Lost my dad at 13 years old - 5 decisions i did alone to succeed in my twenties - dad lessons ep. 1
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Date: 2024-10-08
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jake_nicolle
You keep on keeping on and i really love this for you and your children and i really think that you're children would love to have these videos that they can always go back and watch i wish to god my daddy was still here how ever i just lost him this past February of brain cancer. You are a very smart young man you are all about your family and you work your butt off and you're children are watching you do all of this your setting good examples for them. But yeah i think this is great and sometimes it needs to be raw and real you feel how you feel when it comes to your dad and i can understand that because my mom had been married 3 times her husband before she married my dad is my older sisters dad then she married my dad and had me as well as raised my sister because her dad was a dead beat but my daddy was the type of person that didn't treat her any different then he did me if he couldn't buy us both something nobody was going to get anything but as i got older i noticed that i was kinda the black sheep when it came to my mom if i ask for something I'd get told no my sister ask oh Yes please do and don't get me wrong i love my mother but still to this day she treats me and my children so much differently than what she does my sister and her children and I've told her how I feel about it it really does hurt my feelings a lot so I do believe your children will like these messages that are coming from you that could help them in the long run but you and Nicole are great parents I miss you guys I know you guys are staying so busy with 3 under 3. I hope all is well I can't wait for the next video from you guys.
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You keep on keeping on and i really love this for you and your children and i really think that you're children would love to have these videos that they can always go back and watch i wish to god my daddy was still here how ever i just lost him this past February of brain cancer. You are a very smart young man you are all about your family and you work your butt off and you're children are watching you do all of this your setting good examples for them. But yeah i think this is great and sometimes it needs to be raw and real you feel how you feel when it comes to your dad and i can understand that because my mom had been married 3 times her husband before she married my dad is my older sisters dad then she married my dad and had me as well as raised my sister because her dad was a dead beat but my daddy was the type of person that didn't treat her any different then he did me if he couldn't buy us both something nobody was going to get anything but as i got older i noticed that i was kinda the black sheep when it came to my mom if i ask for something I'd get told no my sister ask oh Yes please do and don't get me wrong i love my mother but still to this day she treats me and my children so much differently than what she does my sister and her children and I've told her how I feel about it it really does hurt my feelings a lot so I do believe your children will like these messages that are coming from you that could help them in the long run but you and Nicole are great parents I miss you guys I know you guys are staying so busy with 3 under 3. I hope all is well I can't wait for the next video from you guys.
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jake_nicolle
Good for you, Jake! Nice idea of playing it forward, your wisdom and love, preserved somehow! Less risk, as you get older, more wild wisdom and careful plans! Dad lessons! Great! You can do more during nap time, then most people do all day! LOL! It is hard to be so wise in your 20's, but the more you try, the wiser you become! You should do more of these, since you love doing them! It makes you feel better, comforts your future, and teaches us all! Enthusiasm beats experience, once, now, experience is your teacher, hold it close and follow its lead! Try not to consider how much whatever could have been, but hold close the beautiful life you have, the opportunities you create! Excellent advice! You are like me in many ways, that you have a desire to share your wisdom and love! Just your love of nature and family is wonderful to watch! I have written a series of books about trying to be excellent, which seems like a dying art, and not anything someone would buy, LOL, but you encourage me to try harder and not give up! Thanks! I still look forward to some books from you! The first one is the hardest! You have a lot to say, so content should not be an issue, you just have to try to make it all make sense together! Probably the best advice my Dad ever gave me was that he was on my side, no matter what! You are that type of great Dad, trying your hardest, and Nicolle too, trying to be the best kind of Mom! Have a great time! Love your great example!
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Good for you, Jake! Nice idea of playing it forward, your wisdom and love, preserved somehow! Less risk, as you get older, more wild wisdom and careful plans! Dad lessons! Great! You can do more during nap time, then most people do all day! LOL! It is hard to be so wise in your 20's, but the more you try, the wiser you become! You should do more of these, since you love doing them! It makes you feel better, comforts your future, and teaches us all! Enthusiasm beats experience, once, now, experience is your teacher, hold it close and follow its lead! Try not to consider how much whatever could have been, but hold close the beautiful life you have, the opportunities you create! Excellent advice! You are like me in many ways, that you have a desire to share your wisdom and love! Just your love of nature and family is wonderful to watch! I have written a series of books about trying to be excellent, which seems like a dying art, and not anything someone would buy, LOL, but you encourage me to try harder and not give up! Thanks! I still look forward to some books from you! The first one is the hardest! You have a lot to say, so content should not be an issue, you just have to try to make it all make sense together! Probably the best advice my Dad ever gave me was that he was on my side, no matter what! You are that type of great Dad, trying your hardest, and Nicolle too, trying to be the best kind of Mom! Have a great time! Love your great example!
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denisehicks7525
Weather good dad or bad dad there are lessions to be learned from every person that has been put in your life. Question have you missed a hole lot of lessions that were that persons mistakes which you could have learned from and not make yourself. Also you must remember you are 1 half or your dad, you have his genes, his blood. Every Life lession that any of your ancesters experience is in their blood, it is their memory which is in your blood, every trauma, every joy lives inside you from past history. Your whole being is from there blood. You can not change that. We are like a onion with ancestery crap in layers around us. Striping the layers is the only way to get rid of all their crap off you. You can check out Emotional Codeing out of Oregon. I know what it is to not put yourself in harms way, what a smart kid, but maybe watch from a far which you would still be learning and most likely did. It's a bummer but we get some of their weird ways. LOL. I really hated my mother talking to herself and now I do it. I do not like it. I went to the hawaiians islands to get away from the hurt and pain of family. I have forgiven and come back home to Cali and helping my father pass now. I came back and spent time with my mom before she passed and so glad I did. Always do what is best for your mind.
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Weather good dad or bad dad there are lessions to be learned from every person that has been put in your life. Question have you missed a hole lot of lessions that were that persons mistakes which you could have learned from and not make yourself. Also you must remember you are 1 half or your dad, you have his genes, his blood. Every Life lession that any of your ancesters experience is in their blood, it is their memory which is in your blood, every trauma, every joy lives inside you from past history. Your whole being is from there blood. You can not change that. We are like a onion with ancestery crap in layers around us. Striping the layers is the only way to get rid of all their crap off you. You can check out Emotional Codeing out of Oregon. I know what it is to not put yourself in harms way, what a smart kid, but maybe watch from a far which you would still be learning and most likely did. It's a bummer but we get some of their weird ways. LOL. I really hated my mother talking to herself and now I do it. I do not like it. I went to the hawaiians islands to get away from the hurt and pain of family. I have forgiven and come back home to Cali and helping my father pass now. I came back and spent time with my mom before she passed and so glad I did. Always do what is best for your mind.
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jake_nicolle
Jake you say you are making this video in case you die that the life you like to live is often dangerous. Well then if this video is for your 3 blessed children who possibly wouldn’t even remember you at the tender ages they are now don’t you think you should be so careful in the choices you make just because YOU LOVE A DARING LIFE you need to step back and ask yourself should I do this spear fishing alone, should I get in a tracker and do this daring task etc etc. These situations are necessary I can just hear you say but many times it’s just for YOUR PLEASURE. You really are NOT putting your kids first & Nicole. You will leave Nicole a grieving widow & Fox, River & Willow fatherless. Be careful Jake! My wonderful husband of 35 years fell to his death needlessly only 10 feet but went on his head it was brain stem spinal cord contusion & gone just like that 35 years of a great marriage just like yours & Nicole, ended all in 1 night. He was to young to die, only 55 & super happy & healthy. You are amazing Jake. what a life lived in 42 years you are very UNIQUE! Please again, be careful & make wise choices for your family.
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Jake you say you are making this video in case you die that the life you like to live is often dangerous. Well then if this video is for your 3 blessed children who possibly wouldn’t even remember you at the tender ages they are now don’t you think you should be so careful in the choices you make just because YOU LOVE A DARING LIFE you need to step back and ask yourself should I do this spear fishing alone, should I get in a tracker and do this daring task etc etc. These situations are necessary I can just hear you say but many times it’s just for YOUR PLEASURE. You really are NOT putting your kids first & Nicole. You will leave Nicole a grieving widow & Fox, River & Willow fatherless. Be careful Jake! My wonderful husband of 35 years fell to his death needlessly only 10 feet but went on his head it was brain stem spinal cord contusion & gone just like that 35 years of a great marriage just like yours & Nicole, ended all in 1 night. He was to young to die, only 55 & super happy & healthy. You are amazing Jake. what a life lived in 42 years you are very UNIQUE! Please again, be careful & make wise choices for your family.
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hopesmom77
I love this video and I am always so envious of relationships that are special that many of us never get to experience. That man never shows up or we choose one that somehow deceived us or just failed to keep any end of his agreement. Two marriages I had turned to be one of them a bipolar and the other a covert narcissist. It sounds like I’m destroying your beautiful message. But I have just given a contrast of the NICE AND KIND that we tend to fall for only to be deceived not too long after the wedding ceremony day. These kind of people are very cleaver knowing you wouldn’t stand with them if you knew the real them! As James Dobson says you will know them when you spend time with their family and watch how all of them interact and you will soon learn who they are. I didn’t know that then. But you and Nicole have both worked together and you offer each other what I wish my days could be like. I so long to share my days with someone like your example! May the God of Abraham, Issac and Jacob bless you and keep you!
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I love this video and I am always so envious of relationships that are special that many of us never get to experience. That man never shows up or we choose one that somehow deceived us or just failed to keep any end of his agreement. Two marriages I had turned to be one of them a bipolar and the other a covert narcissist. It sounds like I’m destroying your beautiful message. But I have just given a contrast of the NICE AND KIND that we tend to fall for only to be deceived not too long after the wedding ceremony day. These kind of people are very cleaver knowing you wouldn’t stand with them if you knew the real them! As James Dobson says you will know them when you spend time with their family and watch how all of them interact and you will soon learn who they are. I didn’t know that then. But you and Nicole have both worked together and you offer each other what I wish my days could be like. I so long to share my days with someone like your example! May the God of Abraham, Issac and Jacob bless you and keep you!
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jake_nicolle
Regardless of what haters say about you as a martial artist, which is a caricature of the truth, which to be fair, so is the perspective of those who think you're a perfect martial artist and ultimate self defense guide, but I digress. you are an inspirational figure with your passion and dedication, when you were known as the famous martial artist people praised or berated, you managed to balance hard work on marketing with hard work on skills and physical attributes. to be honest, I think you got a bad rep mostly cuz of how you titled and marketed some of your content which was both martial and art but more art than martial and with the emphasis on self defense. people overlooked the fact that it took skills to be able to do the stuff you could do with a guan dao, various other weapons, as well as high kicks splits, planche, etc. enough about that, I think this is a great idea to share this with your son (and in the process) others who can learn form it. :)
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Regardless of what haters say about you as a martial artist, which is a caricature of the truth, which to be fair, so is the perspective of those who think you're a perfect martial artist and ultimate self defense guide, but I digress. you are an inspirational figure with your passion and dedication, when you were known as the famous martial artist people praised or berated, you managed to balance hard work on marketing with hard work on skills and physical attributes. to be honest, I think you got a bad rep mostly cuz of how you titled and marketed some of your content which was both martial and art but more art than martial and with the emphasis on self defense. people overlooked the fact that it took skills to be able to do the stuff you could do with a guan dao, various other weapons, as well as high kicks splits, planche, etc. enough about that, I think this is a great idea to share this with your son (and in the process) others who can learn form it. :)
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MsDani899
My twin and I were two years old when we lost our dad from cancer. I have no idea what it is like to have a father. Later, I lost my twin, brother, mother and recently my husband. Jake, my brother was 42 years old when he passed - he was a translator in the court system(spoke 8 languages. At one point, I decided to take the bull by the horns, so to speak and use my grief to help others, so I decided to seek a career in the funeral business (a real miracle cause I was afraid of funeral homes from a young age. In helping others with their losses through death, they were in turn helping me in my healing - must have been divine intervention. Father, twin, brother, mother, husband- til we meet again in glory.
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My twin and I were two years old when we lost our dad from cancer. I have no idea what it is like to have a father. Later, I lost my twin, brother, mother and recently my husband. Jake, my brother was 42 years old when he passed - he was a translator in the court system(spoke 8 languages. At one point, I decided to take the bull by the horns, so to speak and use my grief to help others, so I decided to seek a career in the funeral business (a real miracle cause I was afraid of funeral homes from a young age. In helping others with their losses through death, they were in turn helping me in my healing - must have been divine intervention. Father, twin, brother, mother, husband- til we meet again in glory.
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jake_nicolle
I think this is an excellent idea. I wish my grandparents and parents especially my dad would have created memoirs for us children that we can review as we became adults but even though we had them around the early years some of those things you don't get to tell your children and some things we don't remember as we get older so it's nice to be able to go back and look at them and reflect on you. I'm sure your children are all enjoy them and I'm so thankful that you're taking the time to give them these documents life skills instructions they can draw from as they become adults. thank you to you and Nicole I've been following you since you first started the yurt building,
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I think this is an excellent idea. I wish my grandparents and parents especially my dad would have created memoirs for us children that we can review as we became adults but even though we had them around the early years some of those things you don't get to tell your children and some things we don't remember as we get older so it's nice to be able to go back and look at them and reflect on you. I'm sure your children are all enjoy them and I'm so thankful that you're taking the time to give them these documents life skills instructions they can draw from as they become adults. thank you to you and Nicole I've been following you since you first started the yurt building,
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jenniferwinter3463
Lovely video to keep Jake, answer to your question, I think babies need mothers nurturing up until around 10 - 12 yr, they are still all cuddles, feeding correctly and learning little things, those foundations she teachers can be passed on to dad to build on. I still don't quite understand where you got your will to study, your discipline, respect, passion your common sense from, I think you would have succeeded with or without your dad. The loss of your first wife and house was a blessing, you grew you learnt and found the real pure love of your life. You both seem so in tune, I see the way you look at each other, the words are there without speaking.
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Lovely video to keep Jake, answer to your question, I think babies need mothers nurturing up until around 10 - 12 yr, they are still all cuddles, feeding correctly and learning little things, those foundations she teachers can be passed on to dad to build on. I still don't quite understand where you got your will to study, your discipline, respect, passion your common sense from, I think you would have succeeded with or without your dad. The loss of your first wife and house was a blessing, you grew you learnt and found the real pure love of your life. You both seem so in tune, I see the way you look at each other, the words are there without speaking.
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jake_nicolle
Jake, I think you should know this and maybe you already do. Sharks can hear the noise made from a spear gun under the water and are attracted to it. They have become attuned to this because of the possibility there is food on the spear. I found this out while watching BBC Earth recently on sharks and what attracts them. I would not feel right with not telling you especially with your fears of dying and leaving your family. I know you love doing this and I love seeing your videos covering this and I do not want to be negative but this is risky what you are doing. Find another pursuit that is not as risky that you would enjoy.
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Jake, I think you should know this and maybe you already do. Sharks can hear the noise made from a spear gun under the water and are attracted to it. They have become attuned to this because of the possibility there is food on the spear. I found this out while watching BBC Earth recently on sharks and what attracts them. I would not feel right with not telling you especially with your fears of dying and leaving your family. I know you love doing this and I love seeing your videos covering this and I do not want to be negative but this is risky what you are doing. Find another pursuit that is not as risky that you would enjoy.
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karaanaya
6: 19 This is a perspective question and I Love it! Please let me know or jot down what people are saying.
Now that I understand how messed up this whole society is when it comes to our Ethics I would say before is harder.
I did not have any foundation to stand upon. My dad abandoned me at age 5 and my mom switched to survival mode and I feel like I lost her at the same age. My foundation was cracked before it could even solidify.
I’d love to have you on a Podcast with Anna. Let me reach out to her and then have Our people contact you.
Again thank you
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6: 19 This is a perspective question and I Love it! Please let me know or jot down what people are saying.
Now that I understand how messed up this whole society is when it comes to our Ethics I would say before is harder.
I did not have any foundation to stand upon. My dad abandoned me at age 5 and my mom switched to survival mode and I feel like I lost her at the same age. My foundation was cracked before it could even solidify.
I’d love to have you on a Podcast with Anna. Let me reach out to her and then have Our people contact you.
Again thank you
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ndan3746
Thanks Jake for your honesty and integrity. In this day its pretty rare to see. I did have a father to raise me. We were not always close but in his later years that did change. In my experience I feel that the foundation is always learned. No one is perfect but those few basic qualities in a person trying to do their best for their family always comes through. At 61 years old I feel the most important rule is to live for today, cherish every breath. If you have some money put away. spend it on travel and experiences. You can't take it with you.
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Thanks Jake for your honesty and integrity. In this day its pretty rare to see. I did have a father to raise me. We were not always close but in his later years that did change. In my experience I feel that the foundation is always learned. No one is perfect but those few basic qualities in a person trying to do their best for their family always comes through. At 61 years old I feel the most important rule is to live for today, cherish every breath. If you have some money put away. spend it on travel and experiences. You can't take it with you.
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SBooher1
I love your story, Jake. I've been following you and Nicole for a while and find you both so real and so unique. I grew up in the hippie era and fell into that path. Many young people had your vision at that time. Unfortunately, that was also the Vietnam war era and many of those young men were drafted. Some came home, many didn't. Life changed for so many of us. Life's changes are fascinating. I am now 71 years old and looking back over all those years I can now see the life I have lived. Thank you for everything you do and have done.
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I love your story, Jake. I've been following you and Nicole for a while and find you both so real and so unique. I grew up in the hippie era and fell into that path. Many young people had your vision at that time. Unfortunately, that was also the Vietnam war era and many of those young men were drafted. Some came home, many didn't. Life changed for so many of us. Life's changes are fascinating. I am now 71 years old and looking back over all those years I can now see the life I have lived. Thank you for everything you do and have done.
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Foobsey
This is the most sincere video I have watched from you! As a 40 year old man I can relate so much to your life story especially with the father situation! But, As I have realised with having 2 young children, No matter what you do in life, it's impossible for those children you/ I have created were never going to exist. Our whole lifes were built and destined to have those children and that's why I have zero regrets in life, I'm where I am supposed to be, and so are my children that I love more than anything physically real.
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This is the most sincere video I have watched from you! As a 40 year old man I can relate so much to your life story especially with the father situation! But, As I have realised with having 2 young children, No matter what you do in life, it's impossible for those children you/ I have created were never going to exist. Our whole lifes were built and destined to have those children and that's why I have zero regrets in life, I'm where I am supposed to be, and so are my children that I love more than anything physically real.
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joycemiles3470
I lost my Dad at 7 as i grow up like you felt alone my brother was a mummy boy i was out doing things alone so can relate to your video and it's a lovely thing to do this for your little ones wish i had a video of my Dad and not just a picture but i feel you have made a great life for yourself made mistakes and got up again and tried again much more for filling than someone helping you you have been blessed with a beautifull family and you make a great Dad. Your video are something to look forward to Thank you
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I lost my Dad at 7 as i grow up like you felt alone my brother was a mummy boy i was out doing things alone so can relate to your video and it's a lovely thing to do this for your little ones wish i had a video of my Dad and not just a picture but i feel you have made a great life for yourself made mistakes and got up again and tried again much more for filling than someone helping you you have been blessed with a beautifull family and you make a great Dad. Your video are something to look forward to Thank you
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freddythefrog70
Bad stuff can happen in a blink of an eye, one minute everything is going great the next I've been told I have prostate cancer at the ripe old age of 53.
Unfortunately that's the only thing I have received from my misogynist & narcissist father.
Wish I had a dad like you Jake, you've teached Fox more things in a week than he has to me in a lifetime.
He belittled me & my lovely but very old fashioned mother so he could control us.
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Bad stuff can happen in a blink of an eye, one minute everything is going great the next I've been told I have prostate cancer at the ripe old age of 53.
Unfortunately that's the only thing I have received from my misogynist & narcissist father.
Wish I had a dad like you Jake, you've teached Fox more things in a week than he has to me in a lifetime.
He belittled me & my lovely but very old fashioned mother so he could control us.
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nalubarale6658
so that's really cool you are making a video for your kids and that was interesting words but I was just wondering you are not making videos of your actual life as I haven't seen any for quite awhile, I know you have other media that are not free, I appreciate your thoughts but honestly it was more interesting to see your life in action instead of words. but that's just my feeling, best of luck in your podcast and the rest of your life.
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so that's really cool you are making a video for your kids and that was interesting words but I was just wondering you are not making videos of your actual life as I haven't seen any for quite awhile, I know you have other media that are not free, I appreciate your thoughts but honestly it was more interesting to see your life in action instead of words. but that's just my feeling, best of luck in your podcast and the rest of your life.
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jake_nicolle
Being estranged from my family it certainly leaves a hole in your soul. I wish I had known you when you were in Mesa we just bought a home here and 1/2 acre which we intend to transform in to a producer of food
You have a lovely family and that you are working to change what didn’t work for you in the past shows integrity and wisdom
If you’re ever in Mess I’d love to pick your brain about a plan for my yard
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Being estranged from my family it certainly leaves a hole in your soul. I wish I had known you when you were in Mesa we just bought a home here and 1/2 acre which we intend to transform in to a producer of food
You have a lovely family and that you are working to change what didn’t work for you in the past shows integrity and wisdom
If you’re ever in Mess I’d love to pick your brain about a plan for my yard
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kellyp4377
I think that was great and what a great idea Jake!
My father passed away March of this year at84, and I wish there were videos that maybe he had left for us kids.
I would’ve loved to be watching them now, if he was younger, and the wisdom of what he would wanted to tell his children.
Please be careful in your life’s adventures & journeys
you have 4 wonderful souls that want and need you in their lives.
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I think that was great and what a great idea Jake!
My father passed away March of this year at84, and I wish there were videos that maybe he had left for us kids.
I would’ve loved to be watching them now, if he was younger, and the wisdom of what he would wanted to tell his children.
Please be careful in your life’s adventures & journeys
you have 4 wonderful souls that want and need you in their lives.
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kathleenmead9259
Thank you Jake! I started watching you (AZ garden series) because you were real, and have kept watching because I appreciate honesty. I cannot regret any of the losses and bad stuff that has happened in my life because they have taught me I am not a victim and they have been wonderful opportunities to grow. Your three are lucky to have you for a father; thank you for being a kind daddy. Love and peace to y'all!
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Thank you Jake! I started watching you (AZ garden series) because you were real, and have kept watching because I appreciate honesty. I cannot regret any of the losses and bad stuff that has happened in my life because they have taught me I am not a victim and they have been wonderful opportunities to grow. Your three are lucky to have you for a father; thank you for being a kind daddy. Love and peace to y'all!
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