7 Mind Games Narcissists Use to Manipulate You
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Date: 2023-08-20
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Melody
I've had the opportunity of being in several abusive/ toxic relationships in my life. (Now 41)
The Last two years have been a rolar coaster of upa and downs as I heal, and I couldn't be happier.
Two weeks ago, almost to the day I connected with someone I had seen in passing at a particular pharmacy I used to go to daily( since last year January I've been going to another one so I hadn't seen this person for some time)
We actually got to talking two weeks ago and things went rather quickly, tho I recognized why( my first potential romantic situation in over 2 years. We hooked up on the third day at my place but did not spend the night, ( I thought it would be a one time thing) but a day later we spent a few hours walking through a local park and ended up back at my place getting intimate again, but this time I was feeling things. so I let him stay the night, it was good.
However some of the texts he would send a day later really looked and felt like the early red flag texts I would received from past toxic/abusive partners) But he would apologize for what he said the next day when I saw him. Saying he was stressed out at work and stressed put from his living situation at home( living with his narcissistic/emotionalally abusive mother 33)
This too was ared flag but he spoke about trying to find his own place to get away from her(but he had been living with her n ths situation for over 8 month at least. I also noticed he would be broke just days after getting paid. so. I'm not an idiot and knew he would never get his own place being so financially irresponsible.
Just a cpl days ago, he kept dropping hints that he wanted to stay another night. i stared to get concerned that he would try to ask to move in with me. plus we hadn't even gone on an official date yet, tho I had tried to plan one with him last Sunday but he slept in and then told em he didn't thing it was a for sure thing even tho the day before we spoke about it n length about all the things were were gong to do with his full day off from work.
Plus he told em the night before to be ready early in the morning. and I was at 8am. Waiting in a coffee shop for 2 hours for him to txt back or answer my calls. I even stopped by his mom's house and knocked on all doors. then went back to the coffee shop.
Finally around 130pm he got back to me. I was so disappointed and he kept minimizing the whole thing. he stayed the night night to e was so slow getting ready we never got to my place until 7pm. also this whole time he kept dropping little hints saying. staying with me was so good for him and helped him relax and better than his mom's place.
So the whole 11 days we saw eachother I visited him at his mom's house almost every single day. Untill this past Thursday. Ihave been taking an on line course and spending too much time with him so I told him this that my school work was just abut to auffer than I had to catch up and needed to go to bed early that I couldn't have company. he did not like this. and sent many texts saying I was being selfish, only thinking about myself, that I never meet him half way?
There we soo many texts from him, and I felt it was WAAAY too early to this kind of shit and even if we were a couple of 6or 8months that this stuff would never fly with me.
I'm 100% independent and I didn't want anyone to compromise that. If anything would want someone to COMPLIMENT it, as good couples should do to eachother right?
Anyway I responded one short text to his 10 or 12 mini novels of gaslighting. and decided I did not need to expose myself to this behavior and blocked him from sending any more or calling. I felt a little guilty but it had been less that 2 weeks
. was I wrong to do that?
I mean he was well aware I have struggled my whole life with depression and anxiety and the last 9 years with PTSD. so I HAVE to protect myself. I did explain that in my last text. I said this wasn't what I thought it was going to be and it was a mistake and that we could be friends or say goodbye.
I felt strong and proud for standing up for myself ( something I had never had the courage or strength to do in prior relationships and those dragged on for years!
Anyway, I hope whoever reads this gets something positive out of it. or share what you think. sorry it's kind of all over the place. It was kind of a sporadic thing to do.
Have a good day and stay strong out there! Your beautiful and worth it!
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I've had the opportunity of being in several abusive/ toxic relationships in my life. (Now 41)
The Last two years have been a rolar coaster of upa and downs as I heal, and I couldn't be happier.
Two weeks ago, almost to the day I connected with someone I had seen in passing at a particular pharmacy I used to go to daily( since last year January I've been going to another one so I hadn't seen this person for some time)
We actually got to talking two weeks ago and things went rather quickly, tho I recognized why( my first potential romantic situation in over 2 years. We hooked up on the third day at my place but did not spend the night, ( I thought it would be a one time thing) but a day later we spent a few hours walking through a local park and ended up back at my place getting intimate again, but this time I was feeling things. so I let him stay the night, it was good.
However some of the texts he would send a day later really looked and felt like the early red flag texts I would received from past toxic/abusive partners) But he would apologize for what he said the next day when I saw him. Saying he was stressed out at work and stressed put from his living situation at home( living with his narcissistic/emotionalally abusive mother 33)
This too was ared flag but he spoke about trying to find his own place to get away from her(but he had been living with her n ths situation for over 8 month at least. I also noticed he would be broke just days after getting paid. so. I'm not an idiot and knew he would never get his own place being so financially irresponsible.
Just a cpl days ago, he kept dropping hints that he wanted to stay another night. i stared to get concerned that he would try to ask to move in with me. plus we hadn't even gone on an official date yet, tho I had tried to plan one with him last Sunday but he slept in and then told em he didn't thing it was a for sure thing even tho the day before we spoke about it n length about all the things were were gong to do with his full day off from work.
Plus he told em the night before to be ready early in the morning. and I was at 8am. Waiting in a coffee shop for 2 hours for him to txt back or answer my calls. I even stopped by his mom's house and knocked on all doors. then went back to the coffee shop.
Finally around 130pm he got back to me. I was so disappointed and he kept minimizing the whole thing. he stayed the night night to e was so slow getting ready we never got to my place until 7pm. also this whole time he kept dropping little hints saying. staying with me was so good for him and helped him relax and better than his mom's place.
So the whole 11 days we saw eachother I visited him at his mom's house almost every single day. Untill this past Thursday. Ihave been taking an on line course and spending too much time with him so I told him this that my school work was just abut to auffer than I had to catch up and needed to go to bed early that I couldn't have company. he did not like this. and sent many texts saying I was being selfish, only thinking about myself, that I never meet him half way?
There we soo many texts from him, and I felt it was WAAAY too early to this kind of shit and even if we were a couple of 6or 8months that this stuff would never fly with me.
I'm 100% independent and I didn't want anyone to compromise that. If anything would want someone to COMPLIMENT it, as good couples should do to eachother right?
Anyway I responded one short text to his 10 or 12 mini novels of gaslighting. and decided I did not need to expose myself to this behavior and blocked him from sending any more or calling. I felt a little guilty but it had been less that 2 weeks
. was I wrong to do that?
I mean he was well aware I have struggled my whole life with depression and anxiety and the last 9 years with PTSD. so I HAVE to protect myself. I did explain that in my last text. I said this wasn't what I thought it was going to be and it was a mistake and that we could be friends or say goodbye.
I felt strong and proud for standing up for myself ( something I had never had the courage or strength to do in prior relationships and those dragged on for years!
Anyway, I hope whoever reads this gets something positive out of it. or share what you think. sorry it's kind of all over the place. It was kind of a sporadic thing to do.
Have a good day and stay strong out there! Your beautiful and worth it!
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DrLauraRPalmer
Lord have mercy, stop one tracking people with diagnosis that everybody suffered from at some point. Narcissism, sociopathy, autism and psychopathy are all VERY complex conditions and NO you cant just diagnose ANYONE simply from having these negative traits. It takes a long time to determine which condition you have. So How completely ignorant and irresponsible to teach others with zero medical training how to blindly diagnose people.
Helll, half of the fire sign people I know act this way and theyre not narcissist. Many people are just unhappy wity their lives and dwell more on their lower side vs their higher side but that doesnt mean theyre narcissists simply bc theyre dwelling within their lower frequency self and yes misery does cause several of these traits to be in ones personality.
People can be having a bad year or three but then find a break and their frequency rises and they no longer revert to their darker self-centered side.
Heck, according to this highly incorrect video, most of the people in the hood are narcissist then. But no, theyre really just living in their lower frequency and dwell within chaotic environments bc thats what low frequency is about. Its depressing and when youre depressed it seems you lash out and hurt others. Hurt people hurt people. Its true. Happiness brings on your best self. You rise above ugly petty selfish darker ways. Thats called being human. Your higher self.
REAL NARCISSISM is what you see Kanye West doing. THATS narcissism.
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Lord have mercy, stop one tracking people with diagnosis that everybody suffered from at some point. Narcissism, sociopathy, autism and psychopathy are all VERY complex conditions and NO you cant just diagnose ANYONE simply from having these negative traits. It takes a long time to determine which condition you have. So How completely ignorant and irresponsible to teach others with zero medical training how to blindly diagnose people.
Helll, half of the fire sign people I know act this way and theyre not narcissist. Many people are just unhappy wity their lives and dwell more on their lower side vs their higher side but that doesnt mean theyre narcissists simply bc theyre dwelling within their lower frequency self and yes misery does cause several of these traits to be in ones personality.
People can be having a bad year or three but then find a break and their frequency rises and they no longer revert to their darker self-centered side.
Heck, according to this highly incorrect video, most of the people in the hood are narcissist then. But no, theyre really just living in their lower frequency and dwell within chaotic environments bc thats what low frequency is about. Its depressing and when youre depressed it seems you lash out and hurt others. Hurt people hurt people. Its true. Happiness brings on your best self. You rise above ugly petty selfish darker ways. Thats called being human. Your higher self.
REAL NARCISSISM is what you see Kanye West doing. THATS narcissism.
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Sherell
I just believe people are set in their ways. Theres a reason behind every actions. No excuses but actual truth! Im listening to every single step to determine if youre dealing with a narcissist. I believe everyone is stuck in their own ways. People should really be honest with themselves and ask themselves have I ever done any of those things I bet every single person has at least done one two or more of those things. Nobody can judge you all but God. Its okay to be truthful to yourself and others. Im not a narcissist but I definitely have some of those moments. Were not perfect at all. If you attract a narcissist, then that should tell you a lot about yourself. You are WHO YOU ATTRACT. If you stay with someone youre noticing narcissistic traits but you decided to stay. Its a attraction to you. So like I said people. Ask yourself why did you attract a narcissist in the first place. Ask yourself have you experience doing either one of those steps. Also ask yourself why did you choose to stay with someone with narcissistic traits or an actual narcissist? Come on people. Be honest with yall selves. You are what you attract. Know yourself before judging others for their trauma or behavior in general. Understand yourself so you can understand others and if you cant then you need to remove yourself out of their lives. Now Amen on God sending me here. Im not judging Im speaking facts in my opinion. Be blessed people.
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I just believe people are set in their ways. Theres a reason behind every actions. No excuses but actual truth! Im listening to every single step to determine if youre dealing with a narcissist. I believe everyone is stuck in their own ways. People should really be honest with themselves and ask themselves have I ever done any of those things I bet every single person has at least done one two or more of those things. Nobody can judge you all but God. Its okay to be truthful to yourself and others. Im not a narcissist but I definitely have some of those moments. Were not perfect at all. If you attract a narcissist, then that should tell you a lot about yourself. You are WHO YOU ATTRACT. If you stay with someone youre noticing narcissistic traits but you decided to stay. Its a attraction to you. So like I said people. Ask yourself why did you attract a narcissist in the first place. Ask yourself have you experience doing either one of those steps. Also ask yourself why did you choose to stay with someone with narcissistic traits or an actual narcissist? Come on people. Be honest with yall selves. You are what you attract. Know yourself before judging others for their trauma or behavior in general. Understand yourself so you can understand others and if you cant then you need to remove yourself out of their lives. Now Amen on God sending me here. Im not judging Im speaking facts in my opinion. Be blessed people.
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PrettyDej
4 I literally heard I had to teach you a lesson, mind you- my 2 year old daughter whom is an only child was statutorily kidnapped by an estranged Family member. Edit: obviously me being comfortable to speak on that publicly means shes safe with me but I also speak out on it because not enough people talk about how abusive family will become when someone becomes a Parent, they wouldnt actually raise your child yet they will compromise your home for their knowingness forgetting the last time they had kids, we were allowed in the bars with them and they didnt get in trouble for beating us with household items- our generation is fked for telling our kids straight like theyre grown I dont wanna raise an ignorant person everyone has to accomodate tho!
Talk about kicking someone when theyre down I struggle to feel sorry for myself but I feel serious empathy for myself having accepted that.
It took me 4-5 days to break up with him DAYS he wouldnt hear the idea that I could and would leave we have no marriage and no kids between eachother he forgot that I was accepting, most single mamas dont want a single dad irl you want your child to be allowed to be selfish with a father figure if theyve never experienced that kindness, not be 2nd fiddle yet again to someone else.
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4 I literally heard I had to teach you a lesson, mind you- my 2 year old daughter whom is an only child was statutorily kidnapped by an estranged Family member. Edit: obviously me being comfortable to speak on that publicly means shes safe with me but I also speak out on it because not enough people talk about how abusive family will become when someone becomes a Parent, they wouldnt actually raise your child yet they will compromise your home for their knowingness forgetting the last time they had kids, we were allowed in the bars with them and they didnt get in trouble for beating us with household items- our generation is fked for telling our kids straight like theyre grown I dont wanna raise an ignorant person everyone has to accomodate tho!
Talk about kicking someone when theyre down I struggle to feel sorry for myself but I feel serious empathy for myself having accepted that.
It took me 4-5 days to break up with him DAYS he wouldnt hear the idea that I could and would leave we have no marriage and no kids between eachother he forgot that I was accepting, most single mamas dont want a single dad irl you want your child to be allowed to be selfish with a father figure if theyve never experienced that kindness, not be 2nd fiddle yet again to someone else.
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Crystalina
My sister. Didnt realise it until until i got talking to her again. Years ago she was to me a really nice person. I loved her but she kept distancing herself. A few people said she was jealous of me & my daughter! i couldn't believe it until we witnessed her comments, texts & verbally attacking dad. All about my daughter being the favourite granddaughter! Pathetic! She has also accused me of being emotionally abusive & ignored my texts. Ghosted me. Ignored me for weeks then got intouch as though nothing happened. So i finally had enough of her treatment told her hometruths. She tried to act the victim in front of my daughter. A month later she sent her son over to me who shouted at me on the front door step called me a bully, jealous, nuts & called me emotionally abusive aswell! Not sure how he could possibly see all this as hes never veen intouch with me since he was younger. Ive always been nice, happy & kind. So i reported him to the police. The police told me to not get in touch with them at all. Im glad our ties have been severed. My sister has twisted things to suit her & made her family go against me. Im relieved. Shes like a kid in s grown up body
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My sister. Didnt realise it until until i got talking to her again. Years ago she was to me a really nice person. I loved her but she kept distancing herself. A few people said she was jealous of me & my daughter! i couldn't believe it until we witnessed her comments, texts & verbally attacking dad. All about my daughter being the favourite granddaughter! Pathetic! She has also accused me of being emotionally abusive & ignored my texts. Ghosted me. Ignored me for weeks then got intouch as though nothing happened. So i finally had enough of her treatment told her hometruths. She tried to act the victim in front of my daughter. A month later she sent her son over to me who shouted at me on the front door step called me a bully, jealous, nuts & called me emotionally abusive aswell! Not sure how he could possibly see all this as hes never veen intouch with me since he was younger. Ive always been nice, happy & kind. So i reported him to the police. The police told me to not get in touch with them at all. Im glad our ties have been severed. My sister has twisted things to suit her & made her family go against me. Im relieved. Shes like a kid in s grown up body
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Anna
This is such an educational program. And I am learning that some of these trades are also in me. However I do believe that I have a balance of sorts between the narcissist and the empath in me. My narcissistic trades seem to be heightened when I feel like I am being unrightfully attacked. I have just come out of a relationship that was completely chaotic. My partner exhibited so many of these trades. Going so far as to air our laundry on social media. Calling me a narcissist and trying get people to feel sorry for him. I chose not to engage him ( on social media) knowing it would only fuel the fire. It is amazing to me that he could and cannot see his own narcissism. But instead he is projecting on me.
I don't know how one intelligent person such as himself can not evaluate his being. Recognizing his own faults seems to be impossible for him. With all that said. I strive to get better, get better at setting boundaries for me and being ok with having them.
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This is such an educational program. And I am learning that some of these trades are also in me. However I do believe that I have a balance of sorts between the narcissist and the empath in me. My narcissistic trades seem to be heightened when I feel like I am being unrightfully attacked. I have just come out of a relationship that was completely chaotic. My partner exhibited so many of these trades. Going so far as to air our laundry on social media. Calling me a narcissist and trying get people to feel sorry for him. I chose not to engage him ( on social media) knowing it would only fuel the fire. It is amazing to me that he could and cannot see his own narcissism. But instead he is projecting on me.
I don't know how one intelligent person such as himself can not evaluate his being. Recognizing his own faults seems to be impossible for him. With all that said. I strive to get better, get better at setting boundaries for me and being ok with having them.
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No
I have a narcissistic grandma and she fat shamed me in front of the waiter at a restaurant and was calling it help. And notice that with her out of my life, I've been feeling better and happier about my body. I'm not fat, but I'm also not skinny. I'm in the middle, and I think being in the middle is better than being way over weight. Plus, the weight I have on my body is from my hypothyroidism disorder. It causes me to get unnecessary weight on my body and no matter how hard I try to lose the weight, I can't lose it because of the disorder. I know having my grandma out of my life is a bit much because I might not have a lot time left with her, but understand that my mental health has been a lot better than it used to be when I was around my grandma.
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I have a narcissistic grandma and she fat shamed me in front of the waiter at a restaurant and was calling it help. And notice that with her out of my life, I've been feeling better and happier about my body. I'm not fat, but I'm also not skinny. I'm in the middle, and I think being in the middle is better than being way over weight. Plus, the weight I have on my body is from my hypothyroidism disorder. It causes me to get unnecessary weight on my body and no matter how hard I try to lose the weight, I can't lose it because of the disorder. I know having my grandma out of my life is a bit much because I might not have a lot time left with her, but understand that my mental health has been a lot better than it used to be when I was around my grandma.
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Yokito049
I feel like im a bit of a narcissist. Ik i have traits
Im a pathological liar and am aware of that. Its kinda hard to control
I always find myself steering the conversation about myself. It feels like a disability not being able to connect with someone or even trying to feel or understand their feelings like empaths would.
And for that i hate myself which made me suicidal. Ive tried like 3 times?
Anyway as for attention seeking
I cant tell if i am doing it out of need or want. Its hard to tell.
Heck i dont even know if i am doing it
Its hard
Though as a kid i wasnt aware of all that and ive been a pretty bad boi lol
Hated myself for that
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I feel like im a bit of a narcissist. Ik i have traits
Im a pathological liar and am aware of that. Its kinda hard to control
I always find myself steering the conversation about myself. It feels like a disability not being able to connect with someone or even trying to feel or understand their feelings like empaths would.
And for that i hate myself which made me suicidal. Ive tried like 3 times?
Anyway as for attention seeking
I cant tell if i am doing it out of need or want. Its hard to tell.
Heck i dont even know if i am doing it
Its hard
Though as a kid i wasnt aware of all that and ive been a pretty bad boi lol
Hated myself for that
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Intrusive
Yeah I think I met someone with all the Toxic traits or at least majority of it, & if that 1 person sees this post the person I am talking about I basically gathered a year & like 3 months of info, whole lot of info about em from em telling me about themselves where I can basically can take them down anytime I wanted to but 1st I used all the stone hard cold truth & their words own words against them & pinning them in a corner where they couldn't even spread anything bad about me even if they tried. In fact I took it 1 step further & said I'll even ruin your life if I found out u hurt any1 IK or cared about with all the info IK.
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Yeah I think I met someone with all the Toxic traits or at least majority of it, & if that 1 person sees this post the person I am talking about I basically gathered a year & like 3 months of info, whole lot of info about em from em telling me about themselves where I can basically can take them down anytime I wanted to but 1st I used all the stone hard cold truth & their words own words against them & pinning them in a corner where they couldn't even spread anything bad about me even if they tried. In fact I took it 1 step further & said I'll even ruin your life if I found out u hurt any1 IK or cared about with all the info IK.
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Lucius
I love the way how, instead of apointing what to do to narcissists about their lives, everyone manhunts them. I mean - they deserve to get a therapy, since they are regular human beings too!
Think about it this way. I would seriously love types of videos like how can you see that you are a narcissistic person or how to convince narcissists to take a therapy etc.
It's unimaginable too me how terrible it needs to be their victim, but the best think instead of hunting these people down and leaving them in complete solitude would be to help them the proper way.
Anything else is just a pure shallowness.
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I love the way how, instead of apointing what to do to narcissists about their lives, everyone manhunts them. I mean - they deserve to get a therapy, since they are regular human beings too!
Think about it this way. I would seriously love types of videos like how can you see that you are a narcissistic person or how to convince narcissists to take a therapy etc.
It's unimaginable too me how terrible it needs to be their victim, but the best think instead of hunting these people down and leaving them in complete solitude would be to help them the proper way.
Anything else is just a pure shallowness.
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davebtv
The problem with this is video is that it portrays men as the main perpetrators of NPD. I am male and a recovering victim of domestic abuse perpetrated by my ex-wife. It took ten years of therapy before being informed that my symptoms resemble CPTSD. I cant help but think if I had been female I would have been taken seriously earlier on. Our daughter is also involved in the scenario whom is in her custody so Im trying to figure out how this is affecting her. Again, had I been told this earlier on I would have been able to mitigate the damage which would most assuredly would be less than it is now.
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The problem with this is video is that it portrays men as the main perpetrators of NPD. I am male and a recovering victim of domestic abuse perpetrated by my ex-wife. It took ten years of therapy before being informed that my symptoms resemble CPTSD. I cant help but think if I had been female I would have been taken seriously earlier on. Our daughter is also involved in the scenario whom is in her custody so Im trying to figure out how this is affecting her. Again, had I been told this earlier on I would have been able to mitigate the damage which would most assuredly would be less than it is now.
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Highandhungry
I live with my girlfriend in a studio apartment, I havent been giving her enough attention lately and I know it, she gets very upset but I feel nothing and then she becomes very upset that I shut down and become emotionless, I can definitely see our relationship going down the drain and probably would have already if we werent on a lease together. I think I exhibit some of these behaviors and I have been selfish my entire life as far as I know. I just dont know why I always become emotionless in my relationships but I dont mean to hurt or try to change anyone.
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I live with my girlfriend in a studio apartment, I havent been giving her enough attention lately and I know it, she gets very upset but I feel nothing and then she becomes very upset that I shut down and become emotionless, I can definitely see our relationship going down the drain and probably would have already if we werent on a lease together. I think I exhibit some of these behaviors and I have been selfish my entire life as far as I know. I just dont know why I always become emotionless in my relationships but I dont mean to hurt or try to change anyone.
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Cat
I learned that the only way to beat them is their game is to not react to any accusations they throw at you, if they keep on insisting just tell them and say that you believe them and give them a smile. This will make them think that you do not believe them and you just agree to their lies just to end an argument. Or you can simply just ignore them. :) Show them that you do not care anymore. They will eventually pull away. I am with a narcissist, and it makes him go crazy. I usually mimic everything he does just to annoy him. If he's toxic, I can be more toxic.
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I learned that the only way to beat them is their game is to not react to any accusations they throw at you, if they keep on insisting just tell them and say that you believe them and give them a smile. This will make them think that you do not believe them and you just agree to their lies just to end an argument. Or you can simply just ignore them. :) Show them that you do not care anymore. They will eventually pull away. I am with a narcissist, and it makes him go crazy. I usually mimic everything he does just to annoy him. If he's toxic, I can be more toxic.
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SESH
Thankyou soo much for letting me know, that's I'm not even kidding most likely 90% of people I know and I think it's all cos I like to smoke weed im autistic and ADHD it helps me to calm down but I have recently got rid of basically every friend I thought I had because of manipulation cos I'm vulnerable it's horrible the fact Ur own species would do this to it's self when u see animals of different kinds even help each other, simpy or not as I sound I stand for a perspective and my perspective is peace
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Thankyou soo much for letting me know, that's I'm not even kidding most likely 90% of people I know and I think it's all cos I like to smoke weed im autistic and ADHD it helps me to calm down but I have recently got rid of basically every friend I thought I had because of manipulation cos I'm vulnerable it's horrible the fact Ur own species would do this to it's self when u see animals of different kinds even help each other, simpy or not as I sound I stand for a perspective and my perspective is peace
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The
Narcissistic and npd are not the same thing. NPD is the rare situations when a narcissist has actually negatively effected their own life. Usually they are just cancerous to everyone around them.
A person does not need a psychologist to see someone is a narcissist but calling someone out on it is dangerous and highly likely to make the situation worse. Instead of you think you are dealing with one take the steps in videos like this to stonewall and see if it improves your life.
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Narcissistic and npd are not the same thing. NPD is the rare situations when a narcissist has actually negatively effected their own life. Usually they are just cancerous to everyone around them.
A person does not need a psychologist to see someone is a narcissist but calling someone out on it is dangerous and highly likely to make the situation worse. Instead of you think you are dealing with one take the steps in videos like this to stonewall and see if it improves your life.
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education
I get those when i confront them about what they did which is hurting me. Twice. And they just shift blame me and saying that they feel hurt when i confront them about these but they invalidate my feelings and lying about what they did to me. From now on im just trying to keep distance with them. Just become friend at the surface not best friend anymore. I feel this will happened again in the future if i still become close friend with them.
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I get those when i confront them about what they did which is hurting me. Twice. And they just shift blame me and saying that they feel hurt when i confront them about these but they invalidate my feelings and lying about what they did to me. From now on im just trying to keep distance with them. Just become friend at the surface not best friend anymore. I feel this will happened again in the future if i still become close friend with them.
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Jack
My alcoholic husband is a covert narcissist. He consistently lies, and calls me mad/crazy/mentally unstable or whatever, and has turned people against me throughout our marriage. Im sick to death of his manipulative behaviour. Im taking back my life, and he can carry on trying to treat me like this, but I am going to ignore anything that he does or says, with a big blank stare. Lets see how that works out for him.
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My alcoholic husband is a covert narcissist. He consistently lies, and calls me mad/crazy/mentally unstable or whatever, and has turned people against me throughout our marriage. Im sick to death of his manipulative behaviour. Im taking back my life, and he can carry on trying to treat me like this, but I am going to ignore anything that he does or says, with a big blank stare. Lets see how that works out for him.
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Infinite
I married a narcissist and idk how to detach from it Im in so much pain right now. The last thing he told me was youre not a good person, youre a horrible person, youre a bad person.
All because I told him I didnt think its a good idea to take out someone he just met to a shooting range. He thinks I have some sort of agenda. But this time he really crossed the line. Those words destroyed me.
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I married a narcissist and idk how to detach from it Im in so much pain right now. The last thing he told me was youre not a good person, youre a horrible person, youre a bad person.
All because I told him I didnt think its a good idea to take out someone he just met to a shooting range. He thinks I have some sort of agenda. But this time he really crossed the line. Those words destroyed me.
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Dan
All this is spot-on with my ex. Two years ago she fractured my skull with a metal bat and it doesn't bother her not one bit even though I'm traumatized going to love of my life trying to kill me. She has a thousand excuses she told me to get over it she told me stop being a baby she told me she apologized for it already. I'm still hurt! I left this person a week ago.
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All this is spot-on with my ex. Two years ago she fractured my skull with a metal bat and it doesn't bother her not one bit even though I'm traumatized going to love of my life trying to kill me. She has a thousand excuses she told me to get over it she told me stop being a baby she told me she apologized for it already. I'm still hurt! I left this person a week ago.
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Ligma
Guys, here's an advice from an actual narcissist: tell them what you think of them. The problem with many narcissists is that we don't recognise that we are actually wrong, we genuenly believe that everything we do is justified. It took a heated argument and cutting ties with all my friends to realise there was something wrong with me and not them
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Guys, here's an advice from an actual narcissist: tell them what you think of them. The problem with many narcissists is that we don't recognise that we are actually wrong, we genuenly believe that everything we do is justified. It took a heated argument and cutting ties with all my friends to realise there was something wrong with me and not them
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shira
my mom has all npd signs but shes not a narcissist. at least i dont want to believe so. she prob isnt and im jist being dramatic anyways. she can be manipulative but i love her WJY DO I HAVE DEJA VU LIKE I DREAMT ABT THIS MOMENT BEFORE IDK THIS IS RANDOM BUT LIKE HELP
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my mom has all npd signs but shes not a narcissist. at least i dont want to believe so. she prob isnt and im jist being dramatic anyways. she can be manipulative but i love her WJY DO I HAVE DEJA VU LIKE I DREAMT ABT THIS MOMENT BEFORE IDK THIS IS RANDOM BUT LIKE HELP
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WeeWoo
What do I do if i'm a 100% sure that my Mom as always been like that since I was born. Just moved out because of all this crap and im 18 only so I cant really help her anymore. And one question: Do they all say its not intentional when they see that you figured out
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What do I do if i'm a 100% sure that my Mom as always been like that since I was born. Just moved out because of all this crap and im 18 only so I cant really help her anymore. And one question: Do they all say its not intentional when they see that you figured out
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Smokey
My mom said these words below to me when she said:
You are a worthless son.
My mom even rejoiced in my younger brother's suicide that she caused when my mom smiled and proudly said:
I'm glad your brother is dead.
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My mom said these words below to me when she said:
You are a worthless son.
My mom even rejoiced in my younger brother's suicide that she caused when my mom smiled and proudly said:
I'm glad your brother is dead.
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amu
The 7 mind games narcissists use to manipulate you:
1. gaslighting
2. projection
3. guilt tripping
4. silent treatment
5. feign ignorance
6. playing the victim
7. throwing tantrums
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The 7 mind games narcissists use to manipulate you:
1. gaslighting
2. projection
3. guilt tripping
4. silent treatment
5. feign ignorance
6. playing the victim
7. throwing tantrums
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Michael
This past mother's day, I ended my relationship with my narcissistic and abusive mother and step father. Particularly my step father played ALL 7 of these mind games with me for 40 years.
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This past mother's day, I ended my relationship with my narcissistic and abusive mother and step father. Particularly my step father played ALL 7 of these mind games with me for 40 years.
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