10 Healthy Ways To Handle ANY Rejection
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Date: 2023-08-20
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I don't understand how and why. I always thought he (let's call him buttercup) liked me back and all the your videos regarding crushes showed those signs too. He clearly complimented me too and once we had a group project, he joined my team saying that I'm the best. And we used to have online meetings everyday (actually we didn't practice mostly cause most people didn't even join, it was just me, him and my other classmate. In those meetings we usually just talked and had fun. And he made me laugh sooo much and always said 'please don't end the meeting now, I m havin fun' and stuff. And even though our exams were going on at the same time, i joined the meeting everyday and spent 1 or 2 hours. Usually I am very stressed during exams but that time i was just soo much at ease, I didn't have any stress. Normally, i wouldn't waste my time like that during examinations but this time it was different. And i secured excellent marks too. He just took all that stress away from me. And even in class he was always telling me jokes, and if I was doing my maths sums wrong, he'd correct me. One day the teacher told both of us to check someone's English literature notebook. He came over to my desk and sat next to me with the notebook. And oh boy that kid's English was horrible. We were checking his essay and giggling at the silly mistakes. And sometimes even our legs were touching. We were soo close looking at that notebook our heads almost touched. When he went back to his seat (which was right in front of mine) he turned back to take something from his bag and i repeated a very funny line from that essay. He laughed and I swear I saw him blush. It is devastating to know we are in different classes this year. We don't talk anymore (at all. It's just a quick glances now. And today i got indirectly rejected by him. So basically his best fren is in my class and we talk (a lot cuz he's my fren too. I dun hv feelings for his best fren ofc. But we were chatting online today when he asked 'Whats your type, i mean who would you like as a bf' I said 'as long as they're not total idiots and uk kinna smart'. He replied ' u mean someone like buttercup and daffodil (another smart and good looking guy)'. I said 'maybe'. He said ' if daffodil proposes to u would you accept him'. I said ' I'll hv to think about that cuz uk he's kinna extroverted and he dances in class and one time he cried just bcuz he missed his presentation, other wise he's good and understanding'. Buttercup's best fren said 'lol then you would definitely accept buttercup' I said ' um. i would'. He said ' that will never happen though'. I said ' i know'. He said ' I cannot control my laughter after this'. I was shook. I think I misread everything or whut. He always sat with/near me. A kid (less call him orchid) sat behind me in class. Buttercup sat with him for maths period and said that orcid needs help with maths work while he kept talking to me all the time. He didn't go back till the next 2 periods. He even took my pencil and in exchange for his pencil. And did I mention he's a greatttt artist. He did maths work with my pencil and afterwards when I came to return his pencil he be like your pencil is very good, I wanna keep it. I said I have many of those pencils u can keep one. He drew somthing fabulous with it and later on he came and said 'this pencil has potential. YOU CAN DRAW' and returned it to me. Now how can someone not be flattered by that. Or atleast me. Well, i m still tryna get over him. I hope nothing bad happens tomorrow. I just can't believe how he played with my heart
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I don't understand how and why. I always thought he (let's call him buttercup) liked me back and all the your videos regarding crushes showed those signs too. He clearly complimented me too and once we had a group project, he joined my team saying that I'm the best. And we used to have online meetings everyday (actually we didn't practice mostly cause most people didn't even join, it was just me, him and my other classmate. In those meetings we usually just talked and had fun. And he made me laugh sooo much and always said 'please don't end the meeting now, I m havin fun' and stuff. And even though our exams were going on at the same time, i joined the meeting everyday and spent 1 or 2 hours. Usually I am very stressed during exams but that time i was just soo much at ease, I didn't have any stress. Normally, i wouldn't waste my time like that during examinations but this time it was different. And i secured excellent marks too. He just took all that stress away from me. And even in class he was always telling me jokes, and if I was doing my maths sums wrong, he'd correct me. One day the teacher told both of us to check someone's English literature notebook. He came over to my desk and sat next to me with the notebook. And oh boy that kid's English was horrible. We were checking his essay and giggling at the silly mistakes. And sometimes even our legs were touching. We were soo close looking at that notebook our heads almost touched. When he went back to his seat (which was right in front of mine) he turned back to take something from his bag and i repeated a very funny line from that essay. He laughed and I swear I saw him blush. It is devastating to know we are in different classes this year. We don't talk anymore (at all. It's just a quick glances now. And today i got indirectly rejected by him. So basically his best fren is in my class and we talk (a lot cuz he's my fren too. I dun hv feelings for his best fren ofc. But we were chatting online today when he asked 'Whats your type, i mean who would you like as a bf' I said 'as long as they're not total idiots and uk kinna smart'. He replied ' u mean someone like buttercup and daffodil (another smart and good looking guy)'. I said 'maybe'. He said ' if daffodil proposes to u would you accept him'. I said ' I'll hv to think about that cuz uk he's kinna extroverted and he dances in class and one time he cried just bcuz he missed his presentation, other wise he's good and understanding'. Buttercup's best fren said 'lol then you would definitely accept buttercup' I said ' um. i would'. He said ' that will never happen though'. I said ' i know'. He said ' I cannot control my laughter after this'. I was shook. I think I misread everything or whut. He always sat with/near me. A kid (less call him orchid) sat behind me in class. Buttercup sat with him for maths period and said that orcid needs help with maths work while he kept talking to me all the time. He didn't go back till the next 2 periods. He even took my pencil and in exchange for his pencil. And did I mention he's a greatttt artist. He did maths work with my pencil and afterwards when I came to return his pencil he be like your pencil is very good, I wanna keep it. I said I have many of those pencils u can keep one. He drew somthing fabulous with it and later on he came and said 'this pencil has potential. YOU CAN DRAW' and returned it to me. Now how can someone not be flattered by that. Or atleast me. Well, i m still tryna get over him. I hope nothing bad happens tomorrow. I just can't believe how he played with my heart
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AsianBoy
PLEASE I REALLY NEED HELP RIGHT NOW. I never feel down ever in my life. I'm in college and theres that girl i really like. She is my type. She knows how to pick trustworthy friends. She doesn't hang out with popular fashionable girls because most likely they talk about non-sense stuff and she cannot relate to that because she is a simple girl, that's why I reaaally adore her.
One time I decided to make a move. However, my mental health isn't doing well thesedays so i sucked conversing with her.
She ended up thinking that I have a mental disorder. There was a time that while I am talking to her, she intentionally yawns to show me that she doesn't care about what im talking about.
The day after, Im really puzzled on how she feels about me. Since first day of college, she gives me mixed signals.
So I decided to tell her that I like her. And as expected, she rejected me, saying Im focusing on my studies, lets see to it next year.
But obviously, she doesnt really mean to say lets see to it next year thats just to not completely hurt my feelings tho.
Fast forward today, I just recently saw her together with her friends, having fun, laughing. Thats when i ask myself on why i am a boring and non-sense person with poor social skills.
Im thinking about dropping out from college because its only the first month but im really dead inside and has zero courage to continue, especially my crush is in the same class with me. So i feel the pain everyday.
Also, i notice that after all of these happened, she always do a REALLY STRONG eye contact to me whenever I go close to her. And one time she even said bye to me after class.
I feel like she's playing with my feelings and want me to not get over from her and suffer more mind games.
PLEASE i need an advice im really going through tough days right now. I really appreciate you.
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PLEASE I REALLY NEED HELP RIGHT NOW. I never feel down ever in my life. I'm in college and theres that girl i really like. She is my type. She knows how to pick trustworthy friends. She doesn't hang out with popular fashionable girls because most likely they talk about non-sense stuff and she cannot relate to that because she is a simple girl, that's why I reaaally adore her.
One time I decided to make a move. However, my mental health isn't doing well thesedays so i sucked conversing with her.
She ended up thinking that I have a mental disorder. There was a time that while I am talking to her, she intentionally yawns to show me that she doesn't care about what im talking about.
The day after, Im really puzzled on how she feels about me. Since first day of college, she gives me mixed signals.
So I decided to tell her that I like her. And as expected, she rejected me, saying Im focusing on my studies, lets see to it next year.
But obviously, she doesnt really mean to say lets see to it next year thats just to not completely hurt my feelings tho.
Fast forward today, I just recently saw her together with her friends, having fun, laughing. Thats when i ask myself on why i am a boring and non-sense person with poor social skills.
Im thinking about dropping out from college because its only the first month but im really dead inside and has zero courage to continue, especially my crush is in the same class with me. So i feel the pain everyday.
Also, i notice that after all of these happened, she always do a REALLY STRONG eye contact to me whenever I go close to her. And one time she even said bye to me after class.
I feel like she's playing with my feelings and want me to not get over from her and suffer more mind games.
PLEASE i need an advice im really going through tough days right now. I really appreciate you.
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education
Before watching this video, I have something I would like to share (PLEASE tell me if you relate, and keep in mind that I have Autism, so my ability to recognise social cues may not be the best, to keep that in mind)
I have this weird thing, where when someone tells me No, and nothing else, I tend to feel LOTS of mild infuriation. Certain ways of telling me No have different impacts. Ill list three of the most impactful types (this may get confusing, though):
1. A simple, No, where the speaker sounds a bit narcissistic, and where the pitch of the o is higher than the n. To me, this comes off as one-sided, dismissive, and selfish. This causes a mild amount of internal stress and anger, but not to a point where I argue back
2. No (I dont think so, where the speaker is slightly unsure about what they say, but to me, they sound like they want to be right constantly, but not to a point where I would call them full-blown narcissists. This causes mostly confusion for me, and gives me a larger amount of stress and anger.
3. No, no, no, where the speakers pitch increases after each No. This gives me the mostly anger, and immediately makes me want to fight back. This also comes off as the most narcissistic, and makes me feel like a kindergartener, and the speaker is my teacher. I HATE this one
Please, tell me, does anyone relate? I would LOVE to know, so I can fix this mentality.
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Before watching this video, I have something I would like to share (PLEASE tell me if you relate, and keep in mind that I have Autism, so my ability to recognise social cues may not be the best, to keep that in mind)
I have this weird thing, where when someone tells me No, and nothing else, I tend to feel LOTS of mild infuriation. Certain ways of telling me No have different impacts. Ill list three of the most impactful types (this may get confusing, though):
1. A simple, No, where the speaker sounds a bit narcissistic, and where the pitch of the o is higher than the n. To me, this comes off as one-sided, dismissive, and selfish. This causes a mild amount of internal stress and anger, but not to a point where I argue back
2. No (I dont think so, where the speaker is slightly unsure about what they say, but to me, they sound like they want to be right constantly, but not to a point where I would call them full-blown narcissists. This causes mostly confusion for me, and gives me a larger amount of stress and anger.
3. No, no, no, where the speakers pitch increases after each No. This gives me the mostly anger, and immediately makes me want to fight back. This also comes off as the most narcissistic, and makes me feel like a kindergartener, and the speaker is my teacher. I HATE this one
Please, tell me, does anyone relate? I would LOVE to know, so I can fix this mentality.
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Huntington1234567
Recently, I was rejected by a girl who pretty much just used me as an emotional therapist/garbage dump for about a month. She really is a sweet girl, who seemed like she just needed someone to listen and care.
Well, after about a month of being there for her, I had the fantasy she would say, Wow! He said he would listen and care. and he really did! and she would value our growing closeness.
Instead. dropped cold. And not just dropped. Ghosted. Ghosted, with an undercurrent of hostility.
I don't get it, but I texted her one last time, after a few unanswered texts, saying I got the hint and I wish her well.
That's the best I can do. Just time to move on. but it really, really hurts.
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Recently, I was rejected by a girl who pretty much just used me as an emotional therapist/garbage dump for about a month. She really is a sweet girl, who seemed like she just needed someone to listen and care.
Well, after about a month of being there for her, I had the fantasy she would say, Wow! He said he would listen and care. and he really did! and she would value our growing closeness.
Instead. dropped cold. And not just dropped. Ghosted. Ghosted, with an undercurrent of hostility.
I don't get it, but I texted her one last time, after a few unanswered texts, saying I got the hint and I wish her well.
That's the best I can do. Just time to move on. but it really, really hurts.
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Danielsonic
I say the best way fair and square: send to hell and rage on a lot, screaming and get out all frustration you have, adding You don't undestand nothing of me and my valor and happiness that I could give to you! Go to the first bad boy-girl that make you suffer, and then you regret your choice. But will be too late, who don't appreciate me is a superficial person and I don't want a superficial person. Go to hell! Then listen his-her excuses and then go away with badass pose. Later you will feel much better, I assure you.
If you later got some occasion with another person, make a photo a send to her via friends to revenge: believe me, he-she will understand what he-she lost rejection us.
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I say the best way fair and square: send to hell and rage on a lot, screaming and get out all frustration you have, adding You don't undestand nothing of me and my valor and happiness that I could give to you! Go to the first bad boy-girl that make you suffer, and then you regret your choice. But will be too late, who don't appreciate me is a superficial person and I don't want a superficial person. Go to hell! Then listen his-her excuses and then go away with badass pose. Later you will feel much better, I assure you.
If you later got some occasion with another person, make a photo a send to her via friends to revenge: believe me, he-she will understand what he-she lost rejection us.
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mitchmill
I don't know why I am so unlycky with my crushes for the past several years I think it may have been 5, 4 crushes rejected me, the 1 we're close to me but I moved far away from him. I mean I don't get it I am the top in class, I can sing, I'm close with them, I'm caring and kind, I can dance, I can draw, Im actually pretty, I can speak English fluently(I am a filipino)
. I guess I was not good enough for them, I always hate the fact that those guys would pick a chinita whose not even active at school and their only characteristic is being pretty or cute. But now I understand I will never be good enough.
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I don't know why I am so unlycky with my crushes for the past several years I think it may have been 5, 4 crushes rejected me, the 1 we're close to me but I moved far away from him. I mean I don't get it I am the top in class, I can sing, I'm close with them, I'm caring and kind, I can dance, I can draw, Im actually pretty, I can speak English fluently(I am a filipino)
. I guess I was not good enough for them, I always hate the fact that those guys would pick a chinita whose not even active at school and their only characteristic is being pretty or cute. But now I understand I will never be good enough.
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JohnQuote
I've worked with a coworker for a couple months now, and I just recently started liking her. My friend works with her too, and he told me that she liked me and that I should tell her how I feel. Today I tried and it didn't go so well it feels like a kick in the stomach. I also found out that she not only likes me as only a friend but that she's also angry with me. So yeah I'm switching shifts. I feel like my heart just broke. March 1st I'll be on a different schedule but I've still gotta work with her till then any advice on how to smooth this over at all just until March 1st?
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I've worked with a coworker for a couple months now, and I just recently started liking her. My friend works with her too, and he told me that she liked me and that I should tell her how I feel. Today I tried and it didn't go so well it feels like a kick in the stomach. I also found out that she not only likes me as only a friend but that she's also angry with me. So yeah I'm switching shifts. I feel like my heart just broke. March 1st I'll be on a different schedule but I've still gotta work with her till then any advice on how to smooth this over at all just until March 1st?
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Archana
Hi all. I came here to hear from you. I felt sharing with those who know the pain of rejection is better. I considered someone as my best friend. But I got my friendship rejected. I am no longer a friend to that person. I shared, i cared but all in vain. One sided friendship. But I couldn't realize it. I feel like darkness surrounds me. Became a joker in front of others. I am so sad. But i really feel better reading the comments. I feel like i am not alone. U all are my invisible friends. Thanks to all.
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Hi all. I came here to hear from you. I felt sharing with those who know the pain of rejection is better. I considered someone as my best friend. But I got my friendship rejected. I am no longer a friend to that person. I shared, i cared but all in vain. One sided friendship. But I couldn't realize it. I feel like darkness surrounds me. Became a joker in front of others. I am so sad. But i really feel better reading the comments. I feel like i am not alone. U all are my invisible friends. Thanks to all.
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Danielsonic
I disagree anyway on point 1 on try to make change mind to the crush because there are many couple born with some second round, and I think that the sense of bad that could tries who has initially rejected, he-she could be more gentle to make not suffer the other, so he-she could give his best and who initially rejected could discover a person better (because only with a date we can discover better the person, this is why I am never say NO to someone that want to go out with me)
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I disagree anyway on point 1 on try to make change mind to the crush because there are many couple born with some second round, and I think that the sense of bad that could tries who has initially rejected, he-she could be more gentle to make not suffer the other, so he-she could give his best and who initially rejected could discover a person better (because only with a date we can discover better the person, this is why I am never say NO to someone that want to go out with me)
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Charlotte
ugh lmao i told my friend how i felt about her and she was rlly nice about it saying how she appreciated me sharing my feelings but she doesnt reciprocate and i like just cant stop thinking about what if she changes her mind or something so number 1 is like a struggle for me and i feel bad because its unfair to her
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ugh lmao i told my friend how i felt about her and she was rlly nice about it saying how she appreciated me sharing my feelings but she doesnt reciprocate and i like just cant stop thinking about what if she changes her mind or something so number 1 is like a struggle for me and i feel bad because its unfair to her
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Danielsonic
The Point 5 make me cry, because for my all whole life I follow this to cure myself from the rejecting of the life. Those saves me from depression when I got separated from my most valuable ex girlfriend, so I absolutely give to all people to concentrate on hobbies when we are sad for any bad things or the life
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The Point 5 make me cry, because for my all whole life I follow this to cure myself from the rejecting of the life. Those saves me from depression when I got separated from my most valuable ex girlfriend, so I absolutely give to all people to concentrate on hobbies when we are sad for any bad things or the life
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Amal
When i ask my dad anything he keep rejecting it, my dreams thing i wanted to do, even its not wrong thinge or things he have to pay for it, i just need his permission to do it, he just want me to live the way he want even if i kept on living a life without any choices or self confident, i feel like Im in prison
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When i ask my dad anything he keep rejecting it, my dreams thing i wanted to do, even its not wrong thinge or things he have to pay for it, i just need his permission to do it, he just want me to live the way he want even if i kept on living a life without any choices or self confident, i feel like Im in prison
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Napalm
Do what you like, that really works. Cars saved me from depression, some of my friends asking me why do I spend so much time and money on my car. I just tell them my car will never friendzoned and reject me, she accepted me for who I am and taught me a lot of mechanically things which I like to learn.
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Do what you like, that really works. Cars saved me from depression, some of my friends asking me why do I spend so much time and money on my car. I just tell them my car will never friendzoned and reject me, she accepted me for who I am and taught me a lot of mechanically things which I like to learn.
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Anne
accept the answer
distance yourself from the situation
allow yourself to feel
spend time with others
do something you love (hobbies)
practice self-care
work on yourself
learn from the experience
put the rejection into context
explore other opportunities
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accept the answer
distance yourself from the situation
allow yourself to feel
spend time with others
do something you love (hobbies)
practice self-care
work on yourself
learn from the experience
put the rejection into context
explore other opportunities
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CrossedMasks
I didn't even realize how much I needed this video right now, I thought I already figured all of it out now, but some things you said helped me to look at this situation of mine from a yet different perspective and see the positives in it. Thank you for that.
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I didn't even realize how much I needed this video right now, I thought I already figured all of it out now, but some things you said helped me to look at this situation of mine from a yet different perspective and see the positives in it. Thank you for that.
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kat
Rejection is painful and tough to cope with, but with loving friends and family, its much easier. Dont feel embarrassed or scared, just know that its a common thing which comes across everyone. Accept your emotions and move on. Everything happens for a reason.
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Rejection is painful and tough to cope with, but with loving friends and family, its much easier. Dont feel embarrassed or scared, just know that its a common thing which comes across everyone. Accept your emotions and move on. Everything happens for a reason.
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Angel
I got rejected by my first crush and I dont know what to do. I feel sad happy embarrassed and relieved. it just feel like my body is in a state of every emotion I have. but anyway thanks for making this video happy holidays
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I got rejected by my first crush and I dont know what to do. I feel sad happy embarrassed and relieved. it just feel like my body is in a state of every emotion I have. but anyway thanks for making this video happy holidays
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mah29732
Job rejections and romantic rejections are no fun. Especially if you try with each no matter how well you perform. The way I see it, if a new hobby can lead you to a new career TAKE IT no matter what the naysayers say.
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Job rejections and romantic rejections are no fun. Especially if you try with each no matter how well you perform. The way I see it, if a new hobby can lead you to a new career TAKE IT no matter what the naysayers say.
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RichPlayzGamez
I got rejected by this Hispanic girl in 6th grade and everyone laughed at me and two girls said that I'm better of being gay and said I'm ugly it was the worst rejection ever but then she eventually asked me out
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I got rejected by this Hispanic girl in 6th grade and everyone laughed at me and two girls said that I'm better of being gay and said I'm ugly it was the worst rejection ever but then she eventually asked me out
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AsianBoy
I am 18, first year college and I just recently got rejected by my classmate all because I can't drive a car.
Most of the guys in our class own and drive a car.
I really feel like a trash and a useless person.
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I am 18, first year college and I just recently got rejected by my classmate all because I can't drive a car.
Most of the guys in our class own and drive a car.
I really feel like a trash and a useless person.
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ewelyse
before i confess to someone i really loved for years, i watched this video as i might think i get rejected, if otherwise, just respect their rejection, its someones opinion, maybe someday they will change their answer
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before i confess to someone i really loved for years, i watched this video as i might think i get rejected, if otherwise, just respect their rejection, its someones opinion, maybe someday they will change their answer
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David
My rejection and reason for watching Is relationship rejection. Literally a local musican and cant get a date. I hate my life. Whats the point of practice at this point anymore if theres no one to share my joy with.
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My rejection and reason for watching Is relationship rejection. Literally a local musican and cant get a date. I hate my life. Whats the point of practice at this point anymore if theres no one to share my joy with.
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Seti
I thought this stuff only happened to teenagers. boy was I wrong. I was low key rejected by a man through lies and no communication and it hurts bad. And I have to see this guy once a week at my job
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I thought this stuff only happened to teenagers. boy was I wrong. I was low key rejected by a man through lies and no communication and it hurts bad. And I have to see this guy once a week at my job
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flightisallright
I have certainly rejected people myself. And I have learned that that is ok, but I should be kind and upfront about it to make sure the other person can make the best of the situation.
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I have certainly rejected people myself. And I have learned that that is ok, but I should be kind and upfront about it to make sure the other person can make the best of the situation.
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Stanley
Thank you so much I hade a crush on a girl for nearly 2 years and finally opened up and she didnt feel the same and my heart broke because Im not a guy that likes girls to much so ot sucked
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Thank you so much I hade a crush on a girl for nearly 2 years and finally opened up and she didnt feel the same and my heart broke because Im not a guy that likes girls to much so ot sucked
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