8 Things That Shouldn't Be Normal
video description
Date: 2024-06-02
Related videos
Comments and reviews: 20
herpderp9108
The gender stereotypes one is kinda nonsense. You're talking about trying to rearrange the natural wiring in our brains that humans have developed over a few hundred thousand years of evolution. We see the innate differences in men and women on literally day one of our lives. Studies have been done where they take a baby boy and girl and put a truck and a doll in front of them and without fail, the boys go to the truck and the girls the doll. That doesn't change even into adulthood by and large. Men are more interested in building, creating and being the steady rock in the family structure. Women are more interested in people and nurturing. There's nothing wrong with that and it's more natural than all the gender nonsense going on these days where you have legislation being passed FORCING companies to take on, for example, more women into the construction industry when women simply aren't interested in that. You see more and more older women making videos of them saying they were told to go become CEOs and forego having families and all that and they're in their 50s now and miserable and wish they had had families instead, but when a guy makes a speech at a Catholic college and says that women, while being able to do what they want, probably would enjoy having families more than going into the career field, he gets crucified, yet I've seen so many comments from women saying they had good jobs, but became stay-at-home moms and were far happier than they ever were. Women also are not fans of men who turn into blubbering messes when a crisis hits. Men also bond with other men differently than women. This also falls into the 'savage jokes' area too. Men can lightly trash talk each other and they know there's nothing series there. They have a good laugh and grow closer through it. Women trash talk each other and say they're just joking, but they're being completely serious and passive aggressive. It makes me roll my eyes when I see women who get involved in gaming make videos complaining that they join, for example, a chat room in a video game that is mostly all men and get upset because of the back and forth trash talking. That's just how guys work. Maybe a few of them are just being pricks when they say something like 'go make me a sandwich', but they also fail to realize or accept that that's just guys being guys in a guy-heavy area. They want a 'safe space' in an online world like the words are going to jump out of their headset and start SA'ing them or something.
I also disagree with suggesting a little pain for the kid isn't educational and does more harm than good. Tell the kid not to touch the hot stove and he does it anyway and burns himself Bet he's not gonna do that again. I'm not saying to start putting cigarettes out on his skin or beat them until their bones are broken, but a quick smack upside the head when he's being a rude and disrespectful little shit does work. The most feared words in the English language to a kid used to be 'just wait till your father gets home'. Bet any amount of money that kid was well behaved. Also, don't listen to the WHO. They're run by worthless communists.
reply
The gender stereotypes one is kinda nonsense. You're talking about trying to rearrange the natural wiring in our brains that humans have developed over a few hundred thousand years of evolution. We see the innate differences in men and women on literally day one of our lives. Studies have been done where they take a baby boy and girl and put a truck and a doll in front of them and without fail, the boys go to the truck and the girls the doll. That doesn't change even into adulthood by and large. Men are more interested in building, creating and being the steady rock in the family structure. Women are more interested in people and nurturing. There's nothing wrong with that and it's more natural than all the gender nonsense going on these days where you have legislation being passed FORCING companies to take on, for example, more women into the construction industry when women simply aren't interested in that. You see more and more older women making videos of them saying they were told to go become CEOs and forego having families and all that and they're in their 50s now and miserable and wish they had had families instead, but when a guy makes a speech at a Catholic college and says that women, while being able to do what they want, probably would enjoy having families more than going into the career field, he gets crucified, yet I've seen so many comments from women saying they had good jobs, but became stay-at-home moms and were far happier than they ever were. Women also are not fans of men who turn into blubbering messes when a crisis hits. Men also bond with other men differently than women. This also falls into the 'savage jokes' area too. Men can lightly trash talk each other and they know there's nothing series there. They have a good laugh and grow closer through it. Women trash talk each other and say they're just joking, but they're being completely serious and passive aggressive. It makes me roll my eyes when I see women who get involved in gaming make videos complaining that they join, for example, a chat room in a video game that is mostly all men and get upset because of the back and forth trash talking. That's just how guys work. Maybe a few of them are just being pricks when they say something like 'go make me a sandwich', but they also fail to realize or accept that that's just guys being guys in a guy-heavy area. They want a 'safe space' in an online world like the words are going to jump out of their headset and start SA'ing them or something.
I also disagree with suggesting a little pain for the kid isn't educational and does more harm than good. Tell the kid not to touch the hot stove and he does it anyway and burns himself Bet he's not gonna do that again. I'm not saying to start putting cigarettes out on his skin or beat them until their bones are broken, but a quick smack upside the head when he's being a rude and disrespectful little shit does work. The most feared words in the English language to a kid used to be 'just wait till your father gets home'. Bet any amount of money that kid was well behaved. Also, don't listen to the WHO. They're run by worthless communists.
reply
--no--
Ahhh yes. passion-to-profit.
Nearly a decade ago, I began making homemade frozen custard after finding one of my Mother's recipes that she created. Began experimenting with different flavor combos (Red Velvet Macadamia Nut Cheesecake, Cinnamon Churro, Milk Chocolate Fudge & Caramel Brownie, etc, etc) and taking them to the bi-monthly local social club carry-in. They were incredibly popular and the 2-3 quarts that I would bring would be emptied within minutes after opening. Everyone would rant & rave about how delicious they were and then folks began suggesting that I should open my own ice cream shop and start selling them.
To preface, I've not ever been the type of person to screw people over, as I know that money is difficult to come by for some (me being one of those some. I tallied up the cost that went into a batch (including buying restaurant-quality styrofoam containers & lids to put the product in) and after all was said and done, I priced them at $10/quart. Mind you, I do use all premium ingredients, which left me with a profit of almost $3. 00/quart. I wasn't trying to get into it to make money. I just enjoyed seeing other folks smile and enjoy something I created.
At the following few get-togethers, it was suggested by many, once again, that I should sell the stuff. Me. being the INFJ male that I am. finally decided to test the waters, opened up and said that I might begin selling it, if anyone was interested in buying. Said they were $10/quart. Everyone was like Ahhh. okay. That's great. Figured I would try selling locally first before jumping feet first into opening a business, only for it to fall on its face.
That was nearly a decade ago.
Guess how many quarts I've sold.
Ready
Drum roll, please.
.
.
.
.
2. I've sold two quarts.
Guess stuff just tastes better when it's free.
reply
Ahhh yes. passion-to-profit.
Nearly a decade ago, I began making homemade frozen custard after finding one of my Mother's recipes that she created. Began experimenting with different flavor combos (Red Velvet Macadamia Nut Cheesecake, Cinnamon Churro, Milk Chocolate Fudge & Caramel Brownie, etc, etc) and taking them to the bi-monthly local social club carry-in. They were incredibly popular and the 2-3 quarts that I would bring would be emptied within minutes after opening. Everyone would rant & rave about how delicious they were and then folks began suggesting that I should open my own ice cream shop and start selling them.
To preface, I've not ever been the type of person to screw people over, as I know that money is difficult to come by for some (me being one of those some. I tallied up the cost that went into a batch (including buying restaurant-quality styrofoam containers & lids to put the product in) and after all was said and done, I priced them at $10/quart. Mind you, I do use all premium ingredients, which left me with a profit of almost $3. 00/quart. I wasn't trying to get into it to make money. I just enjoyed seeing other folks smile and enjoy something I created.
At the following few get-togethers, it was suggested by many, once again, that I should sell the stuff. Me. being the INFJ male that I am. finally decided to test the waters, opened up and said that I might begin selling it, if anyone was interested in buying. Said they were $10/quart. Everyone was like Ahhh. okay. That's great. Figured I would try selling locally first before jumping feet first into opening a business, only for it to fall on its face.
That was nearly a decade ago.
Guess how many quarts I've sold.
Ready
Drum roll, please.
.
.
.
.
2. I've sold two quarts.
Guess stuff just tastes better when it's free.
reply
siennaprice1351
Setting unrealistic expectations for society’s stereotypes. Mental health stigma. Unrealistic expectations of perfection. Having feelings invallidated. These are things I have gotten a lot. Which has led me down a path of limiting/restricting myself from doing certain things that truly benefit me. As a blind and autistic person with CPTSD, I wasn’t allowed to touch and explore every sing thing in sight because no one else is doing this. And people will think it’s weird when I do that. Not being allowed to show emotions or cry without being shamed, judged or even mocked by my stepmom. The words different, normal and sensitive get such a bad reputation. This is something I have personally experienced. I have overcame self doubt. I now need to overcome self restriction, not put unrealistic borders around myself in order to protect myself. Also known as masking. I shouldn’t have to mask my blind isms, crying, my CPTSD, or anything like that. I can overcome this, whatever it takes. I will remove the mask, allow myself to touch and explore everything, but be more realistic about what I touch and feel and explore. I will learn to unmask crying. I will learn to just allow myself to be my true authentic self. Yes, I do things different that normal people don’t usually do. BUT THESE THINGS TRULY HELP AND BENEFIT ME! Even though I feel like I need to subtract these things from myself due to societal norms, I’m going to do all in my power to keep them and stop limiting myself just because people think restricting one’s self is the way to go.
reply
Setting unrealistic expectations for society’s stereotypes. Mental health stigma. Unrealistic expectations of perfection. Having feelings invallidated. These are things I have gotten a lot. Which has led me down a path of limiting/restricting myself from doing certain things that truly benefit me. As a blind and autistic person with CPTSD, I wasn’t allowed to touch and explore every sing thing in sight because no one else is doing this. And people will think it’s weird when I do that. Not being allowed to show emotions or cry without being shamed, judged or even mocked by my stepmom. The words different, normal and sensitive get such a bad reputation. This is something I have personally experienced. I have overcame self doubt. I now need to overcome self restriction, not put unrealistic borders around myself in order to protect myself. Also known as masking. I shouldn’t have to mask my blind isms, crying, my CPTSD, or anything like that. I can overcome this, whatever it takes. I will remove the mask, allow myself to touch and explore everything, but be more realistic about what I touch and feel and explore. I will learn to unmask crying. I will learn to just allow myself to be my true authentic self. Yes, I do things different that normal people don’t usually do. BUT THESE THINGS TRULY HELP AND BENEFIT ME! Even though I feel like I need to subtract these things from myself due to societal norms, I’m going to do all in my power to keep them and stop limiting myself just because people think restricting one’s self is the way to go.
reply
user-or1vz6zt9e
One societal norm we're adopting now that I don't think we should take on is the idea that people are so soft and weak that we need to build entirely new ways to speak to avoid hurting each others' feelings. The fact remains that there are people who will be misanthropic and cruel, so getting used to that in a friendly way by joking with your friends and family is really helpful for emotional development. Same way that you don't treat people for issues with fear and anxiety by bubble-wrapping them, you help them become braver.
We're losing touch with the idea that you make poison into medicine by decreasing the dosage. We don't need to infantilize people and put trigger warnings on everything, for example. I suffer from CPTSD, but I'd suffer a lot more from it at this point in my life if I'd shut myself away from everything that could trigger me. We only grow THROUGH adversity, otherwise we stay in place. We need to be more willing to support each other as we grapple with our personal struggles, rather than just trying to avoid struggles.
reply
One societal norm we're adopting now that I don't think we should take on is the idea that people are so soft and weak that we need to build entirely new ways to speak to avoid hurting each others' feelings. The fact remains that there are people who will be misanthropic and cruel, so getting used to that in a friendly way by joking with your friends and family is really helpful for emotional development. Same way that you don't treat people for issues with fear and anxiety by bubble-wrapping them, you help them become braver.
We're losing touch with the idea that you make poison into medicine by decreasing the dosage. We don't need to infantilize people and put trigger warnings on everything, for example. I suffer from CPTSD, but I'd suffer a lot more from it at this point in my life if I'd shut myself away from everything that could trigger me. We only grow THROUGH adversity, otherwise we stay in place. We need to be more willing to support each other as we grapple with our personal struggles, rather than just trying to avoid struggles.
reply
LoneWolfMikoto
My brother was raised by society who didn't like crybabies and he had to fight back even against our father
When I was growing up, being 8 years younger than him, he was always mocking me and telling me that I'm a snivel and if I cry then I'm weak even though I was so much more different, more sensitive and different damn gender. It seems like he, somehow, saw me as a genderless sibling more than a sister.
I know that he was growing up too and he did many mistakes with using his words on me because he was a kid too, but I still can't forgive him for what he made me think of myself whenever I need to show emotions. Now I can't identify myself as a girly girl, but I also don't want to be a boy. It's difficult for me now to see that I worth things other girls worth.
So please, don't tell people that they're too sensitive or call them out about it. It hurts a lot.
reply
My brother was raised by society who didn't like crybabies and he had to fight back even against our father
When I was growing up, being 8 years younger than him, he was always mocking me and telling me that I'm a snivel and if I cry then I'm weak even though I was so much more different, more sensitive and different damn gender. It seems like he, somehow, saw me as a genderless sibling more than a sister.
I know that he was growing up too and he did many mistakes with using his words on me because he was a kid too, but I still can't forgive him for what he made me think of myself whenever I need to show emotions. Now I can't identify myself as a girly girl, but I also don't want to be a boy. It's difficult for me now to see that I worth things other girls worth.
So please, don't tell people that they're too sensitive or call them out about it. It hurts a lot.
reply
theoaremevano3227
Something that people do too often is conflating their opinions with their other statements and behavior. If you state your opinion, but also throw other things into your comment, possibly including insults, negative implications about people or blatant exaggerations/generalizations, --- those other parts of your comment are not included as 'just your opinion'-- they don't get to be protected under that umbrella. Swapping the 'safe' part of your comment in for the problematic part that's being objected to is a form of what debaters call 'straw man'. Get rid of the other junk your opinion doesn't need, and you might be surprised. People often object to an opinion they partly or wholly agree with only because of the speaker's conduct.
reply
Something that people do too often is conflating their opinions with their other statements and behavior. If you state your opinion, but also throw other things into your comment, possibly including insults, negative implications about people or blatant exaggerations/generalizations, --- those other parts of your comment are not included as 'just your opinion'-- they don't get to be protected under that umbrella. Swapping the 'safe' part of your comment in for the problematic part that's being objected to is a form of what debaters call 'straw man'. Get rid of the other junk your opinion doesn't need, and you might be surprised. People often object to an opinion they partly or wholly agree with only because of the speaker's conduct.
reply
Person-ef4xj
Another thing that shouldn’t be normal is telling someone to get over something as that can come off as insensitive, and while talking about what someone should be grateful for can be uplifting it can also come off as insensitive or for those of us who were spanked maybe even triggering.
Another thing that I think should be pointed out about spanking is that because parents tend to spank when angry or grumpy, which can train children to be scared of a voice that sounds angry or grumpy. I think therapists should also take into account that some of us who have been spanked may not always be honest about how we really feel as we’ve been trained to lie.
reply
Another thing that shouldn’t be normal is telling someone to get over something as that can come off as insensitive, and while talking about what someone should be grateful for can be uplifting it can also come off as insensitive or for those of us who were spanked maybe even triggering.
Another thing that I think should be pointed out about spanking is that because parents tend to spank when angry or grumpy, which can train children to be scared of a voice that sounds angry or grumpy. I think therapists should also take into account that some of us who have been spanked may not always be honest about how we really feel as we’ve been trained to lie.
reply
goosepaws
Hi, I have a question for you, but if anyone else also knows the answer to it, I would appreciate it
A person I know suffers from depression. Her condition is not good, she does not go to a psychologist, she only feels worse. She has suicidal thoughts and has even said several times that she will do it. in the end, it never came to the point where she seriously tried to take her own life. However, what if she finally gets to the point where she really try do it Hence my question, what to do in such a situation How to discourage such a person from do it I know that the best solution would be for her to see a psychologist, but she doesn't want to.
reply
Hi, I have a question for you, but if anyone else also knows the answer to it, I would appreciate it
A person I know suffers from depression. Her condition is not good, she does not go to a psychologist, she only feels worse. She has suicidal thoughts and has even said several times that she will do it. in the end, it never came to the point where she seriously tried to take her own life. However, what if she finally gets to the point where she really try do it Hence my question, what to do in such a situation How to discourage such a person from do it I know that the best solution would be for her to see a psychologist, but she doesn't want to.
reply
user-ug2fu8mj2j
I am gald gedermorms where on here. Well I am a cis female I am much more of a tomboy, I like wareing jeans t-shirts an hoodies, I love being outside haveing fun clibing trees and hanging out. Well I ony have female friends I wish I had some guy friends to hang out and just have fun with. I also happen to be an INTJ wish is rare for girls becouse of this I can come off as cold and unemotional to many people, I am not as empathetic or caring as EF persintly types i am alos not good with kids all this things being more female like traits. I am very hapy to be an INTJ tomboy and gender roles can kiss my ass.
reply
I am gald gedermorms where on here. Well I am a cis female I am much more of a tomboy, I like wareing jeans t-shirts an hoodies, I love being outside haveing fun clibing trees and hanging out. Well I ony have female friends I wish I had some guy friends to hang out and just have fun with. I also happen to be an INTJ wish is rare for girls becouse of this I can come off as cold and unemotional to many people, I am not as empathetic or caring as EF persintly types i am alos not good with kids all this things being more female like traits. I am very hapy to be an INTJ tomboy and gender roles can kiss my ass.
reply
markrobinson4982
I'm on the fence about the last one.
Yes: people have emotions and it's good to have a time and place to share them and express how you feel. That expression should be accepted without judgement.
BUT: when you're not expressing your feelings with your safe person, it's important to be able to straighten up and face the very cruel and harsh world without expecting it to change for the sake of your feelings. The world is a tough, harsh place and we do have to rise up and just deal with it - keeping a straight face while we do it.
reply
I'm on the fence about the last one.
Yes: people have emotions and it's good to have a time and place to share them and express how you feel. That expression should be accepted without judgement.
BUT: when you're not expressing your feelings with your safe person, it's important to be able to straighten up and face the very cruel and harsh world without expecting it to change for the sake of your feelings. The world is a tough, harsh place and we do have to rise up and just deal with it - keeping a straight face while we do it.
reply
psych2go
I love all of this. I particularly love the first one. I grew up loving video editing and photography and have been fortunate enough to make a living from it. And while I love my work it does mean that I hardly ever take photos or make videos for fun (except holiday photos which I take VERY seriously lol. Having a different hobby is so great. For me, that's playing the guitar. While I try to do it well, the pressure to be able to cover Jimi Hendrix doesn't exist for me cos my livelihood doesn't depend on it. It's a great feeling.
reply
I love all of this. I particularly love the first one. I grew up loving video editing and photography and have been fortunate enough to make a living from it. And while I love my work it does mean that I hardly ever take photos or make videos for fun (except holiday photos which I take VERY seriously lol. Having a different hobby is so great. For me, that's playing the guitar. While I try to do it well, the pressure to be able to cover Jimi Hendrix doesn't exist for me cos my livelihood doesn't depend on it. It's a great feeling.
reply
wangcheng5188
Interesting video content, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her
reply
Interesting video content, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her
reply
tiggynv214
One of my friends’ 9 year old sister made fun of my job, game avatar, physical appearance and voice over call. And most people would tell me to grow up cuz I’m 18, and that kid was half my age. I didn’t tell any of my friends that I was only a little upset about the kid’s comments, and I was more upset that they were encouraging this kid to bully me, one of them being my best friend who knew I frequently have suicidal ideation. They still don’t know this
reply
One of my friends’ 9 year old sister made fun of my job, game avatar, physical appearance and voice over call. And most people would tell me to grow up cuz I’m 18, and that kid was half my age. I didn’t tell any of my friends that I was only a little upset about the kid’s comments, and I was more upset that they were encouraging this kid to bully me, one of them being my best friend who knew I frequently have suicidal ideation. They still don’t know this
reply
qemuel
My most successful friend told me once that he asked himself 1) what do you love most/feel most passionate about, followed by 2) what is the second most enjoyed thing. He made the second most his career (which he enjoys and has been very successful at) and the first most he keeps private and for himself (in order to not ruin/tarnish it with the pressures of monetization and/or society. This always struck me as logical and well-balanced.
reply
My most successful friend told me once that he asked himself 1) what do you love most/feel most passionate about, followed by 2) what is the second most enjoyed thing. He made the second most his career (which he enjoys and has been very successful at) and the first most he keeps private and for himself (in order to not ruin/tarnish it with the pressures of monetization and/or society. This always struck me as logical and well-balanced.
reply
A55a551n
Timestamps
1. Passion-to-profit pressure 0: 22
2. Gender stereotypes and expectations 0: 45
3. Living your dreams through your kids 1: 03
4. Savage jokes 1: 28
5. Mental health stigma 1: 51
6. The physical discipline belief 2: 15
7. Unrealistic ideas of perfection 2: 45
8. Invalidating people feelings 3: 12
Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. Sorry this is so late.
reply
Timestamps
1. Passion-to-profit pressure 0: 22
2. Gender stereotypes and expectations 0: 45
3. Living your dreams through your kids 1: 03
4. Savage jokes 1: 28
5. Mental health stigma 1: 51
6. The physical discipline belief 2: 15
7. Unrealistic ideas of perfection 2: 45
8. Invalidating people feelings 3: 12
Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. Sorry this is so late.
reply
the_Morteza-Tajik
I have a question.
I don't mean anything, but shouldn't videos with this high quality take much longer
Recently, because there's been so much misinformation, I've come to the point where I think this contents are not telling the truth and have no use in practice or the real thing.
I just want to know why are these videos being uploaded so often.
Love your videos
reply
I have a question.
I don't mean anything, but shouldn't videos with this high quality take much longer
Recently, because there's been so much misinformation, I've come to the point where I think this contents are not telling the truth and have no use in practice or the real thing.
I just want to know why are these videos being uploaded so often.
Love your videos
reply
BriBriBriYT
Every single time I make an attempt to vent on Pinterest I actually never end up posting it bc I feel like people are going to tell me that I shouldn't be complaining and that my life is so much better than theirs and that I should be greatful I'm actually able to make friends and that I have a mother and father who work hard so we don't have to live in a apartment.
reply
Every single time I make an attempt to vent on Pinterest I actually never end up posting it bc I feel like people are going to tell me that I shouldn't be complaining and that my life is so much better than theirs and that I should be greatful I'm actually able to make friends and that I have a mother and father who work hard so we don't have to live in a apartment.
reply
hounddogie9850
I agree with all except the one on physical discipline. It stings like hell to be beaten down by a cop than to be lightly stung by a smacking. There is also a difference between a beating and a spanking. You shouldn't leave bruises. Its harmless if done right. The child if disciplined properly will have the proper mind to achieve what they want in the future
reply
I agree with all except the one on physical discipline. It stings like hell to be beaten down by a cop than to be lightly stung by a smacking. There is also a difference between a beating and a spanking. You shouldn't leave bruises. Its harmless if done right. The child if disciplined properly will have the proper mind to achieve what they want in the future
reply
psych2go
I personally want to know more on what you mean for gender stereotypes, cause I feel that can be used and Interpreted as a Double standard especially in the modern day, were there is conflict between the thosand year norm for gender being male and female, and the new gender norm of the 21st centry being the magical all of a sudden near 100 genders nonsense.
reply
I personally want to know more on what you mean for gender stereotypes, cause I feel that can be used and Interpreted as a Double standard especially in the modern day, were there is conflict between the thosand year norm for gender being male and female, and the new gender norm of the 21st centry being the magical all of a sudden near 100 genders nonsense.
reply
Brainlesssss
Here's your timestamp!
1. 0: 24 Passion-to-profit pressure
2. 0: 47 Gender stereotypes and expectations
3. 1: 05 Living your dreams through your kids
4. 1: 29 Savage jokes
5. 1: 52 Mental health stigma
6. 2: 16 Physical discipline belief
7. 2: 45 Unrealistic ideas of perfection
8. 3: 12 Invalidating people's feelings.
reply
Here's your timestamp!
1. 0: 24 Passion-to-profit pressure
2. 0: 47 Gender stereotypes and expectations
3. 1: 05 Living your dreams through your kids
4. 1: 29 Savage jokes
5. 1: 52 Mental health stigma
6. 2: 16 Physical discipline belief
7. 2: 45 Unrealistic ideas of perfection
8. 3: 12 Invalidating people's feelings.
reply
Add a review, comment
Other channel videos
