4 Reasons Highly Intelligent People Tend To Be Depressed
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Date: 2023-08-20
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Sniper
I've always considered myself to be of reasonable intelligence, although this is by no means derogatory nor arrogant as humility is a very respectable trait and I would hate for this to come across that way. Growing up, especially during adolescence, I always felt different, like an outsider looking in. I never felt a sense of belonging and I felt like a spectator within society. School was for the most part unchallenging and I was repeatedly disinterested in much of the content taught. My peers were hard to get along with as I often had to consciously make an effort to to connect with them, sometimes dumbing myself down in order to. When i left school i was confused and directionless and i spent far to long pondering about the scope of possibilities, and this coupled with my natural indecisive inclination led to stagnation and eventually depression as i had no idea what i wanted to do with my life. I started philosophizing and delved into the depths of consciousness, often over-analyzing and overthinking which certainly didn't help my anxiety. It quite literally caused paralysis by analysis. I've always been a relatively sensitive person and i've experienced a great deal of trauma throught my life, so maybe this was also a trigger of my depression. Either way i feel worthless right now because I am an underachiever and i've always had great expectations from both myself and life. When these high expectations and standards that i've set for myself aren't met, I become very disappointed in myself and that perpetuates the feeling of worthlessness. Maybe i'm just too damn hard on myself sometimes.
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I've always considered myself to be of reasonable intelligence, although this is by no means derogatory nor arrogant as humility is a very respectable trait and I would hate for this to come across that way. Growing up, especially during adolescence, I always felt different, like an outsider looking in. I never felt a sense of belonging and I felt like a spectator within society. School was for the most part unchallenging and I was repeatedly disinterested in much of the content taught. My peers were hard to get along with as I often had to consciously make an effort to to connect with them, sometimes dumbing myself down in order to. When i left school i was confused and directionless and i spent far to long pondering about the scope of possibilities, and this coupled with my natural indecisive inclination led to stagnation and eventually depression as i had no idea what i wanted to do with my life. I started philosophizing and delved into the depths of consciousness, often over-analyzing and overthinking which certainly didn't help my anxiety. It quite literally caused paralysis by analysis. I've always been a relatively sensitive person and i've experienced a great deal of trauma throught my life, so maybe this was also a trigger of my depression. Either way i feel worthless right now because I am an underachiever and i've always had great expectations from both myself and life. When these high expectations and standards that i've set for myself aren't met, I become very disappointed in myself and that perpetuates the feeling of worthlessness. Maybe i'm just too damn hard on myself sometimes.
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Danpaz94
I don't know if I'm either just got a high ego just because I see things people don't care about or just intelligent according to my parents and other people, it feels trapping and hopeless to know and be aware of things that most people don't care about, no one can relate or sympathise with, I care about people and want to help others, but either people think I'm just being dullisional or somehow mentally ill, even before my depression got worse a year or two ago, whats worse is that theres some stigmistisation with people with depression, people use science to justify that our way of thinking is wrong somehow, to me whatever is going in there life, they don't want to accept or sympathise that some aspects of life can't be enjoyable for some and would rather end it peacefully without suffering, yes we may be biased from our perspective and experiences, but that doesn't disown the fact that something that may be commonly accepted as good or neutral has something wrong with it to a certain degree, it could be a sub effect of a greater problem people don't even realise is one in the first place that isn't often talked about. High success and expectations never resonated with me because I had been once a naive fool in my younger years, failure was always expected for me and expectations for myself were none, I wanted to do what I wanted, years later its now not following what I had to be pressured to do or blindly follow someone or something
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I don't know if I'm either just got a high ego just because I see things people don't care about or just intelligent according to my parents and other people, it feels trapping and hopeless to know and be aware of things that most people don't care about, no one can relate or sympathise with, I care about people and want to help others, but either people think I'm just being dullisional or somehow mentally ill, even before my depression got worse a year or two ago, whats worse is that theres some stigmistisation with people with depression, people use science to justify that our way of thinking is wrong somehow, to me whatever is going in there life, they don't want to accept or sympathise that some aspects of life can't be enjoyable for some and would rather end it peacefully without suffering, yes we may be biased from our perspective and experiences, but that doesn't disown the fact that something that may be commonly accepted as good or neutral has something wrong with it to a certain degree, it could be a sub effect of a greater problem people don't even realise is one in the first place that isn't often talked about. High success and expectations never resonated with me because I had been once a naive fool in my younger years, failure was always expected for me and expectations for myself were none, I wanted to do what I wanted, years later its now not following what I had to be pressured to do or blindly follow someone or something
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FrostedTea
The last one is the most relatable. I am not saying im some Albert Einstein however I do well in school and my projects at home. My supposed best friends adopted some anti-school and pro entrepreneur crap. Now when I hang out with them it feels like I am unwanted but they keep me for the ride just because I'm their old friend.
For example, they don't respect my decision to continue school and still study. They keep calling me a nerd and impaling I'm waisting my life, even tho I always make room for hanging out with them.
Sometimes they imply that they are smarter and more capable than me so they will critique me for the smallest things they don't follow. Adding anything to the conversation just results in them calling me a smart-ass, nerd or a geek. I told them that I'll cut them out if they continue like this and they said they'll change, it lasted for 2 weeks.
I still don't know if they're just a reflection of my actions, because I act almost the same with my other friends, who aren't like them, and they seem to have no problem with me (I even asked them.
Conclusion:
Anybody with slight intelligence should stay away from energy vampires and should surround themselves with people they're comfortable talking with.
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The last one is the most relatable. I am not saying im some Albert Einstein however I do well in school and my projects at home. My supposed best friends adopted some anti-school and pro entrepreneur crap. Now when I hang out with them it feels like I am unwanted but they keep me for the ride just because I'm their old friend.
For example, they don't respect my decision to continue school and still study. They keep calling me a nerd and impaling I'm waisting my life, even tho I always make room for hanging out with them.
Sometimes they imply that they are smarter and more capable than me so they will critique me for the smallest things they don't follow. Adding anything to the conversation just results in them calling me a smart-ass, nerd or a geek. I told them that I'll cut them out if they continue like this and they said they'll change, it lasted for 2 weeks.
I still don't know if they're just a reflection of my actions, because I act almost the same with my other friends, who aren't like them, and they seem to have no problem with me (I even asked them.
Conclusion:
Anybody with slight intelligence should stay away from energy vampires and should surround themselves with people they're comfortable talking with.
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Leyon
I think my main problems are overthinking and high expectations. I overthink things a lot, and usually don't focus on what would happen soon, but I think about what could happen in the long future. Also, I don't set super high expectations for myself (still high-ish, but my parents seem to be too demanding of me. They give me a lot of tutoring and after school activities, and also set homework I need to do when I already have enough from school. I've had to stop doing my math homework completely, as I get some almost every day from school (also because I know almost everything taught in it, so I don't find it as important. I just had to cut it off so I could finish everything else on my list, but now my parents think I'm doing my work too slowly (honestly, I have been procrastinating a lot lately, and now set a time I need to finish my homework by, otherwise I don't get to use any electronics the next day, which really doesn't help me learn to finish my work more efficiently, it just makes me want to get it over with faster.
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I think my main problems are overthinking and high expectations. I overthink things a lot, and usually don't focus on what would happen soon, but I think about what could happen in the long future. Also, I don't set super high expectations for myself (still high-ish, but my parents seem to be too demanding of me. They give me a lot of tutoring and after school activities, and also set homework I need to do when I already have enough from school. I've had to stop doing my math homework completely, as I get some almost every day from school (also because I know almost everything taught in it, so I don't find it as important. I just had to cut it off so I could finish everything else on my list, but now my parents think I'm doing my work too slowly (honestly, I have been procrastinating a lot lately, and now set a time I need to finish my homework by, otherwise I don't get to use any electronics the next day, which really doesn't help me learn to finish my work more efficiently, it just makes me want to get it over with faster.
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General
I think a very difficult thing to deal with when you are an over-achiever is the fact it becomes the norm. When you share things that you've done, people seem dismissive of it. Of course you did. becomes a painful statement after a while, especially when you're particularly proud of something. The expectation that you are perfect highlights all of your mistakes and makes your achievements forgetful.
Also, people do not see the hard work that is put into the things you do and do not understand your hardship, you're expected to act normal although you're constantly working.
Racing thoughts, over-analysing and perfectionism are also annoying. I constantly feel exhausted and it's hard to turn your brain off. And, if you do switch off, people wonder why you're being unresponsive or confused, compared to the usual, and either get worried or find you weird.
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I think a very difficult thing to deal with when you are an over-achiever is the fact it becomes the norm. When you share things that you've done, people seem dismissive of it. Of course you did. becomes a painful statement after a while, especially when you're particularly proud of something. The expectation that you are perfect highlights all of your mistakes and makes your achievements forgetful.
Also, people do not see the hard work that is put into the things you do and do not understand your hardship, you're expected to act normal although you're constantly working.
Racing thoughts, over-analysing and perfectionism are also annoying. I constantly feel exhausted and it's hard to turn your brain off. And, if you do switch off, people wonder why you're being unresponsive or confused, compared to the usual, and either get worried or find you weird.
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yeet_13la
i have 1, 2, and 3 as issues. i know lots of history and i mostly overthink things. i overthink about nuclear possibility and have a worry of death. i tend to have multiple questions like what do you see when you pass away? or other questions about death and other serious topics that would not, at least someone of my age, would really not be thinking about. i sometimes just cry because i'm extremely stressed, and almost everyone including myself think highly. i'm not too sure about the first part of that, but i always think high of myself and have high expectations. in school, i mostly ace tests, and i get sad and worried if i get a low score. thanks for reading
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i have 1, 2, and 3 as issues. i know lots of history and i mostly overthink things. i overthink about nuclear possibility and have a worry of death. i tend to have multiple questions like what do you see when you pass away? or other questions about death and other serious topics that would not, at least someone of my age, would really not be thinking about. i sometimes just cry because i'm extremely stressed, and almost everyone including myself think highly. i'm not too sure about the first part of that, but i always think high of myself and have high expectations. in school, i mostly ace tests, and i get sad and worried if i get a low score. thanks for reading
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Cemetery
What helps me w my depression is whenever Im stressing out about every single little thing I always remind myself that no one cares, no one gives af so youre literally free to do what you want to do in the end of the day, youre free and depressed which means you have nothing to lose like the whole world turns fresh after knowing what. When your old world comes to an end youll smile bc there will be so much to look for. You have to kill your ego and past beliefs to bring in new ones and actually change, actually break free from your shell which is constricting yet comforting, it is a prison you must escape. Being comfortable is a crutch, you never learn to walk.
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What helps me w my depression is whenever Im stressing out about every single little thing I always remind myself that no one cares, no one gives af so youre literally free to do what you want to do in the end of the day, youre free and depressed which means you have nothing to lose like the whole world turns fresh after knowing what. When your old world comes to an end youll smile bc there will be so much to look for. You have to kill your ego and past beliefs to bring in new ones and actually change, actually break free from your shell which is constricting yet comforting, it is a prison you must escape. Being comfortable is a crutch, you never learn to walk.
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Wesscat
Should an individual assert their intelligence across all areas, it is reasonable to presume that such a person would possess a level of intelligence sufficient to grasp the fundamental truth that the world does not pivot on the axis of debate, and that achieving consensus with everyone is impossible. An individual that is genuinely wise should internalize and accept this. However, if not, it is a sign that this individual is accomplished in one area, but lacks a similar level of intelligence emotionally and cognitively.
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Should an individual assert their intelligence across all areas, it is reasonable to presume that such a person would possess a level of intelligence sufficient to grasp the fundamental truth that the world does not pivot on the axis of debate, and that achieving consensus with everyone is impossible. An individual that is genuinely wise should internalize and accept this. However, if not, it is a sign that this individual is accomplished in one area, but lacks a similar level of intelligence emotionally and cognitively.
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Nun
Its hard. Its really really hard. Everyone sees me as a walking brain and nothing more. I dont want to be the smart one and I end up depressed, anxious, withdrawn and left with Anhedonia. I think, because of it, no one pays compliments at all. They use me to help with work; its happened so much that Ive beaten people to the punch when they start conversation with me. And when I do open up it puts people off because they were wrong and they leave.
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Its hard. Its really really hard. Everyone sees me as a walking brain and nothing more. I dont want to be the smart one and I end up depressed, anxious, withdrawn and left with Anhedonia. I think, because of it, no one pays compliments at all. They use me to help with work; its happened so much that Ive beaten people to the punch when they start conversation with me. And when I do open up it puts people off because they were wrong and they leave.
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Daniel
I just want to say that as someone who's suffering from this that this video is really on the spot. Small example of overanalyzing all sensory, is like for example whenever I see some wearing Adidas it kind of pisses me off because Adidas were started by card-carrying Nazis and my family Jewish Holocaust survivors. So whenever I see adidas it triggers a small irritation in the back of my head
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I just want to say that as someone who's suffering from this that this video is really on the spot. Small example of overanalyzing all sensory, is like for example whenever I see some wearing Adidas it kind of pisses me off because Adidas were started by card-carrying Nazis and my family Jewish Holocaust survivors. So whenever I see adidas it triggers a small irritation in the back of my head
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MyOwnMasterpiece
So much truth to all of this. The most depressing part is that average people will never truly understand and so many feel free to make an uninformed diagnosis. All you can do is try to not let it bother you and be happy you're smart enough to see it. Being smart can make you crazy when you keep running into a wall over what you see as obvious and oblivious.
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So much truth to all of this. The most depressing part is that average people will never truly understand and so many feel free to make an uninformed diagnosis. All you can do is try to not let it bother you and be happy you're smart enough to see it. Being smart can make you crazy when you keep running into a wall over what you see as obvious and oblivious.
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Apocalypse
I can relate to all of these problems. Me, my dad and his dad are all generally very melancholic and our default happiness is lower that most peoples. My mom though is also pretty gifted, but she is a very optimistic and happy person. Theres definitely more complexity to a personality than only intelligence.
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I can relate to all of these problems. Me, my dad and his dad are all generally very melancholic and our default happiness is lower that most peoples. My mom though is also pretty gifted, but she is a very optimistic and happy person. Theres definitely more complexity to a personality than only intelligence.
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Gwin
Physical movement skills are different than communication and reading skills. Yes, I agree with you that the bookworm or the chemistry lab whiz may be mystified and bewildered when trying to play that game with the round black and white ball [ called either football or soccer ].
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Physical movement skills are different than communication and reading skills. Yes, I agree with you that the bookworm or the chemistry lab whiz may be mystified and bewildered when trying to play that game with the round black and white ball [ called either football or soccer ].
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Hjonk
I'm always asking myself too many questions deep down in my mind, and it only makes me feel even worse when I can't meet highly unrealistic standards set by myself and/or others. The problem for me is I can't find people who understand these same conflicting emotions.
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I'm always asking myself too many questions deep down in my mind, and it only makes me feel even worse when I can't meet highly unrealistic standards set by myself and/or others. The problem for me is I can't find people who understand these same conflicting emotions.
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Gwin
I heard a math teacher say once that she coasted easily through math classes in primary school and high school. It was not until she took advanced math classes in graduate school that she had to slow down, struggle, and really work. hard on the homework before her.
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I heard a math teacher say once that she coasted easily through math classes in primary school and high school. It was not until she took advanced math classes in graduate school that she had to slow down, struggle, and really work. hard on the homework before her.
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Why
Yeah I relate to all of these and pairing it with being ASP, I feel the communication struggle. Even though that's a huge struggle for me I hate dealing with the expectations part. I'm already hard on myself, I don't need a multitude of pressures
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Yeah I relate to all of these and pairing it with being ASP, I feel the communication struggle. Even though that's a huge struggle for me I hate dealing with the expectations part. I'm already hard on myself, I don't need a multitude of pressures
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Justin
For me personally, a smart people is those who are good at math and physics.
Thus it pushes me to think that if i can't do math or physics, i would consider myself as an idiot.
I always tell my brain about it
Help me please
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For me personally, a smart people is those who are good at math and physics.
Thus it pushes me to think that if i can't do math or physics, i would consider myself as an idiot.
I always tell my brain about it
Help me please
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Moonchild
I relate to the first three. I can make friendships easily, but I can't bring myself to trust anyone fully, so maintaining is the hard part. I don't know what this means. I'm not saying I'm intelligent. I just. can relate.
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I relate to the first three. I can make friendships easily, but I can't bring myself to trust anyone fully, so maintaining is the hard part. I don't know what this means. I'm not saying I'm intelligent. I just. can relate.
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Stinky
I don't know how to study because I would always get high scores without studying because I relied on my intelligence, being told to revise doesn't help because I DONT KNOW HOW! HOW DO I REVISE? I'VE NEVER REVISED IN MY LIFE.
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I don't know how to study because I would always get high scores without studying because I relied on my intelligence, being told to revise doesn't help because I DONT KNOW HOW! HOW DO I REVISE? I'VE NEVER REVISED IN MY LIFE.
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Paulie
Anyone can become intelligent. You just have to open your heart to the truth. No one is greater than another. It matters how deep you dive. And some swim faster than others but those who swim slower pay attention to detail.
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Anyone can become intelligent. You just have to open your heart to the truth. No one is greater than another. It matters how deep you dive. And some swim faster than others but those who swim slower pay attention to detail.
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Eugenio
Constantly being aware of the significant biases and prejudices that 99, 99% of people possess in everyday conversations creates an extremely painful barrier when you are the only one employing spotless logical reasoning.
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Constantly being aware of the significant biases and prejudices that 99, 99% of people possess in everyday conversations creates an extremely painful barrier when you are the only one employing spotless logical reasoning.
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W3irdn3ess
There's one more thing that can make it worse about the hyper awareness. If you know about the fact that you're depressed, or have any other disorder, It does NOT help. It can actually make the helplessness worse too.
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There's one more thing that can make it worse about the hyper awareness. If you know about the fact that you're depressed, or have any other disorder, It does NOT help. It can actually make the helplessness worse too.
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Isa
I do have these trates and its a daily struggle for me since i wanna be satisfied and i wanna be happy whenever I do good but i can only be happy in that moment and then become depressed again cause ik i have to do it again
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I do have these trates and its a daily struggle for me since i wanna be satisfied and i wanna be happy whenever I do good but i can only be happy in that moment and then become depressed again cause ik i have to do it again
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Timer
watch a movie with Jack Black, where he plays a primitive man. There, by the way, it is well shown how the thinker differs from the empty-headed. The movie is not the best, but it has something
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watch a movie with Jack Black, where he plays a primitive man. There, by the way, it is well shown how the thinker differs from the empty-headed. The movie is not the best, but it has something
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Krisa
I completely relate to this. I've had a really hard time relating to people, and I think it's mostly due to my IQ. It's something I've been trying to understand lately cause it isn't fun.
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I completely relate to this. I've had a really hard time relating to people, and I think it's mostly due to my IQ. It's something I've been trying to understand lately cause it isn't fun.
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