5 Reasons To Set Healthy Boundaries with Toxic People
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Date: 2023-08-20
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Ishaq
This video is highly recommend for students transiting from high school to collage or university. I was betrayed by my roommates who first promised to cooperate with me in house chores like cleaning the dishes and rooms also splitting money for groceries and shopping items, few months into this commitment turned downgrading for me as I used to take up some of their work to less burden them during my free time, they took this advantage to excel in achieving various things. As my mid-terms were approaching, I lagged behind in some topics included in my course term and I humbly requested them to take up some of my work and soon enough everyone rejected me. I couldn't blame them but this came as a lesson to me, I ended up failing my math course which I had to retake during my summer break
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This video is highly recommend for students transiting from high school to collage or university. I was betrayed by my roommates who first promised to cooperate with me in house chores like cleaning the dishes and rooms also splitting money for groceries and shopping items, few months into this commitment turned downgrading for me as I used to take up some of their work to less burden them during my free time, they took this advantage to excel in achieving various things. As my mid-terms were approaching, I lagged behind in some topics included in my course term and I humbly requested them to take up some of my work and soon enough everyone rejected me. I couldn't blame them but this came as a lesson to me, I ended up failing my math course which I had to retake during my summer break
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BlueSEF
Now I realize that I don't respect other people's boundaries because I don't have my own boundaries and I don't understand how important boundaries are. This is one of the reasons why I've let friends disrespect me. But I've also been extremely afraid of letting go of toxic friendships because I don't know how to make friends. I don't have many hobbies that other people share with me so I can't relate to people. And if I do make a good friend, they leave me because I don't respect their boundaries and thus the cycle repeats. The solution is to get more hobbies so I can make different friends and make sure to mention my boundaries at the beginning of the relationship. If they keep overstepping my boundaries, I can cut them off and find someone else.
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Now I realize that I don't respect other people's boundaries because I don't have my own boundaries and I don't understand how important boundaries are. This is one of the reasons why I've let friends disrespect me. But I've also been extremely afraid of letting go of toxic friendships because I don't know how to make friends. I don't have many hobbies that other people share with me so I can't relate to people. And if I do make a good friend, they leave me because I don't respect their boundaries and thus the cycle repeats. The solution is to get more hobbies so I can make different friends and make sure to mention my boundaries at the beginning of the relationship. If they keep overstepping my boundaries, I can cut them off and find someone else.
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Drina
There is such a thing as being too nice. Put your needs first. If you don't speak up for what you want and establish your boundaries, you will begin to accumulate resentment. Know your worth! From my childhood to adolescence, I couldn't say no. Although I treated my classmates kindly, they eventually started to ask too much of me, and they came to me for favors in class or at lunch. I started to resent the students I showed kindness to, and I found myself craving validation from my classmates. They went from asking me if they could borrow pencils from me, to asking me if they could copy off my homework. They also made me buy things for them. Don't be so nice that people start to take advantage of your niceness and use your good nature against you.
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There is such a thing as being too nice. Put your needs first. If you don't speak up for what you want and establish your boundaries, you will begin to accumulate resentment. Know your worth! From my childhood to adolescence, I couldn't say no. Although I treated my classmates kindly, they eventually started to ask too much of me, and they came to me for favors in class or at lunch. I started to resent the students I showed kindness to, and I found myself craving validation from my classmates. They went from asking me if they could borrow pencils from me, to asking me if they could copy off my homework. They also made me buy things for them. Don't be so nice that people start to take advantage of your niceness and use your good nature against you.
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Deeksha
Setting boundaries really helps identifying real friends. They will always respect you. I've had a so called friend who used always make jokes on my study, would say my boyfriend is out of my league and on my weight. At first I was like. I know this is coming from a place of insecurity and jealousy, so i didn't respond much. But after nth time, I was like no more. It started to affect me. I thought setting boundaries would seem selfish but it is not. if they are costing your life energies. I totally understand that the person needs help. I tried to. by being an example, but same old stuff kept repeating. Some people are so far away from maturity it's worrying.
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Setting boundaries really helps identifying real friends. They will always respect you. I've had a so called friend who used always make jokes on my study, would say my boyfriend is out of my league and on my weight. At first I was like. I know this is coming from a place of insecurity and jealousy, so i didn't respond much. But after nth time, I was like no more. It started to affect me. I thought setting boundaries would seem selfish but it is not. if they are costing your life energies. I totally understand that the person needs help. I tried to. by being an example, but same old stuff kept repeating. Some people are so far away from maturity it's worrying.
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Comunista
My chemistry teacher is not respecting my affirmed gender(I'm a FTM, and keep treating me as her. One class I corrected him, delicately, and he gaslighted me, I ended up leaving the class and entered in an depressive episode that lasted a week. Today he treated me as she AGAIN. I said nothing, and another classmate made the same mistake he did. Thank goodness I didn't felt depressed this time, but it was very uncomfortable. Next class, when this happen again I will correct him in a very assertive way, and if he tries to gaslight me again, I'm going to make a direct response, and go after my rights with the University.
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My chemistry teacher is not respecting my affirmed gender(I'm a FTM, and keep treating me as her. One class I corrected him, delicately, and he gaslighted me, I ended up leaving the class and entered in an depressive episode that lasted a week. Today he treated me as she AGAIN. I said nothing, and another classmate made the same mistake he did. Thank goodness I didn't felt depressed this time, but it was very uncomfortable. Next class, when this happen again I will correct him in a very assertive way, and if he tries to gaslight me again, I'm going to make a direct response, and go after my rights with the University.
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Astha
I feel as if in case I say no to people, especially from my family, I'll lose people. It feels unethical for me to say no to people, especially to my parents. Even after I summon the courage to say no sometimes, I feel a huge burden of guilt. In those moments, I feel as if I am not a good daughter or sister or whatever. I feel a constant urge to be right and kind to my people, even if it means sabotaging my own needs. I feel as if it is my responsibility to save people from drowning. Maybe I can say No to some people, but just not after constant requests from the other side.
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I feel as if in case I say no to people, especially from my family, I'll lose people. It feels unethical for me to say no to people, especially to my parents. Even after I summon the courage to say no sometimes, I feel a huge burden of guilt. In those moments, I feel as if I am not a good daughter or sister or whatever. I feel a constant urge to be right and kind to my people, even if it means sabotaging my own needs. I feel as if it is my responsibility to save people from drowning. Maybe I can say No to some people, but just not after constant requests from the other side.
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Drina
I know how it feels to be too nice for your own good. Your needs go unmet. You start to resent the people you're nice to. You expect others to return your kindness in a certain way. People turn their backs on you once you stop doing favors for them. You go above and beyond to help people, but when they decide not to do the same for you, resentment starts to build up. I'm doing better now. I speak up more often. I have strong boundaries to prevent resentment from building.
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I know how it feels to be too nice for your own good. Your needs go unmet. You start to resent the people you're nice to. You expect others to return your kindness in a certain way. People turn their backs on you once you stop doing favors for them. You go above and beyond to help people, but when they decide not to do the same for you, resentment starts to build up. I'm doing better now. I speak up more often. I have strong boundaries to prevent resentment from building.
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Krioda
Boundaries are important to keep your relationship healthy and to function effectively.
If you want strong and healthy relationship boundaries, you need to use these ideas:
Communication
Follow through with Set Consequences
Respect, Trust and Support
Knowing Yourselves
My advice is to establish serious boundaries when you notice things like being disrespected, feeling hurt, or being taken advantage of.
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Boundaries are important to keep your relationship healthy and to function effectively.
If you want strong and healthy relationship boundaries, you need to use these ideas:
Communication
Follow through with Set Consequences
Respect, Trust and Support
Knowing Yourselves
My advice is to establish serious boundaries when you notice things like being disrespected, feeling hurt, or being taken advantage of.
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TaeTAE
It's really hard to set boundaries with my cousins. Sometimes they are so mean and hurt me with their words. I really wanna avoid them but they always come to my home or we meet at family functions or family trips you know i am so frustrated and i don't like to hurt them back. I am so happy wid my friends than with my cousins. I may sound immature but dealing with toxic relatives is really tough
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It's really hard to set boundaries with my cousins. Sometimes they are so mean and hurt me with their words. I really wanna avoid them but they always come to my home or we meet at family functions or family trips you know i am so frustrated and i don't like to hurt them back. I am so happy wid my friends than with my cousins. I may sound immature but dealing with toxic relatives is really tough
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Mumina
I feel as so people are judgemental and forceful towards me most of the time.
But when I say no, they start to question it.
Maybe I need to explain myself a bit more so that they get a better understanding of how I feel lol!
Its difficult for me because Im unable to read body language due to my visual impairment and I dont know how they are going to react afterwards.
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I feel as so people are judgemental and forceful towards me most of the time.
But when I say no, they start to question it.
Maybe I need to explain myself a bit more so that they get a better understanding of how I feel lol!
Its difficult for me because Im unable to read body language due to my visual impairment and I dont know how they are going to react afterwards.
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English
Please help me
I am getting crazy my mom doesn't respect my space
She is controlling everything
Please i cant more carry on
I don't understand why she is always doing it
She says she is always right and that i am wrong
I hate it
She takes away my peace
I wanna peace and healthy mind
I love her but she thinks k am 2 years old
I am 30 years old
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Please help me
I am getting crazy my mom doesn't respect my space
She is controlling everything
Please i cant more carry on
I don't understand why she is always doing it
She says she is always right and that i am wrong
I hate it
She takes away my peace
I wanna peace and healthy mind
I love her but she thinks k am 2 years old
I am 30 years old
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Jessica
Before, It was very hard for me to say no because I was always aware of peoples feelings before my own. I changed for the better because some people took my kindness as a weakness and took advantage of me. I got treated like a door matt so many times, and now that I set boundaries a lot of people dont like me for it.
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Before, It was very hard for me to say no because I was always aware of peoples feelings before my own. I changed for the better because some people took my kindness as a weakness and took advantage of me. I got treated like a door matt so many times, and now that I set boundaries a lot of people dont like me for it.
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Tracey
Oh, I set boundaries alright. When you live with a narcissistic partner it is key to your mental survival. When he crosses them I tell him exactly what he's said/done that crossed my boundary of acceptable behavior, and simply walk away. Needles to say, I do alot of walking away.
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Oh, I set boundaries alright. When you live with a narcissistic partner it is key to your mental survival. When he crosses them I tell him exactly what he's said/done that crossed my boundary of acceptable behavior, and simply walk away. Needles to say, I do alot of walking away.
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Dr.
Timestamps
1: 14 1. Your emotional health is linked to boundary setting
2: 00 2. You deserved to be heard and understood
3: 02 3. Sometimes situation calls for assertiveness
3: 46 4. It allows for growth of self-awareness
4: 31 5. They create healthy relationships
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Timestamps
1: 14 1. Your emotional health is linked to boundary setting
2: 00 2. You deserved to be heard and understood
3: 02 3. Sometimes situation calls for assertiveness
3: 46 4. It allows for growth of self-awareness
4: 31 5. They create healthy relationships
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Error
I feel sorry, for the people in my life because I never understood boundaries, because i never had them I always wanted to help people even over my own health and when people set boundaries I didnt understand i felt like I wasnt enough, so this idea really helps
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I feel sorry, for the people in my life because I never understood boundaries, because i never had them I always wanted to help people even over my own health and when people set boundaries I didnt understand i felt like I wasnt enough, so this idea really helps
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Helen
Its so hard when its your mother insisting on controlling your relationship. I try to set boundaries then she goes hard out on the guilt and shame and complains to the rest of the family how badly I treat her. They then get involved.
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Its so hard when its your mother insisting on controlling your relationship. I try to set boundaries then she goes hard out on the guilt and shame and complains to the rest of the family how badly I treat her. They then get involved.
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fairy_09
If you dont set boundaries, you dont respect yourself,
This is because youre shutting out the true emotions you want to say. If they dont disrespect your boundaries, they benefited from you when you didnt have any.
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If you dont set boundaries, you dont respect yourself,
This is because youre shutting out the true emotions you want to say. If they dont disrespect your boundaries, they benefited from you when you didnt have any.
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Youraristrocat
Im living with my dad and my step mom grandma is always tryna force me to eat or take pills when I got sick telling me is gonna fix it or sometimes shes inconsiderate that I be sleeping and blasting out music
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Im living with my dad and my step mom grandma is always tryna force me to eat or take pills when I got sick telling me is gonna fix it or sometimes shes inconsiderate that I be sleeping and blasting out music
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Leroy
If you want to be respected tell me. If I am wrong tell me. I am fed up. My mental health is plummeting. If I am a bully tell me. I have already forgiven some of you people. I also forgot what you people did.
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If you want to be respected tell me. If I am wrong tell me. I am fed up. My mental health is plummeting. If I am a bully tell me. I have already forgiven some of you people. I also forgot what you people did.
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psych2go
Sometimes I freeze when someone shocks me with their statement and it makes it hard to set boundaries in that moment. I hate that I don't realize until later that I should've have set boundaries sooner.
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Sometimes I freeze when someone shocks me with their statement and it makes it hard to set boundaries in that moment. I hate that I don't realize until later that I should've have set boundaries sooner.
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John
How's this? Telling my annoyed boss, who questioned and underestimated my ability to take on a shift by myself, that my family always taught me to be self-confident with my abilities.
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How's this? Telling my annoyed boss, who questioned and underestimated my ability to take on a shift by myself, that my family always taught me to be self-confident with my abilities.
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arabella
i just saw a random video about boundaries and realized i dont even know what they are- so im trying to learn so i can make other feel comfortable and also keep myself safe
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i just saw a random video about boundaries and realized i dont even know what they are- so im trying to learn so i can make other feel comfortable and also keep myself safe
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Jaguar
All works unless the other person is a narcissist expert in gaslighting and will try to turn things over you being too sensitive or overreacting.
Be careful with those.
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All works unless the other person is a narcissist expert in gaslighting and will try to turn things over you being too sensitive or overreacting.
Be careful with those.
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Car_Go_Vroom_Vroom
Im trying to learn boundaries as an adult because I feel like everything I say is wrong in some way. I never had the structure of healthy boundaries as a kid.
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Im trying to learn boundaries as an adult because I feel like everything I say is wrong in some way. I never had the structure of healthy boundaries as a kid.
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The
Every kid: we need healthy boundaries
Parents: you dont need boundaries we can walk over it what ever we want cus were parents we can do what ever we want to our kids
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Every kid: we need healthy boundaries
Parents: you dont need boundaries we can walk over it what ever we want cus were parents we can do what ever we want to our kids
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