5 Early Signs of A Toxic Love
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Date: 2023-08-20
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Oo
This hit a lot of points from my most recent relationship, but one point in particular made me question myself. All through that relationship he mentally abused me, and manipulated others to believe that I was abusing him. He had a lot of emotional trauma from childhood, and was stuck in a state of mind where he hated himself. I tried to encourage him to seek help for his mental health, and encourage him to use his intelligence to get the job of his dreams. I thought I was doing the right thing by supporting his growth, but now I'm not sure whether I did the right thing or not. By the end of our relationship, I had changed toward him. One of the reasons he ended our relationship was because I had become too defensive, in his words. In fact, I was building my self worth with the help of my therapist. She gave me the courage to call him out for the horrible things he was saying to or about me. I just wonder if I'd pushed him too much, in what I thought was a positive way.
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This hit a lot of points from my most recent relationship, but one point in particular made me question myself. All through that relationship he mentally abused me, and manipulated others to believe that I was abusing him. He had a lot of emotional trauma from childhood, and was stuck in a state of mind where he hated himself. I tried to encourage him to seek help for his mental health, and encourage him to use his intelligence to get the job of his dreams. I thought I was doing the right thing by supporting his growth, but now I'm not sure whether I did the right thing or not. By the end of our relationship, I had changed toward him. One of the reasons he ended our relationship was because I had become too defensive, in his words. In fact, I was building my self worth with the help of my therapist. She gave me the courage to call him out for the horrible things he was saying to or about me. I just wonder if I'd pushed him too much, in what I thought was a positive way.
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Jared
Well, thanks for describing the entirety of my interactions with my ex wife.
An important thing for people to keep in mind is that sometimes just because someone is better than what you are used to, whether it's how a parent, sibling, or teachers had treated you, does not mean that they aren't toxic. It can be a spectrum like so many other things.
If your interactions set off warnings in your mind, stop and look at those warnings. It could be false, just triggering a previous issue, but it could be a sign of much deeper issues that will become a problem later.
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Well, thanks for describing the entirety of my interactions with my ex wife.
An important thing for people to keep in mind is that sometimes just because someone is better than what you are used to, whether it's how a parent, sibling, or teachers had treated you, does not mean that they aren't toxic. It can be a spectrum like so many other things.
If your interactions set off warnings in your mind, stop and look at those warnings. It could be false, just triggering a previous issue, but it could be a sign of much deeper issues that will become a problem later.
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JFleary
pros outweigh cons that's what matters for me. and if you both know that you're toxic or are aware of the issue then there will always be a way to solve it if you are together. But imo a toxic love doesn't necessarily mean that you can't be in love at the same time. if you love someone it is indefinitely whereas being toxic or toxic related problems are temporary because they can always be solved in the right time
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pros outweigh cons that's what matters for me. and if you both know that you're toxic or are aware of the issue then there will always be a way to solve it if you are together. But imo a toxic love doesn't necessarily mean that you can't be in love at the same time. if you love someone it is indefinitely whereas being toxic or toxic related problems are temporary because they can always be solved in the right time
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Sunitsu
I aggre except for number 4. For me, perfection is not something you find but something you made. When you are in a relationship and you think it's not perfect, don't just go away and look for another relationship. Both party need to sit down, talk, and fix each other so the relationship will walk towards perfection.
Anyway it's just my opinion. People free to do what they want about their relationships.
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I aggre except for number 4. For me, perfection is not something you find but something you made. When you are in a relationship and you think it's not perfect, don't just go away and look for another relationship. Both party need to sit down, talk, and fix each other so the relationship will walk towards perfection.
Anyway it's just my opinion. People free to do what they want about their relationships.
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Insert
Oh man, I see 2 things I need to be better at.
1. I think sometimes Im giving advice, but its sorta on the brink of criticism. Perfection is an unhealthy thing I strive for, and I need to watch to make sure it doesnt spread to my relationship.
2. Hes communicated with me that sometimes it takes me a bit to step up to the plate when accepting blame.
Thanks for pointing these things out, any advice?
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Oh man, I see 2 things I need to be better at.
1. I think sometimes Im giving advice, but its sorta on the brink of criticism. Perfection is an unhealthy thing I strive for, and I need to watch to make sure it doesnt spread to my relationship.
2. Hes communicated with me that sometimes it takes me a bit to step up to the plate when accepting blame.
Thanks for pointing these things out, any advice?
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PatchyxYT
Oki so i'dk if this is normal but
Almost every day I see like shadow people and one time I saw a pale lady with a white kimono with black long hair and and when I look at her she disappeared and I saw a black shadow that disappeared in front of me and it felt like she was touching my face and I felt like she watched me when I was sleeping as well but it was only month, so
Is it normal or not?
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Oki so i'dk if this is normal but
Almost every day I see like shadow people and one time I saw a pale lady with a white kimono with black long hair and and when I look at her she disappeared and I saw a black shadow that disappeared in front of me and it felt like she was touching my face and I felt like she watched me when I was sleeping as well but it was only month, so
Is it normal or not?
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ColinSuperstarYT
The person whos right for you will like you for who you are
Thats such a relief to hear that and realize that theres no need to worry about myself when Im in a conversation or with my GF.
Ive always been worrying and thinking: Does she regret having me around? No, I cant be that handsome, or handsome in general.
Even asking her myself has a tiny spec of me not believing her.
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The person whos right for you will like you for who you are
Thats such a relief to hear that and realize that theres no need to worry about myself when Im in a conversation or with my GF.
Ive always been worrying and thinking: Does she regret having me around? No, I cant be that handsome, or handsome in general.
Even asking her myself has a tiny spec of me not believing her.
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B.
+Psych2GoTv Thanks for the list o' symptoms for toxic love:
0: 171. Belittling & Criticism: I'd _rather_ not drag a future wife thither.
0: 562. Blame-Shifting: Not a factor OtJ.
1: 403. Thriving on Failure: Too many failures and I melt down like a reactor core.
2: 164. Fixer Mindset: I've one, cannot stand equipment failure OtJ.
2: 525. Deception: Not a factor OtJ.
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+Psych2GoTv Thanks for the list o' symptoms for toxic love:
0: 171. Belittling & Criticism: I'd _rather_ not drag a future wife thither.
0: 562. Blame-Shifting: Not a factor OtJ.
1: 403. Thriving on Failure: Too many failures and I melt down like a reactor core.
2: 164. Fixer Mindset: I've one, cannot stand equipment failure OtJ.
2: 525. Deception: Not a factor OtJ.
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Raina
I was in a toxic relationship, when my online friend saw a picture of me he wanted me to be his girlfriend and he would not stop pressuring me and said I would always be singal because of it, so after I tried my best to get him to go back to friends and he would not liston, I blocked him and I already have a boy that I want to be my boyfriend so I am fine.
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I was in a toxic relationship, when my online friend saw a picture of me he wanted me to be his girlfriend and he would not stop pressuring me and said I would always be singal because of it, so after I tried my best to get him to go back to friends and he would not liston, I blocked him and I already have a boy that I want to be my boyfriend so I am fine.
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Lars
Hmm. about Thriving on Your Failure. would it also cover not stepping up to your partners aid until the moment they actually fail? As in the opposite of celebrating their successes? Eg. not involving themselves with the other until depression and struggles with it sets in (leading to trying to fix you I suppose, without really being mean about it?
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Hmm. about Thriving on Your Failure. would it also cover not stepping up to your partners aid until the moment they actually fail? As in the opposite of celebrating their successes? Eg. not involving themselves with the other until depression and struggles with it sets in (leading to trying to fix you I suppose, without really being mean about it?
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Matthew
I know number 4 very well. They tried to bully me into getting medicated for my anxiety so I can be normal, and gave me deadlines on when my anxiety would just be gone. I've been working on it my way and have made a lot of progress. Don't date someone who treats you like a problem that needs to be fixed. They'll just make you feel worthless
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I know number 4 very well. They tried to bully me into getting medicated for my anxiety so I can be normal, and gave me deadlines on when my anxiety would just be gone. I've been working on it my way and have made a lot of progress. Don't date someone who treats you like a problem that needs to be fixed. They'll just make you feel worthless
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Bubble
I need to get out of my abusive relationship. Every single one of these is true for me. Im always the one to blame, he criticizes me all the time, has started putting his hands on me, hes threatening to kill me if I leave. I need to get out. He controls all the money. I constantly am being screamed at for everything I do. Im so tired
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I need to get out of my abusive relationship. Every single one of these is true for me. Im always the one to blame, he criticizes me all the time, has started putting his hands on me, hes threatening to kill me if I leave. I need to get out. He controls all the money. I constantly am being screamed at for everything I do. Im so tired
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Fish
I had a fight with my girlfriend yesterday, we almost broke up for one simple reason:
We both thought the relationship was hurting the other.
It turns out, we are the exact opposite of every single one of the points in this video.
We just care about each other too much to the point it becomes an issue lol
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I had a fight with my girlfriend yesterday, we almost broke up for one simple reason:
We both thought the relationship was hurting the other.
It turns out, we are the exact opposite of every single one of the points in this video.
We just care about each other too much to the point it becomes an issue lol
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AlphaOscillator
in my last relationship I criticized her a lot, because I wanted to change her into better, more fitting.
that happens when youre fundamentally not matching but still love eachother, based on the fact that youre toghether now, because you dont see that you could have better alternatives
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in my last relationship I criticized her a lot, because I wanted to change her into better, more fitting.
that happens when youre fundamentally not matching but still love eachother, based on the fact that youre toghether now, because you dont see that you could have better alternatives
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education
I wanted to ask, what you should do, when parents mentally abuse you? Do you have to call the police? What will happen after you call the police? How do you prove, that your parents are mentally abusing you? It would be really helpful if someone would answer my questions
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I wanted to ask, what you should do, when parents mentally abuse you? Do you have to call the police? What will happen after you call the police? How do you prove, that your parents are mentally abusing you? It would be really helpful if someone would answer my questions
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John
I'm recently out of a 13 Yr relationship, I think back to the start and the anxiety I felt when I was with her. I stayed due to insecurities in myself. Being with her got more toxic and abusive. Dont stay, leave as soon as you can!
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I'm recently out of a 13 Yr relationship, I think back to the start and the anxiety I felt when I was with her. I stayed due to insecurities in myself. Being with her got more toxic and abusive. Dont stay, leave as soon as you can!
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Rickless
To me
I just don't want Davina Rose Jaure just play streetwalker but I can't take away my virginity or everybody else I don't trust those low life females or gays just live rational whatever toxin people out there.
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To me
I just don't want Davina Rose Jaure just play streetwalker but I can't take away my virginity or everybody else I don't trust those low life females or gays just live rational whatever toxin people out there.
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Blue
Wt it's is when u feel like ur too kind to people and u feel guilty for being kind
Cause kindness doesn't work all the time, people take advantage of it. U wanna be rude to people sometimes but u just can't
WHY?
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Wt it's is when u feel like ur too kind to people and u feel guilty for being kind
Cause kindness doesn't work all the time, people take advantage of it. U wanna be rude to people sometimes but u just can't
WHY?
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Clems
The video and voiceover were lovely and interesting to sit and think about but then abruptly switching to the low-res clip of that lady loudly reading from a script at the end completely ruined the relaxing vibe
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The video and voiceover were lovely and interesting to sit and think about but then abruptly switching to the low-res clip of that lady loudly reading from a script at the end completely ruined the relaxing vibe
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MonsterDog
I relate with the Blame shifting. My ex partner always wanted to make me feel like I was the problem.
Gladly I'm now in a healthy relationships, I feel safe, confident and calm with it
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I relate with the Blame shifting. My ex partner always wanted to make me feel like I was the problem.
Gladly I'm now in a healthy relationships, I feel safe, confident and calm with it
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Ritahina(-
Hey can you make a video of signs that you Don't realized that you copying others behavior or attitude without realizing it or you know but Don't show or told anyone and how to handle it?
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Hey can you make a video of signs that you Don't realized that you copying others behavior or attitude without realizing it or you know but Don't show or told anyone and how to handle it?
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PatchyxYT
Oki so i'dk if this is normal but
Almost every day I see like shadow people and one time I saw a pale lady with a whit kimono with black long hair
Is it normal or not?
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Oki so i'dk if this is normal but
Almost every day I see like shadow people and one time I saw a pale lady with a whit kimono with black long hair
Is it normal or not?
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Logan
Don't have to worry about it if you're whole life has been truama and believe love is fake. single for life is far better than a life potentially going through torment.
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Don't have to worry about it if you're whole life has been truama and believe love is fake. single for life is far better than a life potentially going through torment.
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Thrafgig
Using the Windows default error sound in your video was a poor choice. Made me stop and look to see what happened. 5 times. Otherwise great content, big fan.
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Using the Windows default error sound in your video was a poor choice. Made me stop and look to see what happened. 5 times. Otherwise great content, big fan.
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ScottyB
Ugh. well, it is toxic, but more that it's just not right. 16 years later, there's no growth, no change, and it's been horrible for me. completely one sided.
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Ugh. well, it is toxic, but more that it's just not right. 16 years later, there's no growth, no change, and it's been horrible for me. completely one sided.
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