5 Reasons People With Depression Hide From Others
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Date: 2023-08-20
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Curissa
I'm currently a junior in a catholic high school. My freshman and sophomore
year was good, but then I got into big trouble at home. Now I'm just depressed, I can't go out with my friends anymore, my parents took the iphone that I had and bought me an android. I told all of my friends that I didn't have a phone because it's embarrassing having a android when u use to have a iphone. I can't go on social media anymore. People that I knew from elementary school is wondering what happened to me. When I go to school I don't like seeing ppl anymore because my relationships with my friends changed. They have their privileges and they got closer with each other and I'm just the odd one out. I don't even go to lunch anymore because I don't want to see ppl. There's this boy that I use to date in my high school as well and ever since school started I haven't been talking to him. He called me weird and nasty bc of tht and said he didn't want me anymore. My life has been like this for 4 months now and I've always been troubled since I was in middle school. I'm a good person I don't know why I'm always getting into trouble. When I was younger it didn't really effect me, but now I feel like I'm getting to old for this shit. My parents don't trust me, so I don't know when I'll ever get my privileges back. I just want my life to get better like I miss being my happy self. I know everything that I'm going through is because of the choices that I made but I never knew that the consequences would be this draining.
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I'm currently a junior in a catholic high school. My freshman and sophomore
year was good, but then I got into big trouble at home. Now I'm just depressed, I can't go out with my friends anymore, my parents took the iphone that I had and bought me an android. I told all of my friends that I didn't have a phone because it's embarrassing having a android when u use to have a iphone. I can't go on social media anymore. People that I knew from elementary school is wondering what happened to me. When I go to school I don't like seeing ppl anymore because my relationships with my friends changed. They have their privileges and they got closer with each other and I'm just the odd one out. I don't even go to lunch anymore because I don't want to see ppl. There's this boy that I use to date in my high school as well and ever since school started I haven't been talking to him. He called me weird and nasty bc of tht and said he didn't want me anymore. My life has been like this for 4 months now and I've always been troubled since I was in middle school. I'm a good person I don't know why I'm always getting into trouble. When I was younger it didn't really effect me, but now I feel like I'm getting to old for this shit. My parents don't trust me, so I don't know when I'll ever get my privileges back. I just want my life to get better like I miss being my happy self. I know everything that I'm going through is because of the choices that I made but I never knew that the consequences would be this draining.
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Diki
I'm always exhausted and don't want to leave my bed at all. For this past few weeks I'm having trouble falling sleep. Even if I sleep on time, I tend to wake up in the middle of the nights. I used to hang out with people but now everything irritates me. I don't want to talk with anybody but again i want somebody to listen to my talk for hours. But again I don't feel like sharing anything with anyone. I'm not that emotional person but currently everything hurts and I feel pain inside me. I've a bf and when I told him about my problems he just told me that you have everything in your life, you are with your family, there is no need to feel sad or lonely. This shit hurt even more. I know I'm surrounded with the people I love but still I feel like there is something hollow inside me. I don't call or text my friends any more but when they call I feel excited and talk with them but as soon as I cut the phone, I again feel that hollowness. I don't know if i need help or I'm just over reacting. At this point of time, I wish I could get someone who would listen to me and my problems without judging me. Can anyone relate this with me?
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I'm always exhausted and don't want to leave my bed at all. For this past few weeks I'm having trouble falling sleep. Even if I sleep on time, I tend to wake up in the middle of the nights. I used to hang out with people but now everything irritates me. I don't want to talk with anybody but again i want somebody to listen to my talk for hours. But again I don't feel like sharing anything with anyone. I'm not that emotional person but currently everything hurts and I feel pain inside me. I've a bf and when I told him about my problems he just told me that you have everything in your life, you are with your family, there is no need to feel sad or lonely. This shit hurt even more. I know I'm surrounded with the people I love but still I feel like there is something hollow inside me. I don't call or text my friends any more but when they call I feel excited and talk with them but as soon as I cut the phone, I again feel that hollowness. I don't know if i need help or I'm just over reacting. At this point of time, I wish I could get someone who would listen to me and my problems without judging me. Can anyone relate this with me?
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CrownClown
Sometimes it's really hard for me to differentiate whether the symptoms are caused by my ADD or my depression.
I was hospitalized 4 months after my depression started. It got triggered because something very traumatic happened. But they only diagnosed me with ADD (at the age of 24) and a panic disorder.
Only about 2 months ago, was I finally diagnosed with a _severe_ depression (that had gone untreated for 2. 5 years. Not just that, but the psychiatrist also confirmed that I had suffered trauma. Both the one that triggered the depression, and ongoing trauma through my childhood and teen years. I'm currently trying out different antidepressants, but so far I don't feel much of a difference, and I'm not always sure if I'm fatigued, or I can't tell time etc because of the ADD or the depression.
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Sometimes it's really hard for me to differentiate whether the symptoms are caused by my ADD or my depression.
I was hospitalized 4 months after my depression started. It got triggered because something very traumatic happened. But they only diagnosed me with ADD (at the age of 24) and a panic disorder.
Only about 2 months ago, was I finally diagnosed with a _severe_ depression (that had gone untreated for 2. 5 years. Not just that, but the psychiatrist also confirmed that I had suffered trauma. Both the one that triggered the depression, and ongoing trauma through my childhood and teen years. I'm currently trying out different antidepressants, but so far I don't feel much of a difference, and I'm not always sure if I'm fatigued, or I can't tell time etc because of the ADD or the depression.
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BLUE
i have not been out for a social life for 27 years. i only go out for shopping or work, now i took early retirement from work, simply because after 40 years of working, shifts etc etc. my life was nothing but work, i have no proper friends, everyone who i ever came into contact with, work was married, old friends from 30 years ago all had families, i remember being alone in infant School, and junior school, and secondary school, i felt like all women/girls hated me so would never mix with them, i stood alone in the playground, alone in youth clubs, alone in nightclubs, at 20 years of age. i felt suicidal, drinking, walking home from pubs drunk, even crying with depression at 2 am in the morning, all the people i knew were courting women. im 59 now, been single all of my life, i never go out
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i have not been out for a social life for 27 years. i only go out for shopping or work, now i took early retirement from work, simply because after 40 years of working, shifts etc etc. my life was nothing but work, i have no proper friends, everyone who i ever came into contact with, work was married, old friends from 30 years ago all had families, i remember being alone in infant School, and junior school, and secondary school, i felt like all women/girls hated me so would never mix with them, i stood alone in the playground, alone in youth clubs, alone in nightclubs, at 20 years of age. i felt suicidal, drinking, walking home from pubs drunk, even crying with depression at 2 am in the morning, all the people i knew were courting women. im 59 now, been single all of my life, i never go out
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Shyaaam
Another great video. As usual offering my suggestion. To feel better reduce negative thoughts with a simple practice. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety. For a better life sit on a chair, back straight, eyes closed and observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 5-10-15 minutes or more. Dont fight your thoughts. Slowly the mind will relax. No deep breathing needed. Day or night, when taking a walk, when reading, on the phone, before sleep etc sit or lie down and observe your breath. Like me, make this a lifetime daily habit to have a good life. Avoid constipation as it affects the mind instantly. Best wishes Shyaaam Sir. Counsellor.
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Another great video. As usual offering my suggestion. To feel better reduce negative thoughts with a simple practice. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety. For a better life sit on a chair, back straight, eyes closed and observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 5-10-15 minutes or more. Dont fight your thoughts. Slowly the mind will relax. No deep breathing needed. Day or night, when taking a walk, when reading, on the phone, before sleep etc sit or lie down and observe your breath. Like me, make this a lifetime daily habit to have a good life. Avoid constipation as it affects the mind instantly. Best wishes Shyaaam Sir. Counsellor.
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Esoteric
What if. one can't stand society cause it's mentally ill, while believing itself to be sane? Going round and round in circles voting for the next guy (ect) thinking anything will get better? Always wanting to force cultures, religions, opinions upon others who does not want to live like that. How does one solve that? Cause it's no good health to be well adjusted to a sick society (which comes from the information being sick that goes into the input and people rejecting the golden rule of treat others the way you want to be treated. which is a law that promotes oneness, to leave all cultures, countries, peoples opinions alone to themselves)
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What if. one can't stand society cause it's mentally ill, while believing itself to be sane? Going round and round in circles voting for the next guy (ect) thinking anything will get better? Always wanting to force cultures, religions, opinions upon others who does not want to live like that. How does one solve that? Cause it's no good health to be well adjusted to a sick society (which comes from the information being sick that goes into the input and people rejecting the golden rule of treat others the way you want to be treated. which is a law that promotes oneness, to leave all cultures, countries, peoples opinions alone to themselves)
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kay
i go through these depressive episodes and isolation periods a couple times each month and they can last from days to weeks at a time. the worst part is the dread of coming back to the people ive ignored during these times and trying to make up some dumb excuse as to why ive been ignoring their messages when in reality, i just didnt have enough energy in me to keep a conversation going with any of them. its usually always the same old excuse and im wondering if any of them have noticed this pattern and if they have, im wondering if they could just be understanding of my situation.
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i go through these depressive episodes and isolation periods a couple times each month and they can last from days to weeks at a time. the worst part is the dread of coming back to the people ive ignored during these times and trying to make up some dumb excuse as to why ive been ignoring their messages when in reality, i just didnt have enough energy in me to keep a conversation going with any of them. its usually always the same old excuse and im wondering if any of them have noticed this pattern and if they have, im wondering if they could just be understanding of my situation.
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cloud
My grandma always says that i can tell her anything but when i do tell her stuff she says i should stop exaggerating or stop crying about it because its not that upsetting. Of course its not, not to her. She doesnt understand what im going through and she doesnt make an effort to understand. When i cry or have panic attacks she automatically assumes im just being moody and grounds me or says that im only crying because i cant get my own way or im lazy and dont want to help her with anything while my sister helps with everything and is her perfect angel. Im sick of everything
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My grandma always says that i can tell her anything but when i do tell her stuff she says i should stop exaggerating or stop crying about it because its not that upsetting. Of course its not, not to her. She doesnt understand what im going through and she doesnt make an effort to understand. When i cry or have panic attacks she automatically assumes im just being moody and grounds me or says that im only crying because i cant get my own way or im lazy and dont want to help her with anything while my sister helps with everything and is her perfect angel. Im sick of everything
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Diana
I have a friend who has had depression for over 20 years. She is employed and lives about 20 miles away. I have not seen her since before the pandemic. I had plans to celebrate her birthday in the spring, but she stopped responding to texts and phone calls since then. The social withdrawal combined with anxiety about the pandemic has protracted the ability to meet and talk.
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I have a friend who has had depression for over 20 years. She is employed and lives about 20 miles away. I have not seen her since before the pandemic. I had plans to celebrate her birthday in the spring, but she stopped responding to texts and phone calls since then. The social withdrawal combined with anxiety about the pandemic has protracted the ability to meet and talk.
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Mr. Win
When you are severely depressed you see yourself and everyone through a negative lens. You regard yourself as unworthy of friendships and relationships and you regard even kind people as selfish. To save yourself the disappointment you withdraw from others. Whether reality or fantasy, forgiveness of ourselves and others is necessary for people who self isolate to heal.
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When you are severely depressed you see yourself and everyone through a negative lens. You regard yourself as unworthy of friendships and relationships and you regard even kind people as selfish. To save yourself the disappointment you withdraw from others. Whether reality or fantasy, forgiveness of ourselves and others is necessary for people who self isolate to heal.
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lemonboom
I was never diagnosed with depression, I couldn't bring myself to talk with my parents to get some help because I thought they would think that I would be joking with serious matters since I always showed a smile to everyone around me, but I'm pretty sure I might have been depressed at that time and I'm glad I was able to pull myself out of that awful time of my life
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I was never diagnosed with depression, I couldn't bring myself to talk with my parents to get some help because I thought they would think that I would be joking with serious matters since I always showed a smile to everyone around me, but I'm pretty sure I might have been depressed at that time and I'm glad I was able to pull myself out of that awful time of my life
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Frank
I have a long distance friend going through this. It's quite painful to know that this is happening, especially because they're in a different country. I send them a message every now and then to let them know I'm there for them, but they don't even open my texts. I want to help, but feel like I'm doing everything I can already.
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I have a long distance friend going through this. It's quite painful to know that this is happening, especially because they're in a different country. I send them a message every now and then to let them know I'm there for them, but they don't even open my texts. I want to help, but feel like I'm doing everything I can already.
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psych2go
I withdrawal so not to dump and unload on people who didnt calls what Im going through. I cannot pretend that Im not going through a major life change Im trying to process everything myself. So I stay quiet and isolate, so not to make everyone else around me miserable, and then I get attacked because I stay quiet and isolate.
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I withdrawal so not to dump and unload on people who didnt calls what Im going through. I cannot pretend that Im not going through a major life change Im trying to process everything myself. So I stay quiet and isolate, so not to make everyone else around me miserable, and then I get attacked because I stay quiet and isolate.
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New
the main reason I withdraw is because I feel valueless to my friends and I feel like the only reason they talk to me is out of a sense of obligation because they know I get depressed. it feels like I have to start every conversation, so I just stop and I disappear. it works well because no one really notices when I'm withdrawn.
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the main reason I withdraw is because I feel valueless to my friends and I feel like the only reason they talk to me is out of a sense of obligation because they know I get depressed. it feels like I have to start every conversation, so I just stop and I disappear. it works well because no one really notices when I'm withdrawn.
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No
How rest you brain and body?
When Head have mental Chronic Panic Episode
Rest
Sleep
Mediation
Slow move
As for help
What do you prefer?
After Scary Episode on body.
7 more thing you can add.
Like somebody drop you on you head experience yet as adult inside you skull. Try to get out.
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How rest you brain and body?
When Head have mental Chronic Panic Episode
Rest
Sleep
Mediation
Slow move
As for help
What do you prefer?
After Scary Episode on body.
7 more thing you can add.
Like somebody drop you on you head experience yet as adult inside you skull. Try to get out.
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sluggish_moxie
The thing is I can't find anyone I can trust to open up to, I don't feel comfortable saying anything to my siblings and parents and my friends. yeah I guess this video made me realise I guess I don't rly have someone checking up on me. Welp, I guess I'll just chill here till I find someone lol
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The thing is I can't find anyone I can trust to open up to, I don't feel comfortable saying anything to my siblings and parents and my friends. yeah I guess this video made me realise I guess I don't rly have someone checking up on me. Welp, I guess I'll just chill here till I find someone lol
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Upside
For me the reason I withdraw was because I didn't want to bring down the mood for others. Just because I'm suffering, doesn't mean they should. And growing up in a family that has many gatherings and by extension surrounded by people who unintentionally caused my depressive mood makes it difficult.
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For me the reason I withdraw was because I didn't want to bring down the mood for others. Just because I'm suffering, doesn't mean they should. And growing up in a family that has many gatherings and by extension surrounded by people who unintentionally caused my depressive mood makes it difficult.
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Victoria
I don't want to just take pills, either. I don't want to be dull and uncreative. Therapy has been complex. the last 2 therapists I tried seemed uninterested in actually helping me and kept trying to medicate or make me write my feelings down which I have tried and found that alone is not enough.
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I don't want to just take pills, either. I don't want to be dull and uncreative. Therapy has been complex. the last 2 therapists I tried seemed uninterested in actually helping me and kept trying to medicate or make me write my feelings down which I have tried and found that alone is not enough.
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Wenxz
My co workers are scared of me because I don't talk like they do to each other, when I'm in a room with one or multiple people it just brings the atmosphere down. I usually eat by myself in my car or changing room. Like sorry for not having the same outgoing extroverted personality as you all.
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My co workers are scared of me because I don't talk like they do to each other, when I'm in a room with one or multiple people it just brings the atmosphere down. I usually eat by myself in my car or changing room. Like sorry for not having the same outgoing extroverted personality as you all.
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Wendy
I relate to all of these. I've known I was clinically depressed since I was 15 years old, though I never connected the scheduling difficulties with it. It's true, though--I struggle to find time for anything because there's so much on my plate already and I lack motivation, energy, or both.
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I relate to all of these. I've known I was clinically depressed since I was 15 years old, though I never connected the scheduling difficulties with it. It's true, though--I struggle to find time for anything because there's so much on my plate already and I lack motivation, energy, or both.
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Palak
Sometimes the problem comes from people around you and how they choose to behave with you. Your body feels that and as a response isolates to not be disrespected. Its not always depression sometimes its a trauma response. Not something thats coming from the individual themselves.
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Sometimes the problem comes from people around you and how they choose to behave with you. Your body feels that and as a response isolates to not be disrespected. Its not always depression sometimes its a trauma response. Not something thats coming from the individual themselves.
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education
I am unworthy. Thats why I hide in my bed when Im not at work. I delete girls numbers and reject them before they can reject me because I know they only use me to validate them. They only need to know that I want them and that is enough. Im going to be alone for a long time.
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I am unworthy. Thats why I hide in my bed when Im not at work. I delete girls numbers and reject them before they can reject me because I know they only use me to validate them. They only need to know that I want them and that is enough. Im going to be alone for a long time.
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FreeHugzUwU
This literally hit all for me. Hurts really bad to want to be with people when I actually want to but I just can't for one or several of these reasons. Let alone that I have no one to even be with, I feel like no wants to be with me and time always gets in the way.
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This literally hit all for me. Hurts really bad to want to be with people when I actually want to but I just can't for one or several of these reasons. Let alone that I have no one to even be with, I feel like no wants to be with me and time always gets in the way.
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Birichina
Self isolation so much of socialising is a two way street you can't socialise by yourself. It is also up to others to be inclusive. When you are struggling and your efforts to connect are ignored or mocked it reinforces to not try.
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Self isolation so much of socialising is a two way street you can't socialise by yourself. It is also up to others to be inclusive. When you are struggling and your efforts to connect are ignored or mocked it reinforces to not try.
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Celeste
Bc people 9/10 times people make me feel worse for my already hard life. Saying they care and want to see me but never come and visit or talk to me. And people not likeing when i dont want to talk and saying its me being a bad friend
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Bc people 9/10 times people make me feel worse for my already hard life. Saying they care and want to see me but never come and visit or talk to me. And people not likeing when i dont want to talk and saying its me being a bad friend
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