8 Ways to Ruin a Relationship
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Date: 2023-08-20
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TheDemon
Is it normal that my friend always wants me to be with him while playing videogames?
Like if I play alone he sees me as antisocial, but I often prefer playing alone because I prefer playing certain games and I like playing my own way and thinking my own way. I just prefer to play alone sometimes just like sometimes I rather being with my friends online. I just think that everyone can do what he wants without being forced to do something different.
In years of relationship we were in conflict many many times and I sometimes forgave him for his mistakes just because I wanted to be friends again!
But during this year he was so annoying. I lost interest from a certain game and he just wanted to foorce me to play with him because it's better together, but he was so annoying believe me. For this period I felt like I couldn't be myself or do what I liked because of what he tought.
I started to always find an excuse to not play with him. We still hanged out and played sometimes but we didn't play together very often because I didn't want to and I prefered to play alone or with my brother. I regret being so offensive by not responding or finding an excuse every time, but I felt like it was necessary. Then we started a discussion in which he attacked me for not answering and finding excuses to not play with him. I told him what was wrong and now I forgave him another time hoping it goes well but I won't forget how he was, trust me he was so annoying when we played together but not when we hanged out.
Now we play with a couple of other friends and we decided to try to go forward.
What should I do? What do you think about my situation? Who was wrong? Is it wrong to want to be alone rather than play with friends sometimes and sometimes play with them?
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Is it normal that my friend always wants me to be with him while playing videogames?
Like if I play alone he sees me as antisocial, but I often prefer playing alone because I prefer playing certain games and I like playing my own way and thinking my own way. I just prefer to play alone sometimes just like sometimes I rather being with my friends online. I just think that everyone can do what he wants without being forced to do something different.
In years of relationship we were in conflict many many times and I sometimes forgave him for his mistakes just because I wanted to be friends again!
But during this year he was so annoying. I lost interest from a certain game and he just wanted to foorce me to play with him because it's better together, but he was so annoying believe me. For this period I felt like I couldn't be myself or do what I liked because of what he tought.
I started to always find an excuse to not play with him. We still hanged out and played sometimes but we didn't play together very often because I didn't want to and I prefered to play alone or with my brother. I regret being so offensive by not responding or finding an excuse every time, but I felt like it was necessary. Then we started a discussion in which he attacked me for not answering and finding excuses to not play with him. I told him what was wrong and now I forgave him another time hoping it goes well but I won't forget how he was, trust me he was so annoying when we played together but not when we hanged out.
Now we play with a couple of other friends and we decided to try to go forward.
What should I do? What do you think about my situation? Who was wrong? Is it wrong to want to be alone rather than play with friends sometimes and sometimes play with them?
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Nicolas
And I come to find this video after I told a friend I like her.
I've already ruined a great friendship because I didn't opened my feelings. Got jealous when she started dated someone, distanced myself and got full of doubts, regrets and What ifs. I didn't want that to happen again, so I opened myself to my friend, a thing I was terrified to do because I didn't want to ruin our friendship.
Her feelings, at least -as she said- for the moment, didn't reciprocate mine (she was hurt badly and took a while to overcome it, and because of that she doesn't want to get involved with someone, so I respect that. However, she did say she truly appreciated me as a friend and also didn't want to lose me in that way.
I didn't felt rejected. I felt liberated, knowing I wont regret having not tell her. If she changed her mind or not, if our relationship somehow ends up evolving, it's up to anyone's guess, but for now I feel I'm able to pass page and keep intact a friendship I truly care of.
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And I come to find this video after I told a friend I like her.
I've already ruined a great friendship because I didn't opened my feelings. Got jealous when she started dated someone, distanced myself and got full of doubts, regrets and What ifs. I didn't want that to happen again, so I opened myself to my friend, a thing I was terrified to do because I didn't want to ruin our friendship.
Her feelings, at least -as she said- for the moment, didn't reciprocate mine (she was hurt badly and took a while to overcome it, and because of that she doesn't want to get involved with someone, so I respect that. However, she did say she truly appreciated me as a friend and also didn't want to lose me in that way.
I didn't felt rejected. I felt liberated, knowing I wont regret having not tell her. If she changed her mind or not, if our relationship somehow ends up evolving, it's up to anyone's guess, but for now I feel I'm able to pass page and keep intact a friendship I truly care of.
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Air
This. hits so hard, Im 15 and I am madly in love with my best friend to the point where I cant even look at other girls and I even get jealous when she does things without me, I know Im in the wrong because of the way everyone perceives this as just being selfish. But I honestly love her more than anything in the world but what breaks my heart is that I do everything for her, I listen, I support, love and care for her, I get her gifts I make time for her but she has made it explicitly clear that she doesnt love me and I just cant get my head around why. Its been 4 months since she rejected me and it still hurts so bad. to the point where I cant even look at anyone with a partner even on tv or it makes me extremely depressed for hours and Im not normally like that because I spend most of my life emotionless and I use that to my advantage to help other such as my best friend. but I really dont know what to do its destroying me
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This. hits so hard, Im 15 and I am madly in love with my best friend to the point where I cant even look at other girls and I even get jealous when she does things without me, I know Im in the wrong because of the way everyone perceives this as just being selfish. But I honestly love her more than anything in the world but what breaks my heart is that I do everything for her, I listen, I support, love and care for her, I get her gifts I make time for her but she has made it explicitly clear that she doesnt love me and I just cant get my head around why. Its been 4 months since she rejected me and it still hurts so bad. to the point where I cant even look at anyone with a partner even on tv or it makes me extremely depressed for hours and Im not normally like that because I spend most of my life emotionless and I use that to my advantage to help other such as my best friend. but I really dont know what to do its destroying me
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Hannah
I feel like most of these apply to me. I just recently began with therapy because of depression and social anxietey, also have traits of anxious-avoiding personality disorder. I think anyone who can relate to this video and has not yet seeked out for help should definitely do so. Please give yourself the credit you deserve and allow yourself to be happy. You are worth it! I'm only at the beginning of this journey to loving myself and to stop sabotaging each aspect of my personal life. But I already feel better just by realising how unhealthy my behaviour and thought patterns really are for me and by seeking help through therapy in order to change those. We will get better. :)
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I feel like most of these apply to me. I just recently began with therapy because of depression and social anxietey, also have traits of anxious-avoiding personality disorder. I think anyone who can relate to this video and has not yet seeked out for help should definitely do so. Please give yourself the credit you deserve and allow yourself to be happy. You are worth it! I'm only at the beginning of this journey to loving myself and to stop sabotaging each aspect of my personal life. But I already feel better just by realising how unhealthy my behaviour and thought patterns really are for me and by seeking help through therapy in order to change those. We will get better. :)
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The
I just sent this to my boyfriend and watched it myself. He has been down on himself lately and I love him more than I think he knows and realizes I am so scared that he thinks he's not worthy of being in a relationship; he fears that he'll sabotage the relationship. I am going to support him through the dark days and darker nights. I am not going to give up on him, no matter what gets thrown at us. Also, I don't think he is aware that I, too, am worried that I might self sabotage the relationship.
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I just sent this to my boyfriend and watched it myself. He has been down on himself lately and I love him more than I think he knows and realizes I am so scared that he thinks he's not worthy of being in a relationship; he fears that he'll sabotage the relationship. I am going to support him through the dark days and darker nights. I am not going to give up on him, no matter what gets thrown at us. Also, I don't think he is aware that I, too, am worried that I might self sabotage the relationship.
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Angie
None of them pls someone help cause i learned i think to love my self first and then love others so that means i cant give someone the world? Like if u give someone the world everything that doesnt show u love ur self its so complicated maybe how to give someone the world? And love ur self? Pls reply someone i dont get it since my ex left me for giving them the world and giving them everything and used me so lost pls give me some results thank u
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None of them pls someone help cause i learned i think to love my self first and then love others so that means i cant give someone the world? Like if u give someone the world everything that doesnt show u love ur self its so complicated maybe how to give someone the world? And love ur self? Pls reply someone i dont get it since my ex left me for giving them the world and giving them everything and used me so lost pls give me some results thank u
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Ibslimm
Ive been an auto technician for over 15yrs and they want me to become a master tech, but I dont want all the extra responsibilities that comes along with being a master, I will literally get more problem cars to fix and I dont want that. its very stressful, so I sabotage my career by not doing whats needed on purpose to stay where Im at.
AND NO, YOU DONT GET THAT MUCH MORE MONEY BEING A MASTER TECH, incase you are wondering
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Ive been an auto technician for over 15yrs and they want me to become a master tech, but I dont want all the extra responsibilities that comes along with being a master, I will literally get more problem cars to fix and I dont want that. its very stressful, so I sabotage my career by not doing whats needed on purpose to stay where Im at.
AND NO, YOU DONT GET THAT MUCH MORE MONEY BEING A MASTER TECH, incase you are wondering
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Terror
4: 00 When you struggle with imposter syndrome, believing you're 'fooling everyone' and you doing well was 'just a fluke' and that you're really not that skilled or not that talented, or at the very least not nearly skilled or talented enough. Long story short, imposter syndrome can bring about self-sabotage, because you are uncomfortable and wonder if you can handle what a new situation might bring.
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4: 00 When you struggle with imposter syndrome, believing you're 'fooling everyone' and you doing well was 'just a fluke' and that you're really not that skilled or not that talented, or at the very least not nearly skilled or talented enough. Long story short, imposter syndrome can bring about self-sabotage, because you are uncomfortable and wonder if you can handle what a new situation might bring.
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Raian84
Y to go to relation when u can stay with the person u want in a frndship relation or even brother sister! Remember, romantic relation have breakup, once it happens, u might lost him/her forever bt frndship don't have this risks. So, no need to go to such relationship. Yeh, i also love someone bt don't go to those relationships, we are like brother sister or best friends and we are happy
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Y to go to relation when u can stay with the person u want in a frndship relation or even brother sister! Remember, romantic relation have breakup, once it happens, u might lost him/her forever bt frndship don't have this risks. So, no need to go to such relationship. Yeh, i also love someone bt don't go to those relationships, we are like brother sister or best friends and we are happy
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Yuki03
I can tell my crush is interested in me, but from what I've perceived he's very timid and introverted, I am as well. So, how do I possibly make a move? I've tried numerous times in the past and all my attempts have failed, as a result of my fear of failure. He knows I like him and his friends know as well.
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I can tell my crush is interested in me, but from what I've perceived he's very timid and introverted, I am as well. So, how do I possibly make a move? I've tried numerous times in the past and all my attempts have failed, as a result of my fear of failure. He knows I like him and his friends know as well.
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Vayda
I feel/do/are all of these in the relationship one. How do I fix it? I'm currently in a relationship with someone and I'm so scared of literally everything that could happen but, I don't want to lose him so, I scare myself. I don't want to feel this but, it seems uncontrollable. How do I fix this: (
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I feel/do/are all of these in the relationship one. How do I fix it? I'm currently in a relationship with someone and I'm so scared of literally everything that could happen but, I don't want to lose him so, I scare myself. I don't want to feel this but, it seems uncontrollable. How do I fix this: (
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Anonymous
Love this. I have a friend who does this constantly. He cant accept that hes ever good enough for anyone. He believes that rejection and pain are the only possible endings to even friendship for him. If he only knew how untrue that is. Thanks for clarifying why he does it. I needed to hear it.
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Love this. I have a friend who does this constantly. He cant accept that hes ever good enough for anyone. He believes that rejection and pain are the only possible endings to even friendship for him. If he only knew how untrue that is. Thanks for clarifying why he does it. I needed to hear it.
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RJ
Additionally if someone had a childhood where changes and the unknown often came with traumatic life events, that person becomes primed to avoid change and the unknown as an adult. Being able to manage to get by in an unsatisfactory way of living feels safer than risking a change to something new.
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Additionally if someone had a childhood where changes and the unknown often came with traumatic life events, that person becomes primed to avoid change and the unknown as an adult. Being able to manage to get by in an unsatisfactory way of living feels safer than risking a change to something new.
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Kajal
I've been wanting a relationship for so long and now that actually nice people are approaching me, I am just pushing them away and getting anxious about getting into a relationship. It made me wonder if I'm subconsciously self sabotaging potential relationships.
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I've been wanting a relationship for so long and now that actually nice people are approaching me, I am just pushing them away and getting anxious about getting into a relationship. It made me wonder if I'm subconsciously self sabotaging potential relationships.
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Bobby
Self da stove mainly comes from one not having discipline and responsibility! You also need healthy hobbies otherwise the enemy will infiltrate and convince you to waste your life in immorality, wantonness, and bad habits!
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Self da stove mainly comes from one not having discipline and responsibility! You also need healthy hobbies otherwise the enemy will infiltrate and convince you to waste your life in immorality, wantonness, and bad habits!
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Pineapplebella
Not me that used to do the thing presented in the very thumbnail whenever someone wanted touch hands with my best friend
Granted it was all jokingly, but this made me think about some things: ')
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Not me that used to do the thing presented in the very thumbnail whenever someone wanted touch hands with my best friend
Granted it was all jokingly, but this made me think about some things: ')
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mehmet
well I'm definetly underestimating myself.
Wheneber I try to write a short comment I write a speech for a Ted talk.
Its like I'm being hunted by an 'evil spirit'; D
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well I'm definetly underestimating myself.
Wheneber I try to write a short comment I write a speech for a Ted talk.
Its like I'm being hunted by an 'evil spirit'; D
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Ezers
Oh god, listening to this makes me wince since I'm currently experiencing everything in the list
Makes me feel like anything I do may make everything worse from here XD
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Oh god, listening to this makes me wince since I'm currently experiencing everything in the list
Makes me feel like anything I do may make everything worse from here XD
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Miner
I feel like I might potentially fall under this kind of stuff. I'm going to say that this feeling sucks.
Also:
UwU outro dance UwU
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I feel like I might potentially fall under this kind of stuff. I'm going to say that this feeling sucks.
Also:
UwU outro dance UwU
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Nadnad
I don't want too lose my friends cause they are the only friend I have 2: 41 I feel the same thing and I have fear of abandoned
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I don't want too lose my friends cause they are the only friend I have 2: 41 I feel the same thing and I have fear of abandoned
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Steffayyy
Def want more on this topic, esp if you had issues as a kid when your mom and/or dad would leave you at school or daycare
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Def want more on this topic, esp if you had issues as a kid when your mom and/or dad would leave you at school or daycare
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Hope
I knew I was self-sabotaging myself but didnt expect it to be so bad that I would be able to relate to all the points oh Lord
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I knew I was self-sabotaging myself but didnt expect it to be so bad that I would be able to relate to all the points oh Lord
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Lyricist
Im a simple person.
I see Jonathan and Dio being used to portray an unhealthy relationship, I like.
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Im a simple person.
I see Jonathan and Dio being used to portray an unhealthy relationship, I like.
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Sushi
I just watched this cause I liked the thumbnail. But then most of those signs I have/relate to. Uh.
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I just watched this cause I liked the thumbnail. But then most of those signs I have/relate to. Uh.
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MarianBaci
Uhhh. Psych2go. I'm. Surprised by. something. It is about these reasons. I will let you guess
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Uhhh. Psych2go. I'm. Surprised by. something. It is about these reasons. I will let you guess
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