6 Signs You're Being Manipulated (And You Dont Even Realize It)
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Date: 2023-08-20
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just
So, long story, but I think it can help someone who might be going through something simular:
I had a crush on this guy that I met when I was traveling to a place, and he considered me just a friend (that's what I thought lol, and we talked a lot, he told me a lot of messed up things that he felt (like suicydl stuff, and I always tried to help him improve himself. Well there was a moment that my crush on him desapeared, and it was very releaving, I really liked our friendship besides our diferences (he is atheist and I'm protestant. I mean, he used to tell me how religion doesen't make any sense to him and that it was like a prison, how he like to just kiss girls just for kissing them, and he kind of pushed me to even question my own values ps: I have no problem with people who think like him, but he was trtying to manipulate me into thinking like him, while telling me that he had no problem with my own morals. And we talked about the girls that he liked openly, so I thought that he never saw me like other than a friend.
And then one day he asked me if I ever had a crush on him, I said that I used to, but not anymore, he said that he knew but he thought that I still liked him, and he said that for a while he thought of me like something other than just a friend but with no strings attached. I was very shocked with this because like the other day I was thinking about visiting him in his city and now I didn't want to see him ever again, cause it was just too much for me, I wanted to tell somebody about this, I told my friends and they thought the same as me, I wanted to tell my terapist but I just couldn't wait till our session, so I told my mom, she told me that he was a jerk, that he manipulated me and whole bunch of things that I don't feel like sharing, and I was so heartbroken, because it was all true.
So anyway sorry for the long story but I hope if someone that is going through something like this read this, consider reavaluating your relationship with this person and get help, bye and stay safe
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So, long story, but I think it can help someone who might be going through something simular:
I had a crush on this guy that I met when I was traveling to a place, and he considered me just a friend (that's what I thought lol, and we talked a lot, he told me a lot of messed up things that he felt (like suicydl stuff, and I always tried to help him improve himself. Well there was a moment that my crush on him desapeared, and it was very releaving, I really liked our friendship besides our diferences (he is atheist and I'm protestant. I mean, he used to tell me how religion doesen't make any sense to him and that it was like a prison, how he like to just kiss girls just for kissing them, and he kind of pushed me to even question my own values ps: I have no problem with people who think like him, but he was trtying to manipulate me into thinking like him, while telling me that he had no problem with my own morals. And we talked about the girls that he liked openly, so I thought that he never saw me like other than a friend.
And then one day he asked me if I ever had a crush on him, I said that I used to, but not anymore, he said that he knew but he thought that I still liked him, and he said that for a while he thought of me like something other than just a friend but with no strings attached. I was very shocked with this because like the other day I was thinking about visiting him in his city and now I didn't want to see him ever again, cause it was just too much for me, I wanted to tell somebody about this, I told my friends and they thought the same as me, I wanted to tell my terapist but I just couldn't wait till our session, so I told my mom, she told me that he was a jerk, that he manipulated me and whole bunch of things that I don't feel like sharing, and I was so heartbroken, because it was all true.
So anyway sorry for the long story but I hope if someone that is going through something like this read this, consider reavaluating your relationship with this person and get help, bye and stay safe
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Royale
I have a friend, let's just call them Alex, and it seems that all the time he thinks very highly of themself. Don't get me wrong, that's great but they put others down to make it seem like they're the only smart person in the friend group. And they target me all the time. Not friend1 or friend2, always me. They would punch me, kick me, chase me, make fun of me, because apparently i havent stated my boundaries so its okay to mentally and physically scar him. He laughs it off when i mention it, then goes back to coding and telling me hes gonna be great and smart and ill stay dumb and uneducated, and that i have no attention span anyways, again, he laughs it off. All because apparently once I made fun of his haircut.
I feel as if this cycle is after repeating from another relationship I was in. She had joined my current friend group when dream smp was cool, so she acted like she liked it too. At the start I saw nothing wrong with this, until 2022 rolled around. She would start putting me in headlocks 'jokingly', and my friends would watch. She would gaslight me into thinking that I was the bad person in the situation, even though she had been the dick. After a while I got sick of it, my health was not in a good place.
I told the headmaster and he called in all the so called witnesses. She said she had nothing to do with it, My two friends said that they had witnessed it, but they thought it was friendly. Keep in mind that I continuously told them I didn't like it after she would go for a second, they would nod but clearly it wasn't going through their mind.
Nowadays, I am out as trans and friend1 and friend2 keep on saying all the time that I have no dick and I have boobs. Like really? Just say you're unsupportive.
I plan on dropping them next year. Idk I just can't take them anymore. I feel shit. Please someone any advice?
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I have a friend, let's just call them Alex, and it seems that all the time he thinks very highly of themself. Don't get me wrong, that's great but they put others down to make it seem like they're the only smart person in the friend group. And they target me all the time. Not friend1 or friend2, always me. They would punch me, kick me, chase me, make fun of me, because apparently i havent stated my boundaries so its okay to mentally and physically scar him. He laughs it off when i mention it, then goes back to coding and telling me hes gonna be great and smart and ill stay dumb and uneducated, and that i have no attention span anyways, again, he laughs it off. All because apparently once I made fun of his haircut.
I feel as if this cycle is after repeating from another relationship I was in. She had joined my current friend group when dream smp was cool, so she acted like she liked it too. At the start I saw nothing wrong with this, until 2022 rolled around. She would start putting me in headlocks 'jokingly', and my friends would watch. She would gaslight me into thinking that I was the bad person in the situation, even though she had been the dick. After a while I got sick of it, my health was not in a good place.
I told the headmaster and he called in all the so called witnesses. She said she had nothing to do with it, My two friends said that they had witnessed it, but they thought it was friendly. Keep in mind that I continuously told them I didn't like it after she would go for a second, they would nod but clearly it wasn't going through their mind.
Nowadays, I am out as trans and friend1 and friend2 keep on saying all the time that I have no dick and I have boobs. Like really? Just say you're unsupportive.
I plan on dropping them next year. Idk I just can't take them anymore. I feel shit. Please someone any advice?
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SpartinWolfE
Man I feel like maybe I'm manipulating someone and I dont even want to and im not even actively trying to. The only 2 marks im sure I didnt hit are doubting reality and being constantly compared to others. As for everything is your fault everytime we make plans she either cancells or just misses it but she tells me she feels guilty about it and that its her fault. For constantly feel judged when she cancelled on our last plan she was saying that she was getting a bunch of anxiety about texting me to cancel because she thought ild be mad or dissapointed. Im not sure if she feels guilt tripped into decisions like making more plans but I would assume so. And for love bombed then punished like yeah ik I did this one for sure. I would talk nice with her and try to invite her out snowboarding or something and she would accept but we would never go. So I got mad and I basically said what the f is wrong with you? Why are you playing games with me. So yeah thats that. Idk whats going on idk if I am being manipulative without trying and like I dont want to manipulate her honestly and I dont want her to feel manipulated. I just wanna work with her to build a better relationship but I think its gonna be tough with all this mud ive made
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Man I feel like maybe I'm manipulating someone and I dont even want to and im not even actively trying to. The only 2 marks im sure I didnt hit are doubting reality and being constantly compared to others. As for everything is your fault everytime we make plans she either cancells or just misses it but she tells me she feels guilty about it and that its her fault. For constantly feel judged when she cancelled on our last plan she was saying that she was getting a bunch of anxiety about texting me to cancel because she thought ild be mad or dissapointed. Im not sure if she feels guilt tripped into decisions like making more plans but I would assume so. And for love bombed then punished like yeah ik I did this one for sure. I would talk nice with her and try to invite her out snowboarding or something and she would accept but we would never go. So I got mad and I basically said what the f is wrong with you? Why are you playing games with me. So yeah thats that. Idk whats going on idk if I am being manipulative without trying and like I dont want to manipulate her honestly and I dont want her to feel manipulated. I just wanna work with her to build a better relationship but I think its gonna be tough with all this mud ive made
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Daniel
The love punish thing aswell as many other manipulative behaviours are also common among partners with borderline disorder where it often is not a conscious thing but looks a lot like it. Its a result of splitting/black & white thinking, severe fear of abandonment, intense mood swings and such. The mood swings can result in a behaviour which the person with borderline really didnt want to have leading to severe feelings of guilt, overcompensating affection, pleading and so on. The mood swings and splitting can be caused of the smallest worry, interpreted sign of the partner thinking of leaving which causes desperate behaviours. Its very common that an abusive partner has a personality disorder like borderline.
Its not less wrong to be manipulative regardless of having the personality disorder or not.
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The love punish thing aswell as many other manipulative behaviours are also common among partners with borderline disorder where it often is not a conscious thing but looks a lot like it. Its a result of splitting/black & white thinking, severe fear of abandonment, intense mood swings and such. The mood swings can result in a behaviour which the person with borderline really didnt want to have leading to severe feelings of guilt, overcompensating affection, pleading and so on. The mood swings and splitting can be caused of the smallest worry, interpreted sign of the partner thinking of leaving which causes desperate behaviours. Its very common that an abusive partner has a personality disorder like borderline.
Its not less wrong to be manipulative regardless of having the personality disorder or not.
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ShadowLibra98
Ended a 4 and a half year relationship where I engaged this person. They did all of these very strongly and often. I attempted to unalive myself bc of it. I am better now and can see all the things that happened. I feel sorry to past me for making him go through that. I am now mostly happy and have great friends who love and accept me and know about my past. Thank you for this video and I hope it bring awareness to a lot of people. This is truly something that can save someone's life if they listen.
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Ended a 4 and a half year relationship where I engaged this person. They did all of these very strongly and often. I attempted to unalive myself bc of it. I am better now and can see all the things that happened. I feel sorry to past me for making him go through that. I am now mostly happy and have great friends who love and accept me and know about my past. Thank you for this video and I hope it bring awareness to a lot of people. This is truly something that can save someone's life if they listen.
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ishikaaa
I don't think anyone is manipulative intentionally (unless they're full of shit) and even tho their actions cannot be justified, you can't help but think, what made them like this, why do they act like this
And yes these thoughts can stop you from distancing yourself from them you gotta remember that they are causing a lot of issues, maybe even permanent
You are the priority here and their actions hurt you so try your best to detach from them: )
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I don't think anyone is manipulative intentionally (unless they're full of shit) and even tho their actions cannot be justified, you can't help but think, what made them like this, why do they act like this
And yes these thoughts can stop you from distancing yourself from them you gotta remember that they are causing a lot of issues, maybe even permanent
You are the priority here and their actions hurt you so try your best to detach from them: )
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education
To be a human is better to be simple rather than compliacted. to be honest is better than to tell lies
Honest is a very good assets in life. responsibity also good assets. i do have all these good assets but they can't see so is their problems nit me. heartt also important whether good or not
Rich or poor can't decide someone. healthy or unhealthy also cannot decide
Only what a person done can tell.
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To be a human is better to be simple rather than compliacted. to be honest is better than to tell lies
Honest is a very good assets in life. responsibity also good assets. i do have all these good assets but they can't see so is their problems nit me. heartt also important whether good or not
Rich or poor can't decide someone. healthy or unhealthy also cannot decide
Only what a person done can tell.
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Wendy
My last bf did most, if not all, of these things. I wanted to be happy and for him to be happy, though he never was, and he convinced me that I couldn't be either. Finally I learned whatever it is the universe needed me to learn, or at least I qualified for a different sort of lesson. I was able to disconnect from him in favor of a man that I surely invented from dreams I've had all my life.
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My last bf did most, if not all, of these things. I wanted to be happy and for him to be happy, though he never was, and he convinced me that I couldn't be either. Finally I learned whatever it is the universe needed me to learn, or at least I qualified for a different sort of lesson. I was able to disconnect from him in favor of a man that I surely invented from dreams I've had all my life.
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Yearam
I think I used to be a manipulator when I was going to a really hard time with depression. I blamed my boyfriend for everything that was wrong, how I ended up homeless, pregnant, and abandoned by my family. Thankfully I dont feel that way toward him, but I remember being pretty awful to him, making him feel guilty about everything
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I think I used to be a manipulator when I was going to a really hard time with depression. I blamed my boyfriend for everything that was wrong, how I ended up homeless, pregnant, and abandoned by my family. Thankfully I dont feel that way toward him, but I remember being pretty awful to him, making him feel guilty about everything
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Zyla
I think friend 1 is being manipulated, by my friend 2. I already left her, but Friend 1 wont leave her side. Ive tried hinting to friend 1 that friend 2 is toxic, but its never worked, and Im scared to say it straight. What should I do? (Friend 2 scored a 4/6 in this video) Friend 2 also is physically bullying friend 1. please help!
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I think friend 1 is being manipulated, by my friend 2. I already left her, but Friend 1 wont leave her side. Ive tried hinting to friend 1 that friend 2 is toxic, but its never worked, and Im scared to say it straight. What should I do? (Friend 2 scored a 4/6 in this video) Friend 2 also is physically bullying friend 1. please help!
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education
They triangulate, make themselves the victim, and villainize you. They rewrite history. They gaslight without mercy. Say goodbye to your friends and family as they are all aboard the manipulators' train now. Prime video movies about manipulative people: Caught, The Perfect Husband: The Laci Petterson Story, Marriage of Lies.
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They triangulate, make themselves the victim, and villainize you. They rewrite history. They gaslight without mercy. Say goodbye to your friends and family as they are all aboard the manipulators' train now. Prime video movies about manipulative people: Caught, The Perfect Husband: The Laci Petterson Story, Marriage of Lies.
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Peg
Believe me we are all having those issues piece by piece nobody can be perfect good at all it depends how can you control it dont let your bad thoughts become possessive of you dont do as emotional leans you can use that issue sometimes just to survive and protect yourself from the nasty ppl on this planet
Good luck guys
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Believe me we are all having those issues piece by piece nobody can be perfect good at all it depends how can you control it dont let your bad thoughts become possessive of you dont do as emotional leans you can use that issue sometimes just to survive and protect yourself from the nasty ppl on this planet
Good luck guys
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Cat
I feel like the love-bombing has become a new thing recently. Like it's never been mentioned before but now everyone is talking about it being a thing. I don't deny that it's a manipulation tactic but I think it's now actually putting a lot of doubt in people's heads because they may think they're doing it when they're not.
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I feel like the love-bombing has become a new thing recently. Like it's never been mentioned before but now everyone is talking about it being a thing. I don't deny that it's a manipulation tactic but I think it's now actually putting a lot of doubt in people's heads because they may think they're doing it when they're not.
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Alla
The one bright side about having been in any form of manipulative relationship is that once you leave it you can see all the manipulative behavior at first you get angry at yourself for not realizing it earlier but then all the horrible feelings and doubts you were feeling make sense as not really you but the other person.
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The one bright side about having been in any form of manipulative relationship is that once you leave it you can see all the manipulative behavior at first you get angry at yourself for not realizing it earlier but then all the horrible feelings and doubts you were feeling make sense as not really you but the other person.
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Ahrpigi
These can all be accidental, too. That doesn't mean they're ok, but it does mean the manipulatoor has a better chance of actually owning up to their behaviors and really trying to change. The people can also do it to each other, and that can also be accidental.
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These can all be accidental, too. That doesn't mean they're ok, but it does mean the manipulatoor has a better chance of actually owning up to their behaviors and really trying to change. The people can also do it to each other, and that can also be accidental.
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Ghostly_Artist
. Im not sure how to take this at this point, These things are exactly what my mother does. She will often make it MY FAULT if say. she had a bad day at work too. I love her and dont want her to leave me, but i dont want her to mess with me either
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. Im not sure how to take this at this point, These things are exactly what my mother does. She will often make it MY FAULT if say. she had a bad day at work too. I love her and dont want her to leave me, but i dont want her to mess with me either
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SomeOnlinePerson
So what do I do when I'm worried that I'm the one being manipulative? What do I do when I recognize those signs of a manipulator in things that I do, even if the reasoning stated here isn't, at least consciously, why I end up doing such things?
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So what do I do when I'm worried that I'm the one being manipulative? What do I do when I recognize those signs of a manipulator in things that I do, even if the reasoning stated here isn't, at least consciously, why I end up doing such things?
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Its
one of my friends mentioned that my best friend was manipulative and thats why he wasnt her friend anymore. i realized that she really is manipulative today it hurts thats shes using me and being manipulative because i have a hard time saying no and such.
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one of my friends mentioned that my best friend was manipulative and thats why he wasnt her friend anymore. i realized that she really is manipulative today it hurts thats shes using me and being manipulative because i have a hard time saying no and such.
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Haha
If you guys ever see this could you do a video on why someone would manipulate someone else? These make it seem so black and white but i dont think people realize they do it all the time which makes it even harder to spot.
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If you guys ever see this could you do a video on why someone would manipulate someone else? These make it seem so black and white but i dont think people realize they do it all the time which makes it even harder to spot.
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Moonu
Oh my god, I realted to a few of them, but I refuse to believe that I'm being manipulated. She is my best friend, and she just jokes around about things. I hope. but, I don't think that she realizes what she's doing.
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Oh my god, I realted to a few of them, but I refuse to believe that I'm being manipulated. She is my best friend, and she just jokes around about things. I hope. but, I don't think that she realizes what she's doing.
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Bea
My partner broke up with me after she met her new friends and stayed with them, and i have this gut feeling that she is being manipulated to leave me. Do you think they do have something to do with it?
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My partner broke up with me after she met her new friends and stayed with them, and i have this gut feeling that she is being manipulated to leave me. Do you think they do have something to do with it?
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D3m0nzD3n
My best friend is doing all these things to me all the time, but it's like she's holding on, and will never soften her grip, and I just can't get away from her. I just don't know what I can do
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My best friend is doing all these things to me all the time, but it's like she's holding on, and will never soften her grip, and I just can't get away from her. I just don't know what I can do
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quickgirl80
This is just what I needed to watch right now. Confirms the sinking feeling Ive been having that something is off. Awareness is the first step & knowledge is power. Thank you.
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This is just what I needed to watch right now. Confirms the sinking feeling Ive been having that something is off. Awareness is the first step & knowledge is power. Thank you.
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Matthew
The fact that I got 6 out of 6 on this definitely tells me that my two former so called friends were nothing but emotional manipulators. Im definitely much better without them.
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The fact that I got 6 out of 6 on this definitely tells me that my two former so called friends were nothing but emotional manipulators. Im definitely much better without them.
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SpookyGhost61
Can manipulation be subconscious or unintentional? I can definitely see some of these behaviors in my relationship, but I truly dont believe they are done with intent.
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Can manipulation be subconscious or unintentional? I can definitely see some of these behaviors in my relationship, but I truly dont believe they are done with intent.
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