6 Side Effects Of Toxic Parenting
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Date: 2023-08-20
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Bug
Idk but my parents changed their way they treat me then before, literally from ages 13-15 they would mentally abuse me, like if I did bad in a soccer game, my video games would be taken away, or, when my siblings hit me or pushed me out the way, or they would not do anything to my siblings, & would say stop crying & calm down, & that made me more stressed. & my sister would be laughing at me. But I used to always cry all the time in bed, & now I am 17 years old and I still deal with them screaming at me if they are in a bad mood& my sister budding in my room, & bothering me. Its like they stress me out in a freaking nice way. I get triggered so easily. When they enter my room to just check on me. So like if someone saw this it would mean the world to me. P. s. what kind of family do I have? Is it toxic, mild, what is it? & I never had thoughts of suicidal or depression. They also do more like dont let me lock my room because I lock it to much, but all I want is my own time, I play video games thats why & talk to friends. & when I do this everyone wants to interrupt me and enter my room, my sibling sneaks into my room and just watches me play while I talk to my friends. Shes literally at the door and just watches and creaks the door, & when I see her she just bursts out laughing, & I just say whats so funny I used to also tell them to get out but they would always start something. & so NOW I HOLD IN MY FEELINGS & just let them do whatever because they wont even listen, it gets me stressed. Im not even depressed after all this I go through. Im always just sad everyday
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Idk but my parents changed their way they treat me then before, literally from ages 13-15 they would mentally abuse me, like if I did bad in a soccer game, my video games would be taken away, or, when my siblings hit me or pushed me out the way, or they would not do anything to my siblings, & would say stop crying & calm down, & that made me more stressed. & my sister would be laughing at me. But I used to always cry all the time in bed, & now I am 17 years old and I still deal with them screaming at me if they are in a bad mood& my sister budding in my room, & bothering me. Its like they stress me out in a freaking nice way. I get triggered so easily. When they enter my room to just check on me. So like if someone saw this it would mean the world to me. P. s. what kind of family do I have? Is it toxic, mild, what is it? & I never had thoughts of suicidal or depression. They also do more like dont let me lock my room because I lock it to much, but all I want is my own time, I play video games thats why & talk to friends. & when I do this everyone wants to interrupt me and enter my room, my sibling sneaks into my room and just watches me play while I talk to my friends. Shes literally at the door and just watches and creaks the door, & when I see her she just bursts out laughing, & I just say whats so funny I used to also tell them to get out but they would always start something. & so NOW I HOLD IN MY FEELINGS & just let them do whatever because they wont even listen, it gets me stressed. Im not even depressed after all this I go through. Im always just sad everyday
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Evangeline
I know that you probably won't read this comment, or care about my story, due to how the video was posted so long ago. But I'm going to share my current situation and vent a little about my mental health here. For the past four or five years, my father has been (and still is) extremely emotionally and mentally abusive and manipulative of my sister and I. Whenever he's around, I can't feel secure or safe, no matter how kind he's being. My sister is struggling with mental health too. Around Christmas break last year I began to realize a new mental health problem in myself other than anxiety/social anxiety. I began to notice depression. I felt down. I constantly gave a fake smile and stayed up late looking out at the moon. Now I've battled internally with myself for months to try and get out of this trench. Anyways, I began to hate myself more and more every day. I began to have ideas of self-harm and experience suicidal thoughts almost daily. Eventually I told my best friends on one of our chat documents about what had been going on, from my home life to my mental health. They were (and still are) very kind and willing to listen to me when I needed to vent and try to help me cope. Eventually I did engage in self-harm; I have some scars on my upper left arm and around my right ankle. I'm currently trying to avoid self-harm and keep myself distracted. I mainly draw vent art to cope, but every now and then I journal or vent to a friend online. Not doing so well right now, but I'm trying.
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I know that you probably won't read this comment, or care about my story, due to how the video was posted so long ago. But I'm going to share my current situation and vent a little about my mental health here. For the past four or five years, my father has been (and still is) extremely emotionally and mentally abusive and manipulative of my sister and I. Whenever he's around, I can't feel secure or safe, no matter how kind he's being. My sister is struggling with mental health too. Around Christmas break last year I began to realize a new mental health problem in myself other than anxiety/social anxiety. I began to notice depression. I felt down. I constantly gave a fake smile and stayed up late looking out at the moon. Now I've battled internally with myself for months to try and get out of this trench. Anyways, I began to hate myself more and more every day. I began to have ideas of self-harm and experience suicidal thoughts almost daily. Eventually I told my best friends on one of our chat documents about what had been going on, from my home life to my mental health. They were (and still are) very kind and willing to listen to me when I needed to vent and try to help me cope. Eventually I did engage in self-harm; I have some scars on my upper left arm and around my right ankle. I'm currently trying to avoid self-harm and keep myself distracted. I mainly draw vent art to cope, but every now and then I journal or vent to a friend online. Not doing so well right now, but I'm trying.
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Raven
You guys are so spot on all the time I have one question for you how do I tell my mom that she is a toxic parent when she doesnt even know that she has done anything and every time I try to tell her she calls me a liar and causes me of spreading lies or rumors about her to the family. I am afraid of her seeing this comment but I have to ask and everyone I have asked told me to go to therapy and I I its just I cant talk with them because my mine goes blank idk the right words to say most the time so idk how to tell someone something important when its about me like for example I know there are lots of disorders that i have and one of them means I cant remember some types of things so I cant remember witch disorders I have but when someone takes the time to go through and discuss them I can point them out its like it there are only red blue and yellow and you asked to be shown purple at first I dont know how do because no one said I can mix them in order to show you but once you tell me I can mix the colors to show you purple then its just so ovy that I dont see how I didnt see it before idk where I was going with this but sorry for making this so long. -( _____ )
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You guys are so spot on all the time I have one question for you how do I tell my mom that she is a toxic parent when she doesnt even know that she has done anything and every time I try to tell her she calls me a liar and causes me of spreading lies or rumors about her to the family. I am afraid of her seeing this comment but I have to ask and everyone I have asked told me to go to therapy and I I its just I cant talk with them because my mine goes blank idk the right words to say most the time so idk how to tell someone something important when its about me like for example I know there are lots of disorders that i have and one of them means I cant remember some types of things so I cant remember witch disorders I have but when someone takes the time to go through and discuss them I can point them out its like it there are only red blue and yellow and you asked to be shown purple at first I dont know how do because no one said I can mix them in order to show you but once you tell me I can mix the colors to show you purple then its just so ovy that I dont see how I didnt see it before idk where I was going with this but sorry for making this so long. -( _____ )
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Cindy
Was the scapegoat of a narcissistic father, and the health issues that started from being born premature and having so many severe allergies that I was allergic to breast milk as an infant, my fate was sealed when I was bitten on the head by a disease-loaded tick at age 9. But heres the kicker: my orthopedic surgeon father decided that I wasnt really sick and just making it up to get attention despite the fact that I was fighting for my life and losing brain function rapidly, and went to great lengths to convince every doctor I went to ahead of the visit that I wasnt sick. Sadly to this daydespite being positively diagnosed with over 5 infections (27 years after the bite) on some level my older sisters still believe it isnt nearly as bad as I say it is, even though currently it would be a miracle if I last more than 5 more years. Needless to say, despite a few brief but glorious comebacks I have been disabled for life, and my father still refuses to help pay for the only effective treatments that must be paid for out of pocket (and I cant afford)
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Was the scapegoat of a narcissistic father, and the health issues that started from being born premature and having so many severe allergies that I was allergic to breast milk as an infant, my fate was sealed when I was bitten on the head by a disease-loaded tick at age 9. But heres the kicker: my orthopedic surgeon father decided that I wasnt really sick and just making it up to get attention despite the fact that I was fighting for my life and losing brain function rapidly, and went to great lengths to convince every doctor I went to ahead of the visit that I wasnt sick. Sadly to this daydespite being positively diagnosed with over 5 infections (27 years after the bite) on some level my older sisters still believe it isnt nearly as bad as I say it is, even though currently it would be a miracle if I last more than 5 more years. Needless to say, despite a few brief but glorious comebacks I have been disabled for life, and my father still refuses to help pay for the only effective treatments that must be paid for out of pocket (and I cant afford)
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Olivia
I am currently living with people who view me as a criminal. I've always thought of myself as the disappointment of the family. I always thought I'm the reason for some inconvenience in our family. There was once a time when mom said I was the reason mom and dad argued. It really upsets me and it def took a toll on me. All the little comments she'd make about me upsets me till date but then I come to a realisation that my mom is super toxic and manipulative. I have absolutely no one to talk to. I can't talk to my friends because I can never open up to them and I can't even talk to my relatives, one because we don't live close to each other, two because we're not allowed to associate with them. I cannot even talk to my siblings about how I feel because they get super annoyed if I do even though they're clearly aware of the situation.
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I am currently living with people who view me as a criminal. I've always thought of myself as the disappointment of the family. I always thought I'm the reason for some inconvenience in our family. There was once a time when mom said I was the reason mom and dad argued. It really upsets me and it def took a toll on me. All the little comments she'd make about me upsets me till date but then I come to a realisation that my mom is super toxic and manipulative. I have absolutely no one to talk to. I can't talk to my friends because I can never open up to them and I can't even talk to my relatives, one because we don't live close to each other, two because we're not allowed to associate with them. I cannot even talk to my siblings about how I feel because they get super annoyed if I do even though they're clearly aware of the situation.
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StefVyr
Every day more than 10 times a day since i was a child they barge into my room with the excuse that they have stuff in there that they want to take, then they interrogate me about what i am doing, where i was, where am i going and with who and WHY am going. When i ask them not to they are getting pissed off about it saying that i don't have the right to say that, because it's our house and I didn't built it, or i dont't pay for the bills therefore I don't get to say, or they would say it's my house and i get to go wherever i want to. And if i lock the door they start screaming and banging on the door.
I'm 23 now now so i can argue with them better(when I am with them) but as they grow older it's getting worse, don't know how this will end.
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Every day more than 10 times a day since i was a child they barge into my room with the excuse that they have stuff in there that they want to take, then they interrogate me about what i am doing, where i was, where am i going and with who and WHY am going. When i ask them not to they are getting pissed off about it saying that i don't have the right to say that, because it's our house and I didn't built it, or i dont't pay for the bills therefore I don't get to say, or they would say it's my house and i get to go wherever i want to. And if i lock the door they start screaming and banging on the door.
I'm 23 now now so i can argue with them better(when I am with them) but as they grow older it's getting worse, don't know how this will end.
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Vyvanse
My parents were toxic I was constantly yelled at for simple things and if I tried to ask for help Id get accused of not trying hard enough. They would take my door and ground me for being in my room too much and if I cried or told them how I was feeling Id get called a baby. Id always get my stuff taken for the smallest things. Id come home from school n get yelled at. It was like this for years n I finally planned to run away I did too I bought a plane ticket packed all my stuff n got a Lyft to the airport. I was 17 this was June 26 of this year. N it had affected my adult life and my relationships and even being at work Im constantly going to the bathroom cuz of my anxiety. I cant even not worry bout me being annoying or overthinking
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My parents were toxic I was constantly yelled at for simple things and if I tried to ask for help Id get accused of not trying hard enough. They would take my door and ground me for being in my room too much and if I cried or told them how I was feeling Id get called a baby. Id always get my stuff taken for the smallest things. Id come home from school n get yelled at. It was like this for years n I finally planned to run away I did too I bought a plane ticket packed all my stuff n got a Lyft to the airport. I was 17 this was June 26 of this year. N it had affected my adult life and my relationships and even being at work Im constantly going to the bathroom cuz of my anxiety. I cant even not worry bout me being annoying or overthinking
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Vengeful
dad: CPTSD, BPD narc disconnected emotionally. cheated on mom.
mom: co dependant, BPD. heavy narc traits, but loving, but guilt trip.
hyper controlling. martyr. does all for us. wouldn't let us grow and choose.
made is accept the gift ofdoing build-a-bear while we were. in middle or highschool.
infantalizing. just embarassing.
control freak. changed couches all the time. cluttered newspapers across entire house,
newspapers on couch, table, stovetop.
but complained at the 5% of my stuff. around the house.
all 3 of us kids are messed up
brother and I, are permanently destroyed beyond repair.
we can't enjoy the things we used to.
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dad: CPTSD, BPD narc disconnected emotionally. cheated on mom.
mom: co dependant, BPD. heavy narc traits, but loving, but guilt trip.
hyper controlling. martyr. does all for us. wouldn't let us grow and choose.
made is accept the gift ofdoing build-a-bear while we were. in middle or highschool.
infantalizing. just embarassing.
control freak. changed couches all the time. cluttered newspapers across entire house,
newspapers on couch, table, stovetop.
but complained at the 5% of my stuff. around the house.
all 3 of us kids are messed up
brother and I, are permanently destroyed beyond repair.
we can't enjoy the things we used to.
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jelly
Hmm yess we love you is used only when in their eyes you are doing something good. Like if you were you were to be a charity award or something to presume off. Children should not grown up in meeting all of their parents expectations or wants. I know that they want you to have what they couldn't but sometimes they should see that we have to choose what we want to do life and they should accept us no matter.
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Hmm yess we love you is used only when in their eyes you are doing something good. Like if you were you were to be a charity award or something to presume off. Children should not grown up in meeting all of their parents expectations or wants. I know that they want you to have what they couldn't but sometimes they should see that we have to choose what we want to do life and they should accept us no matter.
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Ethan
So i have chronic pain in my legs and my parents rely on me to do an unbelievable amount of chores everyday. Due to my chronic leg pain i should only take about 4-5000 steps a day max, but rn i take about 6-8000 steps per day. This has honestly caused me to be in more pain and i have no escape. And i have to earn the right to go over to a friends house or something like that.
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So i have chronic pain in my legs and my parents rely on me to do an unbelievable amount of chores everyday. Due to my chronic leg pain i should only take about 4-5000 steps a day max, but rn i take about 6-8000 steps per day. This has honestly caused me to be in more pain and i have no escape. And i have to earn the right to go over to a friends house or something like that.
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Drea
The weirdest thing I heard from my mother, that completely ruined my hope to ever get along with that woman, was when she found out I got a small arrow tattoo on my 25th birthday (I paid for it with my own money. Her words and I quote You can't just do that hideous thing without agreeing with me! Your body belongs to Me! I created it!
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The weirdest thing I heard from my mother, that completely ruined my hope to ever get along with that woman, was when she found out I got a small arrow tattoo on my 25th birthday (I paid for it with my own money. Her words and I quote You can't just do that hideous thing without agreeing with me! Your body belongs to Me! I created it!
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edwardelric10001
1. You have a higher risk of developing anxiety disorder
2. You may suffer from PTSD
3. You may be highly self critical
4. You're more likely to develop health problems
5. You have a hard time saying no because your boundaries are often crossed
6. You may develop an insecure attachment in your relationship
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1. You have a higher risk of developing anxiety disorder
2. You may suffer from PTSD
3. You may be highly self critical
4. You're more likely to develop health problems
5. You have a hard time saying no because your boundaries are often crossed
6. You may develop an insecure attachment in your relationship
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Archive
My parents: beating me, hating me, calls me ugly, locks me somewhere, death threats me, yells at me, doesn't trust me, thinks I'm psycho, doesnt even let me make friends
Also them: you can't be depressed, you are too young to be anxious, why you don't have any friends? Why youre always quit? Why don't you talk to us?
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My parents: beating me, hating me, calls me ugly, locks me somewhere, death threats me, yells at me, doesn't trust me, thinks I'm psycho, doesnt even let me make friends
Also them: you can't be depressed, you are too young to be anxious, why you don't have any friends? Why youre always quit? Why don't you talk to us?
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AppIe
People are primarily focused on reproduction and not to properly take care of their offspring.
Depending on your circumstance, it may best to break away from your dysfunctional environment and break the chain of dysfunctionality within your family. For others, it may be better to have your gene's end with you.
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People are primarily focused on reproduction and not to properly take care of their offspring.
Depending on your circumstance, it may best to break away from your dysfunctional environment and break the chain of dysfunctionality within your family. For others, it may be better to have your gene's end with you.
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BOYHERO
It hurts to relate for all of these signs so bad but i still wanna thank you for casting light on these dark spots that were ruminating around me for along time.
P. s what hurts me the most is that im 17 and even if i want to move a way from my toxic parents i can't, it feels like a war zone in my house.
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It hurts to relate for all of these signs so bad but i still wanna thank you for casting light on these dark spots that were ruminating around me for along time.
P. s what hurts me the most is that im 17 and even if i want to move a way from my toxic parents i can't, it feels like a war zone in my house.
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Ran
i have PSTD and when i confess to my friends they laugh and treat me like attention seeker while they know that my family are toxic and abuser and they say you have nothing to worry about your life is good this PSTD comes to people who's torture in the prisons. and never ask me how i found out or how i feel.
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i have PSTD and when i confess to my friends they laugh and treat me like attention seeker while they know that my family are toxic and abuser and they say you have nothing to worry about your life is good this PSTD comes to people who's torture in the prisons. and never ask me how i found out or how i feel.
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Morai
1. High risk of developing an anxiety disorder.
2. May suffer from PTSD.
3. You may be highly self critical.
4. More likely to experience health problems.
5. You have a hard time saying no because your boundaries weren't respected.
6. You may develop avoidant or insecure attachments.
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1. High risk of developing an anxiety disorder.
2. May suffer from PTSD.
3. You may be highly self critical.
4. More likely to experience health problems.
5. You have a hard time saying no because your boundaries weren't respected.
6. You may develop avoidant or insecure attachments.
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your
me: has social anxiety, suicidal thoughts, low self esteem, happiness when im alone, flinches so much that people give me looks, random depressing scenarios in my head, and more
my parents: we give you everything, you have such a good life, people have it worse!
also them: made me the way i am
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me: has social anxiety, suicidal thoughts, low self esteem, happiness when im alone, flinches so much that people give me looks, random depressing scenarios in my head, and more
my parents: we give you everything, you have such a good life, people have it worse!
also them: made me the way i am
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ChickenSean
i believe i suffer from all of the issues, but i have no idea what to do about it. ive wanted to do something about my parents (i still live with them) for longer than i can remember, but never knew what i could do about it to make them stop or to get away from them
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i believe i suffer from all of the issues, but i have no idea what to do about it. ive wanted to do something about my parents (i still live with them) for longer than i can remember, but never knew what i could do about it to make them stop or to get away from them
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el_nio
my parents: shouting and scolding at in anger and telling me you are not the son i wanted
also my parents: you should really try to have more self confidence
also my parents: you are always so aggressive and you bring negative elements into this family
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my parents: shouting and scolding at in anger and telling me you are not the son i wanted
also my parents: you should really try to have more self confidence
also my parents: you are always so aggressive and you bring negative elements into this family
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Eevee
My mom once compared me to the man who started the World War II (I'm not going to say his name) because I didn't want anybody in kitchen, I was taking the dishes out of the dishdishwasher and our kitchen is too small so I need her to be out of the kitchen.
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My mom once compared me to the man who started the World War II (I'm not going to say his name) because I didn't want anybody in kitchen, I was taking the dishes out of the dishdishwasher and our kitchen is too small so I need her to be out of the kitchen.
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Duck
My mom: Yelling at, saying that Im selfish for not helping her with her college grade homework as a 9th grader.
Me: Tries to help her
My mom: yells at me again for not knowing the answer
Me: You see, this is why i don't want to help you.
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My mom: Yelling at, saying that Im selfish for not helping her with her college grade homework as a 9th grader.
Me: Tries to help her
My mom: yells at me again for not knowing the answer
Me: You see, this is why i don't want to help you.
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Tr
It's soo scary that if your parents are source of dangers then whom you can rely on? But it just happens unavoidably out there. I witness those kind of parents and the kids knowing no appropriate reaction if I were those poor young hearts
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It's soo scary that if your parents are source of dangers then whom you can rely on? But it just happens unavoidably out there. I witness those kind of parents and the kids knowing no appropriate reaction if I were those poor young hearts
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Andyfromtoystory3
My parents be like YOU never do anything in this house and even when I put all my effort to try and make them feel better they just shut me down with negativity such as yea ur only gonna do this this one time
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My parents be like YOU never do anything in this house and even when I put all my effort to try and make them feel better they just shut me down with negativity such as yea ur only gonna do this this one time
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Aneena
Is there any way out of these side effects. i can't think of any. because I'm just hopeless of everything in my life. i feel like I'm constantly searching for love that I didn't received. and just not worthy of it
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Is there any way out of these side effects. i can't think of any. because I'm just hopeless of everything in my life. i feel like I'm constantly searching for love that I didn't received. and just not worthy of it
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