7 Toxic Things Parents Do To Their Children
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Date: 2023-08-20
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Michael
over controlling--my step father was EXTREMELY controlling. He tried to control the things I did, what I said, how I said it, what I would like, what my opinions would be, how I sat, stood, walked, what my religious beliefs were. every aspect of who I was he tried to control
disregarding boundaries--my parents frequently went through my things and read my journals. I wasn't allowed to close the door to my room. I wasn't allowed to speak to my siblings without my parents present
too critical--critical is putting it mildly. My step father was not only violent and physically abusive, but way beyond critical. He would say things specifically to hurt me. He would tell me I was ugly and that women would never like me and that I was lazy and entitled. I was a straight A student, but any mark below 90 on anything and I was in trouble. I was always considered a disappointment because I wasn't good at sports.
refuse to understand the child's perspective--my parents are unable to see anything from anyone else's perspective. Everything is about them. Their opinions are objective facts. Everyone else's opinions are objectively wrong.
manipulate you without knowing it--I almost never had more than $1 in my pocket growing up which was for school lunch. I never got an allowance. Any money I got for my birthday or graduation or anything was taken from me. I wasn't allowed to get a paying job even in high school. I wasn't allowed to learn to drive. I had to work with my step father doing hard manual labor that was age inappropriate and he never paid me. He abused me on the job all the time.
silent treatment--I never got the silent treatment. I was constantly screamed at and berated
give into your every demand--I wouldn't even dream of making a demand
it took therapy in my 20s to even realize this was abuse. Only now at age 44 did I finally end my relationship with these toxic people. They of course have consistently played the victims of their ungrateful, rotten children who hurt them so badly by existing. I have to say, when the abuser isn't even your real father, it adds another layer to it.
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over controlling--my step father was EXTREMELY controlling. He tried to control the things I did, what I said, how I said it, what I would like, what my opinions would be, how I sat, stood, walked, what my religious beliefs were. every aspect of who I was he tried to control
disregarding boundaries--my parents frequently went through my things and read my journals. I wasn't allowed to close the door to my room. I wasn't allowed to speak to my siblings without my parents present
too critical--critical is putting it mildly. My step father was not only violent and physically abusive, but way beyond critical. He would say things specifically to hurt me. He would tell me I was ugly and that women would never like me and that I was lazy and entitled. I was a straight A student, but any mark below 90 on anything and I was in trouble. I was always considered a disappointment because I wasn't good at sports.
refuse to understand the child's perspective--my parents are unable to see anything from anyone else's perspective. Everything is about them. Their opinions are objective facts. Everyone else's opinions are objectively wrong.
manipulate you without knowing it--I almost never had more than $1 in my pocket growing up which was for school lunch. I never got an allowance. Any money I got for my birthday or graduation or anything was taken from me. I wasn't allowed to get a paying job even in high school. I wasn't allowed to learn to drive. I had to work with my step father doing hard manual labor that was age inappropriate and he never paid me. He abused me on the job all the time.
silent treatment--I never got the silent treatment. I was constantly screamed at and berated
give into your every demand--I wouldn't even dream of making a demand
it took therapy in my 20s to even realize this was abuse. Only now at age 44 did I finally end my relationship with these toxic people. They of course have consistently played the victims of their ungrateful, rotten children who hurt them so badly by existing. I have to say, when the abuser isn't even your real father, it adds another layer to it.
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FloatingToa5t
My girlfriends mom is one of the most overbearing parents I've seen. To the point where my girlfriend always has her phone in her hand Incase her mom texts her. Her mom is always tracking location and it's quite invasive. We went on a short hike at a lake nearby where we live. Not very strong connection so sometimes it cuts out. Within minutes of it coming back on she gets spammed by loaded texts asking where she is.
She likes to plan things OVER my gf's Known plans. We'll have a date planned for a while and her mom will know about it. Then, the day before she'll sign her up for a random fitness class right when the date was planned because it builds character to do things you don't want to. Ya know it also builds character to have independence? (Whaaaat, that's crazy. She's barely let to go out, maximum 2-3 times a week. especially with me. and constantly gives excuses like, you went out yesterday or you've socialed enough this week.
It's been this constantly since we've started dating and it's been a serious topic of discussion many times. Each time, she always says that her mom knows best and she completely trusts her to run her social life even though she's not allowed to even have group chats with her/our friends.
She knows every single on of my gf's passwords and constantly checks her browsing and phone history. Still tho, my gf just lets it happen, never stands up for herself. I've tried to talk to her mom about it but she just shrugs it off because mother knows best.
One of the worst parts is that while my gf goes to therapy, her mom completely disrespects her privacy and is practically completely involved in everything she talks about. BUT she never lets her speak her feelings without getting into a fight about it. Only child parents man.
My girlfriend is 18.
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My girlfriends mom is one of the most overbearing parents I've seen. To the point where my girlfriend always has her phone in her hand Incase her mom texts her. Her mom is always tracking location and it's quite invasive. We went on a short hike at a lake nearby where we live. Not very strong connection so sometimes it cuts out. Within minutes of it coming back on she gets spammed by loaded texts asking where she is.
She likes to plan things OVER my gf's Known plans. We'll have a date planned for a while and her mom will know about it. Then, the day before she'll sign her up for a random fitness class right when the date was planned because it builds character to do things you don't want to. Ya know it also builds character to have independence? (Whaaaat, that's crazy. She's barely let to go out, maximum 2-3 times a week. especially with me. and constantly gives excuses like, you went out yesterday or you've socialed enough this week.
It's been this constantly since we've started dating and it's been a serious topic of discussion many times. Each time, she always says that her mom knows best and she completely trusts her to run her social life even though she's not allowed to even have group chats with her/our friends.
She knows every single on of my gf's passwords and constantly checks her browsing and phone history. Still tho, my gf just lets it happen, never stands up for herself. I've tried to talk to her mom about it but she just shrugs it off because mother knows best.
One of the worst parts is that while my gf goes to therapy, her mom completely disrespects her privacy and is practically completely involved in everything she talks about. BUT she never lets her speak her feelings without getting into a fight about it. Only child parents man.
My girlfriend is 18.
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nostalgia
I've gotten scared to use my devices freely anywhere because my parents (especially my dad) always seem to try being nosy and look what I'm doing, which is stuff I usually don't want them to see because its personal (just like literally everything on any of my devices) or its something that I know they'll hurt me for.
Even when I try to vent/open up to someone they ask what I'm doing. And I try to refuse but they keep insisting and when I explain myself they say things like you don't get to talk to your friends right now and oh well why not just vent to us about your problems? parents, you ARE my problem.
and they then continue to say that I shouldn't have a problem with them or shouldn't vent or rant about them because they're my parents and they deserve every ounce of my respect for raising me. well guess what if you maybe raised me like any good parent is supposed to maybe I wouldn't have to vent about you at all or maybe I would even trust you enough to vent to YOU about my problems. I don't.
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I've gotten scared to use my devices freely anywhere because my parents (especially my dad) always seem to try being nosy and look what I'm doing, which is stuff I usually don't want them to see because its personal (just like literally everything on any of my devices) or its something that I know they'll hurt me for.
Even when I try to vent/open up to someone they ask what I'm doing. And I try to refuse but they keep insisting and when I explain myself they say things like you don't get to talk to your friends right now and oh well why not just vent to us about your problems? parents, you ARE my problem.
and they then continue to say that I shouldn't have a problem with them or shouldn't vent or rant about them because they're my parents and they deserve every ounce of my respect for raising me. well guess what if you maybe raised me like any good parent is supposed to maybe I wouldn't have to vent about you at all or maybe I would even trust you enough to vent to YOU about my problems. I don't.
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Sakura
i dont feel like i can be honest to my mother. i felt ignored after my brother was born, when i was two years old. i felt like i had to tell her something about it. when i was five, i told her that she acted like i didnt need her anymore, and she responded with i didnt. those two words stuck in my head for years, up until my teenage years. it made me feel like i had to live on my own and not tell her things because i thought she would react badly. when i started to attract toxic friends, i felt depressed. i felt like i had to be dishonest about it in case she said something like, you have to brush it off or you're overreacting. i kept lying because of two words she told me when i was five. i closed a window on her computer as she walked nearby and she started looking through my messages. she learned about how unhappy i was. she reacts badly to me being honest to her, but invades my privacy when i keep it from her.
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i dont feel like i can be honest to my mother. i felt ignored after my brother was born, when i was two years old. i felt like i had to tell her something about it. when i was five, i told her that she acted like i didnt need her anymore, and she responded with i didnt. those two words stuck in my head for years, up until my teenage years. it made me feel like i had to live on my own and not tell her things because i thought she would react badly. when i started to attract toxic friends, i felt depressed. i felt like i had to be dishonest about it in case she said something like, you have to brush it off or you're overreacting. i kept lying because of two words she told me when i was five. i closed a window on her computer as she walked nearby and she started looking through my messages. she learned about how unhappy i was. she reacts badly to me being honest to her, but invades my privacy when i keep it from her.
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The
I'm 23 and my mom and grandpa have been all over my back about taking online classes. And I decided that I wasn't going to do that. Even after my grandpa offered to pay for the first semester. Today my mom topm me to get my flu shot and she talked to me about this again and that really pissed me off. She told me to do that or get a job. And I told her I already have one. I'm gonna be a self published author. It's the only job that seems fit for me. It wont be easy but I think I can do it and make a living. But after that I was really in a bad mood. And now I'm paranoid that mom is gonna go and sign me up for classes behind my back. I love her and I appreciate that she and grandpa are concerned about me. Mom said I should take classes be sure it can make grandpa happy. But this is NOT about him. This is about ME. This is my life.
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I'm 23 and my mom and grandpa have been all over my back about taking online classes. And I decided that I wasn't going to do that. Even after my grandpa offered to pay for the first semester. Today my mom topm me to get my flu shot and she talked to me about this again and that really pissed me off. She told me to do that or get a job. And I told her I already have one. I'm gonna be a self published author. It's the only job that seems fit for me. It wont be easy but I think I can do it and make a living. But after that I was really in a bad mood. And now I'm paranoid that mom is gonna go and sign me up for classes behind my back. I love her and I appreciate that she and grandpa are concerned about me. Mom said I should take classes be sure it can make grandpa happy. But this is NOT about him. This is about ME. This is my life.
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Noah
Im glad to have a mom that actually respects my score on a test, I would get a 96% and tell my mom I got a B she would be so happy but she's only happy because A and B are the best grades and is disapointed when she see's a C on my report card. Messed up, would've been happy with the C if i were her. My dad gets mad when he see's only ONE C on my entire gradebook or too many B's literally fcking messed up, i dont usually swear but im so dam mad like wth? My dad always says You'll be a nurse in the future and take care of us when we're old and sick?
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Im glad to have a mom that actually respects my score on a test, I would get a 96% and tell my mom I got a B she would be so happy but she's only happy because A and B are the best grades and is disapointed when she see's a C on my report card. Messed up, would've been happy with the C if i were her. My dad gets mad when he see's only ONE C on my entire gradebook or too many B's literally fcking messed up, i dont usually swear but im so dam mad like wth? My dad always says You'll be a nurse in the future and take care of us when we're old and sick?
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Nomie
My dad is such an asshole, he is not toxic but he is overprotective and overcontrolling, even more at home. He often says things like I do everything for you and It's still my house, you do what I tell you to. and lots more of this shit. But I'm moving out by my mom's house soon. I won't see him so much anymore, which is good. It will take lots of courage to tell him that I don't want to live here anymore, but he can't force me as I'm +12(it's like that in my country. I'm just tired of this situation, anyways thanks for the video: )
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My dad is such an asshole, he is not toxic but he is overprotective and overcontrolling, even more at home. He often says things like I do everything for you and It's still my house, you do what I tell you to. and lots more of this shit. But I'm moving out by my mom's house soon. I won't see him so much anymore, which is good. It will take lots of courage to tell him that I don't want to live here anymore, but he can't force me as I'm +12(it's like that in my country. I'm just tired of this situation, anyways thanks for the video: )
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LightGirlXD
Me: i had 94/100
Parents: who is the highest?
Me: uh its _______
Parents: ______ is better than you! How could u be so low? You are gonna be 2nd now! ________ is gonna be better than you! You are a dissapointment
Me: i tried my best.
Parent: i DONT CARE YOU GONNA GET THAT SCORE UP OR NO __________
Me: how i cant.
Parent: I DONT CARE
(that is why i lie to my parents about my scores/grade, i also compete with each other alot because if i dont get the highest im gonna be scolded)
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Me: i had 94/100
Parents: who is the highest?
Me: uh its _______
Parents: ______ is better than you! How could u be so low? You are gonna be 2nd now! ________ is gonna be better than you! You are a dissapointment
Me: i tried my best.
Parent: i DONT CARE YOU GONNA GET THAT SCORE UP OR NO __________
Me: how i cant.
Parent: I DONT CARE
(that is why i lie to my parents about my scores/grade, i also compete with each other alot because if i dont get the highest im gonna be scolded)
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Insta
Me: Hey, mom. I feel sad, numb and don't want to do anything, but stare at the ceiling and not be seen by this world.
Mom: How dare you don't want to do anything while I do so much for you? How dare you feel sad without a reason?
Now she is surprised that I go to therapy and constantly warns me that the therapists does it only for the money and that the parents are the best listeners. Oh yeah, its also a ploy for the big corporations to feed us medications for something that can be fixed with sports.
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Me: Hey, mom. I feel sad, numb and don't want to do anything, but stare at the ceiling and not be seen by this world.
Mom: How dare you don't want to do anything while I do so much for you? How dare you feel sad without a reason?
Now she is surprised that I go to therapy and constantly warns me that the therapists does it only for the money and that the parents are the best listeners. Oh yeah, its also a ploy for the big corporations to feed us medications for something that can be fixed with sports.
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education
I know that this vid is two years old, but I just found the link in a recent article I read online. Anyway, my father was verbally, psychologically, and physically abusive. His actions he bestowed upon me have caused me to suffer from lifelong PTSD, depression, and becoming Bi-Polar. and topping it off with severe anxiety. It has been over ten years since we last spoke, which wasn't a pleasant experience, and I don't give a flip if I ever speak with him again.
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I know that this vid is two years old, but I just found the link in a recent article I read online. Anyway, my father was verbally, psychologically, and physically abusive. His actions he bestowed upon me have caused me to suffer from lifelong PTSD, depression, and becoming Bi-Polar. and topping it off with severe anxiety. It has been over ten years since we last spoke, which wasn't a pleasant experience, and I don't give a flip if I ever speak with him again.
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Ari
My mom forces me to interact with my narcissistic family member and when I try to avoid the interaction (because it honestly is difficult for me) she says that I enjoy fighting with her, then she stops talking to me and speaks to me in a very cold way. She also says I dont know how to be a hypocrite as if thats a bad thing. Praying for all of us with messed up parents. :(
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My mom forces me to interact with my narcissistic family member and when I try to avoid the interaction (because it honestly is difficult for me) she says that I enjoy fighting with her, then she stops talking to me and speaks to me in a very cold way. She also says I dont know how to be a hypocrite as if thats a bad thing. Praying for all of us with messed up parents. :(
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funslwr
i clicked this when i saw it because my parents are toxic.
i do have low self esteem.
my mom is overcontrolling sometimes
my parents used to scroll my phone every time i gave it to them. i had to change my screen lock because it was SOOO annoying seeing my mom scroll my online diary or my dad restarting my phone for the 5th time this year.
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i clicked this when i saw it because my parents are toxic.
i do have low self esteem.
my mom is overcontrolling sometimes
my parents used to scroll my phone every time i gave it to them. i had to change my screen lock because it was SOOO annoying seeing my mom scroll my online diary or my dad restarting my phone for the 5th time this year.
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Luna
Whenever my mother was upset for whatever reason with me, she would never refer to me by name. She would just say 'you' when speaking.
'You get up for school, you. '
'You do this/that. '
'You don't talk to me. '
And this would last for days before she would remember I had a name.
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Whenever my mother was upset for whatever reason with me, she would never refer to me by name. She would just say 'you' when speaking.
'You get up for school, you. '
'You do this/that. '
'You don't talk to me. '
And this would last for days before she would remember I had a name.
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Madam
Saying I have done so much for you its your job did we ask to be here NO so its your responsibility to take care of us like yeah also why yell? If you cant say something that means we dont care what you have to say tbh but still yell gonna make me and my siblings cry bc we have FEELINGS
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Saying I have done so much for you its your job did we ask to be here NO so its your responsibility to take care of us like yeah also why yell? If you cant say something that means we dont care what you have to say tbh but still yell gonna make me and my siblings cry bc we have FEELINGS
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Amyisbest!
My aunt i'm sorry if you see this cousin but she SPOILS my cousin any time she says I want this or I wanna go here! She'll go and she'll buy whatever I started liking it because I would get things to while I'm at my cousins house but now seeing this video its not really good.
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My aunt i'm sorry if you see this cousin but she SPOILS my cousin any time she says I want this or I wanna go here! She'll go and she'll buy whatever I started liking it because I would get things to while I'm at my cousins house but now seeing this video its not really good.
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Khiruji
Your forgot the most obvious thing
Some of them beat their child into submission. Atleast, thats what my mother used to do.
Edit: Found it in a different video from you. But please, better put that sign in every video. Its important for every child to know this is wrong.
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Your forgot the most obvious thing
Some of them beat their child into submission. Atleast, thats what my mother used to do.
Edit: Found it in a different video from you. But please, better put that sign in every video. Its important for every child to know this is wrong.
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gail
My parents had a toxic marriage. My father led his own life and had girlfriends and my mother
was unhappy and became neurotic. Between them I had a poor childhood and he eventually
left her for someone else and she took it out on me. My mom was horrible to me.
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My parents had a toxic marriage. My father led his own life and had girlfriends and my mother
was unhappy and became neurotic. Between them I had a poor childhood and he eventually
left her for someone else and she took it out on me. My mom was horrible to me.
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Minh
I felt guilty that I do everything in a reverse way with my mom's wants, but I felt sorry for myself if I couldn't fight for my independence and privacy. Mom said she is a good listener, but listening doesn't mean understanding and sympathizing.
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I felt guilty that I do everything in a reverse way with my mom's wants, but I felt sorry for myself if I couldn't fight for my independence and privacy. Mom said she is a good listener, but listening doesn't mean understanding and sympathizing.
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The
It's so strange -looking for videos on toxic children, yet all we get are toxic parents?
Some kids are just born evil. Messed up
When are the narcissistic little brats going to get over themselves?
They've never been parents.
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It's so strange -looking for videos on toxic children, yet all we get are toxic parents?
Some kids are just born evil. Messed up
When are the narcissistic little brats going to get over themselves?
They've never been parents.
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Omar
Growing up there is nothing my mom loved more than ignoring and not respecting my boundaries. And not recognizing boundaries is something I unfortunately internalized and have had to work really hard to unlearn
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Growing up there is nothing my mom loved more than ignoring and not respecting my boundaries. And not recognizing boundaries is something I unfortunately internalized and have had to work really hard to unlearn
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K. Embla
I can recognize my mom in almost every point the thing is how to react cause she told me she wont change and at the same time she please me with the words I needed to hear but I dont fully believe that.
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I can recognize my mom in almost every point the thing is how to react cause she told me she wont change and at the same time she please me with the words I needed to hear but I dont fully believe that.
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Sheri
Keep crying and I will give you something to cry about or cry again and I will beat your ass! You make me sick! You are a sorry excuse! Getting you was the biggest mistake we ever made (I was adopted)
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Keep crying and I will give you something to cry about or cry again and I will beat your ass! You make me sick! You are a sorry excuse! Getting you was the biggest mistake we ever made (I was adopted)
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Maria
Parent: Haven't I done so much for you?
Me: Uhh. you didnt help me with my homework that I always am stressing out and you are always leaving me alone with a Black eye that you dont even care!
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Parent: Haven't I done so much for you?
Me: Uhh. you didnt help me with my homework that I always am stressing out and you are always leaving me alone with a Black eye that you dont even care!
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Ururaka
Would It be considered toxic if a parent put an app on the kids phone and the app can control and allow the parent to see everything the kid does on the phone (if the kid is a teenager 15-18?
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Would It be considered toxic if a parent put an app on the kids phone and the app can control and allow the parent to see everything the kid does on the phone (if the kid is a teenager 15-18?
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ElkaTuber
would it be concerned a toxic thing if one of your parents says that you have to get an A on my math test even when i dont like math, im okay at it and i told them i tried my best
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would it be concerned a toxic thing if one of your parents says that you have to get an A on my math test even when i dont like math, im okay at it and i told them i tried my best
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