6 Signs You're Too Emotionally Needy
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Date: 2023-08-20
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lionpikmin
I used to be the exact opposite of my current magnetic energy. I used to attract so many people in my life. So many so that I often felt overwhelmed and avoided hanging out. It was really bizarre. I loved being alone, but never felt lonely. These days it's exactly the other way around. I hardly get to hang out with my friends, even though I'm mostly the one taking initiative. I often/always ask, but they just tell me they don't have time, or they feel tired or they can only visit me weeks even months later after asking. I'm feeling very lonely and spend A LOT, (I would say an unhealthy amount of time) by myself through out the day. I do have a full time job, but I haven't clicked with anyone at work so far. I feel the more I take initiative and ask my friends, if they want to hang out, the more I drive them away. I always thought taking initiative is the way to keep in touch with people, but yea I really feel it's doing the opposite for me. On top of that it makes ME withdraw emotionally even more. I started building walls around myself, because it just sucks constantly getting abandoned or being told that no one has time for you. Im honestly at my wits end as to what I should do. I try to let go, be less needy, detach myself, focus more on myself and decided to give my friends a break and wait for them to make the first step. No idea if this is gonna do the trick, but yea. I really don't know what else to do anymore. I wish everyone, who's going through the same that things will work out for you.
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I used to be the exact opposite of my current magnetic energy. I used to attract so many people in my life. So many so that I often felt overwhelmed and avoided hanging out. It was really bizarre. I loved being alone, but never felt lonely. These days it's exactly the other way around. I hardly get to hang out with my friends, even though I'm mostly the one taking initiative. I often/always ask, but they just tell me they don't have time, or they feel tired or they can only visit me weeks even months later after asking. I'm feeling very lonely and spend A LOT, (I would say an unhealthy amount of time) by myself through out the day. I do have a full time job, but I haven't clicked with anyone at work so far. I feel the more I take initiative and ask my friends, if they want to hang out, the more I drive them away. I always thought taking initiative is the way to keep in touch with people, but yea I really feel it's doing the opposite for me. On top of that it makes ME withdraw emotionally even more. I started building walls around myself, because it just sucks constantly getting abandoned or being told that no one has time for you. Im honestly at my wits end as to what I should do. I try to let go, be less needy, detach myself, focus more on myself and decided to give my friends a break and wait for them to make the first step. No idea if this is gonna do the trick, but yea. I really don't know what else to do anymore. I wish everyone, who's going through the same that things will work out for you.
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Cassidy
This is probably the thing I suffer with the most. About two years ago I got out of a emotionally manipulative friendship of about 10 years, and I ended up finding people that actually really care about me. I also do not trust/ love my family for reasons, so my new friends have become my family. And I need them more than anything in my life. Im always so worried that I talk too much or say dumb things and that im driving them away. Im sure im a very mentally draining person and that they probably secretly hold resentment towards me. They all say they dont, they say im not annoying, but I dont believe that, They just pity me. I fear that I am heading down a path leading towards abandonment from my friends and if thats happens im ending it, because thered be literally nothing else for me to live for. Im trying to get a therapist but we just need to complete the paperwork for the insurance company. Heres to hoping.
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This is probably the thing I suffer with the most. About two years ago I got out of a emotionally manipulative friendship of about 10 years, and I ended up finding people that actually really care about me. I also do not trust/ love my family for reasons, so my new friends have become my family. And I need them more than anything in my life. Im always so worried that I talk too much or say dumb things and that im driving them away. Im sure im a very mentally draining person and that they probably secretly hold resentment towards me. They all say they dont, they say im not annoying, but I dont believe that, They just pity me. I fear that I am heading down a path leading towards abandonment from my friends and if thats happens im ending it, because thered be literally nothing else for me to live for. Im trying to get a therapist but we just need to complete the paperwork for the insurance company. Heres to hoping.
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dkwa.
I tend to be very independent but I recently realized that when my partner is around, I suddenly become excessively needy. Not only I feel like I need her to cuddle and take care of me and I desire to spend a lot of time with her alone, but I also need constant reassurance of how she feels about me and so on. And if I don't receive these kind of things I become very anxious (I suffer from anxiety and panic attacks. The truth is, I realized that all my life I felt like I had to do everything on my own and that I couldn't count on anyone but me, so I keep on doing everything alone on a daily basis but when it comes to her, she's the only person I feel safe with, and that I feel I can be vulnerable with. So the moment I'm with her, I transform into this needy child who needs hugs and attention and reassurance. I feel bad because I don't want to burden her with my insecurities.
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I tend to be very independent but I recently realized that when my partner is around, I suddenly become excessively needy. Not only I feel like I need her to cuddle and take care of me and I desire to spend a lot of time with her alone, but I also need constant reassurance of how she feels about me and so on. And if I don't receive these kind of things I become very anxious (I suffer from anxiety and panic attacks. The truth is, I realized that all my life I felt like I had to do everything on my own and that I couldn't count on anyone but me, so I keep on doing everything alone on a daily basis but when it comes to her, she's the only person I feel safe with, and that I feel I can be vulnerable with. So the moment I'm with her, I transform into this needy child who needs hugs and attention and reassurance. I feel bad because I don't want to burden her with my insecurities.
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education
Ive left a trail of wreckage with most relationships and would gaslight and blame my partner for a lot of my faults. I didnt realize I was doing it until recently because its a very anxious response and I had been blind to most of my anxiety for a while until I saw your video talking about the impressions our childhoods left on our brains and I picked up that book how we love to see if I could make sense of it. I stopped halfway through Ill admit because of alcoholism. But I did learn and make slight progress and thats good i try every day to make sense of whats there see if I can move any prices further along. It makes me wonder sometimes if Im falling down an endless rabbit hole trying to get out.
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Ive left a trail of wreckage with most relationships and would gaslight and blame my partner for a lot of my faults. I didnt realize I was doing it until recently because its a very anxious response and I had been blind to most of my anxiety for a while until I saw your video talking about the impressions our childhoods left on our brains and I picked up that book how we love to see if I could make sense of it. I stopped halfway through Ill admit because of alcoholism. But I did learn and make slight progress and thats good i try every day to make sense of whats there see if I can move any prices further along. It makes me wonder sometimes if Im falling down an endless rabbit hole trying to get out.
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Veno
I can relate to many of these, my past wasnt the best and it is how I gained trust issues, I always felt like something was gonna happen, it also grew to me wanting constant reassurance or validation, it is what ruined my first relationship, I got too emotional attached and I was very needy of constant emotion, I always had anxiety and I had trouble trusting my own companion, all because I was too emotional and sensitive, I always hated myself for always being needy and wanting constant validation, i would always give too much emotion, Im trying to get better but its going slowly
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I can relate to many of these, my past wasnt the best and it is how I gained trust issues, I always felt like something was gonna happen, it also grew to me wanting constant reassurance or validation, it is what ruined my first relationship, I got too emotional attached and I was very needy of constant emotion, I always had anxiety and I had trouble trusting my own companion, all because I was too emotional and sensitive, I always hated myself for always being needy and wanting constant validation, i would always give too much emotion, Im trying to get better but its going slowly
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Under
Me: bored, family got their own people and groups, but I only have one friend that lead me to being clingy, I'm christian into strict laws because I believe it not forced.
So my preferences in life is very hard to find cause everyone else likes to talk about meaningless things while I'm a christian lore guy with a friend for 6 years. My other friends I drop them cause they blaspheme God or lack interest. So what's your solution now to stop being clingy, eventually the lonliness is. boring. i've been doing that for a while and it sucks.
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Me: bored, family got their own people and groups, but I only have one friend that lead me to being clingy, I'm christian into strict laws because I believe it not forced.
So my preferences in life is very hard to find cause everyone else likes to talk about meaningless things while I'm a christian lore guy with a friend for 6 years. My other friends I drop them cause they blaspheme God or lack interest. So what's your solution now to stop being clingy, eventually the lonliness is. boring. i've been doing that for a while and it sucks.
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Claire
This is me I am selfish and anxious to my boyfriend and Ive pushed him away. I am immature seeming from a sheltered child hood, with a full time job caring for the elderly as my only way to show Im an adult. Im thirty and cant handle half the things my boyfriend who is younger than me can handle. I am suffering silently with selfish anxiety and cant sleep which is hard for my boyfriend to sleep so I am watching these videos trying to fix my broken self esteem due to my parents babying me as a kid. Im a big infant: (
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This is me I am selfish and anxious to my boyfriend and Ive pushed him away. I am immature seeming from a sheltered child hood, with a full time job caring for the elderly as my only way to show Im an adult. Im thirty and cant handle half the things my boyfriend who is younger than me can handle. I am suffering silently with selfish anxiety and cant sleep which is hard for my boyfriend to sleep so I am watching these videos trying to fix my broken self esteem due to my parents babying me as a kid. Im a big infant: (
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Kalan
I can't go camping I can't go home I can't go to sleep I can't go to work I can't play a single player game without being made to feel guitly
I'm at the point now that I lie about my activities just to get 2 hours of personal quiet time. I covertly take time off work so I havesome timee to relax
We will play a game for hours together then log off the game to go to bed and SHE STILL WANTS TO TALK ON THE PHONE AFTER
I HAVE NKTHING MORE TO TALK ABOUT I'M BEYOND STRESSED OUT AT THIS POINT
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I can't go camping I can't go home I can't go to sleep I can't go to work I can't play a single player game without being made to feel guitly
I'm at the point now that I lie about my activities just to get 2 hours of personal quiet time. I covertly take time off work so I havesome timee to relax
We will play a game for hours together then log off the game to go to bed and SHE STILL WANTS TO TALK ON THE PHONE AFTER
I HAVE NKTHING MORE TO TALK ABOUT I'M BEYOND STRESSED OUT AT THIS POINT
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Amaya
One problem I suffer from when making decisions is that I want to make decisions that will make others happy even when I'm not because I don't like seeing people upset and if for example I chose a place to eat that my parents didn't they would get disappointed or some other Negitive emotion and it always made me feel bad so now for me every decision is pretty much being like OK which will make everyone else happy because I don't like people being upset
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One problem I suffer from when making decisions is that I want to make decisions that will make others happy even when I'm not because I don't like seeing people upset and if for example I chose a place to eat that my parents didn't they would get disappointed or some other Negitive emotion and it always made me feel bad so now for me every decision is pretty much being like OK which will make everyone else happy because I don't like people being upset
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Anna
This is me right now with my best friend. Im afraid of losing her. I keep asking for reinsurance that she wont leave. But Im afraid now shes distancing herself from me, hanging out with other friends and having more fun with them. She doesnt seem like she wants to talk to me, cause Im exhausting and a lot to deal with. Im very insecure, I dont want to lose her.
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This is me right now with my best friend. Im afraid of losing her. I keep asking for reinsurance that she wont leave. But Im afraid now shes distancing herself from me, hanging out with other friends and having more fun with them. She doesnt seem like she wants to talk to me, cause Im exhausting and a lot to deal with. Im very insecure, I dont want to lose her.
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Luffeevee
Man this is hard.
When I talk to people I'm close with I always talk too much and am super clingy, then I try and not talk to them for a while cause I don't wanna be clingy, and when I do that I can't help but feel I'm being too distant.
Idek anymore, I just wanna show others I care for them and spend time with them without being too overwhelming.
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Man this is hard.
When I talk to people I'm close with I always talk too much and am super clingy, then I try and not talk to them for a while cause I don't wanna be clingy, and when I do that I can't help but feel I'm being too distant.
Idek anymore, I just wanna show others I care for them and spend time with them without being too overwhelming.
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ada
I am a VERY needy friend, and I have a very unhealthy attachment to my best friend, I can tell she's annoyed by it but I can't help it, I think my attachment issues come from how easily old friends gave me up so I want to hang on to my best friend as much as I can. I am trying to get over my neediness now tho.
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I am a VERY needy friend, and I have a very unhealthy attachment to my best friend, I can tell she's annoyed by it but I can't help it, I think my attachment issues come from how easily old friends gave me up so I want to hang on to my best friend as much as I can. I am trying to get over my neediness now tho.
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Shaba
i know i am emotionally needy wht i do next my partner always tell me this that don't depend on me too much i have alot of trust issues which started ruining my relationship with that person i just feel lost and anxious abt everything i just want to solve this problem asap
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i know i am emotionally needy wht i do next my partner always tell me this that don't depend on me too much i have alot of trust issues which started ruining my relationship with that person i just feel lost and anxious abt everything i just want to solve this problem asap
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keyaunna
i am emotionally unstable and very needy because of my past of being used and thrown away in past relationships, be it romantic or platonic. because of this, i lose friends and partners and im worried that ill lose my boyfriend. hes all i have left
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i am emotionally unstable and very needy because of my past of being used and thrown away in past relationships, be it romantic or platonic. because of this, i lose friends and partners and im worried that ill lose my boyfriend. hes all i have left
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demantoid
i stumbled upon this vid today, despite having most of the signs rn, i'm not being needy to anyone. i literally ghosting all of my 'friends' and give myself time and space to heal. is this still emotionally needy on the wrong time and place? idk.
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i stumbled upon this vid today, despite having most of the signs rn, i'm not being needy to anyone. i literally ghosting all of my 'friends' and give myself time and space to heal. is this still emotionally needy on the wrong time and place? idk.
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Michael
My ex broke up with me cause i was clingy and i didnt belive i was too clingy i text her oftenlly when im free and want to talk to someone and i was taking the realation ship slowly but yet again it ended and im just trying to erradicate the flaw
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My ex broke up with me cause i was clingy and i didnt belive i was too clingy i text her oftenlly when im free and want to talk to someone and i was taking the realation ship slowly but yet again it ended and im just trying to erradicate the flaw
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53
I'm usually not like this but I have been like this with a narcistic girl I found out. I blocked her on everything today. I was always the confident guy girls wanted a relationship with, this was so different lol. Learned my lesson tho.
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I'm usually not like this but I have been like this with a narcistic girl I found out. I blocked her on everything today. I was always the confident guy girls wanted a relationship with, this was so different lol. Learned my lesson tho.
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bunbun
One thing I'd like to add about needy people, they have too high expectations. I come from a family of needy males, and if whatever I do doesn't meet their expectations, they usually resort to threats, violence, anger or criticism
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One thing I'd like to add about needy people, they have too high expectations. I come from a family of needy males, and if whatever I do doesn't meet their expectations, they usually resort to threats, violence, anger or criticism
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Cessily
My best friend left me today and my rude friend said I was to needy and apparently I guilt trip but I promise i dont Im just to clingy so idk if Ill ever get that friend back thing is Ive been with that best friend for three yrs
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My best friend left me today and my rude friend said I was to needy and apparently I guilt trip but I promise i dont Im just to clingy so idk if Ill ever get that friend back thing is Ive been with that best friend for three yrs
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Kayla
My boyfriend says I dont give him what he wants emotionally even though I do he has abandonment issues and its affecting our relationship big time I havent cheated on him or done anything wrong and yet our relationship is going bad
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My boyfriend says I dont give him what he wants emotionally even though I do he has abandonment issues and its affecting our relationship big time I havent cheated on him or done anything wrong and yet our relationship is going bad
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Imm4TUrE.
Can someone explain to me though how can I change if I have literally all the signs that she mentions. Like I struggle to have a decent friendship let alone a relationship and am 24! and no am not a couch potato ina basement!
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Can someone explain to me though how can I change if I have literally all the signs that she mentions. Like I struggle to have a decent friendship let alone a relationship and am 24! and no am not a couch potato ina basement!
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No
I act like I'm totally okay, but I have a crush on a woman. I wish I could die
in her loving arms, but I dont have the guts to tell her. She's married too. I will die alone, which I'm okay with most of the time. No Serial Killer.
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I act like I'm totally okay, but I have a crush on a woman. I wish I could die
in her loving arms, but I dont have the guts to tell her. She's married too. I will die alone, which I'm okay with most of the time. No Serial Killer.
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MarshmallowCat
It's weird. I need a lot of space from people, but I can confirm I'm like this and I've done this before. It's embarrassing to think of, but accepting it is apart of healing from it I think.
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It's weird. I need a lot of space from people, but I can confirm I'm like this and I've done this before. It's embarrassing to think of, but accepting it is apart of healing from it I think.
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solar
Im unsure about how my wife feels about me I know how I feel thats why Im anxious and needy how can I become less anxious if my partner doesnt care about how I feel?
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Im unsure about how my wife feels about me I know how I feel thats why Im anxious and needy how can I become less anxious if my partner doesnt care about how I feel?
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Teigan
Im kinda scared because I relate a lot to this video and this guy I like said that hes afraid that Im becoming emotionally dependent on him idk what I should do: (
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Im kinda scared because I relate a lot to this video and this guy I like said that hes afraid that Im becoming emotionally dependent on him idk what I should do: (
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