6 Traits of People Who Suffered TOO Much
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Date: 2025-05-16
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Exelrx
Today, my father was busy with work and his things, when my half big brother came into the apartment, my father started to say Can we talk In an annoyed tone. my half brother said to him, my father kept insissting, my brother kept saying no and tried to go to his room sith his girlfriend, who was already in the room before my brother even came since shesnow staying with us lately due to family problems. My father, who didjt accept no. As an answer, followed my brother, my brother tried to enter his room thru the bathroom(his room and bathroom are connected) and my father was saying the same wuestion loudly and kept saying why, he went mad(crazy in british) and tried to grab my brother from the throat, i didnt see it thankfully but i heard my father getting aggresive and quickly went therewhile my little sister was follsoing me, i tried to not let my little sister see what was happening, my brothers girlfriend got out the bedroom, she was confused and tried to stop my father, who lately has been calling my brothers partner slur words in Spanish. My father let go and went to argue with my brother, my brother closed the door in anger and began to pack stuff since my father said he didnt want his girlfined here, and began to insult them, began saying my brother doesnt help in the household and only goes to his room to Play videogames, MY BROTHER IS employed by the way. my brother began to pack after my father said for him to get out, he had left with his girlftiend, my father ignored it and keptbsck into wtaching tv, my mother some hours later, she was with red eyes and they were teary, argued with my father, me and sister crying, mothrr left sayung she was going to go back tk our country, she left after sayung tons of jnsults to my father, regarding about my brother and his grilfriend, they were in my broth Dr s girlfriend household. i got mad at literally everyone and decided nor to talk, until now that im actually calming down a biwith my tablet trying to draw harry potter characters in Ibis paint.
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Today, my father was busy with work and his things, when my half big brother came into the apartment, my father started to say Can we talk In an annoyed tone. my half brother said to him, my father kept insissting, my brother kept saying no and tried to go to his room sith his girlfriend, who was already in the room before my brother even came since shesnow staying with us lately due to family problems. My father, who didjt accept no. As an answer, followed my brother, my brother tried to enter his room thru the bathroom(his room and bathroom are connected) and my father was saying the same wuestion loudly and kept saying why, he went mad(crazy in british) and tried to grab my brother from the throat, i didnt see it thankfully but i heard my father getting aggresive and quickly went therewhile my little sister was follsoing me, i tried to not let my little sister see what was happening, my brothers girlfriend got out the bedroom, she was confused and tried to stop my father, who lately has been calling my brothers partner slur words in Spanish. My father let go and went to argue with my brother, my brother closed the door in anger and began to pack stuff since my father said he didnt want his girlfined here, and began to insult them, began saying my brother doesnt help in the household and only goes to his room to Play videogames, MY BROTHER IS employed by the way. my brother began to pack after my father said for him to get out, he had left with his girlftiend, my father ignored it and keptbsck into wtaching tv, my mother some hours later, she was with red eyes and they were teary, argued with my father, me and sister crying, mothrr left sayung she was going to go back tk our country, she left after sayung tons of jnsults to my father, regarding about my brother and his grilfriend, they were in my broth Dr s girlfriend household. i got mad at literally everyone and decided nor to talk, until now that im actually calming down a biwith my tablet trying to draw harry potter characters in Ibis paint.
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XPikabikaX
Guarded heart and hyper independence is true for me. I've been betrayed by both friends and love interests in the past so I'm not so quick to make friends and for the first 5-6 months of my current relationship I had a hard time staying faithful to my bf due to struggling to trust him after previous love interests ditching, cheating on and replacing me within 1-2 months and them blaming it on me for having ADHD cuz (in their words) You need to change by getting rid of it.
Growing up with undiagnosed ADHD and an emotionally abusive family gave me the hyper independence and if I knew I couldn't do a task alone I would just give up immediately and move on to something else. All education institutes I attended had promised support agreeing I needed it, it was never provided which as a result I failed and cuz I failed they punished me for it and I was even expelled as a result. From the family perspective they always promised they would be there for me, but when I turned to them for help or an opinion I was either mocked or shamed for anything and everything, and has been like this for as long as I can remember. In present day, this has improved slightly as I no longer struggle to commit to my bf and whenever something happens I trust him enough to turn to him about it, I'm only able to trust just him.
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Guarded heart and hyper independence is true for me. I've been betrayed by both friends and love interests in the past so I'm not so quick to make friends and for the first 5-6 months of my current relationship I had a hard time staying faithful to my bf due to struggling to trust him after previous love interests ditching, cheating on and replacing me within 1-2 months and them blaming it on me for having ADHD cuz (in their words) You need to change by getting rid of it.
Growing up with undiagnosed ADHD and an emotionally abusive family gave me the hyper independence and if I knew I couldn't do a task alone I would just give up immediately and move on to something else. All education institutes I attended had promised support agreeing I needed it, it was never provided which as a result I failed and cuz I failed they punished me for it and I was even expelled as a result. From the family perspective they always promised they would be there for me, but when I turned to them for help or an opinion I was either mocked or shamed for anything and everything, and has been like this for as long as I can remember. In present day, this has improved slightly as I no longer struggle to commit to my bf and whenever something happens I trust him enough to turn to him about it, I'm only able to trust just him.
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JenniferLogan-s2o
The music has rescued me from going too crazy in isolation from trauma of not able to go anywhere or trust anyone, so the tunes go on, then it's better. Each day, as set boundaries and respect myself enough to say no, I feel better too. Hypervigilant all the time, sometimes textures or patterns of something will disgust me and creep me out, it's hard to grasp that but I see a name on my eyeshadow for instance during a moment, then I say aloud a word of comfort that starts with the letter, spelling out cool words. I enjoyed the voice of the lady on this as she has a soothing, natural flowing beautiful river of softspoken tone and the waters are clear. Thank you. The voice of the woman is like a transparent realm into various colors of mountain spring light blue to clear waters that shape into precious gems and very calming. Thank you.
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The music has rescued me from going too crazy in isolation from trauma of not able to go anywhere or trust anyone, so the tunes go on, then it's better. Each day, as set boundaries and respect myself enough to say no, I feel better too. Hypervigilant all the time, sometimes textures or patterns of something will disgust me and creep me out, it's hard to grasp that but I see a name on my eyeshadow for instance during a moment, then I say aloud a word of comfort that starts with the letter, spelling out cool words. I enjoyed the voice of the lady on this as she has a soothing, natural flowing beautiful river of softspoken tone and the waters are clear. Thank you. The voice of the woman is like a transparent realm into various colors of mountain spring light blue to clear waters that shape into precious gems and very calming. Thank you.
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orkosikder2077
I suffered a lot because of family, since childhood because of parents quarrel my mental health fucd,
during the puberty i have a breakdown because of parents control or interfere with my life, for that i didn't develop self confidence, i am always doubtful about my self, and don't have self trust,
to get revenge on them i start self harming, everything they want proud of me i wanted humiliatied them, i starting failing my exam, no good or positive achievement, stop doing anything that could help my life and career became lazy and stopped having any emotional expression, like dead tree log just exist.
But after some time, i still have the personaliy of being lazy, not doing anything that could help my life and career even though I know i should do it, always have self doubt. now these negative things become my personality.
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I suffered a lot because of family, since childhood because of parents quarrel my mental health fucd,
during the puberty i have a breakdown because of parents control or interfere with my life, for that i didn't develop self confidence, i am always doubtful about my self, and don't have self trust,
to get revenge on them i start self harming, everything they want proud of me i wanted humiliatied them, i starting failing my exam, no good or positive achievement, stop doing anything that could help my life and career became lazy and stopped having any emotional expression, like dead tree log just exist.
But after some time, i still have the personaliy of being lazy, not doing anything that could help my life and career even though I know i should do it, always have self doubt. now these negative things become my personality.
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MrAnhil8r
For every time I’ve bee taken advantage of, (just simply because of my true good nature, I’ve learned that sometimes, it’s actually best to suffer, struggle, & fail. Why Because it’s how we develop our minds, & approach subsequent experiences of a similar nature, (further down the line, from a different perspective or angle.
After all I’ve suffered, I’ve learned that it’s actually best to not be a people-pleaser. If you constantly go out of your way to help others, people will learn that about you, & hijack that to their advantage. only for you to realise that they’ve done so when it’s too late for you to reverse such. If you constantly go around being a people-pleaser, then, as far as I’m concerned, the only person you are worsening the situation for, is yourself.
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For every time I’ve bee taken advantage of, (just simply because of my true good nature, I’ve learned that sometimes, it’s actually best to suffer, struggle, & fail. Why Because it’s how we develop our minds, & approach subsequent experiences of a similar nature, (further down the line, from a different perspective or angle.
After all I’ve suffered, I’ve learned that it’s actually best to not be a people-pleaser. If you constantly go out of your way to help others, people will learn that about you, & hijack that to their advantage. only for you to realise that they’ve done so when it’s too late for you to reverse such. If you constantly go around being a people-pleaser, then, as far as I’m concerned, the only person you are worsening the situation for, is yourself.
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karupe9982
I hate the savior complex in me, it's not that strong bc i have been stoppi ng myself from allowing others to have their own opportunities to live and learn, and also it's very tiring, i need to take care of me.
Independence is hard too, sometimes it feels lonely and as tiring as anything.
Also being alone to avoid hurting is something i realize to late, i literally ghosted people, bloqued people, or literally moving myself out of their way to do me and not brother them.
Meaning is something i literally do not have grasp on, all other aspects i do know and understand somehow, but meaning is hard
All these characteristics are true for me in some way Even if not in a very hard suffering way. I am however learning and honestly so tired. I feel so so tired
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I hate the savior complex in me, it's not that strong bc i have been stoppi ng myself from allowing others to have their own opportunities to live and learn, and also it's very tiring, i need to take care of me.
Independence is hard too, sometimes it feels lonely and as tiring as anything.
Also being alone to avoid hurting is something i realize to late, i literally ghosted people, bloqued people, or literally moving myself out of their way to do me and not brother them.
Meaning is something i literally do not have grasp on, all other aspects i do know and understand somehow, but meaning is hard
All these characteristics are true for me in some way Even if not in a very hard suffering way. I am however learning and honestly so tired. I feel so so tired
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Ansel-t6f
I have all these traits and I learned to stop trying to make others understand me because I know no matter what I do or say, they won’t understand because I’m the one who goes through it, not them. At the end of the day we go through everything alone even if people have our backs. You never know how strong you are until being strong is the only choice you have. Life is. well it’s never gonna get easier so accept that it’s unfair. They’ll always be obstacles in the way and things will often go arc, life’s always gonna knock you down you gotta decide what you’re gonna do about it. You either stay down and give up or you get back up and fighting. You decide.
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I have all these traits and I learned to stop trying to make others understand me because I know no matter what I do or say, they won’t understand because I’m the one who goes through it, not them. At the end of the day we go through everything alone even if people have our backs. You never know how strong you are until being strong is the only choice you have. Life is. well it’s never gonna get easier so accept that it’s unfair. They’ll always be obstacles in the way and things will often go arc, life’s always gonna knock you down you gotta decide what you’re gonna do about it. You either stay down and give up or you get back up and fighting. You decide.
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KxNOxUTA
Radical Acceptance skill: Embracing things as they are and moving forward instead of losing energy on judging and wailing over the circumstances. It's not dissociation. It's not ignorance. It can include a good round of crying over how things suck. But I stop at that, keep my energy together and look for whatever sensible next step I think I can take, within my nuts situation. And it's completely enough to do that. It's also a method of dropping expectations and centering myself in the here and now. Letting things that crumble, fall their way, without getting dragged along by holding on what cannot be held. And not making value judgements on that either.
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Radical Acceptance skill: Embracing things as they are and moving forward instead of losing energy on judging and wailing over the circumstances. It's not dissociation. It's not ignorance. It can include a good round of crying over how things suck. But I stop at that, keep my energy together and look for whatever sensible next step I think I can take, within my nuts situation. And it's completely enough to do that. It's also a method of dropping expectations and centering myself in the here and now. Letting things that crumble, fall their way, without getting dragged along by holding on what cannot be held. And not making value judgements on that either.
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---no-one
30 year with no life. No job, no family, no any kind of relationships, no education, and getting help from nurses to be able to manage taking care of myself and my appartment. Just so tired. Wasted 30 years.
Been some years in the healthcare system. But no one saw me, didn't care to check if I had trauma and even managed to retraumatize me. but now someone finally did!
My current therapist. He saw me, he heard me. And he figured out I have a dissociative disorder. He is really patience with me. I know I am far behind in life. And therapy is super hard and tiredsome. But from time to time I do feel hope.
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30 year with no life. No job, no family, no any kind of relationships, no education, and getting help from nurses to be able to manage taking care of myself and my appartment. Just so tired. Wasted 30 years.
Been some years in the healthcare system. But no one saw me, didn't care to check if I had trauma and even managed to retraumatize me. but now someone finally did!
My current therapist. He saw me, he heard me. And he figured out I have a dissociative disorder. He is really patience with me. I know I am far behind in life. And therapy is super hard and tiredsome. But from time to time I do feel hope.
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QueenBlizz777
Not everyone realizes they’ve been beaten down so much that they aren’t really living for anything anymore. A dream job A best friend of love they want to stay with Even just to eat my next pizza
I woke up one day realizing I didn’t have thatit was horrifying, jarring, and painful. ButI got to thinking. And I did find something I wanted to eventually reach, something that I importantly was able to make a plan for.
It is important to be asked what do you live for/wish to do in life Don’t give your immediate answer, stop and think if you genuinely have a passion or ambition you strive for
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Not everyone realizes they’ve been beaten down so much that they aren’t really living for anything anymore. A dream job A best friend of love they want to stay with Even just to eat my next pizza
I woke up one day realizing I didn’t have thatit was horrifying, jarring, and painful. ButI got to thinking. And I did find something I wanted to eventually reach, something that I importantly was able to make a plan for.
It is important to be asked what do you live for/wish to do in life Don’t give your immediate answer, stop and think if you genuinely have a passion or ambition you strive for
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williamd2999
I am feeling sad about my life rn. I'm 21 and have a job but I feel isolated from the outside world and I don’t know where to start. It is hard for me to fit in with others or find hobbies that I like doing. I just want to spend my time doing a hobby I enjoy without feeling discouraged. I don’t even know what I want to do and it stresses me everyday. As long as I know how to learn from mistakes hopefully it gets better, I am just laying on the couch all day like most ppl that hopefully something in me clicks. I just hope things change for the better is all i can do, I know im trying my best.
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I am feeling sad about my life rn. I'm 21 and have a job but I feel isolated from the outside world and I don’t know where to start. It is hard for me to fit in with others or find hobbies that I like doing. I just want to spend my time doing a hobby I enjoy without feeling discouraged. I don’t even know what I want to do and it stresses me everyday. As long as I know how to learn from mistakes hopefully it gets better, I am just laying on the couch all day like most ppl that hopefully something in me clicks. I just hope things change for the better is all i can do, I know im trying my best.
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Sizzle78
I feel like these are the more common tells that someone has trauma but what about the subtle, manipulative-like ones I’ve developed an emotional switch that allows me to stop crying, feeling angry or happy at any moment I want to, and that can last weeks. I’ve lost my empathy and emotional intelligence, i dont understand other people’s emotions and nor do I care unless it affects me. Sentiments and emotional appeal dont affect me, and i never see the point in anything. Such a mindset came from neglect and bullying, but so can those other ones mentioned
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I feel like these are the more common tells that someone has trauma but what about the subtle, manipulative-like ones I’ve developed an emotional switch that allows me to stop crying, feeling angry or happy at any moment I want to, and that can last weeks. I’ve lost my empathy and emotional intelligence, i dont understand other people’s emotions and nor do I care unless it affects me. Sentiments and emotional appeal dont affect me, and i never see the point in anything. Such a mindset came from neglect and bullying, but so can those other ones mentioned
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brandonmurray5480
I Honestly don't know how to trust others especially some women, just recently something real insane happened to me, i was in a home hardware and went to the cheakout And I learned that the store called the Community safety service unit on me and vary falsely accused me of harassment The girl that was at the cash left when I came Back out so i presume it was her who got me in trouble and they band me SO YEAH SOME WOMAN ARE CRAZY AND CANNOT BE TRUSTED nor do l understand our want to someone like that
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I Honestly don't know how to trust others especially some women, just recently something real insane happened to me, i was in a home hardware and went to the cheakout And I learned that the store called the Community safety service unit on me and vary falsely accused me of harassment The girl that was at the cash left when I came Back out so i presume it was her who got me in trouble and they band me SO YEAH SOME WOMAN ARE CRAZY AND CANNOT BE TRUSTED nor do l understand our want to someone like that
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Psych2Deep
This video hits like a quiet truth bomb, especially for those of us who smile like it's a survival tactic. The way you broke down these 6 traits Spot on. Thank you for giving language to what so many of us silently carry. Trauma doesn't always scream sometimes, it shows up in overthinking, overgiving, and pretending we're totally fine. And Do we pathologize resilience too much Like. at what point does strength stop being admirable and start becoming emotional suppression Curious to hear what others think.
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This video hits like a quiet truth bomb, especially for those of us who smile like it's a survival tactic. The way you broke down these 6 traits Spot on. Thank you for giving language to what so many of us silently carry. Trauma doesn't always scream sometimes, it shows up in overthinking, overgiving, and pretending we're totally fine. And Do we pathologize resilience too much Like. at what point does strength stop being admirable and start becoming emotional suppression Curious to hear what others think.
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aryanshpal447
Life has been hard but I've always tried to have a positive mindset to every setback. Through all of this I've realised I'm a very empathetic person i can't see someone's pain it's like a flashback of the time I've been through.
And honestly it's values for me but it requires lot of strength to be a saviour and i am suffering from it i am now someone who is an emotional bin everyone's traumas and sorrows. It's become unbearable now. I just want everyone to be happy but I can't suffer anymore.
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Life has been hard but I've always tried to have a positive mindset to every setback. Through all of this I've realised I'm a very empathetic person i can't see someone's pain it's like a flashback of the time I've been through.
And honestly it's values for me but it requires lot of strength to be a saviour and i am suffering from it i am now someone who is an emotional bin everyone's traumas and sorrows. It's become unbearable now. I just want everyone to be happy but I can't suffer anymore.
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b. r.
Can confirm that all of this is true. There's actually a movie about this already. Eastern Promises. The way Viggo Mortensen represents his characters makes me feel like he knows the troubles that come with experiencing too much pain all too well. No character ever resonated within me as much as Aragorn and Nikolai Luschin. It's been a really beautiful and inspiring experience to watch those movies and they helped me to cope with my struggles so if you feel like it, give it a watch
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Can confirm that all of this is true. There's actually a movie about this already. Eastern Promises. The way Viggo Mortensen represents his characters makes me feel like he knows the troubles that come with experiencing too much pain all too well. No character ever resonated within me as much as Aragorn and Nikolai Luschin. It's been a really beautiful and inspiring experience to watch those movies and they helped me to cope with my struggles so if you feel like it, give it a watch
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the_silliest_bean
I've watched so many videos like this recently and its made me think back and try to find the cause of my depression. I haven't found it but i have remembered multiple times ive been in abusive relationships and a few traumatic experiences and it made me realize how horrible my life has been. Its also made me realize whenever I find or a friend shows me a video like this I usually end up relating to almost if not every sign of trait in the video its kinda sad ngl
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I've watched so many videos like this recently and its made me think back and try to find the cause of my depression. I haven't found it but i have remembered multiple times ive been in abusive relationships and a few traumatic experiences and it made me realize how horrible my life has been. Its also made me realize whenever I find or a friend shows me a video like this I usually end up relating to almost if not every sign of trait in the video its kinda sad ngl
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jmw7312
I am 25 yo physics student. I am traumatized by my childhood. Aswell as from my parents as bullying in school. I have a huge savior complex and get constantly absued for it. People are not saying thank you, even if i literally safed their live. Further i realized recently that i have intens trust issues, what explains why I only mad bad experiences with relationsships.
I think i will stay lonley for longer and need to invest more time in (self-) healing
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I am 25 yo physics student. I am traumatized by my childhood. Aswell as from my parents as bullying in school. I have a huge savior complex and get constantly absued for it. People are not saying thank you, even if i literally safed their live. Further i realized recently that i have intens trust issues, what explains why I only mad bad experiences with relationsships.
I think i will stay lonley for longer and need to invest more time in (self-) healing
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ahoi4fan-abc
Going through probably one of the worst times in my life. Getting evicted from my home at the end of the month and the family car getting repossessed on the same day. Financial and mental abuse has been a large issue especially around family where most of it happens. I have become very irritable around anyone because of this: the fear that everything will be stolen. Actions are a key part of communication between each other. Great vid lads.
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Going through probably one of the worst times in my life. Getting evicted from my home at the end of the month and the family car getting repossessed on the same day. Financial and mental abuse has been a large issue especially around family where most of it happens. I have become very irritable around anyone because of this: the fear that everything will be stolen. Actions are a key part of communication between each other. Great vid lads.
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shiryairyu
5: 09 4 outta 6! Questioning everything about decisions and benefits are too dangerous for healthy thoughts. After a while you realize you stopped enjoying life, losing individual thoughts. If you at this stage I recommend you to do basic but lively activites like picking flowers, sitting in nature or even watching the sunset. It might be sound useless but it really helped me, hope you fix it
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5: 09 4 outta 6! Questioning everything about decisions and benefits are too dangerous for healthy thoughts. After a while you realize you stopped enjoying life, losing individual thoughts. If you at this stage I recommend you to do basic but lively activites like picking flowers, sitting in nature or even watching the sunset. It might be sound useless but it really helped me, hope you fix it
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