7 Red Flags of A Toxic Relationship
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Date: 2023-08-20
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sam
I wonder how many of the seven signs ought to be present before I start to conclude the relationship is toxic? Maybe if only 2 or 3 of them is present, is that sufficient? And then of course it is not totally clear whether or not these are present; cross cultural/generational differences obscure things so that innocent, minor miscommunications might seem like something systematically problematic and serious. I guess there is no right answer, it isnt like there has to be at least x number of signs to be present before the relationship is clearly toxic, and whether or not the relationship is toxic probably isnt strictly binary either. At the end of the day, is it kinda a subjective call; which signs are being violated, the degree to which theyre violated, how many signs are being violated. I dont think it should be the case that any one case of these signs being violated necessarily means the relationship is toxic; relationships are much more complicated than that, embedded in a wider cultural/social/historical context. But I think I agree with the message of this video: that even if just a few signs are violated, and even if there are the cross cultural/generational/social/whatever differences, these signs are very very serious
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I wonder how many of the seven signs ought to be present before I start to conclude the relationship is toxic? Maybe if only 2 or 3 of them is present, is that sufficient? And then of course it is not totally clear whether or not these are present; cross cultural/generational differences obscure things so that innocent, minor miscommunications might seem like something systematically problematic and serious. I guess there is no right answer, it isnt like there has to be at least x number of signs to be present before the relationship is clearly toxic, and whether or not the relationship is toxic probably isnt strictly binary either. At the end of the day, is it kinda a subjective call; which signs are being violated, the degree to which theyre violated, how many signs are being violated. I dont think it should be the case that any one case of these signs being violated necessarily means the relationship is toxic; relationships are much more complicated than that, embedded in a wider cultural/social/historical context. But I think I agree with the message of this video: that even if just a few signs are violated, and even if there are the cross cultural/generational/social/whatever differences, these signs are very very serious
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No
I'm gonna chime in with an important note here: its toxic only depending on the person! I'm gonna make myself vulnerable and say I portray a couple of these mainly I'm quite controlling and I struggle with communication, however those two stem from a long line of CPTSD amongst other stuff I don't want to share, running away from toxic people isn't always the answer. my partner is very patient and while my partner has toxic traits too we are both patient and working on them. IF said toxic person is willing and ACTIVELY changing their behaviour even if slow but there is progress, its not necessary to cut them out of your life, in fact its sometimes giving a vulnerable and hurt person a chance to become a better them and blossom the relationship be it friends family or SO (significant other. now I'm not saying EVERYONE who displays these behaviours will change, because not all will. All I'm saying is give people a chance, mistakes are made and NO ONE can change if they don't know what and HOW to change, communication is key and even that needs to be learned. not everyone has great parents or has been taught all necessary skills and need I remind people, cultures are a thing! don't push your culture on others.
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I'm gonna chime in with an important note here: its toxic only depending on the person! I'm gonna make myself vulnerable and say I portray a couple of these mainly I'm quite controlling and I struggle with communication, however those two stem from a long line of CPTSD amongst other stuff I don't want to share, running away from toxic people isn't always the answer. my partner is very patient and while my partner has toxic traits too we are both patient and working on them. IF said toxic person is willing and ACTIVELY changing their behaviour even if slow but there is progress, its not necessary to cut them out of your life, in fact its sometimes giving a vulnerable and hurt person a chance to become a better them and blossom the relationship be it friends family or SO (significant other. now I'm not saying EVERYONE who displays these behaviours will change, because not all will. All I'm saying is give people a chance, mistakes are made and NO ONE can change if they don't know what and HOW to change, communication is key and even that needs to be learned. not everyone has great parents or has been taught all necessary skills and need I remind people, cultures are a thing! don't push your culture on others.
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grace
help. am i being toxic to my best friend?
so basically, i told her about someone that confessed to me. she spread it to everyone and all of them stated turning on me because the guy that confessed had a bad history with another girl. i was definitely angry but i let it slide.
after a while, we start dating. i didnt tell her because i didnt want more drama and i knew it would further ruin our friendship. i think im at fault for not telling her since. were best friends but. she snatched my phone one day after school and started reading through all my texts with my bf without any consent.
i was genuinely so hurt by it and cried a lot. but mustered up the courage to text her about it. she said that she didnt understand why i wouldnt tell her and i was just so scared of what she would do. so i apologised
she still seemed angry when we got back to school the next day. and i could hear her whispering to everyone behind my back. telling them that we were dating
i want to believe i am not in the wrong but i just dont know anymore. im so lost
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help. am i being toxic to my best friend?
so basically, i told her about someone that confessed to me. she spread it to everyone and all of them stated turning on me because the guy that confessed had a bad history with another girl. i was definitely angry but i let it slide.
after a while, we start dating. i didnt tell her because i didnt want more drama and i knew it would further ruin our friendship. i think im at fault for not telling her since. were best friends but. she snatched my phone one day after school and started reading through all my texts with my bf without any consent.
i was genuinely so hurt by it and cried a lot. but mustered up the courage to text her about it. she said that she didnt understand why i wouldnt tell her and i was just so scared of what she would do. so i apologised
she still seemed angry when we got back to school the next day. and i could hear her whispering to everyone behind my back. telling them that we were dating
i want to believe i am not in the wrong but i just dont know anymore. im so lost
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maj
Im going to be honest, Im not sure if my current relationship is toxic or not but my last one definitely was and it started out just like my current one.
He is constantly taking his anger out on me being mean and rude, he even gave me an anxiety attack a week or two ago and he didnt even ask if I was okay. I was clearly not but he just ignored it all. That time he told me he was never gonna take it out on me again but he did yesterday and when I was cold back this time and I told him he was the one that ignored me he said but I was the last one to text: / (he sent a reply after a day and I found no reason to reply to it because it was pretty meaningless.
Does anybody have any advice because we meet each other daily in school college starts next semester so technically I wont be seeing him at all after June if I choose to break contact. Should I just wait until then to break it all off or should I do it now?
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Im going to be honest, Im not sure if my current relationship is toxic or not but my last one definitely was and it started out just like my current one.
He is constantly taking his anger out on me being mean and rude, he even gave me an anxiety attack a week or two ago and he didnt even ask if I was okay. I was clearly not but he just ignored it all. That time he told me he was never gonna take it out on me again but he did yesterday and when I was cold back this time and I told him he was the one that ignored me he said but I was the last one to text: / (he sent a reply after a day and I found no reason to reply to it because it was pretty meaningless.
Does anybody have any advice because we meet each other daily in school college starts next semester so technically I wont be seeing him at all after June if I choose to break contact. Should I just wait until then to break it all off or should I do it now?
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OVERDRAWN
This sounds alot like my stepdad. He always tells me not to do what I like to do, he always makes himself seem like the victim, like the other day he followed me around the city for no reason and then said it was me who was running away like an idiot, his words not mine, and saying he was going to a store even though he didn't go there, and he also treats my mom like she needs to always give to him and he never gives back, and if anyone tries to prove him wrong he says stuff like, stop talking back to me or you're being a punk, and a bad example and he loves to mock me and my brother and kicks us out of the house every day, which I honestly don't care because it means I don't have to deal with him all day, and so many other things. That is him alright, a toxic, prideful, jackass
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This sounds alot like my stepdad. He always tells me not to do what I like to do, he always makes himself seem like the victim, like the other day he followed me around the city for no reason and then said it was me who was running away like an idiot, his words not mine, and saying he was going to a store even though he didn't go there, and he also treats my mom like she needs to always give to him and he never gives back, and if anyone tries to prove him wrong he says stuff like, stop talking back to me or you're being a punk, and a bad example and he loves to mock me and my brother and kicks us out of the house every day, which I honestly don't care because it means I don't have to deal with him all day, and so many other things. That is him alright, a toxic, prideful, jackass
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-GlossySella
When i first transferred in school a ywar ago, i met this girl, she became mg bestfriend, until she friended the most evil girl in the class, she was keeping distance from me and saying that the evil girl she friended was forcing her to, everytime i communicated her with that question she would always use that excuse, she did say many hurtful and bad words to me and saying the evil girl she friended forced her to (again) one year later, (rn) she is trying so hard to act like nothing happened, she said she will give me a lot if I trade her my item but im not getting the time to, whenever i cant give my things to her she says if you dont give me im cancelling the trade what do i do? Should i break my friendship with her?
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When i first transferred in school a ywar ago, i met this girl, she became mg bestfriend, until she friended the most evil girl in the class, she was keeping distance from me and saying that the evil girl she friended was forcing her to, everytime i communicated her with that question she would always use that excuse, she did say many hurtful and bad words to me and saying the evil girl she friended forced her to (again) one year later, (rn) she is trying so hard to act like nothing happened, she said she will give me a lot if I trade her my item but im not getting the time to, whenever i cant give my things to her she says if you dont give me im cancelling the trade what do i do? Should i break my friendship with her?
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Sean
Communication was one of our worse issues. Whenever I would try to be open and vulnerable (as a man) and tell her what she did hurt me and why/how it did, she would just go into how I hurt her. Now the shift of the conversation is off of me, and invalidates my feelings and concerns to address hers and apologize to her. When her and I first met and started dating every conversation was fun and a joy to have. We smiled just from seeing each other and spent time together often. But when it turned toxic, it seemed as if we could not even hold a conversation without someone misinterpreting what the other person is saying, or cant have a simple convo without someone getting offended. A huge turn off for the both of us.
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Communication was one of our worse issues. Whenever I would try to be open and vulnerable (as a man) and tell her what she did hurt me and why/how it did, she would just go into how I hurt her. Now the shift of the conversation is off of me, and invalidates my feelings and concerns to address hers and apologize to her. When her and I first met and started dating every conversation was fun and a joy to have. We smiled just from seeing each other and spent time together often. But when it turned toxic, it seemed as if we could not even hold a conversation without someone misinterpreting what the other person is saying, or cant have a simple convo without someone getting offended. A huge turn off for the both of us.
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Betsy
8they make horrific threats against u &or others9they tell u they wont hlp u if u cry10they tell u they only treat u certain ways cause they love u &or for other reasons11they say weird things likeIm gonna keep doing this til u admit to; I know everything about u; Im against u doing this; youre being bad; Im calling your mother&u put me hereif u dont even try meeting their demands13they keep doing things even though if &when it hurts u14they tell u nothin happenin at all if u express to them u feel &or sense &or know something wrong.
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8they make horrific threats against u &or others9they tell u they wont hlp u if u cry10they tell u they only treat u certain ways cause they love u &or for other reasons11they say weird things likeIm gonna keep doing this til u admit to; I know everything about u; Im against u doing this; youre being bad; Im calling your mother&u put me hereif u dont even try meeting their demands13they keep doing things even though if &when it hurts u14they tell u nothin happenin at all if u express to them u feel &or sense &or know something wrong.
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Mr.
My wife is very toxic. Came here to see how toxic she was. Realize me saying I love and will do anything for you is wrong. I do ask where she is going but I dont try to control her. I plan to change those two things if we can get back together after our 3 month separation. I know she is good at working on herself. Im praying that she changes after this time. She wasnt always this way where I was the only one giving and hanging up in my face for control.
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My wife is very toxic. Came here to see how toxic she was. Realize me saying I love and will do anything for you is wrong. I do ask where she is going but I dont try to control her. I plan to change those two things if we can get back together after our 3 month separation. I know she is good at working on herself. Im praying that she changes after this time. She wasnt always this way where I was the only one giving and hanging up in my face for control.
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Undercover
As someone who has come across many people in this type of relationship, I can truly say that toxic relationships can be very draining and damaging to both our physical and mental health.
I really hope more people recognize the toxic traits in their relationships and run away from them. And I wish that more resources like this video will be available to guide people on how to identify and deal with toxic relationships.
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As someone who has come across many people in this type of relationship, I can truly say that toxic relationships can be very draining and damaging to both our physical and mental health.
I really hope more people recognize the toxic traits in their relationships and run away from them. And I wish that more resources like this video will be available to guide people on how to identify and deal with toxic relationships.
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Snowy
It really is hard having a child with someone who is like this. I hope now that I have a job I can to cut ties with their toxicity. he makes me feel like I m crazy for getting upset about how toxic they are to me. its very confusing. idk gets me doubting myself but I dont want to doubt myself I wasnt to stand up for myself and the red flags and say good riddance to this. For good. For me and my 3 years old. I have hope.
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It really is hard having a child with someone who is like this. I hope now that I have a job I can to cut ties with their toxicity. he makes me feel like I m crazy for getting upset about how toxic they are to me. its very confusing. idk gets me doubting myself but I dont want to doubt myself I wasnt to stand up for myself and the red flags and say good riddance to this. For good. For me and my 3 years old. I have hope.
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viysal
i recognize that my boyfriend is toxic and fits most of these but i enjoy talking to him more than others when its a normal conversation. its very upsetting, he always fights with me and my pulse is always so high from anxiety and stress that i cant even do some of the things i used to like and he always blames me. thats just who i am. that never happened. youre causing issues. i guess he doesnt actually love me
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i recognize that my boyfriend is toxic and fits most of these but i enjoy talking to him more than others when its a normal conversation. its very upsetting, he always fights with me and my pulse is always so high from anxiety and stress that i cant even do some of the things i used to like and he always blames me. thats just who i am. that never happened. youre causing issues. i guess he doesnt actually love me
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BuckyWinchester
What I find very interesting about this is that if one of these things occur, the relationship can spiral down the other ones with both parties involved who start to display this behavior. Once I finally figured I didn't like the person I've become around them, it was very easy to end the relationship. One thing can lead to another and we need to pull ourselves out of this before it's too late.
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What I find very interesting about this is that if one of these things occur, the relationship can spiral down the other ones with both parties involved who start to display this behavior. Once I finally figured I didn't like the person I've become around them, it was very easy to end the relationship. One thing can lead to another and we need to pull ourselves out of this before it's too late.
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Lizzie
There's nothing wrong with friends and relationships but learning to be happy on your own too and doing things without friends, can be liberating! We need to learn to be happy with ourselves first and in our own company not just with others too! Sometimes said friends or relationships can bring loads of heartache, who wants that! Honestly, if you find the right people that's a gift in itself!
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There's nothing wrong with friends and relationships but learning to be happy on your own too and doing things without friends, can be liberating! We need to learn to be happy with ourselves first and in our own company not just with others too! Sometimes said friends or relationships can bring loads of heartache, who wants that! Honestly, if you find the right people that's a gift in itself!
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DontReadMyName
I used to be toxic towards my partner, and they once snapped at me and I took that as advice. We are still together and very happy with eachother. I was just smart enough to understand my wrong doings and well, lucky enough that they didnt leave me there and then.
So, please. Try to acknowledge if youre doing something wrong before it gets out of hand. Have a happy relationship.
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I used to be toxic towards my partner, and they once snapped at me and I took that as advice. We are still together and very happy with eachother. I was just smart enough to understand my wrong doings and well, lucky enough that they didnt leave me there and then.
So, please. Try to acknowledge if youre doing something wrong before it gets out of hand. Have a happy relationship.
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Farhana
7 red flags of a toxic relationship
1. Controlling behavior
2. A lack of communication
3. The give and take is consistently one way
4. There are no boundaries in the relationship
5. Your partner uses your personal information against you
6. They do not acknowledge your relationship in front of other people
7. Youre constantly surrounded by negative energy
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7 red flags of a toxic relationship
1. Controlling behavior
2. A lack of communication
3. The give and take is consistently one way
4. There are no boundaries in the relationship
5. Your partner uses your personal information against you
6. They do not acknowledge your relationship in front of other people
7. Youre constantly surrounded by negative energy
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Brooke
hey can you make a video for those who were groomed and are still getting over it. i had this person online who was grooming me and i fell in love but it wasnt right and im not sure how i should feel and it seems like i cant talk to anyone about it so i want to know what someone else thinks about it or even some advice or tips to help move past it
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hey can you make a video for those who were groomed and are still getting over it. i had this person online who was grooming me and i fell in love but it wasnt right and im not sure how i should feel and it seems like i cant talk to anyone about it so i want to know what someone else thinks about it or even some advice or tips to help move past it
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ArtisticSloth
I used to have an online friend who called me names, often ignored me, and was draining to be around. They also most likely talked about me behind my back, but im not sure. I want to know if I was justified in ending the friendship, because im anxious that it wasnt deserved. They did more things, but i cant think if them right now.
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I used to have an online friend who called me names, often ignored me, and was draining to be around. They also most likely talked about me behind my back, but im not sure. I want to know if I was justified in ending the friendship, because im anxious that it wasnt deserved. They did more things, but i cant think if them right now.
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Rikki
Hi All! I need some quick help: I'm doing some research on Toxic Love Relationships and would love to do a 20 minute interview with anyone who has dealt with, or is dealing with, this issue. I promise I'm NOT selling anything! I just want to learn from your wisdom. Comment here if you are willing, and I will then DM you. Thank you!
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Hi All! I need some quick help: I'm doing some research on Toxic Love Relationships and would love to do a 20 minute interview with anyone who has dealt with, or is dealing with, this issue. I promise I'm NOT selling anything! I just want to learn from your wisdom. Comment here if you are willing, and I will then DM you. Thank you!
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Jack
Great video, I was in a beautiful marriage before my now ex wife left me, i still love her and most times i cant stop thinking about her, i am doing my very best to get rid of the thought of her, but i just cant, i love her so much, i don't know why i am bring this here for, i cant stop thinking about her.
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Great video, I was in a beautiful marriage before my now ex wife left me, i still love her and most times i cant stop thinking about her, i am doing my very best to get rid of the thought of her, but i just cant, i love her so much, i don't know why i am bring this here for, i cant stop thinking about her.
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Guitar
There is also the 'Trojan Horse' type, where you get into a relationship with someone, and they wait a little while then dump all their problems on you, that you didn't know about before you involved with this person; 'I'm in debt, I'm depressed. sorry I forgot to mention it to you before'.
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There is also the 'Trojan Horse' type, where you get into a relationship with someone, and they wait a little while then dump all their problems on you, that you didn't know about before you involved with this person; 'I'm in debt, I'm depressed. sorry I forgot to mention it to you before'.
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Jellyfishsays
my boyfriend although i love him is becoming very controlling and when i bring it up he just says well thats just how i am, im not changing it. weve been together for 6 months which isn't long but im worried of the situation im getting into and i don't know how to change it
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my boyfriend although i love him is becoming very controlling and when i bring it up he just says well thats just how i am, im not changing it. weve been together for 6 months which isn't long but im worried of the situation im getting into and i don't know how to change it
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Tereus
Okay but how do you differentiate communicating from being blamed for everything? Like i get apologizing for things your partner says you did that hurt them but what about if you're always the one apologizing? When or how can you know your parter is just lacking accountability?
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Okay but how do you differentiate communicating from being blamed for everything? Like i get apologizing for things your partner says you did that hurt them but what about if you're always the one apologizing? When or how can you know your parter is just lacking accountability?
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Pillow
I think more subtle examples should've been used. Everyone understands a direct attack, but the passive-aggressive, gaslighting ones are the ones that make you question your own perception.
If they constantly make you feel bad, it's not love or friendship. Get out!
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I think more subtle examples should've been used. Everyone understands a direct attack, but the passive-aggressive, gaslighting ones are the ones that make you question your own perception.
If they constantly make you feel bad, it's not love or friendship. Get out!
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ASite2See120
My relationship with my boyfriend as some toxicity and some nontoxicity. Some of these signs are there, but not all of them. Even if relationships can be almost impossible to deal with, I still try to think positively and build the strength to go on with them.
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My relationship with my boyfriend as some toxicity and some nontoxicity. Some of these signs are there, but not all of them. Even if relationships can be almost impossible to deal with, I still try to think positively and build the strength to go on with them.
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