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Would you stop dating someone your parents didn t like?

Would you stop dating someone your parents didn t like?

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Dig into the Romeo and Juliet Effect, which describes the tendency to find someone more desirable when met by parental opposition. In 1972, psychologists at the University of Colorado surveyed 140 couples to determine whether a relationship facing parental disapproval was more likely to strengthen or crumble under the pressure. Can long-term success of a romantic relationship be predicted by the perceived approval or disapproval of the couple s friends and family? Dig into the trend known as the Romeo and Juliet Effect. Wei enschenkel: Romeo was a married man and Juliette was 13 years old in that story.
At that time marrying young people (Teenagers) was very common place but relationships out of the wedlock weren't. And there was no such thing as divorce (it came later in that period, please correct me if I'm wrong)
Nowadays relationships out of the wedlock are sometimes okay but dating minors isn't anymore.

Date: 2022-10-04

Comments and reviews: 14


Depending on how ready they are to give up existing comforts and change the status quo of important existing relationships, I would assume that for young people, at least, the negative impact on quality of life that comes with acting against their provider will play a significant role in whether or not they decide to gamble on continuing the disagreeable relationship. Speaking as someone who has experienced every role in this scenario at least once, I would say that although a sense of independence and critical thought are vitally important to personal growth, it's also critical to pay attention to the counsel of others when offered from a place of love and to draw lessons from the experiences of others in order to avoid making the same mistakes they did.
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to answer your question let me tell you this story; I was a young naive and thoughtless kido in the few months after my 12 years old birthday buying eadibles with my mother at the supermarket; I saw a girl who I knew and I really liked so I aproach and started talking about some stuff who knows what it was about. after 15 minutes I had to go so I went with my mother to the car and she asked me from nothing: So. when will my grandchild be born?
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I think this topic is more complicated than it's being presented as. As much as parents, friends, etc, can object to a romantic partner for petty reasons, they're also (assuming you have a good relationship with them) trusted outsiders to the relationship who are more likely to spot potential red flags before you from within the relationship.
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It depends on the reason. Some people are actually capable of feeling out a person accurately on sight. If my parent could do this, and explained to me what they were seeing in someone I was interested in, I would definitely consider it. But if the reason was based on personal prejudices or racism absolutely not.
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Feeling a relationship is approved by my parents is one of the greatest gifts I could receive. My ex was just a dream boyfriend and they completely diapproved him. Even before I came out, I had a girlfriend with whom I had a great connection. Needless to say, they didn't approve her very much either.
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People disapprove of romantic partners because they can usually see something you cannot, because of your proximity to the partner. So instead of throwing a tantrum, like an infant, it is worth a little introspection into the relationship and discern if you can see what they are seeing.
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Through trial and error I have learnt a looong time ago that when your friends and family say that you should stop seeing someone, you should most probably follow their advice. Or at least take it very seriously.
It would've saved me a lot of headache and heartbreak if had done so

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In high school, we weren t allowed to swear in the band room. Despite rarely swearing beforehand, for four years I swore every chance I got.
I never got in trouble because it was under my breath or justified on the rarer occasion, but I always thought about how weird it was.

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Pretty much you could only decide whom to date and what not, if you have an income and a job, have your own place and don't depend on your parents anymore. But if you are dependent and still with your parents, pretty much, they can be a factor to your life.
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Don't these types of studies suffer from survivorship bias? If you only survey couples who have a serious relationship and therefore didn'tfail from social pressure, then aren't you missing on all the relationships that did fail from social pressures?
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It depends
If your parents never treated you well, you probably wont want to be acepted by them
If they always cared for you and never make you feel like you didnt deserve it, then you would shurely hurt when they say im dissapointed

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If I didn't think my parents would like someone, then I wouldn't be dating her in the first place; I love my parents, and I trust and respect their judgment, even if I don't always come to the same conclusions.
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When I was young, unfortunately I did not listen to my parents. In hindsight if they could articulate their reasoning better, I might have left him. Also in hindsight, I should have left him.
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This is an interesting question
I would suggest you to view some of the Indian stories on this issue.
You will be taken back seeing how it has ended.

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