Isolophilia. What is it?
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Date: 2023-08-20
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siqxyre
I'm a complete isolophile, as is most of my family too.
Even when I was small I never liked going with groups. I wasn't scared of what they thought of me, I just preferred a nice place in solitude to draw or nap.
When people came to talk to me I didn't like it, most times it was of something boring, and the rare times it wasn't, if it was a huge group I rejected them.
The doctors diagnosed me with social anxiety, even though I didn't have it. They thought this because trauma and I hated others, they didn't know I didn't fear they hated me.
These days I hate having friends, they burn me out, the fact people like talking instead of just sitting around in mutal agreement and understanding confuses me. Being comfortable enough to sleep in the presence of someone else feels so much more close than just talking about stuff. Just saying we're friends is all the talking i need. I like to do favors for others instead of talking, I like giving gifts, and I like just sitting nearby until I fall asleep in the comfort of their presence.
I don't like talking in general, well at least not without purpose. I love talking if its about a debate or my favorite series or something, but I don't like having to listen to others. I don't crave attention though, I mostly like talking about myself because I'm listening to myself instead of the other person. Talking out loud lets me bounce ideas.
Maybe I'll elaborate later, im currently exhausted right now
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I'm a complete isolophile, as is most of my family too.
Even when I was small I never liked going with groups. I wasn't scared of what they thought of me, I just preferred a nice place in solitude to draw or nap.
When people came to talk to me I didn't like it, most times it was of something boring, and the rare times it wasn't, if it was a huge group I rejected them.
The doctors diagnosed me with social anxiety, even though I didn't have it. They thought this because trauma and I hated others, they didn't know I didn't fear they hated me.
These days I hate having friends, they burn me out, the fact people like talking instead of just sitting around in mutal agreement and understanding confuses me. Being comfortable enough to sleep in the presence of someone else feels so much more close than just talking about stuff. Just saying we're friends is all the talking i need. I like to do favors for others instead of talking, I like giving gifts, and I like just sitting nearby until I fall asleep in the comfort of their presence.
I don't like talking in general, well at least not without purpose. I love talking if its about a debate or my favorite series or something, but I don't like having to listen to others. I don't crave attention though, I mostly like talking about myself because I'm listening to myself instead of the other person. Talking out loud lets me bounce ideas.
Maybe I'll elaborate later, im currently exhausted right now
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Jen_tries
Um well I don't know really what to say but I really want to know what to do in this situation. I feel like I'm being forced to isolation and I'm losing people who I cared about I don't even know what to call them. I try to text them but they never seem to answer some of my friends go on snap chat and only put her bffs and i always thought I was their best friend, but now the person doesn't even act like in here and one night I started crying and almost sent those people a text of how I feel but I couldn't send it so I told myself that I will wait and see if they still leave me out. I hope I gave enough information, I still don't know what to do so please can you tell me what to do. Please and thank you
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Um well I don't know really what to say but I really want to know what to do in this situation. I feel like I'm being forced to isolation and I'm losing people who I cared about I don't even know what to call them. I try to text them but they never seem to answer some of my friends go on snap chat and only put her bffs and i always thought I was their best friend, but now the person doesn't even act like in here and one night I started crying and almost sent those people a text of how I feel but I couldn't send it so I told myself that I will wait and see if they still leave me out. I hope I gave enough information, I still don't know what to do so please can you tell me what to do. Please and thank you
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Thanh
I literally have a fear of being alone, and I get panic attacks when Im by myself. (Example) when I was driving by myself and got lost around the neighborhood I started crying and lost sense of reality, had to call my dad to have company. I get so scared and anxious when I sleep by myself too I cant do it, so I share a room with my sibling. Learning this is so interesting, knowing there are people who can be completely opposite and so fine with being just by themselves.
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I literally have a fear of being alone, and I get panic attacks when Im by myself. (Example) when I was driving by myself and got lost around the neighborhood I started crying and lost sense of reality, had to call my dad to have company. I get so scared and anxious when I sleep by myself too I cant do it, so I share a room with my sibling. Learning this is so interesting, knowing there are people who can be completely opposite and so fine with being just by themselves.
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Nue
I love solitude. However, I dont mind, and actually enjoy, talking with people if its meaningful. But I have a limit and too much leaves me mentally and physically exhausted. The physical part is what confuses me. I like to nap everyday if possible. I have a few very close friends and the rest are friends/acquaintances. If I dont get enough alone time my mental and physical health suffers
Edit: I rarely go on social media, too
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I love solitude. However, I dont mind, and actually enjoy, talking with people if its meaningful. But I have a limit and too much leaves me mentally and physically exhausted. The physical part is what confuses me. I like to nap everyday if possible. I have a few very close friends and the rest are friends/acquaintances. If I dont get enough alone time my mental and physical health suffers
Edit: I rarely go on social media, too
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Psycho
I'm mostly introverted, but always thought I was ambiverted because I love hanging out with people, and being social is often really fun for me, plus sometimes it makes me feel really energized. However I'm very socially awkward sometimes, and the introvertedness shines through because sometimes even being around just a few friends or family members totally exhausts me. So I'm pretty confused on the whole thing
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I'm mostly introverted, but always thought I was ambiverted because I love hanging out with people, and being social is often really fun for me, plus sometimes it makes me feel really energized. However I'm very socially awkward sometimes, and the introvertedness shines through because sometimes even being around just a few friends or family members totally exhausts me. So I'm pretty confused on the whole thing
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Unknown
I love being alone, in my home, doing my own thing and laughing by myself. I can hand out with people all day long and be with people in my car and go on long trips but after its over I just want to be alone and not see anyone. I also just dont have patience and think people dont have common sense so I stay away from people that will alter my always happy mood.
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I love being alone, in my home, doing my own thing and laughing by myself. I can hand out with people all day long and be with people in my car and go on long trips but after its over I just want to be alone and not see anyone. I also just dont have patience and think people dont have common sense so I stay away from people that will alter my always happy mood.
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Caleb
Totally spot on. I was an only child, and I am now a 51 year old adult who never married, doesn't have kids, and happily lives by myself. For most extroverts being around people is exhilarating, for introverts being around people can only be done in small doses because it drains our energy. Most of all being alone with our thoughts is highly valued.
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Totally spot on. I was an only child, and I am now a 51 year old adult who never married, doesn't have kids, and happily lives by myself. For most extroverts being around people is exhilarating, for introverts being around people can only be done in small doses because it drains our energy. Most of all being alone with our thoughts is highly valued.
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CatEyedGoddess
Theres a term for this? Ive been like this since high school. I have a love-hate relationship with this thing. Like, having very few (2 to be exact) boyfriends and missing experiences. The weird part of having this is when I do date or go out. I desperately want to go back to my apartment and be alone.
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Theres a term for this? Ive been like this since high school. I have a love-hate relationship with this thing. Like, having very few (2 to be exact) boyfriends and missing experiences. The weird part of having this is when I do date or go out. I desperately want to go back to my apartment and be alone.
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Lina
I always find it funny when people say add me to blah blah blah cause I don't care for that type of stuff it feels too intrusive to my alone time. Its like how I feel a difference to when I play a game online with friend vs. playing with random people that I'm not talking to while playing online.
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I always find it funny when people say add me to blah blah blah cause I don't care for that type of stuff it feels too intrusive to my alone time. Its like how I feel a difference to when I play a game online with friend vs. playing with random people that I'm not talking to while playing online.
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MiMi's
Interesting. I flip back and forth between solitude and social interactions. I enjoy my friends and the odd stranger conversation at the grocery store. There are moments I am very outgoing and social, but I steer clear of big crowds and definitely take myself to go see a movie.
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Interesting. I flip back and forth between solitude and social interactions. I enjoy my friends and the odd stranger conversation at the grocery store. There are moments I am very outgoing and social, but I steer clear of big crowds and definitely take myself to go see a movie.
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Kazuka68
I have Isolophilia but my mom thinks its a bad thing and doesn't belive the doctor when they say there's nothing wrong with me and when they say I should have my alone time, they take me to parties with people I don't even know and leve me to o mhy own thing withourt my phone
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I have Isolophilia but my mom thinks its a bad thing and doesn't belive the doctor when they say there's nothing wrong with me and when they say I should have my alone time, they take me to parties with people I don't even know and leve me to o mhy own thing withourt my phone
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Nutmeg
I didnt know this had a name. I always have to remind my family that just because im alone doesnt mean im lonely. I even love taking myself to concerts and vacations. I learned something important today. Thanks for that. Also i loved your visuals.
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I didnt know this had a name. I always have to remind my family that just because im alone doesnt mean im lonely. I even love taking myself to concerts and vacations. I learned something important today. Thanks for that. Also i loved your visuals.
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moon
wow. I thought I was one of the only weirdos in my generation that found texting to be so extremely draining! I take weeks, or even months to text back, if I text back (not something I'm proud of, but they really give me so much anxiety)
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wow. I thought I was one of the only weirdos in my generation that found texting to be so extremely draining! I take weeks, or even months to text back, if I text back (not something I'm proud of, but they really give me so much anxiety)
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okodn
i crave tranquility i cant wait to move into my apartment. being alone helps me stay focused and keeps me safe from people and things that dont mean me any good and right now i dont feel the need for interactions I just wanna be alone
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i crave tranquility i cant wait to move into my apartment. being alone helps me stay focused and keeps me safe from people and things that dont mean me any good and right now i dont feel the need for interactions I just wanna be alone
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Willow
I think I might be an extroverted Isolophiliac- (i-is that the right term) because I know for sure im an ambivert, leaning more towards extroversion, but I also really truly enjoy my alone time
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I think I might be an extroverted Isolophiliac- (i-is that the right term) because I know for sure im an ambivert, leaning more towards extroversion, but I also really truly enjoy my alone time
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Melita
My Country: Take these 3 weeks of hard lockdown; everything - also your workplace - is closed now; do not have social interaction!
Me: Omg, this is probably the best year ever.
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My Country: Take these 3 weeks of hard lockdown; everything - also your workplace - is closed now; do not have social interaction!
Me: Omg, this is probably the best year ever.
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Gingergaze
Slap this onto my list of introversion!
Social Anxiety
Introverted
Isophilia
Constantly low 'social battery'
Antisocial
Socially Awkward
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Slap this onto my list of introversion!
Social Anxiety
Introverted
Isophilia
Constantly low 'social battery'
Antisocial
Socially Awkward
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education
I always feel freedom and truth when I am alone. That independence makes me have a better self esteem and makes my life so much easier to live.
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I always feel freedom and truth when I am alone. That independence makes me have a better self esteem and makes my life so much easier to live.
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Shining
Oh-
Well, this explains why I internally scream NOOOOOO! whenever my brother comes into my room while Im trying to read and relax by myself
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Oh-
Well, this explains why I internally scream NOOOOOO! whenever my brother comes into my room while Im trying to read and relax by myself
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The
Thank you for not pathologizing this. Ive spent my entire adult life being criticized for and having to justify why I wish to live as I do: alone.
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Thank you for not pathologizing this. Ive spent my entire adult life being criticized for and having to justify why I wish to live as I do: alone.
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GreatWaveFan
I'm an isolophiliac, but I'm dying for good connection with the right people. Who's gonna check out my ideas and play games with me?
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I'm an isolophiliac, but I'm dying for good connection with the right people. Who's gonna check out my ideas and play games with me?
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Blu_Not_Found
but what is the difference between this, introversion and schizoid personality disorder? is it the extreme from of this?
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but what is the difference between this, introversion and schizoid personality disorder? is it the extreme from of this?
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LuminaNightfall
I just wanted to say that the aesthetic of this video is gorgeous! It had two of my favorite color schemes
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I just wanted to say that the aesthetic of this video is gorgeous! It had two of my favorite color schemes
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Eric
Psych2go If you want. I literally have the entire list of Phobias from A-Z and about to start the Philia List A-Z.
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Psych2go If you want. I literally have the entire list of Phobias from A-Z and about to start the Philia List A-Z.
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Hero
There will be times in your life where the only one there for you is you. Be a good friend for yourself now.
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There will be times in your life where the only one there for you is you. Be a good friend for yourself now.
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