What If You Want To Be SINGLE, Forever?
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I m a girl who believes in love. I also believe in Healthy, beautiful relationships and love stories. However, the last time I fell in love, my ex took advantage of me in the worst way a woman could feel. I ve lost my innocence, my life, dreams and myself. After a failed suicide attempt and 20 days in the hospital questioning my life and the betrayal. I realized, life is more than finding love or relationships. It felt like God gave me another life another chance to live. I can love myself, my own time, do what I love, be who I want to. Since then, I ve decided to be single. I don t know if I ll ever love someone again cz the trauma I faced as a young teen, I can never forget. Love isn t worth to loose a life so live it the best while you can. I really really love everyone one who faced something similar as me. Just so y all know, being alone is completely fine. You don t need a relationship to be happy. Life is so much more than that.
Date: 2023-09-03
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bery
I think it's wonderful that we have all these things to do in modern society, but it's not a coincidence that so many issues are arising. What is written on someone's tombstone? How much money they made, how many hobbies they took on? No, the writing refers to their nature as a parent and friend. I think we're going towards an atomized society of people living alone and growing old as such. We're not even having enough children to replace the current population, it feels like the last days of Rome, just partying until we run out of fuel. I worked my ass off to launch my career but I've been alone most of the time, I don't even know what I'm doing on this planet. Now that I'm in the workforce, I'm almost horrified that I invested so much just to be part of a big company. Life is meaningless enough in itself, without love and a family it's gonna be rough. I think it's gonna be a very sad show when we get in our 50s.
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I think it's wonderful that we have all these things to do in modern society, but it's not a coincidence that so many issues are arising. What is written on someone's tombstone? How much money they made, how many hobbies they took on? No, the writing refers to their nature as a parent and friend. I think we're going towards an atomized society of people living alone and growing old as such. We're not even having enough children to replace the current population, it feels like the last days of Rome, just partying until we run out of fuel. I worked my ass off to launch my career but I've been alone most of the time, I don't even know what I'm doing on this planet. Now that I'm in the workforce, I'm almost horrified that I invested so much just to be part of a big company. Life is meaningless enough in itself, without love and a family it's gonna be rough. I think it's gonna be a very sad show when we get in our 50s.
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C3ntaur109
FINALLY! I was searching for this answer.
I was so overwhelmed of it's mandatory to be in a relationship
Like. I have so much things i want to do in the future. Like making a visual novel game, a cat hotel shop with my best friend, being successful.
I also want to fulfill me and my brother's dreams and biggest plan together.
So basically, i just find me being in a romantic relationship kinda bothering me. And what i actually needed was a best friend: ']
And i can't actually trust anyone in this generation because its ruined.
Also, if i was in a romantic relationship, i have to be responsible of not making my partner upset. (And these days, if u do anything wrong that makes your partner upset, it will be something controversial or something.
I already had enough stress, i dont want more.
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FINALLY! I was searching for this answer.
I was so overwhelmed of it's mandatory to be in a relationship
Like. I have so much things i want to do in the future. Like making a visual novel game, a cat hotel shop with my best friend, being successful.
I also want to fulfill me and my brother's dreams and biggest plan together.
So basically, i just find me being in a romantic relationship kinda bothering me. And what i actually needed was a best friend: ']
And i can't actually trust anyone in this generation because its ruined.
Also, if i was in a romantic relationship, i have to be responsible of not making my partner upset. (And these days, if u do anything wrong that makes your partner upset, it will be something controversial or something.
I already had enough stress, i dont want more.
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Chisszaru
I kinda want to be single, and sometimes, i want to be in a relationship. I'm otherwise quite happy with my life, even if i feel lonely at times. I'm trying to find myself, and i have have begun to accept things. All i want is to be happy, and while i prefer to be left alone, i don't want to be forever alone. I hope i find myself and becomes happy.
As of right now, i only want to buy a garden tractor i can use. I don't much care about the future or the past, but i do try to live in the present. As a guy who suffered from depression and suicide attempts, i do have trauma i need to heal. I don't know how to heal though, so i try to figure it out. I at least have two dogs who love me. It isn't my dogs, but my parent's dogs, but the dogs and my parent's cat just love me more than my parents
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I kinda want to be single, and sometimes, i want to be in a relationship. I'm otherwise quite happy with my life, even if i feel lonely at times. I'm trying to find myself, and i have have begun to accept things. All i want is to be happy, and while i prefer to be left alone, i don't want to be forever alone. I hope i find myself and becomes happy.
As of right now, i only want to buy a garden tractor i can use. I don't much care about the future or the past, but i do try to live in the present. As a guy who suffered from depression and suicide attempts, i do have trauma i need to heal. I don't know how to heal though, so i try to figure it out. I at least have two dogs who love me. It isn't my dogs, but my parent's dogs, but the dogs and my parent's cat just love me more than my parents
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Zen
I LOVE being single. I have also proven myself I can be the best partner ever. My last relationship was pretty toxic so I decided to end it. Thankfully we both agreed to it, because he acknowledged his posessiveness. So even in tears, we knew we had to part ways. Ever since I've been single and I don't miss being in a relationship, honestly. One could argue I just don't feel like going through all the toxic stuff again, but that isn't the case. Of course I'd like a healthy relationship, If I ever fall in love again, but I'm not actively searching for it. I'm good being single. But I'm not closed to the idea of having a relationship again. If I have to be single forever, then so be it, I'm ready for it. Whatever happens, I'm ready for it.
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I LOVE being single. I have also proven myself I can be the best partner ever. My last relationship was pretty toxic so I decided to end it. Thankfully we both agreed to it, because he acknowledged his posessiveness. So even in tears, we knew we had to part ways. Ever since I've been single and I don't miss being in a relationship, honestly. One could argue I just don't feel like going through all the toxic stuff again, but that isn't the case. Of course I'd like a healthy relationship, If I ever fall in love again, but I'm not actively searching for it. I'm good being single. But I'm not closed to the idea of having a relationship again. If I have to be single forever, then so be it, I'm ready for it. Whatever happens, I'm ready for it.
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MP
I'm now 68. I've had three major live-in relationships, each of which lasted years. My last partner is now my very best friend. But most of my life has been lived as a single. And frankly, it took me quite a while to realize how much I loved being single. For one thing, the freedom is amazing. Also, I think lifestyle compromise is much easier when you are younger. If I was to meet a good potential partner now, I would definitely be willing to explore a relationship, but I would need my space (and by that I mean my own domicile and lots of built in solitude. Also, I love single travel and have done a lot of trips on my own. So join me in pausing to think of all that is wonderful in being single! I am content and happy.
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I'm now 68. I've had three major live-in relationships, each of which lasted years. My last partner is now my very best friend. But most of my life has been lived as a single. And frankly, it took me quite a while to realize how much I loved being single. For one thing, the freedom is amazing. Also, I think lifestyle compromise is much easier when you are younger. If I was to meet a good potential partner now, I would definitely be willing to explore a relationship, but I would need my space (and by that I mean my own domicile and lots of built in solitude. Also, I love single travel and have done a lot of trips on my own. So join me in pausing to think of all that is wonderful in being single! I am content and happy.
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MegaManNeo
I'm fine alone but truth be told, I would enjoy being in a good relationship too.
My issue is that I grew up so isolated and so full of traumas that I now in my early 30's have it extremely difficult getting in touch with any people, really.
I can do whatever I want as a single but there's still plenty of moments where I'd just wish to have someone to talk with, play videogames, go out on a walk or just enjoy having a good time with.
But I'm probably not even good as a friend, I suppose considering no one I know really talks to me or asks to hang out.
At least the pictures and music made me smile: D
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I'm fine alone but truth be told, I would enjoy being in a good relationship too.
My issue is that I grew up so isolated and so full of traumas that I now in my early 30's have it extremely difficult getting in touch with any people, really.
I can do whatever I want as a single but there's still plenty of moments where I'd just wish to have someone to talk with, play videogames, go out on a walk or just enjoy having a good time with.
But I'm probably not even good as a friend, I suppose considering no one I know really talks to me or asks to hang out.
At least the pictures and music made me smile: D
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joakim
Funny. Just an hour before this was posted I was thinking of asking you to cover this topic. I m single, and have been so for just over ten years. I have had flings there in between but I never felt like romantic relationships are my thing. Although, even if I enjoy being single, there is these odd days from time to time, like today actually, that I just wish that someone would be in my space and fill me with love from an outside perspective: it s hard to always be the one picking yourself off the ground, since it can get tiresome especially to always fight moments of self-doubt on your own.
Anyways, thank you!
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Funny. Just an hour before this was posted I was thinking of asking you to cover this topic. I m single, and have been so for just over ten years. I have had flings there in between but I never felt like romantic relationships are my thing. Although, even if I enjoy being single, there is these odd days from time to time, like today actually, that I just wish that someone would be in my space and fill me with love from an outside perspective: it s hard to always be the one picking yourself off the ground, since it can get tiresome especially to always fight moments of self-doubt on your own.
Anyways, thank you!
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h y
Perfect timing for this video! I've never been in a relationship and of course, when I was younger, I really wanted one and I tried and tried. Years of trying different looks, different approaches, taking advice from friends and brothers, but no one ever showed any interest in me or paid attention when I tried to show affection, and of course, the good old friend zoning! I thought there was something wrong with me for a while, but I've come to realize how happy I am alone and how I can't honestly picture myself in a relationship and that's okay! I'm quite content being alone with my cat and guinea pigs
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Perfect timing for this video! I've never been in a relationship and of course, when I was younger, I really wanted one and I tried and tried. Years of trying different looks, different approaches, taking advice from friends and brothers, but no one ever showed any interest in me or paid attention when I tried to show affection, and of course, the good old friend zoning! I thought there was something wrong with me for a while, but I've come to realize how happy I am alone and how I can't honestly picture myself in a relationship and that's okay! I'm quite content being alone with my cat and guinea pigs
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Timinations900
I keep telling myself. Even though I'm 22 years old, who's still single and has never dated a women in his life, my desire for love grows and continues to grow as the years go by. I feel like relationships come and go, and for a relationship in Gen Z, it's almost impossible to please a woman if you don't have the looks, wealth, and above all height/weight. I'm 5'9, so not very tall, compared to the many 6ft people out there. I try to enjoy life, but it can be distracting and kind of lonesome when there are couples around me holding hands on their way to classes in college.
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I keep telling myself. Even though I'm 22 years old, who's still single and has never dated a women in his life, my desire for love grows and continues to grow as the years go by. I feel like relationships come and go, and for a relationship in Gen Z, it's almost impossible to please a woman if you don't have the looks, wealth, and above all height/weight. I'm 5'9, so not very tall, compared to the many 6ft people out there. I try to enjoy life, but it can be distracting and kind of lonesome when there are couples around me holding hands on their way to classes in college.
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dziodzio
for me being single is amazing because i can be independent, i don't have to care for anyone's opinion and i don't have to care anyway, i'm not overwhelmed and overall i'm free and that's amazing, i can spend time on my school and hobbies rather than relationship. i love shipping people, but i don't want to have romance myself. however, sometimes i feel like it would be nice to have someone that i'd care for and they'd care for me and you know all that stuff but FOR ME profits from being single >>> profits from being in relationship. thanks for coming to my ted talk
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for me being single is amazing because i can be independent, i don't have to care for anyone's opinion and i don't have to care anyway, i'm not overwhelmed and overall i'm free and that's amazing, i can spend time on my school and hobbies rather than relationship. i love shipping people, but i don't want to have romance myself. however, sometimes i feel like it would be nice to have someone that i'd care for and they'd care for me and you know all that stuff but FOR ME profits from being single >>> profits from being in relationship. thanks for coming to my ted talk
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John
I don't want to be single. I can't find love let alone a girlfriend. Most people don't think I have children because I don't have a wife. I did and she divorced me after my second child was born. After spending thousands in attorneys fees I feel most women are emotionally abusive and master manipulators. Very few decent women out there. The last date I went on the woman was extremely needy. She had four kids with three different men. Then most women want the bad men who they think are great.
Maybe I should consider a career in the priesthood.
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I don't want to be single. I can't find love let alone a girlfriend. Most people don't think I have children because I don't have a wife. I did and she divorced me after my second child was born. After spending thousands in attorneys fees I feel most women are emotionally abusive and master manipulators. Very few decent women out there. The last date I went on the woman was extremely needy. She had four kids with three different men. Then most women want the bad men who they think are great.
Maybe I should consider a career in the priesthood.
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Chisaten
This is super good for me right now. A month ago, I went through a breakup and other things which almost had me give up for good. I am missing those good times that I shared with that special man, but now I don't have to worry about how he was wanting to meet up as much as we could. He even got permission from his landlord for me to move in with him, but I didn't want that at all.
The thing which caused things to go bad and had him want to quit was when I asked if we could go back to being friends while I focused on getting counselling.
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This is super good for me right now. A month ago, I went through a breakup and other things which almost had me give up for good. I am missing those good times that I shared with that special man, but now I don't have to worry about how he was wanting to meet up as much as we could. He even got permission from his landlord for me to move in with him, but I didn't want that at all.
The thing which caused things to go bad and had him want to quit was when I asked if we could go back to being friends while I focused on getting counselling.
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Crescentphoenix
I'm so glad a video like these exist. I've been single most of my life and from my experience of being around so many others in relationships. I've always been asked why am I so happy and chill and well no one believes or understands that's it cause I'm single. I don't need or care to be in a relationship but as a comfort for those around me who worry still like friends and family I say well if it happens it happens. Trust me when I say take care of yourself first and find happiness then. Not only when you're in a relationship.
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I'm so glad a video like these exist. I've been single most of my life and from my experience of being around so many others in relationships. I've always been asked why am I so happy and chill and well no one believes or understands that's it cause I'm single. I don't need or care to be in a relationship but as a comfort for those around me who worry still like friends and family I say well if it happens it happens. Trust me when I say take care of yourself first and find happiness then. Not only when you're in a relationship.
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rAveSMR
This really resonates with me. I used to be single and really, really lonely and craved a relationship to feel fulfilled. But I've been single for 11 years and through the wonderful support and social stimulation of family, friends, and the platonic cuddling community, I've reached a point where I'm having a really good time being single and not compromising myself for someone else. I no longer feel like another person is what I NEED to feel whole and complete. I'm complete on my own.
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This really resonates with me. I used to be single and really, really lonely and craved a relationship to feel fulfilled. But I've been single for 11 years and through the wonderful support and social stimulation of family, friends, and the platonic cuddling community, I've reached a point where I'm having a really good time being single and not compromising myself for someone else. I no longer feel like another person is what I NEED to feel whole and complete. I'm complete on my own.
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Johnathan
I have one astute observation I feel that needs to be pointed out, when I came to the subject of compromising, I feel the main caricature was for better lack of words a door mat, I strongly believe and feel that compromise should be reciprocated and if your partner doesn't want to try the things your passionate about as you are with there passions and hobbies. Then there not realizing that reciprocation needs to happen or they don't really want to compromise in the relationship.
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I have one astute observation I feel that needs to be pointed out, when I came to the subject of compromising, I feel the main caricature was for better lack of words a door mat, I strongly believe and feel that compromise should be reciprocated and if your partner doesn't want to try the things your passionate about as you are with there passions and hobbies. Then there not realizing that reciprocation needs to happen or they don't really want to compromise in the relationship.
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Saint
I do want to be in a relationship, and I'm alright being single, but I have a feeling I'm probably going to end up staying this way for the rest of my life, and playing video games and watching TV all day isn't my idea of happiness nor would it necessarily lead to it. I could have more time to write this novel/book series I'm thinking of writing, but even then and there, since I wanted it to be illustrated, I couldn't do it myself.
Not a fan of Lady Gaga neither.
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I do want to be in a relationship, and I'm alright being single, but I have a feeling I'm probably going to end up staying this way for the rest of my life, and playing video games and watching TV all day isn't my idea of happiness nor would it necessarily lead to it. I could have more time to write this novel/book series I'm thinking of writing, but even then and there, since I wanted it to be illustrated, I couldn't do it myself.
Not a fan of Lady Gaga neither.
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Peter
When I was younger my father told me, Love is blind, but marriage is an eye opener. I am 54 and never been married. My siblings have all been married. My oldest sister was married to 2 men at the same time. My brother has been married and divorced 5 times. Life has been hell for them. And that's just for starters. I have a wonderful woman in my life named Irene. She is the best person I know. So if you don't want to be married, go ahead and be happy.
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When I was younger my father told me, Love is blind, but marriage is an eye opener. I am 54 and never been married. My siblings have all been married. My oldest sister was married to 2 men at the same time. My brother has been married and divorced 5 times. Life has been hell for them. And that's just for starters. I have a wonderful woman in my life named Irene. She is the best person I know. So if you don't want to be married, go ahead and be happy.
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PolloPoderoso
Thanks for the video. I've been going back and forth between the desire to be single and the desire to be with someone. I think that the main dream I have when it comes to women I like is having a girl who will truly like me for who I am, but I don't know if I'd want to get so emotionally invested in a relationship with someone else. Maybe it's egocentric, IDK. For now, I am ok, and it's great if you're too: )
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Thanks for the video. I've been going back and forth between the desire to be single and the desire to be with someone. I think that the main dream I have when it comes to women I like is having a girl who will truly like me for who I am, but I don't know if I'd want to get so emotionally invested in a relationship with someone else. Maybe it's egocentric, IDK. For now, I am ok, and it's great if you're too: )
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Anonymous
Also I feel like aromantic people would receive criticism for being single since relationships is what's accepted in society, just wanna let y'all know there's nothing wrong with being single. Also I can relate to y'all single people because my parents said that I have to get married when I grow up, which I hate because what if I don't want to? Even in school, dating is what's accepted, and I really hate that.
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Also I feel like aromantic people would receive criticism for being single since relationships is what's accepted in society, just wanna let y'all know there's nothing wrong with being single. Also I can relate to y'all single people because my parents said that I have to get married when I grow up, which I hate because what if I don't want to? Even in school, dating is what's accepted, and I really hate that.
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