7 Reasons To Love Someone With Depression
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Date: 2023-08-20
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Dr.
With a Mental Illness, such as Depression, you are, more often than not, your own worst enemy. You treat your past like a curse, and forsee either an empty or brief future. Always hoping for the best, and preparing for the worst, often refusing things that will ultimately benefit you, torn apart by something you assume there's always a catch to, based on your past and how you treat it, be it recent or distant. Incidents that cause Trauma, whether you were the culprit or the victim, really changes how you treat your future. Thoughts crowd your mind, and you contemplate the unforgivable. Eventually, your mind puts you in a constant state of disgusting scenes playing in front of you, that only you can see. Thoughts of hurting yourself or others. No one is safe from these thoughts. Medication only slows its roll. Therapy only begins your Recovery Phase. Anger Management only reduces the odds of lashing out, if even that. A combination of these Treatments builds a false sense of security. Thinking you've changed, but in truth, they never extinguish those emotions. They just lock them away, allowing more build-up, eventually to the point where you can't hide it anymore. Being Autistic with ADHD just makes it that much worse. It was actually getting to the point where I couldn't get along with my old family anymore. Ever since I moved out, into a much more cheerful environment, with a friend I wish I knew back in the day, and would never trade for the world, I'm over most of it. But you know what they say.
You can always take an animal out of the Wild, but you can never take the Wild out of the animal.
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With a Mental Illness, such as Depression, you are, more often than not, your own worst enemy. You treat your past like a curse, and forsee either an empty or brief future. Always hoping for the best, and preparing for the worst, often refusing things that will ultimately benefit you, torn apart by something you assume there's always a catch to, based on your past and how you treat it, be it recent or distant. Incidents that cause Trauma, whether you were the culprit or the victim, really changes how you treat your future. Thoughts crowd your mind, and you contemplate the unforgivable. Eventually, your mind puts you in a constant state of disgusting scenes playing in front of you, that only you can see. Thoughts of hurting yourself or others. No one is safe from these thoughts. Medication only slows its roll. Therapy only begins your Recovery Phase. Anger Management only reduces the odds of lashing out, if even that. A combination of these Treatments builds a false sense of security. Thinking you've changed, but in truth, they never extinguish those emotions. They just lock them away, allowing more build-up, eventually to the point where you can't hide it anymore. Being Autistic with ADHD just makes it that much worse. It was actually getting to the point where I couldn't get along with my old family anymore. Ever since I moved out, into a much more cheerful environment, with a friend I wish I knew back in the day, and would never trade for the world, I'm over most of it. But you know what they say.
You can always take an animal out of the Wild, but you can never take the Wild out of the animal.
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Sir
When watching this video I kept going back and forth. I would agree with the 7 reasons but then on some of the explanations, I would disagree. Example #3 People with depression They are more understanding I felt like I could agree with this in a way. Maybe not for every situation but they can understand what it is like to feel down I guess. BUT when it goes into saying they know what it is like to be shunned due to the stigma of mental illness. I don't agree with this. I suffer from depression but all I am surrounded with are people who are understanding of depression. I don't think it is fair to try and categorize everyone with depression as people who have been ignored. When I hear this coupled with #4 They're more honest; sure I believe I am more straightforward than most people, but it's not because it comes from a place of being hurt by others. I do it because that's just how I am. I like being true to myself. I think the thing that bothers me with these descriptions is that it is limiting the spectrum of what depression is. It is not just people being hurt or angry at the world around them. Sometimes people can be loved by those around them. Heard and listened to. But still have a darkness inside weighing them down. Idk I rambled a lot with this post I guess this video bothered me a little.
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When watching this video I kept going back and forth. I would agree with the 7 reasons but then on some of the explanations, I would disagree. Example #3 People with depression They are more understanding I felt like I could agree with this in a way. Maybe not for every situation but they can understand what it is like to feel down I guess. BUT when it goes into saying they know what it is like to be shunned due to the stigma of mental illness. I don't agree with this. I suffer from depression but all I am surrounded with are people who are understanding of depression. I don't think it is fair to try and categorize everyone with depression as people who have been ignored. When I hear this coupled with #4 They're more honest; sure I believe I am more straightforward than most people, but it's not because it comes from a place of being hurt by others. I do it because that's just how I am. I like being true to myself. I think the thing that bothers me with these descriptions is that it is limiting the spectrum of what depression is. It is not just people being hurt or angry at the world around them. Sometimes people can be loved by those around them. Heard and listened to. But still have a darkness inside weighing them down. Idk I rambled a lot with this post I guess this video bothered me a little.
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Ann
i'm talking to this guy for few months & we both fell in love,
we're not in a relationship because he told me he wants to court me first in respect for my culture and standards so i agreed
he have a depression and eating disorder, his situation got worse when he founds out he can't eat gluten, loss his job, and he really find it hard to get a new one
he's also stressed out when his sister got a miscarriage and tried to kill herself
he told me he feels useless and his depression got worse and worse everyday
he even started to pushed me away, hide from me, ignores me, and act rude just to make me go away
i just don't know what to do, i want to stay beside him & i know i can't help him but i want to show him my support and love, i want to show him i'm willing to be patient and understanding
that's why I'm doing everything i can to understand him more & now i'm here
any more advices?
also, another question
just recently, he forgot my birthday. i was very upset, i even thought about leaving him but i didn't
i don't know what to do, i found out through some people that if someone forgets your birthday, they don't care about you but some people say it's not really a big deal
any advice? should i be mad or leave?
i'm genuinely asking
i really love him
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i'm talking to this guy for few months & we both fell in love,
we're not in a relationship because he told me he wants to court me first in respect for my culture and standards so i agreed
he have a depression and eating disorder, his situation got worse when he founds out he can't eat gluten, loss his job, and he really find it hard to get a new one
he's also stressed out when his sister got a miscarriage and tried to kill herself
he told me he feels useless and his depression got worse and worse everyday
he even started to pushed me away, hide from me, ignores me, and act rude just to make me go away
i just don't know what to do, i want to stay beside him & i know i can't help him but i want to show him my support and love, i want to show him i'm willing to be patient and understanding
that's why I'm doing everything i can to understand him more & now i'm here
any more advices?
also, another question
just recently, he forgot my birthday. i was very upset, i even thought about leaving him but i didn't
i don't know what to do, i found out through some people that if someone forgets your birthday, they don't care about you but some people say it's not really a big deal
any advice? should i be mad or leave?
i'm genuinely asking
i really love him
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smartdog3003
My dear best friend suffers with depression, I think she even let me go because of depression, even though O was nice and kind to you, she didn't accept it, it like she didn't accept my love for her, in fact after I sent her and her family things she accused me and threatened me, I want to let her know that I still love her and care about her, but now I am scared to reach out to her, scared that she will reject me again, what should I do, I don't want to ignore her, she might be feeling bad, and surprised that someone like me actually cares about her like I do, because I know people with depression doesn't have lots of friends, that's probably why she is rejecting me, but by rejecting me especially when I was only trying to be her friend is making me more depressed. One reason I fell in love with her as a friend was because she had loved me first, she showed me and told me that she loved me.
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My dear best friend suffers with depression, I think she even let me go because of depression, even though O was nice and kind to you, she didn't accept it, it like she didn't accept my love for her, in fact after I sent her and her family things she accused me and threatened me, I want to let her know that I still love her and care about her, but now I am scared to reach out to her, scared that she will reject me again, what should I do, I don't want to ignore her, she might be feeling bad, and surprised that someone like me actually cares about her like I do, because I know people with depression doesn't have lots of friends, that's probably why she is rejecting me, but by rejecting me especially when I was only trying to be her friend is making me more depressed. One reason I fell in love with her as a friend was because she had loved me first, she showed me and told me that she loved me.
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Bhoomi
i and my boyfriend (we weren't actually dating so) broke up cuz i am going to transfer and he said he can't do long distance but within a week he started liking some other girl, all this made my mental health very unstable and i had stopped talking to him. he hasn't been coming to school or classes since a month (even skipped exams) and recently i got to know from a teacher that her mother said he has stopped eating, doesn't talk to anyone etc so i decided to check up on him and then he told me everything and it felt like he is suffering from depression. he even said these days he sometimes even think of su! cide. i started talking to him cuz i dont want to leave him alone in this hard time but then if i keep talking to him i will never move on and due to that my mental health is getting lower and lower. what should i do?
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i and my boyfriend (we weren't actually dating so) broke up cuz i am going to transfer and he said he can't do long distance but within a week he started liking some other girl, all this made my mental health very unstable and i had stopped talking to him. he hasn't been coming to school or classes since a month (even skipped exams) and recently i got to know from a teacher that her mother said he has stopped eating, doesn't talk to anyone etc so i decided to check up on him and then he told me everything and it felt like he is suffering from depression. he even said these days he sometimes even think of su! cide. i started talking to him cuz i dont want to leave him alone in this hard time but then if i keep talking to him i will never move on and due to that my mental health is getting lower and lower. what should i do?
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Zachary
As someone with depression and anxiety, this video got me choked up thinking about the ONE time someone reached out notably.
I was having a long streak of MAJOR depressed mood (I think about 15 days at the time; it comes and goes) and one of my friends picked up on it and drove over to my house randomly and we went to the park to walk and hang out; found out later that her sensing the change in my mood was the reason and she wanted to be there for me. I think that was the first time she ever saw me bawl my fckin' eyes out; it was so INDESCRIBABLY relieving that I think I may have reverse-aged for a moment.
People with depression may have more resistance when you try and get closer to them, but you'll find SO much appreciation and dedication on the other side if you make the effort, I can guarantee it.
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As someone with depression and anxiety, this video got me choked up thinking about the ONE time someone reached out notably.
I was having a long streak of MAJOR depressed mood (I think about 15 days at the time; it comes and goes) and one of my friends picked up on it and drove over to my house randomly and we went to the park to walk and hang out; found out later that her sensing the change in my mood was the reason and she wanted to be there for me. I think that was the first time she ever saw me bawl my fckin' eyes out; it was so INDESCRIBABLY relieving that I think I may have reverse-aged for a moment.
People with depression may have more resistance when you try and get closer to them, but you'll find SO much appreciation and dedication on the other side if you make the effort, I can guarantee it.
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[777]Lance
Love is Patient and Kind. Love is not easily angered, Love is not Rude
or being mean to others.
Love does not Envy or Boast.
Love is Humble, Love is not
Prideful or being Arrogant.
Love is Merciful, Love always forgives.
Love is Compassionate, and always Cares for others need and always Cares to help.
Love is Understanding, it does not Judge
others Lives, or being Judgemental.
Love is Gentle, Love is not Harsh, or cruel.
Love is Generous, Love is not selfish or greedy.
Love is Faithful, Love never gives up and
never loses Faith. Love is always Hopeful, it never gives in to despair. Love endures through every circumstance(1 Corinthians 13: 4-7)
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Love is Patient and Kind. Love is not easily angered, Love is not Rude
or being mean to others.
Love does not Envy or Boast.
Love is Humble, Love is not
Prideful or being Arrogant.
Love is Merciful, Love always forgives.
Love is Compassionate, and always Cares for others need and always Cares to help.
Love is Understanding, it does not Judge
others Lives, or being Judgemental.
Love is Gentle, Love is not Harsh, or cruel.
Love is Generous, Love is not selfish or greedy.
Love is Faithful, Love never gives up and
never loses Faith. Love is always Hopeful, it never gives in to despair. Love endures through every circumstance(1 Corinthians 13: 4-7)
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Zachary
1: 34 A battle we wake up and fight everyday, only to awaken the next morning and learn that despite it's defeat, the monster refuses to die. We beat it over and over and over still more, but it gets back up just as easily as we do. And while it can lose infinitely, all it could take is one loss at just the wrong time to end a life.
2: 53 I personally believed this to be a trait born from my upbringing. Lying about doing something wrong in my house generally is punished far more severely then the wrongdoing itself. And so I grew up to believe that lying to someone to make them feel better was more disrespectful than telling them the painful truth.
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1: 34 A battle we wake up and fight everyday, only to awaken the next morning and learn that despite it's defeat, the monster refuses to die. We beat it over and over and over still more, but it gets back up just as easily as we do. And while it can lose infinitely, all it could take is one loss at just the wrong time to end a life.
2: 53 I personally believed this to be a trait born from my upbringing. Lying about doing something wrong in my house generally is punished far more severely then the wrongdoing itself. And so I grew up to believe that lying to someone to make them feel better was more disrespectful than telling them the painful truth.
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KenRussellsBoy
My partner has left me during a serious bout of depression. I feel worthless because of it. It was too much for him and he was suffering because of it. I understand that he wanted to take care of himself first. That's what you're supposed to do I guess. I've always put my love for others before myself. I thought that was the whole point of love. Loving someone more than yourself, being selfless and sticking by them through thick and thin. It's nice to know that there are maybe reasons to love us when I feel so incredibly unlovable and there's a lot of advice out there saying to run away from people like us. I don't even feel human anymore.
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My partner has left me during a serious bout of depression. I feel worthless because of it. It was too much for him and he was suffering because of it. I understand that he wanted to take care of himself first. That's what you're supposed to do I guess. I've always put my love for others before myself. I thought that was the whole point of love. Loving someone more than yourself, being selfless and sticking by them through thick and thin. It's nice to know that there are maybe reasons to love us when I feel so incredibly unlovable and there's a lot of advice out there saying to run away from people like us. I don't even feel human anymore.
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Daniela
I love my boyfriend, he has depression and anxiety. we have known each other for 2 years and he has been putting a big wall since day one. He always ends up canceling me about me going to visit him or things like that and I just don't know what to do because I love him but at the same time it's painful to be with someone who i just don't feel aprreciate most of the times. He has ask me for a break recently, then we get back together and again he has isolated himself and do not want to see me. And I have try so hard and so many times to make this work but idk if its better to walk away.
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I love my boyfriend, he has depression and anxiety. we have known each other for 2 years and he has been putting a big wall since day one. He always ends up canceling me about me going to visit him or things like that and I just don't know what to do because I love him but at the same time it's painful to be with someone who i just don't feel aprreciate most of the times. He has ask me for a break recently, then we get back together and again he has isolated himself and do not want to see me. And I have try so hard and so many times to make this work but idk if its better to walk away.
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Chris
I was married to someone with anxiety and depression. Divorcing them was the best decision that I ever made. I am infinitely happier and dont have to deal with any of their nonsense. Of course she is still miserable; oh well. The most important thing is that we/she didnt pass on her anxiety to children. If you have anxiety PLEASE do not reproduce. Children deserve to be happy and shouldnt be saddled with their parents issues. Having children WILL NOT fix your anxiety or make you happy. If anything youll just be more miserable.
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I was married to someone with anxiety and depression. Divorcing them was the best decision that I ever made. I am infinitely happier and dont have to deal with any of their nonsense. Of course she is still miserable; oh well. The most important thing is that we/she didnt pass on her anxiety to children. If you have anxiety PLEASE do not reproduce. Children deserve to be happy and shouldnt be saddled with their parents issues. Having children WILL NOT fix your anxiety or make you happy. If anything youll just be more miserable.
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Olesya
Okay, all this is nice BUT. It is only true if they loved you at least at some point OR if they really commit first. Otherwise, the only reason to fall in love with someone with depression is to get your heart broken and walked over when they first are flattered by your attention, then do not have the heart to refuse the attention of the only person who is stubborn enough to tolerate them in all the dark glory and THEN, when they get better, they will finally tell you you are 'just a friend'.
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Okay, all this is nice BUT. It is only true if they loved you at least at some point OR if they really commit first. Otherwise, the only reason to fall in love with someone with depression is to get your heart broken and walked over when they first are flattered by your attention, then do not have the heart to refuse the attention of the only person who is stubborn enough to tolerate them in all the dark glory and THEN, when they get better, they will finally tell you you are 'just a friend'.
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Snegha
None around me understand what it is to be depressed. They ask me. why are you like this? What is making you sad? Is there any problem? Don't overthink. Do something else.
Little did they know that I am not thinking in the first place. There is no precise problem. I just feel what I feel. How do I explain the void, the emptiness I have within me?
I have ppl with who I can talk and share things. But none to understand what I really feel. Not my own parents.
I am all alone.
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None around me understand what it is to be depressed. They ask me. why are you like this? What is making you sad? Is there any problem? Don't overthink. Do something else.
Little did they know that I am not thinking in the first place. There is no precise problem. I just feel what I feel. How do I explain the void, the emptiness I have within me?
I have ppl with who I can talk and share things. But none to understand what I really feel. Not my own parents.
I am all alone.
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Tara's
There may need to be more added to this message. Often times, people suffering from depression aren't able to be equally there for a romantic partner, especially chronic depression. It should probably be noted that if you feel this way with your partner, they may truly need time and space to work on learning to love themselves first before trying to love someone else. I hesitate to say this because I know that it's not simple, but someone with more knowledge can certainly elaborate
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There may need to be more added to this message. Often times, people suffering from depression aren't able to be equally there for a romantic partner, especially chronic depression. It should probably be noted that if you feel this way with your partner, they may truly need time and space to work on learning to love themselves first before trying to love someone else. I hesitate to say this because I know that it's not simple, but someone with more knowledge can certainly elaborate
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Sheree
i have depression, and i'm very grateful for everything my boyfriend does for me. he supports me in everything i do and he puts in lots of effort to make me feel better. i love him so dearly, i wish to become better soon so he wouldn't have to see me in pain. i want to repay his love and kindness tenfold and more. he is the most understanding person ever, i hope everyone has someone like him in their lives. i'm so lucky to have him honestly.
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i have depression, and i'm very grateful for everything my boyfriend does for me. he supports me in everything i do and he puts in lots of effort to make me feel better. i love him so dearly, i wish to become better soon so he wouldn't have to see me in pain. i want to repay his love and kindness tenfold and more. he is the most understanding person ever, i hope everyone has someone like him in their lives. i'm so lucky to have him honestly.
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Elizabeth
Although these 7 reasons may be true, my only reason for being there for others is because I love them and support them. Everyone reading comments, please know you are loved and please hang in there, it all gets better I promise. Hang in there for yourself, if not, do it for me. You deserve all the love in the world so please accept this comment. You are not alone.
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Although these 7 reasons may be true, my only reason for being there for others is because I love them and support them. Everyone reading comments, please know you are loved and please hang in there, it all gets better I promise. Hang in there for yourself, if not, do it for me. You deserve all the love in the world so please accept this comment. You are not alone.
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Rupesh
I use to be and still are A ranking student and still are but when she enter in my life I try to support whatever I can till every phase though i haven't cross any limit (not even touching. I had given everything but I try losing my self I try to control my self as well and didn't stop at all but my A ranking disturb but i will make it again
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I use to be and still are A ranking student and still are but when she enter in my life I try to support whatever I can till every phase though i haven't cross any limit (not even touching. I had given everything but I try losing my self I try to control my self as well and didn't stop at all but my A ranking disturb but i will make it again
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eileen
when someone has depression, please listen and don't just look the other way. love them and support them. like in the video, we're stronger than most because we're battling an internal battle every single day of our lives. don't invalidate us. we want to be loved. we want to be cared for. and most importantly, we want to be understood.
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when someone has depression, please listen and don't just look the other way. love them and support them. like in the video, we're stronger than most because we're battling an internal battle every single day of our lives. don't invalidate us. we want to be loved. we want to be cared for. and most importantly, we want to be understood.
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Keven
can someone help me out, i was in a long distance relationship, but my partner ultimately decided that he wanted to end things and isolate himself from the world because him and his family are going through a very tough time, i still want to be there for him, and show that i care, but how can i when its long distance?
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can someone help me out, i was in a long distance relationship, but my partner ultimately decided that he wanted to end things and isolate himself from the world because him and his family are going through a very tough time, i still want to be there for him, and show that i care, but how can i when its long distance?
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Evita
I live in Washington and I was once involuntarily committed. The cops came and put handcuffs and shackles on me during transport and I broke down and cried. Then my boyfriend came and followed me, convincing the cops to let him in and handcuff him too to support me. We married a year later.
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I live in Washington and I was once involuntarily committed. The cops came and put handcuffs and shackles on me during transport and I broke down and cried. Then my boyfriend came and followed me, convincing the cops to let him in and handcuff him too to support me. We married a year later.
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Fleurette
Winning On Social Media but Losing in Real-life will never be a vibe to me. After 6month of breakup with my ex, I became so sad and depressed but after contacting #Drwiseone my lost relationship was restored and partner came back begging for forgiveness
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Winning On Social Media but Losing in Real-life will never be a vibe to me. After 6month of breakup with my ex, I became so sad and depressed but after contacting #Drwiseone my lost relationship was restored and partner came back begging for forgiveness
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Ana
My boyfriend recently broke up with me because hes depressed. He said he wants to be happy first and not rely on my happiness. Were friends now and he always thinks he bothers me with his stuff but every time we talk I always tell him he can tell me anything.
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My boyfriend recently broke up with me because hes depressed. He said he wants to be happy first and not rely on my happiness. Were friends now and he always thinks he bothers me with his stuff but every time we talk I always tell him he can tell me anything.
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Pulkan
yes but, they never wanna meet anyone but you, never wanna go outside to the beach or anything, never wanna meet you family, dont even wanna eat together, thats extreme depression and i cant live with a person who never want to do anything that i want to
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yes but, they never wanna meet anyone but you, never wanna go outside to the beach or anything, never wanna meet you family, dont even wanna eat together, thats extreme depression and i cant live with a person who never want to do anything that i want to
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Waynetech10
Support. That's almost laughable, at this point. People love to compound the issue, blaming you, for not thinking positively, and bringing them down. There's no support, around here. I can relate to the strength, because I do this alone, every day.
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Support. That's almost laughable, at this point. People love to compound the issue, blaming you, for not thinking positively, and bringing them down. There's no support, around here. I can relate to the strength, because I do this alone, every day.
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AliGD
Still after this i feel like i will never brake the wall and im just trying to brake it too long like i missing so much from life just trying to help my bff who i think has depression and when i need mental help she usually don't really care
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Still after this i feel like i will never brake the wall and im just trying to brake it too long like i missing so much from life just trying to help my bff who i think has depression and when i need mental help she usually don't really care
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