8 Things That Make a Highly Sensitive Person Hard To Love
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Date: 2023-08-20
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Lavica
My biggest problem is managing conflict constructivelymy emotions, awareness of potential lies and efforts to be agreeable build until I can no longer maintain my composure. Then, I come across as unstable and unreliable which is so not me - I go to the ends of the earth to be both stable and reliable for others. When the conflict episode ends, I feel guilty and go into seclusion, reliving the confrontation repeatedly mostly seeing only my errors in the exchange. It is exhausting to be an hsp / empath and I embarrassed to be this insecure with myself at my age (57. I need to see these videos, particularly the ones that bring my attention to how others really perceive individuals like myself. Thank you Psych2Go!
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My biggest problem is managing conflict constructivelymy emotions, awareness of potential lies and efforts to be agreeable build until I can no longer maintain my composure. Then, I come across as unstable and unreliable which is so not me - I go to the ends of the earth to be both stable and reliable for others. When the conflict episode ends, I feel guilty and go into seclusion, reliving the confrontation repeatedly mostly seeing only my errors in the exchange. It is exhausting to be an hsp / empath and I embarrassed to be this insecure with myself at my age (57. I need to see these videos, particularly the ones that bring my attention to how others really perceive individuals like myself. Thank you Psych2Go!
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Nipuna
Sometimes it feels like I'm an alien, trying to explain how I feel leads to the others misinterpreting it, trying to explain how what they thought I thought was a misinterpretation leads to them saying you couldn't possibly have thought that, or them saying ok ok but inside I could tell they don't believe me and think I'm being disingenuous.
sometimes I suffer so much mentally trying to keep myself from nagging someone about what's wrong every time I intuit that they're feeling bad because of something, and then I get called uncaring because in the process of holding myself back, I'd held myself back too much, and all the suffering I went through, turns out, was entirely invisible to them.
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Sometimes it feels like I'm an alien, trying to explain how I feel leads to the others misinterpreting it, trying to explain how what they thought I thought was a misinterpretation leads to them saying you couldn't possibly have thought that, or them saying ok ok but inside I could tell they don't believe me and think I'm being disingenuous.
sometimes I suffer so much mentally trying to keep myself from nagging someone about what's wrong every time I intuit that they're feeling bad because of something, and then I get called uncaring because in the process of holding myself back, I'd held myself back too much, and all the suffering I went through, turns out, was entirely invisible to them.
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Kitty
Once upon a time there is a very intelligent boy who found an old lady by chance, he found her very interesting so he wanted to get to know her what type of person she is, so he did some childish tests on her. He drafted n directed a few characters like a movie n forced her to play in it. The script he wrote did not go as planned n it backfired. Did he get hurt I don't know. But he is the last character in the script to appear again in the end. I cannot understand why the new generation cannot just go face to face in relationships that is so direct and genuine. In our older days this kind of love game is considered absurd.
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Once upon a time there is a very intelligent boy who found an old lady by chance, he found her very interesting so he wanted to get to know her what type of person she is, so he did some childish tests on her. He drafted n directed a few characters like a movie n forced her to play in it. The script he wrote did not go as planned n it backfired. Did he get hurt I don't know. But he is the last character in the script to appear again in the end. I cannot understand why the new generation cannot just go face to face in relationships that is so direct and genuine. In our older days this kind of love game is considered absurd.
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Jasmine
I'm really glad my therapist share this video with me. I feel like my boyfriend has no emotions but that's probably only because I have too many. I want to talk to him about everything but sometimes he just needs time or just to ignore it. If he doesn't understand my emotions it makes me feel neglected. If somebody that I care about is feeling emotional, I start crying. People often think there's something wrong with me when this is just part of who I am. My partner is always think that I'm freaking out or exaggerating or even being a psycho. But if I don't feel loved at all times, I feel worthless
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I'm really glad my therapist share this video with me. I feel like my boyfriend has no emotions but that's probably only because I have too many. I want to talk to him about everything but sometimes he just needs time or just to ignore it. If he doesn't understand my emotions it makes me feel neglected. If somebody that I care about is feeling emotional, I start crying. People often think there's something wrong with me when this is just part of who I am. My partner is always think that I'm freaking out or exaggerating or even being a psycho. But if I don't feel loved at all times, I feel worthless
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Kitty
I have mistaken the first old bro, the second black shirt n pant bro as you the real bro. I hurt them just to play in your movie n soulmate as well. Now all these characters are gone. Can we please give this movie a beautiful ending? You said I passed loyalty test. I did not slip back just that I am doing things the way I think is right and in my way. In the older days people think and do things the way I did. Society changed humans changed they no longer live like our great grandfather. The new generations just cannot understand because they are brought up in a different way.
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I have mistaken the first old bro, the second black shirt n pant bro as you the real bro. I hurt them just to play in your movie n soulmate as well. Now all these characters are gone. Can we please give this movie a beautiful ending? You said I passed loyalty test. I did not slip back just that I am doing things the way I think is right and in my way. In the older days people think and do things the way I did. Society changed humans changed they no longer live like our great grandfather. The new generations just cannot understand because they are brought up in a different way.
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Darkseid
Yeah not for me anymore, the worst thing is there is a higher chance that non sensitive people have to adapt to the other more than vice versa. But I am beyond tired of walking on eggshells, if one has to be careful of even doing unintentional things or saying unintentional things that either pisses them off or sets them into a sad spiral of lingering thoughts that you know is not an issue for normal people then that is not normal no matter how much some want to normalise it.
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Yeah not for me anymore, the worst thing is there is a higher chance that non sensitive people have to adapt to the other more than vice versa. But I am beyond tired of walking on eggshells, if one has to be careful of even doing unintentional things or saying unintentional things that either pisses them off or sets them into a sad spiral of lingering thoughts that you know is not an issue for normal people then that is not normal no matter how much some want to normalise it.
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XAHИЛЛО
This is not entirely true! I am a very sensitive person, in the positive way and maybe in the negative way, but I have much more positive sensibility than negative sensibility. For example, I consider sensitivity and human warmth sacred. And let me tell this humbly, every person i know, loves me. I am saying this with the utmost humility since many people also can be loved by everyone and I am an extremely sensitive person concerning warm feelings and love.
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This is not entirely true! I am a very sensitive person, in the positive way and maybe in the negative way, but I have much more positive sensibility than negative sensibility. For example, I consider sensitivity and human warmth sacred. And let me tell this humbly, every person i know, loves me. I am saying this with the utmost humility since many people also can be loved by everyone and I am an extremely sensitive person concerning warm feelings and love.
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Kitty
Life can be so simple and happy why made it so complicating n tiring. Maybe that's the down side of what we call advance technology. Is it not better to be more in touch with someone like healthy communications physically then hiding behind the scene. We need to be strong n thick skin at times to handle rejection. This is how I see the whole scenario for these past few months I spent with your members. Real or fake time to draw down the curtain.
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Life can be so simple and happy why made it so complicating n tiring. Maybe that's the down side of what we call advance technology. Is it not better to be more in touch with someone like healthy communications physically then hiding behind the scene. We need to be strong n thick skin at times to handle rejection. This is how I see the whole scenario for these past few months I spent with your members. Real or fake time to draw down the curtain.
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In-Justice
I found most of this true except not being able to speak out. Bc after a lifetime of being seen but not heard I learnt to speak up. Now I wont tolerate others ignoring me, talking down to me, speaking AT me, or being disrespectful. To the point I can, and will be very aggressive if I have to be. Its my new survival mechanism that I learnt bc so many others abused, or exploited my quiet, kind, loving nature.
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I found most of this true except not being able to speak out. Bc after a lifetime of being seen but not heard I learnt to speak up. Now I wont tolerate others ignoring me, talking down to me, speaking AT me, or being disrespectful. To the point I can, and will be very aggressive if I have to be. Its my new survival mechanism that I learnt bc so many others abused, or exploited my quiet, kind, loving nature.
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LightfulWings
I'm an ENFJ but I feel like I have a bit of HSP because I am easily emotional, can overthink a bit sometimes, and I don't like conflict at all. My bf is an INFJ he can sense a deep understanding of my personality and we both have that way where we take things steady and we are there to support one another. If you have hsp, there could be that someone you meet in the future that will understand you.
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I'm an ENFJ but I feel like I have a bit of HSP because I am easily emotional, can overthink a bit sometimes, and I don't like conflict at all. My bf is an INFJ he can sense a deep understanding of my personality and we both have that way where we take things steady and we are there to support one another. If you have hsp, there could be that someone you meet in the future that will understand you.
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Brigette
What was youre wussy-est moment?
I think I mightve just had a pretty wussy moment. I started crying because my Mom said that she saw a text saying that the boy I like was crying because he couldnt do something for two people he said he gonna do.
I literally cant imagine him crying and it makes me so sad to think of it, especially since I cant help him since yknow Im not physically there.
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What was youre wussy-est moment?
I think I mightve just had a pretty wussy moment. I started crying because my Mom said that she saw a text saying that the boy I like was crying because he couldnt do something for two people he said he gonna do.
I literally cant imagine him crying and it makes me so sad to think of it, especially since I cant help him since yknow Im not physically there.
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Arngeleia
Literally just had a breakdown yesterday asking the universe why is it so hard for people to love me the way I want to be loved? so this video popping up on my feed was obviously a sign for me to listen. Yes, these may all be true, but I wont settle for half love anymore. Ill wait for someone who is willing to put in the effort to love me, until then Ill give that love and devotion to myself!
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Literally just had a breakdown yesterday asking the universe why is it so hard for people to love me the way I want to be loved? so this video popping up on my feed was obviously a sign for me to listen. Yes, these may all be true, but I wont settle for half love anymore. Ill wait for someone who is willing to put in the effort to love me, until then Ill give that love and devotion to myself!
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loogie
35 years old and changing career, I'm hsp, I'm sure I have add and introverted. I'm a big dude with tattoos all over and being misunderstood everyday. I'm highly empathetic but crappy people I've met have caused me to suppress it. If I can't make it as a front end dev I will get special licenses for specialised vehicles as bulldozers and demolition. I'm done let me be Ferdinand the bull.
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35 years old and changing career, I'm hsp, I'm sure I have add and introverted. I'm a big dude with tattoos all over and being misunderstood everyday. I'm highly empathetic but crappy people I've met have caused me to suppress it. If I can't make it as a front end dev I will get special licenses for specialised vehicles as bulldozers and demolition. I'm done let me be Ferdinand the bull.
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Hawthorn
Um or find someone who loves you for your HSPness. Anyone worth your time will accept you as you are. Relationships can be hard for everyone, HSP or not, and being with someone who doesnt accept us makes it that much harder. My husband loves my sensitivity and is incredibly understanding. There are people out there who will love you, HSP traits and all.
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Um or find someone who loves you for your HSPness. Anyone worth your time will accept you as you are. Relationships can be hard for everyone, HSP or not, and being with someone who doesnt accept us makes it that much harder. My husband loves my sensitivity and is incredibly understanding. There are people out there who will love you, HSP traits and all.
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Jakestream
My wife and I have both been accused of being too sensitive enough times that I made a video about it! And started watching videos like this. I didnt even know their was such a classification of HSP until very recently. I think it is dangerous to blame too much emphasis on someone being an HSP because it may just a few steps away from gaslighting.
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My wife and I have both been accused of being too sensitive enough times that I made a video about it! And started watching videos like this. I didnt even know their was such a classification of HSP until very recently. I think it is dangerous to blame too much emphasis on someone being an HSP because it may just a few steps away from gaslighting.
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education
I often feel that I have too many emotions and that my feelings run too deep even in situations where such deep emotions are uncalled for. For instance, even with those friends with whom we generally keep it light, I get deep emotions that feel misplaced and inappropriate because the general vibe is so light-hearted and joyful.
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I often feel that I have too many emotions and that my feelings run too deep even in situations where such deep emotions are uncalled for. For instance, even with those friends with whom we generally keep it light, I get deep emotions that feel misplaced and inappropriate because the general vibe is so light-hearted and joyful.
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MrReddington
Jeez this perfectly describes the person Ive been dating for almost two months. I dont think I can handle it because every little thing she becomes overly emotional and now is taking a couple of days to herself after me telling her Id like to see and talk to her more. Ugh. Time to dump her.
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Jeez this perfectly describes the person Ive been dating for almost two months. I dont think I can handle it because every little thing she becomes overly emotional and now is taking a couple of days to herself after me telling her Id like to see and talk to her more. Ugh. Time to dump her.
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Sam
Fyi, not all hsps are introverts which this sort of made it seem. Also, being an hsp doesnt give you the right to be rude and ignore people. Being completely against conflict is also not a clear indicator of hsp. So, I found this interesting but it bothered me for its inaccuracies.
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Fyi, not all hsps are introverts which this sort of made it seem. Also, being an hsp doesnt give you the right to be rude and ignore people. Being completely against conflict is also not a clear indicator of hsp. So, I found this interesting but it bothered me for its inaccuracies.
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Mappster
I think I need a HSP girlfriend in my life. That would be perfect, i mean. at least these girls can Truly love, unlike most girls who just aim to take advantage of a relationship. what HSP needs is a partner with high emotional intelligence, and boom we have a perfect match.
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I think I need a HSP girlfriend in my life. That would be perfect, i mean. at least these girls can Truly love, unlike most girls who just aim to take advantage of a relationship. what HSP needs is a partner with high emotional intelligence, and boom we have a perfect match.
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JimmyPlayZ
I kinda have a problem with accepting that others don't do what I do. Like, I have to put effort into relationships, be they platonic or not, and others just don't put the amount of care into thinking about their next actions, waging possibilities. It kinda feels unfair.
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I kinda have a problem with accepting that others don't do what I do. Like, I have to put effort into relationships, be they platonic or not, and others just don't put the amount of care into thinking about their next actions, waging possibilities. It kinda feels unfair.
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Otaku
this is gonna upset some ppl and frankly i dont care. Sometimes you are being too sensitive its not everyone around yous job to make sure your feeling arent getting hurt when its so eady for them to be hurt and its toxic too i will not baby nor coddle any adult person
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this is gonna upset some ppl and frankly i dont care. Sometimes you are being too sensitive its not everyone around yous job to make sure your feeling arent getting hurt when its so eady for them to be hurt and its toxic too i will not baby nor coddle any adult person
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Kitty
If I had offered some powerful Spirtual masters, I take this chance to apologize sincerely I never intended to show off or snatch your limelight. I just thought to share. I am sorry by my action I upset so many of you. I am just an ordinary person with no speciality.
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If I had offered some powerful Spirtual masters, I take this chance to apologize sincerely I never intended to show off or snatch your limelight. I just thought to share. I am sorry by my action I upset so many of you. I am just an ordinary person with no speciality.
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AsianBoy
My girlfriend and I broke up because of her being too sensitive.
one time when we were chatting online, I just stated that girls look better with shorter eyelashes
and she literally wrote a paragraph about me being insensitive.
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My girlfriend and I broke up because of her being too sensitive.
one time when we were chatting online, I just stated that girls look better with shorter eyelashes
and she literally wrote a paragraph about me being insensitive.
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June
The title doesnt bother me because even though I am a very intense HSP, my feelings dont get hurt easily. And yes we can be hard to be in a relationship with - thats just the truth. The HSPness weeds out the unworthy people though.
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The title doesnt bother me because even though I am a very intense HSP, my feelings dont get hurt easily. And yes we can be hard to be in a relationship with - thats just the truth. The HSPness weeds out the unworthy people though.
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Elizabeth
I relate to all of this, other than I pick a couple people to vent all of my interpersonal frustrations to. I do take sides and I do criticize people instead of completely internalizing it. I have to, or I drive myself crazy.
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I relate to all of this, other than I pick a couple people to vent all of my interpersonal frustrations to. I do take sides and I do criticize people instead of completely internalizing it. I have to, or I drive myself crazy.
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