7 Signs Of An Abusive Friendship
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Date: 2023-08-20
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Derpycorn
I had two best friends, one of them is still my best friend, I'll call her R and the other I'll call L. I always thought L was a good friend because we shared the same hobbies and interests, and I thought it would feel nice to hand around someone that likes anime and drawing, unlike R, who only really watches Naruto and never really draws unless it's for school, but because I liked that me and L shared the same hobbies, I failed to realize how toxic she was, for example: she would always make me draw on my homework to see who draws better, and then when we showed other people our art and told them to say who's is better sometimes when they said mine was better L would not be happy, and sometimes she would steal from schools and steal other things and she would give them to me so I would get in trouble with her, and if she asked us to meet up and I said I couldn't go she would say you better meet up with me or else, unless you're just a bad friend, and sometimes she would make me do trust falls as an excuse for her to touch my bottom and my chest in inappropriate ways, I still didn't realize how bad of a friend L was, but my best friend R did. R always noticed how L would try getting me to talk to her even when I was trying to focus on work, L was also very possessive but would often call R possessive for protecting me, L would get jealous if I said I was hanging out with R, and when me and R made plans to meet up by ourselves L would show up uninvited (just to be clear we sometimes didn't invite her because me and R either working on schoolwork or we were talking about struggles we had at our homes and stuff, and we knew that if we invited L she would just tell people) R would always try to convince me to stop being friends with L buy I was too scared to tell L that I didn't want to be her friend so R (Who is very confident and confrontational) helped me by telling L that I didn't want friends with her, and while she told her I hid behind R because I was scared, and then L would tell me that R is the one who is jealous and L would tell me that she's not a bad friend R just hates her, which is not true, R didn't hate her she just knew that the friendship me and L had was unhealthy, I am so grateful for having R here though because when I would go to R for help she would help me and when I did trust falls with R she wouldn't use it as and excuse to touch me inappropriately. I am thankful for R. She really is the best friend. :) also, sorry. I needed to vent.
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I had two best friends, one of them is still my best friend, I'll call her R and the other I'll call L. I always thought L was a good friend because we shared the same hobbies and interests, and I thought it would feel nice to hand around someone that likes anime and drawing, unlike R, who only really watches Naruto and never really draws unless it's for school, but because I liked that me and L shared the same hobbies, I failed to realize how toxic she was, for example: she would always make me draw on my homework to see who draws better, and then when we showed other people our art and told them to say who's is better sometimes when they said mine was better L would not be happy, and sometimes she would steal from schools and steal other things and she would give them to me so I would get in trouble with her, and if she asked us to meet up and I said I couldn't go she would say you better meet up with me or else, unless you're just a bad friend, and sometimes she would make me do trust falls as an excuse for her to touch my bottom and my chest in inappropriate ways, I still didn't realize how bad of a friend L was, but my best friend R did. R always noticed how L would try getting me to talk to her even when I was trying to focus on work, L was also very possessive but would often call R possessive for protecting me, L would get jealous if I said I was hanging out with R, and when me and R made plans to meet up by ourselves L would show up uninvited (just to be clear we sometimes didn't invite her because me and R either working on schoolwork or we were talking about struggles we had at our homes and stuff, and we knew that if we invited L she would just tell people) R would always try to convince me to stop being friends with L buy I was too scared to tell L that I didn't want to be her friend so R (Who is very confident and confrontational) helped me by telling L that I didn't want friends with her, and while she told her I hid behind R because I was scared, and then L would tell me that R is the one who is jealous and L would tell me that she's not a bad friend R just hates her, which is not true, R didn't hate her she just knew that the friendship me and L had was unhealthy, I am so grateful for having R here though because when I would go to R for help she would help me and when I did trust falls with R she wouldn't use it as and excuse to touch me inappropriately. I am thankful for R. She really is the best friend. :) also, sorry. I needed to vent.
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Samia
I have that friend let call her Madison I have like other friends too and I have 3 friend Madison and the others will be Sarah and Yana Madison always trys to like let me feeling out like when its gym time she gets to pick and a nother person too she picks Sarah and Yana and then picks a nother person I was like pick me but then the other group picks me and I hate Madison she always begins a fight and then I have Yana by me side and Sarah by her and Yana always tells here problem with Madison I don't she is like is soo great that we start a fight inhate her but ghe2 days later she is back with them bruh and Sarah she is like I call her little because she is little but I knly called her that three times but then Yana calls her that and she laughs and then i was like she say little to you and Sarah say that is one time and then Yana do is for over a week and I ddit say anything I never tell them what I think but is hold have done that and if a I did I have zero friend everyone has a friend they always will say no new friend ok that's why and this took long there is soo much I can tell but it will be long
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I have that friend let call her Madison I have like other friends too and I have 3 friend Madison and the others will be Sarah and Yana Madison always trys to like let me feeling out like when its gym time she gets to pick and a nother person too she picks Sarah and Yana and then picks a nother person I was like pick me but then the other group picks me and I hate Madison she always begins a fight and then I have Yana by me side and Sarah by her and Yana always tells here problem with Madison I don't she is like is soo great that we start a fight inhate her but ghe2 days later she is back with them bruh and Sarah she is like I call her little because she is little but I knly called her that three times but then Yana calls her that and she laughs and then i was like she say little to you and Sarah say that is one time and then Yana do is for over a week and I ddit say anything I never tell them what I think but is hold have done that and if a I did I have zero friend everyone has a friend they always will say no new friend ok that's why and this took long there is soo much I can tell but it will be long
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The
I was friends with someone that treated me like shit and they were so easily pissed off at everything i do wrong. They also didnt care about my interests and kept shoving theirs down my throat. I once got called an idiot for not knowing some sort of app called mystic messenger. It hurt that i was the one making an effort to be their friend, but they never reciprocated. Instead they would sing praises about another person they are friends with because that person somehow doesnt piss them off. While i was always berated. They also think me getting distracted is the same as ghosting them. I am so glad they cut me off because i couldnt deal with them. But due to them, i now consider games like persona 5 and little nightmares as bad memory triggers. I have nothing against the games themselves but the person that liked them has soured my want to play them.
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I was friends with someone that treated me like shit and they were so easily pissed off at everything i do wrong. They also didnt care about my interests and kept shoving theirs down my throat. I once got called an idiot for not knowing some sort of app called mystic messenger. It hurt that i was the one making an effort to be their friend, but they never reciprocated. Instead they would sing praises about another person they are friends with because that person somehow doesnt piss them off. While i was always berated. They also think me getting distracted is the same as ghosting them. I am so glad they cut me off because i couldnt deal with them. But due to them, i now consider games like persona 5 and little nightmares as bad memory triggers. I have nothing against the games themselves but the person that liked them has soured my want to play them.
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No
Ive been with my friend for almost 6 years now and my mom really likes her and her mom likes me the 1st like 4 years were normal friendships but last year I felt like she changed and I tried not being friends with her but I felt like I had to because of our parents and our past and last school year my life was good we were still friends but not best friends anymore and I was friends with this another girl who really helped me get out out of that bad relationship but then my lad friend started saying things and now I went from everyone liking me to almost no one and she makes me feel like I cant leave her cuz I wont have anyone else but I want to cuz she ruined everything for me and I feel like I cant bc of parents I dont know what to do and Im not sure if its really an abuse friendship
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Ive been with my friend for almost 6 years now and my mom really likes her and her mom likes me the 1st like 4 years were normal friendships but last year I felt like she changed and I tried not being friends with her but I felt like I had to because of our parents and our past and last school year my life was good we were still friends but not best friends anymore and I was friends with this another girl who really helped me get out out of that bad relationship but then my lad friend started saying things and now I went from everyone liking me to almost no one and she makes me feel like I cant leave her cuz I wont have anyone else but I want to cuz she ruined everything for me and I feel like I cant bc of parents I dont know what to do and Im not sure if its really an abuse friendship
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RPDTyrant103
Not only was I in this situation. But he was doing this to another person who I thought was my friend. When I warned her, me and two other people talked to her about it. In the end she kicked both the toxic guy and me from her community but said she hoped both of us would come back some day. We talked about boundaries, and she apologized for hurting my feelings. Butt she still hangs out with him and I never see her now. She said I could watch her streams on twitch, but the toxic guy is always there. I decided it best to cut ties with both. It's clear she didn't believe me or respect me. It hurts so bad. But I know I did the right thing in warning her. To bad I'm the one that got removed.
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Not only was I in this situation. But he was doing this to another person who I thought was my friend. When I warned her, me and two other people talked to her about it. In the end she kicked both the toxic guy and me from her community but said she hoped both of us would come back some day. We talked about boundaries, and she apologized for hurting my feelings. Butt she still hangs out with him and I never see her now. She said I could watch her streams on twitch, but the toxic guy is always there. I decided it best to cut ties with both. It's clear she didn't believe me or respect me. It hurts so bad. But I know I did the right thing in warning her. To bad I'm the one that got removed.
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Plecostomus
I already knew very well one of my friends was toxic but last time i tried not being her friend she made friends with all my friends at my school and basically took them from me, hanging out with them the entire time, meanwhile my other friends would make up excuses to hang out with her and not me and pretend they hate her when around me. So yea the only reason why im not completely done with her is because I would be completely lonely and friendless if i let her go. As a person who has a hard time making new friends it would be real hard to find new people, which IS comething i tried to do back when i was avoiding my toxic friend, but she took those new friends away too.
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I already knew very well one of my friends was toxic but last time i tried not being her friend she made friends with all my friends at my school and basically took them from me, hanging out with them the entire time, meanwhile my other friends would make up excuses to hang out with her and not me and pretend they hate her when around me. So yea the only reason why im not completely done with her is because I would be completely lonely and friendless if i let her go. As a person who has a hard time making new friends it would be real hard to find new people, which IS comething i tried to do back when i was avoiding my toxic friend, but she took those new friends away too.
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Fin
Ok story time
For about 7 years I was in a abusive friendship and I'm not gonna tell u her name so lets just call her E, so at first she was the nicest friend ever. But after I started telling her about other things or friends in my life she would get angry and accuse me of not liking her anymore, and sometimes she would want me to have a sleep over but sometimes I couldn't or didn't want to so I would say sorry no maybe a different time and she would say well why not and roll her eyes. And I was not popular at the time and she was, so the one time I got a bf she would instead ask to call him instead of hanging out with me.
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Ok story time
For about 7 years I was in a abusive friendship and I'm not gonna tell u her name so lets just call her E, so at first she was the nicest friend ever. But after I started telling her about other things or friends in my life she would get angry and accuse me of not liking her anymore, and sometimes she would want me to have a sleep over but sometimes I couldn't or didn't want to so I would say sorry no maybe a different time and she would say well why not and roll her eyes. And I was not popular at the time and she was, so the one time I got a bf she would instead ask to call him instead of hanging out with me.
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Guthestothram
Guys, I've had these friends for about 10 years and they constantly ask me for money. Right now taking into account the past 10 years I'm down about $23, 000 in all. They spend it all on vacations to places like malibu and mykonos and they just say that there's just no room left on the plane and other stuff that I think is just excuses but I'm not sure. We also used to play fight and they only wrestle with each other but last time we fought they curb stomped me and I had to get almost all of my molars replaced. I haven't play fought with them since because I'm not sure I trust them. Please help let me know if I have an abusive friendship.
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Guys, I've had these friends for about 10 years and they constantly ask me for money. Right now taking into account the past 10 years I'm down about $23, 000 in all. They spend it all on vacations to places like malibu and mykonos and they just say that there's just no room left on the plane and other stuff that I think is just excuses but I'm not sure. We also used to play fight and they only wrestle with each other but last time we fought they curb stomped me and I had to get almost all of my molars replaced. I haven't play fought with them since because I'm not sure I trust them. Please help let me know if I have an abusive friendship.
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Honey_bee
Bro my friend is all like 1 to 7 she does all of them and the worst I tell my weaknesses is when someone kicks my ankles and the next day she kicks them just because she got angry because I said you ask my mom yourself cus she is the one who decides the gifts for birthdays and she wanted 700 dollars a 174 dollar acrylic paint and a new phone and iPad the phone because it had some cracks and she got mad so she started to kick my ankles and I told her to but she didn't I'm afraid to the teacher or her parents except my mom or my family
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Bro my friend is all like 1 to 7 she does all of them and the worst I tell my weaknesses is when someone kicks my ankles and the next day she kicks them just because she got angry because I said you ask my mom yourself cus she is the one who decides the gifts for birthdays and she wanted 700 dollars a 174 dollar acrylic paint and a new phone and iPad the phone because it had some cracks and she got mad so she started to kick my ankles and I told her to but she didn't I'm afraid to the teacher or her parents except my mom or my family
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Cathi
I had a friend who wanted me to defend why I wasn't attracted to men I may have just met. She kept on asking me why I wasn't? When I explained it to her she would disagree and say I should give the guy another chance. I finally realized that she was trying to get me to doubt myself and she did not respect my decisions I made for my own life. I dumped her as a friend. I have found this is not so uncommon among women. I have friends now who respect what I say and mind their own business. Anyone else relate to this
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I had a friend who wanted me to defend why I wasn't attracted to men I may have just met. She kept on asking me why I wasn't? When I explained it to her she would disagree and say I should give the guy another chance. I finally realized that she was trying to get me to doubt myself and she did not respect my decisions I made for my own life. I dumped her as a friend. I have found this is not so uncommon among women. I have friends now who respect what I say and mind their own business. Anyone else relate to this
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bts
I've always had this feeling of an abusive frienship. i didnt feel good to be with that person often all i wanna do is run away from everything also I've been physically harmed my other friends even told me to let go of tht friendship but im still scared i dont want it but the thought of confronting haunts me im really depressed and couldnt consetrate on anything I dont feel like my self anymore
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I've always had this feeling of an abusive frienship. i didnt feel good to be with that person often all i wanna do is run away from everything also I've been physically harmed my other friends even told me to let go of tht friendship but im still scared i dont want it but the thought of confronting haunts me im really depressed and couldnt consetrate on anything I dont feel like my self anymore
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100Violin100
thank you for this because i get bullied and think my friends are all fake expet for macy. j she is my true friend she is funny always listens to what i have to say isnt afraid to intervene and is the best friend i could ever have
and thwn their is anabelle. f. r she was my 2nd friend she is perfect good grades pretty kind
so with macy the best friends that i could ever have
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thank you for this because i get bullied and think my friends are all fake expet for macy. j she is my true friend she is funny always listens to what i have to say isnt afraid to intervene and is the best friend i could ever have
and thwn their is anabelle. f. r she was my 2nd friend she is perfect good grades pretty kind
so with macy the best friends that i could ever have
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Kiaya's
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This part is relatable. Many people are afraid of losing the one person they care about that also cares about them. So much so thay they become possesive and try to keep you like you're their pet. It's not completely their fault that they developed this type of anxiety but trying to own your partner or friend is going to increase the chances of them leaving you.
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This part is relatable. Many people are afraid of losing the one person they care about that also cares about them. So much so thay they become possesive and try to keep you like you're their pet. It's not completely their fault that they developed this type of anxiety but trying to own your partner or friend is going to increase the chances of them leaving you.
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Roland
I'm thinking of going to therapy because lately, I feel like these signs are occurring to me. I'm the bad friend, actually. I make my best friend really uncomfortable. I want to make amends, but he said he needs time and space. Though, I'm afraid that our relationship may not be like before (or it might be friendship over) I'll give him time and space he really wanted.
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I'm thinking of going to therapy because lately, I feel like these signs are occurring to me. I'm the bad friend, actually. I make my best friend really uncomfortable. I want to make amends, but he said he needs time and space. Though, I'm afraid that our relationship may not be like before (or it might be friendship over) I'll give him time and space he really wanted.
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Ellie
my 'friend' always makes fun of how big my forehead is and she wont stop no matter what i say she also ingores me to go see other people and i dont want to be friends with her bc it means she just wont stop she hits me to. i get sceard when she walks behind me bc she hits me and no one ever does anything about it. im so happy im not going to the same school as her soon.
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my 'friend' always makes fun of how big my forehead is and she wont stop no matter what i say she also ingores me to go see other people and i dont want to be friends with her bc it means she just wont stop she hits me to. i get sceard when she walks behind me bc she hits me and no one ever does anything about it. im so happy im not going to the same school as her soon.
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noodle
I wish I knew this sooner since I was in one of these. If my friend was ever angry, they would ignore me and nobody else a lot. Now Im constantly scared if someone ignores me, they are mad at me. I hate the fact I never saw the red flags. They apologized and I tried multiple times to forgive and forget because I didnt want to lose someone I knew for 5 years.
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I wish I knew this sooner since I was in one of these. If my friend was ever angry, they would ignore me and nobody else a lot. Now Im constantly scared if someone ignores me, they are mad at me. I hate the fact I never saw the red flags. They apologized and I tried multiple times to forgive and forget because I didnt want to lose someone I knew for 5 years.
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ROHANIA
You see. I have this VERY nice friend and she always likes to share her money with me and I feel like Im using her for that. am I a bad friend?
I am an extrovert person so I like having things fun and embarrasing stuff. Do you think that my friends might accept me as there friend? I sometimes think that I do not deserve to have friens like them.
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You see. I have this VERY nice friend and she always likes to share her money with me and I feel like Im using her for that. am I a bad friend?
I am an extrovert person so I like having things fun and embarrasing stuff. Do you think that my friends might accept me as there friend? I sometimes think that I do not deserve to have friens like them.
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Sky
I mean, don't get me wrong, I used to be jealous of my best friend for spending time with their OTHER best friends. But after he reassured me that he's never gonna abandon me, I quickly got over my jealously and ended up befriending my best friend's other best friends. And yes, I do sometimes depend on him to help me out with stuff, but not 24/7.
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I mean, don't get me wrong, I used to be jealous of my best friend for spending time with their OTHER best friends. But after he reassured me that he's never gonna abandon me, I quickly got over my jealously and ended up befriending my best friend's other best friends. And yes, I do sometimes depend on him to help me out with stuff, but not 24/7.
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education
I'm defiantly an abusive friend but my one friend I'm on touch with aka my only friend I have, always gets really sad when I tell them I'm a bad friend and when I want to think about ways to make things better they get really really reaaaaaally mad at me and they cry and their sad for like forever till I'm friends with them again.
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I'm defiantly an abusive friend but my one friend I'm on touch with aka my only friend I have, always gets really sad when I tell them I'm a bad friend and when I want to think about ways to make things better they get really really reaaaaaally mad at me and they cry and their sad for like forever till I'm friends with them again.
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Lillyanna
My freind hates when I play with my other freind and one time she said stay away from her but its ok bc her mum died and my mum and her mum were really good freinds but her mum died in a car crash with one of my freinds in there her sister got a broken leg and she is really protective of me there names are Latoya and regan
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My freind hates when I play with my other freind and one time she said stay away from her but its ok bc her mum died and my mum and her mum were really good freinds but her mum died in a car crash with one of my freinds in there her sister got a broken leg and she is really protective of me there names are Latoya and regan
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education
one of my friends who really stand out to these is one of my friends ive known for 4 years and alongside these they also hit me and make unessecary (im sorry i cant spell) comments about my opinions to which i think was one of them but i love them as my friends but atm we are falling out.
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one of my friends who really stand out to these is one of my friends ive known for 4 years and alongside these they also hit me and make unessecary (im sorry i cant spell) comments about my opinions to which i think was one of them but i love them as my friends but atm we are falling out.
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education
My ex friend, screamed at me for wanting a break from our group, and made excuses to be mad at me, while she would do the exact same thing and it wasn't a big deal or considered rude by any of our group members. She expects me to say sorry to her for no reason whatsoever
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My ex friend, screamed at me for wanting a break from our group, and made excuses to be mad at me, while she would do the exact same thing and it wasn't a big deal or considered rude by any of our group members. She expects me to say sorry to her for no reason whatsoever
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Keira
i dont like my friends i keep on helping them with study and they just keep annoying me in a rude way we end up fighting and they never apologize i ended up apologizing. deep in my heart i wanna cut ties with them and move one but its hard. cuz their my childhood friend.
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i dont like my friends i keep on helping them with study and they just keep annoying me in a rude way we end up fighting and they never apologize i ended up apologizing. deep in my heart i wanna cut ties with them and move one but its hard. cuz their my childhood friend.
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RadioactiveL
This is making me wanna share every story I have about me and my abusive friend I had for a long time during my childhood. She was extremely manipulative and sometimes hit me. I was around eight when it started. Please i wanna write down everything rn.
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This is making me wanna share every story I have about me and my abusive friend I had for a long time during my childhood. She was extremely manipulative and sometimes hit me. I was around eight when it started. Please i wanna write down everything rn.
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Char
I feel like these are all correct but there is one more that I want to add on. They abandon u. U know when they just randomly stop talking to u but still end asking for favors and stuff. Ive had that happen to me so I understand how u might feel.
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I feel like these are all correct but there is one more that I want to add on. They abandon u. U know when they just randomly stop talking to u but still end asking for favors and stuff. Ive had that happen to me so I understand how u might feel.
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