5 Signs You Have the Rescuer Personality Type
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I'm scared I'll just get a broken heart at the end but I'm willing to help her any way i can and be there for her. Is that wrong?
Date: 2023-08-20
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Cedar
I've always kind of been playing the hero all the time. I always want to help others. But lately, i've gotten my hands too full. I always want to fix everything, even the things i can't fix. I end up feeling dissapointed in myself for not being being able to help. I hate having big responsibilities, because im so afraid of letting people down and them being dissapointed in me. Alot of my friends seek out to me when they are feeling down and seek out to me lately. But i end up being restless and panicking because i just wish i could help them, and i end up doubting myself and asking myself What could i have done better? Did i say the right things?
Its like i've gotten sick and drained from being peoples emotional support. Im so fed up, but i feel guilty for feeling this way. I feel selfish. I rely way too much on helping others, that i sometimes forget to step back and take care of my own mental well-being. Its draining to play the hero all the time.
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I've always kind of been playing the hero all the time. I always want to help others. But lately, i've gotten my hands too full. I always want to fix everything, even the things i can't fix. I end up feeling dissapointed in myself for not being being able to help. I hate having big responsibilities, because im so afraid of letting people down and them being dissapointed in me. Alot of my friends seek out to me when they are feeling down and seek out to me lately. But i end up being restless and panicking because i just wish i could help them, and i end up doubting myself and asking myself What could i have done better? Did i say the right things?
Its like i've gotten sick and drained from being peoples emotional support. Im so fed up, but i feel guilty for feeling this way. I feel selfish. I rely way too much on helping others, that i sometimes forget to step back and take care of my own mental well-being. Its draining to play the hero all the time.
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Arieta
I may say that I may have some signs being 'the rescuer'. But for me, in my case & perspective, I don't look through the lenses of having the need to rescue, fix, or save someone, it's more on me being myself showing kindness, showing up to the people I love and not really thinking that I am putting them first or prioritizing them first before myself. Because I know in myself that I have this ability and I am capable to regain this energy that I am giving or the love I have in me that I share to the people I love. With this perspective, I was able to tell and recognize that this kind of trait is a strength of mine, not a weakness. Knowing how to balance when to show up for other and for myself.
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I may say that I may have some signs being 'the rescuer'. But for me, in my case & perspective, I don't look through the lenses of having the need to rescue, fix, or save someone, it's more on me being myself showing kindness, showing up to the people I love and not really thinking that I am putting them first or prioritizing them first before myself. Because I know in myself that I have this ability and I am capable to regain this energy that I am giving or the love I have in me that I share to the people I love. With this perspective, I was able to tell and recognize that this kind of trait is a strength of mine, not a weakness. Knowing how to balance when to show up for other and for myself.
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Winter
Mine is because I also want help myself, and was taught to treat others as you would like to be treated yourself. I feel if I give help, those worthy of my time will return it at some point.
But I know I can be overbearing with it.
Many hands make light work.
Probably just searching for my tribe. I like being part of groups etc.
If everyone is helping themselves all the time it doesnt really facilitate a strong social structure. I just have a utopian dream of everyone helping each other out with tasks, and feeling able to ask for help with the small things even. Not because they need it, but because its a fun and sharing thing to do things together.
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Mine is because I also want help myself, and was taught to treat others as you would like to be treated yourself. I feel if I give help, those worthy of my time will return it at some point.
But I know I can be overbearing with it.
Many hands make light work.
Probably just searching for my tribe. I like being part of groups etc.
If everyone is helping themselves all the time it doesnt really facilitate a strong social structure. I just have a utopian dream of everyone helping each other out with tasks, and feeling able to ask for help with the small things even. Not because they need it, but because its a fun and sharing thing to do things together.
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Yriel
I'm recovering from a really straining relationship and breakup with a person with BPD. A huge part of the process is letting go of the idea that my replacement (they monkey-branched with my friend) is going to magically be a better rescuer than I was. It's a terrible spot to be in. My partner was emotionally cheating on me during the relationship, indeed started going on dates with my friend when we were supposed to be on a break (only to promptly dump me when I reached out for an update) and all I can think now is what if the new succeeds where I failed. It's harrowing.
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I'm recovering from a really straining relationship and breakup with a person with BPD. A huge part of the process is letting go of the idea that my replacement (they monkey-branched with my friend) is going to magically be a better rescuer than I was. It's a terrible spot to be in. My partner was emotionally cheating on me during the relationship, indeed started going on dates with my friend when we were supposed to be on a break (only to promptly dump me when I reached out for an update) and all I can think now is what if the new succeeds where I failed. It's harrowing.
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Colten
This typically comes from having neglectful parents. You learn a pattern of behavior by trying to chase them to get their attention and to like you. A lot of times the parents aren't even intentionally neglectful. They are busy with life trying to work and provide. This creates a belief system that you aren't good enough as you are so you have to try to please them to get them to like you. A narcissist is completely opposite. They are overly spoiled by their parents and showered with a lot of attention. Thus making them think highly of themselves.
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This typically comes from having neglectful parents. You learn a pattern of behavior by trying to chase them to get their attention and to like you. A lot of times the parents aren't even intentionally neglectful. They are busy with life trying to work and provide. This creates a belief system that you aren't good enough as you are so you have to try to please them to get them to like you. A narcissist is completely opposite. They are overly spoiled by their parents and showered with a lot of attention. Thus making them think highly of themselves.
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KoolGuy121000
I think the hero complex is more deeper then what is mentioned in this video. So someone with a hero complex would probably give their life to help someone. Where as a serial killer would give their life to take another life. They are both opposite extremes. In terms of real life villains and heros this is probably as close as it gets with out super powers for the most part. I say most part because you do have physics who help solve cold case files. Which is a form of a super power. So yeah.
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I think the hero complex is more deeper then what is mentioned in this video. So someone with a hero complex would probably give their life to help someone. Where as a serial killer would give their life to take another life. They are both opposite extremes. In terms of real life villains and heros this is probably as close as it gets with out super powers for the most part. I say most part because you do have physics who help solve cold case files. Which is a form of a super power. So yeah.
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Allison
Umm this is definitely me. Just tonight I know I was trying to help in a place where I didn't need to be. On and unrelated note (I lied it is very related) Have you made a video about signs that someone is a manipulator or that you're being manipulated. I would love to learn more about that because were having a problem with this person and he keeps getting away with it because he's very manipulative and I want to learn more about it.
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Umm this is definitely me. Just tonight I know I was trying to help in a place where I didn't need to be. On and unrelated note (I lied it is very related) Have you made a video about signs that someone is a manipulator or that you're being manipulated. I would love to learn more about that because were having a problem with this person and he keeps getting away with it because he's very manipulative and I want to learn more about it.
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Padme
while it is good to want to help others in my opinion it can also be dangerous, depending motives I think it is an element to abusive traits like munchashean by proxy. Because if a person creates self worth on being the hero they might create situations to be hero. Or make a person feel obligated to be in constant gratitude. being a hero means you do it when no one is watching, or even if a patient or victim doesn't appreciate it
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while it is good to want to help others in my opinion it can also be dangerous, depending motives I think it is an element to abusive traits like munchashean by proxy. Because if a person creates self worth on being the hero they might create situations to be hero. Or make a person feel obligated to be in constant gratitude. being a hero means you do it when no one is watching, or even if a patient or victim doesn't appreciate it
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NITYA
It's me 100%. I can relate to all points. It's been months since I learned many behaviors of mine is not helping me to grow I am working on myself for my better mental health. I am trying everyday
I learned that it's OK I don't have to take responsibility to rescue everyone's problem I always ignored myself for them and after being misunderstood many times it's not good and I understood that this behavior is kind of toxic.
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It's me 100%. I can relate to all points. It's been months since I learned many behaviors of mine is not helping me to grow I am working on myself for my better mental health. I am trying everyday
I learned that it's OK I don't have to take responsibility to rescue everyone's problem I always ignored myself for them and after being misunderstood many times it's not good and I understood that this behavior is kind of toxic.
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Orten.
This video perfectly describes me! And the surprising fact is that I always been a rescuer since I was like 8 years old, I always thought before to help my friends instead help myself. The problem is that when time pass you realize that you forgot about your needs, your dreams, your desires because you were thinking always about others and left yourself at the last place and this is not healthy.
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This video perfectly describes me! And the surprising fact is that I always been a rescuer since I was like 8 years old, I always thought before to help my friends instead help myself. The problem is that when time pass you realize that you forgot about your needs, your dreams, your desires because you were thinking always about others and left yourself at the last place and this is not healthy.
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education
If I'm like this am I a bad person? I think the world is shitty and that there needs to be more people to make it less shitty, and im trying to be one of those people. I'm also a devout Christian and believe in making the world a better place as Christ did.
I don't know if I'm a bad person because of this, but I genuinely want to improve the world. :(
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If I'm like this am I a bad person? I think the world is shitty and that there needs to be more people to make it less shitty, and im trying to be one of those people. I'm also a devout Christian and believe in making the world a better place as Christ did.
I don't know if I'm a bad person because of this, but I genuinely want to improve the world. :(
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Jonathan
That last one hit pretty hard. I've always been the family therapist go to guy whenever people needed advice growing up. It made me wiser with relationships, but as an adult, has made me define myself based on my ability to give consule to others. I've gotta learn to back away from this complex, because I know it can be overbearing to new people
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That last one hit pretty hard. I've always been the family therapist go to guy whenever people needed advice growing up. It made me wiser with relationships, but as an adult, has made me define myself based on my ability to give consule to others. I've gotta learn to back away from this complex, because I know it can be overbearing to new people
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orso
I was only 6. It was in my file George was referring to. I asked him if that was a good thing and he said not really, but, it'll be useful for what you'll be doing for us. Noone else seems to care either and it's why I don't recommend anyone enlist until they've done something about this whole Satan and his goons running the show. Just my 2 cents.
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I was only 6. It was in my file George was referring to. I asked him if that was a good thing and he said not really, but, it'll be useful for what you'll be doing for us. Noone else seems to care either and it's why I don't recommend anyone enlist until they've done something about this whole Satan and his goons running the show. Just my 2 cents.
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Gabriella
I feel like being kind, nurturing and motherly just got villanised, in a way. If we have the desire to help people, that is not wrong, we are innately supposed to help others as we are all connected. Also, helping is ok, as long as it is not at our self expense. However, knowing what to do would be more useful.
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I feel like being kind, nurturing and motherly just got villanised, in a way. If we have the desire to help people, that is not wrong, we are innately supposed to help others as we are all connected. Also, helping is ok, as long as it is not at our self expense. However, knowing what to do would be more useful.
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Drina
Sometimes helping others becomes too much and you start to resent the people you're helpful to. I had all of those signs in the past. Although I was willing to help, eventually people started to ask too much of me. I started to resent the people I was selfless to, and I found myself craving validation from them.
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Sometimes helping others becomes too much and you start to resent the people you're helpful to. I had all of those signs in the past. Although I was willing to help, eventually people started to ask too much of me. I started to resent the people I was selfless to, and I found myself craving validation from them.
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Keiko707
Incase youre in a hurry:
1- You tend to put the needs of others before your own
2- You base your self-worth on your ability to help people
3- You find yourself insisting on helping even if its not needed
4- You have a tough time dealing with conflict
5- Youve been a rescuer from an early age
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Incase youre in a hurry:
1- You tend to put the needs of others before your own
2- You base your self-worth on your ability to help people
3- You find yourself insisting on helping even if its not needed
4- You have a tough time dealing with conflict
5- Youve been a rescuer from an early age
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saltnpepa1998
I once got in trouble for trying to be a rescuer to my classmate who was struggling and looked like she was having a breakdown. My teacher got mad and pretty much told me to go away its none of my business. Then my classmate was pulled out of that school a year later and never heard from her again.
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I once got in trouble for trying to be a rescuer to my classmate who was struggling and looked like she was having a breakdown. My teacher got mad and pretty much told me to go away its none of my business. Then my classmate was pulled out of that school a year later and never heard from her again.
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The
I do have a rescuers personality. But I call it my inner all might. I love making people happy no matter what it takes because I love seeing/making people. I really I just don't want to be alone I want friends someone to care about me. Over all I say it's a mix between my inner all might and my inner kid.
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I do have a rescuers personality. But I call it my inner all might. I love making people happy no matter what it takes because I love seeing/making people. I really I just don't want to be alone I want friends someone to care about me. Over all I say it's a mix between my inner all might and my inner kid.
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Bravekat81
if i saw this a couple years ago, i wouldve related to all of these signs.
now, i only relate to one and that would be the last one
i was kinda born being the kind one to help others 90% of the time
ive grown and changed to have a healthy balance between my own well being and others: )
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if i saw this a couple years ago, i wouldve related to all of these signs.
now, i only relate to one and that would be the last one
i was kinda born being the kind one to help others 90% of the time
ive grown and changed to have a healthy balance between my own well being and others: )
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education
Guilty as charged, on all 5 counts.
I never once felt like a white knight, though. more like the court jester; largely because going out of my way to help others has all too often resulted in me looking like a damned fool. =/
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Guilty as charged, on all 5 counts.
I never once felt like a white knight, though. more like the court jester; largely because going out of my way to help others has all too often resulted in me looking like a damned fool. =/
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Muysoing
Not a rescuer
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(I doubt myself as not a good person. Because when parents make me angry, I ghost them so I pretend not to hear when they talk to me including asking to do things)
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Not a rescuer
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(I doubt myself as not a good person. Because when parents make me angry, I ghost them so I pretend not to hear when they talk to me including asking to do things)
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MJ
I think that putting others' problems over your own is a coping mechanism to distract yourself from your own problems. It's like an addiction, that you need to treat with patience and compassion.
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I think that putting others' problems over your own is a coping mechanism to distract yourself from your own problems. It's like an addiction, that you need to treat with patience and compassion.
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raven
Oh I definitely relate to some of these. It probably comes from the fact that i have a sibling that's almost a decade younger than me and I was always responsible for them.
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Oh I definitely relate to some of these. It probably comes from the fact that i have a sibling that's almost a decade younger than me and I was always responsible for them.
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Reilly-K
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