4 Toxic Quotes You Should NEVER Follow
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Date: 2024-06-05
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sibylwaldegrave
I personally don't perceive if you can't handle me at my worst, then you don't deserve me at my best necessarily as a lack of accountability - I fully agree with the point of view within the video, but I've always interpreted the quote as in I could always sink into a deep, debilitating depression that turns me into a wreck, but those who stay with me and lift me up during my darkest days are those who can, want to, and will see me shine again, because they're the people who matter kind of thing.
Also, the quote what doesn't kill you, makes you stronger that originates from the philospher Friedrich Nietzsche has always been my biggest pet peeve in terms of motivational quotes - I do love Nietzsche, but the quote itself is overused to the point where it became just toxic, because there are way too many situations, events etc. that can leave deep marks on someone's psyche, traumatising them in the process. And no, I don't perceive trauma as a badge of honour per se, because literally nobody asked to be traumatised in order to grow as a person, and at the end of the day, trauma is trauma: an episode from your life that you wish you could erase from your mind instead of having to relive it because your brain decides to replay it over and over again. Nobody should go through it, and trauma shouldn't be perceived as character development, because it affects every single aspect of your life: job/school, personal relationships, mental health, etc. That's why I loathe this quote so much.
Of course, not everyone might agree, but this is just a general point based on the people I've met who survived all sorts of situtations.
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I personally don't perceive if you can't handle me at my worst, then you don't deserve me at my best necessarily as a lack of accountability - I fully agree with the point of view within the video, but I've always interpreted the quote as in I could always sink into a deep, debilitating depression that turns me into a wreck, but those who stay with me and lift me up during my darkest days are those who can, want to, and will see me shine again, because they're the people who matter kind of thing.
Also, the quote what doesn't kill you, makes you stronger that originates from the philospher Friedrich Nietzsche has always been my biggest pet peeve in terms of motivational quotes - I do love Nietzsche, but the quote itself is overused to the point where it became just toxic, because there are way too many situations, events etc. that can leave deep marks on someone's psyche, traumatising them in the process. And no, I don't perceive trauma as a badge of honour per se, because literally nobody asked to be traumatised in order to grow as a person, and at the end of the day, trauma is trauma: an episode from your life that you wish you could erase from your mind instead of having to relive it because your brain decides to replay it over and over again. Nobody should go through it, and trauma shouldn't be perceived as character development, because it affects every single aspect of your life: job/school, personal relationships, mental health, etc. That's why I loathe this quote so much.
Of course, not everyone might agree, but this is just a general point based on the people I've met who survived all sorts of situtations.
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redheadbelle
Co-dependency is a very toxic trait to me. Even if it’s meant well, it only allows cycles without any evolvement. Life is a spiral. is healthy and productive. If you tend to attract narcissistic people, ask yourself: why is that so If you are that person, ask yourself: what can I do to raise awareness to myself
I can’t state enough how healthy love, boundaries and evolvement are the most importantly things in life. Somehow, society is addicted to toxic relationships. I don’t understand this at all. But I also see many healthy couples and Iam always happy to see them.
I for myself accept only healthy love as now I love myself wholeheartedly and don’t accept nothing less.
Self love can be learned.
Toxic positivity & quotes are everywhere. Feeling all your emotions is good then you can decide to focus on things that uplift you. Pushing all negative things away is like being on the run and hoping theyll never reach you.
This is impossible. Try to focus your problems seeing them in the face. Only then you become stronger and learn to cope otherwise. It’s a process and you can do it.
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Co-dependency is a very toxic trait to me. Even if it’s meant well, it only allows cycles without any evolvement. Life is a spiral. is healthy and productive. If you tend to attract narcissistic people, ask yourself: why is that so If you are that person, ask yourself: what can I do to raise awareness to myself
I can’t state enough how healthy love, boundaries and evolvement are the most importantly things in life. Somehow, society is addicted to toxic relationships. I don’t understand this at all. But I also see many healthy couples and Iam always happy to see them.
I for myself accept only healthy love as now I love myself wholeheartedly and don’t accept nothing less.
Self love can be learned.
Toxic positivity & quotes are everywhere. Feeling all your emotions is good then you can decide to focus on things that uplift you. Pushing all negative things away is like being on the run and hoping theyll never reach you.
This is impossible. Try to focus your problems seeing them in the face. Only then you become stronger and learn to cope otherwise. It’s a process and you can do it.
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psych2go
Indeed phrases like these I find incredibly damaging for one's own mental health and the people they interact with. That is why I am highly suspicious of mental-health gurus/influencers, etc. that do not bring nuance to their advice, base it on pseudo-science or simply spout heuristics; they are influencing their listeners to not be critical about what they hear.
One I find commonly damning is the Focus on the positives so you can keep out the negatives. As is covered in this video well: negative emotions and thoughts have their place, so if brought up without nuance one might become satisfyingly addicted to the notion of ignoring negative thoughts and feelings instead of reflecting on them and letting oneself really feel what they want to feel is development. I wish people to develop from their negative feelings and thoughts because they are just as valid as the positive ones, and we should be accepting of eachother's positive as well as eachother's negative feelings and thoughts so that we can really grow together.
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Indeed phrases like these I find incredibly damaging for one's own mental health and the people they interact with. That is why I am highly suspicious of mental-health gurus/influencers, etc. that do not bring nuance to their advice, base it on pseudo-science or simply spout heuristics; they are influencing their listeners to not be critical about what they hear.
One I find commonly damning is the Focus on the positives so you can keep out the negatives. As is covered in this video well: negative emotions and thoughts have their place, so if brought up without nuance one might become satisfyingly addicted to the notion of ignoring negative thoughts and feelings instead of reflecting on them and letting oneself really feel what they want to feel is development. I wish people to develop from their negative feelings and thoughts because they are just as valid as the positive ones, and we should be accepting of eachother's positive as well as eachother's negative feelings and thoughts so that we can really grow together.
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HelenaGarcia-uq9by
For me, I don't understand the you need to be the best version of yourself thing and the people who forced others to do something to go over their comfort zone. It seems to be motivation but the people who tells this is controlling other people's life.
You want to tell to this people this:
- How do you know if I am not already the best version of myself Maybe I already am what I need to be in this life.
- The best version of yourself is not the same best version of myself. Why am I obligated to follow what you want
- Why I need to be the best version of myself anyway Who decide this
- And what if I am not ready to because is not the right timing Why I need to change now
- And if I don't want to be the best version of myself It's my life not yours
Everyone has is own destiny and theirs choices, no one has the right to judge others and make them feel bad about their choices or their personality.
Thank for your good videos.
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For me, I don't understand the you need to be the best version of yourself thing and the people who forced others to do something to go over their comfort zone. It seems to be motivation but the people who tells this is controlling other people's life.
You want to tell to this people this:
- How do you know if I am not already the best version of myself Maybe I already am what I need to be in this life.
- The best version of yourself is not the same best version of myself. Why am I obligated to follow what you want
- Why I need to be the best version of myself anyway Who decide this
- And what if I am not ready to because is not the right timing Why I need to change now
- And if I don't want to be the best version of myself It's my life not yours
Everyone has is own destiny and theirs choices, no one has the right to judge others and make them feel bad about their choices or their personality.
Thank for your good videos.
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user-js5dx5yy1p
If you give up, you never really wanted it.
I find this quote toxic because some people are struggling with intense mental health issues, which prevent them from focusing on goals. This quote obviously doesn’t take that into consideration, and solely exists to shame people for any struggles they may have that cause them to delay progress on their goals, or abandon them.
You see this mindset a lot from people who’ve had it rather easy in life; no mental health issues, loving supportive family, ease with school, never experienced bullying or abuse, etc. They talk like they are superior and blame others for failing or floundering at life, because they lack self awareness, empathy and understanding to just how lucky they have been in regards to struggle.
And I think the above quote really expresses that toxic arrogance.
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If you give up, you never really wanted it.
I find this quote toxic because some people are struggling with intense mental health issues, which prevent them from focusing on goals. This quote obviously doesn’t take that into consideration, and solely exists to shame people for any struggles they may have that cause them to delay progress on their goals, or abandon them.
You see this mindset a lot from people who’ve had it rather easy in life; no mental health issues, loving supportive family, ease with school, never experienced bullying or abuse, etc. They talk like they are superior and blame others for failing or floundering at life, because they lack self awareness, empathy and understanding to just how lucky they have been in regards to struggle.
And I think the above quote really expresses that toxic arrogance.
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Elyssa_00
In my opinion, You're perfect just the way you are is also not a really good quote. I take that quote as You don't have to change anything about yourself, because you're already perfect. Even though there are always good and bad side in everyone. And there's always things in us that can be change or improve to make us a better person. That quote feels like it encourages us to not do anything about our bad behaviors, attitudes, way of thinking, etc. that clearly causing us and other people problem, because you're perfect just the way you are. Its encourages people to be lazy and accept their current state because they're already perfect, hence nothing's wrong with them that needs to be change or improve.
Sorry if my English is not that good. English is not my native language.
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In my opinion, You're perfect just the way you are is also not a really good quote. I take that quote as You don't have to change anything about yourself, because you're already perfect. Even though there are always good and bad side in everyone. And there's always things in us that can be change or improve to make us a better person. That quote feels like it encourages us to not do anything about our bad behaviors, attitudes, way of thinking, etc. that clearly causing us and other people problem, because you're perfect just the way you are. Its encourages people to be lazy and accept their current state because they're already perfect, hence nothing's wrong with them that needs to be change or improve.
Sorry if my English is not that good. English is not my native language.
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TakahiroShinsaku
Physically speaking a Glass half-empty just does not exist in this World, Dimension or Timeline, it just does not work like that. The half of empty, like the half of Zero or void, my gosh, one simply _cant_ divide Zero at all. If one decides to divide Zero, its resolution is not even Zero, its undefined! Thats why my Glass is always half full, until i drink from it of course, then its less than half full i guess, until i fill it up again.
Just a funny rant of that overused Half-full-Half-Empty Glass Metaphor, sure my perspective is more on the positive side of things, but wont force anyone to also have their side to be positive, its all a matter of decission and choice and also how to react to some aspects of life.
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Physically speaking a Glass half-empty just does not exist in this World, Dimension or Timeline, it just does not work like that. The half of empty, like the half of Zero or void, my gosh, one simply _cant_ divide Zero at all. If one decides to divide Zero, its resolution is not even Zero, its undefined! Thats why my Glass is always half full, until i drink from it of course, then its less than half full i guess, until i fill it up again.
Just a funny rant of that overused Half-full-Half-Empty Glass Metaphor, sure my perspective is more on the positive side of things, but wont force anyone to also have their side to be positive, its all a matter of decission and choice and also how to react to some aspects of life.
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siennaprice1351
This is something I’m really working on. As someone with CPTSD, blindness and autism, I was often taught to mask my emotions, and to not express them. But at the same time, I was taught to not keep my dysregulation secrit from the person. I’m now trying to unmask my emotions. And feel them. Which is hard. Because unmasking and removing those restrictions has a lot of things. Irritability. Feeling the urge to go back into your hiding place and not want to show your true authentic self. And so much more.
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This is something I’m really working on. As someone with CPTSD, blindness and autism, I was often taught to mask my emotions, and to not express them. But at the same time, I was taught to not keep my dysregulation secrit from the person. I’m now trying to unmask my emotions. And feel them. Which is hard. Because unmasking and removing those restrictions has a lot of things. Irritability. Feeling the urge to go back into your hiding place and not want to show your true authentic self. And so much more.
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sm5574
You don't know until you ask.
This is absolutely horrible advice. It is most often used with asking someone on a date, but in every context the point is: don't trust your insticts.
No! If your instinct is telling you that your chance of failure is high, listen! Don't trust anyone who tells you otherwise. Instead, find someone who can tell you how to improve your chances of success, to get you to the point where you are confident about whatever it is you are currently hesitant about.
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You don't know until you ask.
This is absolutely horrible advice. It is most often used with asking someone on a date, but in every context the point is: don't trust your insticts.
No! If your instinct is telling you that your chance of failure is high, listen! Don't trust anyone who tells you otherwise. Instead, find someone who can tell you how to improve your chances of success, to get you to the point where you are confident about whatever it is you are currently hesitant about.
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psych2go
I believe there are multiple different ways you can approach a quote like If you can’t handle me at my worst, you don’t deserve me at my best I believe the quote is supposed to be aimed towards people who have already admitted their problems, but were rejected because of certain qualities that were overshadowing who the person really is. Basically another way of saying don’t judge a book by it’s cover. But when it’s used dismissively like this, it can be toxic.
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I believe there are multiple different ways you can approach a quote like If you can’t handle me at my worst, you don’t deserve me at my best I believe the quote is supposed to be aimed towards people who have already admitted their problems, but were rejected because of certain qualities that were overshadowing who the person really is. Basically another way of saying don’t judge a book by it’s cover. But when it’s used dismissively like this, it can be toxic.
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keip4568
Usually used one to even for dating toxic hookup culture very common in the LGBTQ community
shut up
good vibes only!
You're crazy!
This is why no one likes you.
Lol
when you aren't being funny
bruh
Chill
gaslighting when you are
Shut up
go have fun and enjoy se- 'x
let it go
chill vibes only
no one cares!
And so many more people use to gaslight you or get you to feel bad and second think yourself.
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Usually used one to even for dating toxic hookup culture very common in the LGBTQ community
shut up
good vibes only!
You're crazy!
This is why no one likes you.
Lol
when you aren't being funny
bruh
Chill
gaslighting when you are
Shut up
go have fun and enjoy se- 'x
let it go
chill vibes only
no one cares!
And so many more people use to gaslight you or get you to feel bad and second think yourself.
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Danversdiary
I'm currently going through a really hard break up. I always saw it coming and yet it still hurts a lot and one of my friends gave me some advice which was so beautiful and helpful! What she said was:
Change can happen, but that doesn't mean it's going to happen
And that really opened my eyes because I knew that change was a possibility so I kept expecting it to happen, almost as though it were an obligation when that's not true.
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I'm currently going through a really hard break up. I always saw it coming and yet it still hurts a lot and one of my friends gave me some advice which was so beautiful and helpful! What she said was:
Change can happen, but that doesn't mean it's going to happen
And that really opened my eyes because I knew that change was a possibility so I kept expecting it to happen, almost as though it were an obligation when that's not true.
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TimeZoe
Very good video.
I miss the Themaabut toxic negativity - people there do all for a bad feeling, there're won't good feeling for everyone.
Ther gives every time bad advice for feeling bad.
Exemplary: when you have a successful step, so don't celebrate, work harder for the next step
'A rest time needs only the death; don't trust everyone are your enemies
'Luck is only fools etc. pp.
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Very good video.
I miss the Themaabut toxic negativity - people there do all for a bad feeling, there're won't good feeling for everyone.
Ther gives every time bad advice for feeling bad.
Exemplary: when you have a successful step, so don't celebrate, work harder for the next step
'A rest time needs only the death; don't trust everyone are your enemies
'Luck is only fools etc. pp.
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psych2go
In general, why would I try to be perfect
I am not God, and even he is not loved despite his perfection.
In addition, it is impossible to love only the sunny side of a person.
You also need to know how to be tolerant towards the less good side.
You just have to be careful of some people's expectations and conditions. Some of them are just unrealistic.
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In general, why would I try to be perfect
I am not God, and even he is not loved despite his perfection.
In addition, it is impossible to love only the sunny side of a person.
You also need to know how to be tolerant towards the less good side.
You just have to be careful of some people's expectations and conditions. Some of them are just unrealistic.
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psych2go
My mom is the champion of the positive vibes only mindset. Thanks to that I now have no idea how to handle negative emotions at all and overcome by toxic shame whenever I'm not ok. Not being perfect and happy triggers active intrusive thoughts about kms. I went minimal contact with her ages ago. Hope she's feeling the positive vibes of losing a child
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My mom is the champion of the positive vibes only mindset. Thanks to that I now have no idea how to handle negative emotions at all and overcome by toxic shame whenever I'm not ok. Not being perfect and happy triggers active intrusive thoughts about kms. I went minimal contact with her ages ago. Hope she's feeling the positive vibes of losing a child
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jessiepiquette
Good things come to those who wait, nothing good ever is given to you, you work hard for it, and if you can’t do it on your own, ask for help for those who are close to you, whether it’s simple help such as helping a person move out of his new home to another, or even emotional help by giving a person encouragement to branch out to others,
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Good things come to those who wait, nothing good ever is given to you, you work hard for it, and if you can’t do it on your own, ask for help for those who are close to you, whether it’s simple help such as helping a person move out of his new home to another, or even emotional help by giving a person encouragement to branch out to others,
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yummyeats13
I think holding on to someone when you both have a lot of work to do. Yes, we all have our negative side or bad side whatever, yes. Loving someone is okay. But staying together repeating toxic behaviors when you both need time to work ON YOURSELF AND CANNOT WORK ON IT TOGETHER, you should not stay together just because others advice you to do so.
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I think holding on to someone when you both have a lot of work to do. Yes, we all have our negative side or bad side whatever, yes. Loving someone is okay. But staying together repeating toxic behaviors when you both need time to work ON YOURSELF AND CANNOT WORK ON IT TOGETHER, you should not stay together just because others advice you to do so.
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Roguefem76
Love means never having to say you're sorry
Total crap, unless you want to be a thoughtless, inconsiderate a of a partner. Love means ALWAYS having to say you're sorry if you're wrong or hurt your partner. The above toxic nonsense phrase is a perfect excuse for narcs to never own up to their misdeeds. Beware of anyone who says it.
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Love means never having to say you're sorry
Total crap, unless you want to be a thoughtless, inconsiderate a of a partner. Love means ALWAYS having to say you're sorry if you're wrong or hurt your partner. The above toxic nonsense phrase is a perfect excuse for narcs to never own up to their misdeeds. Beware of anyone who says it.
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Insaniquangrybirds
Yeah, I’m becoming the best I can be, and am always in the lookout for support from those who actually support one another as opposed to those who say they support me, only to lash out when I make a mistake, or do something they don’t like. This is why I watch Psych2Go, because I wish to solidify myself into a true hero.
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Yeah, I’m becoming the best I can be, and am always in the lookout for support from those who actually support one another as opposed to those who say they support me, only to lash out when I make a mistake, or do something they don’t like. This is why I watch Psych2Go, because I wish to solidify myself into a true hero.
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psych2go
One of my favorite misunderstood quotes is Blood is thicker than water. People often use it to say family bonds should be strongest. The full quote is The blood of the covenant is thicker than the waters of the womb, which I take to mean you chosen family can be the stronger bond than the family you are biologically related to.
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One of my favorite misunderstood quotes is Blood is thicker than water. People often use it to say family bonds should be strongest. The full quote is The blood of the covenant is thicker than the waters of the womb, which I take to mean you chosen family can be the stronger bond than the family you are biologically related to.
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