If You Struggle To Let Go Of Hatred, Watch This
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Date: 2024-06-04
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onepirateforpeace
I was really very angry at a former friend for betraying my trust for quite sometime, howerver I never acted on that anger with vengance and only let it out when I was alone. I hurt myself more than anyone else, because I knew she is actually a good-hearted person who however just doesn't respect/ understand boundaries (not just mine but of others as well) and remebering that she is simply wired that way helps me letting go of my hatred (well some times I still get angry for a short time when I think of the specifics tbh.
When I talked to a good friend of mine (who is also my former friends best friend) about it I made it clear that I don't want her to pick a side and I just wanted to explain where I was coming from/ why I didn't want to meet up with her anymore/ avoided her. I do not wish my former friend ill or that she loses her friends, I never wanted this, so I was relived when she said that this wouldn't change anything between her and my former friend.
I tried after sometime to drink a cup of coffee with my former friend lately (because she invited me and I didn't want to be rude) but I just didn't feel really comfortable and I don't want to pretend anymore that everything is okay between us. My goal is to be neutral towrads her, so we can interact without beeing too close and without me beeing uncomfortable or beeing angry afterwards.
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I was really very angry at a former friend for betraying my trust for quite sometime, howerver I never acted on that anger with vengance and only let it out when I was alone. I hurt myself more than anyone else, because I knew she is actually a good-hearted person who however just doesn't respect/ understand boundaries (not just mine but of others as well) and remebering that she is simply wired that way helps me letting go of my hatred (well some times I still get angry for a short time when I think of the specifics tbh.
When I talked to a good friend of mine (who is also my former friends best friend) about it I made it clear that I don't want her to pick a side and I just wanted to explain where I was coming from/ why I didn't want to meet up with her anymore/ avoided her. I do not wish my former friend ill or that she loses her friends, I never wanted this, so I was relived when she said that this wouldn't change anything between her and my former friend.
I tried after sometime to drink a cup of coffee with my former friend lately (because she invited me and I didn't want to be rude) but I just didn't feel really comfortable and I don't want to pretend anymore that everything is okay between us. My goal is to be neutral towrads her, so we can interact without beeing too close and without me beeing uncomfortable or beeing angry afterwards.
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lilysame6488
I struggle/ don't struggle with hate, my intire life has been betrayal and getting stabed in the back, left behind by many I stood by and fought for. I not just hate but anger and rage as well, yes I do agree that all 3 a power poisons to are mind, body and spirits, at some point I toke out my emotions on others who I saw as. happy and wanted to take it away like mine was, but it never brought me any joy or relief only sadness. But then I decided ill hold on to these monsters and use there power on thoes who. deserve it, in school I started going after bullies, those who hurt others, some even became my best friends but the power of such emotions comes at a heavy cost, I now only use them in fights to defend myself or others, but the power and strength I get comes at a great cost, even just controlling these beasts cost my health, but I can never forgive nor forget, iv relied on these emotions so long, letting go makes me physically sick and weak to the point I can't even get out of bed, without them. I'll die, with them ill simply die a little later, don't repeat my mistake. let go but never forget forgiveness is not the same, not everyone should be worthy of your forgiveness cus it can blind you and you'll simply get hurt again, but hopefully some1 read my tail and can learn from it, sorry for the long read
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I struggle/ don't struggle with hate, my intire life has been betrayal and getting stabed in the back, left behind by many I stood by and fought for. I not just hate but anger and rage as well, yes I do agree that all 3 a power poisons to are mind, body and spirits, at some point I toke out my emotions on others who I saw as. happy and wanted to take it away like mine was, but it never brought me any joy or relief only sadness. But then I decided ill hold on to these monsters and use there power on thoes who. deserve it, in school I started going after bullies, those who hurt others, some even became my best friends but the power of such emotions comes at a heavy cost, I now only use them in fights to defend myself or others, but the power and strength I get comes at a great cost, even just controlling these beasts cost my health, but I can never forgive nor forget, iv relied on these emotions so long, letting go makes me physically sick and weak to the point I can't even get out of bed, without them. I'll die, with them ill simply die a little later, don't repeat my mistake. let go but never forget forgiveness is not the same, not everyone should be worthy of your forgiveness cus it can blind you and you'll simply get hurt again, but hopefully some1 read my tail and can learn from it, sorry for the long read
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funinartcraftzz
Found this video when i was removing recommendatons of kpop stans hateful videos. was technically crying of rage. so basically there is this group babymonster, so they didn't win and instead a group from a really hated company hybe (also the punching bag of kpop) won instead (illit). so basically bm left before the announcement and everyone in the comments is like 'yg (bm's company name) is so savage. I personally loathe this company for way too many number of reasons. everyone in the comments was like 'hybe paid money to win' like bruh there is no actual proof that it's rigged. and everyone was like 'bm is so much talented than illit' like ik that's true but that doesn't make a difference. these toxic fans r not able to accept their fav lost. kpop stans r so toxic. they always try to find ways to humiliate hybe artists and hybe themselves. like bruh i don’t even give a damn about illit (I’ve only heard their 1 song ) it's just so annoying and unfair. that's why I’ve decided to just not watch kpop anymore. I mean I’ll still watch my most favourite group. but that’s the only one I will watch. kpop is just too unbearable
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Found this video when i was removing recommendatons of kpop stans hateful videos. was technically crying of rage. so basically there is this group babymonster, so they didn't win and instead a group from a really hated company hybe (also the punching bag of kpop) won instead (illit). so basically bm left before the announcement and everyone in the comments is like 'yg (bm's company name) is so savage. I personally loathe this company for way too many number of reasons. everyone in the comments was like 'hybe paid money to win' like bruh there is no actual proof that it's rigged. and everyone was like 'bm is so much talented than illit' like ik that's true but that doesn't make a difference. these toxic fans r not able to accept their fav lost. kpop stans r so toxic. they always try to find ways to humiliate hybe artists and hybe themselves. like bruh i don’t even give a damn about illit (I’ve only heard their 1 song ) it's just so annoying and unfair. that's why I’ve decided to just not watch kpop anymore. I mean I’ll still watch my most favourite group. but that’s the only one I will watch. kpop is just too unbearable
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McJewelistVid
Thank you for making this video! It exactly what I needed
About a year ago, I was at the discord server where my close friend I know for 7 years invited me to, where I see my ex friend again, (I know them 3 years ago before and I unfollowed them because of they highly critical nature on media like Disney movies and games, even watching them knowing they gonna hate or know it’s sucks) I thought she might had changed and might give her a second chance, she act like she doesn't know me and she completely rude to me when I made a comment that on my MacBook Pro I can’t play MMD on it. till this day, I still hurts. I can’t stop thinking about them who hurt me, how they hate everything in media, no matter how many times I analyse in her with no ease as it is taking a toll to my mental health, because of that discord group as well that cause me to mental health (due to one of them is misanthropist) sadly my close friend with with them who hurt me
Hope to find peace soon and I hope everyone who went though similar situation like I am is not alone.
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Thank you for making this video! It exactly what I needed
About a year ago, I was at the discord server where my close friend I know for 7 years invited me to, where I see my ex friend again, (I know them 3 years ago before and I unfollowed them because of they highly critical nature on media like Disney movies and games, even watching them knowing they gonna hate or know it’s sucks) I thought she might had changed and might give her a second chance, she act like she doesn't know me and she completely rude to me when I made a comment that on my MacBook Pro I can’t play MMD on it. till this day, I still hurts. I can’t stop thinking about them who hurt me, how they hate everything in media, no matter how many times I analyse in her with no ease as it is taking a toll to my mental health, because of that discord group as well that cause me to mental health (due to one of them is misanthropist) sadly my close friend with with them who hurt me
Hope to find peace soon and I hope everyone who went though similar situation like I am is not alone.
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psych2go
I'm actually in tears irl rn after watching this.
I've always been a peaceful, loving, and forgiving person. Yes, I may have seen and even gotten mixed up in dramas, mostly online, but I've always tried to be comforting and help my friends and other people cope with whatever issues they were having, and I also tried to share my positive personality with everyone around me. Simply because I just want to make people happy in whatever way I can.
Sadly. Things changed over time. And I've gone through my own problems. I've had to end up cutting ties with certain people because I was wronged in some way.
And almost every time I saw a post from certain people. It would drive me crazy because in my POV, it looks like they're going on with their lives like nothing is wrong, while I'm stuck in a limbo of hatred and being unforgiving.
Honestly tho. I'm tired of holding grudges against people. And all I want to do is just stop being stuck in the past, and just go back to being myself again.
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I'm actually in tears irl rn after watching this.
I've always been a peaceful, loving, and forgiving person. Yes, I may have seen and even gotten mixed up in dramas, mostly online, but I've always tried to be comforting and help my friends and other people cope with whatever issues they were having, and I also tried to share my positive personality with everyone around me. Simply because I just want to make people happy in whatever way I can.
Sadly. Things changed over time. And I've gone through my own problems. I've had to end up cutting ties with certain people because I was wronged in some way.
And almost every time I saw a post from certain people. It would drive me crazy because in my POV, it looks like they're going on with their lives like nothing is wrong, while I'm stuck in a limbo of hatred and being unforgiving.
Honestly tho. I'm tired of holding grudges against people. And all I want to do is just stop being stuck in the past, and just go back to being myself again.
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szrsplaythroughs
I really struggled for a long time with a couple specific people. I had an old job where the managers were basically emotionally abusive to their employees on top of it being a high stress food service job. They literally broke federal labor laws at one point with me. I was so miserable with them that i had almost started self harming. I got out of that situation eventually but it left me with horrible anxiety, and a deep inherent mistrust of authority figures. And i struggled with letting go for a long time because it felt like that would invalidate my experiences. But something i had to learn to acknowledge was that you need to let go of the past and the way they treated you was aweful are not mutually exclusive statements. Both are true. Yes they treated me terribly and will probably never see repercussions for it and that sucks. But also im not doing myself any favors by dwelling on it.
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I really struggled for a long time with a couple specific people. I had an old job where the managers were basically emotionally abusive to their employees on top of it being a high stress food service job. They literally broke federal labor laws at one point with me. I was so miserable with them that i had almost started self harming. I got out of that situation eventually but it left me with horrible anxiety, and a deep inherent mistrust of authority figures. And i struggled with letting go for a long time because it felt like that would invalidate my experiences. But something i had to learn to acknowledge was that you need to let go of the past and the way they treated you was aweful are not mutually exclusive statements. Both are true. Yes they treated me terribly and will probably never see repercussions for it and that sucks. But also im not doing myself any favors by dwelling on it.
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sarahelo9656
I’m sorry to all the people who have hate in their hearts for a family member. I do too, and I’ve never felt so much resentment. It feels like I’ve been betrayed, that all of our good memories were for naught as they decided to hurt me.
Just 1 month ago, I stood up to my abusive father. Up until a few days ago, I was full of hate for him. How could I not have seen the abuse sooner and how can he do this to me, of all people
But I’ve come to peace. I still love him for the good memories and lessons he has given me; now, our relationship has changed and that is apart of life. He has not spoken to me (and me to him) for over 1 month. He kicked me out of his home so I haven’t seen him, either. But I wish him the best. I hope he finds peace and happiness as I did mine Goodluck to all those struggling, you can do this.
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I’m sorry to all the people who have hate in their hearts for a family member. I do too, and I’ve never felt so much resentment. It feels like I’ve been betrayed, that all of our good memories were for naught as they decided to hurt me.
Just 1 month ago, I stood up to my abusive father. Up until a few days ago, I was full of hate for him. How could I not have seen the abuse sooner and how can he do this to me, of all people
But I’ve come to peace. I still love him for the good memories and lessons he has given me; now, our relationship has changed and that is apart of life. He has not spoken to me (and me to him) for over 1 month. He kicked me out of his home so I haven’t seen him, either. But I wish him the best. I hope he finds peace and happiness as I did mine Goodluck to all those struggling, you can do this.
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Ultimate23Dragon
There was a guy who competes in a sport who personally sided with a racist meme against me back in 2023. After I exposed what he exactly did, most people just laughed at me for it & he was not penalized, suspended, or banned from the sport whatsoever. Many people in the sport's online community exposed themselves as racists soon after as a result. I've tried getting over it, but I've now come to hate this guy & often think about revenge/justice.
I feel like if I forgive this situation, I'm essentially saying/admitting that racism towards people like me is right/acceptable when it's not, & I give everyone free will to step on people like me & we can't defend ourselves/do anything about it.
. What do we do then
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There was a guy who competes in a sport who personally sided with a racist meme against me back in 2023. After I exposed what he exactly did, most people just laughed at me for it & he was not penalized, suspended, or banned from the sport whatsoever. Many people in the sport's online community exposed themselves as racists soon after as a result. I've tried getting over it, but I've now come to hate this guy & often think about revenge/justice.
I feel like if I forgive this situation, I'm essentially saying/admitting that racism towards people like me is right/acceptable when it's not, & I give everyone free will to step on people like me & we can't defend ourselves/do anything about it.
. What do we do then
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lerneanlion
My apology but I have to say that I just ended up at where I began. After all, forgiveness does not make me feel victory over those who wronged me. In fact, it made me feel weak, ashamed and powerless for letting them go unpunished. And yes, I did see my bullies get punished. But in my view, they are not enough. They mistreated me so many times but yet they get treated humanely with just some slaps on the wrists
Where's equality in this Where are their sincere apologies that did not come by the teachers forcing them to do so by threatening their grades Where is justice in this society Where is my victory over those who wronged me!
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My apology but I have to say that I just ended up at where I began. After all, forgiveness does not make me feel victory over those who wronged me. In fact, it made me feel weak, ashamed and powerless for letting them go unpunished. And yes, I did see my bullies get punished. But in my view, they are not enough. They mistreated me so many times but yet they get treated humanely with just some slaps on the wrists
Where's equality in this Where are their sincere apologies that did not come by the teachers forcing them to do so by threatening their grades Where is justice in this society Where is my victory over those who wronged me!
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psych2go
This video came at the right time.
I have toxic, dysfunctional family members from dad's side (especially from dad and grandma) who made my life a living hell (that's why I have low self-esteem and pressure from them) and then act like they're victims or even act like nothing happened, so they gaslight me and stepped over my boundaries. And then they expect me to forgive them after that. But how am I supposed to forgive them if they keep doing it all over again in the span of months. They only give me resentment to them and I struggle to forgive them. Now all I want is to get a job and get out of this family once and for all.
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This video came at the right time.
I have toxic, dysfunctional family members from dad's side (especially from dad and grandma) who made my life a living hell (that's why I have low self-esteem and pressure from them) and then act like they're victims or even act like nothing happened, so they gaslight me and stepped over my boundaries. And then they expect me to forgive them after that. But how am I supposed to forgive them if they keep doing it all over again in the span of months. They only give me resentment to them and I struggle to forgive them. Now all I want is to get a job and get out of this family once and for all.
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ZeroJinKui
people fail to realize that hatred is power, just like love can be. it can drive you forward when everything else fails.
my hatred has kept me going for as long as i have, cause i have NO love in my life. no friends, no family, no lovers.
i have NOTHING. and the world is full of horrible people who will do everything they can to erase people like me and so many others. my hatred keeps me strong, it has kept me smart, and it has helped me survive.
the key is to not let hatred control you, same goes for any other emotion.
rage and hatred are powerful emotions that can be used to benefit you, if you know how to.
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people fail to realize that hatred is power, just like love can be. it can drive you forward when everything else fails.
my hatred has kept me going for as long as i have, cause i have NO love in my life. no friends, no family, no lovers.
i have NOTHING. and the world is full of horrible people who will do everything they can to erase people like me and so many others. my hatred keeps me strong, it has kept me smart, and it has helped me survive.
the key is to not let hatred control you, same goes for any other emotion.
rage and hatred are powerful emotions that can be used to benefit you, if you know how to.
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MrJBest78
Sadly for some people, hate is all they know. My question would be how sad is your life How tragic is your life that you have to put out such negative energy. Don’t get me wrong, it’s perfect ok to not like someone, you don’t have to be friends with everyone you meet and no, not every personality will get along, but it’s definitely not ok to be blatantly rude and disrespectful towards anyone and it’s definitely not ok to go out of your own way to make someone else’s life a complete living hell. Just let them live their life and live yours. That’s my two cents worth. Have a great day everybody!
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Sadly for some people, hate is all they know. My question would be how sad is your life How tragic is your life that you have to put out such negative energy. Don’t get me wrong, it’s perfect ok to not like someone, you don’t have to be friends with everyone you meet and no, not every personality will get along, but it’s definitely not ok to be blatantly rude and disrespectful towards anyone and it’s definitely not ok to go out of your own way to make someone else’s life a complete living hell. Just let them live their life and live yours. That’s my two cents worth. Have a great day everybody!
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Mur-zoUxw
I can relate because I still have huge hatred on the people who bullied me and treated me like dirt during my school days (and that math teacher of mine in my senior high school days who falsely pointed me out for cheating. And in college, in a group activity, I dealt with a really emotional classmate (she only sees me as a freeloader when in reality, I did help in a fairly decent amount. I find it sad that the professor never heard my side of the story (only her side. Thanks to the people who called me a freeloader and a spoonfed person, this made me a demotivated and huge worthless loser in college.
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I can relate because I still have huge hatred on the people who bullied me and treated me like dirt during my school days (and that math teacher of mine in my senior high school days who falsely pointed me out for cheating. And in college, in a group activity, I dealt with a really emotional classmate (she only sees me as a freeloader when in reality, I did help in a fairly decent amount. I find it sad that the professor never heard my side of the story (only her side. Thanks to the people who called me a freeloader and a spoonfed person, this made me a demotivated and huge worthless loser in college.
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davesiegal3592
Negative love and positive love are absent from this video as well as negative hate and positive hate. Yes, positive hate. There cannot be negative love and positive love without negative hate and positive hate. Without the concept of positive hate in this conversation it is in fact incomplete and only provides a tiny portion of understanding. What you are talking about in this video is anger, negative anger to be precise. You want to get rid of negative anger, not hate. Hate is a survival tool essential to human interactivity whereas negative anger isn't productive in any sense.
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Negative love and positive love are absent from this video as well as negative hate and positive hate. Yes, positive hate. There cannot be negative love and positive love without negative hate and positive hate. Without the concept of positive hate in this conversation it is in fact incomplete and only provides a tiny portion of understanding. What you are talking about in this video is anger, negative anger to be precise. You want to get rid of negative anger, not hate. Hate is a survival tool essential to human interactivity whereas negative anger isn't productive in any sense.
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unitalavanta1772
I can definently say, hatred is one thing that can be the most corrosive but addicting feeling a person can feel. I struggle with this often, and it brings about great levels of stress into my life. Less so now than it used too, but it still is there. I am glad I saw this video today as I havent really reflected how much pure hatred I have for the very few people who have wronged me. It has encouraged me to make a difference in my life to try to forgive and move on from these things, even if in my mind they seem unforgivable. Being stuck in the past is no way to live.
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I can definently say, hatred is one thing that can be the most corrosive but addicting feeling a person can feel. I struggle with this often, and it brings about great levels of stress into my life. Less so now than it used too, but it still is there. I am glad I saw this video today as I havent really reflected how much pure hatred I have for the very few people who have wronged me. It has encouraged me to make a difference in my life to try to forgive and move on from these things, even if in my mind they seem unforgivable. Being stuck in the past is no way to live.
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lindaalvarez8855
I have so much hate & distrust in many people I know or knew in my past. I've been badly hurt by my so called best friends. I still have trust issues with people in general. I'm so afraid to learn to get to know new people. I want to forgive, but, I don't know how since I was so badly hurt in my past. I would LOVE, just once, meet a new friend, a female, who I could really trust in every way without worrying about her blabbing my personal information about myself to other people just as a inside joke.
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I have so much hate & distrust in many people I know or knew in my past. I've been badly hurt by my so called best friends. I still have trust issues with people in general. I'm so afraid to learn to get to know new people. I want to forgive, but, I don't know how since I was so badly hurt in my past. I would LOVE, just once, meet a new friend, a female, who I could really trust in every way without worrying about her blabbing my personal information about myself to other people just as a inside joke.
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ironxcrosss
Forgiveness is difficult as hell. Mostly because it does feel like you're letting them off the hook. Trick to letting that go is to remember, that you holding onto that chain, that binding hate, can be let go by you as well. You don't have to forgive the ones that wronged you, but you can forgive yourself for things involving it. You can forgive yourself for falling for their lies or for wearing the rose colored glasses or any other idiom. You don't have to forget what they did, but you can let it go.
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Forgiveness is difficult as hell. Mostly because it does feel like you're letting them off the hook. Trick to letting that go is to remember, that you holding onto that chain, that binding hate, can be let go by you as well. You don't have to forgive the ones that wronged you, but you can forgive yourself for things involving it. You can forgive yourself for falling for their lies or for wearing the rose colored glasses or any other idiom. You don't have to forget what they did, but you can let it go.
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ender_slayer3
For me all of this is far easier said than done, especially when it comes to the betrayal by family. Honestly I don’t think I’ll ever be able to forgive my uncle for what he did to me and my parents, not entirely anyways. And now his actions are causing my cousins to turn against him too. In a way, I am seeing the retribution I wanted, but I know it won’t fix what he’s done. Still, knowing that his perfect little kingdom is collapsing around his ears, it does put a smile on my face.
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For me all of this is far easier said than done, especially when it comes to the betrayal by family. Honestly I don’t think I’ll ever be able to forgive my uncle for what he did to me and my parents, not entirely anyways. And now his actions are causing my cousins to turn against him too. In a way, I am seeing the retribution I wanted, but I know it won’t fix what he’s done. Still, knowing that his perfect little kingdom is collapsing around his ears, it does put a smile on my face.
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psych2go
I think in a way I’m just too scared of letting go of that hatred or resentment because I’ve had it so long in a way it’s become comforting and fuel. And I’m afraid that if I try to forgive those memories will come back and I’ll relive it again. To forgive them I’d have to deconstruct myself on why I hated them in the first place and honestly I’m scared to do that, do be that intimate even with myself. This was an interesting video it has given me some things to think about.
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I think in a way I’m just too scared of letting go of that hatred or resentment because I’ve had it so long in a way it’s become comforting and fuel. And I’m afraid that if I try to forgive those memories will come back and I’ll relive it again. To forgive them I’d have to deconstruct myself on why I hated them in the first place and honestly I’m scared to do that, do be that intimate even with myself. This was an interesting video it has given me some things to think about.
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DmanTheCabbage
I really needed this. Just looking through the comments its crazy how many people needed to see this right now too. Recovering from heart break is hard and its even harder to forgive the person who was involved. Ive been filled with so much hate for awhile now and its been getting worse and worse. Ive lost my empathy, something that I used to take pride in having and being able to relate to people and what they are going through. I miss the old me and I hope I can get myself back.
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I really needed this. Just looking through the comments its crazy how many people needed to see this right now too. Recovering from heart break is hard and its even harder to forgive the person who was involved. Ive been filled with so much hate for awhile now and its been getting worse and worse. Ive lost my empathy, something that I used to take pride in having and being able to relate to people and what they are going through. I miss the old me and I hope I can get myself back.
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