7 Signs Your Relationship is Making You Depressed
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Date: 2023-08-20
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Bababooey
Reading all these comments while watching this video made me realize that I am in that currently situation rn. We are 8 or 7 months into this relationship, and I had already expressed my thought of wanting to break things up with him after graduation and last Saturday, he told me how this was making him overthink things and how he's not looking forward to graduation and how he doesn't want to lose me because he's never been happier before and he doesn't know what to do without you, and it made me want to make him feel better and make him believe that I might change my mind, and I did.
Everytime we had an argument, my first thoughts would be I want to break up with him! And then, But if I do, what if he would isolate himself and get depressed and-etc!
He loves me, but I viewed him as more as a trust-worthy friend with benefits than a lover. But I feel obligated to be with him, to give him what he needs and wants, and to just give him chances because he had never experienced the things I have done for him from his exes, and I want him to feel special not just a burden and all that.
There are times when we argue, that he would say stuff like Everything is always my fault or everyone always blame me or things like that, and I had called him out for it, saying that he is guilt-tripping me or how he is thinking about the past then we would stop talking for awhile, and then we go back to talking and the cycle begins over and over and over again.
And honestly, the thought idea of breaking up with him gives me an odd feeling of relief and makes me look forward to that day, and it's also making me feel awful and just an overall horrible person for having thoughts of it.
But I am tired, this relationship is making me tired, this was my first official relationship (I have past relationships, had to ended it before we officialize it because I sense red flags, he was the kindest, smartest, handsome, and amazing person I have ever met, but he's just not right for me and I wish I could tell everything to him what I feel without me thinking that it might make him go back to his depressive state from the past and would possibly harm himself.
I don't know, I just feel so unhappy right now. I don't know what to do.
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Reading all these comments while watching this video made me realize that I am in that currently situation rn. We are 8 or 7 months into this relationship, and I had already expressed my thought of wanting to break things up with him after graduation and last Saturday, he told me how this was making him overthink things and how he's not looking forward to graduation and how he doesn't want to lose me because he's never been happier before and he doesn't know what to do without you, and it made me want to make him feel better and make him believe that I might change my mind, and I did.
Everytime we had an argument, my first thoughts would be I want to break up with him! And then, But if I do, what if he would isolate himself and get depressed and-etc!
He loves me, but I viewed him as more as a trust-worthy friend with benefits than a lover. But I feel obligated to be with him, to give him what he needs and wants, and to just give him chances because he had never experienced the things I have done for him from his exes, and I want him to feel special not just a burden and all that.
There are times when we argue, that he would say stuff like Everything is always my fault or everyone always blame me or things like that, and I had called him out for it, saying that he is guilt-tripping me or how he is thinking about the past then we would stop talking for awhile, and then we go back to talking and the cycle begins over and over and over again.
And honestly, the thought idea of breaking up with him gives me an odd feeling of relief and makes me look forward to that day, and it's also making me feel awful and just an overall horrible person for having thoughts of it.
But I am tired, this relationship is making me tired, this was my first official relationship (I have past relationships, had to ended it before we officialize it because I sense red flags, he was the kindest, smartest, handsome, and amazing person I have ever met, but he's just not right for me and I wish I could tell everything to him what I feel without me thinking that it might make him go back to his depressive state from the past and would possibly harm himself.
I don't know, I just feel so unhappy right now. I don't know what to do.
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Naranjita
I'm about to break up with my boyfriend because of this. He was depressed most of the time that we were together and it was so hard for me to feel happy or excited about something because he wasn't. Even after that, I decided to stay with him because I wanted to be a part of his support system, but it was difficult for me to realize that I was compromising my own happiness because of him.
Now, he's so much better and has made a lot of progress. But, because I was with him during his word era, I feel kinda exhausted to be in this relationship. I loved him so much, but he had just so many things to work on like communication, trust, patience, and respect. I didn't want to educate my partner, I wanted to work things with him like a regular couple, but I wasn't expecting to feel like a teacher or a mother and evolved into something that I didn't even like just because he liked it in me.
Today, I decided to break up with him and I'm gonna tell him tomorrow, I hope he understands that he's an amazing human being. But, he can't depend on me for everything, and to do that, he needs to learn to love himself first.
I'll always have an appreciation for him in my heart, just not in a romantic way like I used to. I hope he can heal.
I just want to tell him that I'm sorry that I wasn't strong enough to make this work, but my limits were gone a long time ago and I ignored that because of how much I liked him. I'm happy that he's better, but my love for him could not persist after this stressful and emotionally demanding process. We make each other realize that love exists, that there's hope and value in life, and that things can be sweet and colorful just like in the books, and for that, I'll always be grateful.
But, this is the end of our chapter together and I just hope that we can remember it with love and understanding for our's feelings.
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I'm about to break up with my boyfriend because of this. He was depressed most of the time that we were together and it was so hard for me to feel happy or excited about something because he wasn't. Even after that, I decided to stay with him because I wanted to be a part of his support system, but it was difficult for me to realize that I was compromising my own happiness because of him.
Now, he's so much better and has made a lot of progress. But, because I was with him during his word era, I feel kinda exhausted to be in this relationship. I loved him so much, but he had just so many things to work on like communication, trust, patience, and respect. I didn't want to educate my partner, I wanted to work things with him like a regular couple, but I wasn't expecting to feel like a teacher or a mother and evolved into something that I didn't even like just because he liked it in me.
Today, I decided to break up with him and I'm gonna tell him tomorrow, I hope he understands that he's an amazing human being. But, he can't depend on me for everything, and to do that, he needs to learn to love himself first.
I'll always have an appreciation for him in my heart, just not in a romantic way like I used to. I hope he can heal.
I just want to tell him that I'm sorry that I wasn't strong enough to make this work, but my limits were gone a long time ago and I ignored that because of how much I liked him. I'm happy that he's better, but my love for him could not persist after this stressful and emotionally demanding process. We make each other realize that love exists, that there's hope and value in life, and that things can be sweet and colorful just like in the books, and for that, I'll always be grateful.
But, this is the end of our chapter together and I just hope that we can remember it with love and understanding for our's feelings.
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Donald
Im such a perfect catch. Took a psych test years ago to show the judge I wasnt that bad a guy and didnt warrant a long sentence but couldnt use it as it came back I am an intelligent highly sophisticated sociopath. Women love me, Im such a good listener. Sure I have issues, dont we all? Ive out grown the gay and felony thing years ago. Ive great oral hygiene. Sure I talk to my wife like shes my most hated enemy often but thats normal. Shes 15 years younger. Cant expect her to stay up with my wants and needs. Always spend hours on porn since after menopause she doesnt want to be passed around like, well whatever gets passed around a lot, anymore. I take care of the house chores while she works the last twenty years. Shes a profoundly depressed person by her own admission and over weight. I should get high marks for accepting that, right? Shes not that smart. Dont know how she made straight As in college. I dont hit her hardly at all any more. And she hates my dentist and others who hug me and want to be involved with me. I support her decision to work till 70 to finance our vacations. I could go on and on but I think you can see what a catch I am. Now, the emotionally intimate thing. Im not a warm and fuzzy person and thank god shes not either. But I do kiss her and tell her I love her all the time. I always wave good bye to her as she drives away to work and when she doesnt have the bedroom door locked I kiss her good night to show her I still love her even though we generally argue about something each evening. This is my third wife as I keep picking really messed up losers. Im pretty sure every ones crazy and I know Im a bit rough around the edges myself. Never been without a relationship on the streets other than the nine years incarcerated. Well, no ones perfect, right?
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Im such a perfect catch. Took a psych test years ago to show the judge I wasnt that bad a guy and didnt warrant a long sentence but couldnt use it as it came back I am an intelligent highly sophisticated sociopath. Women love me, Im such a good listener. Sure I have issues, dont we all? Ive out grown the gay and felony thing years ago. Ive great oral hygiene. Sure I talk to my wife like shes my most hated enemy often but thats normal. Shes 15 years younger. Cant expect her to stay up with my wants and needs. Always spend hours on porn since after menopause she doesnt want to be passed around like, well whatever gets passed around a lot, anymore. I take care of the house chores while she works the last twenty years. Shes a profoundly depressed person by her own admission and over weight. I should get high marks for accepting that, right? Shes not that smart. Dont know how she made straight As in college. I dont hit her hardly at all any more. And she hates my dentist and others who hug me and want to be involved with me. I support her decision to work till 70 to finance our vacations. I could go on and on but I think you can see what a catch I am. Now, the emotionally intimate thing. Im not a warm and fuzzy person and thank god shes not either. But I do kiss her and tell her I love her all the time. I always wave good bye to her as she drives away to work and when she doesnt have the bedroom door locked I kiss her good night to show her I still love her even though we generally argue about something each evening. This is my third wife as I keep picking really messed up losers. Im pretty sure every ones crazy and I know Im a bit rough around the edges myself. Never been without a relationship on the streets other than the nine years incarcerated. Well, no ones perfect, right?
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Marcella
This is why I'm staying out of relationships & never get married for good & for life.
I've been single for my whole life, I've been rejected, bullied & treated like trash by boys/guys.
Some guys think I'm weird, creepy, ugly & also they think being shy/quiet like myself is a curse to them.
Some never approached to me & anything.
I think true love didnt exist anymore - that 2 word only exists in fairy tale books, romantic films & tv shows but in real life it doesnt - meaning relationships & marriages are hard, abusive, difficult, etc.
Everything in this crazy world changed in a worst way.
Not only me but my best friends & my family members had the same bad relationship situation.
I'm done with men.
the important love of my life is my friends & family who loved me, accept me & support me.
Im happy to be single, I enjoy my life, my freedom, my artistic career, etc.
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This is why I'm staying out of relationships & never get married for good & for life.
I've been single for my whole life, I've been rejected, bullied & treated like trash by boys/guys.
Some guys think I'm weird, creepy, ugly & also they think being shy/quiet like myself is a curse to them.
Some never approached to me & anything.
I think true love didnt exist anymore - that 2 word only exists in fairy tale books, romantic films & tv shows but in real life it doesnt - meaning relationships & marriages are hard, abusive, difficult, etc.
Everything in this crazy world changed in a worst way.
Not only me but my best friends & my family members had the same bad relationship situation.
I'm done with men.
the important love of my life is my friends & family who loved me, accept me & support me.
Im happy to be single, I enjoy my life, my freedom, my artistic career, etc.
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MinekaC
When my partner (together 2yrs) didnt invite me to thanksgiving at his folks, and I had to ask why the day before; and he put more thought into his mothers feelings then updating me. I just said Im no longer putting effort into this relationship. We havent seen each other for two months, I told him if he wants my company he can work for it. I noticed my anxiety levels have dropped, Im happier, and I have more time for my studies. So now Im so excited for when we next meet up so I can officially break up. I would have done it by now, but hes not even worth driving an hour to do that face to face.
I have his latest beer order from his fav brewery, so hes going to have to see me eventually.
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When my partner (together 2yrs) didnt invite me to thanksgiving at his folks, and I had to ask why the day before; and he put more thought into his mothers feelings then updating me. I just said Im no longer putting effort into this relationship. We havent seen each other for two months, I told him if he wants my company he can work for it. I noticed my anxiety levels have dropped, Im happier, and I have more time for my studies. So now Im so excited for when we next meet up so I can officially break up. I would have done it by now, but hes not even worth driving an hour to do that face to face.
I have his latest beer order from his fav brewery, so hes going to have to see me eventually.
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Luminia
My ex-girlfriend was a very manipulative person. She was controlling me and the people around her by pretending to be depressed and suicidal. She was threatening the people around her on the pretext of committing suicide. I used to be a very happy person. However, after starting this relationship, I realized that I started having anxiety attacks. As the video said: unfortunately, a depressed individual also affects the people around them. So my best advice to you is that don't force yourself to do anything just not to upset someone. The most important person to you should be yourself. Don't forget to treat yourself well!
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My ex-girlfriend was a very manipulative person. She was controlling me and the people around her by pretending to be depressed and suicidal. She was threatening the people around her on the pretext of committing suicide. I used to be a very happy person. However, after starting this relationship, I realized that I started having anxiety attacks. As the video said: unfortunately, a depressed individual also affects the people around them. So my best advice to you is that don't force yourself to do anything just not to upset someone. The most important person to you should be yourself. Don't forget to treat yourself well!
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Brandi
Yes it trouble for me my boyfriend lying and break promise he can't keep and become violent and angry he harassment of me and my family and he had lost his mind and he blamed everything on me for everything to feel better for himself I been with this man for 15 yess together he has beat me physically 2 time in one year alone he scared me I try everything to make it work I done sacrificed everything for him and dibe everything for him I love him all I got was quite all together to end the relationship to just me a healthier life and move on it just very unhealthy for me to stay like this anymore
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Yes it trouble for me my boyfriend lying and break promise he can't keep and become violent and angry he harassment of me and my family and he had lost his mind and he blamed everything on me for everything to feel better for himself I been with this man for 15 yess together he has beat me physically 2 time in one year alone he scared me I try everything to make it work I done sacrificed everything for him and dibe everything for him I love him all I got was quite all together to end the relationship to just me a healthier life and move on it just very unhealthy for me to stay like this anymore
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John
My ex was like a black hole. I remember leaving work everyday excited to call her and talk to her. Everyday, EVERYDAY! When she answered, it seriously was like a black hole and immediately sucked all the emotion out of me. 45 minute drive with all her negativity, I'd get home and was agitated, irritated, depressed and just exhausted. I tried to get her into therapy. When she refused, I should have left. Never realized how depressed she made me. Absolutely sucks trying your hardest to make someone happy when they refuse to be
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My ex was like a black hole. I remember leaving work everyday excited to call her and talk to her. Everyday, EVERYDAY! When she answered, it seriously was like a black hole and immediately sucked all the emotion out of me. 45 minute drive with all her negativity, I'd get home and was agitated, irritated, depressed and just exhausted. I tried to get her into therapy. When she refused, I should have left. Never realized how depressed she made me. Absolutely sucks trying your hardest to make someone happy when they refuse to be
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Dxnny
I looked this video up knowing Im really sad and stuck in my relationship She is turning me toxic and I cant stand the way I am anymore I am not the same person. She has manipulated me so much that Ive changed into something terrible I tried leaving so many times She would run to the kitchen and grab a knife, or try to unlock my gun box where I keep my glock Say things like, Youre the best thing that ever happened to me and I cant live without you. Yet all she ever does is apologize over and over again Im stuck
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I looked this video up knowing Im really sad and stuck in my relationship She is turning me toxic and I cant stand the way I am anymore I am not the same person. She has manipulated me so much that Ive changed into something terrible I tried leaving so many times She would run to the kitchen and grab a knife, or try to unlock my gun box where I keep my glock Say things like, Youre the best thing that ever happened to me and I cant live without you. Yet all she ever does is apologize over and over again Im stuck
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emily
you see my problem is both, I have a fear of being abandoned by everyone I noticed this when I was about 11 or 12 and I get random obsessions with people usually people I don't really know and my whole life for that roughly month or two depending on the person so I genuinely can't mentally handle being alone from them but if they piss me off or make me sad I can't handle being with them even if what made me angry or sad is in my mind so either way I'm fcked and there's no escaping
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you see my problem is both, I have a fear of being abandoned by everyone I noticed this when I was about 11 or 12 and I get random obsessions with people usually people I don't really know and my whole life for that roughly month or two depending on the person so I genuinely can't mentally handle being alone from them but if they piss me off or make me sad I can't handle being with them even if what made me angry or sad is in my mind so either way I'm fcked and there's no escaping
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Christina
My husband has 0 real friends. He has trouble emotionally connecting with people. He doesnt seem depressed but I have been on and off for 9 years. Ever since we got together. I had to come to the conclusion that I need to create a life outside of the relationship that lifts me up. The expectation is what makes me sad so Ive let go of the expectation. We are friends and we love each other. That has to be enough.
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My husband has 0 real friends. He has trouble emotionally connecting with people. He doesnt seem depressed but I have been on and off for 9 years. Ever since we got together. I had to come to the conclusion that I need to create a life outside of the relationship that lifts me up. The expectation is what makes me sad so Ive let go of the expectation. We are friends and we love each other. That has to be enough.
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God
Like you start to experience orgasmic levels of relationship. Imagine the best orgasm you've ever had and then multiply it by a thousand.
You realize that caring about anything at all is completely idiotic.
From the highest perspective if you realize that everything is love then that's it. Anything that happens is absolute love and nothing could be better. Everything is absolutely perfect.
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Like you start to experience orgasmic levels of relationship. Imagine the best orgasm you've ever had and then multiply it by a thousand.
You realize that caring about anything at all is completely idiotic.
From the highest perspective if you realize that everything is love then that's it. Anything that happens is absolute love and nothing could be better. Everything is absolutely perfect.
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kearoma
I miss myself when I was single. I'm not happy there's just way too much emotional abuse. He yells, shout at me. I can't even open up to him, I live in fear of being yelled at. I agree to everything he says even though it's not what I want because he says his always right & if I disagree he yells at me. Everything is tiring, he makes me hate this relationship everyday. I miss being single
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I miss myself when I was single. I'm not happy there's just way too much emotional abuse. He yells, shout at me. I can't even open up to him, I live in fear of being yelled at. I agree to everything he says even though it's not what I want because he says his always right & if I disagree he yells at me. Everything is tiring, he makes me hate this relationship everyday. I miss being single
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Skratata
the last one hit me hard, i always think that im not good enough to anyone and that no one will accept me the way he did and thats why i always endure his silent treatment, he usually does this to me whenever i open up about my thoughts about our relationship, he can litteraly play and sleep all night knowing that im a very soft hearted person.
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the last one hit me hard, i always think that im not good enough to anyone and that no one will accept me the way he did and thats why i always endure his silent treatment, he usually does this to me whenever i open up about my thoughts about our relationship, he can litteraly play and sleep all night knowing that im a very soft hearted person.
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Aparna
I don't know. What to do? . My boyfriend is sad sometimes. When he is sad, he ignores me. i don't like that. He doesn't have communication skill and i am ambivert. Sometimes it very hard to reach him and communicate because he is sad. when is not sad it is okay and we enjoyed time together. so iam confused, what to do? break up him?
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I don't know. What to do? . My boyfriend is sad sometimes. When he is sad, he ignores me. i don't like that. He doesn't have communication skill and i am ambivert. Sometimes it very hard to reach him and communicate because he is sad. when is not sad it is okay and we enjoyed time together. so iam confused, what to do? break up him?
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education
My husband hit me to overcome his frustration and anger. This is happening for 6 years since 2017. Living in another country after marriage and now I feel so worthless. I have tolerated every physical violence from my husband for 6 years. I need to get away from my abusive husband but it is difficult. I do not know what do to
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My husband hit me to overcome his frustration and anger. This is happening for 6 years since 2017. Living in another country after marriage and now I feel so worthless. I have tolerated every physical violence from my husband for 6 years. I need to get away from my abusive husband but it is difficult. I do not know what do to
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Makeitcount
He's always nitpicking, it's making me feel stressed and depressed. I'm an introvert and he wants to be noisy and get drunk, he does not listen to me when I tell him to stop spanking my butt (I hate it. We are so incompatible. It's time to say goodbye. I don't want to deal with the stress and drama
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He's always nitpicking, it's making me feel stressed and depressed. I'm an introvert and he wants to be noisy and get drunk, he does not listen to me when I tell him to stop spanking my butt (I hate it. We are so incompatible. It's time to say goodbye. I don't want to deal with the stress and drama
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Samantha
love and relashionship is a commitment not a feeling. it is normal for your emotions to have their ups and downs. when in doubt just take a few days away to hang out with friends or family and return back to your partner. its important to have your own life as well.
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love and relashionship is a commitment not a feeling. it is normal for your emotions to have their ups and downs. when in doubt just take a few days away to hang out with friends or family and return back to your partner. its important to have your own life as well.
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Fleurette
Winning On Social Media but Losing in Real-life will never be a vibe to me. After 6month of breakup with my ex, I became so sad and depressed but after contacting #Drwiseone my lost relationship was restored and partner came back begging for forgiveness.
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Winning On Social Media but Losing in Real-life will never be a vibe to me. After 6month of breakup with my ex, I became so sad and depressed but after contacting #Drwiseone my lost relationship was restored and partner came back begging for forgiveness.
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sugar
This is true and feeling depressed all the time i have to cut off with him more than 2 yrs now waited for jist a simple communication but nothing happened so i have to let go and no turning back now whatever happens this is crazy relationship
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This is true and feeling depressed all the time i have to cut off with him more than 2 yrs now waited for jist a simple communication but nothing happened so i have to let go and no turning back now whatever happens this is crazy relationship
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NAOMI
If you're not happy with yourself, you'll never be happy in a relationship. I think a lot of people have difficulty being alone and jump into relationships even if they know the other person can't meet their needs and expectations.
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If you're not happy with yourself, you'll never be happy in a relationship. I think a lot of people have difficulty being alone and jump into relationships even if they know the other person can't meet their needs and expectations.
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Molls
Wow number 6 really put things into perspective for me. I love my ex still, but Im much happier not being with him and was having a tough time figuring that out. I still miss him sometimes but I enjoy life better now
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Wow number 6 really put things into perspective for me. I love my ex still, but Im much happier not being with him and was having a tough time figuring that out. I still miss him sometimes but I enjoy life better now
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Yesenia
I was happy when single. Then I met someone and became Heartbroken. Then I met someone else who broke me more. I became severely depressed and suicidal. Am in the process of leaving this toxic relationship.
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I was happy when single. Then I met someone and became Heartbroken. Then I met someone else who broke me more. I became severely depressed and suicidal. Am in the process of leaving this toxic relationship.
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AnDiHD
Yes. And yes. I went from being the happy sunny go lucky person to being diagnosed as moderate to severe major depressive. I just asked for dissolution of marriage though so hopefully that will cure it.
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Yes. And yes. I went from being the happy sunny go lucky person to being diagnosed as moderate to severe major depressive. I just asked for dissolution of marriage though so hopefully that will cure it.
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folumb
I spend a lot of time thinking about how to serve and encourage her. It never feels like she wants to do the same for me. Only when I point it out. I think she's selfish, but no one agrees with me.
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I spend a lot of time thinking about how to serve and encourage her. It never feels like she wants to do the same for me. Only when I point it out. I think she's selfish, but no one agrees with me.
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