7 Ways to Stop Caring About What Others Think
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Date: 2023-08-20
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Morrigan
Another tip, as someone who has to now deal with almost 8 years of unfounded gossip situation that's never ending: practice.
If you failed applying any tip to get over the opinions of others, if you keep struggling, filled with anxiety. That's okay! It won't happen on day one.
Because I didn't have the resources, it took me 5 years to suddenly have a switch being flipped, and only since around 1 year or two, where I genuinely begin to naturally apply the tips here, and other places.
If the anxiety is crippling you, a therapy style that might work is ACT. Acceptance and Commitment Therapy. Some of those aspects learned there are also talked about in the video. And if you are capable of having therapy, having someone who supports you through it, while also being able to practice the things taught with a more solid foundation, can help tremendously.
If you aren't capable of having therapy. This video is indeed a great resource. Another one is looking up the article of Taming the mammoth from waitbutwhy. A third resource is learning about stoicism and apply the philosophical aspects that apply to your life and that helps you.
But in the end, living according to what YOU find important in life, and what YOU value the most, will help you in the long run.
Simple example: my reputation is ranked lower than being there for my friends. Because supporting my friends is a value I treasure. My reputation however is not. Simply because even if 99% of the world population were to hate me, that would still mean 80 million people would be able to care about me.
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Another tip, as someone who has to now deal with almost 8 years of unfounded gossip situation that's never ending: practice.
If you failed applying any tip to get over the opinions of others, if you keep struggling, filled with anxiety. That's okay! It won't happen on day one.
Because I didn't have the resources, it took me 5 years to suddenly have a switch being flipped, and only since around 1 year or two, where I genuinely begin to naturally apply the tips here, and other places.
If the anxiety is crippling you, a therapy style that might work is ACT. Acceptance and Commitment Therapy. Some of those aspects learned there are also talked about in the video. And if you are capable of having therapy, having someone who supports you through it, while also being able to practice the things taught with a more solid foundation, can help tremendously.
If you aren't capable of having therapy. This video is indeed a great resource. Another one is looking up the article of Taming the mammoth from waitbutwhy. A third resource is learning about stoicism and apply the philosophical aspects that apply to your life and that helps you.
But in the end, living according to what YOU find important in life, and what YOU value the most, will help you in the long run.
Simple example: my reputation is ranked lower than being there for my friends. Because supporting my friends is a value I treasure. My reputation however is not. Simply because even if 99% of the world population were to hate me, that would still mean 80 million people would be able to care about me.
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Lemon
Idk why but i always tried to get victory to see faces cheering me and clapping for me and getting astonished for me and so on. Guys getting crush on me. And people getting jealous of me. And elder people thinking highly of me. And much more.
Basically i wanted to succeed for this reason.
I HATE IT. COZ I KNOW ITS WRONG AND ALSO IT WONT HAPPEN. ALSO THE READON WHY I HATE IT IS BECAUSE. ITS MAKING ME DO THINGS I DONT EVEN LIKE.
I HATE STUDYING. I REALLY DO T LIKE IT.
i like art. I do art and everything and i m present during process. I m not thinkinng about others nor am i thinking about past or future. I genuinely am meditating during that process.
Also while gardenning. I meditate during the process. All my senses shut off. And all my attention is on plant. TO THE POINT i continuously get startled by people when they come to talk to me. I m sooo focused on plant and gardening that everything else just goes silentttt.
Also while cooking i like being present in moment and doing all chef calculations. I feel awesome.
But STUDYINGGGGG. Only reason i m driven is to see shocked admiring faces of other people. Not because i like studying and imthat i like to see lectures and read books and so on. Its frustrating tbh.
What do i do
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Idk why but i always tried to get victory to see faces cheering me and clapping for me and getting astonished for me and so on. Guys getting crush on me. And people getting jealous of me. And elder people thinking highly of me. And much more.
Basically i wanted to succeed for this reason.
I HATE IT. COZ I KNOW ITS WRONG AND ALSO IT WONT HAPPEN. ALSO THE READON WHY I HATE IT IS BECAUSE. ITS MAKING ME DO THINGS I DONT EVEN LIKE.
I HATE STUDYING. I REALLY DO T LIKE IT.
i like art. I do art and everything and i m present during process. I m not thinkinng about others nor am i thinking about past or future. I genuinely am meditating during that process.
Also while gardenning. I meditate during the process. All my senses shut off. And all my attention is on plant. TO THE POINT i continuously get startled by people when they come to talk to me. I m sooo focused on plant and gardening that everything else just goes silentttt.
Also while cooking i like being present in moment and doing all chef calculations. I feel awesome.
But STUDYINGGGGG. Only reason i m driven is to see shocked admiring faces of other people. Not because i like studying and imthat i like to see lectures and read books and so on. Its frustrating tbh.
What do i do
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Tsuki
Honestly, i care too much of what others think, its getting difficult to live with it, i want to break out of it, but at some point idk how I'll even break free from it, I'm scared and confused at the same time at how i will be confident and be muself? In my whole life, all i ever did was hide and be scared, how can i break free, it feels difficult and hard to be able to overcome it and be myself, my whole life I've been like this, it feels difficult to be something new, and to overcome something that's been you the whole time, I'm having difficult, i want to change, be confident and be strong, i don't want to care about anyone opinion, but im just too kind and care too much of others opinions, that I'm losing myself and grew smaller, I'm growing up, and turning 16 by now, and im still so scared, even im almost being adult, i feel like I'm still a baby longing for love, i want to be free but how can i, when I've been like this my whole life, it's my first time commenting like this, i just want to ask anyone, how can i be like that, confident, strong, happy and free, it feels hard and difficult.
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Honestly, i care too much of what others think, its getting difficult to live with it, i want to break out of it, but at some point idk how I'll even break free from it, I'm scared and confused at the same time at how i will be confident and be muself? In my whole life, all i ever did was hide and be scared, how can i break free, it feels difficult and hard to be able to overcome it and be myself, my whole life I've been like this, it feels difficult to be something new, and to overcome something that's been you the whole time, I'm having difficult, i want to change, be confident and be strong, i don't want to care about anyone opinion, but im just too kind and care too much of others opinions, that I'm losing myself and grew smaller, I'm growing up, and turning 16 by now, and im still so scared, even im almost being adult, i feel like I'm still a baby longing for love, i want to be free but how can i, when I've been like this my whole life, it's my first time commenting like this, i just want to ask anyone, how can i be like that, confident, strong, happy and free, it feels hard and difficult.
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xAlbinopiratex
If using social media is making you feel bad, you need to learn how to curate your newfeed and friends list.
As someone disabled by chronic illness and chronic pain, My entire social life is through social media.
It takes a few hours of solid work, but curating your social media is SO, SO WORTH IT!
You shouldn't be focusing on making yourself look as good as possible to other people, or interacting with people and content that makes you unhappy, jealous, angry, or sad.
You should be interacting with positive content and people that make you feel happy, supported, worthwhile, uplifted, and inspired.
Take the time to do it, I promise you won't regret it
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If using social media is making you feel bad, you need to learn how to curate your newfeed and friends list.
As someone disabled by chronic illness and chronic pain, My entire social life is through social media.
It takes a few hours of solid work, but curating your social media is SO, SO WORTH IT!
You shouldn't be focusing on making yourself look as good as possible to other people, or interacting with people and content that makes you unhappy, jealous, angry, or sad.
You should be interacting with positive content and people that make you feel happy, supported, worthwhile, uplifted, and inspired.
Take the time to do it, I promise you won't regret it
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Azrael
I have definitely changed my personality to reflect the social pressure around me. What that looks like for me though is I make myself more weird than I actually am if that makes sense because Im a weird person in general its the autism and ADHD. I feel like what does accomplishes for me is that people who think Im weird and dont except me for the way I am dont get to know me and I prefer it that way. you can get surface level and then go away. I dont expect you to like me but if you do then we can have a hell of a time together and you do not need to feel that you need to hide anything from me because if you accept me quirks and all I have no problem excepting you.
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I have definitely changed my personality to reflect the social pressure around me. What that looks like for me though is I make myself more weird than I actually am if that makes sense because Im a weird person in general its the autism and ADHD. I feel like what does accomplishes for me is that people who think Im weird and dont except me for the way I am dont get to know me and I prefer it that way. you can get surface level and then go away. I dont expect you to like me but if you do then we can have a hell of a time together and you do not need to feel that you need to hide anything from me because if you accept me quirks and all I have no problem excepting you.
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psych2go
can someone please help me? lately I've always been worrying about how my crush sees me, I play tennis and so does he but he's so much better at playing and there's a up coming competition I must enter I know I will lose but I don't want to embarrass myself nothing I'd helping me feel better, I know to not care about what people think it's none of my business but he's my crush I cant just stop caring nor stop liking him. I am the worst player in our team so I know I'll loose and I can't stand the pressure on me while everyone is watching me play, it's too embarassin
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can someone please help me? lately I've always been worrying about how my crush sees me, I play tennis and so does he but he's so much better at playing and there's a up coming competition I must enter I know I will lose but I don't want to embarrass myself nothing I'd helping me feel better, I know to not care about what people think it's none of my business but he's my crush I cant just stop caring nor stop liking him. I am the worst player in our team so I know I'll loose and I can't stand the pressure on me while everyone is watching me play, it's too embarassin
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Kathkat
Because of my low self esteem, I usually think that Ive done something wrong whenever things dont work out between me and someone. Even though I look back and see that Ive done nothing wrong, and I have valid reasons for everything I did, I still cant help but think its my fault.
It feels a bit uncomfortable for me to not care about what others think but I think its important for the sake of my happiness and peace of mind.
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Because of my low self esteem, I usually think that Ive done something wrong whenever things dont work out between me and someone. Even though I look back and see that Ive done nothing wrong, and I have valid reasons for everything I did, I still cant help but think its my fault.
It feels a bit uncomfortable for me to not care about what others think but I think its important for the sake of my happiness and peace of mind.
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Joe
My favorite advice is to moderate your social media use and don't compare yourself to others. This one person might or might not be more expirienced at this one thing you do too. But, what we often enough forget is that they don't do everything you do. You are not that one hobby you like to talk yourself down about. And neither are them. You do a lot of other things too, that they don't and vice versa.
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My favorite advice is to moderate your social media use and don't compare yourself to others. This one person might or might not be more expirienced at this one thing you do too. But, what we often enough forget is that they don't do everything you do. You are not that one hobby you like to talk yourself down about. And neither are them. You do a lot of other things too, that they don't and vice versa.
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Ida
I have been dealing with a narcissistic coworker for a year. Even though we are in different section, she always finds a way to reach and abuse me. Since then, I am no longer myself. Last January I went to theraphy and started my healing. One way to heal myself is to stop caring what others say or think about me. But I must remember to always know my truth and the truth.
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I have been dealing with a narcissistic coworker for a year. Even though we are in different section, she always finds a way to reach and abuse me. Since then, I am no longer myself. Last January I went to theraphy and started my healing. One way to heal myself is to stop caring what others say or think about me. But I must remember to always know my truth and the truth.
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Reap&Sow
I struggle so bad with this. And its frustrating cuz I recognize im doing it in the moment but my anxiety or fear makes me give in anyway just so i can calm down. It helps in that moment. But the pattern just continues. Its so frustrating because I actively practice not caring DAILY. But it feels like it isnt working.
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I struggle so bad with this. And its frustrating cuz I recognize im doing it in the moment but my anxiety or fear makes me give in anyway just so i can calm down. It helps in that moment. But the pattern just continues. Its so frustrating because I actively practice not caring DAILY. But it feels like it isnt working.
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NotEvenFunny
My problem is, I dont even know if other people are even judging me or even thinking about me. They problably rarely think about me, bit im sich a shy person. Whatever I do, I always worry to hurt other, or that other might dislike me if I do that etc.
Thank you for that viedeo I hope I learn from this
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My problem is, I dont even know if other people are even judging me or even thinking about me. They problably rarely think about me, bit im sich a shy person. Whatever I do, I always worry to hurt other, or that other might dislike me if I do that etc.
Thank you for that viedeo I hope I learn from this
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psych2go
didn't think this was the one thing to change my life around for the better, not caring about how others think of me has been the biggest thing for me to be happier, THANK YOU Psych2Go for making this content, it certainly makes a difference not just for me but for everyone, keep up the wonderful content.
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didn't think this was the one thing to change my life around for the better, not caring about how others think of me has been the biggest thing for me to be happier, THANK YOU Psych2Go for making this content, it certainly makes a difference not just for me but for everyone, keep up the wonderful content.
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education
Not my job to make other people happy. KEY for me. It's futile and a waste of time. I need to acknowledge just how much I gave to others. No more. I will continue to give to causes that are dear to my heart and where I know it's definitely going to good use, but not to people as they are not charities.
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Not my job to make other people happy. KEY for me. It's futile and a waste of time. I need to acknowledge just how much I gave to others. No more. I will continue to give to causes that are dear to my heart and where I know it's definitely going to good use, but not to people as they are not charities.
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Study_
Well I gave audition in some competition and boys of my class made fun cause the dance was too much according to their narrow mindset and now here I am watching this video all thanks to them, I am so grateful to have them to destroy my mental health I am really lucky to have classmates like them
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Well I gave audition in some competition and boys of my class made fun cause the dance was too much according to their narrow mindset and now here I am watching this video all thanks to them, I am so grateful to have them to destroy my mental health I am really lucky to have classmates like them
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Annysha
When someone called me a BS artist, I just be grateful for me being who I am. Only me who knows the truth, and I know what I've been achieved all these years as a psychic medium. I also grateful about what they said, because their words triggers me to keep on walking to my passions. Thank you
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When someone called me a BS artist, I just be grateful for me being who I am. Only me who knows the truth, and I know what I've been achieved all these years as a psychic medium. I also grateful about what they said, because their words triggers me to keep on walking to my passions. Thank you
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Laurie
Thank you Help isnt coming from my needy friends and family l try not to care about there issues and pass it off as just being on the autism spectrum l have difficulties on my focus This is posted on Thanksgiving when l would rather do anything but have dinner with my judge mental FAM
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Thank you Help isnt coming from my needy friends and family l try not to care about there issues and pass it off as just being on the autism spectrum l have difficulties on my focus This is posted on Thanksgiving when l would rather do anything but have dinner with my judge mental FAM
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Kristoffer
To quit caring about what others think of you 1. Whether or not people like you can be either good or bad. 2. It can cloud your judgment on what to do. 3. Instead of being angry at others for what they think of you direct it at the emotion of caring about what others think of you.
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To quit caring about what others think of you 1. Whether or not people like you can be either good or bad. 2. It can cloud your judgment on what to do. 3. Instead of being angry at others for what they think of you direct it at the emotion of caring about what others think of you.
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Lotus
When I was younger, I was very insecure and often a people pleaser. Now that Im older and have more self esteem, I dont care much about others opinions. The only exceptions are my mother and sister. Also, theres a fine line between being considerate/thoughtful and a people pleaser.
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When I was younger, I was very insecure and often a people pleaser. Now that Im older and have more self esteem, I dont care much about others opinions. The only exceptions are my mother and sister. Also, theres a fine line between being considerate/thoughtful and a people pleaser.
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Reecetrex
Ok I understand this but what if they are bugging you during school for humming/Fidgeting to concentrate or telling you to pay attention to class when you already are (like what the heck why are you worrying about me if I want to get a bad grade let me! Id never do that (_) )
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Ok I understand this but what if they are bugging you during school for humming/Fidgeting to concentrate or telling you to pay attention to class when you already are (like what the heck why are you worrying about me if I want to get a bad grade let me! Id never do that (_) )
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Melanie
I really like point 3. Everyone is human. I have the problem of comparing myself to others, trying to work on getting out of that mindset. So I think when I start comparing myself to others, Ill say to myself everyone farts. Which is true and will give me a giggle
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I really like point 3. Everyone is human. I have the problem of comparing myself to others, trying to work on getting out of that mindset. So I think when I start comparing myself to others, Ill say to myself everyone farts. Which is true and will give me a giggle
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may
Its hurtful but really an fact
If you'd go pleasing them and be kind to them, They'll ignore you.
sadly,
if you ignore them and don't even bother to reply, and do what you would as strong-you ver. You'll see everybody cares. But you don't
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Its hurtful but really an fact
If you'd go pleasing them and be kind to them, They'll ignore you.
sadly,
if you ignore them and don't even bother to reply, and do what you would as strong-you ver. You'll see everybody cares. But you don't
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education
I realized I don't like others because I don't like myself. I'm gonna start liking myself and stop caring what other's think, or even think about what they feel. They can deal with their feelings. It's not my job to make them feel good!
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I realized I don't like others because I don't like myself. I'm gonna start liking myself and stop caring what other's think, or even think about what they feel. They can deal with their feelings. It's not my job to make them feel good!
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pr0p1tious
are having friends really that important? Because everytime I start getting comfortable with them, they start taking me for granted and leaving me out when they hang out outside of school. I wish that I could just a peace.
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are having friends really that important? Because everytime I start getting comfortable with them, they start taking me for granted and leaving me out when they hang out outside of school. I wish that I could just a peace.
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luca
I always think about (in school) that i more than likely will not see these ppl in x amout of years so just be who you are, theyre will always be that one person who is gonna say something negative or not like you.
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I always think about (in school) that i more than likely will not see these ppl in x amout of years so just be who you are, theyre will always be that one person who is gonna say something negative or not like you.
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Bunny
I've been doing this for long while now, and let me tell you it's been so good, I literally don't gaf bout others opinions even when I see hate comments I am just laughing and unaffected by it
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I've been doing this for long while now, and let me tell you it's been so good, I literally don't gaf bout others opinions even when I see hate comments I am just laughing and unaffected by it
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