5 Signs It’s Enmeshment Trauma, NOT Love
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Date: 2024-02-08
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nemesis4157
Thank you for this video, I have found it very difficult explaining a past relationship I had that was just like this. My partner seemed to show me so much affection and interest, but I began to lose my strong sense of boundaries. I often opted to put aside my interests and other loved ones just to prevent my partner from feeling like I didn't care for them enough. My emotions were so tightly linked to that person, to the point that if I tried to discuss my issues with our relationships, I would end up feeling immense guilt and pain for making them upset. This video has given me a sense of clarity and peace with that situation. I know now I was not just imagining the relationship to be unhealthy, and that I was justified in ending it for my wellbeing.
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Thank you for this video, I have found it very difficult explaining a past relationship I had that was just like this. My partner seemed to show me so much affection and interest, but I began to lose my strong sense of boundaries. I often opted to put aside my interests and other loved ones just to prevent my partner from feeling like I didn't care for them enough. My emotions were so tightly linked to that person, to the point that if I tried to discuss my issues with our relationships, I would end up feeling immense guilt and pain for making them upset. This video has given me a sense of clarity and peace with that situation. I know now I was not just imagining the relationship to be unhealthy, and that I was justified in ending it for my wellbeing.
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storyteller0633
I’m stuck in one where my life goal is to help people grow and become capable of helping themselves grow into the best person they can be, but the relationship is my dysfunctional family, where I can’t cease to love them as I have nothing else to tie me to life, but my thoughts are getting unhealthfully violent with everything unhealthy in the house, yet I can’t bare to leave them as they are my only support, and all of them are just as much victims of each other as they are to themselves
I grew up with this situation, I lived with this kind of 'love', no matter how distanced it was, and how so little moments I had in my life where it was actually good at home, I adapted and learned to make due with it.
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I’m stuck in one where my life goal is to help people grow and become capable of helping themselves grow into the best person they can be, but the relationship is my dysfunctional family, where I can’t cease to love them as I have nothing else to tie me to life, but my thoughts are getting unhealthfully violent with everything unhealthy in the house, yet I can’t bare to leave them as they are my only support, and all of them are just as much victims of each other as they are to themselves
I grew up with this situation, I lived with this kind of 'love', no matter how distanced it was, and how so little moments I had in my life where it was actually good at home, I adapted and learned to make due with it.
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psych2go
My ex was a bit enmeshed with me--thanks for this video! I was less--so--he felt unloved. Of course, with this dynamic going on, I found it next to impossible to talk about real things with him. He would get all prickly if I even mentioned something. Needless to say, we're not together any longer. I have met someone new. It's really early stages, but I like we're taking it real slow! Lots of time to feel out each other's boundaries--give autonomy--give him his space--give me mine. when I see this, it makes me think he and I might have a meaningful relationship after all--he says he's really comfortable around me! Plus, I love the way I can get him to laugh! Laughter is so important!
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My ex was a bit enmeshed with me--thanks for this video! I was less--so--he felt unloved. Of course, with this dynamic going on, I found it next to impossible to talk about real things with him. He would get all prickly if I even mentioned something. Needless to say, we're not together any longer. I have met someone new. It's really early stages, but I like we're taking it real slow! Lots of time to feel out each other's boundaries--give autonomy--give him his space--give me mine. when I see this, it makes me think he and I might have a meaningful relationship after all--he says he's really comfortable around me! Plus, I love the way I can get him to laugh! Laughter is so important!
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Glockenspheal
This is a very important topic and one I resonate with a lot, I used to have very low self-esteem that lead me into a very destructive path, thankfully that is way past behind me, although I still have some remnants of these traits, I think it's normal, but I've always advocated for working on one's self-esteem since, I'd love for more videos that go into such details.
Other topics I'd like covered would be like. alternatives or ways to seek therapy, since it is quite hard for some people to get it, I think it would help the people who struggle and can't get therapy in the meantime, or are afraid to ask for help and such.
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This is a very important topic and one I resonate with a lot, I used to have very low self-esteem that lead me into a very destructive path, thankfully that is way past behind me, although I still have some remnants of these traits, I think it's normal, but I've always advocated for working on one's self-esteem since, I'd love for more videos that go into such details.
Other topics I'd like covered would be like. alternatives or ways to seek therapy, since it is quite hard for some people to get it, I think it would help the people who struggle and can't get therapy in the meantime, or are afraid to ask for help and such.
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JacobWave
Oh great. Another buzzword for toxic or confused people to use against their partners who have no clue what they’re doing wrong. No relationship can withstand this hyper-individualistic mentality humans are designed to be DEPENDENT on each other for survival and it’s been that way for thousands of years. How about instead of creating more labels and excuses to breakup/divorce - you actually teach people to take accountability for themselves And stop manipulating people into thinking their relationships aren’t healthy or loving, any relationship can work but it takes communication and effort
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Oh great. Another buzzword for toxic or confused people to use against their partners who have no clue what they’re doing wrong. No relationship can withstand this hyper-individualistic mentality humans are designed to be DEPENDENT on each other for survival and it’s been that way for thousands of years. How about instead of creating more labels and excuses to breakup/divorce - you actually teach people to take accountability for themselves And stop manipulating people into thinking their relationships aren’t healthy or loving, any relationship can work but it takes communication and effort
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meizhongbai
Just like with so many other topics you cover, I feel sure that many of these symptoms could be signs for other things. These videos are always very interesting, but I think one need be a professional to know what criteria is corresponding to what issues. Super complicated. Trying to figure out problems from watching videos seems inadequate. Also, I know some of these can come and go. I've been married 19 years and am very happy, and sometimes I experience some of the things in this video during times of high stress, but not permanently.
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Just like with so many other topics you cover, I feel sure that many of these symptoms could be signs for other things. These videos are always very interesting, but I think one need be a professional to know what criteria is corresponding to what issues. Super complicated. Trying to figure out problems from watching videos seems inadequate. Also, I know some of these can come and go. I've been married 19 years and am very happy, and sometimes I experience some of the things in this video during times of high stress, but not permanently.
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sstrwbrryyy
is this video supposed to be unlisted its quiet helpful and id like to know more about it specific to each relationship. like enmeshment in romantic relationships and enmeshment in familial relationships specifically parent-child
also i hope you guys can do a video on emotional incest, maybe in the more common mother-son sense. maybe also a video on enmeshment vs emotional incest
i think im watching my partner live through these things and hope to help him more understand himself and the trauma his family has inflicted on him
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is this video supposed to be unlisted its quiet helpful and id like to know more about it specific to each relationship. like enmeshment in romantic relationships and enmeshment in familial relationships specifically parent-child
also i hope you guys can do a video on emotional incest, maybe in the more common mother-son sense. maybe also a video on enmeshment vs emotional incest
i think im watching my partner live through these things and hope to help him more understand himself and the trauma his family has inflicted on him
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seemashrestha5211
My bf of 1 year out of nowhere ghosted me without any explanation. I am feeling lost its hurting so much that i cant even cry but it feels really heavy in my heart i dont know what to do. Then realized he never made me feel loved, no emotional attachment i was just there and always treated me that way and i was the one who created the version of him that i wanted and as now that bubble has burst. I dont know what to do i just start shaking and and go blank as soon as i remember him
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My bf of 1 year out of nowhere ghosted me without any explanation. I am feeling lost its hurting so much that i cant even cry but it feels really heavy in my heart i dont know what to do. Then realized he never made me feel loved, no emotional attachment i was just there and always treated me that way and i was the one who created the version of him that i wanted and as now that bubble has burst. I dont know what to do i just start shaking and and go blank as soon as i remember him
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needshug
I need some advice.
My husband has a friend who talked a lot of shit about me almost a year ago, when my husband proposed to me. Even started talking shit about my mental disorders. (Im an autistic schizophrenic who's actively getting professional help) My husband defended me and started talking to him less, but there's my issue. He still talks to him. He plays games with him and another one of his friends who I think is really nice.
Idk if I'm in the wrong for still being upset over it.
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I need some advice.
My husband has a friend who talked a lot of shit about me almost a year ago, when my husband proposed to me. Even started talking shit about my mental disorders. (Im an autistic schizophrenic who's actively getting professional help) My husband defended me and started talking to him less, but there's my issue. He still talks to him. He plays games with him and another one of his friends who I think is really nice.
Idk if I'm in the wrong for still being upset over it.
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jairoel
I have a friend who experienced all of the things mentioned in this video when he was with her girlfriend, they finally broke up but it was pretty bad seeing him spend less time with his friends and even his family, he was also doing whatever his gf wanted even though he didnt want to, almost as if he was tied to her.
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I have a friend who experienced all of the things mentioned in this video when he was with her girlfriend, they finally broke up but it was pretty bad seeing him spend less time with his friends and even his family, he was also doing whatever his gf wanted even though he didnt want to, almost as if he was tied to her.
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EsmeAmelia
Can you please make a follow-up video that deals with how to heal from being raised in an enmeshed family and STILL having enmeshment problems with said family even as an adult I'm on the verge of snapping from enmeshment issues with my own family.
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Can you please make a follow-up video that deals with how to heal from being raised in an enmeshed family and STILL having enmeshment problems with said family even as an adult I'm on the verge of snapping from enmeshment issues with my own family.
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cheyennecedeno6867
Anyone feeling Marinette Dupain-Cheng needs watch this video Getting back with Luka Couffaine and having Adrigami back into one another's arms.
But truly this is a insane but definitely needed topic spoken more.
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Anyone feeling Marinette Dupain-Cheng needs watch this video Getting back with Luka Couffaine and having Adrigami back into one another's arms.
But truly this is a insane but definitely needed topic spoken more.
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psych2go
1: 00 Loss of personal identity
1: 34 Lack of emotional boundaries
2: 13 Loss of personal interests and friendships
2: 58 Lack of autonomy
3: 31 Absence of healthy conflict resolution
Hope it helps
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1: 00 Loss of personal identity
1: 34 Lack of emotional boundaries
2: 13 Loss of personal interests and friendships
2: 58 Lack of autonomy
3: 31 Absence of healthy conflict resolution
Hope it helps
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RegularInvader
These signs pretty much relate to a story from MinuteVideos, I got kicked out of my Best friend's Wedding. The best friend, Sophie, allowed herself to be under Clint's control before and after they married.
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These signs pretty much relate to a story from MinuteVideos, I got kicked out of my Best friend's Wedding. The best friend, Sophie, allowed herself to be under Clint's control before and after they married.
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rebeccalucas6063
Well, the person trying to over take you, causing you to drop hobbies and friends could very well be 75% of relationships. It's also a sign of narcissistic abuse as well.
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Well, the person trying to over take you, causing you to drop hobbies and friends could very well be 75% of relationships. It's also a sign of narcissistic abuse as well.
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redheadbelle
What
Can it be genuine love though just the style is emmeshment and it can transform into healthy love because the base is real love
I hope & feel it is that way.
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What
Can it be genuine love though just the style is emmeshment and it can transform into healthy love because the base is real love
I hope & feel it is that way.
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vibebliss1515
Nonsense. Thats why divorce happens. Nobody knows shit about relationship. It's just some people born lucky. Thats it. Some adjust and outside it looks fine. Thats it
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Nonsense. Thats why divorce happens. Nobody knows shit about relationship. It's just some people born lucky. Thats it. Some adjust and outside it looks fine. Thats it
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temmzdayo5242
Thank you for the video: 000 this is very helpful: DDDD
and hey is that the same animator who animate You’re A Lone Wolf
I love his/her style VERY CUTE!
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Thank you for the video: 000 this is very helpful: DDDD
and hey is that the same animator who animate You’re A Lone Wolf
I love his/her style VERY CUTE!
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KaitlynGray400
Can you make a video about something along the lines of how to tell your parents or loved ones you think you have ADHD or want to get tested for it
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Can you make a video about something along the lines of how to tell your parents or loved ones you think you have ADHD or want to get tested for it
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flamegamer3424
I’ve never heard of the term enmeshment before until now. I’m glad I learned what it means and what makes it so different from love.
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I’ve never heard of the term enmeshment before until now. I’m glad I learned what it means and what makes it so different from love.
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