7 Signs You're Drained By Someone
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Date: 2023-08-20
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lostinthought
I recently had a realization that this is the way one of my friends makes me feel. I honestly think I feel this way with more than 1 person but the main person who makes me feel like this I've known the longest and I feel like she holds that over me. Like since out of most of my friends I've known her the longest she says she should be my best friend even though during those years that I knew her we were not always friends. There wasn't any specific reason as to why we weren't always close or friends but we just didn't get along sometimes. Now that I'm older I see that a lot of our values and morals don't really align and she's not really somebody I would consider a best friend. I still appreciated her as a friend though and still talked to her but during those times her behavior really just made me tired. Tired of trying to wrap my head around the things she says or does to me. A lot of the stuff she said made me uncomfortable and rather than being the person who just cuts off a person I genuinely tried to have a conversation with her about it and how the things she said or did made me feel bad or uncomfortable. At the time she said she understood, and after I did notice a change in her behaviour, and the stuff I told her about she really didn't do as much. But then it was like a whole new set of things that would make me feel uneasy being around her. She likes things done a certain way and when they aren't she sometimes get upset and targets the people who are her friends which has happened to me on multiple occasions and its genuinely so draining to deal with people like that because they don't even realize how their emotions are affecting other people. After this I started to realize I really didn't wanna be her friend. It felt as if when I talked with her I was just lying to her face because I didn't like interacting with her. I genuinely feel bad for feeling this way because she is not an inherently bad person but I don't wanna keep nitpicking her behaviour to fit my needs so I feel it would be best just let her go. I feel it would be wrong of me to not have genuinely feelings in our friendship while she has no clue about my true intentions. But it is because she is not an inherently bad person that I find it hard to try and end this friendship in a peaceful way. So I've just been acting regularly while trying to place some distance between us but I just don't know how long I can do that because it just isn't fair for the both of us. Anyway I just needed to rant
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I recently had a realization that this is the way one of my friends makes me feel. I honestly think I feel this way with more than 1 person but the main person who makes me feel like this I've known the longest and I feel like she holds that over me. Like since out of most of my friends I've known her the longest she says she should be my best friend even though during those years that I knew her we were not always friends. There wasn't any specific reason as to why we weren't always close or friends but we just didn't get along sometimes. Now that I'm older I see that a lot of our values and morals don't really align and she's not really somebody I would consider a best friend. I still appreciated her as a friend though and still talked to her but during those times her behavior really just made me tired. Tired of trying to wrap my head around the things she says or does to me. A lot of the stuff she said made me uncomfortable and rather than being the person who just cuts off a person I genuinely tried to have a conversation with her about it and how the things she said or did made me feel bad or uncomfortable. At the time she said she understood, and after I did notice a change in her behaviour, and the stuff I told her about she really didn't do as much. But then it was like a whole new set of things that would make me feel uneasy being around her. She likes things done a certain way and when they aren't she sometimes get upset and targets the people who are her friends which has happened to me on multiple occasions and its genuinely so draining to deal with people like that because they don't even realize how their emotions are affecting other people. After this I started to realize I really didn't wanna be her friend. It felt as if when I talked with her I was just lying to her face because I didn't like interacting with her. I genuinely feel bad for feeling this way because she is not an inherently bad person but I don't wanna keep nitpicking her behaviour to fit my needs so I feel it would be best just let her go. I feel it would be wrong of me to not have genuinely feelings in our friendship while she has no clue about my true intentions. But it is because she is not an inherently bad person that I find it hard to try and end this friendship in a peaceful way. So I've just been acting regularly while trying to place some distance between us but I just don't know how long I can do that because it just isn't fair for the both of us. Anyway I just needed to rant
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Daylilly25
I used to have a friend and neighbor who was like this. She was under a lot of stress due to losing her job and a couple of other things, but she was also dishonest (she would grossly exaggerate events in order to make her more of a victim and get more sympathy, and I caught her outright lying twice) had a a bad temper and a mean streak as a result, held grudges, would hold favors she did you over peoples heads to manipulate them (and usually these favors were unloading unwanted foodstuffs on you and then saying how could you do this to me, Ive been so kind to you! I gave you that loaf of bread if you didnt have time to be her unpaid therapist/job coach/whatever) perceived everything that could be possibly twisted into a slight as an incredibly offensive insult on the level of calling her a slur, and would only half-apologize for her behavior a week or so after her explosions to get people back in her claws. Weirdly, she did this to everybody on our floor, and from what I observed, everyone in her life, even her own mother; it was like grubbing for sympathy and having people stay with her out of pity was the only way she knew how to make friends. I felt bad for her, but after being either emotionally drained or outright emotionally abused by her for half a year, I moved our of our building (fortunately I had a short lease) and ghosted her completely. I still feel bad for that last part because she was under stress, but I was honestly frightened for my safety at times around her and I knew that if I told her Id get berated and manipulated.
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I used to have a friend and neighbor who was like this. She was under a lot of stress due to losing her job and a couple of other things, but she was also dishonest (she would grossly exaggerate events in order to make her more of a victim and get more sympathy, and I caught her outright lying twice) had a a bad temper and a mean streak as a result, held grudges, would hold favors she did you over peoples heads to manipulate them (and usually these favors were unloading unwanted foodstuffs on you and then saying how could you do this to me, Ive been so kind to you! I gave you that loaf of bread if you didnt have time to be her unpaid therapist/job coach/whatever) perceived everything that could be possibly twisted into a slight as an incredibly offensive insult on the level of calling her a slur, and would only half-apologize for her behavior a week or so after her explosions to get people back in her claws. Weirdly, she did this to everybody on our floor, and from what I observed, everyone in her life, even her own mother; it was like grubbing for sympathy and having people stay with her out of pity was the only way she knew how to make friends. I felt bad for her, but after being either emotionally drained or outright emotionally abused by her for half a year, I moved our of our building (fortunately I had a short lease) and ghosted her completely. I still feel bad for that last part because she was under stress, but I was honestly frightened for my safety at times around her and I knew that if I told her Id get berated and manipulated.
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zoey
I just feel so bad. My friend wants to die and I really, really want to help her so much. I know it's not recommended to give advice. Sometimes, she sends me pictures of shirtless men, which I dont like. Whenever I tell her a negative experience of mine at school, she laughs. I feel bad, and it does hurt, but I want her to just feel better. She doesn't know what to say when I try to vent or just tell stuff about myself, so I can't blame her. Im just being sensitive. I know she has some of her family members to talk to, but I just can't drift away or take a break from her. She worries me every day. I know it is in her hands if she wants to start getting help, I understand it's not my place to try and fix her. I just feel so, so drained. I dont know what to do about her. She has a lot of family members that are by her side, and she has a boyfriend too. So, I just thought it'd be best if i just walked away. But, I can't. I feel like im tied to her, I dont know if I'm purposefully tying myself to her.
I am, probably. When I was trying to walk away, I instead turned around and ran back to her.
Whenever I think about her, I'm worried. I try to go on with my day and improve myself, but I just keep going back to her. She says that her friends saved her without them even knowing it, so I thought itd be fine if I just walked away. She has them, right?
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I just feel so bad. My friend wants to die and I really, really want to help her so much. I know it's not recommended to give advice. Sometimes, she sends me pictures of shirtless men, which I dont like. Whenever I tell her a negative experience of mine at school, she laughs. I feel bad, and it does hurt, but I want her to just feel better. She doesn't know what to say when I try to vent or just tell stuff about myself, so I can't blame her. Im just being sensitive. I know she has some of her family members to talk to, but I just can't drift away or take a break from her. She worries me every day. I know it is in her hands if she wants to start getting help, I understand it's not my place to try and fix her. I just feel so, so drained. I dont know what to do about her. She has a lot of family members that are by her side, and she has a boyfriend too. So, I just thought it'd be best if i just walked away. But, I can't. I feel like im tied to her, I dont know if I'm purposefully tying myself to her.
I am, probably. When I was trying to walk away, I instead turned around and ran back to her.
Whenever I think about her, I'm worried. I try to go on with my day and improve myself, but I just keep going back to her. She says that her friends saved her without them even knowing it, so I thought itd be fine if I just walked away. She has them, right?
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kidbean
These draining people are life's takers. They have selfish tendencies and poor self awareness, but they do know what they are doing. They often disrespect boundaries, impose themselves on kind people, force their way into others lives and simply take up people's time and energies with no regard. They choose their targets carefully and it is often the kind and considerate that end up being exploited through guilt. These people often learn that they won't be tolerated by many so they watch for those empathetic people who will show them kindness and this is their opportunity to get close and begin their true purpose of draining you. Over time you will begin to see their patterns of behaviour and feel imposed upon through their interactions with you. They play dumb to your needs because it serves their purpose. These people are not genuine friends, just opportunistic energy vampires going from one person to the next, taking all they can get until they are discovered, rejected or shunned. Trust how people make us feel, once we feel drained by people its time to pull back on all forms of interaction with them and develop an exit strategy. These people are insatiable manipulators who have to be stopped, as they are energy addicts, incapable of fair play and empathy. Feel no guilt for them, they will take and take until you break.
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These draining people are life's takers. They have selfish tendencies and poor self awareness, but they do know what they are doing. They often disrespect boundaries, impose themselves on kind people, force their way into others lives and simply take up people's time and energies with no regard. They choose their targets carefully and it is often the kind and considerate that end up being exploited through guilt. These people often learn that they won't be tolerated by many so they watch for those empathetic people who will show them kindness and this is their opportunity to get close and begin their true purpose of draining you. Over time you will begin to see their patterns of behaviour and feel imposed upon through their interactions with you. They play dumb to your needs because it serves their purpose. These people are not genuine friends, just opportunistic energy vampires going from one person to the next, taking all they can get until they are discovered, rejected or shunned. Trust how people make us feel, once we feel drained by people its time to pull back on all forms of interaction with them and develop an exit strategy. These people are insatiable manipulators who have to be stopped, as they are energy addicts, incapable of fair play and empathy. Feel no guilt for them, they will take and take until you break.
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Auraron
On of my friend just drains my energy alot- they usually snap at me for small things and annoy me just to get my attention the wrong way by saying annoying stuff, jumping on me and being clingy. which is annoying but theyre still a close friend and its impossible for me to let go. -. i cant do it because theyre friends whit all my other friends and we see each other every 5 days of the week. just being whit this person over few hours makes me annoyed and anxious- this along whit my social anxiety is not fun. sometimes i feel myself the bad person, Its just that i cant take their attitude any longer and i have started to snap at them easily, make excuses to not hang out and i will always need a third person that doesnt annoy me if im hanging out whit that one person who does it: :
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On of my friend just drains my energy alot- they usually snap at me for small things and annoy me just to get my attention the wrong way by saying annoying stuff, jumping on me and being clingy. which is annoying but theyre still a close friend and its impossible for me to let go. -. i cant do it because theyre friends whit all my other friends and we see each other every 5 days of the week. just being whit this person over few hours makes me annoyed and anxious- this along whit my social anxiety is not fun. sometimes i feel myself the bad person, Its just that i cant take their attitude any longer and i have started to snap at them easily, make excuses to not hang out and i will always need a third person that doesnt annoy me if im hanging out whit that one person who does it: :
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Ellen
A few friends recently have made me feel this way. For whatever reason, they all seem to think I have a perfect life and pretty much every interaction we'd have would be because they were in crisis and looked to me to constantly be putting out the 4 to 10 fires a day they had blazing. On the rare occasion I'd try to approach any one of them with something I was going through or even worse. something they had done that even slightly upset me. I would have my feelings invalidated because they're going through something SO much worse and/or I was accused of kicking them when they're down. Ended up walking away from them all. which made me horrible in their eyes. I have a hunch they may feel that way because they lost their emotional dumpster & punching bag.
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A few friends recently have made me feel this way. For whatever reason, they all seem to think I have a perfect life and pretty much every interaction we'd have would be because they were in crisis and looked to me to constantly be putting out the 4 to 10 fires a day they had blazing. On the rare occasion I'd try to approach any one of them with something I was going through or even worse. something they had done that even slightly upset me. I would have my feelings invalidated because they're going through something SO much worse and/or I was accused of kicking them when they're down. Ended up walking away from them all. which made me horrible in their eyes. I have a hunch they may feel that way because they lost their emotional dumpster & punching bag.
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Amara
I have a family member. Have been really draining to me, my entire family for years. The person is a leech always complaining, blaming others for there problems, begging for money never have and never giving. Can't help you but want you to always help the individual, comes across as a nice person once you get to know the person but really is not and the list goes on and on( Two face more like it. Family put up with it but i told them enough is enough need to put there foot down but they dont lesson. I have had it. I reach a point now way I don't want to have to do nothing with the person. I wont continue anymore years. Now when I see the person I keep my distance. If they want to put up with it I don't have to.
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I have a family member. Have been really draining to me, my entire family for years. The person is a leech always complaining, blaming others for there problems, begging for money never have and never giving. Can't help you but want you to always help the individual, comes across as a nice person once you get to know the person but really is not and the list goes on and on( Two face more like it. Family put up with it but i told them enough is enough need to put there foot down but they dont lesson. I have had it. I reach a point now way I don't want to have to do nothing with the person. I wont continue anymore years. Now when I see the person I keep my distance. If they want to put up with it I don't have to.
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Janne
Thank you so much for this video! This really made me feel like I did the right thing. I loved my best friend so much but she had a lot of mental problems and anxiety. She drained me in her negativity. I always listend to her problems so I made myself small to make her feel comfortable. After some fights and disagreements I finally had the courage to speak up for myself. It was horrible to do and see her cry like that but I needed peace and rest because I was so energy drained. I can recognise myself in al these signs and im glad that I can now distance myself from her. It sad to do this the hard way, I tried other ways to make myself clear but none of them worked. Again thankyou for this one!
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Thank you so much for this video! This really made me feel like I did the right thing. I loved my best friend so much but she had a lot of mental problems and anxiety. She drained me in her negativity. I always listend to her problems so I made myself small to make her feel comfortable. After some fights and disagreements I finally had the courage to speak up for myself. It was horrible to do and see her cry like that but I needed peace and rest because I was so energy drained. I can recognise myself in al these signs and im glad that I can now distance myself from her. It sad to do this the hard way, I tried other ways to make myself clear but none of them worked. Again thankyou for this one!
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Alexandra
I really feel the same, I'd say they're a really clingy person. I don't how i would avoid them, all i could do is simply stay quiet. But when i try to be silent, they tend to react as if I'm the bad person; that I'm leaving them behind, making them feel bad for themselves, and after getting carried away with their emotions They will talk behind my back, and say all my mistakes and insecurities.
But when things are finally back to being good, this person starts to say those hurtful words in a frank way, after that they'll make it look like as a joke, (they will apologize over and over, but do it again over an over.
This person mostly spends time with me only when they need me.
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I really feel the same, I'd say they're a really clingy person. I don't how i would avoid them, all i could do is simply stay quiet. But when i try to be silent, they tend to react as if I'm the bad person; that I'm leaving them behind, making them feel bad for themselves, and after getting carried away with their emotions They will talk behind my back, and say all my mistakes and insecurities.
But when things are finally back to being good, this person starts to say those hurtful words in a frank way, after that they'll make it look like as a joke, (they will apologize over and over, but do it again over an over.
This person mostly spends time with me only when they need me.
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ChronicDonut
I don't feel drained by someone, but I do feel like I have been unintentionally draining someone.
I have not met her IRL, but we've been texting each other on Snapchat since July 2022 and we've known each other 6 months prior through VRchat.
Anyway, we were texting each other frequently for a few months, but then we texted each other less & less. I ended up being the one starting the conversations most of the times, and I've just been getting dry replies, so I have taken a step back and let her breathe. Sometimes I think that I am the cause of her feeling mentally unwell, but it's most likely not true.
This is a curse, or better yet; I am the curse.
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I don't feel drained by someone, but I do feel like I have been unintentionally draining someone.
I have not met her IRL, but we've been texting each other on Snapchat since July 2022 and we've known each other 6 months prior through VRchat.
Anyway, we were texting each other frequently for a few months, but then we texted each other less & less. I ended up being the one starting the conversations most of the times, and I've just been getting dry replies, so I have taken a step back and let her breathe. Sometimes I think that I am the cause of her feeling mentally unwell, but it's most likely not true.
This is a curse, or better yet; I am the curse.
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alikouwu
God watching this and seeing other people's comments just really makes me afraid that i'm draining my MU with my problems. I always ask him for reassurance because im always afraid of him being tired of me. And i know he always says he wont ever leave me but i know those are just words and those might change in the future. The thought of him being drained by me is killing me and im afraid one day he will tell me that hes done with me. I want to ask him for reassurance again but i realized thats probably draining him as well. I hate feeling so insecure about our relationship, i hate that i have to keep worrying, why cant i just enjoy the moment: (
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God watching this and seeing other people's comments just really makes me afraid that i'm draining my MU with my problems. I always ask him for reassurance because im always afraid of him being tired of me. And i know he always says he wont ever leave me but i know those are just words and those might change in the future. The thought of him being drained by me is killing me and im afraid one day he will tell me that hes done with me. I want to ask him for reassurance again but i realized thats probably draining him as well. I hate feeling so insecure about our relationship, i hate that i have to keep worrying, why cant i just enjoy the moment: (
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xynnelt
i hate her so much and i cant get away from her.
She is the new student, we are in a strict hard private school and she needs help and she asks me for way too much that I cant do, and the teachers keep me and her in the same groups in EVERYTHING. i hate it. i am sitting next to her in class and she is slowly making me distance with my real friends. I have a kind heart and cant leave her, because she needs help. she is very annoying and steals all my answers making me change my answer, i hate sitting next to her. she doesnt ask the teachers any questions but just me, why do i always sit with her and be with her? Why why why. I hate her.
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i hate her so much and i cant get away from her.
She is the new student, we are in a strict hard private school and she needs help and she asks me for way too much that I cant do, and the teachers keep me and her in the same groups in EVERYTHING. i hate it. i am sitting next to her in class and she is slowly making me distance with my real friends. I have a kind heart and cant leave her, because she needs help. she is very annoying and steals all my answers making me change my answer, i hate sitting next to her. she doesnt ask the teachers any questions but just me, why do i always sit with her and be with her? Why why why. I hate her.
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Zozo
Theyre one of my best friends and shes really depressed. I do my best to help them but I feel like nothing I do is helping at all. I never have time to focus on my own mental health though she tells me to focus on myself after telling me something dreadful that happened to her, how does she expect me to worry about myself? She wont let me help her but I know she really does want help when she brings her mental health up but then refuses my help when I give it to her. Its infuriating and Ive already dealt with someone like this. (Though she isnt a manipulative gaslighter like the last one) this has helped a bunch.
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Theyre one of my best friends and shes really depressed. I do my best to help them but I feel like nothing I do is helping at all. I never have time to focus on my own mental health though she tells me to focus on myself after telling me something dreadful that happened to her, how does she expect me to worry about myself? She wont let me help her but I know she really does want help when she brings her mental health up but then refuses my help when I give it to her. Its infuriating and Ive already dealt with someone like this. (Though she isnt a manipulative gaslighter like the last one) this has helped a bunch.
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Katze
Unfortunately its miserable and very unsettling when the person who gave birth to me visits me. I feel so mentally upset as she comes to only nake me feel pathetically sad and like Im a useless person. Now I rather not communicate much to her because of sharp razor words she throws at me. Took me such a long time to be affirmative and look after my own mental health. Now I find solitude by being with myself alone. I dont like to socialise. I feel so lost and sad after meeting some people so I rather not meet anyone. Parties are not fun place to be. I dont party either.
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Unfortunately its miserable and very unsettling when the person who gave birth to me visits me. I feel so mentally upset as she comes to only nake me feel pathetically sad and like Im a useless person. Now I rather not communicate much to her because of sharp razor words she throws at me. Took me such a long time to be affirmative and look after my own mental health. Now I find solitude by being with myself alone. I dont like to socialise. I feel so lost and sad after meeting some people so I rather not meet anyone. Parties are not fun place to be. I dont party either.
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stephie
I love my bestie but I CANNOT be friends with her anymore I do everything for her when I'm starving I give her whatever I have but she's to drawing she pulls me away from my other friends that's my main problem today talked to her about how I feel and NB: her mom is very emotionally abusive her dad lives in a different country so I get why she's clingy.
But all she said was in a kinda sad tone is: Yeah I'm kinda numb to this my mum does this all the time and I felt guilty when I was talking I actually felt anxious. so is this a toxic friendship
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I love my bestie but I CANNOT be friends with her anymore I do everything for her when I'm starving I give her whatever I have but she's to drawing she pulls me away from my other friends that's my main problem today talked to her about how I feel and NB: her mom is very emotionally abusive her dad lives in a different country so I get why she's clingy.
But all she said was in a kinda sad tone is: Yeah I'm kinda numb to this my mum does this all the time and I felt guilty when I was talking I actually felt anxious. so is this a toxic friendship
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daisuke910
I think my friend is drained of me but I am not sure what I did or I have asked but he said it is ok.
I always ended up apologising every time previously but I am not sure what to do anymore. He seems to be avoiding me in public settings with others although we met last week and hang out just the two of us. What is happening.
I guess I get the gist that I was the unintended friend (due to proximity he really needed a friend) as I don't speak his native language and all his current group of friends are. Now he has other friends
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I think my friend is drained of me but I am not sure what I did or I have asked but he said it is ok.
I always ended up apologising every time previously but I am not sure what to do anymore. He seems to be avoiding me in public settings with others although we met last week and hang out just the two of us. What is happening.
I guess I get the gist that I was the unintended friend (due to proximity he really needed a friend) as I don't speak his native language and all his current group of friends are. Now he has other friends
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Nathan
That was my ex wife for me. I have been physically disabled for a number of years for various chronic issues. In the 6 months since she's left for another man, my life has been so much less stressful! I used to scoff at the idea of physical ailments being caused by psychological issues, but I'm reconsidering that now that many of the symptoms of my chronic conditions have been disappearing! I seriously feel like I'm a new man again and loving life even if I am divorced and single!
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That was my ex wife for me. I have been physically disabled for a number of years for various chronic issues. In the 6 months since she's left for another man, my life has been so much less stressful! I used to scoff at the idea of physical ailments being caused by psychological issues, but I'm reconsidering that now that many of the symptoms of my chronic conditions have been disappearing! I seriously feel like I'm a new man again and loving life even if I am divorced and single!
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Abigail
I have a friend that always depend on me and when im busy and i don't have time to be with her or do a school project with someone else she ignores me for the rest of the day. I always felt like the effort in this friendship was always on my side bc it was always me who had to reach out to her. So i stopped putting the effort, and i noticed that if i don't reach out to her or do a school project with her, she's not even talking to me. So am i wrong? If so can u give some advice?
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I have a friend that always depend on me and when im busy and i don't have time to be with her or do a school project with someone else she ignores me for the rest of the day. I always felt like the effort in this friendship was always on my side bc it was always me who had to reach out to her. So i stopped putting the effort, and i noticed that if i don't reach out to her or do a school project with her, she's not even talking to me. So am i wrong? If so can u give some advice?
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Darren
Yep thats what my brother is doing to me, had to leave my mothers house becos of him Tuesday, I was spose to be staying over Xmas and new year 3nights I was ther! 130miles away for 3nightshis a narc and a drunk thats me on my own again new years I have learning difficulties and autism spec he does not understand I waiting for surgery my ears because ther broken both have holes in drums wont heal real Messing my contraitn up awaiting new appointment dont know when be? I hope soon
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Yep thats what my brother is doing to me, had to leave my mothers house becos of him Tuesday, I was spose to be staying over Xmas and new year 3nights I was ther! 130miles away for 3nightshis a narc and a drunk thats me on my own again new years I have learning difficulties and autism spec he does not understand I waiting for surgery my ears because ther broken both have holes in drums wont heal real Messing my contraitn up awaiting new appointment dont know when be? I hope soon
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Kodi
Does feeling absolute disgust and disturbance being near said person count? My body begins to feel the desperate need to vomit even when I havent eaten. I also have the immense feeling of dread being in someplace with the being within 10 feet of me, and my mom insists on still trying to have me under the same roof as them. I was kicked out by them and my mom believes she cant leave them. Im stuck living on my relatives couch. Its been over a year.
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Does feeling absolute disgust and disturbance being near said person count? My body begins to feel the desperate need to vomit even when I havent eaten. I also have the immense feeling of dread being in someplace with the being within 10 feet of me, and my mom insists on still trying to have me under the same roof as them. I was kicked out by them and my mom believes she cant leave them. Im stuck living on my relatives couch. Its been over a year.
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that
What's the saddest thing you heard someone say? It made you cry your heart out for that person, even if I didn't happen to you before. Now imagine hearing that EVERYDAY at inappropriate times. You'll be really happy then BAM trauma dump. Sadness can have physical effects on someone, and being sad everyday is unhealthy. And it's hard when it's someone close to you. BUT STOP you are NOT their therapist, or their parents. Focus on your happiness too
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What's the saddest thing you heard someone say? It made you cry your heart out for that person, even if I didn't happen to you before. Now imagine hearing that EVERYDAY at inappropriate times. You'll be really happy then BAM trauma dump. Sadness can have physical effects on someone, and being sad everyday is unhealthy. And it's hard when it's someone close to you. BUT STOP you are NOT their therapist, or their parents. Focus on your happiness too
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education
Sorry that I vent here but I don't know to whom I must talk about it: I have a close friend that often make me feel drain lately, he often talks about his problem (any kind; social life, family, work, it was fine before but it getting frequent from time to time, I know he has no one to talk to aside of me but his negativity start effect on me and he seem never considering that I have my own problems, it's giving me headache.
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Sorry that I vent here but I don't know to whom I must talk about it: I have a close friend that often make me feel drain lately, he often talks about his problem (any kind; social life, family, work, it was fine before but it getting frequent from time to time, I know he has no one to talk to aside of me but his negativity start effect on me and he seem never considering that I have my own problems, it's giving me headache.
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Mickey
My daughter treats me like this. Like I'm poison- I don't act like this but her dad who is a narcissist has brainwashed her into thinking these things about me. I have kept my distance but I so miss and love my daughter. What should I do? I've been keeping my distance for many years. Do I wait and see if she ever comes back? She's in her mid 30s and I'm proud to say she is very talented and independent.
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My daughter treats me like this. Like I'm poison- I don't act like this but her dad who is a narcissist has brainwashed her into thinking these things about me. I have kept my distance but I so miss and love my daughter. What should I do? I've been keeping my distance for many years. Do I wait and see if she ever comes back? She's in her mid 30s and I'm proud to say she is very talented and independent.
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ccttonvxl
So. I have this friend who I filled really drained every time i talked to her. Literally every day was a new problem in her life. I was exhausted. I told her how I felt and she said she would stop doing it. The thing is, she actually stopped but i don't feel the same around her.
It makes me feel guilty, but i don't feel like talking to her anymore. Am i doing the right thing?
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So. I have this friend who I filled really drained every time i talked to her. Literally every day was a new problem in her life. I was exhausted. I told her how I felt and she said she would stop doing it. The thing is, she actually stopped but i don't feel the same around her.
It makes me feel guilty, but i don't feel like talking to her anymore. Am i doing the right thing?
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Bruce
Its so hard when you have labeled each other as best friends for so long and when youre close with there family and feel if you express how you feel there family will have a poor image of you. When I try distancing myself they just keep spamming my phone, our mutuals friends feel similar to how I feel. But I cant break apart with them with the amount of circles we are in together.
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Its so hard when you have labeled each other as best friends for so long and when youre close with there family and feel if you express how you feel there family will have a poor image of you. When I try distancing myself they just keep spamming my phone, our mutuals friends feel similar to how I feel. But I cant break apart with them with the amount of circles we are in together.
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