6 Signs You've Been Abused, NOT Your Fault
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Date: 2023-08-20
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Rachel
The second one (Physical Health Problems) is so so real and it goes unnoticed by so many people. I've witnessed friends constantly (EMETEPHOBIA WARNING) vomit, not because of any sort of eating disorder, but because of stomach pains. Often they ignored it, blowing it off as a stomach bug when it would happen every day and correlate with high-stress moments in their life. I saw loved ones struggle with daily headaches due to abusive childhoods and believe it's just due to allergies, even though it happened right before they were about to go home. I developed a Functional Neurological Disorder, meaning that, when I became triggered or stressed (even if I didn't realize it) or sometimes even upset, I would faint, or worse, I would go into often hour-long seizures. It took months to get a sure diagnosis. All I'll say is that if your gut tells you something is wrong, don't be afraid to get checked by a doctor. Sometimes there's more behind it than meets the eye.
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The second one (Physical Health Problems) is so so real and it goes unnoticed by so many people. I've witnessed friends constantly (EMETEPHOBIA WARNING) vomit, not because of any sort of eating disorder, but because of stomach pains. Often they ignored it, blowing it off as a stomach bug when it would happen every day and correlate with high-stress moments in their life. I saw loved ones struggle with daily headaches due to abusive childhoods and believe it's just due to allergies, even though it happened right before they were about to go home. I developed a Functional Neurological Disorder, meaning that, when I became triggered or stressed (even if I didn't realize it) or sometimes even upset, I would faint, or worse, I would go into often hour-long seizures. It took months to get a sure diagnosis. All I'll say is that if your gut tells you something is wrong, don't be afraid to get checked by a doctor. Sometimes there's more behind it than meets the eye.
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Gamer4life
I know this video is old but my story is true. when I was 3 years old I was abused by my step father didn't like me and ignored me. I was hit by a belt and I did nothing wrong I was just acting my age. it does affect my relationships or friendships. I feel safe being alone but it takes a toll on health. I hope that people who have been abused do reach help because over the years I thought about ending my life until I did. but I cameback because I have unfinished business. just letting anyone who come across this your not alone it can happen to anyone. my therapist suggested to write a letter its painful but it makes you feel better you never send you can write as much anger as you want and then you feel better. over time it did help and I started making friends and I have grown over time and it's not as painful now. I hope this helps on your situation because this helped for me.
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I know this video is old but my story is true. when I was 3 years old I was abused by my step father didn't like me and ignored me. I was hit by a belt and I did nothing wrong I was just acting my age. it does affect my relationships or friendships. I feel safe being alone but it takes a toll on health. I hope that people who have been abused do reach help because over the years I thought about ending my life until I did. but I cameback because I have unfinished business. just letting anyone who come across this your not alone it can happen to anyone. my therapist suggested to write a letter its painful but it makes you feel better you never send you can write as much anger as you want and then you feel better. over time it did help and I started making friends and I have grown over time and it's not as painful now. I hope this helps on your situation because this helped for me.
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The
When my friend was here at our house, my dad got mad that I didn't tell them to not knock on the door. He complained why nobody expressed it to my friend in front of them and was making whoever it was to be horrible and all at fault if the dog had a heart attack. When I was apologizing and saying that it was my bad and I should've known (something he would have been really happy about me doing immediately after he said all that) he was really angry and started yelling at me in front of my friend for having apologized. My friend was shocked and he saw it, and I knew he'd usually want me to bag on myself in front of him, but this time my friend was here. He didn't want my friend to know how we feel when strangers aren't around. He's horrible and always has been. He always has said that what goes on in the house stays in the house and since it's his then he has every right. B r u h
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When my friend was here at our house, my dad got mad that I didn't tell them to not knock on the door. He complained why nobody expressed it to my friend in front of them and was making whoever it was to be horrible and all at fault if the dog had a heart attack. When I was apologizing and saying that it was my bad and I should've known (something he would have been really happy about me doing immediately after he said all that) he was really angry and started yelling at me in front of my friend for having apologized. My friend was shocked and he saw it, and I knew he'd usually want me to bag on myself in front of him, but this time my friend was here. He didn't want my friend to know how we feel when strangers aren't around. He's horrible and always has been. He always has said that what goes on in the house stays in the house and since it's his then he has every right. B r u h
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Versa
YES was so bad I can't say to much because how bad was. There was times that my mind could comprehend because of the shock trying to hide or get away from the person that is why it's difficult for me to attach to someone that I would try to but you know how that goes when you're an autopilot because when you're cold so much all the time that you have just get over it it doesn't work like that. Trying to heal. Sometimes I have your question myself asking myself do I really have to feel that way or I supposed to feel that way or is that how you supposed to feel or think or do. And I try not to feed too much into something of that someone said that because I wasn't playing the victim I wasn't you know making myself to be victimize to be made to believe to think that.
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YES was so bad I can't say to much because how bad was. There was times that my mind could comprehend because of the shock trying to hide or get away from the person that is why it's difficult for me to attach to someone that I would try to but you know how that goes when you're an autopilot because when you're cold so much all the time that you have just get over it it doesn't work like that. Trying to heal. Sometimes I have your question myself asking myself do I really have to feel that way or I supposed to feel that way or is that how you supposed to feel or think or do. And I try not to feed too much into something of that someone said that because I wasn't playing the victim I wasn't you know making myself to be victimize to be made to believe to think that.
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Slivka
Thanks a lot for the video!
Hmm, unfortunately you are wrong. My biggest mistake was that I was born without asking and then I was forced to be grateful (without any rights to complain) to my parents like as it was my choice to be born and ruined their dreams and hobbies. As my mom used to say she would rather have sack of potatoes then me. Also she admitted that I was actually a bet between her and her roommates at college for a bottle of alcohol that she will get pregnant. At the end she had to give up her hobbies and so because I got born.
Whole family was like this. When I was searching for a understanding of grandma, she replied in the same manner that I have no rights to complain as my mom gave me everything to raise me.
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Thanks a lot for the video!
Hmm, unfortunately you are wrong. My biggest mistake was that I was born without asking and then I was forced to be grateful (without any rights to complain) to my parents like as it was my choice to be born and ruined their dreams and hobbies. As my mom used to say she would rather have sack of potatoes then me. Also she admitted that I was actually a bet between her and her roommates at college for a bottle of alcohol that she will get pregnant. At the end she had to give up her hobbies and so because I got born.
Whole family was like this. When I was searching for a understanding of grandma, she replied in the same manner that I have no rights to complain as my mom gave me everything to raise me.
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Gisha
I was religiously and psychologically abused and as child. I didn't know any better, even as an adult I struggle with social skills, and I don't trust people easily, I was very gullible, and overly trusting as a child, and was taught to think, act and behave in a certain way, and that every other opinion was sinful, I became an Atheist once I grew up, and finally saw the world I grew up in for what it really was. I lost a lot of people that I had thought were friends and family, and overtime I got people who I now consider my true friends and family, and even today I still have a lot of trouble being open and vulnerable, and I have a lot of issues trusting people because I don't want to get hurt and lied to again.
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I was religiously and psychologically abused and as child. I didn't know any better, even as an adult I struggle with social skills, and I don't trust people easily, I was very gullible, and overly trusting as a child, and was taught to think, act and behave in a certain way, and that every other opinion was sinful, I became an Atheist once I grew up, and finally saw the world I grew up in for what it really was. I lost a lot of people that I had thought were friends and family, and overtime I got people who I now consider my true friends and family, and even today I still have a lot of trouble being open and vulnerable, and I have a lot of issues trusting people because I don't want to get hurt and lied to again.
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Art
I feel you.
I see you.
Youre not alone.
We all go through different experiences of abuse from people we call family/friends/teachers/society and we become our own if were not self-aware.
Healing my own unresolved childhood trauma in my adulthood was rough at first up until I made a commitment to feel the pain and discomfort. Opening my heart is healing and freeing me from the prison I thought I will never get out of.
Thank God Im now on the other side and feel whole, love myself and become my own hero that I promised my younger self to be the woman I didnt had earlier on.
Now, Im on a mission helping others to do the same.
Were all in this together.
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I feel you.
I see you.
Youre not alone.
We all go through different experiences of abuse from people we call family/friends/teachers/society and we become our own if were not self-aware.
Healing my own unresolved childhood trauma in my adulthood was rough at first up until I made a commitment to feel the pain and discomfort. Opening my heart is healing and freeing me from the prison I thought I will never get out of.
Thank God Im now on the other side and feel whole, love myself and become my own hero that I promised my younger self to be the woman I didnt had earlier on.
Now, Im on a mission helping others to do the same.
Were all in this together.
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Shibasis
I was 10 when I had this friend who encouraged me into doing horrible things- with her, later on she herself told me to stop, and made me feel incredible guilt for what I did, although she did it as well and was the one who encouraged it. After a few days I found that she was talking about me behind my back, making others see me as horrible person and what did she say when I confronted her? She told me that it everything she told people was true, that I was a horrible person, to this day I've never been able to overcome my guilt
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I was 10 when I had this friend who encouraged me into doing horrible things- with her, later on she herself told me to stop, and made me feel incredible guilt for what I did, although she did it as well and was the one who encouraged it. After a few days I found that she was talking about me behind my back, making others see me as horrible person and what did she say when I confronted her? She told me that it everything she told people was true, that I was a horrible person, to this day I've never been able to overcome my guilt
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Tracy
What bad about the gaslighting me has been done to me by every one including one of my adult children that I made sure she was loved, cared for in every healthy way yet she stays away from me and her brother and won't let me see my own grandsons that I've already proved for the first grandson for almost 5 yrs that I took the best of care when she would have me watch him, she got with a family that all have worse mental health issues than anyone in her family and they don't want her to be in her family so she know acts like them.
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What bad about the gaslighting me has been done to me by every one including one of my adult children that I made sure she was loved, cared for in every healthy way yet she stays away from me and her brother and won't let me see my own grandsons that I've already proved for the first grandson for almost 5 yrs that I took the best of care when she would have me watch him, she got with a family that all have worse mental health issues than anyone in her family and they don't want her to be in her family so she know acts like them.
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Wendy
I was not abused until much later in life, though I have experienced many of these symptoms for a long as I can remember. In my case, there was a very clear reason for that; traumatic brain injury, resulting from a car crash caused by a drunk driver on the wing side of a 4- lane, divided highway with his lights off at about 10: 00 on a January night when I was 15 years old. That affected every corner of my universe, starting with memory and brain chemistry and impaired judgement.
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I was not abused until much later in life, though I have experienced many of these symptoms for a long as I can remember. In my case, there was a very clear reason for that; traumatic brain injury, resulting from a car crash caused by a drunk driver on the wing side of a 4- lane, divided highway with his lights off at about 10: 00 on a January night when I was 15 years old. That affected every corner of my universe, starting with memory and brain chemistry and impaired judgement.
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Hirocopter
My parents always blame me and say that everything bad happening in our live it's my fault only. It always involve financial issues and family issues.
I try very hard not to cry and remain calm near my mother who is my main abuser. I can't help myself but have a panic attack when she's near me and she blames me for that too. I'm just so emotionally exhausted. Everyday seems like my last day
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My parents always blame me and say that everything bad happening in our live it's my fault only. It always involve financial issues and family issues.
I try very hard not to cry and remain calm near my mother who is my main abuser. I can't help myself but have a panic attack when she's near me and she blames me for that too. I'm just so emotionally exhausted. Everyday seems like my last day
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Russell
You should make an assessment video that explains the results of abuse on victims of different personality types. Yes it is a challenge for you but will be enlightening for an inestimable amount of people. Perhaps helping to find understanding in perceived chaos. I myself am a partially unspoken survivor of compounded chronic abuse.
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You should make an assessment video that explains the results of abuse on victims of different personality types. Yes it is a challenge for you but will be enlightening for an inestimable amount of people. Perhaps helping to find understanding in perceived chaos. I myself am a partially unspoken survivor of compounded chronic abuse.
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Maureen
During my suicidal ideation I was diagnosed with major depressive disorder & C-PTSD & anxiety disorder. I started a shit ton of psych meds. After two years of meds & praying the rosary & dbt class. I got off half my meds! I'm doing great now. I know I didbt deserve what my mother did to me.
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During my suicidal ideation I was diagnosed with major depressive disorder & C-PTSD & anxiety disorder. I started a shit ton of psych meds. After two years of meds & praying the rosary & dbt class. I got off half my meds! I'm doing great now. I know I didbt deserve what my mother did to me.
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Rose
Growing up I felt ashamed of myself for being schizophrenic and having seizure adhd I always thought I was a bad apple and didnt deserve love my father shamed me and then my mother thankfully my sister gave me the wake up call to leave my mother I still love my parents but keep my distance
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Growing up I felt ashamed of myself for being schizophrenic and having seizure adhd I always thought I was a bad apple and didnt deserve love my father shamed me and then my mother thankfully my sister gave me the wake up call to leave my mother I still love my parents but keep my distance
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Andrew
Although definitely not a 'licence' for another to abuse one, my incurable Social Akwardness (Autism/ASD) didn't help how I was treated and mistrusted. Yet I can relate largely to the symptoms you describe. In recent years my 'one time' morning motivation is consoicuous by its absence.
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Although definitely not a 'licence' for another to abuse one, my incurable Social Akwardness (Autism/ASD) didn't help how I was treated and mistrusted. Yet I can relate largely to the symptoms you describe. In recent years my 'one time' morning motivation is consoicuous by its absence.
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DraconiInfernalus
not my fault but i have to deal with it somehow alone. 4 and 5 hits hard. and people with c-ptsd/ptsd have a reduced lifetime of 20 years from this kind of illness also because of the many other chronic illnesses that can be the side effects/symptoms of it.
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not my fault but i have to deal with it somehow alone. 4 and 5 hits hard. and people with c-ptsd/ptsd have a reduced lifetime of 20 years from this kind of illness also because of the many other chronic illnesses that can be the side effects/symptoms of it.
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Jenny
Thank you it helped me understand myself a lot better. I have been abused everyway possible. I blame myself because I was told it was my fault. I was made to feel sub human and still feel that way. Trying hard to change the record that has played in my head for years.
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Thank you it helped me understand myself a lot better. I have been abused everyway possible. I blame myself because I was told it was my fault. I was made to feel sub human and still feel that way. Trying hard to change the record that has played in my head for years.
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Queen
I'm alot better being away from where I was born and glad I'm single. Glad I live far away from Ex and the people who believe what they was doing when I was Good yet was evil makes me happy about life and knowing I will never be around them again make me happier.
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I'm alot better being away from where I was born and glad I'm single. Glad I live far away from Ex and the people who believe what they was doing when I was Good yet was evil makes me happy about life and knowing I will never be around them again make me happier.
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Farah
Idk whether emotional bullying counts as abuse or not, but ik that whatever you have gone through, is something you didn't want in the first place. It takes a lot of time to heal from this abuse, but ik that you would come back stronger and healthier
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Idk whether emotional bullying counts as abuse or not, but ik that whatever you have gone through, is something you didn't want in the first place. It takes a lot of time to heal from this abuse, but ik that you would come back stronger and healthier
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Gus
My brother is abusive as hell. He gets agressive everyday and puts hands on me, yells at me, insults me and im never allowed to push him out of our house. And hes older than me and has 23. I get angry sometimes but then blame myself for bein the same
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My brother is abusive as hell. He gets agressive everyday and puts hands on me, yells at me, insults me and im never allowed to push him out of our house. And hes older than me and has 23. I get angry sometimes but then blame myself for bein the same
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Sydney
Not completely understanding if i have been abused even when relating to most of these signs. I feel some of the things Ive developed is because im an autistic person. But i also believe that maybe somewhere in the past i had been.
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Not completely understanding if i have been abused even when relating to most of these signs. I feel some of the things Ive developed is because im an autistic person. But i also believe that maybe somewhere in the past i had been.
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Tupik
Not gonna lie when she said what happened to you is never your fault. I just burst into tears bc I still somehow believe that it is. My mom makes me the bad guy who ruins the family and herself a victim
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Not gonna lie when she said what happened to you is never your fault. I just burst into tears bc I still somehow believe that it is. My mom makes me the bad guy who ruins the family and herself a victim
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Tyler
No wonder I only have one friend in real life. Don't know anyone else and don't want to. People are really out for themselves. They don't care or have empathy and if they do it's the wrong kind.
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No wonder I only have one friend in real life. Don't know anyone else and don't want to. People are really out for themselves. They don't care or have empathy and if they do it's the wrong kind.
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Karen
Having been abused by my mother for 60 years has been horrible, I suffer from PTSD and anxiety. I sought help from a trauma psychologist and received help for a year, feeling so much better now.
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Having been abused by my mother for 60 years has been horrible, I suffer from PTSD and anxiety. I sought help from a trauma psychologist and received help for a year, feeling so much better now.
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Intellectual
When I was younger, I just assumed that what my brother did to me was normal. I thought all sibling relationships were supposed to be like this, and that I was being dramatic for crying.
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When I was younger, I just assumed that what my brother did to me was normal. I thought all sibling relationships were supposed to be like this, and that I was being dramatic for crying.
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