Are You Stuck in a Situationship
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Date: 2025-05-16
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spiderpunk94
Explain this one to me. I've known this person for a few years, and they've said that not only am I the longest friendship they've had but that they've also shared details about their lives to me that they haven't shared with others. I know their family, their passions, their ideals. But despite this, they've chosen to not see us as more than a friendship, despite previously acknowledging having similar feelings towards me at a time. They've had a bad relationship in the past and witnessed bad relationships to those close to them and is afraid of further potential pain. I flirt with them, which they often tease as opposed to flirting back. And among other problems, there is also distance problems of living states away from eachother, height, and age differences. Is this something I should consider a situationship, should just leave as a friendship, or does it have potential
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Explain this one to me. I've known this person for a few years, and they've said that not only am I the longest friendship they've had but that they've also shared details about their lives to me that they haven't shared with others. I know their family, their passions, their ideals. But despite this, they've chosen to not see us as more than a friendship, despite previously acknowledging having similar feelings towards me at a time. They've had a bad relationship in the past and witnessed bad relationships to those close to them and is afraid of further potential pain. I flirt with them, which they often tease as opposed to flirting back. And among other problems, there is also distance problems of living states away from eachother, height, and age differences. Is this something I should consider a situationship, should just leave as a friendship, or does it have potential
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Scugzerker
Technically, I am in a situationship right now in its most abstract form (definitely more than friends, but not an actual couple yet) but that's simply because we've only known each other online (for 6 years now) and we mutually agreed that we'll hold off on calling anything official until we meet in real life. We were planning on meeting early June, but because of recent family related issues on her side we might postpone it so she'll have time to arrange some things when she has the energy for it. It's unfortunate since we both rather see each other yesterday than tomorrow, but this is quite a big step for both of us. For me it's going to be the first time I ever had any form of meaningful relationship, and for her in her words: have never experienced it [attraction on personal/emotional level] this strong before. So we both want it to go as well as possible.
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Technically, I am in a situationship right now in its most abstract form (definitely more than friends, but not an actual couple yet) but that's simply because we've only known each other online (for 6 years now) and we mutually agreed that we'll hold off on calling anything official until we meet in real life. We were planning on meeting early June, but because of recent family related issues on her side we might postpone it so she'll have time to arrange some things when she has the energy for it. It's unfortunate since we both rather see each other yesterday than tomorrow, but this is quite a big step for both of us. For me it's going to be the first time I ever had any form of meaningful relationship, and for her in her words: have never experienced it [attraction on personal/emotional level] this strong before. So we both want it to go as well as possible.
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MySinfulThoughts
Would it be considered a situationship if the other person and I are best friends, see each other at least once a week (we live an hour apart, and are both ace
My best friend and I have been seeing each other for 13 years and I feel that we're in a platonic relationship. Neither of us see marriage as a long-term goal, much less to each other.
He's also introverted, so he doesn't bring up a lot of personal stuff unless I ask him to. And sometimes I forget. But I know about his dreams and hopes and we talk about personal issues with each other if the other is going through a hard time.
Is this a situationship or a platonic friendship
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Would it be considered a situationship if the other person and I are best friends, see each other at least once a week (we live an hour apart, and are both ace
My best friend and I have been seeing each other for 13 years and I feel that we're in a platonic relationship. Neither of us see marriage as a long-term goal, much less to each other.
He's also introverted, so he doesn't bring up a lot of personal stuff unless I ask him to. And sometimes I forget. But I know about his dreams and hopes and we talk about personal issues with each other if the other is going through a hard time.
Is this a situationship or a platonic friendship
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etsap1236
Ok so what if your in a situationship but most of these don’t Apply. Like I would say I’m in a situationship but we make time for each other, our communication is consistent, we talk about personal things and I made boundaries really quickly. We just don’t do anything physical because it makes me uncomfortable and I haven’t offered a label on it cause I’m still not sure if this feels romantic or platonic. So I’ve told him straight up this is how I feel and it may be a while before I figure out how I feel but he’s chosen to still be around anyway. I’m afraid I’ll loose one of my best friends by not knowing how I feel.
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Ok so what if your in a situationship but most of these don’t Apply. Like I would say I’m in a situationship but we make time for each other, our communication is consistent, we talk about personal things and I made boundaries really quickly. We just don’t do anything physical because it makes me uncomfortable and I haven’t offered a label on it cause I’m still not sure if this feels romantic or platonic. So I’ve told him straight up this is how I feel and it may be a while before I figure out how I feel but he’s chosen to still be around anyway. I’m afraid I’ll loose one of my best friends by not knowing how I feel.
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SteveRandall-o1x
Thank you for this video. though it brings up painful memories. At first i was with an abusive and narc wife for 10 years of my life, then i left when i couldn't bear it any longer, bear in mind i only stayed that long because of our kids. After two years of being single, i met the love of my life, and we had a fantastic first 5 months, then my PTSD kicked in and I did a lot of things i am not proud of because i wasn't properly healed. and she left me. I think of her everyday I realize now and i feel so empty and lonely inside. I love her so much.
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Thank you for this video. though it brings up painful memories. At first i was with an abusive and narc wife for 10 years of my life, then i left when i couldn't bear it any longer, bear in mind i only stayed that long because of our kids. After two years of being single, i met the love of my life, and we had a fantastic first 5 months, then my PTSD kicked in and I did a lot of things i am not proud of because i wasn't properly healed. and she left me. I think of her everyday I realize now and i feel so empty and lonely inside. I love her so much.
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RD9_Designs
Yes, I am in a situationship. We had one date, but he ghosts me whenever I suggest that we do something together. All we do is text. I am certainly not committed, nor do I have any expectations of things changing. I am disabled with chronic pain and chronic fatigue, so I don't get out much, except to dr appointments and AA meetings. so meeting someone is difficult for me. men in the past have accused me of blowing them off when I have to take time to myself to rest, or because I'm in too much pain. I think I'll be single forever.
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Yes, I am in a situationship. We had one date, but he ghosts me whenever I suggest that we do something together. All we do is text. I am certainly not committed, nor do I have any expectations of things changing. I am disabled with chronic pain and chronic fatigue, so I don't get out much, except to dr appointments and AA meetings. so meeting someone is difficult for me. men in the past have accused me of blowing them off when I have to take time to myself to rest, or because I'm in too much pain. I think I'll be single forever.
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faramund9865
I’m in some sort of a situationship with a friend. I’ve just decided she’s avoidant and not ready for whatever I want. So I’m trying to find a real partner now, something reciprocal. Annoyingly this makes her more interested in me which in turn makes me more interested in her again.
But I’m just gonna keep looking for someone else because this is unsustainable.
Hopefully that way we can still have fun together without me having to suffer from unreciprocated feelings.
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I’m in some sort of a situationship with a friend. I’ve just decided she’s avoidant and not ready for whatever I want. So I’m trying to find a real partner now, something reciprocal. Annoyingly this makes her more interested in me which in turn makes me more interested in her again.
But I’m just gonna keep looking for someone else because this is unsustainable.
Hopefully that way we can still have fun together without me having to suffer from unreciprocated feelings.
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LegendBlakeHammer
This video really hit home. I've been seeing someone for months, and it genuinely feels like I've been put in a box - like a secret friend that no one should know about. We meet regularly, exchange gifts, even care for each other in small ways but there's no real intimacy, no progress, and I’m kept hidden from her social circle. It’s starting to hurt deeply. I feel invisible, and it’s affecting my self-worth. Thank you for talking about this - it makes me feel less alone
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This video really hit home. I've been seeing someone for months, and it genuinely feels like I've been put in a box - like a secret friend that no one should know about. We meet regularly, exchange gifts, even care for each other in small ways but there's no real intimacy, no progress, and I’m kept hidden from her social circle. It’s starting to hurt deeply. I feel invisible, and it’s affecting my self-worth. Thank you for talking about this - it makes me feel less alone
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xenoyagma2201
The timing couldn’t be more ironic. However, the main thing is, while at the beginning before the key points were listed, yea felt kinda called out, but then once the key points were listed, it was like. Huh. that doesn’t sound like us at all. And so I’m just here like, this sounds like good thing if what we have is like a situationship but we don’t have those problems, but rather we have the opposite
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The timing couldn’t be more ironic. However, the main thing is, while at the beginning before the key points were listed, yea felt kinda called out, but then once the key points were listed, it was like. Huh. that doesn’t sound like us at all. And so I’m just here like, this sounds like good thing if what we have is like a situationship but we don’t have those problems, but rather we have the opposite
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igi-risu
I’ve been single for two almost three years and intend to stay single because almost everybody in this generation is pursuing short-term/surface level connections or NSA, FWB, casual or are poly/ENM.
I’m content with myself and my wellbeing but if someone approaches me and they’re not looking for a longterm, exclusively monogamous relationship that leads to marriage, it’s a hard no for me chief.
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I’ve been single for two almost three years and intend to stay single because almost everybody in this generation is pursuing short-term/surface level connections or NSA, FWB, casual or are poly/ENM.
I’m content with myself and my wellbeing but if someone approaches me and they’re not looking for a longterm, exclusively monogamous relationship that leads to marriage, it’s a hard no for me chief.
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nikhil4sharma
Thanks! I was in a situationship with an avoidant type. Thank God I stood my ground and now have fully started to ignore her! Great video and awesome timing. No need for me to even explain her why I'm doing this because after multiple tries of asking her out and making time for her, she still keeps me at arm's length. That's it then, you won't see me near you now!
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Thanks! I was in a situationship with an avoidant type. Thank God I stood my ground and now have fully started to ignore her! Great video and awesome timing. No need for me to even explain her why I'm doing this because after multiple tries of asking her out and making time for her, she still keeps me at arm's length. That's it then, you won't see me near you now!
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BillTheDisaster
It's a trap to friendzone road.
And I was never been a first choice of my former crushes to begin with. and some of my friends didn’t even told me that they are dating someone, and when I finally ask about it. ah yeah I have someone they say.
I'm not gonna chase for anyone. anymore.
I want to be someone's first choice. not a situationship.
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It's a trap to friendzone road.
And I was never been a first choice of my former crushes to begin with. and some of my friends didn’t even told me that they are dating someone, and when I finally ask about it. ah yeah I have someone they say.
I'm not gonna chase for anyone. anymore.
I want to be someone's first choice. not a situationship.
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VictorEhresman-t6k
If they aren't showing up at your door Its a situationship. End it. Or you'll forever be stuck in an endless loop of just another day. Divine timing. Tomorrow stretches into 3 days then next week then next month and on and on. You think your getting closer The very night its supposed to happen Bang! Tomorrow. The next day. Then 3 days.
Wake up.
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If they aren't showing up at your door Its a situationship. End it. Or you'll forever be stuck in an endless loop of just another day. Divine timing. Tomorrow stretches into 3 days then next week then next month and on and on. You think your getting closer The very night its supposed to happen Bang! Tomorrow. The next day. Then 3 days.
Wake up.
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A55a551n
Timestamps
1. Inconsistent communication and availability 0: 51
2. Lack of clear boundaries or expectation 1: 55
3. Lack of emotional connection or guardedness 2: 41
4. No long term plans 3: 16
5. A matter of convenience 3: 40
6. Not being a priority 4: 03
Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. Sorry this is so late.
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Timestamps
1. Inconsistent communication and availability 0: 51
2. Lack of clear boundaries or expectation 1: 55
3. Lack of emotional connection or guardedness 2: 41
4. No long term plans 3: 16
5. A matter of convenience 3: 40
6. Not being a priority 4: 03
Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. Sorry this is so late.
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ivana5618
Honestly if they are calling you a friend and you want it to be more you have to cut ties. You will end up feeling unchosen when they never agreed to choose you in the first. Place. Same with fwb if you want it to be more you have to cut ties. You cant force people to choose you or leech on them hoping one day they will.
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Honestly if they are calling you a friend and you want it to be more you have to cut ties. You will end up feeling unchosen when they never agreed to choose you in the first. Place. Same with fwb if you want it to be more you have to cut ties. You cant force people to choose you or leech on them hoping one day they will.
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kieranm2774
This isn't that relevant, but is there a way to turn away from feeling starved from this Despite being aware of it it seems natural to feel more alone or like a failure in some sense. I'm hoping there's some advice tailored to feeling better about situationships for anyone else or myself to this
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This isn't that relevant, but is there a way to turn away from feeling starved from this Despite being aware of it it seems natural to feel more alone or like a failure in some sense. I'm hoping there's some advice tailored to feeling better about situationships for anyone else or myself to this
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MrPhan_0903
That weird space where you're not just friends but not really a couple either. it's draining. I was stuck in a situationship for 8 months and didn’t even realize it until now. This video hit way too close to home. Has anyone else felt like a backup option in someone’s life
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That weird space where you're not just friends but not really a couple either. it's draining. I was stuck in a situationship for 8 months and didn’t even realize it until now. This video hit way too close to home. Has anyone else felt like a backup option in someone’s life
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braeburn2333
If you have the emotional maturity to want to go deeper in a relationship than F buddies, drop those who lack this emotional maturity, because they don't really get it yet, and may never. They are stuck in the me world and may never know what the word us really means.
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If you have the emotional maturity to want to go deeper in a relationship than F buddies, drop those who lack this emotional maturity, because they don't really get it yet, and may never. They are stuck in the me world and may never know what the word us really means.
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Skishtube
You guys continue to be so relevant, I was just in one of these a couple weeks ago before the other person ended whatever we had, but had no clue what it was called or why I was feeling so many things even though i had found someone i loved. thanks for being so relevant!
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You guys continue to be so relevant, I was just in one of these a couple weeks ago before the other person ended whatever we had, but had no clue what it was called or why I was feeling so many things even though i had found someone i loved. thanks for being so relevant!
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Sifu_Black
I like how you made it a point to say that casual relationships are okay if you want them. I prefer them because I'm currently working on career goals (expanding my business) and personal goals (training martial arts. I have no time to invest in a serious relationship.
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I like how you made it a point to say that casual relationships are okay if you want them. I prefer them because I'm currently working on career goals (expanding my business) and personal goals (training martial arts. I have no time to invest in a serious relationship.
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