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5 Ways Introverts Intimidate People

5 Ways Introverts Intimidate People

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Are you an introvert who's tired of being misunderstood or labeled as intimidating? From our quiet nature to our tendency to think before speaking, introverts often give off signals that can be misinterpreted by others. Introverts often face a stigma that they are intimidating, unapproachable, or even unfriendly. This perception can be frustrating for introverts who feel misunderstood and unfairly judged. It can also be a barrier to forming meaningful connections and relationships. So we made this video to reduce the stigma. If you're an introvert looking to better understand yourself or someone who's trying to better understand the introverts in your life, join us as we delve into the world of introversion and share some common behaviors that can lead to misunderstandings. We also made a video on the struggles only introverts can relate to
Date: 2023-08-20

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I am an introvert but switch to an ambivert depending on the situation. I could call myself a chameleon. I tend to blend in really well. I mold myself to suit the environment. This is more of an INFJ thing. I don't know if introverts with different personality types would respond the same way.
I get overwhelmed pretty easily. On the surface, I may look very calm and composed but my brain is working at 110% capacity if I see my close friend is in pain or is ranting about something.
I enjoy the company of a few close friends but I can go for extended periods of time alone. I think when I'm alone, that's when my productivity is at an all time high. Even at the workplace, I tend to keep to myself because the moment I get involved emotionally with my colleagues, it messes with my work.
I never like to talk about any talent I possess or any of my hobbies or interests simply because I'm a very private person. I'm a person who craves intellectual conversation and get easily awkward with small talk. Not that I can't do it but it's really hard work thinking of questions to keep the conversation going. But since it's important to learn how to converse with people, I'm gradually trying to open up.
I often feel that if I talk about my emotions, I make myself vulnerable and if I fall into the wrong hands, which I quite often do, that's a disaster waiting to happen.
I don't tell anyone anything about myself also for the exact same reason. I don't want anyone to figure me out. Especially people who I don't deem fit to figure me out. I did that a lot before and people found my weaknesses and exploited it.
I tend to keep a low profile and am usually a timid kind of person or like to be thought of that way so that people don't see me as a threat.
I can totally go and do fun activities alone. My sister didn't seem to understand how I could watch a movie by myself or go to the mall by myself but I really love doing that. Seeing me, she decided to give it a try and she loves it too

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This Aligns very well with who I am tho the intimidation part is suggestive at time off of context around you.
That being said I've studied a few extroverts before primarily my own father who is a very burly very macho guy and thinks at times very primal about situations and at times if it wasnt for me observing and noting down the finer details that happens around him he would miss a lot of important key factors that can heavily effect his life in some way. Though we together dont get along well i still stick around because deep down he really needs someone to look at the finer details in life and interpret them in a way he can understand. Dont get me wrong we both get along well we both think alike when it comes to creativity and we both care about each other well being. and there has been times where hes stuck up for me and during acts of conflict that I couldnt defend myself properly.
My point being maybe the fact that some extroverts may feel uncomfortable around introverts may simply be the fact that they dont critically think about what they do and just do things. there is nothing bad about it but if your someone who runs then walks maybe youll miss that $100 bill on the floor that you sped by. Maybe ill be worth while to slow down a bit. find an introvert maybe befriend them and instead of running jog with them. both you and the introvert will work together, helping each other out in ways each other wouldnt have considered; even if one may not speak much, they speak more with their thoughts then their actions and the other speaks by actions and not their thoughts.
Idk how true this maybe be, but for me i see some truth in it. I am an introvert afterall, ive seen a lot and thought a lot. If your an extrovert find an introvert and befriend them see how it goes maybe report back here below to see if this holds true. same goes my own kinda befriend an extrovert see what happens maybe yall will learn something from each other over time.

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Reading the comments after watching this video, how people are relating - made me remember a time, a few years ago where my friend said: I don't know how to say things to you sometimes because I can't tell how you would react. - and another time there was a person who I was seeing, we went out for food and we were having a conversation and it veered off to them saying Sometimes I wish I could tell what you were thinking in that little head of yours. and Do you think that you could be a sociopath. lol.
I'm a big introvert. When I'm crossing the road and a car lets me pass, I can't lift my hand to thank them. So I started doing a little nod or a smile, but most of the time I feel like I didn't really smile even though I think I did and that my nods are more seen as me pushing my head forward to seem like I'm walking faster to get out of their way.
If you can't tell by now, I overthink wayyy too much and people can see me as a 'know-it-all' or even insensitive/rude (or I more think that myself)
There's no winning with these 'damb' people!

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Yeah been treated like that, like Im scary or some nonsense when Im clearly not. Mostly I guess the phrasing watch for the quiet ones or its always the quiet ones that [do this/that]
In the same take, I do tend to be closed off to anyone Im unfamiliar with. More so pushing off the people who immediately get pally&chummy with me cause they think they can get something from me.
Im fortunate to have met real good people years ago, that were patient with me and got to know me despite my kiting/keeping distance. Im still not great with being gifted anything or having things done for me at all.
But happy that I can quietly be with them and not have to involved in every topic (IE dragged into it. I do ramble at times (though my friends describe as lecturing) but otherwise Im generally speak little verbally, more comfortable to writing or texting (also helps other I have to interact with not be as awkward as we can be rooms apart or different locations)

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Probably a forced introvert. I grew up in a relatively isolated rural area and parents made no attempt to socialize with anyone as they were too busy with work. No neighbors or other kids nearby. So, I had little interaction with other kids, had no social skills, and school was a nightmare for 12yrs where I was verbally bullied. I would likely have received physical abuse if I was not pretty large/strong from farm work. I have ever since kept anyone at a distance all my life for self preservation. I later found out that many thought I was stuck up as I avoided most interactions with school mates from HS onward for fear of being bullied. Nice of the non-bullies to not reach out to me to counteract those bullies (/s.
Its only in the past 20yrs years or so that I am more likely to approach or initiate a conversation. Now that I am older with grey hair I don't get dismissed so much.

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in my early teens I was very self-conscious and insecure whish led me to get the introvert personality(for 5 short years. And that time I thought that this kind of personality was abnormal since I didn't know the word 'INTROVERT'. After I realized that it was common and many ppl were like me, I learned more about my personality, I was kind of Happy. I wanted to stay an Introvert but the moment I wanted to stay a Introvert. I turned into an Ambivert. Now I have no problem approaching strangers but due to not speaking much in my childhood I lost most of my Vocabulary. Now I feel difficulty speaking and initiating conversion. TO my misfortune, now I cannot stay in silence but I want to stay in Silence, I want to get attention but I don't want to get any attention. I literally need help here.
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It's hard being an introvert surrounded by extroverts. My sister says i have no emotions when the truth is i am just really good at hiding them, also i feel uncomfortable showing my emotions to others just like that. Worst part is that when in an argument the other party would casually say something hurtful to me but i could never do that. Because i always weigh my words in my head before i say them and i don't want to say something to them that i don't wanna hear myself. I know it sounds completely weird but i don't know how to better explain it. As a result of this the party insults me making me feel shitty and think they have won the argument, when they were the one at fault in the first place. But the truth is that i just didn't say what was in my head.
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I mostly go around being a lone wolf more than being an introvert. I understand that my lack of social skills makes me trample over my words when I talk, which by itself gives me ansiety, so I just prefer being quiet. I also see myself getting stuck on the first thing said by people around me, my brain just ignores any other information after the first, tell me 3 things and I will only hear the first part and then tell you two times to repeat the other two, which makes other people think that I am slow. I overthink a lot, and when I'm out, I overthink the overthinking, and I just short circuit from all of this, which just gets me stuck at home all over again, recharging.
In the end, I prefer not to interact with others, because it's exhausting mentally.

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I am pretty introverted. People at my school would generally stay away from me and if I interacted with someone I had to initiate a conversation, as a result I did not have but one friend and was seen as the scary quiet kid who wants toahem unalive themselves and their peers. People would make jokes about horrible things that I might do, and I, being the person I am, thought that they just wanted to make a joke. It eventually got to the point where I believed that I could do those things and that people were legitimately terrified of me because of what woul be said about me. I am still partially responsible for people being afraid of me but Needless to say I did not enjoy going to that school.
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As an introvert, Ive found people get bored with me in a weird way.
I had a coworker say youre boring me. She didnt like that I kept to myself after some shallow conversation. I replied with, Im not your entertainment, Im your coworker.
The argument portion is completely accurate. I hate showing emotion and have always tried arguing logically. In some contexts it seems to make things worse.
I love my quiet time. My alone time. I am laying in a comfy bed right now alone. I have lovely people who understand this in my life. Friends who know Im not the one to invite to things, but am the one to tell me how it went.

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I often make people feel not quite intimidated but insecure. The reason for this is I'm constantly observing my surroundings and constantly find funny little quirks in it. I often huff or even lough a little when finding them. For the others I do that without any reason so they begin to question if it has something to do with them. Of course it doesn't but for a long time I didn't know how I made people feel with these little loughs. It created a hell lot of misunderstandings. Now, as soon as I get an irritated look I can explain and it's fine normally. But it took me years to figure that out!
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Thank you for the confirmation. Am introvert.
I'd rather spend time with myself than force myself to hang out of people that drains my energy. So much more comfortable than to worry if something I said sounded wrong, read the other person's body language/facial expression, think of topics to talk about, etc.
Also, I started scanning around when I am walking since I was once scared by a bunch of bullies. I was just on my own, with hoodies on, and in my own thoughts. I now prefers to be prepared than to be surprised when I am outside.

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Im actually an ENFJ. People called me intimidating because of the way I carried myself at work. They said I had a strong presence. I didnt share much about myself because they were toxic coworkers who loved to gossip. Why would I open up to people I dont feel safe around? People dont understand that if someone feels unsafe they will not open up. People judge the person but dont ask why that person is reacting that way and its usually because I see who people really are while others turn a blind eye to their toxicity.
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This video makes me wonder if Im actually an ambivert. I am quiet often and enjoy my alone time, but there are times I need to talk to others or itll stress me out. Unfortunately, I never seem to find anyone who is interested in the same things I am, or has any interest in actually talking to me.
So they always complain that Im creepy and quiet when Id be desperate to get to know them, they just refuse to talk to me but will talk to literally everyone else.

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Hm I think in most cases I am the introvert quiet type. But when I'm on a call with someone and get in a heated or passionate conversation I get very wordy like an Extrovert would. I even start to notice the other person not sharing any opinions on the matter maybe making them the bigger Introvert in that case. Of course it's different on a call online, than it'd be if I was in person with someone. I think I'd be overall more reserved offline.
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I beleive i am an introvert and prwfer quiet, but I still get super uncomfortable when no one in conversing if i don't know the other person enjoys quiet too. I think i may have social anxiety so that might have to do with it. But i literally cant do anything besides think about what i should say to make things not uncomfortable or pray the other person starts talking. Bc i feel like i have a certain responsibility to keep up the convo
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I'm afraid that codependence in reality is considered detrimental by most specialists. Victims of codependence are easily manipulated by others, develop mental problems when left alone to fend for themselves, can't make decisions for themselves, hide their fears and problems from others, can't solve problems on their own, seek others' approval and are prone to poverty. Most end up committing suicide like it happened in 2020.
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im often accused of being rude and a snob
i dont usually greet people but if Im greeted, I greet back. I dont usually approach or initiate contact but Im quite approachable. I can even wear either a sincere or a capitalist smile as needed. I do know how to create a conversation but it heavily depends on the spontaneity of whoever I am conversing with. I try to avoid arguments but if its a must, I shall speak.

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the easy to read part made me remember that in high school i would just stare at people a lot, not really because i hated them and was judging them, but because i remembered their face from a previous class. sometimes it was just because i liked to look around. i ended up making eye contact with people though and it ended up making things very awkward for me in class, and no one really talked to me, lol. :T
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I just try to be as friendly as possible when I talk to people so that they don't feel this way. I think it's always valuable to be overly friendly towards someone even if they aren't being as friendly back towards you because most of the time they will realize that you are trying your best and will open up more and be more friendly towards you, which will make both people's day better.
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I (an extro) am married to an introvert and love him so so much. He can tell when I'm tired, hungry or bothered before I even am aware of it. i'm also aware to prep him if we're going to do something social together and to not abandon him to his own devices unless there's at least 1-3 people there he's already met who he can at least sorta talk to. But honestly, he's just amazing.
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This actually explains a lot about my elementary school experience. I always had a hard time making friends, and I knew at a fairly young age that I preferred doing things by myself, but that in turn made me feel lonely when I saw other kids (especially the girls) in my grade having fun together. I wouldnt be surprised if some of the kids thought my aloofness was intimidating.
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There seems to be a misconception. Introverts doesn't equal to lower social abilities, typically it describes a person who prefer alone time than socializing, which is more likely to make someone less sociable. You can definitely become a sociable person if you want to become one, worse case is you embrass yourself but who doesn't have those flash backs.
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As an introvert, I've been told or asked by many things, other than sayin I look intimidating, such as:
Why are you sitting alone?
Is something wrong?
You look upset and the classic one, can you talk?
I never knew that those words can be my strength but also my weakness. It's fun getting to know myself better as an introvert.

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Im an introvert right? So when my friends hang with me they say that when i zone out my whole aura changes, my facial expression looks like Im relieving war crimes and then they say its hard just to even speak to me because my zoned out aura is so intimidating that they are terrified to bring me back from the land of staring into space
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