Things You Didn't Know Are Gaslighting
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Date: 2024-04-09
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This video is the definition of gaslighting and is such a dangerous piece of content for the audience.
Psychoanalysis of basic interactions, mistakes, or potentially rude behavior is not gaslighting.
Also, are you that weak willed that you can't stand up for yourself
Do you not realize by dismissing the other persons belief structure to press your belief structure as the dominant idea is also gaslighting
This is a never-ending process if you want it to be. This is simply just people disagreeing - its normal, healthy, and the other party who percieves they are being gaslit just needs to have their own standards, limitations, and backbone - bc no one is going to advocate for you other than you.
The dilution of the term gaslighg is simply a tactic for individuals with more feminine temperments to use against people who have more masculine temperments so that they dont have to take any accountability for their actions.
Is gaslighting real Yes, but it's not this pervasive element of life lurking around every corner that is out to get you. And when you have a subjective analysis of what it means to be gaslit, you can't have any standard of truth inside of a relationship.
This video should be shamed, ridiculed, and left up as an example of the idicy of the modern soft science landscape.
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This video is the definition of gaslighting and is such a dangerous piece of content for the audience.
Psychoanalysis of basic interactions, mistakes, or potentially rude behavior is not gaslighting.
Also, are you that weak willed that you can't stand up for yourself
Do you not realize by dismissing the other persons belief structure to press your belief structure as the dominant idea is also gaslighting
This is a never-ending process if you want it to be. This is simply just people disagreeing - its normal, healthy, and the other party who percieves they are being gaslit just needs to have their own standards, limitations, and backbone - bc no one is going to advocate for you other than you.
The dilution of the term gaslighg is simply a tactic for individuals with more feminine temperments to use against people who have more masculine temperments so that they dont have to take any accountability for their actions.
Is gaslighting real Yes, but it's not this pervasive element of life lurking around every corner that is out to get you. And when you have a subjective analysis of what it means to be gaslit, you can't have any standard of truth inside of a relationship.
This video should be shamed, ridiculed, and left up as an example of the idicy of the modern soft science landscape.
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Lukas-Trnka
One thing that, I think, is missing in the video, is a highlighting a notice that not every case of contradicting, selective memory or minimising feelings should be always perceived as gaslighting. Just like with many other things, even here, those symptoms must cross certain threshold to be considered a toxic behaviour.
I'd say, there is quite a lot of gaslighting around these days. And when someone gets gaslighted often, he might become oversensitive to that, and might start accusing all the people around of gaslighting, even those who are actually not doing it.
People who often experience some kind of extreme and unfair situations, sometimes slip into the opposite extreme. I have suffered a gaslighting since childhood, and when I realized what was happening, I also realized that I might get hurt even more if I defend myself too disproportionately. Because I might have been perceived toxic myself by others if I were too easy to accuse others.
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One thing that, I think, is missing in the video, is a highlighting a notice that not every case of contradicting, selective memory or minimising feelings should be always perceived as gaslighting. Just like with many other things, even here, those symptoms must cross certain threshold to be considered a toxic behaviour.
I'd say, there is quite a lot of gaslighting around these days. And when someone gets gaslighted often, he might become oversensitive to that, and might start accusing all the people around of gaslighting, even those who are actually not doing it.
People who often experience some kind of extreme and unfair situations, sometimes slip into the opposite extreme. I have suffered a gaslighting since childhood, and when I realized what was happening, I also realized that I might get hurt even more if I defend myself too disproportionately. Because I might have been perceived toxic myself by others if I were too easy to accuse others.
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ObsidionshadowX
No matter the progress made, time passed, she always said things like you're always angry even though we hadn't argued in months, sure. i made comments about crappy drivers and stuff, complained about typical life stuff. she even chimed into it too. But I always admitted to my faults and tried my best to fix it. she didn't.
But her favorite word was always and never getting better about drinking. which yeah, created it's own problems.
It hurts that it is what it is. but i couldn't even laugh the same anymore, stopped being creative. i walked on egg shells with almost every word.
She even convinced me that my therapist wasn't helping and got me to quit, i don't need that toxicity. or belittling. I didn't deserve this.
But, I'm moving forward. not sure where I'll end up, but I'm not dating again any time soon. If for any reason, just for my own health.
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No matter the progress made, time passed, she always said things like you're always angry even though we hadn't argued in months, sure. i made comments about crappy drivers and stuff, complained about typical life stuff. she even chimed into it too. But I always admitted to my faults and tried my best to fix it. she didn't.
But her favorite word was always and never getting better about drinking. which yeah, created it's own problems.
It hurts that it is what it is. but i couldn't even laugh the same anymore, stopped being creative. i walked on egg shells with almost every word.
She even convinced me that my therapist wasn't helping and got me to quit, i don't need that toxicity. or belittling. I didn't deserve this.
But, I'm moving forward. not sure where I'll end up, but I'm not dating again any time soon. If for any reason, just for my own health.
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natetoews2421
One time I was being gaslit by a really nasty homeless person and some of the things that were said to me were your parents don’t care about you they only care about themselves and you don’t need your friends or family just live alone as if you don’t exist. At first I didn’t know what gaslighting was but then I started thinking what is going on and although it was very traumatic and tricky to understand and then tell myself and my parents what was happening I did and now I am seeing a therapist and I am on the road to recovery so I’m just happy I am recovering from my depression and the bad person is suffering from what they put me through
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One time I was being gaslit by a really nasty homeless person and some of the things that were said to me were your parents don’t care about you they only care about themselves and you don’t need your friends or family just live alone as if you don’t exist. At first I didn’t know what gaslighting was but then I started thinking what is going on and although it was very traumatic and tricky to understand and then tell myself and my parents what was happening I did and now I am seeing a therapist and I am on the road to recovery so I’m just happy I am recovering from my depression and the bad person is suffering from what they put me through
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alkahinat4558
Had to recently cut off someone I was supposed to be dating, because they offered to pay for my accommodation for a trip, then went back on what they said and when I pointed it out, they got mad and denied ever saying it
Weeks later, he finally admitted that he had said it, but because I don’t tolerate gaslighting, it was too late
I’m grateful that the red flags showed up early. I find gaslighting very offensive, because you’re trying to make the person question reality.
My advice would be to run from anyone who does this, the behaviour will only escalate.
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Had to recently cut off someone I was supposed to be dating, because they offered to pay for my accommodation for a trip, then went back on what they said and when I pointed it out, they got mad and denied ever saying it
Weeks later, he finally admitted that he had said it, but because I don’t tolerate gaslighting, it was too late
I’m grateful that the red flags showed up early. I find gaslighting very offensive, because you’re trying to make the person question reality.
My advice would be to run from anyone who does this, the behaviour will only escalate.
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SamiiSam128
Yup. i deal with it when it comes to my dad.
The youre overreacting youre so sensitive for no reason, its a joke when im genuinely feeling upset.
Or the times where he said that didnt happen no, this is how it happened.
And when i finally proved that it happened, he just goes quiet.
I also remember times where he said that i did or didnt do something. When i asked him were you there when it happened
And that stumps him every time.
I knew gaslighting was a thing, but as i age, i see it so much. Im glad i can see it now
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Yup. i deal with it when it comes to my dad.
The youre overreacting youre so sensitive for no reason, its a joke when im genuinely feeling upset.
Or the times where he said that didnt happen no, this is how it happened.
And when i finally proved that it happened, he just goes quiet.
I also remember times where he said that i did or didnt do something. When i asked him were you there when it happened
And that stumps him every time.
I knew gaslighting was a thing, but as i age, i see it so much. Im glad i can see it now
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siennaprice1351
Gaslighting can also make someone limit themselves, and possibly even hate themselves. They might hate themselves for feeling a certain way, so then they go to limit themselves. I’m not allowed to feel this way. It’s not OK for me to feel this way. I’m not allowed to be different. It’s not OK for me to cry. And so on, and so forth. Then the person starts to shame themselves, and they even restrict themselves and put a border around themselves just to fit in. And then they don’t love themselves for who they are.
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Gaslighting can also make someone limit themselves, and possibly even hate themselves. They might hate themselves for feeling a certain way, so then they go to limit themselves. I’m not allowed to feel this way. It’s not OK for me to feel this way. I’m not allowed to be different. It’s not OK for me to cry. And so on, and so forth. Then the person starts to shame themselves, and they even restrict themselves and put a border around themselves just to fit in. And then they don’t love themselves for who they are.
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BlinkinFirefly
My ex did all these forms of gaslighting. Except for telling me I'm too sensitive. No, I beat him to it on that one. I gaslit myself calling myself sensitive as the excuse for why I had a problem with his, what I later found out was abuse. He found ways to condescend me nearly every day. It was very subtle, but it chipped away at my confidence and self-esteem over time. This kind of abuse is the most damaging in my opinion. It's been so hard bouncing back from. Definitely needing therapy to get through it: (
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My ex did all these forms of gaslighting. Except for telling me I'm too sensitive. No, I beat him to it on that one. I gaslit myself calling myself sensitive as the excuse for why I had a problem with his, what I later found out was abuse. He found ways to condescend me nearly every day. It was very subtle, but it chipped away at my confidence and self-esteem over time. This kind of abuse is the most damaging in my opinion. It's been so hard bouncing back from. Definitely needing therapy to get through it: (
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bryanziegler2037
There's a difference between somebody being manipulative to your detriment and misinterpreting other people's intentions because you have anxiety. Other people forget things and remember things through their own lens, and that's totally valid. There's a very fine line here because the intent of the other person matters, and you might not be in a frame of mind to assess that. Plus, you can't ask if somebody is trying to manipulate you, because they'll deny it.
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There's a difference between somebody being manipulative to your detriment and misinterpreting other people's intentions because you have anxiety. Other people forget things and remember things through their own lens, and that's totally valid. There's a very fine line here because the intent of the other person matters, and you might not be in a frame of mind to assess that. Plus, you can't ask if somebody is trying to manipulate you, because they'll deny it.
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lisamuller6571
Is it only me or does it feel like everyone is gaslighting I notice these examples in mostly all people around me. In private I can choose to stay with those people but at work it's difficult. 1 and 2 are constantly for my coworkers and even boss. I feel like everyone is stressed and overwhelmed by their lives and need to use those strategies. And it gets a lot worse when you call them out, I won't make that mistake again
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Is it only me or does it feel like everyone is gaslighting I notice these examples in mostly all people around me. In private I can choose to stay with those people but at work it's difficult. 1 and 2 are constantly for my coworkers and even boss. I feel like everyone is stressed and overwhelmed by their lives and need to use those strategies. And it gets a lot worse when you call them out, I won't make that mistake again
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h0u4
I KNEW IT! One time, I had a friend shared an article about my disability in our group chat, and how doctors are trying to FIX it, and I said that it's very invalidating. Like, are my friends saying that I need to be fixed Then another friend say it's just an article. That was pretty much the end of our friendship because I felt so gaslit by even the neutral friends who tried telling me what they did wasn't gaslighting.
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I KNEW IT! One time, I had a friend shared an article about my disability in our group chat, and how doctors are trying to FIX it, and I said that it's very invalidating. Like, are my friends saying that I need to be fixed Then another friend say it's just an article. That was pretty much the end of our friendship because I felt so gaslit by even the neutral friends who tried telling me what they did wasn't gaslighting.
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tgonfluffyg8395
I love when it’s used in the way of a quid pro quo like if someone says if you rake up the leafs we’ll go to the bowling alley so you rake up the leafs and say I fished raking the leafs let go bowling, but they say I never said we’d go bowling it’s like wow Pinocchio you could knock someone out if you turn ur head too quickly
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I love when it’s used in the way of a quid pro quo like if someone says if you rake up the leafs we’ll go to the bowling alley so you rake up the leafs and say I fished raking the leafs let go bowling, but they say I never said we’d go bowling it’s like wow Pinocchio you could knock someone out if you turn ur head too quickly
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carlosgumiero2033
When you try to set any boundarie in the relationship due to a toxic behavior that the person often makes, and then they say that they have always been like that and they never gonna change so we have to deal / live with that because we are having a limited sight of their situation. It's a form of gaslighting too, I guess.
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When you try to set any boundarie in the relationship due to a toxic behavior that the person often makes, and then they say that they have always been like that and they never gonna change so we have to deal / live with that because we are having a limited sight of their situation. It's a form of gaslighting too, I guess.
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labianfamster9520
So now after watching the video we know some things about gaslighting, what it is about and examples of gaslighting. But: What should we do with the person who is gaslighting us Ignore her Tell her something like Do you know that you are gaslighting me, ask for answers (and maybe get even more gaslighting)
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So now after watching the video we know some things about gaslighting, what it is about and examples of gaslighting. But: What should we do with the person who is gaslighting us Ignore her Tell her something like Do you know that you are gaslighting me, ask for answers (and maybe get even more gaslighting)
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greedbun
i am currently dealing with a manager who frequently gaslights me! Fortunately, she's not the manager of the office I work at, but she is helping our office function, but I feel extremely singled out by her. Probably because I've been the only one to see through her and call her out for this kind of behavior.
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i am currently dealing with a manager who frequently gaslights me! Fortunately, she's not the manager of the office I work at, but she is helping our office function, but I feel extremely singled out by her. Probably because I've been the only one to see through her and call her out for this kind of behavior.
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runewolf77
The best I think to defend from gaslighting like that is just act like u didn't know that's true kinda like acting like a dumb blonde sort of and make urself look interested and thinking that's like pulling a mirror move on them and u can c it in their face they're being gaslit inside their head
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The best I think to defend from gaslighting like that is just act like u didn't know that's true kinda like acting like a dumb blonde sort of and make urself look interested and thinking that's like pulling a mirror move on them and u can c it in their face they're being gaslit inside their head
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keip4568
I deal with gaslighting daily. Sometimes I feel like it is nice if you get it from friends or a lover you don't see daily. but when it is family it is a Neverending hell especially when they've done it since childhood and pass it off as normal plus you have sibling(s) they don't do it too.
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I deal with gaslighting daily. Sometimes I feel like it is nice if you get it from friends or a lover you don't see daily. but when it is family it is a Neverending hell especially when they've done it since childhood and pass it off as normal plus you have sibling(s) they don't do it too.
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Morastbiene
As someone who has been gaslit for several years: Trust your gut. If something feels deeply wrong, it probably is.
(I'd also highly recommend to educate yourself about narcissism since gaslighting is a core ingredient of narcissistic abuse and toxic, manipulative behavior)
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As someone who has been gaslit for several years: Trust your gut. If something feels deeply wrong, it probably is.
(I'd also highly recommend to educate yourself about narcissism since gaslighting is a core ingredient of narcissistic abuse and toxic, manipulative behavior)
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psych2go
Yes, I am never heard in our household. My feelings are always invalidated and they always twist words to make it seem like I'm wrong. It's always been about them being right and that I should always understand them.
I honestly don't know how to deal with them at this point.
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Yes, I am never heard in our household. My feelings are always invalidated and they always twist words to make it seem like I'm wrong. It's always been about them being right and that I should always understand them.
I honestly don't know how to deal with them at this point.
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keip4568
A lot of the people who do this are on the internet. Sadly making you search for the proof or try to make it seem like you're crazy.
Or in their eyes downplaying it but in the end they are calling you crazy to get out of the things you get dismissiveness
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A lot of the people who do this are on the internet. Sadly making you search for the proof or try to make it seem like you're crazy.
Or in their eyes downplaying it but in the end they are calling you crazy to get out of the things you get dismissiveness
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