7 Signs You May Not Be Ready for a Relationship
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I'm going to be patient with you. I'm going to see the good in you even when you don't see the good in yourself. I'm going to be generous and kind. I'm going to give you verbal approval and praise. I'm going to compliment you on your uniqueness. I'm going to keep my promises to you. I'm going to keep my peace with you, avoid conflict with you. I'm going to tell the truth to you. You're going to be able to fully trust me and I'm never going to cash in on that trust. I'm going to see your realness, warts and shadow and all as you truly are. I'm going to deeply appreciate the finite portion of consciousness that you are and I'm going to accept your selfishness whenever you have the urge to be selfish. Now ask yourself on a scale of 0 to 10 how loved do you feel? Open Your Eyes.
Date: 2023-08-20
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Shereen
It's best to watch this video first and identify what the issues are. Then re-watch it with the solutions in mind to each issue. For instance if you have a lot other aspirations you're focusing on in your life, you just need to limit your timing a little bit of how much you spend with someone during the week. Working on yourself is something everyone should be doing and isn't hard to do. It does not mean don't date. Some people will naturally want to work on themselves and act right around the right people, while when we sense someone playing games with us in a relationship it may bring out the worst in us. I think dating is healthy regardless, because you learn more self-control in every aspect of your life, and you learn to read people more. Practice has got to make perfect, even in dating. I think it's better to date with trial-and-error several times, then to end up with the wrong person when desperation creeps in someday, as it has in the past. Heartache tends to come at some point in dating, but consistent dating will help us overcome and learn more in how to take a short, most likely permanent break from red flags in people, especially all these people still just freshly getting out of relationships on these dating apps with all intentions of them getting back with their exes.
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It's best to watch this video first and identify what the issues are. Then re-watch it with the solutions in mind to each issue. For instance if you have a lot other aspirations you're focusing on in your life, you just need to limit your timing a little bit of how much you spend with someone during the week. Working on yourself is something everyone should be doing and isn't hard to do. It does not mean don't date. Some people will naturally want to work on themselves and act right around the right people, while when we sense someone playing games with us in a relationship it may bring out the worst in us. I think dating is healthy regardless, because you learn more self-control in every aspect of your life, and you learn to read people more. Practice has got to make perfect, even in dating. I think it's better to date with trial-and-error several times, then to end up with the wrong person when desperation creeps in someday, as it has in the past. Heartache tends to come at some point in dating, but consistent dating will help us overcome and learn more in how to take a short, most likely permanent break from red flags in people, especially all these people still just freshly getting out of relationships on these dating apps with all intentions of them getting back with their exes.
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-LittleRanch-
This kind of describes about me
I'm always trying. To save my friend. Micheal from a relationship because I wanna be a good friend, I'm also finding myself out on who I am, yet I got into a relationship 4 times and it sucked. I had kind of Anxiety because I cared too much about my boyfriend and stuff whenever he went to the nurse's office I cry, also whenever I didn't feel like dating again, I cried badly, and I needed some help with that. I'm just so attached to the man I mostly cared the most and thought he was the right and smart, but I was wrong, we weren't meant for each other and we went too fast because he'd say we are going to get married and I'm going to get us married in California! it just made me feel a little sick and when we also planed our future it was a little different than mine. Because I had my future already planned out on my own.
And it just bugged me so much.
I also dream about having a maynn I knew I wasn't ready till I saw this video I thank you very much sometimes I feel dumb and childish for not having a maynn because I sometimes act like a fun person childish kid (in a good and fun way) with my friends.
By the way if you guys are ever struggling on a abusive relationship, your not alone and we will help you through this I love you
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This kind of describes about me
I'm always trying. To save my friend. Micheal from a relationship because I wanna be a good friend, I'm also finding myself out on who I am, yet I got into a relationship 4 times and it sucked. I had kind of Anxiety because I cared too much about my boyfriend and stuff whenever he went to the nurse's office I cry, also whenever I didn't feel like dating again, I cried badly, and I needed some help with that. I'm just so attached to the man I mostly cared the most and thought he was the right and smart, but I was wrong, we weren't meant for each other and we went too fast because he'd say we are going to get married and I'm going to get us married in California! it just made me feel a little sick and when we also planed our future it was a little different than mine. Because I had my future already planned out on my own.
And it just bugged me so much.
I also dream about having a maynn I knew I wasn't ready till I saw this video I thank you very much sometimes I feel dumb and childish for not having a maynn because I sometimes act like a fun person childish kid (in a good and fun way) with my friends.
By the way if you guys are ever struggling on a abusive relationship, your not alone and we will help you through this I love you
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education
I don't care about other girls. I have a girlfriend and I miss being single. It's not that I can't get girls, I can it's just that I don't wanna be in a relationship right now. It's not that I wanna hook up with other girls, it's not that I don't love her because I do, it's not that I don't understand female nature, I do. I just don't have time for one right now and I wanna focus on other important things. She isn't perfect but no one is. She does things I don't agree with, but that won't ever be a deal breaker and I'll never force her to change. I still love her and I'll never forget her. I just want to focus more on myself right now. I need to focus on myself. And it's not gonna be like I don't want a relationship and then I get one in the next week, no. I mean I wanna be single for a very long time. Because in truth, although I still love and care for her I personally don't think I was ready for one right now. And I feel like shit saying this, the only reason why I won't break up with her is because I don't wanna get hurt again and I don't wanna hurt her either. I hate seeing her unhappy and I hate making someone feel unhappy. Her emotions will always be stronger than mine, but I hope she considers how I feel about it too.
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I don't care about other girls. I have a girlfriend and I miss being single. It's not that I can't get girls, I can it's just that I don't wanna be in a relationship right now. It's not that I wanna hook up with other girls, it's not that I don't love her because I do, it's not that I don't understand female nature, I do. I just don't have time for one right now and I wanna focus on other important things. She isn't perfect but no one is. She does things I don't agree with, but that won't ever be a deal breaker and I'll never force her to change. I still love her and I'll never forget her. I just want to focus more on myself right now. I need to focus on myself. And it's not gonna be like I don't want a relationship and then I get one in the next week, no. I mean I wanna be single for a very long time. Because in truth, although I still love and care for her I personally don't think I was ready for one right now. And I feel like shit saying this, the only reason why I won't break up with her is because I don't wanna get hurt again and I don't wanna hurt her either. I hate seeing her unhappy and I hate making someone feel unhappy. Her emotions will always be stronger than mine, but I hope she considers how I feel about it too.
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Dr.
You care more about finding the perfect partner instead of working on yourself? Absolutely not. I work every day on myself and think about ways to improve, how to be less selfish, and introspective.
Are you constantly daydreaming about finding Cinderella when you're walking down the streets and see many couples holding hands? Hardly ever. I had never been a looks person. Even when one was beautiful, when they didn't had it on the inside, it was over for me (don't misunderstand me, there are many attractive people with golden personalities; I was just explain i don't get blinded by looks that fast. I prefer being lonely, than being in a relationship that does more harm, than good, and is superficial and makes both parties more miserable.
I know there is someone outside, that desires me as much, as I do them. I have the patience, but it's not a priority.
you're still working on your goals and discovering who you are? Check.
You want someone to save you? Used to, but not really.
You want to save someone else? No.
You still frequently think and talk about your ex? No.
You have a hard time apologizing or admitting when you're wrong? Not anymore.
You're emotionally closed off? Check.
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You care more about finding the perfect partner instead of working on yourself? Absolutely not. I work every day on myself and think about ways to improve, how to be less selfish, and introspective.
Are you constantly daydreaming about finding Cinderella when you're walking down the streets and see many couples holding hands? Hardly ever. I had never been a looks person. Even when one was beautiful, when they didn't had it on the inside, it was over for me (don't misunderstand me, there are many attractive people with golden personalities; I was just explain i don't get blinded by looks that fast. I prefer being lonely, than being in a relationship that does more harm, than good, and is superficial and makes both parties more miserable.
I know there is someone outside, that desires me as much, as I do them. I have the patience, but it's not a priority.
you're still working on your goals and discovering who you are? Check.
You want someone to save you? Used to, but not really.
You want to save someone else? No.
You still frequently think and talk about your ex? No.
You have a hard time apologizing or admitting when you're wrong? Not anymore.
You're emotionally closed off? Check.
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isma
ok idk why but when I start talking with a good guy, very respectful, we have this connexion etc. we know that we have lots of things in common etc it's a real pleasure to talk to him and I really appreciate him, but in my head im making fake scenarios like we are in a relationship together as he attract me, he is really cute and I like him but when these thoughs of being with him, im starting to stress and to feel like in my stomach a pressure and I don't understand why, I feel like I would love to be with him but im maybe not ready? I really stressed about that like I feel it in my stomach and I have this pressure on myself but a part of me feels not ready to commit, I don't know myself enough, im scared also, it requires lots of time for each other etc. and im scared that I will lost someone. lost him. there is such a beautiful connexion and please help meee idk what to do im lost.
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ok idk why but when I start talking with a good guy, very respectful, we have this connexion etc. we know that we have lots of things in common etc it's a real pleasure to talk to him and I really appreciate him, but in my head im making fake scenarios like we are in a relationship together as he attract me, he is really cute and I like him but when these thoughs of being with him, im starting to stress and to feel like in my stomach a pressure and I don't understand why, I feel like I would love to be with him but im maybe not ready? I really stressed about that like I feel it in my stomach and I have this pressure on myself but a part of me feels not ready to commit, I don't know myself enough, im scared also, it requires lots of time for each other etc. and im scared that I will lost someone. lost him. there is such a beautiful connexion and please help meee idk what to do im lost.
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YoungMAJ
I feel like relationships just dont last. I came out to my mom at 17 as Gay. She was distraught about it then eventually, she finally and fully accepted me for who I am. I got into my first relationship ever with a guy and things turned out pretty good until things started to change slightly. His body language and his attitude started to change as we got closer and then more things started to pile up. Ive found out from my friend that he cheated and told lies about me. So, I confronted him about it and he was trying to justify everything he did. Eventually we broke up for good and then sadly, I wanted to physically harm myself but I remained depressed and silent because I was extremely heartbroken. I thought we were committed to each other and plus, he was my first partner ever, which it had a huge impact on me.
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I feel like relationships just dont last. I came out to my mom at 17 as Gay. She was distraught about it then eventually, she finally and fully accepted me for who I am. I got into my first relationship ever with a guy and things turned out pretty good until things started to change slightly. His body language and his attitude started to change as we got closer and then more things started to pile up. Ive found out from my friend that he cheated and told lies about me. So, I confronted him about it and he was trying to justify everything he did. Eventually we broke up for good and then sadly, I wanted to physically harm myself but I remained depressed and silent because I was extremely heartbroken. I thought we were committed to each other and plus, he was my first partner ever, which it had a huge impact on me.
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NM05
I wasnt ready for a relationship when i got with the best girl in thw world. I feel ive made a mistake by allowing myself to fall into depression instead of working on myself. I felt unlived due to the distance and now i asked for a break because i refuse to hurt her and myself due to my lack of self owrth. Im trying to be better for me and hopefully with the help im getting she will fall into mh life again. I wasnt over pain from the past and i messed up on my own. She deserves the world and i need to make sure i can offer that to myself first bwfore i can give it. We lost trust slowly and we got a little toxic. Im joping this break lets me strengthen myself and be able to love again both myself and possibly give myself better without doubts or anxiety
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I wasnt ready for a relationship when i got with the best girl in thw world. I feel ive made a mistake by allowing myself to fall into depression instead of working on myself. I felt unlived due to the distance and now i asked for a break because i refuse to hurt her and myself due to my lack of self owrth. Im trying to be better for me and hopefully with the help im getting she will fall into mh life again. I wasnt over pain from the past and i messed up on my own. She deserves the world and i need to make sure i can offer that to myself first bwfore i can give it. We lost trust slowly and we got a little toxic. Im joping this break lets me strengthen myself and be able to love again both myself and possibly give myself better without doubts or anxiety
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Hazel
There's this one guy in my tuition who proposed to me that he likes me. But I really don't know if I'm mentally prepared for a relationship or not. I have never had a boyfriend. I just reject every guy feeling weird with the thought of them liking me.
Mostly I think the reason why I Don't want a relationship is that I'm emotionally unavailable. I'm toxic, possessive. So, I just know that of I want to date someone I should get to therapy first. I have commitment issues. If I'm talking to a guy it'll last for a week and I'll lose the interest and just ignore them. I know it's so bad. That's why I Don't want to get in relationship and ruin someone's life. It's like I darkness and whoever try to reach will turn dark too.
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There's this one guy in my tuition who proposed to me that he likes me. But I really don't know if I'm mentally prepared for a relationship or not. I have never had a boyfriend. I just reject every guy feeling weird with the thought of them liking me.
Mostly I think the reason why I Don't want a relationship is that I'm emotionally unavailable. I'm toxic, possessive. So, I just know that of I want to date someone I should get to therapy first. I have commitment issues. If I'm talking to a guy it'll last for a week and I'll lose the interest and just ignore them. I know it's so bad. That's why I Don't want to get in relationship and ruin someone's life. It's like I darkness and whoever try to reach will turn dark too.
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berthilleonard
The thing is i feel i can't trust my intuition because i struggle with attachment/trust/anxiety issues and im always worried that things could fall apart every minute. I notice i'm hyper alert and feel alone even when we're together and supposed to be connecting to the point where i'm beginning to wonder what the added value of a relationship is if i always feel kind of stressed. When i'm by myself i actually feel more okay than in a relationship. last couple weeks i just feel like shit. I'm doing my best to keep at it but it won't really go away.
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The thing is i feel i can't trust my intuition because i struggle with attachment/trust/anxiety issues and im always worried that things could fall apart every minute. I notice i'm hyper alert and feel alone even when we're together and supposed to be connecting to the point where i'm beginning to wonder what the added value of a relationship is if i always feel kind of stressed. When i'm by myself i actually feel more okay than in a relationship. last couple weeks i just feel like shit. I'm doing my best to keep at it but it won't really go away.
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Des
Yeah. this describes me. I remember when someone had feelings for me and kept wanting to be with me, yet I kept saying I cant get over my ex or give it some more time. Not only that, but I have a mood disorder. I was on and off of my medication for about 2 months and dealt with a lot. I want to be in a relationship, but at the same time, that experience did traumatize me, and still does till this day. Thank you for providing awareness about this!
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Yeah. this describes me. I remember when someone had feelings for me and kept wanting to be with me, yet I kept saying I cant get over my ex or give it some more time. Not only that, but I have a mood disorder. I was on and off of my medication for about 2 months and dealt with a lot. I want to be in a relationship, but at the same time, that experience did traumatize me, and still does till this day. Thank you for providing awareness about this!
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GreatCity
I had those signs back then but now I had grown into a better person than ever. I always still support my loved ones but not like where I want to save them because I accept them for who they are as long as theyre respectful and dont get me in trouble. I have goals but that doesnt mean I am not ready because I can handle working on my goals and be in a relationship no matter what. I am happy with who I am.
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I had those signs back then but now I had grown into a better person than ever. I always still support my loved ones but not like where I want to save them because I accept them for who they are as long as theyre respectful and dont get me in trouble. I have goals but that doesnt mean I am not ready because I can handle working on my goals and be in a relationship no matter what. I am happy with who I am.
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GreatCity
This is good information. I am not focusing on finding the person because I continue to be my good self and do what makes me happy like hanging out with some of my good close friends. When I need help I dont need help from someone to save me and want to be in a relationship. I let good close friends and respect people the way are. I also apologize for things I need to apologize and control my emotions.
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This is good information. I am not focusing on finding the person because I continue to be my good self and do what makes me happy like hanging out with some of my good close friends. When I need help I dont need help from someone to save me and want to be in a relationship. I let good close friends and respect people the way are. I also apologize for things I need to apologize and control my emotions.
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Mira
It kinda hurts tho when you really want those things and just can't wait for a relationship
But i don't understand why some people without asking for help were saved by someone that became their parteners in a forever relationship it hurts more to see that it's a true lovely relationship that works even tho some of the things mentionned in this video
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It kinda hurts tho when you really want those things and just can't wait for a relationship
But i don't understand why some people without asking for help were saved by someone that became their parteners in a forever relationship it hurts more to see that it's a true lovely relationship that works even tho some of the things mentionned in this video
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Sebastin
I fell in love with someone but, when we were dating I felt a lot of anxiety and stress, I loved her but at the same time I missed my freedom and when I was with her, I felt that lack of freedom even that she was not a toxic girl, I had to let her go, tbh I miss her but I think that I am not ready for it, I hope she can be happy
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I fell in love with someone but, when we were dating I felt a lot of anxiety and stress, I loved her but at the same time I missed my freedom and when I was with her, I felt that lack of freedom even that she was not a toxic girl, I had to let her go, tbh I miss her but I think that I am not ready for it, I hope she can be happy
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Marc
I disagree with 3: I have depressive period (alsmost every summer, because I've never had a girlfriend in my life and I have 38 years old.
With years, you cannot keep to be happy when you are unvoluntry single. And it is not I didnt try, I had activities, exchange universities programme. I always met women with no common things.
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I disagree with 3: I have depressive period (alsmost every summer, because I've never had a girlfriend in my life and I have 38 years old.
With years, you cannot keep to be happy when you are unvoluntry single. And it is not I didnt try, I had activities, exchange universities programme. I always met women with no common things.
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Tudor
No matter how bad your life is and how many problems do you have, it is normal to want a relationship. But this does not mean you see the relationship as salvation or distraction. Stop making people to believe they are convicted to stay single their interi life just because they have problems and got trough bad things!
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No matter how bad your life is and how many problems do you have, it is normal to want a relationship. But this does not mean you see the relationship as salvation or distraction. Stop making people to believe they are convicted to stay single their interi life just because they have problems and got trough bad things!
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Yang
A guy and I like each other but a week in, he said he wasn't ready and I found out I wasn't ready as well. We both were still hurt from our past and needed more time, he still is by my side but we are both slowing it down as friends first. But I can feel the love in the air, hope one day, we both are ready
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A guy and I like each other but a week in, he said he wasn't ready and I found out I wasn't ready as well. We both were still hurt from our past and needed more time, he still is by my side but we are both slowing it down as friends first. But I can feel the love in the air, hope one day, we both are ready
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Alex
Right now I feel like Im not ready at all for a relationship. I feel like my life is a mess (I havent been working out, Im overwhelmed by school, Im still working on my social skills, I want to grow as an actor, and I want to get closer to family. I just feel so lost and need to find myself first I guess.
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Right now I feel like Im not ready at all for a relationship. I feel like my life is a mess (I havent been working out, Im overwhelmed by school, Im still working on my social skills, I want to grow as an actor, and I want to get closer to family. I just feel so lost and need to find myself first I guess.
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Psalms
i got a score of 5 out of 7 like a champ. this is definitely eye opening. tho we're technically not in a relationship, & the way we started was questionable. i guess i'm equally at fault why we're not that compatible (which we kinda knew from the beginning) & the ego prevents you from realizing that
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i got a score of 5 out of 7 like a champ. this is definitely eye opening. tho we're technically not in a relationship, & the way we started was questionable. i guess i'm equally at fault why we're not that compatible (which we kinda knew from the beginning) & the ego prevents you from realizing that
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ethi
Ive watched this video years ago, and at that time, I could relate to all the items of the list. Today Ive watched again, and I can relate to only 2. Progress people, progress. Ive realized the more I would work on myself, the less I feel the need of being in a relationship. And that is liberating.
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Ive watched this video years ago, and at that time, I could relate to all the items of the list. Today Ive watched again, and I can relate to only 2. Progress people, progress. Ive realized the more I would work on myself, the less I feel the need of being in a relationship. And that is liberating.
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Distinct
Idk about 3, 4 and 5. My gf and i were both still hurt from our past relationships and thinking about and trying to get the attention of our exes at first but we ultimately got over them due to eachother. We both noticed we were doing it and had fights over it but it did end after some time.
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Idk about 3, 4 and 5. My gf and i were both still hurt from our past relationships and thinking about and trying to get the attention of our exes at first but we ultimately got over them due to eachother. We both noticed we were doing it and had fights over it but it did end after some time.
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psych2go
After watching this I've just come to the conclusion that being in a relationship is too much work for me. If I like a person, that's it. I want to be close to them but not in an official relationship. I guess that's why I've always distanced myself from my crushes.
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After watching this I've just come to the conclusion that being in a relationship is too much work for me. If I like a person, that's it. I want to be close to them but not in an official relationship. I guess that's why I've always distanced myself from my crushes.
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Mandy
I kind of wish that people would stop worrying about a relationship status and yes I do kind of worry about that but that's because I am taking on the worry from others that have told me I'm not complete without being with someone anyone got any advice?
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I kind of wish that people would stop worrying about a relationship status and yes I do kind of worry about that but that's because I am taking on the worry from others that have told me I'm not complete without being with someone anyone got any advice?
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Sted
Hmm with sign number 6, what if you do the opposite and tend to apologize too much over things! Actually there's nothing wrong with being single. I've been asked why I don't have a GF yet and the truth is I still think I need to grow with myself!
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Hmm with sign number 6, what if you do the opposite and tend to apologize too much over things! Actually there's nothing wrong with being single. I've been asked why I don't have a GF yet and the truth is I still think I need to grow with myself!
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