I always remember this growing up
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I have both absent parents it sucks because I developed a insecurities of being out of place in my family because I live in my grandparents house since my grandma has a favoritism it really hurts being alone in the family because they judge and criticize me all the time I developed social anxiety and depression thats why I stay in my room all day and I just found out that my father has a new family and wife seeing them kinda broke because I was jealous while my mother is an oversea worker and rarely visits me my parents wounded me for not being there or loving me when I needed them so I always remember this growing up
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Elizabeth
Since beginning of my teenage years Ive been only attracted to certain type of boys who are so manipulative, experience a lot of mood and behavior swings and have narcissistic tendencies. My father was abusive in first 10 years of my life and absent the rest. I also realized it last few months that the certain type of face that Ive always been so attracted to describes exactly how my father looks like, big boney nose, brown eyes, tiny lips, dry black hair, very cold eyes and.
Like I could never be with someone if he doesnt have this traits, its sad the way this attraction is ruining my life even more.
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Since beginning of my teenage years Ive been only attracted to certain type of boys who are so manipulative, experience a lot of mood and behavior swings and have narcissistic tendencies. My father was abusive in first 10 years of my life and absent the rest. I also realized it last few months that the certain type of face that Ive always been so attracted to describes exactly how my father looks like, big boney nose, brown eyes, tiny lips, dry black hair, very cold eyes and.
Like I could never be with someone if he doesnt have this traits, its sad the way this attraction is ruining my life even more.
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Kina
My father is more like a stranger that's living in our house, after my mom died, he became more unstable. He's very dependent with my mom while she was still alive. He doesn't have a job and he doesn't take care of himself, I don't show much interest on him because he doesn't give a damn about me or my siblings. The only one taking care of us are our grandparents. It feels like I'm walking in egg shells around him. It just feels horrible when I'm with him. He feels more like a stranger than a parent
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My father is more like a stranger that's living in our house, after my mom died, he became more unstable. He's very dependent with my mom while she was still alive. He doesn't have a job and he doesn't take care of himself, I don't show much interest on him because he doesn't give a damn about me or my siblings. The only one taking care of us are our grandparents. It feels like I'm walking in egg shells around him. It just feels horrible when I'm with him. He feels more like a stranger than a parent
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Artistic
I'm glad I do not deal with this but I do have a cousin who doesn't even know his father and is now 11. His father basically used my aunt and said while she was pregnant with him that he had children with a lot of other women too. So it turns out not only he doesn't know his father, but he has other siblings he doesn't know about. Watching this makes me think he may be dealing with this. And it is a possibility he may be autistic.
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I'm glad I do not deal with this but I do have a cousin who doesn't even know his father and is now 11. His father basically used my aunt and said while she was pregnant with him that he had children with a lot of other women too. So it turns out not only he doesn't know his father, but he has other siblings he doesn't know about. Watching this makes me think he may be dealing with this. And it is a possibility he may be autistic.
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Original
Some of these are true. But no one talks about growing up without a mom. Yeah my dad was around but. he wasnt around emotionally.
Everyday I fight the urge to not be a bad guy but with all the trauma I had in growing up without a mother since 3 years old, the only thing that makes sense to us unstable kids is to hurt others. No one wants to feel alone so we will do what we can to make sure someone can be suffering with us.
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Some of these are true. But no one talks about growing up without a mom. Yeah my dad was around but. he wasnt around emotionally.
Everyday I fight the urge to not be a bad guy but with all the trauma I had in growing up without a mother since 3 years old, the only thing that makes sense to us unstable kids is to hurt others. No one wants to feel alone so we will do what we can to make sure someone can be suffering with us.
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Rebekah
My mom left me and my sibling leaving just my dad to raise 3 girls that where 4-6 years old. She gave up after a year of going back and forth when I was 4 and never called. My step mom isnt rlly helping either. Quote from my dad when I told him and my step mom I was cutting my wrists just cut it and get it over with so we can put you in the ground and forget about it. I was 13.
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My mom left me and my sibling leaving just my dad to raise 3 girls that where 4-6 years old. She gave up after a year of going back and forth when I was 4 and never called. My step mom isnt rlly helping either. Quote from my dad when I told him and my step mom I was cutting my wrists just cut it and get it over with so we can put you in the ground and forget about it. I was 13.
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Sw4g
my dad is like that one kid who didnt come back to school
hes a soldier who try to goddamn kidnap me when i was a child good thing my grandma tell me that dont go out
and when i was a child i say that
my dad drowned on a soup and when i hear what hes trying to do i didnt stop laughing for a day
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my dad is like that one kid who didnt come back to school
hes a soldier who try to goddamn kidnap me when i was a child good thing my grandma tell me that dont go out
and when i was a child i say that
my dad drowned on a soup and when i hear what hes trying to do i didnt stop laughing for a day
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: P
I have been mentally abused and my whole family never paid attention to me. So I made a plan to run away with my cousin. I told her that when I turn 18 I would adopt her and move out of the state. I told her that I would take care of her and that we can't bring boys or girls in the apartment
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I have been mentally abused and my whole family never paid attention to me. So I made a plan to run away with my cousin. I told her that when I turn 18 I would adopt her and move out of the state. I told her that I would take care of her and that we can't bring boys or girls in the apartment
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Bee
My dad gets very angry at me for wandering off on my own. Or distancing myself. And not letting others do something for me but its because all my life Ive never had anyone to fall back on Ive HAD to be individualistic ever since I was a toddler I cant just trust you because you say I can.
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My dad gets very angry at me for wandering off on my own. Or distancing myself. And not letting others do something for me but its because all my life Ive never had anyone to fall back on Ive HAD to be individualistic ever since I was a toddler I cant just trust you because you say I can.
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Aesthetic
I never had a mother
Like everyone is making jokes about losing their father or he left for milk
But my mother left for no apparent reason and she never visited me,
Literally I'm so lucky that my father is kind, soft hearted, and understanding-
Still wished she visited
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I never had a mother
Like everyone is making jokes about losing their father or he left for milk
But my mother left for no apparent reason and she never visited me,
Literally I'm so lucky that my father is kind, soft hearted, and understanding-
Still wished she visited
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education
Dad you are a shit grandparent and you are losing your opportunity to make up for my childhood by prioritizing your needs and your new wife above your granddaughter. I hope you realize one day what you put my mother and I through with your selfish behavior.
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Dad you are a shit grandparent and you are losing your opportunity to make up for my childhood by prioritizing your needs and your new wife above your granddaughter. I hope you realize one day what you put my mother and I through with your selfish behavior.
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Devonlui
I kind of grew up with my aunts, until I was 13 were my mother took me in ( my dad was still a continent away) but it was already too late, I didn't have the necessary connection with my mother to actually understand when people talk about their parents
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I kind of grew up with my aunts, until I was 13 were my mother took me in ( my dad was still a continent away) but it was already too late, I didn't have the necessary connection with my mother to actually understand when people talk about their parents
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Jackie
My mom has been absent in my life since I was 12. she has cared for my twin brother and admitted she never wanted a daughter. So now I cry at night wishing I had a mother figure that could hold me. Best I can do is my husband, but it just isnt the same.
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My mom has been absent in my life since I was 12. she has cared for my twin brother and admitted she never wanted a daughter. So now I cry at night wishing I had a mother figure that could hold me. Best I can do is my husband, but it just isnt the same.
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not
I'm 23 & I'm just now figuring out that I have had both parents be absent & emotionally unavailable. it sucks figuring this stuff out so late in life & having to basically become a parent to yourself. it's not easy, but I believe it'll be worth it!
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I'm 23 & I'm just now figuring out that I have had both parents be absent & emotionally unavailable. it sucks figuring this stuff out so late in life & having to basically become a parent to yourself. it's not easy, but I believe it'll be worth it!
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Lucie
Not only was my dad absent in my teenage years, but he consciously made the decision to stay out of my life because he wanted to prove a point to my mom. To this day, Im afraid of rejection because my dad chose his pride over me.
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Not only was my dad absent in my teenage years, but he consciously made the decision to stay out of my life because he wanted to prove a point to my mom. To this day, Im afraid of rejection because my dad chose his pride over me.
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tiona
Is this why I cant learn math? I was listening to this drifting off to sleep but when you mentioned math I shot up. I cant even do basic math, but I have a college degree. Ive always been so bad at math its embarrassing
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Is this why I cant learn math? I was listening to this drifting off to sleep but when you mentioned math I shot up. I cant even do basic math, but I have a college degree. Ive always been so bad at math its embarrassing
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Sea
My father never showed up when my mother was giving birth, and my mother died a few months after I was born, I havent seen my father ever, I do terribly in school and I overthink a lot and worry about people leaving me
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My father never showed up when my mother was giving birth, and my mother died a few months after I was born, I havent seen my father ever, I do terribly in school and I overthink a lot and worry about people leaving me
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Raul
1 one of ur parents left
2 one of ur parents left
3 one of ur parents left
4 one of ur parents left
5 guess what one of ur parents left
6 u didn't even talk or see one of ur parents most your childhood
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1 one of ur parents left
2 one of ur parents left
3 one of ur parents left
4 one of ur parents left
5 guess what one of ur parents left
6 u didn't even talk or see one of ur parents most your childhood
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Eta
My mother was emotionally unavailable but we lived in same house but no communication. Its like we were strangers. I threw more distant from my mother and it broke us apart. I moved out 3 years ago and cut all contact
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My mother was emotionally unavailable but we lived in same house but no communication. Its like we were strangers. I threw more distant from my mother and it broke us apart. I moved out 3 years ago and cut all contact
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Danny
Oh well. Nothing we can do. All the person development take places in childhood before we're mentally capable of figuring out something is wrong. Life is a roll of dice, guess reincarnation is the same
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Oh well. Nothing we can do. All the person development take places in childhood before we're mentally capable of figuring out something is wrong. Life is a roll of dice, guess reincarnation is the same
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Silverwolf
My mother humiliated me while I was crying.
She told me to suck it up while my father encourages me to cry. I with their roles were reversed. I need a good mother.
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My mother humiliated me while I was crying.
She told me to suck it up while my father encourages me to cry. I with their roles were reversed. I need a good mother.
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Aman
Didn't even realize I was affected by it as a kid. It's when I started growing up I started realizing my behavioral patterns closely resemble this video. How do I change?
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Didn't even realize I was affected by it as a kid. It's when I started growing up I started realizing my behavioral patterns closely resemble this video. How do I change?
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GEORGE
Tough my father and mother forsake me, the lord will receive me. Trun back to christ today, friends. He is knocking at the door of your hearts today! Acept him pls.
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Tough my father and mother forsake me, the lord will receive me. Trun back to christ today, friends. He is knocking at the door of your hearts today! Acept him pls.
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