6 Habits That Can HARM Any Relationships
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Date: 2023-08-20
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Caden
This video is so real.
I'm gonna vent just a little bit.
I just got out of a super toxic relationship and all of these were issues we had.
My love language is acts of service, but my ex's was physical touch. I always made sure to accommodate to her love language, but she never did for mine. She would tell me this is how I do things, and this is what makes me happy. The things that made her happy (painful biting, poking, tickling) drastically overstepped my clear boundaries as well, but I let it happen for almost a year. I always thought it was fine until I eventually just felt unloved.
She was extremely codependent, which meant no recharge time for me. I communicated to her many times how important it was to spend time apart, but she would never let me. She would say why are you spending so much time with your friends and not me, why didn't you let me stay on call with you (the whole day)
I always felt like I was doing things for her but never got anything in return. She would always expect me to do things for her whether they be spending a lot of money, physical activity, other random acts of service or sharing many of my belongings. I did these things for her, happy to make her happy. After a few months of nonstop giving I tried to talk to her about giving to me too. She said she'd try. Months go by and I'm still giving and giving.
The most exhausting relationship I've ever been in.
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This video is so real.
I'm gonna vent just a little bit.
I just got out of a super toxic relationship and all of these were issues we had.
My love language is acts of service, but my ex's was physical touch. I always made sure to accommodate to her love language, but she never did for mine. She would tell me this is how I do things, and this is what makes me happy. The things that made her happy (painful biting, poking, tickling) drastically overstepped my clear boundaries as well, but I let it happen for almost a year. I always thought it was fine until I eventually just felt unloved.
She was extremely codependent, which meant no recharge time for me. I communicated to her many times how important it was to spend time apart, but she would never let me. She would say why are you spending so much time with your friends and not me, why didn't you let me stay on call with you (the whole day)
I always felt like I was doing things for her but never got anything in return. She would always expect me to do things for her whether they be spending a lot of money, physical activity, other random acts of service or sharing many of my belongings. I did these things for her, happy to make her happy. After a few months of nonstop giving I tried to talk to her about giving to me too. She said she'd try. Months go by and I'm still giving and giving.
The most exhausting relationship I've ever been in.
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Moraenil
This is why I can never be in a relationship every again. My husband used me and didn't give back at all, making me do everything and resenting every minute. I've never been allowed to have boundaries by anyone (including parents and grandparents. For example, my Mom comes over and puts her dirty shoes (feet still in) on my books on my coffee table, yet if I were ever to do that at her house, she'd kill me (yes, I've asked her not to and she just tells me she has no place to put her feet. how about the floor. I have no idea what love language is. Never seen anything that explains that anywhere in any understandable way. I have no idea how to show affection (comes out like praising a dog. good boy, then again, when you've never gotten it, you have no idea what it's like. Clear and open communication? That's the scariest thing ever. I've never been allowed to tell anyone my feelings or thoughts without being criticized. I'm supposed to just be seen and never heard from. Just another video showing me how I'm either a total loser or I'm not human. not sure which.
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This is why I can never be in a relationship every again. My husband used me and didn't give back at all, making me do everything and resenting every minute. I've never been allowed to have boundaries by anyone (including parents and grandparents. For example, my Mom comes over and puts her dirty shoes (feet still in) on my books on my coffee table, yet if I were ever to do that at her house, she'd kill me (yes, I've asked her not to and she just tells me she has no place to put her feet. how about the floor. I have no idea what love language is. Never seen anything that explains that anywhere in any understandable way. I have no idea how to show affection (comes out like praising a dog. good boy, then again, when you've never gotten it, you have no idea what it's like. Clear and open communication? That's the scariest thing ever. I've never been allowed to tell anyone my feelings or thoughts without being criticized. I'm supposed to just be seen and never heard from. Just another video showing me how I'm either a total loser or I'm not human. not sure which.
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Michi
I feel like my best friend takes me for granted an example is we had a fight and I think she expected me to talk to her firstusually I would since I dont like issues unsolved. However this time I was really upset and didnt talk to her nor did she talk to me. I felt upsetit seems like she doesnt care about me. If she didnt text me for a few days I would check up on her, it doesnt mean Im being annoying I know you can be busy but I just want to make sure youre alright and not upset or mad at me (just in case. So we didnt talk for a month. A few days ago I texted her a little update on my first day of college and she replied oh so were talking again so she knew we seem to have a problem but she wont even be the first one to talk. (The argument was something she said and I told her my thought that moment not being rude) its like wow I dont mind caring for her feelings 80% of the time but I also have my down moments. I dont mind giving ppl warm hugs but its also really nice to receive it when I need it to.
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I feel like my best friend takes me for granted an example is we had a fight and I think she expected me to talk to her firstusually I would since I dont like issues unsolved. However this time I was really upset and didnt talk to her nor did she talk to me. I felt upsetit seems like she doesnt care about me. If she didnt text me for a few days I would check up on her, it doesnt mean Im being annoying I know you can be busy but I just want to make sure youre alright and not upset or mad at me (just in case. So we didnt talk for a month. A few days ago I texted her a little update on my first day of college and she replied oh so were talking again so she knew we seem to have a problem but she wont even be the first one to talk. (The argument was something she said and I told her my thought that moment not being rude) its like wow I dont mind caring for her feelings 80% of the time but I also have my down moments. I dont mind giving ppl warm hugs but its also really nice to receive it when I need it to.
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RainyCross
I have an ex, one night he was drunk, and yes where he lives it is legal for younger ppl to drink. I used to be poly and so was he, I didn't know how'd he react as drunk mainly bc he never stated or said he wasn't drinking. I talked about adding a new partner to our relationship, he kinda blew up on me, and when I explained to the new partner I was talking about they told my now ex how I was feeling. Which in turn caused him to blow up on me even more saying stuff like I can never have alone time with you can i? Or Gee I just want some alone time can't you see! Yes I respected that he wanted to be alone, I waited for 3 days, and even so my friend had no right to tell them how I felt. I respected he wanted to be alone but the way he said it made me terrified of him when either he was in a bad mood or drunk which in turn now made me not be poly anymore.
He left me for someone else. I have someone new now and I love her.
I just wish I saw the other red flags sooner.
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I have an ex, one night he was drunk, and yes where he lives it is legal for younger ppl to drink. I used to be poly and so was he, I didn't know how'd he react as drunk mainly bc he never stated or said he wasn't drinking. I talked about adding a new partner to our relationship, he kinda blew up on me, and when I explained to the new partner I was talking about they told my now ex how I was feeling. Which in turn caused him to blow up on me even more saying stuff like I can never have alone time with you can i? Or Gee I just want some alone time can't you see! Yes I respected that he wanted to be alone, I waited for 3 days, and even so my friend had no right to tell them how I felt. I respected he wanted to be alone but the way he said it made me terrified of him when either he was in a bad mood or drunk which in turn now made me not be poly anymore.
He left me for someone else. I have someone new now and I love her.
I just wish I saw the other red flags sooner.
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MochiPie-
Can you do a video about why you feel left out I've been feeling left out like one time this girl was getting so much attention and saying that she was pretty or maybe cute and stuff and people seem to never notice me if I ever say something like do I look good? They would always say thing like cool I guees or um um ok ok gotta go but when it comes to that girl she seems to be more pretty or cool cause they kept saying that she was pretty and looked that they had alot of time for her but not me made me feel like I wasn't important or good looking or maybe people made lies to get attention and to make people think that she's special like im rich or own 99 pets can lead people to not believe anything about you even you're name or place it makes me feel depressed or not important at all to anyone
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Can you do a video about why you feel left out I've been feeling left out like one time this girl was getting so much attention and saying that she was pretty or maybe cute and stuff and people seem to never notice me if I ever say something like do I look good? They would always say thing like cool I guees or um um ok ok gotta go but when it comes to that girl she seems to be more pretty or cool cause they kept saying that she was pretty and looked that they had alot of time for her but not me made me feel like I wasn't important or good looking or maybe people made lies to get attention and to make people think that she's special like im rich or own 99 pets can lead people to not believe anything about you even you're name or place it makes me feel depressed or not important at all to anyone
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Phoenix
I was in my first relationship when i was 16. I displayed little to no affection and he used to overstep boundaries. We were 16 and immature and there was a lot of fight. We drifted apart after 1. 5 years. Now when I think about it, I didn't show affections cause I didn't know how to. I have seen (still am) my parents coexisting in a loveless marriage ever since I can remember and raised by a schizophrenic (probably narcissistic too) mother. He didn't deserve any of that. We aren't in talking terms rn but I do hope he gets someone who can love him. I haven't been in a relationship since, it's been 4 years, and I'm trying to fix my issues. I hope I can break free from my inner demons someday.
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I was in my first relationship when i was 16. I displayed little to no affection and he used to overstep boundaries. We were 16 and immature and there was a lot of fight. We drifted apart after 1. 5 years. Now when I think about it, I didn't show affections cause I didn't know how to. I have seen (still am) my parents coexisting in a loveless marriage ever since I can remember and raised by a schizophrenic (probably narcissistic too) mother. He didn't deserve any of that. We aren't in talking terms rn but I do hope he gets someone who can love him. I haven't been in a relationship since, it's been 4 years, and I'm trying to fix my issues. I hope I can break free from my inner demons someday.
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Blackmagik
I had a crush that we are very common on each other. We're 13 so we need to be patience to meet her in person, she's from Mongolia n I from Philippines and we're going to highschool. We promised that we meet each other for next decade. We staying our relationship balanced with care, respect, and boundaries. If she say she will play games alone, I let her do that alone. If we have to do something we can wait. If we need to go, we'll say goodbye n cya. I learned something that Respect on each other is big key to have really good relationship.
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I had a crush that we are very common on each other. We're 13 so we need to be patience to meet her in person, she's from Mongolia n I from Philippines and we're going to highschool. We promised that we meet each other for next decade. We staying our relationship balanced with care, respect, and boundaries. If she say she will play games alone, I let her do that alone. If we have to do something we can wait. If we need to go, we'll say goodbye n cya. I learned something that Respect on each other is big key to have really good relationship.
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Ol_Ds
you know, this video is actually kinda sad since I've done mistakes too
the feelings of guilt, fear of hurting someone and stuff just make me feel disappointed about myself because my friendship and relationship ended (it's not only my fault tho, these people also did me dirty so that's how it was supposed to be) and only now, reflecting on it, I can see how much stuff have I done that I regret about
and now I'm pretty much alone (not so lonely tho) and I am just scared to hurt new people
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you know, this video is actually kinda sad since I've done mistakes too
the feelings of guilt, fear of hurting someone and stuff just make me feel disappointed about myself because my friendship and relationship ended (it's not only my fault tho, these people also did me dirty so that's how it was supposed to be) and only now, reflecting on it, I can see how much stuff have I done that I regret about
and now I'm pretty much alone (not so lonely tho) and I am just scared to hurt new people
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pandascoops
Important to know that this is for when you have a relationship (includes friendships too) and not just with random people. Communication gets more important as you develop these relationships. Trust is slowly built with good effort and time spent wisely with each other. Outside that, we should all observe common courtesy, decency, respect, and even more boundaries (considering the context of a situation) even if its the not verbally communicated.
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Important to know that this is for when you have a relationship (includes friendships too) and not just with random people. Communication gets more important as you develop these relationships. Trust is slowly built with good effort and time spent wisely with each other. Outside that, we should all observe common courtesy, decency, respect, and even more boundaries (considering the context of a situation) even if its the not verbally communicated.
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Atomic
Boundaries and communication have always been tough for me. Kind of feels like I'm always assuming things as well, or vice versa. I'm assuming that they are assuming lol. Like being concise with how we are feeling, or being concise with our boundaries. This video did bring some calm to mind because remembering to recharge is always good. Or making time for our hobbies and friend's, so that we are not always together
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Boundaries and communication have always been tough for me. Kind of feels like I'm always assuming things as well, or vice versa. I'm assuming that they are assuming lol. Like being concise with how we are feeling, or being concise with our boundaries. This video did bring some calm to mind because remembering to recharge is always good. Or making time for our hobbies and friend's, so that we are not always together
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Solo
To Fellow People
The way you think and feel about yourself, your goals and expectations for the future, and how you interact with the world around you can all have a massive effect on your success (or failure.
So think positive to all your endeavors because success is through a positive mindset
Thanks for reading.
I LOVE YOU
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To Fellow People
The way you think and feel about yourself, your goals and expectations for the future, and how you interact with the world around you can all have a massive effect on your success (or failure.
So think positive to all your endeavors because success is through a positive mindset
Thanks for reading.
I LOVE YOU
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Quiczor
I'm still not sure how to deal with the first one. Specifically the part about not telling your partner something because of a potential reaction. When they consistently have said reaction it makes it very hard to keep being open about specific topics, even if being open is very important.
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I'm still not sure how to deal with the first one. Specifically the part about not telling your partner something because of a potential reaction. When they consistently have said reaction it makes it very hard to keep being open about specific topics, even if being open is very important.
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B.
+Psych2go Thanks for the list of maladaptative habits:
0: 29(1) Lack of clear and open communication
1: 06(2) Projection of own emotions onto partner
1: 34(3) Boundary issues
2: 27(4) Lack of affection
3: 15(5) Tanking partner for granted
3: 59(6) Insufficient alone time
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+Psych2go Thanks for the list of maladaptative habits:
0: 29(1) Lack of clear and open communication
1: 06(2) Projection of own emotions onto partner
1: 34(3) Boundary issues
2: 27(4) Lack of affection
3: 15(5) Tanking partner for granted
3: 59(6) Insufficient alone time
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The
Great video. I tried to play it on TV so a bigger audience can watch your video at one time but unfortunately most of your videos does not play well on smart TV in terms of audio as your voice was very soft/low toned, so we had to watch selected ones only. Either way, great videos.
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Great video. I tried to play it on TV so a bigger audience can watch your video at one time but unfortunately most of your videos does not play well on smart TV in terms of audio as your voice was very soft/low toned, so we had to watch selected ones only. Either way, great videos.
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Erika
the boundaries one is something ive struggled with so much cuz i grew up with little to no boundaries and its something that caused so much frustration for my boyfriend especially at the beginning of our relationship. weve had lots of talks about it and i hope im getting better
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the boundaries one is something ive struggled with so much cuz i grew up with little to no boundaries and its something that caused so much frustration for my boyfriend especially at the beginning of our relationship. weve had lots of talks about it and i hope im getting better
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grenlin!
thankyou for the last one! ive always tried to be with my loved ones 24/7 because i never rewlly spent time with anyone else, i stopped myself from making more friends, its nice to enjoy your own company, im learning to love my own company and time alone, thankyou again!
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thankyou for the last one! ive always tried to be with my loved ones 24/7 because i never rewlly spent time with anyone else, i stopped myself from making more friends, its nice to enjoy your own company, im learning to love my own company and time alone, thankyou again!
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Sant
I tell i tiny lie to my partner; -;
He ask me if my exams are over and i said yea: )
they are not over yet
Now should I tell him i was lying; -;
His reaction was wholesome when i told him I'm done with my exams
Now I'm officially confused; -;; ;;
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I tell i tiny lie to my partner; -;
He ask me if my exams are over and i said yea: )
they are not over yet
Now should I tell him i was lying; -;
His reaction was wholesome when i told him I'm done with my exams
Now I'm officially confused; -;; ;;
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education
This is a perfect timing for my situation
I'm actually in a very awkward situation with my friends and all the points are the reason. but we are clearing our plates right now and i hope that we can reset things and go back to our regular fun time.
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This is a perfect timing for my situation
I'm actually in a very awkward situation with my friends and all the points are the reason. but we are clearing our plates right now and i hope that we can reset things and go back to our regular fun time.
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Fishstick45
I uh really struggled in a relationship with this girl that just liked me a lot and I liked her back but she always texted me no matter when the time was and I really needed alone time its so good Im not the only guy who feels this way
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I uh really struggled in a relationship with this girl that just liked me a lot and I liked her back but she always texted me no matter when the time was and I really needed alone time its so good Im not the only guy who feels this way
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Mylenapony
Just went through a breakup so its nice to see where I went wrong.
I guess after a while I just started getting apathetic because I was putting in most of the effort.
Then again, maybe I only think I was putting in the mojority
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Just went through a breakup so its nice to see where I went wrong.
I guess after a while I just started getting apathetic because I was putting in most of the effort.
Then again, maybe I only think I was putting in the mojority
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Phil
3: 11 maybe sometimes I hug my friend too much. I mean, she loves physicall touch but just not as much as me, she prefer to just listen to me (talking with me, but she doesn't talk rly much. So, sometimes I feel selfish doing this: c
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3: 11 maybe sometimes I hug my friend too much. I mean, she loves physicall touch but just not as much as me, she prefer to just listen to me (talking with me, but she doesn't talk rly much. So, sometimes I feel selfish doing this: c
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Urja
Even single people like me can Totally agreed with all the Points. dealing with all the relationship in our life ( family n friends. Thank you Psych2Go. Always Happy n Grateful to watch n learn from your wonderful Videos.
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Even single people like me can Totally agreed with all the Points. dealing with all the relationship in our life ( family n friends. Thank you Psych2Go. Always Happy n Grateful to watch n learn from your wonderful Videos.
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Sucrox
Hi Psych2go, So. i have a crush at my school and I have one problem. One of them is that i don't talk to them or make eye contact since It makes me feel nervous. Do you know what i should do.
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Hi Psych2go, So. i have a crush at my school and I have one problem. One of them is that i don't talk to them or make eye contact since It makes me feel nervous. Do you know what i should do.
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Noi_En&Th
Can you tell me what I should do? My BFF love my bf but my bf doesnt love her so she try so hard. I dont want to make her sad but I dont want to make my bf uncomfortable either: (
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Can you tell me what I should do? My BFF love my bf but my bf doesnt love her so she try so hard. I dont want to make her sad but I dont want to make my bf uncomfortable either: (
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Nick
May be I was too immature for the relationship or I didn't had the skills to balance it.
Was I too good to them or wasn't I worthy to them?
Not only God but they also knows.
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May be I was too immature for the relationship or I didn't had the skills to balance it.
Was I too good to them or wasn't I worthy to them?
Not only God but they also knows.
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