6 Things Unhealed Trauma Makes Us Do
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Date: 2023-08-20
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Ecenaz
I hate this. I went to a traumatic event I always have nightmare when I sleep I always get nightmares every day feels like surviving from someone that follows me when I go to school our teacher blames us because of a person did something from our class the teachers act like we are all bullies for being 8th grade there is a kindergarten next to our school and teachers act like we all will do something to them because we are older than them (or I feel guilt even tho they don't say that) I can't even focus to my classes and I always get around 60 in exams even in the easiest subjects and there is a big exam waiting for me If i don't make it too I will go to a bad high school next year and that will make me a lazy and bad student to my parents and I will feel like even more failure. Also the person who gave me these feeling in my same school too. I always feel anxious guilty and in danger. I even can't sleep of anxiety I am going to psychiatrist from OCD but I wanna tell my psychiatrist from what I've been gone throught. The psychiatrist said I was Fine from the others but I didn't even tell him about this. And If the psychiatrist askes me that If something happen in my past I say no because I'm too scared and feel guilty to tell
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I hate this. I went to a traumatic event I always have nightmare when I sleep I always get nightmares every day feels like surviving from someone that follows me when I go to school our teacher blames us because of a person did something from our class the teachers act like we are all bullies for being 8th grade there is a kindergarten next to our school and teachers act like we all will do something to them because we are older than them (or I feel guilt even tho they don't say that) I can't even focus to my classes and I always get around 60 in exams even in the easiest subjects and there is a big exam waiting for me If i don't make it too I will go to a bad high school next year and that will make me a lazy and bad student to my parents and I will feel like even more failure. Also the person who gave me these feeling in my same school too. I always feel anxious guilty and in danger. I even can't sleep of anxiety I am going to psychiatrist from OCD but I wanna tell my psychiatrist from what I've been gone throught. The psychiatrist said I was Fine from the others but I didn't even tell him about this. And If the psychiatrist askes me that If something happen in my past I say no because I'm too scared and feel guilty to tell
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Crazy
The only one I don't have is sabotage your relationship. For the one were you blam yourself for the traumatic experience I don't do that but now I blam myself for literally EVERYTHING ELSE! I can't physically relax really or anything and right now my one friend abd me got in a fight cuz of a misunderstanding bit she refuses to talk to me. I don't think she knows how much she hurt ME. It was like having my heart ripped out, smashed in more then 3million pieces, put in the garbage disposal, and then scattered all across the galaxy leaving me with nothing. oh wait I have tears great another traumatic thing for me since I wasn't aloud to FEEL as a child.
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The only one I don't have is sabotage your relationship. For the one were you blam yourself for the traumatic experience I don't do that but now I blam myself for literally EVERYTHING ELSE! I can't physically relax really or anything and right now my one friend abd me got in a fight cuz of a misunderstanding bit she refuses to talk to me. I don't think she knows how much she hurt ME. It was like having my heart ripped out, smashed in more then 3million pieces, put in the garbage disposal, and then scattered all across the galaxy leaving me with nothing. oh wait I have tears great another traumatic thing for me since I wasn't aloud to FEEL as a child.
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Corinne
I had a bad experience about cheating, my sports coach, my parents and some more things when I was 9 My coach hit his students, including me and my brother. When I was 9, I reported him and my dad and mom argued really bad. I and my brother (1 year younger than me) suspect there is something way more complicated behind this. Although I think I saved the other kids, I can't help but feel it is my fault, indirectly or directly. Now, I am 12 and I sort of want to open up to my classmates(My classmates are very warm and caring. I found it easy to open up to them. , but I think they will be confused because it is a very complicated thing.
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I had a bad experience about cheating, my sports coach, my parents and some more things when I was 9 My coach hit his students, including me and my brother. When I was 9, I reported him and my dad and mom argued really bad. I and my brother (1 year younger than me) suspect there is something way more complicated behind this. Although I think I saved the other kids, I can't help but feel it is my fault, indirectly or directly. Now, I am 12 and I sort of want to open up to my classmates(My classmates are very warm and caring. I found it easy to open up to them. , but I think they will be confused because it is a very complicated thing.
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SpectLit
I suffer with trauma at school and home it's very hard for me at school I have a terrible math skills and other people bully me because of it. At home my parents yells at me over something I didn't even do and I cry easily over it. My parents takes my phone away often a lot and when they tell me to go to my room I lock myself in my room and cry over something I did not do and I blame myself because of it. The kids at my school will make fun of me for being in a helping math helping group. I don't know what to do.
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I suffer with trauma at school and home it's very hard for me at school I have a terrible math skills and other people bully me because of it. At home my parents yells at me over something I didn't even do and I cry easily over it. My parents takes my phone away often a lot and when they tell me to go to my room I lock myself in my room and cry over something I did not do and I blame myself because of it. The kids at my school will make fun of me for being in a helping math helping group. I don't know what to do.
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elaine
The you repress your feelings is totally accurate. I've been doing this for years, since primary school(no, maybe since middle school 'till now, i'm in grade 11, it's just really bias. I feel that i am happy enough, in fact, i'm not. It stops me to grow, to feel life, to get friends, real friends also, to allow myself for happy(I repress my feelings whenever I'm going to be a social pleaser, and I ended up feel numb and blame myself if I can't make them satisfied. Such a tiring life to live.
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The you repress your feelings is totally accurate. I've been doing this for years, since primary school(no, maybe since middle school 'till now, i'm in grade 11, it's just really bias. I feel that i am happy enough, in fact, i'm not. It stops me to grow, to feel life, to get friends, real friends also, to allow myself for happy(I repress my feelings whenever I'm going to be a social pleaser, and I ended up feel numb and blame myself if I can't make them satisfied. Such a tiring life to live.
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Hectorusrex
youre forgetting the most common coping mechanism of emotional and physical abuse,
victims of abuse not only sabatoge the relationships of friends but of a partner,
self sabotage can occur due to the this is too good to be true mindset someone has and can continue this pattern in their daily lives.
Hurting people that actually love them and care, leading to them using a coping skill they sustained in their trauma, leading to them being hurt over their hurting to another.
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youre forgetting the most common coping mechanism of emotional and physical abuse,
victims of abuse not only sabatoge the relationships of friends but of a partner,
self sabotage can occur due to the this is too good to be true mindset someone has and can continue this pattern in their daily lives.
Hurting people that actually love them and care, leading to them using a coping skill they sustained in their trauma, leading to them being hurt over their hurting to another.
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Thiccupcake
I developed social anxiety and I also have 4. and 5.
really tried to contain my emotions and convinced me everything was alright despite having missed the attention a kid deserves in my early years, then told I had to become independent at 15. Now I still struggle with the people I love, I try to force myself to reach out for them, while years ago I wasnt even trying anymore as a result lost my best friendships. I still consider myself really avoidant
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I developed social anxiety and I also have 4. and 5.
really tried to contain my emotions and convinced me everything was alright despite having missed the attention a kid deserves in my early years, then told I had to become independent at 15. Now I still struggle with the people I love, I try to force myself to reach out for them, while years ago I wasnt even trying anymore as a result lost my best friendships. I still consider myself really avoidant
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Cathy
OK there are a lot of people I would like to share this message with especially teenagers but you talk so damn fast do you have a Lotta good points did you talk to you real fast I cant sharing your videos because she really is actually going through it its going to be able to follow your fast talking. You have a lot of them points and I have I have all of them but I want to help people and you want to help people you talk too fast
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OK there are a lot of people I would like to share this message with especially teenagers but you talk so damn fast do you have a Lotta good points did you talk to you real fast I cant sharing your videos because she really is actually going through it its going to be able to follow your fast talking. You have a lot of them points and I have I have all of them but I want to help people and you want to help people you talk too fast
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Lost
3: 15 wait. so you are saying that fearing intimacy and isolating oneself because of trauma isn't so uncommon? I'm not just overreacting. Oh thank goodness, but. then that would mean all the things my mother has said to me were wrong. it wouldn't be the first time. It feels like everything I thought about my mother being the best woman I know were just a cover up for how much she hurts me, even by words she uses unknowingly.
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3: 15 wait. so you are saying that fearing intimacy and isolating oneself because of trauma isn't so uncommon? I'm not just overreacting. Oh thank goodness, but. then that would mean all the things my mother has said to me were wrong. it wouldn't be the first time. It feels like everything I thought about my mother being the best woman I know were just a cover up for how much she hurts me, even by words she uses unknowingly.
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Shadow
I talked my ex out of committing suicide. many many times during the course of our 2 year relationship. I felt so scared, helpless, and alone. Thankfully in a much happier relationship now but, thanks to your videos, Psych2Go, I'm starting to realize that now, even 10 years later, the trauma is still so deeply embedded inside me and I feel so helpless and alone all the time
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I talked my ex out of committing suicide. many many times during the course of our 2 year relationship. I felt so scared, helpless, and alone. Thankfully in a much happier relationship now but, thanks to your videos, Psych2Go, I'm starting to realize that now, even 10 years later, the trauma is still so deeply embedded inside me and I feel so helpless and alone all the time
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Alissa
I was emotionally neglected and controlled as a child. My father refused to let me make decisions for my life and body. But he still negated my emotions to the point where I wasn't allowed to cry in my own home. Now everyday when I get home from school I cry uncontrollably for two to three hours over almost nothing in particular because I'm miserable all the time.
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I was emotionally neglected and controlled as a child. My father refused to let me make decisions for my life and body. But he still negated my emotions to the point where I wasn't allowed to cry in my own home. Now everyday when I get home from school I cry uncontrollably for two to three hours over almost nothing in particular because I'm miserable all the time.
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Jaska20091
An unsolved crime did this I am trying but I just cannot switch off but because it was a burglary and desire of assault and illegal eviction from someone I knew I shut it down and it has not healed. People say get over it and it is not nothing to worry about. I am still struggling lost my ex due to this pain I feel bad
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An unsolved crime did this I am trying but I just cannot switch off but because it was a burglary and desire of assault and illegal eviction from someone I knew I shut it down and it has not healed. People say get over it and it is not nothing to worry about. I am still struggling lost my ex due to this pain I feel bad
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Don
I have unhealed trauma from my experience in the PhD program. Despite I successfully graduate the PhD program, my experience in that program was traumatic, especially around doing dissertation time where my relationship with me and my former advisor got very toxic.
Looking back how I graduated still feels traumatic.
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I have unhealed trauma from my experience in the PhD program. Despite I successfully graduate the PhD program, my experience in that program was traumatic, especially around doing dissertation time where my relationship with me and my former advisor got very toxic.
Looking back how I graduated still feels traumatic.
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Alina
1- I feel guilty.
2- I never tell anyone i feel guilty.
3- I feel anxious and stop literally living, taking care of myself.
4- I push people away and feel guilty, anxious.
5- I don't know how to trust, forgive and act calm.
6- I feel anxious even while sleeping.
Yeah, I relate.
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1- I feel guilty.
2- I never tell anyone i feel guilty.
3- I feel anxious and stop literally living, taking care of myself.
4- I push people away and feel guilty, anxious.
5- I don't know how to trust, forgive and act calm.
6- I feel anxious even while sleeping.
Yeah, I relate.
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Alice
I was a very good friend to someone who, like myself, has traumas. He, however is in denial and doesn't even seem to address issues with his therapist. Sigh. Such people see help as anything but. Anyway, he turned his back on our friendship as if it has no value. I'm working on my issues til this day.
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I was a very good friend to someone who, like myself, has traumas. He, however is in denial and doesn't even seem to address issues with his therapist. Sigh. Such people see help as anything but. Anyway, he turned his back on our friendship as if it has no value. I'm working on my issues til this day.
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Psych2Go
Aside from all the accidents and natural disasters we see on the news, trauma can come from experiences of violence, bullying, assault, physical or emotional abuse. Sadly, some people never heal from the psychological scars of their trauma because theyre too afraid to confront it.
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Aside from all the accidents and natural disasters we see on the news, trauma can come from experiences of violence, bullying, assault, physical or emotional abuse. Sadly, some people never heal from the psychological scars of their trauma because theyre too afraid to confront it.
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ButtFucker69
I feel like my last relationship left me traumatized and I relate to almost all of the topics in this video but he was really good to me and he never hit me or put me down or anything so I dont know why I feel this way
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I feel like my last relationship left me traumatized and I relate to almost all of the topics in this video but he was really good to me and he never hit me or put me down or anything so I dont know why I feel this way
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rae
I tend to overshare a lot of my trauma with people I've just met without knowing and make jokes about it, I feel bad since i forget that it makes others uncomfortable and ruins the moment so I'm going to start working on this
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I tend to overshare a lot of my trauma with people I've just met without knowing and make jokes about it, I feel bad since i forget that it makes others uncomfortable and ruins the moment so I'm going to start working on this
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cyanity101
Me: hey mom I think I may have unhealed trauma maybe I should go to I thera-
My mom: the person who hurt you is gone from your life! You shouldn't be feeling upset!
Me: What an idea! Why didn't i think of that?
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Me: hey mom I think I may have unhealed trauma maybe I should go to I thera-
My mom: the person who hurt you is gone from your life! You shouldn't be feeling upset!
Me: What an idea! Why didn't i think of that?
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Anna
Tbh. Sometimes when someone is too close I get hyper aware. Idk if its a bit of social anxiety I often exhibit or if I just dont remember what it was but Im always on edge when someone is too close if I dont know them.
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Tbh. Sometimes when someone is too close I get hyper aware. Idk if its a bit of social anxiety I often exhibit or if I just dont remember what it was but Im always on edge when someone is too close if I dont know them.
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SIlosis
I knew I had trauma, but I just don't know how to heal it correctly. My childhood was filled with traumatic moments. I sometimes feel I can't trust anything but myself. How do I let a therapist help me?
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I knew I had trauma, but I just don't know how to heal it correctly. My childhood was filled with traumatic moments. I sometimes feel I can't trust anything but myself. How do I let a therapist help me?
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Alex
I have one one friend that I trust and I totally dont trust my principles of marketing professor and as a result Im going to fail the class and its her fault because Im trying to learn from the topic
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I have one one friend that I trust and I totally dont trust my principles of marketing professor and as a result Im going to fail the class and its her fault because Im trying to learn from the topic
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ace
This is going to sound really mean, but this is just funny to me, but um
Have you heard ThatVeganTeacher whisper?
And then her voice?
I cant stop thinking about it im so sorry
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This is going to sound really mean, but this is just funny to me, but um
Have you heard ThatVeganTeacher whisper?
And then her voice?
I cant stop thinking about it im so sorry
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Jello
man, I've been ignored by most people around me and I've grown to avoid people and one of my best friend of over 10 years sent me this, to say the least I'm doing better cause of her
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man, I've been ignored by most people around me and I've grown to avoid people and one of my best friend of over 10 years sent me this, to say the least I'm doing better cause of her
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Elizabeth
i always watch these videos even though i already know i have these problems. i kinda watch to see if there's going to be a something i dont have/do. there never is
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i always watch these videos even though i already know i have these problems. i kinda watch to see if there's going to be a something i dont have/do. there never is
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